AR26: Challenging Work Environments: Navigating the Shadow of a Toxic Boss and Reclaiming Your Power

Have you ever found yourself trying to prove the injustice of a situation, only to feel like your efforts fall on deaf ears? In this episode, we explore the emotional toll of dealing with a nightmare boss and the struggle of hiding your light to avoid conflict. We delve into the frustration of trying to make someone see the error of their ways and the deep discomfort of giving away something valuable when every fiber of your being resists. 

Abby shares with me some of these challenges, and I provide her with tools to help her stay grounded in her balanced energy. Together, we explore ways to shift the dynamic without sacrificing her power, identity, or peace. This episode is a reminder that reclaiming your light doesn’t mean fixing others—it means showing up fully for yourself. 

Transcript

00;00;00;04 - 00;00;31;19
Annette Dalloo
So many times we can look at people who, let's say, bully us or push us into a corner. If you can imagine them like a little boy or a little girl that is just really, really hurting and really scared that maybe they're not good enough or maybe they're not relevant. If you can look at them like that, it makes it much, much easier to respond in a way that is in your higher heart.

00;00;31;22 - 00;00;55;16
Annette Dalloo
Welcome to the Akashic Recordings. My name is Annette Duluth. I'm an Akashic Conduit channel and spiritual guidance coach. What you will be hearing today are real sessions with my clients. All names have been changed for privacy and of course, with their permission. We are privileged to hear these beautiful stories to allow us a small glimpse into the Akashic Records.

00;00;55;16 - 00;01;23;29
Annette Dalloo
If you would like to book a session with me and be part of the podcast, please feel free to head to my website at Infinite Soul Love. Com when you book your session. Just make sure to check the box that you would be interested in having your session utilized for the podcast. Abby came to me with some issues she was having with her boss, and this is something that I'm sure everyone can relate to, whether it's a boss or an authority figure of some sort.

00;01;24;00 - 00;01;50;02
Annette Dalloo
We have all been in that situation where we have felt either powerless, or that we have had to diminish our light, our talents, our beauty in order to keep the peace or in order to fit in.

00;01;50;04 - 00;02;08;04
Annette Dalloo
So tell me, what would you like to cover today? I don't actually know how these work, so I wasn't quite sure I'd studied the website and the different things. And, maybe I have a couple of thoughts. It might be useful, if you wouldn't mind giving me a little context of, like, what is it that people typically would ask for?

00;02;08;06 - 00;02;36;17
Annette Dalloo
Sure. So typically people ask a lot about their sole purpose, their life purpose. They ask about people in their lives. If it's, let's say, a husband or, family member, brother, sister, parents, friend, various different people, you can ask about why they're in your life or what challenges you might have, why they're there, what particular types of patterns you might have that are repeating patterns in your life, and why they're there.

00;02;36;18 - 00;02;56;04
Annette Dalloo
A lot of times people will ask about particular blocks that they have, like if they seem to have money blocks in their life or blocks as it pertains to intimacy or love or things like that. Those are some of the big ones, but we can pretty much dive into whatever you want to dive into. Okay. Super helpful. Thank you for that context.

00;02;56;04 - 00;03;30;12
Annette Dalloo
I would say what moved me to schedule the appointment. A friend of mine had done one with you a couple of months ago at an inflection point in life. I'm 61. I would like to keep working for another couple of years. I have an opportunity to stay on at my current job, which feels like the easiest path. I have a boss who is a very challenging person in my life, and I would have to sort of sign up for that for another 2 or 3 years, and I feel like I am trying to figure out my relationship with him if I want to do that, if I don't at 61, in some ways it feels

00;03;30;12 - 00;03;59;23
Annette Dalloo
like the path of least resistance versus starting someplace completely new, I don't know. And then the other thing is, I have a great husband, a great marriage, and we've been married for about 12 or 13 years. He definitely has some health challenges. I'm trying to balance that as well. Like, you know, should I just surrender? And am I entering a new chapter where maybe I am just supposed to pull back on some of the contributions I've made through work and and dial back on that?

00;03;59;23 - 00;04;18;15
Annette Dalloo
Like, I'm just those are the things on my mind right now. Is that helpful? Yeah, definitely. Okay, so I'm seeing your sacral chakra is sort of like half lit and the half is really beautiful. And then the other half is being blocked by something from a past life. Okay. So we can take a look at that. And they're saying this does have to do with whatever pattern you have going on with your boss.

00;04;18;15 - 00;04;43;27
Annette Dalloo
Okay. So then let's move that light up to your solar plexus chakra. Your solar plexus chakra looks really good. And it's really beautiful and bright. And then there's like this black cover that comes over it and like completely covers the light entirely in there saying it's volunteer. So unless something that you do on your own, it's almost like you block your own personal power by your own limitations and your limiting beliefs.

00;04;43;29 - 00;04;59;26
Annette Dalloo
And usually when they show it to me as black, that it has to do with the past life. So we'll take a look at where that might be coming from. Okay, so then let's move that energy up to your heart chakra. Your heart chakra looks really beautiful. It's a beautiful green light. And I'm seeing like little like star points coming out of it.

00;04;59;29 - 00;05;22;27
Annette Dalloo
That's really beautiful. You've done a lot of work on yourself over the years. They're also telling me that it is a natural state for your chakra system. To be clear. I mean, okay, let me clarify that it is everybody's natural state for the chakra system to be clear. But for you, it is something that your soul is very adept at being able to keep your energy field clear, keeping your chakras clear.

00;05;23;02 - 00;05;48;22
Annette Dalloo
Then I'm hearing the words she has no idea what's happening right now. That has to do with the downloads and the energy that's coming in from your guides. I'm guessing that you have a lot of confusion about some of the information that you get through your crown chakra. Your crown chakra is beautifully open. It's really nicely developed. And then you just get these intuitive hits that are like out of nowhere, and then you're like, what am I supposed to do with that information?

00;05;48;25 - 00;06;15;10
Annette Dalloo
It's something that needs to be cultivated in a way. So like you need to figure out what to do with the information. So ultimately, what happens when you get those intuitive hits is that nothing needs to happen right away. Essentially what you need to do is just say, okay, cool, got the information, file it back in the filing cabinet, and when that information is pertinent and when it's necessary, I know that I will be able to access it.

00;06;15;10 - 00;06;38;20
Annette Dalloo
Okay. So that's the first thing. The second thing is that when you get the information, you have a tendency to try to over intellectualize it. And they're just saying like, try not to think about it too much with your physical brain. Just kind of like feel what it is you're getting in terms of the intuition, in terms of the information, and just let it be what it is.

00;06;38;22 - 00;06;58;24
Annette Dalloo
How does your intuition usually come in? I don't actually think I even know what the question means. Okay, so let me clarify then when you get that intuitive hit of I need to go in this direction or I need to go in that direction. Oh got it. Does it come in through, let's say, a thought. Does it come in through a feeling?

00;06;58;24 - 00;07;20;14
Annette Dalloo
Does it come in through almost like you hear like a a sentence in your head. Like how does it come in in that way. It comes in as a thought. And then maybe I try and chase it into a sentence or something like that. I get a lot of intuitive thoughts about work and the data we work with and the direction we should go and how to shape it, which often it.

00;07;20;17 - 00;07;40;02
Annette Dalloo
It was funny when you said that to me, often feel like I don't even know how I get the hit, because I don't really even understand a lot of things about our data. I just know that, weirdly, I'm more often right than wrong. I totally don't trust it, but there is a pattern and that it is right. And it's that's part of this weird dynamic I have with my boss.

00;07;40;04 - 00;08;02;21
Annette Dalloo
Is that he completely he probably long recognized that before I would even trust it. And he'd just be like, how do we clear your calendar to have more thoughts come in? He's actually said that to me. He's also the devil. He's got a lot of good things to. You're basically getting your direct connection in through your crown and you're getting this information through the universal consciousness.

00;08;02;21 - 00;08;29;16
Annette Dalloo
So that's how you know. And that's crazy. That's a beautiful ability to have. And it's something that when people channel let's say channel music or channel a book or something like that, it's the same kind of energy, okay. It's just your channeling in the information that you need for work. And there are times when you channel things that are direct connection to the universe and it's shocking because you're like, I don't have this information in my head.

00;08;29;16 - 00;08;52;19
Annette Dalloo
How do I know this? Right? But you just know it, right? Embrace that and understand that it is there for you and you can trust it. You've had it happen enough times where you you're starting to trusted, but they're wanting you to trust it even more. Crazy. That is so interesting to me. I love the parallel to music and to because I see people.

00;08;52;22 - 00;09;07;16
Annette Dalloo
That's something, you know? I mean, how else does Beethoven happen? You know, it's like that makes perfect sense. And obviously I don't mean to aggrandize myself in any way, but but I mean, like, from my own little universe that I'm in, I do feel like I have thoughts, I don't understand where they come from. And that's so helpful.

00;09;07;16 - 00;09;28;25
Annette Dalloo
Yeah. And the thing is, is that it's not about aggrandizing yourself. It is literally every person's ability and right to be able to connect into universal knowledge. It's just whether or not people do. That's it. Yes. Got it. So literally everyone on this planet could be Beethoven if they wanted to, but they just don't necessarily connect into to what they need to connect it.

00;09;28;25 - 00;09;51;00
Annette Dalloo
Do crazy crazy crazy crazy. Yeah. Cool, Very cool, very cool. Like, I feel like I understand something a little differently. Thank you. Oh. You're welcome. All right, so then let's move that energy down into your third eye. Yeah. Your third eye is is actually quite closed at the moment. And that's okay. It's sort of by design.

00;09;51;02 - 00;10;16;21
Annette Dalloo
It's partly because you are not meant to see things into the higher realms just yet. So you're getting the information in the way that I see it most of the time, is that your third eye is sort of the way that it interprets the information. And so it makes sense now as to why sometimes you don't understand because your third eye isn't fully open and therefore it's not doing the interpretation for you.

00;10;16;21 - 00;10;34;03
Annette Dalloo
So you're like, well, if I need to interpret it, I might as well interpret it with my brain. And your brain's like, nope, don't do that. And you're like, but I have no other choice, so your third eye will open in time. It's just right now it's just a it's a timing issue and there's nothing you need to do.

00;10;34;05 - 00;10;57;07
Annette Dalloo
Got it. Okay. So then let's move that energy down into your throat chakra. Yeah. So a lot of the throat chakra energy that I'm seeing that is slightly distorted has to do with this situation with your boss. It's almost like he has said things that make you doubt yourself. He's said things that make you feel like you cannot and voice what you want to voice.

00;10;57;09 - 00;11;20;12
Annette Dalloo
And yet you know you are right. You know that you need to say something, but then you hesitate because of the negative reactions that you've had in the past. This is something that we can clear up with the understanding of what he's there in your life to show you. So then let's move that energy down into your heart space, keeping us connected to this Earth plane while we access the Akashic Records.

00;11;20;15 - 00;11;38;29
Annette Dalloo
I want to thank you. Cool. Oh, my Akashic guide, thank you so much for being here and guiding us through the records. Thank you to Archangel Metatron and Archangel Sanderson for being here as well, giving us all the information we need today. Today we are opening up the Akashic Records. Okay, where do we need to go first? Are we going to go to the repeating pattern?

00;11;38;29 - 00;12;00;09
Annette Dalloo
Yes. Okay. All right. So let's take a look at the past like we need to look at as it pertains to her sacral chakra please. And she has been in this pattern for several lifetimes. In fact, we are going to take a look at the very first time this pattern started so we can unravel the energy of it.

00;12;00;09 - 00;12;23;09
Annette Dalloo
The very first lifetime that this happened was six lifetimes ago. You were in some sort of assembly line, for lack of a better term, there, using the word factory. But it's like factory didn't exist back then. So it's something similar to that where you're assembling various different parts and pieces to create something. A workshop is, I guess, a better way of describing it.

00;12;23;13 - 00;12;44;01
Annette Dalloo
You're working with wood and metal, you're a man in this lifetime, and you're putting together all the pieces and parts of ornaments, toys. Again, I'm seeing a lot of wooden toys and things that people would like hang for Christmas. You did do some welding, some forging. Casting. Like I'm seeing a lot of fire and metal. This was your craft.

00;12;44;01 - 00;13;15;06
Annette Dalloo
It was something you loved to do. You loved creating new designs and new things that delighted people. People really looked to you for the new things of the season. So twice a year people would gather to see what you have come up with. If you would come up with a new design, if you would come up with a new toy or a new fabrication technique, whatever it was that everybody was very fascinated with how you worked and how you put things together and getting that.

00;13;15;06 - 00;13;45;16
Annette Dalloo
This is somewhere in Germany and I'm seeing wreaths everywhere, like greenery leaves. You were there for decades in this workshop and you had many people working for you creating these toys and trinkets and all the things that you created. Your business was very, very successful. You did have a tendency to be very generous. You gave children toys who maybe couldn't afford the toys, so you would actually give them a toy.

00;13;45;19 - 00;14;04;21
Annette Dalloo
And I'm seeing like, oh, that's really cute. So I'm seeing like a wooden horse and you actually take like a little chisel in your workshop and you carve out a tiny little notch out of the horse, and you hand it to a little girl and you say, see, I can't sell this in my store. Like I can't sell it.

00;14;04;21 - 00;14;20;23
Annette Dalloo
It's flawed. I have to give it to you. Nobody's going to buy it. So this is your special horse, so you're making it that it's not a charity? That it is. Well, I couldn't sell it anyway, so I might as well just give it to you kind of situation. And the little girl is very, very pleased and just very happy.

00;14;20;23 - 00;14;35;16
Annette Dalloo
Her parents are super grateful. And this is something that you were known for doing. I'm seeing you look at a pocket watch and you notice that it's time to leave. And so you shut down the shop and you head home, even though you didn't make a lot of money and you were very successful, you lived in a very meager home.

00;14;35;16 - 00;14;54;04
Annette Dalloo
I'm seeing you sit down at a wooden table. You're eating some sort of soup. You're by yourself. You don't have a family. You're reading a newspaper of some sort, and you go to bed and you go back to the shop the next morning. This was basically your life. You loved what you did. You felt fulfilled by it, and you didn't feel like you needed anything else in your life.

00;14;54;05 - 00;15;15;25
Annette Dalloo
You didn't feel like you needed a wife or children because you felt like you were connected to everybody in the community. They were all your family, so you didn't feel the need to find somebody or to be with somebody. There was one day that you closed up the shop and you started walking home. You turned the corner from the shop and you were on your way and you heard a commotion.

00;15;15;25 - 00;15;35;19
Annette Dalloo
And it was a bunch of kids who were a little bit older, maybe teenagers, and they see they threw a rock through the window of your shop and they set it on fire. You chased the kids out. You didn't know what to do, though, because your whole shop was just wood, and you had a lot of sort of flammable things in there that just, I mean, the whole shop just lit up.

00;15;35;19 - 00;15;53;24
Annette Dalloo
You were absolutely heartbroken. And I'm seeing you the next day after the the fire had died down, sort of trying to pick through the remnants of what happened. You knew the boys who did this? They were part of the the town, the village. You had known them since they were babies. And you couldn't believe that they would do something like this.

00;15;53;24 - 00;16;18;07
Annette Dalloo
So you went to their parents and you told them what you saw, and their parents really didn't believe you. They were saying things like, oh no, my, my boy would never do that. And you're saying, look, I saw them with my own eyes, like I saw them do it. They need to be punished in some way. And one of the other parents of one of the other boys basically said, you know, boys will be boys, you know, we'll help you get the shop back up and running.

00;16;18;07 - 00;16;57;21
Annette Dalloo
And so it just kind of got like swept under the rug and nobody did anything about it. And you were so angry. You were so angry. You were like, why is why is nobody believing me? And why is nobody doing anything about this? It really turns you into somebody who is quite bitter. Whereas prior to this happening, like, you were quite a jovial and fun person and just the injustice of it just created this anger within you because you thought that you were part of the community and that they would come together and understand that these boys needed to be punished in some way, that there needed to be some sort of repercussions in the

00;16;57;21 - 00;17;23;23
Annette Dalloo
fact that these parents just sort of stood behind their kids and didn't say anything to them, even really punishing them for it. You just couldn't believe that that happened. There were people in the village that did help you rebuild, but your heart just wasn't in it. You were really focused on the injustice as opposed to moving forward. And this is part of the lesson that you're trying to learn, and the lesson that you've been learning over the last several lifetimes.

00;17;23;23 - 00;17;43;11
Annette Dalloo
The lesson is to not focus on the past and what has happened in the past, to not focus on the unpleasant thing that happened and the injustice of it, but to move forward in the energy that you want to have come back into your life. Who had you in that lifetime allowed the rest of the town to come together and help you rebuild.

00;17;43;14 - 00;18;03;04
Annette Dalloo
And you did it with passion, and you forgave the boys for what they did, and you would have moved forward in this beautiful energy, and you would not have started this pattern, and you would have continued living your life in harmony. But that's not what happened. Your anger grew as you got older, and you stopped trusting people, and you started looking out for yourself in yourself.

00;18;03;04 - 00;18;22;25
Annette Dalloo
Only you were so kind to people in the village, but your energy had changed, and people noticed in the fact that you didn't have a family of your own made you feel infinitely more isolated. It was almost as if you could see everybody in their families. They were like banded together. They looked out for each other. They had each other's backs, so to speak.

00;18;22;25 - 00;18;40;29
Annette Dalloo
And then because of this incident and made you realize that because you didn't have a family of your own, you didn't have anybody that would intrinsically look after you and that would have your back. He had many friends in the village who tried to help him, who tried to keep him in a higher energy to help him find his passion again.

00;18;40;29 - 00;19;00;10
Annette Dalloo
He even had one friend who lent him a lot of tools and like gave him ideas and even lent him some money to start the new shop. And as opposed to being really grateful for that friend, and seeing that friend as somebody who could be part of your family, you were still focused on the negative. And that sometimes happens in lifetimes.

00;19;00;10 - 00;19;23;09
Annette Dalloo
If you've had a very harmonious lifetime, the whole life, and then one wrong thing happens or one bad thing happens, sometimes it's really hard to get over that one thing. If you've never had any other challenges in your life, which at that point you had not had any challenges up until that point, of course, you had had grief, you had pain, you had lost both your parents at a pretty young age.

00;19;23;14 - 00;19;39;08
Annette Dalloo
But in terms of challenges that you had adversity, these that were not sort of natural to you. That was the first time something like that had happened and you really just didn't know how to handle it. Now, it's not to say that was the first time it happened to you at all. As a soul, just in that particular lifetime.

00;19;39;08 - 00;19;56;19
Annette Dalloo
And so the other lesson is, is to be able to see the help that is being given in spite of whatever challenges you might be facing. Okay, so I'm going to pause for a second. Do you have any questions? I don't have questions about what happened in that lifetime. It all makes perfect sense. The word injustice really resonates with me like that.

00;19;56;19 - 00;20;14;08
Annette Dalloo
I hold on to injustice. Maybe. I think I know the answer to the question, but it's like, am I like that stays with me through lives until I somehow solve it correct. And that is something that we're going to address as it pertains to your boss. And that is why he's in your life, and that is why he's in the energy that he is.

00;20;14;08 - 00;20;34;08
Annette Dalloo
So have they had any past lives together? They have not. Okay, I didn't think so. Me and my boss. Yeah, well that was certainly helpful and relatable. Gun. So I'm going to sort of take a look at your relationship with him to see what it is that needs to happen in order for this pattern to be sort of cleared for you.

00;20;34;11 - 00;20;59;16
Annette Dalloo
Yes. Okay. So they're showing me a little story that a friend of mine told me one time, and I'm not even going to try to tell the story because I don't remember most of it. But the the key point of the story is it's about a monk that was being accused of something, and in some sort of injustice, and he knew that he didn't do it.

00;20;59;16 - 00;21;31;14
Annette Dalloo
He knew that he was innocent. And the energy that he was in when he was being accused. And I want you to feel into this. The energy was, oh, is that so? And it's such a matter of fact energy that if somebody is coming at you with anger or accusations or anything, any sort of lower or negative energy, our instant reaction is to retaliate, to convince, to make sure that they understand.

00;21;31;14 - 00;22;01;22
Annette Dalloo
You, to be seen, to not be accused of something that we are not, to not be perceived as something that we are not. And that is all sort of this pushing, retaliating energy. What can you do instead? You can be in your center. And if somebody is saying that you're wrong or somebody is being combative, you can simply take a deep breath and say to yourself, oh, is that so?

00;22;01;22 - 00;22;31;25
Annette Dalloo
Now that's not something that you would necessarily say to your boss, but that is a good way that you can start getting into that balanced energy and taking that time when it comes to him coming at you with anything that he's going to, if he's going to challenge you, if he's going to tell you you're wrong or you can't do something, then you're going to essentially take a moment and try to decide to react in a way that is completely different than the way that you would normally react.

00;22;31;26 - 00;23;00;17
Annette Dalloo
So can you give me an example of one of your typical reactions when you're in those situations with him? Yes. I typically feel inside like pressured. I'm going to be forced to do something I don't want to do. My energy is high and angry, or it's like sad and abused, feeling like that's where I go. And my response to him tends to be that fight.

00;23;00;17 - 00;23;21;04
Annette Dalloo
Like, I completely disagree. I think that's absolutely the wrong thing to do, blah blah blah. Now I'm explaining from a place of fighting pepper, pepper, pepper, like here's my explanation, etc. which, you know, just stokes everything up. Exactly. And so what is usually his reaction to that? Most of the time he gets like really stubborn hitting his point as well.

00;23;21;07 - 00;23;43;06
Annette Dalloo
Nope. Nope. That's you know we're going to do it this way. It's the right thing I promise you. This is what needs to happen, you know? And he pushes, pushes, pushes. This has been complicated, by the way, our equity structure is where, in essence, I agreed to take less money upfront for a guaranteed payout that had a much higher price tag on it four years later.

00;23;43;07 - 00;23;59;08
Annette Dalloo
So for the last two years in particular, I felt like, well, shit, I have to go along with what he's saying because I'm this far in. So it's gotten really out of balance. That program is coming to an end, which is why I'm like rethinking everything, you know what I mean? We've had this weird, even more than a normal boss employee dynamic.

00;23;59;10 - 00;24;17;14
Annette Dalloo
He's CEO of the company and president even more than a normal unbalance. It's like been distorted by this deal that, fortunately, is going to be over soon. Even last week we were talking about something and I was expressing why we should wait to announce something until January. And he just kept saying, no, I promise you, we won't lose a single customer.

00;24;17;14 - 00;24;46;18
Annette Dalloo
And I said, I'm not worried about losing a customer. I'm worried about extensions happening and putting sand in the gears of our sales team when it's a very high renewal quarter, I promise you it's not an issue. And you know he has no facts. He hasn't studied any of it. It's absolutely a real issue. So I fight and then I leave the office and I either spiral down like my workshop man, where I just, like, close things out and just like, simmer in the injustice of it all.

00;24;46;23 - 00;25;10;09
Annette Dalloo
Occasionally I wait him out. Occasionally a week later, he might not even remember. He said it. And then I can move forward the way I think is right, you know what I mean? There's lots of different paths that happen. Cool. Take a deep breath. Yeah, yeah. You just gave yourself one of the biggest answers as well, which is essentially like if you were just to wait then you could go ahead and do the thing that you wanted to do in the first place.

00;25;10;09 - 00;25;42;21
Annette Dalloo
If you look at the situation from the standpoint of, oh, okay, he says that, you know, he wants you to do something, you can simply say, oh, okay, you don't necessarily need to do it or you don't necessarily need to commit to anything, but whatever feels right for you. If saying oh, okay is not a thing that feels good for you, if you say something like, oh, okay, you know, I'll, I'll run through the numbers or I'll run through the data or whatever it is that you need to do and to to make sure that this is something that can be done whatever the situation calls for.

00;25;42;21 - 00;26;08;22
Annette Dalloo
But not denying him and just saying, yeah, okay, I can look into it or whatever sort of positive thing that you can say that's not fully committing to it, but actually saying that, yeah, you'll consider it. And at that point you're taking away all of the fuel of that fire. And then you know that moving forward that you could go back to your desk, go back to your office and say, okay, cool.

00;26;08;22 - 00;26;25;06
Annette Dalloo
He wants me to do this thing. It's ridiculous. And this is why it's ridiculous because of X, Y, and Z. Okay, cool. Check in with your intuition. Does this need to be argued? Your intuition might say no, it doesn't need to be argued because it's just going to work itself out. Cool. All right. I don't need to do anything.

00;26;25;06 - 00;26;41;20
Annette Dalloo
If you do need to do something, let's say your intuition is saying, yeah, I need to pull together some numbers or I need to pull together some some proof why this doesn't work. Maybe you do that just in case it you happen to need it. Okay, cool. So then you do that, and then you just go about your day and do what you're going to do, okay?

00;26;41;20 - 00;27;04;25
Annette Dalloo
What I'm getting is that he wants to feel that his ideas are valued and that he is important in some way. There's something about his role that he doesn't feel like his contributions are valued and or valuable. And so it's almost as if all he's looking for is somebody just to validate who he is and what his role is.

00;27;04;28 - 00;27;27;29
Annette Dalloo
Somehow it feels like, I don't know, as as CEO, he it's almost like, you know, he's delegated and he does all the sort of handing down of tasks and whatnot. But it's almost as if he doesn't really do much. Oh my God. So this is part of the dilemma when it's a very, very, very, very complicated business. Much more I had no idea it was so complicated when I joined.

00;27;27;29 - 00;27;49;24
Annette Dalloo
I had no idea. I think he didn't either. I think he recognizes and it frustrates him that his brain is not happy in complexity. And so because of that, it's almost like he can't be involved in the product and data. He can't be involved in the analysis off of the product data, because it just requires way too much intensity.

00;27;49;26 - 00;28;08;27
Annette Dalloo
And that's where I'm like, I don't know where it comes from. For me, I love getting a better understanding. That's just open to me in some way. But it is because of that. That's exactly right. He's delegated everything. He barely works, and I think he feels frustrated. And then he he has a couple of things that he'll hang on to.

00;28;08;29 - 00;28;29;18
Annette Dalloo
And honestly, they usually don't work out very well because he's not a good manager. And he, you know, surprise, surprise. Well, as CEO, all of a sudden take a squad of three smart 25 year olds and you know, be shocked that they can't manage it themselves. Well they can't they require management. And then I'll say to me you you coddled people.

00;28;29;20 - 00;28;54;02
Annette Dalloo
And I'm like I don't coddle them, I lead them. So we have this dynamic going on. It's very interesting to me about I get he feels frustrated that he is not providing an active enough contribution is not good at it. What happens is I don't want to, like, drag you into my stories, you know? But like, even just over this weekend, he had asked somebody on my team for like a recommendation.

00;28;54;09 - 00;29;10;20
Annette Dalloo
Frankly, I gave it to him six months ago and he said no and on on a certain product. And he then sent me a note saying, wow, this looks really good because they just sent it to him last week. Again he said, this looks really good. We should just approve it. I said we should, but we have to change the commercial and there are other, other things that have to happen.

00;29;10;22 - 00;29;27;10
Annette Dalloo
And, he said, but we could go ahead. I said, I think we should do. And he's like, great. Tell him he can go ahead, but he has to fire 1 or 2 people on his team to make room for this. I mean, a nut. It is so ill informed and like I sent him back a note to said, I totally disagree with you.

00;29;27;16 - 00;29;44;19
Annette Dalloo
We should not do it. Here are the facts. And he sent back a note that was sort of like, well, I was talking more conceptually that we could challenge our people to like, look at their team. And I look and I think, buddy, you've forced other people to fire people for the last five years. There's nothing conceptual about that.

00;29;44;19 - 00;30;01;06
Annette Dalloo
And yet I hear him feeling dismissed by me. He has managed a whole group of us for this for years. I've been with him for five and a half, but for this four years we've had this weird deal. He has managed us this way. Like, nope, you got to fire those people. Nope. You've got to do whatever.

00;30;01;06 - 00;30;18;16
Annette Dalloo
And it's like, that's not how I lead. I fired a ton of people in my life. It is never a surprise. I don't know what to do with that. But it's super helpful for you to put that in context that he also feels not heard. Yeah, well, not only does he feel not heard, but he feels like his role is almost like a shell.

00;30;18;18 - 00;30;43;17
Annette Dalloo
It's like if he keeps all these things on the outside. So it looks to you and looks to other people like he's doing a lot and that he's in touch and then he's paying attention. Then the shell won't crack and people won't realize that there's nothing inside. What do I do about that? The challenge is managing how you are reacting to him.

00;30;43;20 - 00;31;05;11
Annette Dalloo
Yes, that's my job. Okay. That's the hardest part because you're not going to be able to change anything that he's doing. You're just going to be able to change the way that you show up in these conversations with him. Email is kind of the best way to practice this, because you can write out what you want to write out and then delete it, and then write a better one, right?

00;31;05;13 - 00;31;23;06
Annette Dalloo
Yep. So if you want to get out your anger, you can write out, you know, something in a, in a word doc or something like that and just kind of write it all out what you would want to say and then delete that and then write an actual email that says something to the effect of, yes, I understand what you're saying.

00;31;23;08 - 00;31;48;06
Annette Dalloo
Yes, I know that there has been a precedent for this in the past. You can recognize that this is something he's done in the past, right? I know that there is a precedent for this in the past. Let's consider it. And let's take a look at what makes the most sense. Right. And then so that way you're giving credence to his ideas, knowing full well that you're going to look into them and you're because you already know what needs to be done.

00;31;48;08 - 00;32;19;08
Annette Dalloo
And so then you can come back to him and say, hey, that idea was really great. However, this is what I've come up with. I think this is built upon. Your idea might work, right? Something to that effect. So it's not about placating, and it's not about making up false words about how great he is, but it is about navigating not only your reactions to him, but then also your response to him and what that responses.

00;32;19;08 - 00;32;40;10
Annette Dalloo
And you have to make sure that that response is aligned with your higher heart, not with your anger, not with your brain, not with the wounding of this previous lifetime that you have. And you need to make sure that you're checking in with your higher heart. Like what would your Higher heart say in each one of those situations might be different, and also want to say that you're not going to be perfect at this.

00;32;40;16 - 00;32;59;14
Annette Dalloo
Yeah, and it's going to be practice. And you're going to fall into old habits and that's totally fine. But it's going to be a practice. It's going to be a practice that you'll have to try over and over and over again. And the thing is, is that once you start doing this, you will start to understand and see that his behavior is going to back off.

00;32;59;14 - 00;33;23;08
Annette Dalloo
He's going to trust you more, and he's going to feel seen and understood, which is what he's looking for. So many times we can look at people who, let's say, bully us or push us into a corner. If you can imagine them like a little boy or a little girl that is just really, really hurting and really scared that maybe they're not good enough or maybe they're not relevant.

00;33;23;11 - 00;33;47;20
Annette Dalloo
If you can look at them like that, it makes it much, much easier to respond in a way that is in your higher heart. How does that feel for you overall? It feels really good to me. I feel like I have a chance because of this deal change to reset my relationship with him, and I don't know whether that's healthy or not, or if I should just change my behavior because I won't be tangled in a long thing.

00;33;47;25 - 00;34;03;16
Annette Dalloo
That's one kind of question I have. The other is, I think that's been on my mind and my husband tends to feel a little like this. He would he would like me to just walk away from this company and this man, because part of it is I just think he would enjoy me telling him to like, go pound sand.

00;34;03;24 - 00;34;28;15
Annette Dalloo
And he would enjoy that. I look and I think a lot of things on my plate. I have three high credibility with our board of directors, very high credibility with the team. Like it feels like, God, if I could make it work here, that would be easiest on me. Like, you know, I mean, I'm tired these days and I can't decide whether that's me, like, crapping out and, like, putting up with these I shouldn't put up with.

00;34;28;15 - 00;34;52;27
Annette Dalloo
Or if it's like, no, this is my chance to actually learn this and do this differently. It is something that you can decide whether or not you want to do. The caveat is this you can use this as a period of growth and a way to practice this new way of being. And by doing this, you are shifting and changing and you're growing in your own energy.

00;34;52;27 - 00;35;23;14
Annette Dalloo
And finally putting to bed, so to speak, this energy from six lifetimes ago. You can decide to do that. You could also decide to leave. The change that will happen though, will happen regardless. So if it's not him, it's going to be another person with the exact same qualities in some other way. And whether that's through business or whether that's through a friendship or something else, there will be some other thing that will happen that will make you face this particular situation so you can practice those skills.

00;35;23;16 - 00;35;50;13
Annette Dalloo
Got it? Meaning sooner or later, the challenge is to practice and learn, not not to walk away. And it's not to say that maybe that's not the right thing for me at this time, but sooner or later it's to learn to not react, not have to leave. Got it? Correct? Okay. Helpful, helpful, helpful. And it's not necessarily to not react, it's to manage your reaction, to not be in that low energy matching in his lower energy.

00;35;50;13 - 00;36;18;29
Annette Dalloo
So it is to create a feeling within yourself that you're connecting to your heart. And then your response is from that higher heart space versus the anger versus the feeling of injustice or the frustration or the don't back me into a corner, right? There's also an element of don't tell me what to do. If you can come at it from a place of observation, like imagine that you are a soul.

00;36;18;29 - 00;36;39;20
Annette Dalloo
Just kind of hanging out in the corner of the room by the ceiling, watching the whole thing unfold. What could you see in you? What energy do you see in you? What energy do you see in him, and how can you respond differently? And that's something that you can do after the fact too. So let's say you have one of these situations tomorrow and things go sideways.

00;36;39;21 - 00;36;56;23
Annette Dalloo
Then what you can do is you can go back into a meditation or go back into a reflection later on in the day. Imagine that you're an observer and kind of look at what you said and what you reacted to and what he said and how he reacted. And you can take a look at both energies and say, okay, what energy do I want to be in?

00;36;56;23 - 00;37;15;20
Annette Dalloo
What energy was I in when energy was healing? And what they're showing me is that, like his energy, he shows up pretty consistently in the same energy. So that's not going to be too hard. But when it comes to you and your reactions, it depends on where you are in that particular day or what subject matter it is that can bring out various different types of wounding in you.

00;37;15;22 - 00;37;38;11
Annette Dalloo
Can you think of any other person in your lifetime? In this lifetime that was a similar energy as him? Oh yes, my ex-husband, very good friend of mine, but a terrible, terrible marriage partner for me and my father both. Right. Both of them. Yeah for sure. Yeah. So that's how you know that something is meant to be worked on.

00;37;38;11 - 00;38;00;28
Annette Dalloo
So to speak. There are moments where, yes, you are meant to walk away from a slightly toxic or very toxic situation. Sure. Of course there are those moments. But how you know, the difference of whether or not it's something that you need to work through and actually push through, or whether it's something to walk away from, is whether or not you can see elements of that in previous relationships.

00;38;00;28 - 00;38;22;09
Annette Dalloo
So if it's a one off, if you've never had a reaction like this or never had anybody in your life like this before, okay, cool. Maybe it's just, you know, the two energies clashing and you can just sort of walk away from the situation, but because you're saying that not only is it to other relationships that you've had that are similar, but also two very close relationships that you've had that are similar?

00;38;22;11 - 00;38;51;07
Annette Dalloo
Yes. Core male relationships. Yeah, correct. If you're able to work through that within him, that is one small step into starting to work through those energies, through your ex-husband, as well as your father. Thank you for that. Annette. Yeah. When you were talking about feeling not valued and so forth, it's like one dynamic for sure is, again, I don't know why, but I just have this inherent connection to what we're doing.

00;38;51;10 - 00;39;11;19
Annette Dalloo
And to his credit, he has vastly expanded my responsibilities so that I have much more influence in the company. He did a thing where he gave everybody like a who who they reminded him of and like, God, love them. He gave me a Leonardo da Vinci. Like, what a great, great thing. If you just have this like creative brilliance about this particular company.

00;39;11;19 - 00;39;28;12
Annette Dalloo
Beautiful, lovely. And he's been super supportive, which is really nice sometimes that feels like the seductive part of an abusive relationship though, where like, let me give you flowers and I might smack you when you get close, you know, like we do both of those things. We were in a meeting this spring, and I was completely blindsided by the meeting.

00;39;28;12 - 00;39;43;29
Annette Dalloo
And at the end of it, it was just the two of us. He's like, what did you think of that? Well, actually, the three of us, our CFO was in the room. He's like, what do you think about that? I said, well, it's really hard to process. I was completely blindsided. He said, that's right. That's because you're a guest at any meeting and your access to information depends on me.

00;39;43;29 - 00;40;03;01
Annette Dalloo
I've never had anyone at work speak to me that way. So we have both of those dynamics. And yet, to your point about him, it's like I recognize that. And by the way, there is also something about the way he looks at things that is not right, but the angle he brings to it definitely improves my thinking. And I give him that all the time.

00;40;03;01 - 00;40;24;29
Annette Dalloo
Like that. There's something about the way the two of us dance together that certainly makes my work better 100%. He just pushes me in a different direction. I recognize that when we're with people or with the board, but I have this really deep command and wide understanding, and he has nothing but superficiality, and I tend to feel bad about that.

00;40;25;01 - 00;40;55;02
Annette Dalloo
And it reminds me of what you've said about whatever chakra it was, where like I was pulling a dark cover over it. Yeah, I tend to try and make it more comfortable by either shrinking back myself, deferring to him in ways that I actually don't agree with. But I'm doing it in that moment. Not from a place of combat, but from a place of trying to make him into maybe more than he is, or somehow put sugar on something.

00;40;55;04 - 00;41;12;03
Annette Dalloo
And yet I feel like he also doesn't do the work to like, master anything. He doesn't put in the time to understand things, and yet I cover for it. I don't know, I just had to say that out loud because I was very intrigued by that comment about covering that one up. And if you have any hits on what that means, you're hitting the nail on the head.

00;41;12;03 - 00;41;36;12
Annette Dalloo
And I'm going to actually ask the guys if that is from a previous life or not as well. It is. Okay, so you've done that in the past and that's why it was like this, this temporary covering. How do I describe this visually? Oh that's a really good analogy. Thank you. So you know when you are having an eye exam and they put that little black yes thing over one, I see you can read the chart.

00;41;36;14 - 00;41;58;11
Annette Dalloo
That's exactly what it is. It's this thing that you're holding that you put over your solar plexus chakra, and your solar plexus chakra is your personal power, your feeling of self-confidence and self-worth, all of those things. Yes. You are literally putting that block over it. So it's almost like, oh, I don't want to shine too brightly, right?

00;41;58;13 - 00;42;22;09
Annette Dalloo
Okay. So let's take a look at what lifetime that might be that we, we need to work out. I'm also seeing that that was something you did when you were a kid as well. Absolutely. I mean it would totally be like oh aren't you Little Miss Big Britches or you think you're so special or whatever. I mean, I was afraid to put my arms out when I tap dance because I was like, going to be told when I got home by my father you were trying to get attention.

00;42;22;12 - 00;42;38;23
Annette Dalloo
Yeah. And I'm hearing stealing your joy. Oh yes. Yeah. Well let's take a look at where this came from. Because this is also it's playing out in the same sort of vein. Okay. So we're going to look at two lifetimes ago. They're saying it is unruly dated to the previous lifetime. We looked at the one six lifetimes ago.

00;42;38;23 - 00;43;01;18
Annette Dalloo
So this is a totally separate thing. Even though they might feel intertwined. Got it. Because they're showing up in the same person. Like they're showing up in your dad. They're showing up in your boss. Yeah, but they are two separate things. But in this lifetime, in your current lifetime, they've just been kind of intertwined now. Okay. So where I'm coming into this lifetime, you're a woman, you're blond.

00;43;01;18 - 00;43;25;19
Annette Dalloo
And where I'm seeing you is that you're wrapped up in a coat and your, your hair is very disheveled. You've been crying, you're quite dirty, like you've got dirt all over you. Okay. They're showing me that this is sort of an aftermath of what happened with a couple of your mates, and I'm hearing that it is. They didn't have this term back then, but it's it was a date rape situation.

00;43;25;22 - 00;43;50;21
Annette Dalloo
And you made the decision at that point that you needed to hide yourself, that you needed to hide how you looked because you were quite beautiful, quite stunning. Before this you were very like outward about your beauty in your you, you would flaunt it actually a little bit like you were very adept at flirting. You were very adept at being sort of the center of attention.

00;43;50;21 - 00;44;21;10
Annette Dalloo
And it was mainly because, I mean, you had people your whole life tell you how just bright and cheery and nice and beautiful, because you kind of had the whole package. You were just everything. You were very nice. You were very talented. You were sort of the popular girl in town, if you will, and everybody looked to you for everything that you did, whether it was fashion or whether it was some cool thing that you did, if you decided to play some sort of game or sport or something like that, like people would look to you for that.

00;44;21;10 - 00;44;40;19
Annette Dalloo
You were the trendsetter, if you will. After this happened with one of your mates, it had to have been England because I keep on seeing mate. And that's not something that I would say. So it was one of your friends and it was really shocking to you because you didn't think any of your friends would be capable of something like that.

00;44;40;20 - 00;45;02;16
Annette Dalloo
And so you're saying to yourself, like, if I can't trust my friends, like, how can I trust anyone to protect me? So you decided at that moment that you needed to protect yourself. And that's when this pattern started of basically hiding who you are. You were very cautious about who you showed, what pieces and parts to. There were some people you wouldn't show them how smart you were.

00;45;02;19 - 00;45;18;29
Annette Dalloo
There were some people, you wouldn't show them how beautiful you were and you would actually dressed down. You wouldn't do anything special with your hair. You would make it very plain. There are certain things that you would just do to make sure to make your shine less bright. Your parents didn't understand why this happened because you never told them what happened.

00;45;19;00 - 00;45;36;11
Annette Dalloo
You felt a lot of shame surrounding it because you thought you brought it on yourself. And unfortunately, at the time in that era, there wasn't a whole lot of support for women. And in fact, actually, if anybody were to have found out about it, it was quite the opposite. There would have been a lot of accusations, your reputation would have been tarnished.

00;45;36;13 - 00;46;01;17
Annette Dalloo
And so the drastic change between that particular period of time and after the rape happened, it's like your personality sort of changed overnight and your parents tried everything to get you to be who you were. Again, contrary to what you were saying with your father in this lifetime, your parents were quite supportive in how brightly you shone, like they encouraged you to be more of yourself and more of your bright, beautiful self.

00;46;01;17 - 00;46;18;12
Annette Dalloo
And you just kept on trying to hide it because you were afraid of what would happen if you didn't. So they just want to let you know that the reason why they needed you to see this particular lifetime is because you have to understand and know that you, shining as bright as you are, is not something that is detrimental to you in any way.

00;46;18;15 - 00;46;45;12
Annette Dalloo
And in fact, you can be an inspiration to so many people. If you shine as bright as you are all the time, don't try to diminish yourself. They're saying it's a habit that you've had for quite some time, so it might take a little while for you to reverse, but just pay attention to those times where you're trying to make yourself small and try to sort of change that behavior to something that would be just akin to being aligned with who you are and what you're doing.

00;46;45;15 - 00;47;07;21
Annette Dalloo
Do you have any questions about that? I don't think so. Super helpful. Okay, sure. The beneficial thing to that shadow, if you will, is that it is self-imposed. It is something that you can fully decide to change. Love it. Do you have any questions that you would like to have answered? I don't know if this is a reasonable question or not.

00;47;07;21 - 00;47;29;29
Annette Dalloo
Do you have any guidance for me on like, what is the best, highest use of? I don't know whether I say the rest of my life or the next five years. Like, how do I think about the next five years? I feel like I will shift again, but I don't know whether it's four years or eight years, but I feel like I will shift again then, just because of age and my husband's age and stuff like that.

00;47;30;01 - 00;47;59;19
Annette Dalloo
Is that a reasonable question? Of course it is. And then that, of course, what I really want to know is what should I do next? Should I stay? So they go, that's up to you, right? It's prescriptive. All right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What I'm seeing is a lot of expansion for you okay. Over the next five years. And with that expansion, I'm seeing you walk away from what you're doing now, and they're saying that you're going to walk away at the time that, you know, is right to walk away.

00;47;59;21 - 00;48;14;18
Annette Dalloo
There is a particular moment. I'm not sure what that moment is, whether it's because I think you said there was a like a four year contract or something like that, and you're two years in, like maybe it's after that two years, something like that. So it's it's a definitive point where it makes sense for you to leave that it.

00;48;14;21 - 00;48;38;06
Annette Dalloo
And I'm saying that you're just going to be able to enjoy your life. I don't think you need to do anything, do you? I don't yeah. So you can just enjoy your pursuits. So whatever creative pursuits you have, if you want to pursue more spiritual practices, you can certainly do that. If you wanted to further your spiritual knowledge and your spiritual gifts and things like that.

00;48;38;06 - 00;48;55;29
Annette Dalloo
If you wanted to do that, you could pursue that. If you wanted to pursue other things, you can do that. It's completely open to what you want to do. And I'm seeing that you don't have to go back and find a new job or like a new career or anything like that. You can just enjoy your life. Yes, that does feel a little scary for you, though.

00;48;56;01 - 00;49;21;10
Annette Dalloo
Yeah it does. That's right. And it's because you don't know what you would do with yourself. Exactly right. You're used to being busy. Okay, so here's the thing is that it is pretty amazing how you can fill a day with amazingly beautiful things that you want to do versus doing things for an actual job. Now, that doesn't mean that you might not work.

00;49;21;15 - 00;49;41;01
Annette Dalloo
Now let me preface this by saying it might not be a career type of work. Maybe you decide to go and volunteer somewhere. Maybe you decide to be on the board of something where it's a cause or something that you really, truly believe in, and so then you're going to be on the board of something, and then that's just a part time thing that you do from time to time.

00;49;41;03 - 00;49;58;21
Annette Dalloo
So it just it really just depends on what you feel guided to do. And I feel like I want to talk about your life purpose, because I feel like that will give you some context as to why you have this much freedom. So give me a second. Yeah, that's the reason why your chakras are already very clear. Okay.

00;49;58;21 - 00;50;20;23
Annette Dalloo
There are a lot of people on this planet that are going through their ascension process. Are you familiar with what that means? I could use a refresher. Okay. Have some understanding. No worries. The ascension process is essentially just your soul being more prevalent in your human body. A lot of people walk around just thinking they're human and that's it, and that there's nothing more to them and that's it.

00;50;20;27 - 00;50;44;06
Annette Dalloo
Okay, great. But then you start to realize, oh, actually, I have a soul. Cool. All right. Now that you have a soul, what does that mean? Well, what it means is that your soul is always pure. Your soul is always part of the universe. It's always part of divine source energy. What we're trying to do is have more access to that soul in our human bodies.

00;50;44;09 - 00;51;15;15
Annette Dalloo
Now, the purpose of being in human bodies, or any other type of experience anywhere else in the galaxy is for growth, knowledge, having new experiences, or shifting and changing our energy of our soul based on what we experience. And so that's part of the reason why we come down here to earth at all. And so when we decide to have these experiences, we experience these things in the human body, and then we try to uncover more of the soul while we're in the body.

00;51;15;15 - 00;51;36;18
Annette Dalloo
And how we do that is by learning these lessons, by having these experiences, by doing all of these things, every single person on the planet goes through their ascension process. And if you think about it like a school, your first ascension process, that's like graduating from grade school and then your second ascension process, that's like high school. Then the third is like college and then graduate school, right.

00;51;36;25 - 00;52;04;24
Annette Dalloo
And then once you get to graduate school, you're reaching essentially like the highest level of angelic status. And once you reach angelic status, you can pretty much do whatever you want. Like you can go anywhere, you can do anything. You can incarnate anywhere. You have already completed the first two ascension processes. So technically you're in college now. So what that means is that your soul is really adept at clearing energy, which is why your shoppers are so clear.

00;52;04;24 - 00;52;27;29
Annette Dalloo
Your soul is really adept at connecting within, which is why you have these direct connections to the divine source energy and how you're able to connect to universal consciousness, even though you didn't really necessarily understand that that's what you were doing. And for the record, people like Beethoven and and Mozart and all these people that connect into the universal consciousness, they might not have known either.

00;52;28;02 - 00;52;49;00
Annette Dalloo
They may have, but they may not have known anything about intuition. They just this is just something they tapped into. And that was just a natural thing they did. Your soul as it has come back through the ascension process, this is now your third time. Typically when souls are coming back to Earth after their second ascension process, they're usually here to help.

00;52;49;02 - 00;53;07;01
Annette Dalloo
They're here to help other people. They're here to help on a soul level. So your soul might be off helping other souls while you're sleeping, and while you're doing other things without you even realizing that that's what it's doing, you might find that your dreams are really vivid. You might find that you astral travel in your dream state.

00;53;07;02 - 00;53;34;09
Annette Dalloo
You might find all kinds of things like that. That's why you are able to sort of enjoy the rest of your life. And you don't necessarily have to do anything because what you're doing is on a soul level. For the most part, your human self doesn't have to do anything. It's your soul that's doing a lot of the work, your job for the next five years, and probably through to the rest of your life, is to continue your pursuits, follow your passions, and follow your joy.

00;53;34;10 - 00;53;50;12
Annette Dalloo
Well, I'll take that. Yeah. And now the question is, what is it? And that's always the fun part. Like, well, what is my joy? What are my passions? What do I want to do? Right? And you may not have asked yourself that recently, right. You know, you can start asking yourself like, what is it that I that I truly enjoy?

00;53;50;12 - 00;54;11;17
Annette Dalloo
What is it that I want to do? I love that that's my new hobby is exploring what do I love? Well, and I encourage people to do this all the time because we don't often do that. And what we love changes a lot over the course of our lifetime, you know? So like, yeah, the things that I liked when I was 20, I certainly don't necessarily like now.

00;54;11;17 - 00;54;26;27
Annette Dalloo
Right. And the things that I liked even five years ago, maybe I still like some of those things, but some of those things maybe I don't so much. Right. It's something that we really should be connecting in with. Maybe like yearly on our birthday, we should, you know, connected with our hearts and say, okay, what do I want to manifest now?

00;54;26;27 - 00;54;48;14
Annette Dalloo
What brings me joy now? What do I love now? And write those things down. Write down how you want to feel. Do you want to feel free? Do you want to feel excited all the time? Do you want to feel challenged? Having challenges and feeling challenged are two different things, and that's something you might get from your job right now that you might be afraid to lose.

00;54;48;14 - 00;55;12;05
Annette Dalloo
When you decide to leave. Okay. So then what are other challenging pursuits that you could take on that would still challenge you, still keep you active, still keep your brain completely nimble. But yet it's not something that you have to necessarily dread going to or, you know, have challenges going to. So these are all questions you can ask yourself when you've got two years to do it.

00;55;12;05 - 00;55;34;24
Annette Dalloo
So you've got plenty of time. Yeah. Perfect perfect perfect. I mean Annette, this is amazing. Oh I'm so glad. This has been amazing. I can't even tell you how grateful I am. I've done this session. May I ask how you work with clients? In other words, you've just given me a lot of perspective on this life. If I came back to you again, should I have new questions?

00;55;34;24 - 00;55;53;09
Annette Dalloo
Like I worry that I'm not ready, you know what I mean? Like, should I have any questions or no, we'll just discover as we go. It depends on the person. I work with some clients weekly. I work with some clients monthly, some yearly. It just depends on what is needed and what is desired. So then when it comes to the questions, yes, you can come with different questions.

00;55;53;09 - 00;56;12;12
Annette Dalloo
Yes, we can expand on some of the things we had said before or that we had discussed before. I can tell you right now that some of the things that came up, that the guides were telling me that we could work on, that wasn't aligned for you to work on today, we can really dive into some of the the childhood things with your father, and we can dive into some of those things with your ex-husband as well.

00;56;12;12 - 00;56;32;09
Annette Dalloo
So there are things that we could work on. And what I usually tell people is, like, like when you feel ready, like that's the right time. Got it. Because these sessions are quantum healing, so it heals you on a soul level, on a physical level, energetic level. And a lot of this is taking place even before the session happens.

00;56;32;09 - 00;56;46;05
Annette Dalloo
And after the session ends, it'll continue to take place. Yeah, that's why I say like at the end of these sessions, make sure you're drinking a lot of water and make sure that you are getting rest if you need to get rest. There are other things that we can take a look at, like we can take a look at ancestral line things.

00;56;46;05 - 00;57;04;13
Annette Dalloo
We can take a look at all kinds of stuff. We can look at your soul origin, your soul purpose. We did take a look a bit at your soul purpose here, but we can expand upon that. So yeah, there's a lot of different things, but there's no rush. Just kind of let the information integrate. I'm going to send you the recording and then when you're feeling guided, you can just book another session.

00;57;04;20 - 00;57;26;20
Annette Dalloo
I mean I can't thank you enough. You're amazing. This is exactly what I needed today. I'm grateful for what you're doing in the world and the impact on me today. So thank you so much, Jeanette. Thank you. All right. So I'm just going to close the Akashic Records. I want to thank a caller, my Akashic Guide, thank you so much for a long list, access to the records and giving us the information we needed today.

00;57;26;22 - 00;57;41;08
Annette Dalloo
The records are closed. The records are closed. The records are closed. Thank you.

00;57;41;11 - 00;58;07;03
Annette Dalloo
I would like to thank Abby for allowing me to record her session for this podcast episode. There are times when we are in situations where we are frustrated. We're angry. We feel like maybe the situation or the person is completely against us. As we saw in Abby's session, it is something that you must take a look at from the perspective of.

00;58;07;03 - 00;58;35;25
Annette Dalloo
Is this a pattern that you have in your life? If it is a pattern, then chances are this is a lesson that you are meant to learn. Most of the time. Every situation can be changed, shifted, made better by being in your heart space. Unfortunately, most of the time when you are in these situations where either you're feeling disempowered, you're feeling angry, you're feeling like you're not seen or not heard.

00;58;35;25 - 00;59;04;21
Annette Dalloo
The very first thing that people do is they close their hearts. They don't allow their hearts to be seen because they feel it is not safe. They feel it is not a situation that is worthy of their love or their heart, when in fact, those are the very situations that are in need of that heart. A lot of our human suffering is caused by the need to have justice for things that have been done to us.

00;59;04;21 - 00;59;32;01
Annette Dalloo
And so what happens when you are in that space of wanting justice? You are in resistance. You are in resistance to what is. In addition, you are constantly focusing on the past. So what needs to happen is the past needs to be what it is in the past, what needs to be addressed are the feelings and emotions about what happened.

00;59;32;01 - 00;59;52;11
Annette Dalloo
Now, I'm not going to say that you shouldn't seek justice in terms of if there's something that has been wrong, meaning that if, let's say you were charged more for something than you should have been, then yes. Okay. Sure. Go call that company or contact the company and say, hey, I was charged too much, could you please refund my money?

00;59;52;11 - 01;00;26;14
Annette Dalloo
No problem. It's not necessarily about asking for what you need. It is about your reaction to it. So I've spent a ton of time in my life being frustrated and angry at things that I feel were out of my control, and a lot of those things had to do with really mundane, stupid things like calling customer service because similar situation where maybe I was overcharged for something, or maybe something didn't arrive on time, or maybe something was broken after I bought it.

01;00;26;14 - 01;00;57;27
Annette Dalloo
All of those really stupid injustices that we see on a regular basis, and I would get really fired up about it because it was just such an annoyance. And I know a lot of people out there find, let's say, calling customer service or doing those types of things, those little mundane life things to be really incredibly frustrating. And part of that has to do with the fact that you don't feel like you are seen under stood, or heard.

01;00;57;28 - 01;01;19;12
Annette Dalloo
So what can you do in those situations? If it's just a mundane thing like calling customer service or getting your money back or something to that effect, the best thing to do is to make sure that you get in the right energy. Make sure that if you are feeling fired up, angry, your heart is racing. All of those things.

01;01;19;12 - 01;01;35;25
Annette Dalloo
Take a step back. Don't focus on that thing right now. One of the things that used to come up for me is that, like, I felt like I had to deal with the situation immediately because if I didn't deal with the situation immediately, then I wouldn't be able to do it or that it wouldn't get done. And that's absolutely not true.

01;01;35;26 - 01;02;05;01
Annette Dalloo
You can wait until you are in a better energy to deal with whatever that happens to be. The other thing is that if you have other stressors going on in your life, this will add on top of it. This will make things even worse in terms of your reaction, in terms of feelings of wanting that justice. I'm using this really simple example because it's easy to relate to everyone can relate to it, and I can show you how to switch the energy of it.

01;02;05;06 - 01;02;22;07
Annette Dalloo
Recently I had rented a car in Paris, and there's a company that I rent the cars from all the time. You can rent them by the hour or by the day, half day, whatever it is. And I filled up the gas in the car and I returned the car. The app said that I did not fill up the gas and then I owed another €6.

01;02;22;08 - 01;02;43;12
Annette Dalloo
I was really annoyed because I had gone through the whole process of filling up the tank and everything else, and so what I did was instead of harping on it getting super angry, I wrote to the guy who owned the car and I said, hey, I filled up the gas tank. If you need proof, I can show you and please refund six the €6.

01;02;43;12 - 01;03;02;25
Annette Dalloo
But then what did I do after that? I didn't pay attention to it at all. I haven't looked to see if my €6 was refunded. I haven't looked at my bank account to see if it was refunded. It does not matter. It doesn't matter. Will I eventually look at it to see if it's there? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe I'll just forget about it.

01;03;02;25 - 01;03;25;09
Annette Dalloo
But that's the whole thing, is that you have to be able to be in a space of letting it go. If it is something that is of the utmost of frustration to you, let it go. It's not worth your energetic health to get frustrated and angry at something that is minor in comparison to other things that could be going on in your life at that time.

01;03;25;12 - 01;03;47;11
Annette Dalloo
If you have the bandwidth, and if you have the desire and you're not super angry and you would like to finally get that thing resolved, yeah, go for it. Do it. Whatever you need to do. But it is about how you're feeling about the situation that matters. This is the simple example, but this can apply for everything in your life.

01;03;47;13 - 01;04;09;04
Annette Dalloo
How are you reacting or responding to your loved ones? How are you reacting or responding to your boss? To the people that you work with, to your coworkers? To your friends? Where are the relationships in your life where you find that you have a lot of conflict? Is this conflict something that you have had over and over and over again in your life?

01;04;09;04 - 01;04;24;28
Annette Dalloo
If it is, it's something that you need to take a look at. And the one thing that I find is the hardest for people is to let go of that idea of, well, I am right and they are wrong. Definitively they are wrong. There is no two ways about it, and I am angry because they're not admitting they're wrong.

01;04;24;28 - 01;04;46;14
Annette Dalloo
They're not admitting that they did something wrong to me. They're not admitting that this happened. And I need to make them see that they did something wrong. I need to prove to them that they are wrong. What is the problem with that energy? It's constant resistance. It is an energy that is a lower energy. It is ego. It is pride.

01;04;46;15 - 01;05;11;16
Annette Dalloo
It is wounding of feeling not seen, not heard and not understood. So what can you do instead? You can let the situation go. You can not let that situation control you and your life for the rest of your life. Because sometimes people hold on to things for that long. You can decide that the other person doesn't need to know how they made you feel, because maybe that's not their journey.

01;05;11;16 - 01;05;32;15
Annette Dalloo
Or maybe it is. But if it is, maybe there are other people in their journey that will give them that information that they will be able to receive. But if they are not able to receive that information from you in a productive way, then there is no reason for you to continue lowering your energy in order to try to convince somebody of something that they will not be convinced of.

01;05;32;17 - 01;05;51;01
Annette Dalloo
I want you to ask yourself those questions. Where am I in resistance? Where am I trying to seek justice? Where am I trying to say this isn't fair? This person did that to me. That person did this to me. My ex-boyfriend. My ex-girlfriend did this to me. And this is why I am the way that I am. Okay, cool.

01;05;51;02 - 01;06;11;18
Annette Dalloo
Basically, what you're doing is you're still giving your power away to the person that hurt you. You're giving your power away to somebody who may not even be in your life anymore. You're allowing them to control your life without even being in your life. Is that something that you want for yourself when it comes to other relationships? Let's say it's a boss like it is for Abby.

01;06;11;18 - 01;06;35;06
Annette Dalloo
Where are those relationship points where you are in your own wounding, and how can you change how you approach the situation? That is the only thing that you can control is how you respond, react, show up what energy you're in. That is what you can control. That is the only thing that is ness necessary in order to shift and change a situation.

01;06;35;06 - 01;06;59;02
Annette Dalloo
Oftentimes, people think that the only thing that changes a situation is if the other person does the changing well, they're wrong. So why should I have to change? They are the one that hurt me. They're the one that has to change. Well, okay, sure it's possible, but you're not going to be the one to do it. You're not going to be the one that's going to change them by forcing them to see, by forcing them to be further in their wounding.

01;06;59;02 - 01;07;22;15
Annette Dalloo
Because most of the time when people are bullying, being angry, hurting other people, it is because they themselves are hurt. So all you're doing is pushing them more into that hurt space in which it's going to be very difficult for them to get to a higher place of understanding. And that's where these toxic cycles start to manifest over and over and over and over again in your life.

01;07;22;15 - 01;07;46;23
Annette Dalloo
So as we saw with Abby when we were talking about her boss, we did find out that in fact, the same situation had been happening with her ex-husband as well as with her father. And then when we got to the portion of the session where we're talking about her light being dimmed because she didn't want to be seen, that was also something that had been a pattern in her life, and various people in her life were reflecting that back at her.

01;07;46;24 - 01;08;10;18
Annette Dalloo
This is the work that needs to be done in order to transform any relationship. It is about the energy that you're showing up in for any relationship. I say this all the time that your words matter very little. It is your energy and what you show up in that matters the most. If you're in an energy of combativeness, that is the energy that you are going to get back.

01;08;10;18 - 01;08;30;19
Annette Dalloo
If you are in an energy of feeling hurt, wounded, sad, depressed, then that is the energy that the person is going to feel off you before you even say a word. Now the words, of course, do matter at a certain point, but it's the energy that you show up in. You can say the words I love you and mean it deeply from your heart.

01;08;30;20 - 01;08;51;25
Annette Dalloo
You can say something like, I love you. You can tell the difference in that energy. That's more of a casual I love you think about when you ask somebody how they are. Sometimes they'll say, oh, I'm fine, but you could feel in their energy that they're not. Sometimes they could say, yeah, I'm fine now. They're the words are reflecting a little bit more of maybe how they're feeling.

01;08;51;25 - 01;09;21;19
Annette Dalloo
I want you to feel into the energy of each of those statements, each of those words, and maybe pay attention to how you're interacting with people over the next few weeks and what you say. And is your energy matching exactly what you're saying? Is your energy matching how you're presenting yourself? Let's say you're having a conflict with a sibling, and that's a different type of relationship, too, because when it's family, you feel obligated to respond differently than you would with, let's say a friend or a significant other or even a boss.

01;09;21;19 - 01;09;45;08
Annette Dalloo
And let's say you're having an argument and it is an argument that is about something that hits a wound in you from a long, long time ago. Let's say it's a wound from childhood. Let's say it's a wound that keeps on showing up for you all the time. In all of these different relationships that you have, you can choose to lash out at the sibling, because maybe they were the mirror to show you what you needed to look at.

01;09;45;08 - 01;10;00;19
Annette Dalloo
Or you could choose to say, okay, I'm going to go within and I'm going to take a look at how I'm showing up and how I'm responding. Now, that doesn't mean that the other person is off the hook. If they have said words that have hurt you, or if they have done something to hurt you, you can take time.

01;10;00;19 - 01;10;18;10
Annette Dalloo
You can take a step back. You can take your energy back and maybe not communicate with them for a little while, because maybe you need to take that time for yourself to be able to regulate your emotions in order to show up in the energy that you really want to show up in. You can have a productive conversation with this person.

01;10;18;10 - 01;10;36;04
Annette Dalloo
So pay attention to all of those places in your life where you feel like it's an impossible situation, that nothing will change, that this person is always this way, that is. The other thing is to be careful about saying things like that. Well, I know how this person is going to respond because they're always like this. That's not true.

01;10;36;04 - 01;10;59;27
Annette Dalloo
We change all the time. Change is one of the only constants we have. Give that person. Give the situation an opportunity to change. If you state definitively to the universe that this will never change, then it won't. If you allow the door to open to the universe and say, you know what? I'm open to changing this relationship. I'm opening my heart and allowing this to transform.

01;11;00;02 - 01;11;19;26
Annette Dalloo
And that is the counterintuitive piece. When people are in their wounding, they close their hearts, when in fact, the biggest thing that can help transform a situation is to stay open hearted. Even though you are wounded, even though you are sad or depressed or angry. Keep that heart open and you will be able to move through these situations with ease.

01;11;19;29 - 01;11;39;14
Annette Dalloo
I want to address very briefly the other aspect of this session, which was Abby dimming her light because of what happened to her in that past life. This isn't something that is unique. There are a lot of people who have had past lives like this, where they feel like they need to hide themselves because of some trauma that happened.

01;11;39;14 - 01;11;59;18
Annette Dalloo
Maybe it's something that happened to you in this lifetime. It is something that will need to be worked through at some point. The safety, the security that you have within yourself, the confidence that you have within the divine, the confidence that you have with your own faith and the divine, the confidence that you have in your own ability to protect yourself.

01;11;59;18 - 01;12;22;05
Annette Dalloo
Part of the problem with some of these situations in the past were about relying on other people to protect you, especially women. That was something that was very prevalent back then. And so when you are dealing with these kinds of traumas from past lives or current life, it is very important to be careful in how deeply you retreat into yourself.

01;12;22;05 - 01;12;42;09
Annette Dalloo
It is something that you can ask for help from your guides, from your angels. Obviously, if it is something that happened in this lifetime and you're still dealing with it, please ask for help from anyone you feel guided to ask. It is really important for you to get through this, to heal and not have to continue repeating the hurts of the past.

01;12;42;09 - 01;13;07;17
Annette Dalloo
And it is not about forgetting and moving on and pretending it didn't happen. It's about being able to address what did happen and being able to leave it in the past. And sometimes that takes a lot. Sometimes it takes a lot of therapy. Sometimes it takes these types of sessions, Akashic record readings, sometimes it takes energy healing. Sometimes you need to get that energy out of the body, and that goes for any trauma you have.

01;13;07;18 - 01;13;24;18
Annette Dalloo
If you haven't read the book, The body keeps the score, and that is a really good book to read as well, because our bodies do keep score in terms of the the trauma and the energy that we hold on to. Our bodies are constantly talking to us to tell us what it needs and why it's responding the way that it is.

01;13;24;18 - 01;13;41;24
Annette Dalloo
So pay attention to your body and what it's trying to tell you. Pay attention to your emotions and what they're trying to tell you, and try to stay open in your heart space. And that's a practice that's something that you have to practice on a regular basis. It's not something you can just do if it's not something that comes naturally to you.

01;13;41;24 - 01;14;09;03
Annette Dalloo
Just like I was saying with Abby, it is something you have to practice all the time and you're going to fail a lot, and that's okay. But you have to start somewhere. Thank you so much for joining me today. It's been an absolute pleasure and I can't wait to connect with you next week. If you're enjoying this podcast, it would be really amazing if you could like, share and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts, whether it's Apple or Spotify.

01;14;09;06 - 01;14;31;13
Annette Dalloo
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01;14;31;14 - 01;14;36;07
Annette Dalloo
Thank you so much for all of your support and I can't wait to connect with you next week.