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E337: Marriage Rescue
Ever wondered why some marriages thrive while others struggle despite both partners truly loving each other? The answer might surprise you.
Greg and Julie Gorman, founders of Married for a Purpose, join the Good Neighbor Podcast to reveal how they transformed their own once-failing relationship into a thriving partnership—and how they've helped thousands of couples do the same with their revolutionary approach to marriage coaching.
What makes their method different? Unlike traditional problem-focused marriage counseling, the Gormans teach couples to acknowledge issues briefly before pivoting to a more powerful question: "What do we want instead?" This simple shift aligns with the universal truth that "we become what we think about" and "what you feed grows, what you starve dies." By building on common ground rather than assigning blame, couples learn to create unity that multiplies their effectiveness.
The results speak for themselves—a remarkable 99.7% success rate with over 1,000 couples. Their battle-tested approach isn't theoretical; it's grounded in real-life application developed through their own relationship struggles and refined over two and a half decades of working with couples in crisis. They don't just teach what to think but how to think for better outcomes, showing couples how to make conflict productive rather than destructive.
Whether your marriage is in crisis or you're simply looking to move from good to great, the Gormans offer practical tools to help you build the relationship you truly desire. Discover their free resources or connect with a coach by visiting marriedforapurpose.com or texting "IGNITE" to 772-291-1136 for free conversation starters.
This is the Good Neighbor Podcast, the place where local businesses and neighbors come together. Here's your host, Garfield Bowen.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Good Neighbor Podcast. Are you in need of a marriage coach? Well, one may be closer than you think. Today, I have the pleasure of introducing you to a husband and wife team, greg and Julie Gorman, with Married for a Purpose. Greg and Julie, how are you doing?
Speaker 3:today. Outstanding sir, Thanks for having us. Good to be here.
Speaker 4:Great to meet you, Garfield.
Speaker 2:We're excited to learn all about you and your business. Tell us about your company.
Speaker 3:Yeah well, we are a marriage coaching organization. We have lots and lots of different resources that we offer, but really two main primary arms of our organization. One is designed specifically to serve marriages that are hurting or the marriages that are looking to go from good to great, and then the other really is training and equipping other coaches or other people that want to serve marriages by using our, our process. That's very duplicatable. That produces a very predictable outcome.
Speaker 2:So I know everyone wants to know the funny. You know your husband and wife team, I assume. Is that correct? Yes, we are, we have been. How did you get into this business? You had a lot of practice.
Speaker 4:You know, what I'll tell you. Garfield, we were a blooming mess. We were two people who loved one another passionately, but we fought just as passionately.
Speaker 3:We did, didn't we yeah?
Speaker 4:So we kind of stumbled into. I don't think either one of us set out to be marriage gurus of any sort, but throughout our lifespan what we really discovered is we had a natural well, a love for one another. We fought really hard to have what we have and today it's a beautiful, beautiful relationship that I don't think you could have a better.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I think we struggled really really difficult, garfield, in the early days and, honestly, our marriage almost didn't make it. But we were both willing to grow, we both loved each other and we were wanting to learn how to become better people and better spouses. And so, you know, we had to eat a lot of humble pie along the line and grow together, but as we did, you know, we learned a lot of things along the way and then we started working with other couples, really just a few years into our marriage. We've been working with couples now for about two and a half decades and, um, you know what really caused us to begin to do what we do today is we.
Speaker 3:We felt like our approach was so much different than what other marriage organizations and other marriage coaches and conferences and so on and so forth do. And we're not trying to say that everybody else is doing it wrong, we're just saying that what we do is very different in approach. Yeah, and so, as we begin to see our own marriage heal and we had a lot of people asking us to help us with theirs then it kind of just began to take on its own personality and the more we spoke on it, the more we worked with other coaches or, excuse me, other marriages. They really liked the approach and what we did to heal our marriage. It was helping heal their marriage. And one thing is just built on top of another, and so here we are today.
Speaker 2:I hear the. With love, the passion swings both ways. Let me ask you a question what are some of the myths and misconceptions of the industry?
Speaker 3:Well, I think, I think, at its core in in marriage, the approach traditionally is very, very problem focused. A couple has an issue, they have a problem, they're getting at each other and they're struggling with it. And so if and that's usually a big if but if they get up enough courage to reach out to try to get some help, then usually the other person on the side of the table wants to talk to them about all of the issues and all of the problems. And you know, we're going to talk about the issues and the problem. We're just going to do it from a completely different angle. That's very, very forward moving, because the past is the past. We can't do anything about it. We need to sweep up the glass on the floor before we start trying to traipse across it. But we really need to begin to focus on what it is that we do want and that really is, you know, probably best voiced, I suppose, in this way, I'll just say it this way uh, voiced, I suppose in this way, I'll just say it this way Um, all thought leaders throughout time have they disagreed on a whole bunch of things.
Speaker 3:They've gone to war on some of the things. They disagreed on, um, um throughout time. But but they've all agreed on one central theme. Uh, it doesn't matter if they're Baptist or Buddhist or anywhere in between. They've all agreed on this one central concept, yeah, and that is that we become what we think about.
Speaker 3:King Solomon said as we think in our hearts, so we become. And so it's been said lots of different ways. We like to say you gravitate towards what you contemplate, you know where your energy goes, you know your, your, your, your, your. Everything flows right where you're getting tongue-tied, but at the end of the day, it's the same thing. And you know, we find what we're looking for and what you feed grows, and what you starve dies. We understand these things in the physical sense, but sometimes, when it comes into the own things that we're dealing with in our life, we forget. And so when we begin to talk about the problem, what we're doing is we're what you feed grows, what you starve dies. You become what you think about the more we talk about it. Even though we're well-intended, we're feeding the wrong dog.
Speaker 3:What we found is that when Julie and I come together, if we have a disagreement or an issue or a problem, then the first thing that we need to do is we need to understand that it is a problem and neither one of us want it. That's the first place of agreement. The only way to build anything is to build it on common ground. And so when we build that bridge of common ground that now allows us to ask a different question, instead of going back and analyzing the problem and given all of that our energy, we say, ok, this is a problem, this is what we don't want, what do we want? And we stay in that question until the two of us can come into agreement on what it is that we want. Now we're in unity. One puts a thousand to flight two, ten thousand. So there's a lot to be gained when we're unified.
Speaker 3:And so, as we do that and we teach couples on how to communicate effectively, how to have better intimacy, you know how to actually have these kind of conversations where their conflict is productive rather than destructive. And I know that's a bit of a long answer, but it's the answer to your question. You know, what is it that people believe? They believe that they have to stay focused on the problem. They got to fix the problem. The truth is, is that what you feed grows and what you starve, dies and we become what we think about. So what we need to do is we need to acknowledge the problem, and then we need to focus forward on what it is that we really want, and then all of our energy is in moving forward instead of constantly looking back.
Speaker 2:You know we read a lot of these books and it all sounds good on paper, but when you try to do it you wish you could just take a pill and just let me ask you the next question in terms of your target audience, I guess, is people who are looking to get married, people are married or people want to, you know, rekindle a relationship. Who's your target audience and how do you attract them?
Speaker 4:Yeah, I think our target audience is anybody who wants more, who wants greater unity, who wants to build together towards a common vision, together. So they, I think our target market would be people who, whether they're in deep crises or they're a good to great, what they're really looking for is unity, peace. They long to be heard, understood, validated, and they want to be able to do that for their spouse and have their spouse do that for them.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I think in the reality, you know, and I appreciate your comment and it's one of the things that actually we're a bit tyrannical about. We're not teaching theories and in today's world you know, you're right, there's a bunch of stuff. They sound good on paper, right, and if you've got a pretty good rap and a good theory, you can probably sell it on the internet and make some money. That's not what we're about. We're about making a difference and we're tyrannical about teaching from real life lessons that have been battle tested for over two and a half decades and our process has a 99.7% success rate with over a thousand couples so far. So again, it's battle tested. It actually works in the real world, and if it doesn't, what's the point?
Speaker 4:Right, I think, garfield too. One of the things that's really different is we're not just trying to teach people what to think. We actually teach them how to think for a better result. So often what happens is, when somebody does want help, they come to get that help and then we try to fix it. Source the issue, find out whose fault the issue is.
Speaker 4:As Greg said, we deal with the issue, but actually we deal with it from a place of here's, where we want to be. This is what our desired outcome. Now, we may have no clue how to get those things, but what we do throughout our two-day reboot process is we really help couples begin to find the common ground, build on unity, fight for unity above all else and here's the key we're not telling them what they should want. Together, they're agreeing with what they want, and so the difference is is now they know what they're fighting for, and it's not my opinion, it's not Greg's opinion, it's not their spouse's opinion. It's the unified vision that both of them want. And so now we're leveraging human behavior to actually fight for the things that you want, and if we really want something, we'll fight for it. Yep.
Speaker 2:Okay, we want to know a little bit more about you two, Greg and Julie, when you're not so busy running your business. What do you like to do for fun?
Speaker 3:Man, we like anything that has to do with water. You know we really do. That's our primary. We like doing very simple things. Actually we love just taking walks around the neighborhood, especially this time of year in South Florida. It's been nice we're coming into some of that warmer weather where it'll be a little bit more difficult.
Speaker 4:Except for those no-see-ums. I still don't like those, you know. But no, we love to swim, we love to go boating, we love to walk by the ocean, simple walks at night and cooking some favorite foods, like we're foodies. We're a little bit of foodies, yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, a lot of um. Our listeners I, I guess, is looking for uh love, but we're running out of time. But I want you to leave our listeners with one thing, one thing they should remember about mary for a purpose when you can't change the way you feel.
Speaker 4:You got to change the way you feel. You got to change the way you think. And the only way that you can build on anything is by building on common ground. And what Married for a Purpose does is we take some of the most difficult situations. We help you to be able to find unity, not in a way that you have to just drudge through life, but actually it's very life-giving, it's full of life, it's full of vision and inspiration and we have a lot of fun, and our couples again. 99.7% success rate isn't too bad.
Speaker 2:Listeners are listening and they have one question on their mind now, and that's how? How can we get more information on Married for a?
Speaker 3:Purpose. Yeah, I would say there's a couple of different ways. We're on just about every social channel as Married for a Purpose, but the easiest way would just be to go to our website at marriedforapurposecom and schedule an appointment, or browse through any of the free content that is there, or look at any of the information that's offered, either in becoming a coach so you can facilitate a process like this, or if your marriage is in need of help for crying out loud, jump in there and make an appointment. Let's see if we can get you with one of our coaches.
Speaker 4:We'd love to give a free gift. So if you type the word ignite to 772-291-1136, again 772-291-1136, just type the word ignite and we'll send you all kinds of fun free conversation starters.
Speaker 2:Yeah, greg and Julie, we really appreciate you having on the show. I wish you and your business the very best moving forward.
Speaker 3:Thank you so much. We appreciate your time, buddy.
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