What Now? Helping Kids Already Struggling with Pornography w/ Geoff Steurer

In this episode, host Tara McCausland and therapist Geoff Steurer discuss principles to help youth already caught in the trap of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. The episode focuses on providing guidance to parents on creating a supportive environment where children feel safe discussing their struggles. Geoff emphasizes the importance of a relationship-first approach, validating children's sexual curiosity and modeling self-compassion, relational repair, and open communication. Highlights include the encouragement for  parents to own their own struggles around device use, pornography and sexuality, and teaching discernment over mere avoidance. The powerful impact of connection before correction is emphasized. The conversation also explores when professional help might be necessary, especially in cases of recurring or developing compulsive behavior. This episode underscores the importance of ongoing, open conversations and compassionate guidance in helping children navigate these challenges.

Connect with Geoff at www.geoffsteurer.com

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome and Announcements
• 2:06 Introduction to Today's Episode
• 2:43 Meet Geoff Steurer
• 3:34 Starting the Conversation about Youth and Pornography
• 5:11 Creating a Safe Environment for Kids
• 8:37 Parental Reactions and Mistakes
• 10:55 Addressing Device and Content Struggles
• 13:36 Responding to Kids' Confessions
• 22:17 The Importance of Connection Before Correction
• 24:50 Addressing Children's Curiosity About Their Bodies and Sexuality
• 26:01 Validating and Supporting Sexual Curiosity
• 28:17 Teaching Discernment and Emotional Intelligence
• 31:16 The Role of Healthy Relationships in Emotional Regulation
• 36:08 Discussing the Impact of Pornography
• 42:34 When to Seek Professional Help
• 44:42 Encouragement for Parents on the Path to Recovery