Why Everyone Over 18 Needs a Will: End-of-Life Planning with Death Doula Marni Blank
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What if preparing for death could actually help you live more fully?
In this powerful episode, Nina Rodriguez speaks with Marni Blank, certified end-of-life doula and founder of Begin With The End, about why planning for death is one of the most compassionate acts we can offer, both to ourselves and those we love.
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This conversation weaves together the legal logistics of wills, advance directives, and digital assets with the emotional and spiritual tools needed to live with more intention and prepare with less fear. Marni also shares her deeply personal journey into this work, sparked by her mother’s car accident, a moment that exposed the overwhelming reality of end-of-life care when you're unprepared.
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Whether you're grieving, caregiving, or simply ready to get your affairs in order, this episode offers clarity, comfort, and a gentle push toward meaningful, compassionate action.
Topics We Explore:
- How to start honest, heart-centered conversations about death
- Why everyone over 18 needs a will and advance directive
- How to protect and pass on your digital legacy
- The biggest myths about grief, and what it actually looks like
- What a death doula does and how they support families
- How to shape a legacy rooted in values, not just valuables
- Why compassion and curiosity are essential in grief support
- How emotional presence and practical planning can coexist
Key Takeaways:
- Preparing for death is a profound act of love
- Grief is nonlinear and deeply individual
- Legal and digital planning is essential at any age
- Legacy lives on through stories, values, and human connection
- You don’t have to navigate end-of-life or grief alone
- Talking about death early can ease suffering later
- It’s possible to be both prepared and present during loss
Whether you’re facing loss, supporting someone in grief, or simply want to live with more intention, this episode will give you language, tools, and hope.
Grief Support Resources for the Road:
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- beginwiththeend.co
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Grief at Work: From Self-Advocacy to Compassionate Leadership with Bloomwell Partners
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Grief doesn’t pause when you arrive at work, so why do so many workplaces expect us to carry on as if nothing happened?
In this powerful episode of Grief and Light, host Nina Rodriguez is joined by Dr. Mekel Harris and Janet Gwilliam-Wright, co-founders of Bloomwell Partners, a consulting firm transforming how organizations handle grief and loss in the workplace.
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Drawing from their personal experiences of loss and their expertise in psychology, leadership, and organizational development, they dive into how employees can advocate for themselves while grieving, and how leaders can meet them with compassion instead of confusion.
From navigating the emotional toll of returning to work after a death, to shaping grief-informed policies and building a workplace culture rooted in empathy, this conversation offers tangible strategies for both individuals and organizations.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to perform while grieving, or if you're a leader unsure how to support a grieving team member, this episode is for you.
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Key Takeaways
- You have agency while grieving at work. Learning to speak up about your needs is part of healing, not a disruption.
- Grief impacts performance, presence, and decision-making. It’s not just emotional, it’s physical and cognitive too.
- Compassionate leadership is a skillset, not a personality trait. It can be learned, practiced, and integrated into team culture.
- Grieving employees often feel robotic and disconnected. Making space for real emotion helps restore connection and trust.
- Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. Long-term care and policy flexibility matter just as much as immediate support.
- Peer support and grief ambassadors can help normalize conversations around loss and reduce isolation at work.
- Organizations that support grief retain talent. Empathy and loyalty go hand-in-hand in the modern workplace.
- Emotional intelligence is essential for today’s leaders. It’s no longer optional; it’s a core competency.
Referenced in this episode:
- Janet Gwilliam-Wright on a mission to build compassionate organizations
- Grieving with Grace: Dr. Mekel Harris' Grief-Informed Approach to Relaxing into the Pain
- 5 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Grief-Informed Clinician
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The Grief of Uncertainty in Unprecedented Times
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In this solo, audio-only episode, host Nina Rodriguez explores the unspoken grief many of us are carrying right now—the grief of uncertainty.
From political turmoil and climate anxiety, to the dizzying pace of technological change, we’re living in times that feel increasingly unsteady.
This isn’t just stress; it’s a kind of ambient grief. It's the ache of losing the future we thought we were heading toward.
The episode reflects on:
- Why uncertainty feels so destabilizing to our nervous systems
- How ambient, ongoing grief impacts our sense of safety
- The importance of slowing down to recalibrate and feel
- What it means to find your anchor through ritual, rhythm, or aligned action
- How we can take meaningful action without burning out
Whether you’re doomscrolling, feeling disoriented, or just trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers gentle perspective and practical footholds for staying grounded in chaotic times.
If you’ve been quietly wondering, “Is it just me?” this episode is for you.
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Mentioned in this episode:
- Substack article: The Grief of Uncertainty in Unprecedented Times
- Podcast episode: Grief vs. Grieving
- Podcast Episode: The Liminality of Grief
Takeaways:
- Grief is not limited to the loss of loved ones.
- Uncertainty can lead to feelings of grief for lost safety and predictability.
- Slowing down is essential for processing grief.
- Finding clarity requires intentional reflection and presence.
- Grief can manifest as living loss, an ongoing and ambiguous experience.
- Anchoring ourselves in uncertainty involves returning to the body and small rituals.
- Community and connection can serve as powerful anchors during difficult times.
- Purposeful action can transform anxiety into focus and motion.
- Each person has a unique role to play in the process of transformation.
- You do not have to be okay to be worthy of love.
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Jody Gelb on Navigating Life and Loss with a Medically Fragile Child
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What does it mean to parent a child whose life is both a miracle and a medical emergency?
In this tender and unflinching conversation, Broadway actor and author Jody Gelb shares the story of her daughter Lueza—her first child, born with disabilities resulting from a catastrophic birth injury—whose life was defined by both relentless caregiving and radiant joy.
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Through the lens of her micro-memoir, SHE MAY BE LYING DOWN BUT SHE MAY BE VERY HAPPY, Jody speaks to the reality of raising a medically fragile child with cerebral palsy, where hope and anticipatory grief coexisted, and where love lived in the details, even amidst exhaustion and heartbreak. She takes us inside her NICU experience, evolution, reflects on self-judgment, ritual, and resilience, and explores what it means to live close to both life and death for years at a time.
This is an episode for caregivers, grievers, artists, and anyone who knows what it’s like to live inside a contradiction, and still find meaning there.
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Takeaways:
- Micro memoirs offer a powerful, distilled way to tell grief stories with clarity and emotional punch.
- Parenting a medically complex child requires living in constant contradiction: hope and heartbreak, joy and sorrow.
- The NICU experience leaves a lasting emotional imprint and is often under-discussed.
- Anticipatory grief changes how we relate to time, memory, and presence.
- Grief rituals and proximity to death can empower us to live more intentionally.
- Siblings of medically fragile children have unique emotional experiences that deserve recognition.
- Even in the most difficult circumstances, love and laughter remain possible, and necessary.
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Grieving One Child, Racing to Save Another: The Docobo Family’s Mission of Hope
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In this moving episode of Grief and Light, host Nina Rodriguez sits down with Bryan and Danielle Docobo to explore their journey through profound loss, love, and advocacy following the death of their son Ethan, who passed away from the rare genetic disorder Coats Plus Syndrome. As parents navigating complex grief while raising their surviving son Liam, who lives with the same diagnosis, Bryan and Danielle speak candidly about the emotional, spiritual, and logistical realities of their path, as they work against time to save him.
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Danielle, a dedicated pediatric nurse, and Bryan, a real estate attorney and podcast host, share how they turned heartbreak into hope through the creation of the Coats Plus Foundation. Their mission includes fundraising, research, awareness, and building a supportive community for families navigating rare diseases.
This heartfelt conversation covers the duality of grief and joy, the spiritual lessons they’ve learned, the importance of vulnerability, and how taking action has become a healing force in their lives. Whether you’re a grieving parent, a rare disease advocate, or simply someone walking through loss, their story reminds us that love never ends, and neither does the impact of a life, no matter how short.
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Takeaways:
- Grief is lifelong and evolves with time. It is not something to “get over,” but something we live with.
- Naming the problem (such as a diagnosis) allows families to shift into problem-solving and advocacy.
- Community is everything. Whether through foundations, peer support, or safe spaces for grief.
- Rare disease diagnoses are devastating, but can serve as a catalyst for collective action.
- Guilt is common when balancing the needs of multiple children in medical crises.
- Hope lives in action—advocacy, fundraising, and awareness-building create purpose from pain.
- Spirituality and brotherhood provide grounding during uncertain times.
- Men also need safe spaces to express grief and vulnerability.
- Special needs children contribute immense value and joy to their families.
- Presence is everything. Ethan’s life taught them to cherish every moment.
- Taking action, through storytelling, fundraising, or showing up can be a form of healing.
- You can be in grief and in joy; it’s not either/or—it’s both/and.
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Soul Pets and Sacred Goodbyes: Grant Hazell on the Grief of Pet Loss
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Pet loss is real grief — and it deserves real support.
In this heartfelt episode of Grief and Light, host Nina Rodriguez is joined by pet loss grief specialist, Grant Hazell, for an intimate conversation about the grief of losing a beloved animal companion. Together, they explore the deep bonds between humans and pets — often referred to as “soul pets” — and why losing them can be just as devastating as the loss of a human loved one.
You'll hear about:
- The unique types of human–pet relationships and what makes them so significant
- How society often invalidates or overlooks pet loss grief
- The role pets play in the lives of seniors, children, and people with disabilities
- Navigating anticipatory grief and the complexities of euthanasia decisions
- How to continue the bond with your pet through rituals, memories, and honoring their legacy
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Whether you're grieving the loss of a dog, cat, service animal or any cherished companion animal, this episode offers compassionate insight and validation.
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Takeaways:
- Pet loss is a significant form of grief that is often overlooked.
- The bond between humans and pets can be profound and life-altering.
- Disenfranchised grief refers to grief that is not socially acknowledged.
- Understanding the human-pet bond can help validate feelings of loss.
- Grief is a personal journey that cannot be fixed or rushed.
- The grief of losing a pet can be as severe as losing a human loved one.
- Older individuals may experience deeper grief due to pet loss as companions.
- The categories of human-pet bonds help explain the depth of grief.
- Pets often fulfill emotional needs that may not be met elsewhere.
- The bond between humans and pets can help alleviate feelings of isolation.
- Anticipatory grief is a valid and often overlooked aspect of pet loss.
- Pet loss encompasses more than just death; it includes separation and surrender.
- Euthanasia decisions can lead to significant guilt and remorse for pet owners.
- Grief rituals can help maintain a connection with deceased pets.
- Love for pets continues beyond their physical presence.
- It's important to approach pet loss with compassion and understanding.
- People who surrender pets often face stigma and judgment from others.
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Navigating Motherhood after Loss with Liz Quinn
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In this deeply moving episode Nina is joined by Liz Quinn — grief advocate, and host of the Healing Hearts Podcast. Liz opens up about her personal journey through layered loss, including the death of her daughter Alivia, and both of her parents. With tenderness and clarity, she shares what it means to grieve as a mother, how guilt and love can coexist, and how the relationship with a child in spirit continues to evolve.
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The conversation also explores the experience of pregnancy after loss, the secondary grief felt by surviving children, and the often unseen labor of tending to grief while parenting. Liz also shares her journey through anticipatory and ambiguous grief as she lost her mother to Alzheimer’s and dementia, followed by the death of her father to esophageal cancer.
Nina and Liz offer insights into how one's healing journey can evolve into a purpose-driven mission, and emphasize the importance of storytelling and community in the grief process. This episode is a poignant reminder that grief is not something to fix — it’s something to honor, carry, and live with love.
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Takeaways:
- You don't necessarily feel like a mother when you don't have a child physically.
- The love for a child begins the moment you know they are yours.
- Grief is a journey that shapes who you are.
- Honoring lost children is a vital part of healing.
- It's okay to not want to hold a baby after loss.
- You either know or you just do it when it comes to having more children.
- Building a relationship with a child in spirit takes time.
- There is no right or wrong way to navigate grief.
- Sometimes, mothers know best when it comes to healing traditions.
- Support groups can be both helpful and challenging.
- Siblings can experience grief for a sibling they never met.
- The loss of a child reshapes family dynamics and identities.
- Transforming grief into purpose can lead to personal growth.
- Shared stories can initiate healing for both the storyteller and the listener.
- Grief is a lifelong journey that evolves over time.
- Life after loss can still be beautiful despite its challenges.
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Grief vs. Grieving: Why the Difference Matters
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We often use the words grief and grieving interchangeably—but did you know they’re not quite the same?
In this thoughtful solo episode of Grief and Light, host Nina Rodriguez invites listeners into a powerful reframe: grief is the natural response to loss, but grieving is how we live with and in relation to our grief. With tenderness and clarity, Nina explores how understanding the distinction between these two terms can transform our experience with loss—softening unrealistic expectations, reducing pressure to "move on," and opening up a path toward self-compassion and emotional expansion.
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Drawing from her personal experiences and professional grief support work, Nina illustrates how grief is a universal, often involuntary response—raw, physical, and immediate—while grieving is a dynamic and deeply personal relationship with what’s missing. She emphasizes that grieving is not something to get over but something we tend to, like a garden or a living relationship, over time.
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This episode is a balm for anyone who’s ever asked themselves, “Why am I still like this?” and offers a more empowering, spacious question instead: “What kind of care do I need today?”
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Key Takeaways:
- Grief is the event—the natural response to loss and life-altering change.
- Grieving is the process—our evolving relationship with that loss over time.
- There is no timeline for grieving and no single "right" way to do it.
- Cultural, familial, and societal influences shape how we perceive grief.
- Grieving is a practice in patience and self-compassion, not perfection.
- Honoring your own process means also allowing others to move at their pace.
- The metaphor of the grief jar illustrates how our capacity expands—not that the grief shrinks.
- Tending to grief honestly is what brings meaning, integration, and even unexpected joy.
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Brothers, Grief, and Identity: Nico Slate on navigating sibling loss, love, and race dynamics
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How does grief intersect with race and identity when growing up in a multi-ethnic family?
In this powerful episode, host Nina Rodriguez sits down with historian and author Nico Slate to explore the layered experience of sibling loss through the lens of race, identity, and love.
Nico shares the deeply personal story behind his memoir Brothers: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Race, which honors the life and legacy of his late brother, Peter. Raised in a multi-ethnic family, Nico reflects on Peter’s experiences as a Black man in America, the traumatic events that shaped their lives, and how writing became a path toward healing and understanding. Together, they discuss the evolving nature of grief, the power of storytelling, and how we continue our relationships with those who have passed.
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This episode offers an intimate look at the grief of losing a sibling, the emotional complexities of family dynamics, and the profound impact of racial identity on mourning and memory. Whether you're navigating your own loss, reflecting on race and family, or seeking a heartfelt conversation about healing, this episode offers insight, vulnerability, and hope.
Key Takeaways:
- Grief often feels abstract—until it becomes personal.
- Sibling loss can profoundly shape one’s identity and worldview.
- Writing a memoir can be a powerful tool for healing and reflection.
- Love and grief transcend racial and cultural boundaries.
- Navigating grief within a multi-racial family brings unique challenges and insights.
- Processing loss through storytelling helps preserve memories and deepen understanding.
- You can't separate the beauty and pain of life—they often coexist.
- Grief evolves over time and may include struggles with identity and belonging.
- Relationships with the deceased don’t end—they shift and continue.
- Historical figures and family legacy can serve as anchors of hope in grief.
- Self-compassion is essential on the grieving journey.
- Complex or unresolved relationships may carry their own form of grief.
- Being kind to yourself is not optional—it's a necessity.
- Honoring grief publicly can invite connection and community.
- Racial grief is real and deeply entwined with personal and societal loss.
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Befriending the Unknown: Paula Sager on losing her father, Authentic Movement, and writing The Watch
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What if grief holds its own wisdom, guiding us towards healing and understanding?
In this episode, host Nina Rodriguez speaks with Paula Sager, writer and teacher of embodied contemplative practices, about the wisdom found in grief and the power of presence in times of loss.
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Paula reflects on her father's illness, passing, and the ongoing connection that unfolded afterward. They discuss how mindfulness, movement, and authentic movement practices can support grief by fostering inner listening and honoring the body’s response to loss.
This conversation explores themes of love, letting go, and the mystical moments that can emerge during grief.
Paula shares insights from her book, The Watch: Time to Witness the Beauty of It All, and invites listeners to embrace unanswered questions with curiosity and compassion.
Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on finding beauty, connection, and meaning in the midst of sorrow.
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Takeaways:
- Grief can guide us toward wisdom and understanding.
- Being present in grief is essential for healing.
- Personal loss often leads to profound questions about life and time.
- Movement can help reconnect the mind and body during grief.
- The Discipline of Authentic Movement encourages inner listening and self-awareness.
- Grief is a physical experience that can manifest in the body.
- Creating space for emotions is crucial in the grieving process.
- Navigating grief requires patience and curiosity about our inner world.
- Grief has its own wisdom that guides us.
- Listening to our bodies can help navigate grief.
- Practices of mindfulness are essential for life and grief.
- The process of writing can be a form of healing.
- Letting go is a complex and personal journey.
- Presence is the most important gift we can offer.
- Unanswered questions are a part of the grieving process.
- Mystical experiences can provide comfort during loss.
- Love remains a powerful force in the face of grief.
- Paying attention to small moments can lead to healing.
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- Website & Book: paulasager.com
- The Watch on Bookshop
- Befriending the Unknown: A Simple Practice
- IG: @body.and.word
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Uncensoring Grief, Centering Aliveness, and Navigating Loss with Lisa Keefauver, MSW
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How can we center aliveness in a world full of loss?
In this heartfelt conversation, host Nina Rodriguez and grief activist, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author, Lisa Keefauver, MSW dive into the complexities of grief, offering insights on grief literacy and the personal experiences that shape how we process loss. They explore the emotional impact of grief, highlighting the gap between learning about grief and living through it.
The discussion unpacks the nuances of emotions, feelings, and moods, shedding light on how understanding these distinctions can support healing. Lisa shares powerful tools from narrative therapy, emphasizing the importance of reframing our grief stories. Together, they explore how self-compassion, mindfulness, and community can help us navigate grief — while still finding moments of joy and connection.
The episode offers practical strategies for cultivating aliveness, delivering delight to others, and embracing our shared humanity in the face of loss.
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Takeaways:
- Grief is a universal experience that affects everyone uniquely.
- Grief literacy is essential to reduce unnecessary suffering during grief.
- Grief is not just sadness; it encompasses a wide range of emotions and experiences.
- Anticipatory grief can be just as profound as the grief experienced after a loss.
- There is no timeline for grief; it is a nonlinear process.
- Seeking support for grief should not be limited to crisis moments.
- Understanding the difference between emotions, feelings, and moods can aid in processing grief.
- Narrative therapy can help individuals articulate their grief experiences.
- All forms of loss are valid and deserve recognition and support.
- Grief is a language that requires learning and understanding.
- Reframing narratives around grief can transform our experiences.
- Self-compassion is essential in dealing with difficult emotions.
- Mindfulness practices help create space between experience and story.
- Finding joy in small moments can counteract feelings of sadness.
- Delivering delight to others fosters connection and joy.
- We are all interconnected, and our suffering is shared.
- Happiness is not a destination but a fleeting state.
- Starting close in can help manage feelings of overwhelm.
- Community support is vital in times of grief.
- Practicing gratitude and beauty-seeking can enhance our aliveness.
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- Get the Book
- Listen to Grief is a Sneaky Bitch Podcast
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Love and Widowhood: Grief, Community, and Healing after Loss with Tina Fornwald
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How do we find the strength to keep going when the life we built with someone we love is suddenly gone?
In this poignant episode, host Nina Rodriguez speaks with Tina Fornwald, an empowerment coach, podcast host, and retired Chief Warrant Officer, about her journey through grief after a miscarriage, surviving breast cancer, and losing Mark, her beloved husband of 32 years.
Through her story, Tina illuminates the complexities of grief, the importance of community support, and the unique challenges faced by widows and widowers.
This episode is a testament to the strength found in vulnerability, the importance of honoring every facet of grief, the need for open conversation, and the enduring power of love.
Tina discusses the challenges of redefining her identity, embracing grief, and the duality of love as she moves forward in life, emphasizing the importance of community support, the validity of one's feelings in grief, and the ongoing connection to lost loved ones. Her insights provide hope for others experiencing similar losses.
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Takeaways:
- Widowhood encompasses a unique set of challenges and emotions.
- Grief is a complex and multifaceted experience.
- It's important to allow individuals to express their pain.
- The language of grief is often difficult to articulate.
- Coping with loss requires understanding and patience from others.
- Being present for someone grieving is a powerful gift.
- Grief can manifest in various forms beyond the loss of a loved one.
- There is no hierarchy in grief; each person's experience is valid.
- Sharing stories about the deceased can help in the healing process.
- You have to redefine your role as a mother after loss.
- Grief is a journey that requires honesty and openness.
- You can still have a purpose and a story after loss.
- Community support is crucial in the grieving process.
- There are no timelines for grief; it's a personal journey.
- Remarriage does not diminish the love for a deceased spouse.
- It's okay to seek help and talk about your feelings.
- You can create new traditions while honoring your loved one.
- Your love story continues even after loss.
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Lifebooks.io: Matt Jacobson on losing his father, and the future of preserving memories and legacies
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How can we ensure that the legacies of our loved ones are not forgotten?
In this episode, I speak with Matt Jacobson, a young entrepreneur whose father passed away unexpectedly, leaving a void in his life. He decided to create Lifebooks, a platform that allows families to collaborate on creating beautiful, high-quality legacy books that tell the stories of their loved ones.
Matt's story is one of resilience and hope. He is an inspiration to anyone who has lost a loved one. His work is helping to ensure that the legacies of those we love will never be forgotten.
This episode is for anyone who has lost a loved one or who wants to learn more about how to preserve family memories.
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Takeaways:
- The idea of encapsulating timeless memories with family is crucial.
- Grief often brings isolation, but shared experiences can unite us.
- Lifebooks was inspired by the desire to honor a loved one's legacy.
- Creating a memorial book can be a therapeutic process.
- Quality and durability in memorial books are essential for lasting memories.
- The collaborative aspect of Lifebooks allows families to share diverse memories.
- Grief can lead to profound insights about family and legacy.
- The manufacturing process of Lifebooks ensures high-quality products.
- Sharing memories can help heal the wounds of loss.
- Honoring loved ones through storytelling keeps their essence alive.
- It's rewarding to revisit memories in a joyful manner.
- Creating a family legacy can be a healing process.
- The journey of building Lifebooks was filled with challenges and growth.
- Finding purpose after loss is essential for healing.
- Engaging in routines helps redefine what you love.
- Being kind to yourself is crucial during difficult times.
- Embracing life's challenges can lead to personal growth.
- Honoring a loved one's legacy can take many forms.
- Community support is vital in the grieving process.
- Life is a beautiful journey, even amidst hardships.
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- Visit lifebooks.io to learn more about how you can create your own Lifebook.
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The Liminality of Grief: Embracing who you are becoming
GRIEF AND LIGHT
This is the threshold of grief—we’re no longer the person we were before loss, and we haven’t yet discovered who we’re evolving into. So how can we stay true to ourselves as we get to know who we are becoming?
In this episode of the Grief in Life podcast, host Nina Rodriguez explores the concept of liminality in grief, emphasizing the importance of giving oneself permission to feel and operate from a place of becoming. She discusses the challenges of navigating identity shifts after loss, the tools of heart-centered curiosity, boundaries, and self-compassion, and the significance of community and creative expression in the healing process. The conversation highlights the beauty of vulnerability and the ongoing journey of personal growth amidst grief.
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Takeaways:
- Grief is a response to loss and life-altering change.
- Liminality represents the in-between space of who you were and who you are becoming.
- It's essential to give yourself permission to feel.
- Heart-centered curiosity helps in navigating grief.
- Boundaries shift after loss and need to be communicated.
- Being gentle with yourself is crucial during grief.
- Grief can lead to anxiety and depression if unattended.
- Creative expression is a vital tool for processing grief.
- Community support is essential in the grieving process.
- Embracing vulnerability can lead to profound personal growth.
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The Grief Girlie: Shea Wingate on Compounded Grief, Myth Busting, and Making Room for Joy
GRIEF AND LIGHT
Have you ever felt like you're grieving "wrong"? Is there a "right" way to grieve?
In this episode of the Grief and Light podcast, host Nina Rodriguez talks with licensed therapist and grief coach, Shea Wingate aka. "The Grief Girlie," about the many faces of grief.
Shea shares her own experience of profound loss and compounded grief, offering insights and wisdom gained from navigating the deaths of her parents and sister in a two-year span, and her calling to work with grievers.
They address common myths surrounding grief, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and validating individual experiences.
This conversation offers a message of hope and practical strategies for finding support, processing emotions, and rediscovering joy after loss.
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Takeaways:
- Grief is not just about death; it encompasses various forms of loss.
- Moving on from grief does not mean forgetting the loved ones we lost.
- Grief can change our identity and how we view ourselves.
- The acute phase of grief can feel overwhelming and disorienting.
- Each loss has a unique 'tone and flavor,' affecting how we grieve.
- Grief work involves integrating loss into our lives, not just getting over it.
- Finding a grief-informed therapist can provide essential support.
- Social media can be a powerful tool for connecting with others in grief.
- Sharing personal stories of loss can help others feel less alone.
- Grief is a lifelong journey that evolves over time.
- It's important to take grief one day at a time.
- Each loss is unique and affects one's identity.
- Positive experiences are essential for healing.
- Rest is a crucial part of processing grief.
- Talking about grief helps in its integration.
- Societal pressures can complicate the grieving process.
- There is no timeline for grief; it's a personal experience.
- Seeking help early can prevent overwhelming grief.
- Finding balance between grief and joy is vital.
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Showing Up Meaningfully in 2025: Evolving from "Me" to "We"
GRIEF AND LIGHT
2025: It's a year of big changes, big feelings, and maybe even a little bit of big grief. Feeling a little lost in the chaos of 2025? You're not alone.
On this episode of Grief and Light, host Nina Rodriguez dives deep into what it means to show up meaningfully in "unprecedented" times. She explores the idea of the "pendulum redux," the power of our individual callings, and why connection and joy are non-negotiable. Join Nina for an honest and reflective episode about meeting life as it is, personal stories, and actionable tools to help you cultivate connection, compassion, and hope in the face of whatever life throws your way.
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Takeaways:
- 2025 marks a significant shift in collective experiences.
- Grief is not just about death; it's about life-altering changes.
- We all have a role to play in supporting each other.
- We go from thesis, to antithesis, then synthesis.
- Mindfulness and self-care are essential during difficult times.
- Building community and empathy is crucial for healing.
- Sharing our stories can empower others and foster connection.
- Finding joy is a key ingredient for resilience.
- It's important to acknowledge and validate each other's experiences.
- We are moving from a culture of individualism to collectivism.
- You are not alone in your grief; seek out support.
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Embracing the "New You" After Loss: Reflections of 2024 and Hope for 2025
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this reflective episode of Grief and Light, Nina Rodriguez delves into the process of embracing a new sense of self after experiencing loss and life-altering change, offering insights and encouragement as we transition into 2025. As the new year approaches, she reflects on the ways grief reshapes our identity and forces us to confront changes we may not have chosen, emphasizing how it shapes identity, perspective, and priorities. Drawing from her own experiences and those of her clients, Nina offers insights on how to honor who you were before the loss while making space for growth and self-discovery. She shares practical tips for navigating change with compassion and highlights the importance of hope, curiosity, and hope as guiding forces in the healing process. This episode serves as both a comforting companion and an empowering reminder to invite harmonious change amidst life's most difficult transitions.
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Takeaways:
- When we experience life altering loss, a new version of ourselves is born.
- Show yourself grace as you learn who you are becoming.
- Grief can be confusing to navigate; honesty is essential.
- The pain of loss is unchangeable, but suffering can be adjusted.
- Community support is vital in the grief journey.
- The Forever a Sister program provided a safe space for sharing.
- Grief is not limited to physical loss; it's everywhere.
- Life is change, and with loss, it's accelerated change.
- It's important to honor your own timeline in grief.
- Resources are crucial for those in early grief.
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"Griefmas" & Griefy Holidays: Your Survival Guide for When Life Doesn't Feel Merry or Bright
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this episode of the Grief and Light podcast, host Nina Rodriguez discusses the complexities of experiencing grief during the holiday season. She emphasizes the normalization of grief, especially during times that are typically associated with joy and celebration. Nina shares various coping strategies, the importance of acknowledging one's feelings, and the healing power of creating new traditions, reclaiming a sense of agency, communicating our needs, and setting boundaries.
She encourages listeners to lean into their grief and joy, and to give themselves permission to pivot, as needed. The episode serves as a resource for those navigating the difficult emotions that arise during the holidays.
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Takeaways
- Grief can feel heavier during the holidays.
- It's normal to feel a contrast between grief and holiday joy.
- Acknowledge and honor your grief; don't push it down.
- You have the power to create new traditions.
- Setting boundaries is crucial for emotional well-being.
- It's okay to not feel merry and bright during the holidays.
- Lean into moments of joy when they arise.
- Grief needs to be witnessed, not fixed.
- Give yourself permission to pivot and change plans.
- Self-care practices are essential during this time.
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Holiday Scripts for Grievers: What to say when the season doesn't feel merry or bright
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'Grief 2 Growth': Brian D. Smith on Signs, Synchronicities, and Making Meaning after Child Loss
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this episode, host Nina Rodriguez engages in a heartfelt conversation with Brian D. Smith, a certified grief educator, life purpose coach, author, speaker, and host of the Grief2Growth Podcast. They explore the profound themes of grief, loss, and the journey towards healing. Brian shares his personal experience of losing his daughter Shayna and how it transformed his understanding of life, death, and the afterlife. The discussion delves into the significance of signs and synchronicities in the grieving process, the concept of lucid dreaming as a means of connecting with loved ones, and the reconciliation of scientific and spiritual perspectives on grief.
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Through their dialogue, they aim to provide comfort and insight to those navigating their own journeys of loss. In this conversation, the speaker explores the profound themes of grief, healing, and the interconnectedness of our journeys through life. They discuss the concept of viewing life as a 'team effort', where experiences and challenges are shared among your spiritual 'team'. Brian shares his GEMS framework, which provides four practical steps for healing. The conversation also touches on the significance of gratitude and the ongoing connection with loved ones who have passed, highlighting that they remain a part of our lives in spirit.
Takeaways:
- Grief is a personal journey that varies for everyone.
- Understanding that loved ones continue to exist can provide comfort.
- Signs and synchronicities can be powerful indicators of connection with our loved ones in Spirit.
- Lucid dreaming can facilitate connection and communication.
- It's important to remain open to different perspectives on grief.
- Grief can lead to personal growth and rediscovery of purpose.
- The mind and consciousness can affect the physical world.
- Reconciliation of science and spirituality is possible.
- Setting specific signs can help in recognizing connections.
- Grief can open us to new realities and understandings.
- We come into life with a team, not just for ourselves.
- Grief can lead to personal growth and understanding.
- Finding meaning in loss is a personal journey.
- Gratitude can shift our perspective during grief.
- Healing is not about getting over loss, but moving through it.
- The GEMS framework offers practical steps for healing.
- Our loved ones want us to thrive, not remain sad.
- Every experience, even painful ones, can lead to growth.
- We can choose the meaning we assign to our experiences.
- The connection with those we've lost continues in spirit.
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Finding Pockets of Sunshine: Dr. Monica Krishnan on Grief, Mental Health and Healing
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this conversation, Dr. Monica Krishnan shares her profound journey through grief, self-discovery, and healing after losing her husband to brain cancer. She discusses her experiences with high-functioning depression, the importance of support systems, and her advocacy work in mental health. Dr. Krishnan emphasizes the need for open conversations about grief, especially among children, and the role of spirituality in healing. Her insights and personal stories provide listeners with hope and practical tools for navigating their own grief journeys. She discusses the importance of shedding societal labels, embracing one's true essence, and the transformative power of stillness. The dialogue emphasizes the unique nature of grief, the significance of finding joy amidst sorrow, and the importance of intentional rest and reflection. Dr. Krishnan also shares her new children's book, 'Finding Pockets of Sunshine,' which follows 8 year old Anisha as she discovers resilience and joy amidst grief, showcasing the transformative power of love and hope in the face of loss.
Takeaways:
- Support systems are crucial in navigating grief and loss.
- Children need to learn about grief and mental health early on.
- Dr. Krishnan's book aims to help children understand grief.
- Spirituality played a significant role in her healing journey.
- Grace is essential in the grieving process.
- Community and connection can help alleviate feelings of isolation.
- Advocacy for mental health awareness is vital for societal change.
- There are many labels that are put on somebody who has experienced loss.
- Stripping off the labels and learning who we are without them is healing.
- It is so important to rest. Vipassana retreats are an excellent way to do so.
- Grief is an invitation to slow down.
- You can also have pockets of sunshine in your grieving journey.
- Your journey of grief is your journey.
- Stories keep our love alive and growing.
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Impacted Survivors: Navigating Grief and Stigma After Murder-Suicide Loss
GRIEF AND LIGHT
This episode addresses the complex and sensitive topic of murder-suicide and its profound impact on survivors, which may be activating for some listeners. We aim to approach these topics with care and respect, highlighting the need for community support and open dialogue.
If you or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide or in crisis, help is available:
- Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.)
- Visit 988lifeline.org or crisistextline.org for additional resources and support
Please prioritize your well-being, and listen only if you feel ready and supported.
Summary:
Joined by guests Michael Vinton and Tina Chevalier, two of the three co-founders of Impacted Survivors of Murder Suicide, this episode explores the complexities, layers, and stigma surrounding loss related to murder-suicide, the unique challenges faced by survivors, and the role of media in shaping public perception. The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support and the need for sensitive reporting on such tragedies, while also highlighting the healing power of sharing personal stories and experiences. They explore the non-linear nature of grief, the importance of support groups, and the challenges of reconciling emotions after such traumatic events. They discuss the meaning of "living forward" after loss, while also addressing the societal pressures and personal struggles that accompany grief.
Takeaways:
- Grief can encompass multiple truths and experiences.
- Murder-suicide is a complex and stigmatized form of loss.
- Survivors often feel isolated and misunderstood.
- Finding a supportive community can be crucial for healing.
- Media coverage of murder-suicides often lacks sensitivity.
- Survivors are left to navigate a complicated grief process.
- There is a need for better resources for murder-suicide survivors.
- The impact of sensationalized media can be re-traumatizing.
- Support groups can provide a safe space for sharing.
- Naming and discussing grief openly can aid in healing.
- Grief is not a linear process and varies for everyone.
- Support groups provide essential understanding and shared experiences.
- The societal perception of grief can complicate personal healing.
- Each person's story of loss is unique and layered.
- Creating a framework for specific types of loss is crucial.
- Finding help and community is vital for healing.
- It's important to acknowledge the nuances of grief and loss.
- Reconciling the layers of loss in murder-suicide is a process.
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Embracing what is with Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this heartfelt conversation, award-winning poet and author, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, shares her journey of navigating grief after the sudden loss of her son, Finn, in 2021, followed by the loss of her father. Through poetry and reflection, she explores the themes of grief, surrender, love, the natural world, and the transformative power of writing. The episode delves into the nuances of grief, and the ways in which creativity can serve as a sacred anchoring practice as we learn to meet what is with curiosity, and how to carry our person's "love light" after loss.
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Rosemerry and Nina explore the intricate relationship between grief, praise, and the art of surrender. They delve into how moments of beauty and connection can arise even in the depths of sorrow, emphasizing the importance of honoring loved ones while navigating personal loss. Through poetry and personal anecdotes, they illustrate the duality of joy and grief, and the grace found in surrendering to life's challenges, as we're flooded with "the relentless truth of what is". The discussion culminates in a reflection on the complexity of emotions and the healing power of words.
Takeaways:
- Surrender is the surest medicine that exists.
- Grief thrusts you into living in the "and".
- Writing became a practice of meeting each moment with wonderment.
- The story of grief is nonlinear and ever-changing.
- Love continues to grow even after loss.
- Finding joy is a possibility, even in grief.
- Asking questions can open doors to new perspectives.
- We can witness our own grief from a third-person perspective.
- Praise can be a way of embracing life as it is.
- The Unfolding reflects the spectrum of grief and love.
- Surrendering to life's challenges can lead to profound insights.
- Life and love happen through us.
- Our loved ones leave us their "love light" to carry.
- The heart can hold multiple emotions simultaneously.
- Grief can deepen our sensitivity and connection to life.
- Art and poetry can be powerful tools in life and grief.
- Creating new words can help articulate complex emotions.
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Beyond Platitudes: Erin Blechman Talks Candidly About Suicide Loss and Supporting Grievers
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In this deeply moving episode, grief educator Erin Blechman opens up about her profound journey through loss after the death of her son, Max. Erin invites us into her experience of navigating the unique pain of suicide loss, sharing stories of Max’s life, his struggles, and the love that continues to shape her every day. She candidly explores the complexities of grief, the strength it takes to push past well-meaning but hurtful platitudes, and the necessity of compassion when facing tragedy. Erin discusses how her own healing journey has inspired her to support other bereaved parents, offering a space for community and mutual understanding. Through her work and writing, she brings to light the ongoing dance between hope and sorrow, illustrating how shared experiences and genuine presence can make a lasting impact on the path to healing. This episode is a heartfelt conversation on the power of community, the importance of authentic support, and the resilience that stems from love and loss.
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Takeaways:
- Grief is a lifelong journey that evolves over time and varies for everyone.
- It's essential to sit with someone in their grief rather than trying to fix it.
- Mental illness can manifest in various ways, often misunderstood by society.
- Community support plays a crucial role in the healing process.
- Compassion and empathy are vital when supporting bereaved parents.
- Platitudes can be more hurtful than helpful during times of loss.
- Understanding the nuances of depression is key to providing support.
- Faith can be a source of comfort but can also lead to hurtful comments.
- Sharing stories of loved ones helps keep their memory alive.
- Healing involves recognizing and processing regret in our actions.
- Being present is more important than offering solutions.
- Hope can be elusive after a significant loss.
- Grieving parents often feel isolated in their pain.
- Education about grief can empower those who are grieving.
- Support groups provide validation and understanding.
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LIFE SHIFT: Matt Gilhooly on grieving loved ones, pet loss, and healing through storytelling
GRIEF AND LIGHT
In remembrance of the goodest boy, Mikey.
Matt Gilhooly shares his profound journey through grief, beginning with the sudden loss of his mother at a young age. He reflects on how this pivotal moment shaped his life and the way he processes emotions. The discussion delves into the complexities of grief, the impact of childhood trauma, and the perfectionist tendencies that can arise from a desire to mask pain. Matt also contrasts his experiences with anticipatory loss, particularly with his grandmother, highlighting the importance of open communication and emotional connection during difficult times. The conversation emphasizes the significance of storytelling in understanding and navigating grief. Matt reflects on personal experiences with family dynamics in grief, the healing power of writing, and the creation of The Life Shift Podcast, which features candid conversations with people about the pivotal moments that changed their lives forever. He also delves into the profound grief associated with losing his pet, Mikey, highlighting the unique challenges it presents.
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Takeaways:
- The stories we carry shape our identities and connections.
- Grief often intertwines with trauma, especially in childhood.
- Children may not fully grasp the concept of death and grief.
- Perfectionism can stem from a desire to mask grief.
- Processing grief can take decades and may not follow a linear path.
- Anticipatory loss allows for meaningful conversations and closure.
- Grief is not just about the loss of a person, but also the loss of potential experiences.
- Open communication is crucial in navigating relationships during grief.
- Understanding one's grief journey can lead to personal growth.
- Healing from grief involves recognizing and addressing past traumas.
- It's important to have open conversations about grief with family.
- Writing can be a powerful tool for processing grief.
- Creating a podcast allowed for sharing and healing through stories.
- Pet loss can be as profound as losing a human loved one.
- Making decisions for a pet's end-of-life care is incredibly difficult.
- Sharing our stories helps others feel less alone in their grief.
- We need to normalize conversations about grief and loss.
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Rebecca Feinglos on Loss, Grieve Leave, and Creating Grief-Informed Spaces
GRIEF AND LIGHT
Host, Nina Rodriguez, sits down with Rebecca Feinglos, a certified grief support specialist and founder of Grieve Leave, to explore her profound journey through loss. After experiencing the death of both parents and navigating the end of her marriage, Rebecca took a courageous year-long 'grieve leave' to fully immerse herself in healing. Together, they delve into the non-linear nature of grief, the powerful impact of loss on identity, and the contrasting experiences of anticipatory versus sudden grief.
Rebecca opens up about how connecting with her body through yoga and prioritizing rest became essential tools in her emotional recovery, and she emphasizes the importance of self-care in embracing grief as a path to personal growth. They also dive into how workplaces can better support grieving employees and how societal expectations of productivity often clash with the need for deep rest and reflection. Additionally, they examine the role of social media in breaking the silence around grief, highlighting how platforms like Grieve Leave have become crucial spaces for community support and honest conversations. This heartfelt discussion reminds us that embracing grief can lead to transformation and that connection—whether through movement, rest, or community—is key to healing.
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Takeaways:
- Loss can significantly reshape one's identity and life perspective.
- Sudden loss can leave unresolved feelings and shock that lingers.
- Taking time off work can be a privilege that allows for healing.
- Yoga can help reconnect the mind and body during grief.
- Rest is essential for mental health and recovery from grief.
- Grief can unlock deeper emotions related to past losses.
- Community support is vital in navigating the grief journey.
- Society glorifies productivity, often at the expense of well-being.
- Rest is crucial for creativity and mental health.
- Grief in the workplace is a pressing issue that needs attention.
- Empathetic workplaces can significantly support grieving employees.
- Grief can stem from various losses, not just death.
- Creating grief-informed spaces involves everyday interactions.
- Social media has amplified conversations about grief.
- Community support is essential for navigating grief.
- Grief is a non-linear process that requires understanding.
- Policies should reflect the complexities of grief experiences.
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