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170 | Why Your Thoughts Matter More Than Strategy: Understanding the Law of Assumption

• Erin Gray | Wealth Coach, Former CFP and CFO

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In this episode, we explore the Power of Assumption and how what you assume shapes your results in business, money, relationships, health, and all areas of your life.  

In this episode we explore:

  • Awareness as the foundation for changing patterns
  • How language reveals what you’re assuming
  • Choosing assumption over doubt, hesitation, and delay
  • Desire versus willingness and what aligned action looks like
  • Embodying the outcome before it appears externally
  • Making CEO decisions from certainty instead of fear
  • Betting on yourself as a long-term investment
  • Grieving old identities as part of growth
  • Holding your vision even when the evidence doesn't match up


Resources mentioned in this episode:

Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard


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From my soul to yours,

Erin

Erin Gray:

Today on the podcast, I want to talk about the power of assumption. This comes from the book by Neville Goddard, The Power of Awareness. And we're going to explore how what you assume is actually what you create in your business, in your marriage, with your children, with your money, with your health, basically your entire life. So let's dive in. Real quick, I wanted to add that I am hosting a workshop tomorrow, Tuesday, December 16th at 10 a.m. Mountain Standard Time. And it is going to be about how to have conversations with your spouse from a place of more love and more connection and compassion. I would love for you to join us. And if you want to come, you can just click the link to register in the show notes. So one of the very first things that I have my clients do when they come into my world is to develop awareness because without awareness, we can't make any changes. So awareness is always what I say, the first step to anything. And when I start to have them notice and increase their awareness, I have them do two things. One, to start paying attention to their language, because our language is so powerful. I know I've talked about this before, is that our language carries a frequency, it carries a vibration. When we speak things into the world, it we also our cells verberate that vibration. So when we say loving things to ourselves, our cells expand, our cells grow, our cells love that. When we speak poorly and condescending to ourselves, our cells also respond to that and they shrink. And, you know, that's I don't want to get into too far down the rabbit hole, but like there has been a YouTube video that a scientist did around like speaking to water and how when we spoke lovingly to water, how it made these beautiful droplets and and all this kind of, I think he like froze the water, but you could see like beautifulness of the water. But then when you spoke poorly to it, what actually happened to the water? And so our bodies are made up of water. And you know, you can do this with plants, like you can play with this in all the different realms. But like when you speak things from a loving and expansive, empowering way, your body receives that and you are moving from a very empowered place. When you speak, like I said, condescending and not kindly to yourself or about anyone else, like, you know, the law of attraction or vibration is like what you put out is what you get back. So first and foremost, start to notice what your language is like. Second is your assumptions. You know, most of us are assuming the worst. We're expecting when's the shoe gonna drop. Like you don't think it's gonna happen. We have so much doubt and fear for ourselves while not really hoping for the best, right? Because when we hope, when we hope for the best, when we assume the best, when we know the best is on its way, we aren't sitting here in doubt. And so it doesn't work like that in the world of like, oh, we are moving, you know, from an assumption of the shoe is gonna drop and then, you know, wonderful things are going to come our way. And Neville writes in the book that a man's chief delusion is his conviction that there are causes other than his own state of consciousness. So we keep looking outside of ourselves. We've been taught as a society in in schools, in you know, parents, caregivers, all the things culturally, right? That, oh, look outside of yourself for the answer, look outside of yourself for the power versus recognizing that the power is already within each of us. You know, we can change anything that we want in our life. And it begins in the mind first, in the consciousness that we exhibit first. And we have to want something different. That's what Neville starts with. We have to desire something different. And I think that that is a true first step. The first step is wanting and desiring something different. But I think it goes even deeper than this is like you have to be willing, right? Wanting is like sitting there hoping, desiring for something different. Willing is I'm willing to take action to be something different. You know, people always ask me when they interview me on podcasts, you know, what type of client do you love to work with? And obviously, someone, you know, who wants to change their relationship with money and expand their life and have fun. But the thing that I always come back to is they have to be willing. You know, wanting and willing are two very different things. You can want and desire to change all day long. I've had clients like that. I've had people in my life like that, have had friends like that. You can want and desire, but if you're not willing to feel the discomfort or doing something outside of your comfort zone or your current identity, wanting does not get you very far. Desire is the first step and willingness is the second. So Neville goes on to say that in order to make your future dream a present fact, you actually must live in the assumption of the wish fulfilled, meaning that you must be living from the feeling of the outcome that you desire, not from the feeling of where you are and what you are observing in your 3D world, because that is just going to create more of the same. So think about what you desire in your business right now. Are you moving from gratitude? Are you moving from expectation? Or are you moving from lack and it's taking too long and pressure? What kind of energy are you moving from? Because that is not moving. If you are moving from lack or it's taking too long or, you know, pressure, that is not moving from the energy of the wish fulfilled, right? Because if you already had what you wanted, there would be no pressure. You would just be in complete gratitude, and then you would be looking at the next thing that you would be wanting and moving towards. So let's actually bring this into the body because I think we can understand this from an intellectual standpoint. But actually, like where we actually make changes is when we take it into the body, we embody this and we move and we take action from this place. So if you assumed and you knew that your business was going to grow year over year, what different choices would you be making? What would you outsource? How much time would you spend as a CEO instead of more of the employee role? Would you plan ahead with confidence and trust? Would you be thinking more in the five year, ten year, like you've already accomplished what you wanted already, you know, next year? So what would you be thinking about? You would be thinking more vision casting, thinking about years to come. Because what I see in most women is we are not moving from the assumption. We're actually moving from the lack of assumption, or we're moving from doubt or worry or fear. You know, things like I don't know, like you can start there. As soon as you say, I don't know, that isn't moving from the assumption. I don't know if my income is going to increase, so I'm not going to hire any help, or I'm going to wait to hire, right? I don't know if this investment's going to pay off, so I might wait. Think about anytime that you are waiting, you are not moving from certainty. Now, obviously, this is nuanced. Like when I have heard my intuition and I am sitting with it and riding my wave, but my intuition says yes, but I'm getting to a neutral point in my body. That isn't waiting. That is riding my wave. But once I have ridden my wave and it feels neutral in my body, I go. So really, really decipher and see like where does this apply to you? Where are you waiting? Where are you hoping? Where are you? Oh, maybe next month or next year, versus where have you said yes to something? And you're literally just allowing yourself to sink into the decision, and then you're going to move from certainty instead of hesitancy. So if you, you know, I hear a lot of women say things like, I don't know if I'm going to make my money back. So I'm not going to invest, you know, in this, you know, say employee or this mentor or course or whatever it might be. And I want you to really think about this because one of the things that I encourage everyone to recognize is we are our best investment. I have a belief now, didn't always, but I always make my money back. Like I am my best investment because I have total control over my mind, my thoughts, my feelings, what I want to do and what I like actions I want to take. I don't have control over the stock market. I don't know when fear is going to be imposed in the stock market and things are going to change. I have no control over things like that. I don't have any control over anybody else's business. So when you really think about like you are the one that is in control, you are in the driver's seat. You have total power of making it an investment back. So why wouldn't you just bet on yourself and assume that that's what's going to happen? So when you are moving from that place of like, I don't know, that's the energy of uncertainty and doubt and not the energy of knowing. Neville shares this metaphor in the book that just as the moth in his desire to know the flame was willing to destroy himself, so must you in becoming a new version and a new person, being willing to die to your present self. And I think this is something that we don't talk a lot about or enough about is the grief that actually comes with evolution. You know, we imagine this idea, like we a lot of times we want to just imagine all of the, when I say good, I don't believe there's good or bad, but like just imagine all the rainbows and the daisies and the expansion. But often there are parts of us that actually don't want to let go because those are the parts that feel familiar. They feel safe, they feel protective for us, right? And we need to honor that. We need to thank those parts of us that got us here and still be willing to move into the next version of ourselves. Neville writes that to incarnate a new and greater value of yourself, you must assume that you already are what you want to be, and then live by faith in that assumption, which is not yet incarnate in the body of your life, meaning that it's not yet showing up in the 3D world. I had a client the other day where we were discussing this and kind of diving deeper, because I think a lot of times people might get this at an intellectual level, but we don't actually embody it and take action from this place. You know, in order to bridge the gap, in order to move and to collapse time and your reality of what you see in your mind to what you actually experience and what you're observing with your senses in the 3D world, you have to stay in your imagination and basically ignore your 3D worlds. And you have to continue to live in the vibration and the feeling of what you are thinking and seeing in your imagination. I think the strongest muscle that we have to build is to hold that vision, even when our 3D world didn't match our imagination. You know, not, I don't, this feels too strong of a word, but like not falling prey to the 3D world or like not allowing our mind or to allow our mind to run the show that that we're observing the 3D world, to know that if we can see it in our mind, we can feel that feeling of the wish fulfilled and multiple feelings, right? Like if you had what you wanted already, you would feel gratitude, you would feel love, you would feel peacefulness, you would feel, you know, proud and successful and satisfied. So think about what are those feelings, and not just going to be one feeling, but you know, thinking about those feelings on a consistent basis and not just thinking. When I say thinking about them, what I mean is what would be those feelings and then actually feeling them in your body on a consistent basis, you know, and then taking action from that place until it shows up in the 3D world, right? Like not giving up on yourself, not being, not being attached to time, not being attached to how, but just knowing that it is done and that you are living from that place in complete love and gratitude and appreciation for having created what you wanted. I'll give you an example for my car. You know, I had ordered one originally and then for whatever reason it fell through, which was a blessing because I ended up deciding that I wanted a different model. And so as I said, okay, I want to purchase this one instead, you know, the the sales rep, my husband, my daughter were a little bit like, they're not making those. And you're gonna be six to six to nine months out. And I'm like, I am not listening to anything either of all three of you are saying. It was more so the sales rep. And, you know, my husband had made a comment about like, well, maybe you get a different car in the meantime. And I was like, no, that's not what I want. I want this car. I know that I see it in my mind and I know that I will have it. So whether they believe it or not, just because it isn't in the 3D world, I know that it is in my mind and I know that it is on its way to me. And so it just so happened that probably a couple of weeks later, he called and said, Hey, I've got this car for you. You want to come drive it? And when I when after we purchased it, what I found out was I said, Hey, how did this car come about? Because, you know, like the story he was telling himself was that there were no cars, they weren't going to be made. I was gonna have to order and be in line for six to nine months. And he said, A deal fell through. And after that deal fell through, I called you. And so what would it have been like if I would have compromised, if I would have been like, okay, I'll just get a different car, right? Like, how much of what we don't experience in our life is actually because we change our mind, because we are the ones that stray off of what we actually want. Because, and I've done this so many times. Oh, well, this will do over what I really want. No, stay the course, hold the vision, keep moving from that place, expect that it is already on its way to you. So, the other thing that I wanted to mention that Neville mentions in his book is that he talks about how that nature does not possess imagination. We do. This is where I think that we are so precious and so brilliant. Our imagination, it is the instrument by which we create our world. Imagination is the redemptive power in the universe. So I want to leave you with a couple of questions today. I want you to think about how often are you living from your imagination instead of your memory in the past? How often are you feeling the feelings you would feel if you already had what you desired? How often are you moving from certainty? Notice where you are already doing this in your life because that's another thing I love to share with my clients. We already know how to do this. It's not like I'm teaching you to do anything else. I'm helping you remember who you already are and you already are doing this, and already, this is already part of who you are. You just may not be doing it in some of the areas of your life. So notice where you're already doing it in your one area of your life. And then what I always say to clients is just move it to the area that you're not as practiced in. That's all that we're gonna do. How often are you assuming your favorite outcome instead of bracing for the worst? And then think about who you might you return home to be if you are willing to hold the assumption of your wish fulfilled. Okay, that's all I have for you today. I love you. I'm rooting for you, and I'll see you in the next episode.