Honor your loved ones by living your life

In this episode of Pillars of Grief, host Jock Brocas delves into how we can honor our loved ones by living our lives. He emphasizes the importance of experiencing and celebrating life to honor and remember those we have lost. Jock encourages listeners to shift from grief to a spirit of living, sharing personal experiences and providing insights on how to navigate the journey of grief. He underlines the idea that our loved ones continue to exist in another plane, and by living our lives to the fullest, we can honor their memory. Join Jock Brocas as he guides us through a message of hope and resilience in the face of grief, and inspires us to embrace life in the new year.

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Grief is a natural part of life, and we all experience it at some point. By becoming aware of our emotions in the process of grief, we can begin to accept and move through our pain. Acceptance doesn't mean that we forget or stop feeling the loss, but it allows us to come to terms with it. And finally, we can choose to honor our loved ones by celebrating their life and meaning in our grief. Join me as we explore these pillars of grief and how they can help us navigate the journey of grief. We will explore this journey together, and you will hear from experiences, experts, and researchers. I'm Joc Brocas, and this is The Pillars of Grief. Well, good afternoon, good morning, good evening, ladies and gentlemen. This is 2024. It is New Year's Day, And this is the pillars of grief. And one of the things we're going to talk about is how you can set yourself up for this coming year. We know that this is a difficult time for everyone. It's a difficult time if you've lost a loved one recently or even if you lost a loved one a while ago. This the holiday season is can be really challenging. And so I wanna give you in this next episode Something to think about for the new year, something that may let you look at things a little bit differently. So when we come right back, We're gonna jump into how you can set yourself up for the following year and how you can honor the memory of your loved one. God bless. Are you struggling with grief? Hi. I'm Joc Brocas, a grief researcher, author, spiritual mentor and renowned evidential medium. Join me on The Pillars Grief podcast. Through personal teachings and interviews with experienced researchers and educators, I will provide valuable insights and support to help you navigate your journey through grief. I will answer the questions you yearn to be answered, And I'll help you understand your journey. Listen and subscribe to The Pillars of Grief podcast today on your favorite platform, and start navigating your journey through grief. Welcome back, ladies and gentlemen. So as I said in our little introduction, and is is a bit if you guys should notice before I jump into this, I'm actually wearing headphones. If you're listening in the podcast, you can't see this, but you'll see this on the YouTube video. And, You can see that I've been watering my I've been watering my plants in my office. I got my Scottish cover over there, my chair, and my little red watering can in the background. So, anyway, it is the new year, and, we're moving in. This is the 1st day. This is New Year's Day and. And I think, you know, time absolutely flies so quick. Actually, Christmas has Come and go on so quick. It's an enjoyable time, but it's also a struggling time for many people. Not only those who, Struggling with their grief journey, but people in general, you know, things have changed. I was saying to my wife the other day that I noticed that Christmas wasn't the same as what it used to be. It didn't last as long with as much love and excitement in it because I think it became really too commercial. Time flies, especially here in America. I mean, it's just one day off and then everybody's back to normal, and it it's kinda lost this. I just say it's and, and not even it's drama because there's a lot of negative drama in it. But I remember years years ago when even my my wife and I never had much in terms of what we have now. We were struggling, like, most people do. Christmas lasted a lot longer. I I remember that we would go a walk. It was snowing in Inverness in North Scotland, and We didn't have a great deal. I I you know, we we didn't have a great deal, to even have a Christmas dinner. We had a tiny, tiny little bit of money that we got together and had Christmas, And had done some readings and things for people and managed to get enough together to get my wife a beautiful red coat. And I never forget that Christmas because We never had a lot, and that didn't matter. What mattered was the the season and how we were together, and that's really special. And, of course, Jumping into that feeling now, if you've lost a loved one coming into a Christmas season, even New Year season, you tend to really loss that connection. And I've had so many messages from so many people over this 2023. On Christmas Eve, on Christmas Day, on New Year's Day, and member of our community who, you know, reached out and lost loved one and was obviously devastated and didn't know how to to cope because, you know, they just remember all the good things. They remember The good Christmases, you know, they they miss talking to their loved one. They miss the the connection, the physical connection that's there. And perhaps That is, one of the the worst things is is when we lose a loved one and that physical touch, that physical connection. But even though We loss the physical connection. There's also that emotional connection that we loss. And it may bring up feelings of guilt As well, because maybe we didn't give them enough attention when they were here. Maybe we didn't give them enough time, And we should be feel guilty about not giving our time to them and not giving them enough time to connect with you. Maybe it is that you miss Certain aspects of that part of the season so much. You know, many people loss me, so I used to do this with my husband or my wife, and No. I can't. And you feel that you're so disconnected and a little bit devastated Because you can't do that anymore. You feel that you can't do that anymore, and so you have a miserable time. And it doesn't matter if it's Christmas. It doesn't matter if it's New Year. Doesn't matter if it's a birthday or anniversary or throughout the year. The reality is is that you feel so disconnected. Well, here here's the thing that I want you to think about, which is really important. When we pass over, it's not the end. We continue on. I know this for a 5 people many people asked me in different radio shows and, interviews that I had in magazines, you know, If I believe in an afterlife and I always say, no. I don't. I don't believe in anything. I don't believe there's an afterlife. I know there's and. For me, knowing is a completely different thing here. And so I want you to kinda take a little of that knownness from me. Take a little leaf out of my book and try and move From belief to knowing, to know that your loved ones still exist on the other side and that we Continue on because scientifically, if we look at it this way, look at it this way, energy can never be destroyed. It only transforms. This is science. I don't know who the quote was, but I think it was maybe Sir Isaac Newton. And for all of you physicists out there, I might have got it wrong, but I'm sure he he was the And that said energy can't be destroyed. It just transforms or it changes something else. So think about this. We are all made up of energy. No matter who you are Or no matter what we see or what we perceive outside of ourselves, even if it is a solid object, You break it down. It breaks us down into energy. Your loved one is energy. We're the energy. So we continue. We just transform. And I have a saying that I often say so many times is, like, you know, your loved one is just in the next room waiting for you to join them. But think about this. When you're so sad, when you're feeling devastated and you can't go on because you loss them, You miss that that connection that you had with them. And and, again, like I said, you may feel guilty or you may feel shameful in some way that, You know, you never gave them that time or that communication that you had. Well, I want you to think about this. How would they feel? They continue. Life continues. They're not Right? Death is an illusion. How do you think they would feel on the other side watching you Not live your life, watching you being so sad, so disconnected, feeling like you can't go on anymore. You know, spirit gives us a great gift, the gift of choice, And we can choose to be happy at any given moment. And it doesn't mean that if you choose to be happy that you are not honoring your loved one. And fact, them watching you create your own suffering Through not wanting to live anymore, through just wanting to be with them makes them sad on the other side. They don't wanna see that. They don't want to see you wasting your life. Life is a wonderful thing that we've been given by god, by the divine, whatever Whatever you believe in, whatever you follow. And this is about experience, to experience every moment, to experience life And all of its wonder, even the negative things that happen to you are an experience that teaches us something. Your loved ones don't want to see you crying and wallowing and being pitiful in your life and thinking that, You know, they're gone, and you'll never see them again. And and you cannot go on without them. Actually, if you want to honor them More, I would suggest to you that the greatest way that you can honor your loved one is to live your life, is to live your life for them, is to live your life and experience every precious moment that you've been given to to live your life and realize that they still live And they are connected, and that your memory, just as an energy, can never be destroyed. You will never be destroyed, and they will never be destroyed. In fact, they exist on the other plane of life just waiting for you. They're in the next room Just waiting for you. And they would be so happy, So absolutely happy, so delighted to see that you are still experiencing life. That is a way to honor them that is so beautiful. They want you to smile There's someone in your family, someone around you, someone in your local area. They want you to enjoy nature. They want you to experience the sunlight in your your face, to go out walking, Even thinking of them as you experience life and realizing that they are not gone, that you will be together with them again in the future when it's your time, obviously. But they don't want you to waste your life feeling disconnected and feeling sad and sorry for yourself Because that hurts them just as much as it's hurting you. The suffering that you create There's also I don't wanna say that it's creating suffering in them because they're on the other side, and there is no suffering. But it doesn't make them feel good. They want to help you. They want you to to live your life. Beyond this podcast, my work involves delivering thought provoking talks and workshops which are deeply rooted in my experience an extensive research. My objective is to bring a profound understanding of grief to your organization, turn and adversity into strength, resilience, and growth. I can help you forge compassionate and supportive environment that encourages emotional resilience. We will create sustainable solutions for managing grief and loss. Understanding grief isn't a luxury. It's a necessity, a fundamental aspect of our human experience that directly impacts our work lives. As leaders, your comprehension and management of grief can be transformational for your organization. I invite you to collaborate with me on this journey. Contact me at Jockbrokers.com. So the best thing that you can do, ladies and gentlemen, in 2024, To honor your loved ones, if you're on this grief journey, is to live your life. Go and do something that you've never done that you wanna achieve. Go and take that course. Go and plant something in their memory. Remember, I've said in many, many different lessons that I've given, in many different podcasts and and talks I've given that you can talk out loud to them. They will hear you. You can connect with them in your mind. You may not feel the signs around them because you're grieving really deeply, but I can assure you, ladies and gentlemen, that when you call out to them and you think about them, That energy gets carried on. That energy gets carried to them. They get that. They get that message. And if you want your loved ones to be happy for you and smile on the other side, let them see that you honor them by living. You honor them by continuing your life and trying to be of service to humanity in some way. You don't need to allow the depths of suffering in your grief to destroy your life and maybe even cause a mental imbalance, Maybe because prolonged grief disorder that is people who are cannot get over grief and are continually suffering For a long time and don't seem to be able to live and are continually suffering in their mind, Nobody wants that. Your loved one doesn't want that. 2024, I wanna see you guys live In the memory of your loved one, tell me what it is that you have missed in life that you wanna do now. Maybe maybe because your loved one is gone that you can go and do something that you couldn't do when they were here. That doesn't mean that they held you back in any way. And it doesn't mean that you you're held back in any way. It just means that now is the time that you can do this, and maybe you can honor them with this. Maybe there's a musical instrument that you wanted to learn. Maybe there's a connection with a friend or a loved one On this side of life that you feel disconnected with, that you could maybe connect again. Maybe there's a friend that you can connect with. And, also, ladies and gentlemen, I want you to think about this. If your partner is gone, if you were in a loving relationship and you feel really lonely in this world And you think that you cannot find another person to connect with, to have a relationship with. They're never gonna judge you on the other side. You're not dishonoring them because you move on relationship. In fact, many times, and many settings that I've given, loved ones have often come through and given their blessings. Doesn't mean that you're disconnected from them. You never will be. Those bonds of love will always exist. Those bonds are connected to you that can never be destroyed. Remember, energy can be destroyed. The energy of love cannot be destroyed. So ladies and gentlemen, please, 2024, don't cause yourself anymore suffering. Honor your loved one by living your life. Be of service to humanity in some way or someone or something or something local to you Grieving just to yourself to achieve something that you wanna achieve. Life on this plane It's too short. Even though life continues, we have the choice to experience the wonder of life in this the short time that we have here, don't waste it in your grief. Honor the journey And live your experience of life with all its wonder and amazement that is out there. Ladies and gentlemen, please Live. Be happy. Let me know what you're doing. Connect with me in my comments on YouTube. Connect with me in my comments on a podcast Or message me. Let me know. Live your life. What is it that you want to achieve now? And it doesn't matter that you think you're disconnected from your loved one. That's an illusion. What can you do in their memory? What can you do in 2024 To show your loved one on the outside, to make them smile, to make them happy because you're grieving. I'm gonna be bringing up some different things In my community, in my group, where I'm gonna be teaching different things, different kinda things that we can do, and maybe bring on other people that have experienced, you know, moving forward in different ways. So share with me what is it you wanna do in 2024 To honor your loved one by the way that you live, one of the greatest things that I loss, and I often do this, And I'll leave you with this thought. I love photography. I I I've actually I mean, I've I've entered photography. I've done it professionally, but I really love to capture emotion and moments and light and the beauty of the world. And I often think about my father when I'm out with a camera. I often think about my uncle Tom, my uncle Dan, my many of my loved ones and friends that have gone before me. Maybe there's something you can do. It's something of of that I enjoy that I'm gonna be bringing into my community, And maybe somebody else will be in our community that will talk about what they do and maybe can help. But let me know, ladies and gentlemen, what it is that you wanna do in 2024 To honor your loved one, to live your life, and to experience the greatness of what life what god gives you to experience. God bless. Thank you for tuning in to the Pillars of Grief with me. If you found this podcast helpful, please consider subscribing so that you never miss an episode. Also, leaving a review can help others find the show and receive the guidance they need on their journey through grief. I appreciate your feedback and look forward to hearing from you all. Join my free online support community for those grieving and connect with others who understand what you're going through, I offer you a spiritual blessing and hope you will join me on the next episode. Till then, open your mind and allow the power of the divine to transform your grief to spiritual realization and.