Mom Guilt: Navigating The Newborn Stage

Welcome to the Mom Guilt Podcast, where real moms share their journeys through the rollercoaster of motherhood. In this episode, hosts Stephanie and Elizabeth dive into the often-overlooked struggles of the newborn stage. With candor and empathy, they discuss the guilt and challenges many moms face during this intense phase of parenting.

From sleepless nights to overwhelming feelings of inadequacy, Stephanie and Elizabeth share their personal experiences and offer reassuring advice. They remind moms that it's okay to ask for help and that the newborn stage, while incredibly demanding, is a beautiful season in its own right.

This episode explores the concept of identity in motherhood, emphasizing that our worth as moms is not tied to our ability to be "supermom" but in relying on God and embracing our moments of weakness. They discuss the importance of balancing self-care and nurturing a growing family.

Join the conversation as they dismantle the myth of picture-perfect motherhood and encourage moms to embrace the raw, imperfect beauty of the newborn stage. If you're a mom navigating the challenges of early motherhood, this episode is a reassuring reminder that you're not alone, and your journey is valid and valuable.

Tune in to the Mom Guilt Podcast to discover the camaraderie and wisdom shared between friends who understand the highs and lows of motherhood.

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Hi, my name's Elizabeth and I'm one of the co-hosts here on the Mom Guilt podcast. Thank you for taking the time to listen. And if you've been a listener for a while now, please, please, please take the time to rate and review this podcast. This is how we're going to get out to other moms who need to hear the gospel. And also, if you find this content helpful, please take time to share with another mom who may be struggling in the newborn stage.

Welcome to this week's episode of the Mom Guilt Podcast. This podcast is really just a conversation between friends. Together Elizabeth and I have seven kids. My husband and I have four kids. Her and her husband have three kids. And one of the things that we realized is that we were constantly on the phone or having play dates and talking about this mom guilt that we experienced. Because part of motherhood unfortunately brings this mom guilt. And so we felt that we were kind of alone. And then we started like opening up to each other a little bit as our friendship progressed. And we realized that the other person actually feels the same thing. And we're like, why do people not talk about this? So we are here to talk about it. And one of the things that we, as talking about it, we would just encourage each other with the Bible and the gospel and what that means. How do you combat mom guilt? You know, is what you're feeling conviction from the Holy Spirit or is it because you're believing a lie or is it because you're having an unrealistic expectation? And so being able to process through that, looking to our truth, which is the Bible, has been super helpful in unburdening both of us in this mom guilt. So I am Stephanie, and the last time that I felt mom guilt was the other day I decided to let one of my children make their own lunch. And that's hard for me because I feel like I'm not loving my child well if I'm making them make their own food. But so this whole thing plays out and they had gotten done making food and they had put a plastic plate on top of the hot burner and which they had just made their food.

Rookie mistake.

And the plate melted. It looked like Pepto-Bismol over my stove and I've done it as an adult. So my mom guilt was twofold. One, I lost my cool once I was cleaning scraped up, like melted plastic off of the burner. And so I felt really guilty and twofold. And one of them, I think I can dismiss of like, OK, I'm loving my kid by actually teaching them how to make their food. So I can kind of dismiss that aspect of the mom guilt. But when I lost my cool and I yelled, you know what? That actually was conviction at that point. And so I then came to my child and I was like, I am really sorry. You didn't mean to melt the plate. Like that was an accident. And I did not respond lovingly to you. I should not have yelled at you. Can you please forgive me? And this child was so sweet. They're like, of course, mom.

Yeah, no big deal. Oh, thank you. Oh, that is so sweet. But it's hard. Like with motherhood, there's so much going on. So much. Like you're already about to tip over. And then one more thing, like a melted plate on the burner and it's like, I'm done.

The chemicals are all in the air, it's melted plastic, this is horrible. And so there was like multiple levels of panic and freak out and it wasn't good. It wasn't, I didn't need to do that. But just in my stress and my anxiety, I did, I sinned. And so I got to repent and show my children what happened because they all saw it was on display for everybody.

And you're always quick to remind me like, yes, maybe in that moment we modeled something that's not okay. But then to turn around and model humbly that we need the Lord and we're sorry that you were doing good. Well, the Lord is doing good through you.

God works all things for the good of those who love him and are called to his purpose. So my sin, even God uses my sin to maybe show my kids.

Exactly. Well, my name is Elizabeth and the last time that I felt mom guilt was actually this morning. So this is embarrassing. I'm kind of embarrassed about this. We're talking about yelling and I have two boys closer in age and they fight all of the time. And so they're fighting like this is daily like wrestling. He kicked me like they're whatever. And my youngest who she's a sassy cutie. She's only two. She goes, knock it off, boys. Knock it off. She may be heard that before. I don't think, I don't know where she got this from, but like she's persistent, like just yelling, knock it off. And I like, it was that humbling moment where I'm like, oh man, that's me. She's doing that because of me. So I'm going to work on talking nicer and maybe not saying that. And maybe my two year old will talk nicer to them. I don't know. It was I felt terrible. I also chuckled a little bit but just it was just one of those moments that you don't know how Harsh or abrasive or like how sinful you can be until your two-year-old is literally doing the same thing

It's some type of passage of childhood though Like I know I have a memory like this where you're fighting with your sibling and your parent just

Like you're fighting in the car and your parents like, knock it off, Ryle. I will pull this car over.

Don't make me turn this car around.

Yeah, we, you know, we don't want our children to miss out on the staples of childhood, right?

No, of course not.

We're just doing our mom duty to flip out a couple times so they have that memory.

How funny that when you're a child, you're like, chill out, mom.

Like, what is the big deal?

I don't understand.

And then you're in it.

And I love that your two year old is already like engaged on this with her siblings. She thinks, I'm excited to see how she grows up and what she does. God's going to use that little girl in awesome ways. We were camping and she just let herself out and this guy held the door open with his kid

and he goes, wow, she's going to be a CEO someday.

And I'm like, oh, maybe.

That would be awesome if that's what God called her to.

It would, but you know, just those personality traits. She's fun.

She's a fun one.

But yeah.

Oh, man. So talking about kids and all of the childhood, we're actually talking about the newborn stage specifically today on this episode. And what prompted this episode, it was actually you guys, as listeners, we got a message asking us to talk about the newborn stage and the guilt that specifically happens during that period. The newborn stage is intense.

It is, it's like, it's almost a blur.

It is, it's like the sleepless blur of crying and the nasty mustard diapers.

Yeah.

Yeah, so, okay, I'm gonna just kind of summarize the message that we got. So we were asked to do an episode on newborn guilt, and this listener was specifically struggling with the first few weeks back at home. She said it felt like other moms were up and moving around right after they got home, but this listener was really tired and they were dehydrating and struggling with malnutrition. So then she goes on to say that her mom needed to then come and help care for her and her newborn for the first two weeks after coming home from the hospital. And that during that time, she was really worried about everything. Her daughter was crying all the time. She felt like she was trapped in Google searches and then once her mom left, she would call her like in panic. And she also felt like the mom instincts that everybody says, oh, just, just, you know, you're going to be fine. The mom instincts will kick in. For this listener, it took about three months to kick in for her.

Yeah. So she's asking, please talk about this. Yes, I am really happy we're talking about this. I hear this listener's story and I can see it my own. I say, I think that's me. Did I like time travel and write this in myself? Because that was me with my firstborn. I lost a lot of blood and so it took me weeks of being anemic and sleeping and just all of these things. I needed help. I couldn't do it without help. Even in the hospital, I feel like it didn't hold him a lot, which I know I shared, sorry, I know I shared that on a previous episode, but it was humbling to be like, oh, I can't do this alone, but I want to like, it wasn't what I pictured. I thought I was going to just be super mom.

And I like in the movies.

Yeah, yeah.

And I thought I was going to be like one of those moms on social media that like, oh, out for a jog with my five week old baby or something crazy. Yeah. And I wasn't. And I was kind of crushed by it.

I don't know if you had a similar experience or can relate to that. Yeah. So thinking back and I think we're going to talk about like your first child, like bringing them home because I think that is it. Like that's a whole like beast.

It is.

Mom guilt. That's so intense. I remember bringing my daughter home and I know I'd shared also in a previous episode that she had an infection. I had an infection when she was born. So she was in a not super fragile state coming home, but she was definitely not where like my other kids were bringing them home. So there was a lot of fear of, oh my goodness, she's jaundiced, is she gonna have to go back to the hospital? Is this my fault? And I'm just analyzing everything I'm doing. She's crying and I'm like, oh my goodness, I as her mom should figure out exactly what she needs because that's what people say the mom's instinct is, as you just intuitively know. And I'm like, actually, no, you don't. They're crying. And it's the only way they communicate. And you don't know what's wrong. Do they have a gas bubble? Do they have a dirty diaper? You've tried everything. Oh, my goodness. All of the different things in the Google searches of how to calm a crying baby. And and then I get to the point of like, maybe she just doesn't like me. Like, maybe I did something to her when she was inside me and now she's retaliating. Like I'm assigning all of these adult motives

to this like two day old that's in my arms. You're like hormonal, you're sleep deprived. You're like just trying to rationalize.

I'm a hot mess.

Aren't we all? Like you're trying to rationalize anything in this season. Like why is this going the way that it is? And like even, I don't know if you did this, which I'm a little embarrassed to admit, but like I was so like prone to hearing stories in the news of that, like with babies, like this baby died of SIDS and all of these things. And there was there was fear. So you have like, man, my baby won't stop crying. I so badly want them to sleep. Please sleep through the night. Or you please don't.

Yeah, because you might.

Yeah.

Yeah. And I remember Google searching of like, my baby has this. What could be wrong? And it's like all of these horrible things leading up to death and I'm like, oh, yeah, that's just scary

Yeah, you're like, please please sleep. But yet no, I'm gonna stay up all night and stare at you I'm gonna sure that you're breathing and like this cycle continues like hmm. You're sleep-deprived your child is Fussing you don't know how to help them breastfeeding. Isn't what you thought it would be. Oh, yeah, and Even when they do sleep, you can't sleep. I know that we joke about this, but people say, sleep when the baby sleeps.

I tried. By the time I would fall asleep and be like, okay, she's fine, go to sleep, like five minutes into the nap, she would wake up and cry.

I'm like, I would have been better off if I just didn't sleep. Yeah. And then not to mention all the other things you have to do. Like you're out of, you know, sleep sacks. You're out of just clothes for them.

They have blown out poop out of all of their onesies and so now they're just wrapped in a blanket because there's no clean laundry.

Well, and one thing, one way like I love the internet is that we can all joke about how obnoxious that statement is because, you know, people and memes will say like, you know, sleep when the baby sleeps. Okay, fine. I'll do laundry when the baby does laundry and I'll vacuum when the baby vacuums. So it's hard. So I want to acknowledge for that mom that this is hard. Your body feels foreign. This new life is different. This baby, you don't know this baby. I mean, you have to learn a whole new person and it is hard. So I want to just acknowledge how hard it is.

And I think the listener was saying also she felt guilty that her mom came to help her. And I really resonate with that because I love to be independent. I am prideful in the fact that I can say I did that by myself without help, except from my husband. And so to have like my mom or my mother-in-law's amazing, like order different people from church, like when they would offer to do things for me, I'd be like, oh no, I got it. And then at night I'd be like hysterically crying and my husband's like, honey, why don't you ask for help?

I'm like, I did, and then I told him no and I want to do it myself and figure this all out.

And that to me, I felt like asking for help

meant I was failing.

Yeah.

And it's not.

No, no, and I don't know if this is a Christian culture or like a West Michigan culture, but even like I've been at churches where I've heard messages that say basically Christians don't ask for help, Christians only give help. And I think that that is very wrong. I think, you know, God opposes the proud, he opposes pride in general,

and it's humbling to ask for help, right? It is so much harder for me to be the person that asks for help than for me to be the person that gives help. I would like 100,000 million percent rather be the person that can come alongside somebody else and help them.

Of course.

Than be the person that is asking for help.

Of course.

Because it feels horrid.

Because I think sometimes we equate asking for help with weak.

Yeah.

But it takes a lot more courage to ask for help, in my opinion. And so I want to just tell this listener, it's okay to ask for help.

Absolutely.

It is a good thing. That's why God calls us to Christian community. And I also want to just encourage them that it's a sign of humility, which is good. And we should want that. And that also, maybe in the future when they're a mother-in-law, if they have a daughter, that being on the receiving end of getting help will help them to be a better helper or giver, right? Sometimes you don't know what people need unless you've been through it. Yeah. Or you're like, wow, I would have never thought to do this. But somebody I know did this for me when I had a newborn. And I'm going to do that for other people, because that meant a lot to me to receive that help. So I just want to encourage them in that and to not feel guilty that their mom had to be there. I know she also mentioned that she couldn't or she didn't connect with her child till the three month stage. And I can relate to that. My parents stayed probably way too long. They stayed for like four or six weeks after I had my firstborn, which was great. Again, I felt bad that they were there helping me, but I needed them. But it got to the point where I'm like, oh, no, can I do it alone? And having their help there, I didn't hold them as much and all of those things. So it was, yeah, he's probably close to two months old before I felt that, before I felt those mom instincts and felt like I had a personal bond and connection with him. And there was a guilt of like, oh man, I went two months, like I missed it, you know. But in the span of their lives, that is such a short, short time and you will have a connection and a bond with them for much longer. So it's okay to bond with them when they're three months old. You're still a good mom.

Yeah. And I think as you were talking, you had said that, you know, it's a sign of weakness. Well, in all honesty, after you give birth, you are weak. Like God designed the process of childbirth and, you know, sin came in and so it's not exactly as God designed but it doesn't surprise God that your body has gone through growing another human being and then delivering that child into the world like of course you're gonna be weak after that. Why do I have the expectation that I'm gonna just jump up out of the labor bed and carry on and do all of this stuff for me that is such an unrealistic expectation and I I wonder if that period after having a newborn is supposed to in some ways possibly point us to Sabbath rest to remind us that you're not in control. You need other people. You need the Lord more and more and it's in our weakness and in those moments that we have to finally admit I can't do it on my own. I need help. God, I need you. I don't know what I'm doing, this child is ultimately the Lord's, that he has entrusted us as moms to take care of, to nurture physically, spiritually, and emotionally. And so I think in those moments what I wish I would have realized is that God is trying to teach me that I need to be looking to the Lord for my help rather than trying to be self-sufficient, which

is 100% what I was trying to do. Yeah, and that actually, this thought popped up into my head. I hope it's like a well thought out thought. But you know, Christ came as a baby. What do babies do for themselves?

Nothing.

They cry, and they poop, and they sleep. Exactly. They need help in every way. And we, like, you know, you hear Christ humbled himself and came down as a baby. And so I think to look at it like that, that it is good for us as Christians and believers to humble ourselves and to be weak, to not be able to do anything, like you said, to relinquish that control and that pride. And yeah, so in moments of weakness, to instead of dwell on, I can't do it, why am I this way? Why am I failing at this? But to be like, I get to, I get to model Christ in this in a sense.

Yeah.

Which is very different than how the world thinks of it. I mean, you know, talking about your identity here for a second. So what does the world say your identity is in? The world will say your identity is what you contribute to society, how much money you have, are you sufficient? Can you take care of yourself or do you need other people to take care of you. You know, the Christian life is completely opposite of that. You know, the Christian life is realizing I can't do anything myself. I can't save myself from sin but God you can. So I'm relying on you and putting my faith and my trust in you for my salvation. You know, that's crazy. That's really hard. Or to, you know, to even talk a second about like the newborn. Like we believe a life is a life from the moment of conception because they are made in God's image, not because of what they can bring to society or what they can contribute, but it's not what you do, but it's who you are. And so you take that and you apply that to that newborn stage of you as a mom feeling like you're worthless because you can't do things for yourself. Well, that's not what your identity is in. Your identity is in Christ and you are now, because you have a child, you're carrying out that commission to be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth with these children and with these Christ followers. Like that is a beautiful thing that you are doing. And so often I think the world or specifically the enemy or even sometimes our sinful nature will try to discourage us from that.

And that's not helpful. Yeah, absolutely. And even if you're the mom, I think we've talked about this, which I need to talk about this, because there was times in the newborn stage where I just didn't like it. And it depended on the child for me, right? And this is supposed to be something that, just soak them up, and they're so little, and aren't you loving every moment of this? You know, I don't know how many church women have told me that, and there's times that I'm like, no.

I'm not.

I mean, this is the hardest season of my life to date. I'm in an adult diaper and I'm at church and I'm feeding this baby that won't stop crying. Yes, I love it. It's hard. I do love it, but I don't like it. And that's okay to feel that way. I needed to hear that. Or at least that it was normal.

Yeah, we think that because it's hard, it means it's bad. Or that because we don't love every second of it, we're being a bad mom. Well, the reality is that we live in a sinful, fallen, broken world. And so this beautiful thing that God has designed is tainted by sin. And we see that, I think, in a very clear way in the newborn stage. That all of these things that are God's will, they are beautiful, but yet they are tainted with sin. And so, of course, we're not going to love every moment because, you know, it's broken.

Yeah.

And so that shouldn't come as a surprise. And I don't think as a mom, you need to feel guilty because you're not loving every moment because we're not really supposed to love sin. We're supposed to hate sin. We're supposed to see that things are not the way that God designed them. And we're supposed to grieve for him and want him to come back and to have that longing. And I think in the newborn stage, we can see that. Yeah, can you imagine what it would have been like to have a newborn pre-fall? Like child labor?

You sneeze and the baby's born and there's no blood and I don't even know.

You're just like, you're not even exhausted from giving birth and you just hold your precious baby and...

They nurse perfectly. Yeah. You don't have to worry about them dying. No, I mean, that's the way God designed it, right?

Exactly.

You didn't, you didn't have to worry about dying in child labor or any of those things and there was no sinfulness and you or your partner and you were surrounded by, I don't know, everything was perfect. Like I can't imagine that. So yeah, I love what you said, what you had said is that we shouldn't always like, right, like post fall, we shouldn't, right? It should be uncomfortable. Maybe that's the word I'm looking for is that, yeah, this should be uncomfortable because this is not the way it was supposed to be. Yeah.

Okay, I don't know if you struggled with this, but this was something that our listener didn't mention, but I really struggled with, so I'm guessing I'm not alone. I really struggled whenever I sat my daughter down or like laid her down. And so I felt like, you know, whether she was asleep or awake, anytime I put her down, I would feel so guilty. And I think I a lot of moms struggle with that part of my struggle What specifically played into it is we had a miscarriage and so our first pregnancy I never got to meet my baby And so whenever I would set my firstborn down then I would have that voice in the back of my head saying well How come you're not wanting to spend time with her? How come you're sending her down? You never got this chance with your first child. So why are you willingly giving this up, you know, with your second child? You are a horrible mom because you sat her down. Did you feel guilty when you would set your baby down?

I struggled with that a ton. Like I remember holding Levi, my oldest, for naps constantly. Like I don't think he slept in a crib, but part of that was this fear of missing out or just having other moms say, you're gonna miss this and you know, you're going to look back and wish you had this back and kind of this fear, like it was this tension, right? Like the newborn stage was so hard that I wish they would hurry up and grow up a little bit. But then this guilt that I feel that way and guilt that I wish they would never grow up because I was scared I was going to like miss out on this big thing. And it is a great thing. But I wish I would have told my younger self that, you know, the one year old and the two year old and the three year old, those are all just as sweet. You know, it's okay to put your baby down. And with you, right? Like, I feel like the enemy was using something that was so heartbreaking, so raw to guilt you into feeling like a bad mom. Yeah. When in reality, moms can't hold their children 24 seven. No. And I think, you know, looking back at it, I can kind of see how ridiculous that was, but I was so like blinded by just being in the thick of the newborn stage and still processing and I mean, I still process and deal with the grief of losing my firstborn, but I think with time it just changes the way you're grieving or processing. But at that point, it was still very raw and painful. Not that it's not now, I think you know what I'm saying. Yeah.

Um, but in that moment, I was just so vulnerable to the enemy's attacks and I just, I was so weak. I was hired and, and so I wish I could have looked at that and said, that's ridiculous. Part of motherhood is learning balance. You, you know, if all you did all day long was sit and hold your baby, that's beautiful. but also like there's other roles that we have as well. Like managing your house, you know, if you never do the dishes, you don't have things to eat on. If you never make the food, you would starve. If you never cleaned up the house, you know, not that it ever has to be immaculate, but there's just balance that I needed to learn. And that was very skewed for me in the newborn stage.

Yeah, absolutely. And I don't know if this is helpful, but I wish I could go back and tell myself just one day at a time. You know, like, man, yeah, like, don't look back, right? Because like, like, maybe this listener is looking back and like, oh, I didn't bond with my baby or, or my baby was so hard, I couldn't even enjoy them. Just take today. You know, don't look to the future. Like what am I going to do when they're grown ups? No, it's not helpful. Just, just focus on today as a mom with a newborn. Maybe that's one hour. Maybe that's every 20 minutes when, you know, if you're feeding or who knows. But yeah, just one day at a time.

I wonder if that's part of, you know, in the Lord's Prayer, you know, where Jesus teaches you to pray, you know, give us this day our daily bread. And I wonder if part of the newborn stage, that's what it means of, God, please give me what I need to get through today. And that's what we're sometimes called to do Yes, we get big-picture motherhood, but sometimes we have to just focus on that day and God What are you calling me to do today? Because if you start focusing on tomorrow and the day after that it's too much and we can't handle it in some seasons

Yeah, I love that I love that you brought up the Lord's Prayer cuz that's applicable and I mean everyday life, but to put it to that stage where you're sleep deprived. And like you said, vulnerable to the enemy's attacks we are, because we're not rational when we don't sleep. That's not God designed us to sleep. But yeah, God, give us what I need for today. I'll worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. But give me what I need today. So I love that. I wish I would have, I wish I would have done that. I didn't.

So yeah.

I think kind of going back, because I know our listener had said she really struggled with people coming and helping. I know we've kind of talked about that before, but I just wanted to kind of circle back to that and just to give like just a very biblical like that Christian community is what God designed us for, right? We were never supposed to be off on our own by ourselves. You know, it's the Christians that we have around us that can encourage us and strengthen you and it makes me think of like the Titus 2 passage where it talks about older women instructing your younger women on how to live and part of that list is how to like honor and love your husband and your kids. And so in that newborn stage you need so much wisdom from older moms that have been there and done that that can encourage you.

So is the lie that we believe is that we should just become moms and know how to do that? Or like we should just be married women and just know how to do it? I think so. But Titus says that you were supposed to learn. Yeah. But we don't get it. So there's there's like a double call. Yeah. Right. Like older women are supposed to come alongside younger women and teach them which to be teaching you have to be open and teachable. Right. So the call is older women come alongside, have that Christian community, help these moms in the newborn stage. But then, and this is what I really needed to hear, mom of a newborn, you have to be receptive to that and allow them to teach you and allow that help to be given to you.

If it doesn't go both ways, it's not gonna work.

I feel like I need that now.

That's definitely not like just a newborn stage,

but I think in that aspect for me, that's what I, if I had a time machine and I could go back and talk to myself, because honestly, my two biggest mom guilt in the newborn stage were studying my child down and feeling like a failure if I needed or received help. Those were my two biggest things. And so for me to know, like, no, you're actually following God's will of what it means to be a Christian woman by getting help from an older woman.

Yeah.

And not even older age, but even like maturity wise or somebody that's as mature as you. I mean, like I think just getting help in general and being receptive to that is part of the Christian life. Yeah. And maybe you're a mom who doesn't have their mom in their life or doesn't have a mother figure. You can get that from other women who can do that for you. So I know there's kind of that tension of like, it is easy when it's your mom, right? Because they birthed you and they've seen everything.

All the ugly.

It's easier. But there are other moms who are older, maybe their children are grown, that would, I guarantee would love to come alongside younger moms and be that mother figure for them. And it's okay to allow it, like you said.

Yeah.

You can take the mask off of what we think a perfect Christian is supposed to look like and just be real and open because that's what a Christian is, a person that needs a savior. You know, I don't know why we constantly feel the need to hide our sin, like it's been paid for. It's obviously like the Bible all over the place, shouts from the rooftops, like, hey, all humans are sinful, you're born into sin, which means we're not gonna have it all together and we need help. Yeah. So I think it's very silly in some ways

to all act like we don't need help. Yeah. Almost like, you know, how, how much does it glorify the Lord when we call on Him for help, right? Yeah. And so to practice that, you know, call on the

Lord for help in everything, but also others like if I could just interrupt, our newborns are not scared to do. No, they're not timid or scared at all to cry out for help. In the Bible, I mean, doesn't it say that we're to have the faith of a young child? I'm wondering if that's possibly part of that. As we always think, oh, children are just so like full on believe everything, but children also aren't scared to ask for help. Yeah. And sometimes to the great frustration of mom.

They're not scared to be looked down as like weak or, you know, they know that they are. They know that they need someone bigger like the Lord, right? I mean, we're not God, but you see the imagery. Yeah. I think that's so true, but in today's world, we want to do it all. We want to be it all. And don't you dare ever pretend that you can't, you know?

Yeah.

So I think as we close our time down here together, we want you to remember this listener, that to remember that the newborn stage is really hard and you not having it all figured out is okay. Asking for help and receiving help is not only okay, but as we talked about, it's good and it's God's design. So you can live your life unburdened by the skill, knowing that admitting that you don't have everything figured out drives you closer to our God who does. And asking for help doesn't make you a failure, it makes you a faithful follower of Jesus Christ who is living in God's good design for Christian community. Until next time, see you later. Bye. We really want to hear from you, listener, if you would be able to email us ways that you are struggling with mom guilt so that we can speak specifically to those topics, we would love to hear from you. If you could email us at momguiltpodcast at gmail.com, we will respond to that and we will, if it's okay with you, read that email on a podcast and specifically address those questions or those topics that you really would like us to speak to. really would like us to speak to.

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