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CYBEX Hot Mom Walk Episode #18: #MomGoals with Jenna Christie

• CYBEX • Season 2 • Episode 18

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CYBEX Mama Mentor Jenna Christie (@jennamaaac) is back to remind you that you’re more than just a mom. 


Join Jenna as she strips away the pressure around goals and shares a framework that makes them more achievable and less intimidating. With this new approach, and support from your CYBEX Mama Mentor and community, you’ll have 
everything you need to achieve your goals and rediscover yourself.


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Hello and welcome to the Cybex Hot Mom Walk podcast. Cybex started this series as a recent study found that 80 % of women at three months postpartum say they feel more alone than ever. Designed to help mitigate feeling isolated, the Cybex Hot Mom Walk podcast series aims to help moms across North America cope with the feeling of isolation and the huge identity shift that comes with parenthood. What's up mama? It's Jenna Christie coming in hot for the Cybex Hot Mom Walk.

podcast and if I sound a little sick today it is because I have a 13 month old in daycare. Nuff said. I think this is just my new normal. I'm just gonna constantly be living life with a slight cold.

create a lot of video content, but like video content is different because I feel like you need to like kind of get ready and stuff like podcasts you need to get ready. I just gonna sit on my bed and talk to you guys. Let's get into the theme of today's episode. So today we're talking hashtag mom goals, not in the sense of perfection, but more as a celebration of moms reclaiming and achieving their goals and how we're going to do it with grace because let's be real motherhood is f***ing hard.

It's no secret that executing your goals as a mom is a lot harder than probably executing your goals at any other point in your life. But that doesn't mean that we're gonna let them go. It doesn't mean they don't matter. All it means is we're gonna learn to set expectations. We're gonna learn to give ourselves grace and time and the courage to try.

But I have a disclaimer for this episode. I want to be clear that we are all in different seasons of motherhood. If you are currently in a diaper, this podcast episode is not directed at you. If your baby's umbilical cord is still intact, or if there's a peri -bottle in your bathroom, put it in the queue. This episode is not for you. If you haven't been cleared at your six -week appointment for sex, this podcast episode is not for you.

And I'm only saying this because I want you to take care of yourself. You're totally free to listen. I just want to make sure you're taking care of you before I'm preaching like you need to get after it and go after all your goals, blah, blah, blah. No, you are the most important right now. Relax, listen, listen in and you can apply this whenever you're ready. If you are a mom who's ready to honor the women and the mother they want to be, let's get into how we're going to chase our goals while we chase our kids.

I have always been a goal setting girly and also a bit of a go getter. Like I know what I want and I will make sure I craft my life around getting it. What's so cool too about the way I've set goals. Like I recently found my list of goals that I set in 2019. And let me just tell you that was a different Jenna. She was a different girl. Let me read you some of these. Okay. So the first one I see here, number one is run a half marathon. So I wrote this in 2019.

in June and I actually did a half marathon in 2019 in October but this past Sunday I ran my second half marathon I know I mentioned it in the other episode and I was talking about how I felt I was unprepared because I yes girl too hard and like took my friend's bib for free but guess what guys I did it and I didn't stop running and my time wasn't I did it in two hours and three minutes which like I am very proud of that and here is my biggest takeaway from the half marathon it's so much easier than labor

Okay, like it's so much easier than labor. So if you're like, could I do it? Like if you've gone through labor, you can do it.

If you've survived the fourth trimester, like the three months after having your baby, you can absolutely do it. It's, it would be a walk in the park compared to that. Number two, look at number two. Do a standup comedy at an open mic night. This girl was brave. There are 24 goals, so I don't want to like go through them all, but it's so cool to look at them and like, did I accomplish them all? Absolutely not. Like, no. Did I snowboard in Japan? No.

Did I live somewhere and surf every morning? Like who is she? No, but it's so cool to see even these intentional goals are still a piece of me and are still a part of me. So like one of them, 21 is do a triathlon. I am finally, finally doing my triathlon in three weeks time. I made this list in 2019. So my first big takeaway with goal setting is it's not always about the goal itself or achieving the goal, crossing the finish line. It's about the journey.

And if you're like worried, cause you're like, I'm not gonna have time to like do these goals and then I'm gonna fail. Like this episode is meant to reset that mindset. So stay with me here. Goals are going to give your life meaning and purpose. And when you're setting goals, you're up to something. You're getting intentional and committing to your growth. And like kind of think about it this way. Sure, Emma, is it gonna feel good to cross that Iron Man finish line? Absolutely. Mainly because I'm gonna be stoked that it's over and I can lay down.

But really, am I gonna be more proud of myself for crossing that finish line? Or am I gonna be more proud of myself for all the miles I put in? For all the time I clicked onto that stupid bike when I didn't want to after putting the baby down at 7 p after a full day of work? That's what I'm gonna be proud of. The commitment to myself, which ultimately, you know, ended up helping me cross the finish line. It's about the journey.

I make a lot of content about this mainly because I think it is this underserved niche. I know a lot of moms talk about losing themselves and not being able to recognize themselves both like from a physical level and an emotional level postpartum. And I think a big part of this has to do with devoting all of our time and energy into another heartbeat and a lot of times neglecting our own.

I also felt like the past few years I had to put a lot of my goals on hold, like even before I was a mom, as we confronted like hurdles of infertility and miscarriages and then being pregnant and then, you know, the whirlwind of early motherhood. I just felt like everything was at a halt. And when they placed that baby in my arms, there was this sense of joy and accomplishment I know I'll never be able to replicate.

And I know like no possible goal I could ever set will give me the same satisfaction as obviously giving birth and creating life. But it also just felt like I have everything I've ever wanted what's left for me now. And that is the question I kind of had to dig deep and discover.

and learn to like honor those parts of myself because they still matter. It's commonly talked about too, like missing the old parts of you or like longing for the parts of the old you. But for me, like, and for a lot of moms I talk to, it's not just like missing that freedom and like missing the happy hours, although we kind of miss the happy hours. But I started missing that part of me that had dreams and set goals and was like,

lit up by her passions. If we were to go on a coffee date like just me and you, whether I know you very well or it's their first time meeting, I am that girl who's gonna ask you about your goals like what's your dream goal? What's your blue sky scenario? What do you hope your life looks like in five years? And I know firsthand because I ask a lot of girlfriends this and some of them right away they're like this, this, this like they know off the cuff what they want and then there's some friends who are so thrown off by this question and they just have no idea and I've really found this in my mom friends.

So I want you to think for a second, what is your goal? And we don't have to be serious. I'm not gonna make you write this down right now. I'm not gonna make you commit to it, just like high level. What is something you want to accomplish 365 days from now? What would you be so proud to look back on this past year and say, I did that.

If you still got nothing, I want you to think about your passions. And I know sometimes people, they're like, I don't even know anymore. You just get so lost in motherhood. You're like, who am I? Who is me? What do I love? What is something that you get excited talking about? Like, you know that feeling when you're talking about something you love and you kind of start talking faster and you want to tell people about it. What is that thing that lights you up when you get to talk about it?

Another question I want you to ask yourself when trying to craft these goals is something my therapist actually asked me yesterday and like hit me right in the gut. She was like, what type of mom do you want to be?

there's no wrong answer to this question. I got kind of emotional when she asked me and I don't know why. I think it was just realizing that I'm just so proud of myself that I finally have made it to this part of my life where I get to think about the type of mom I want to be. Like that's just something I've wanted forever and you know I kind of elaborated telling her like

I want to be the mom that takes them swimming at two in the afternoon on a Tuesday. I want to be the mom that can go on field trips. I want her to like look at me one day and be like, my mom was a badass. She did have marathons. She did Ironman. She grew businesses. Like, I don't know what it is. I just want her to be able to look up to me because I feel like we have to remember like we are setting an example for them. We are showing them firsthand that you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to.

So if you have a goal in mind, great. We're gonna roll with that today. If you don't, that's totally okay too. This episode isn't going anywhere. Take some time to think about it, but give yourself like a week, okay? Give yourself a timeframe here. You can't just be like, yeah, my goal is to think of a goal. I want you to come back with something within a week that we're gonna work towards. But I am going to put my mom hat on right now and tell you that we have some rules. There are some house rules we have to go over. The golden rules for mom goals. Okay, are you ready? One.

Your goal must have a clear endpoint and moment that you know you finished the goal. Because if it doesn't, it is not a goal, it is a resolution. If you're saying like, I want to run more, there is no endpoint. That is a resolution. If you can say, I want to run 20 kilometers collectively this month, that is a goal. Goal number two is that your goal can have nothing to do with weight or pant sizes. This is a rule that I made up.

because I already think you're a hot mom and we'll just not go in there, okay? That's not what this is about. Number three is they need to align with you. We aren't just doing a goal because everyone else is. This isn't 75 hard or dry January. It's something that aligns with you and what you stand for as a woman and a mom. Number four is all goals must be attempted with grace and it's okay if we have spit up on our shirt. We are holding the goals tightly but the path lightly, got it? Number five and my personal favorite,

is when we make it halfway to our goal on our like progress sheet, we get a little treat, okay? We get a little treat for making it halfway.

At one point in my life, I also had a tendency to avoid setting goals in the fear of not achieving them and in the fear of letting myself down, letting the people around me down. And this is one of those other beautiful gifts I think you are given when you become a mom of just having little to no shame anymore. So don't let any like fear of failure hold you back from creating the goal you want to say, if that makes sense.

Like when I asked you something, if something came in your mind, but you were like, I don't know, that doesn't seem realistic. I do not care. That is the goal I want you to pay.

Okay, let's get into our strategy here. One of my favorite strategies for achieving your goals is from Jay Shetty and it's the 1431 method. Essentially there's one goal, four quarters in a year, three months and one week. This is a fabulous strategy for making your goals more digestible. For example, if I asked you to write a book, you would probably run away. Like you would run away and be like, no, I'm not writing a book, that's too overwhelming.

If I asked you to write a chapter of a book, maybe now we're talking, right?

The only thing I don't love about this is that not all goals will take a year. Some will take a year. Some might take a month. Some might take 10 years, but it's more just the idea behind it. I kind of want to dig into. So, you know, having one goal, breaking it up into four quarters, essentially what are four smaller things you need to accomplish for this goal to happen.

I don't wanna use another running example, but that one's always just so easy. So let's use one of my goals. You guys wanna know what, this is personal. I'll tell you, I don't care. Okay. One of my, like my biggest goal that I really have learned recently and kind of tying back to what I was talking about when my therapist was asking me what kind of mother I wanna be. And I was, you know, I expressed that I wanna be the mom at field trips and I wanna be the mom.

who can take them swimming on a Tuesday, which is where I really kind of solidified my goal to one day be able to leave my full -time job and work part -time and ideally be self -employed and be doing the things that I kind of founded and funded. So, you know, growing my confetti company by growing my social media clients, by taking on coaching clients from my content I create. And it's very clear to me that this is my goal. So,

I have to kind of work backwards into how I'm gonna get there. So we'll use this one as an example. So the big goal is, you know, quitting your job and being self -employed. What do I need to do to get there? A, I need to make X amount of dollars per month to feel comfortable enough leaving my full -time job. So that would be that quarterly goal. I need to make X amount this quarter. And now I have three months to make that happen. So what can I do in these three months to bring in that income?

Let's say I want to take on two new social media clients, one coaching client, and I want to get one brand deal. So now I have three months to make that quarterly goal happen. So breaking that down even further, what do I need to do to get more clients? I need to get my website going. I need to outreach at least 10 people this month. Breaking it down to much smaller chunks is way more digestible than the goal I need to make X amount.

this month or I need to quit my job this year.

Holy smokes Jenna, that was a long way of just explaining that you need to pick a goal and then pick smaller goals that are gonna compound into this greater goal. Let's talk about the elephant in the room where you might be like, okay, you little podcast goal queen, I have a two year old. When do you expect me to go for a five mile run? And there's not gonna be an answer for this. Like I'm not gonna tell you.

you need to run when your baby goes down at night or you need to get a treadmill and do it when they're napping. These are things that you kind of figure out and adjust your life and start prioritizing you. And it's not easy. This is the hardest part of it all. Finding the time to prioritize yourself. I know when she goes down, like all I want to do some days is just like lay on that couch and scroll Tiki Taki and just like be absolutely brain rotted. But

but wait, wait, wait, don't get me wrong. Because your girl loves a little scroll scroll. Like I love a little tiki -taki time. And there'll be days where I'm just like supposed to go downstairs and go on the treadmill. And I'll just be like, not today. Like today I'm serving this part of myself that just needs to lay here and, you know, need some mindless scrolling.

That is mama J time and she deserves it. Okay. She deserves it. I do not feel guilty when I take it as long as I feel like I'm showing up 80 % of the time for myself. I feel like as a mom, that's enough. That's enough. We show up, you know, a hundred percent for the kids, a hundred percent for our family, but we take 80%, which I know people might say like, no, like you deserve more than 80 % and we do, but like, we also deserve that grace. We deserve that 20 % of grace when we need it.

And in motherhood, like our seasons change with absolutely no forewarning and on a dime. Like I will have weeks where I am like, I am, I am on fire. I have done 12 Peloton classes this month. I have secured a new client. I have read this book and then all of a sudden I don't know what planet I'm on. She's teething. The daycare is closed. I'm sick. My dog is throwing up, whatever it is. Like.

There are seasons of what the heck, we'll say heck today. So stop feeling like a failure if the absolute like apocalypse hits you. Like one of my goals this year was to read one book per month. It is June and I have read three books. So I better get speed reading. But come New Year's Eve this year when I am wearing a hot mom dress,

sipping a glass of champagne, don't you think I'm going to be more grateful that I set the goal of 12 and read nine books than not setting a goal at all and maybe reading maybe no books? I am totally outing myself here. So I had another goal that I wanted to journal for 300 days. I, you know, gave myself a little bit of grace there and I was like, okay Jenna, you can have 65 days off.

Well, I then learned that even 300 days is a lot of days when you have an offspring that wakes up at the crack of dawn.

This chick does not care about mama's gratitude journal, right? But still, I still keep that journal by my bed and maybe I don't touch it as many times as I would like, but every time I do, I'm reminded that I'm showing up for me. And not only that, I'm showing up for her. And you know who else I'm showing up for? I'm showing up for that mom who takes her little girl swimming on Tuesdays. I'm showing up for the mom that gets to go on the field trip. I'm showing up for that badass version of myself, that...

runs marathons and does Ironmans and builds businesses. But mama, I know it's hard. I know some days it's not just hard, it's impossible. And you're in the midst of some of the most incredible work you will ever, ever accomplish. So don't discredit that for a single second. But I also just want you to know, like, you are so deserving of your dreams and desires and you're allowed to have wants and needs and goals and ambitions, okay?

I say this all the time to new moms, like your life is not over. It is just getting started. You have just met the most compassionate, kind, beautiful, strong, powerful version of yourself and you are so capable. There's a quote that stuck out to me that I put on my vision board and like my vision board is like my phone background. So I look at this every single day and I think it rings so true. So it reads, that dream was planted in your heart for a reason.

I'm a big believer in that and just that these like dreams and goals and ambitions, like they don't come out of nowhere. I think they're all connected to this version of us that we are meant to be. So thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

I guess like I feel like this episode really took a turn from what I was expecting. This was another episode that I put in like an Instagram poll to see what people wanted to hear. Another one I didn't think was going to take the cake, but it did. So I hope there was some value for you there. I love talking goals and could do it all day long. So message me if you like want to check goals, if you want clarity on anything I brought up today, I am an open book. And if you've made it this far, love you. I absolutely love you.

So let's stay friends. Follow me on Instagram, follow me on TikTok. If you search my name, Jenna Christie, I should come up. Christie with a C -H. And then like my handle is Jenna Mack on Instagram and fiancefinancial on TikTok. And that's all I got y 'all. So make sure you rate the podcast, send it to a mom friend you think would love it. And one last thing to remember, you're a hot mom. Thanks for tuning in to the Cybex Hot Mom Walk podcast series. Follow the Cybex Spotify channel for more updates and for new episodes.