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Navigating Jealousy and Finding Joy in Relationships
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What happens when jealousy and insecurity creep into your relationship? Join us as we uncover the complexities of these toxic traits through our own personal stories. We confront suspicions and share strategies for addressing sensitive issues with tact and timing. Privacy and the frustration of nosy intrusions also take center stage, revealing how critical these elements are in preserving significant moments.
We then shift our focus to the balancing act of responsibilities within relationships, emphasizing the necessity of self-care and mutual respect. Dive into our discussion about the emotional toll of unreciprocated energy and how simple gestures of thoughtfulness can transform your relational dynamics. We challenge traditional gender roles and highlight the importance of equality, sharing our experiences on finding joy in the small, everyday moments amidst life's inevitable ups and downs.
Reflecting on our childhood, we recount the impact of strict parenting, missed opportunities in sports, and the fear that stifled our openness. Hear about the contrasting experiences of sneaking friends in versus having parental approval and a life-changing piece of advice that shattered shyness in elementary school. Ending on a light-hearted note, we share a funny story about oversleeping after a fun night, exemplifying the delicate balance between discipline and enjoyment. Plus, get a peek into our recent spontaneous adventures, including a postponed bonfire and insights into our content creation process.
Toxic Traits and Embarrassing Moments
Speaker 1I'm going to go to the bathroom . That was good . Anyway , I don't know , it's too early . It's too early . It's five o'clock somewhere . It's never yet . It's never too early . It's five o'clock somewhere for April . Anywho . Anywho .
Speaker 1Do you think your jacket's a ? It's good , it's not bad . Do you think your jacket's a toxic mess ? Yeah , I think your drug is a toxic man . I can smell it . Don't smell it . She's crazy , you guys .
Speaker 1I feel like , yeah , because toxic men . I feel like , yeah , because toxic men know how to . I feel like they know how to treat somebody , even though they're toxic . I guess , like other than being toxic . It depends Because some show you affection and still be the way they are . So basically , they'll still show the role of a man , but they will do traits that are toxic . Yeah , so in a way , everybody's toxic .
Speaker 1I'm not trying to be toxic anymore . You're not trying to be toxic , no more . You would consider yourself toxic . I used to be . Yeah , just the way . Whoa , what was toxic about you ? Yeah , just the way . What ? What was toxic about you ?
Speaker 1Um , being jealous , insecure , like . Do you think having jealousy ? Oh , no , you can keep going . No , it's okay , I would say . Do you think being jealous in a relationship is a bad thing . Like to a certain extent , though , yeah , like , yes . Like , say , if you're like significant other , would you assume that they're doing something ? Um , how do you like it depends how they do it , like , how they go about it like , oh yeah , so this is what you're like , making it seem like a little scenario . Okay , so , like one time , okay , I did it before . So , like , um , I would go tell my boyfriend and be like , oh so , oh , you're texting this bitch , huh , and her time he not texting nobody . I'm just trying to see if he , you know , gonna admit to it . But you know that's toxic , you know , trying to just like make something up , wait , so whole time was he , I just made it up so he could admit to it . But did he admit to it ? No , but the one time he did was sex and a bitch , and I did find out . I synced it and he deleted it and I pulled up to his shit and I said bitch , go . Oh , my God , wait , okay .
Speaker 1So when you find stuff out , like , how do you go about it ? Do you address it at the moment ? Or like , what do you do At the motherfucker as soon as I find something out and I'm feeling that way , girl there , and then it's no thinking and it's yeah there , and then she's getting handled . Damn Girl . How would you feel , girl , if you find something out ? It just depends , cause it's like what if you're not Like ? It depends what it is . What are you seeing ? Let's hang out together . If we're together , yeah , and then I see some shit . Yeah , then I'm saying some shit , some shit , but it depends what's going on All in that day , because if we were supposed to go out and go do some shit , I'm gonna feel bad because I'm like I'm gonna have a bad day If I have to say some shit right now .
Speaker 1Nah , I'm not gonna say it . Story time no , we'll be coming with y'all with a story time . We have a lot of them . So a little story time . It was my birthday and some stuff happened and time . It was my birthday , yeah , and some stuff happened and it kind of ruined my birthday . But like you know how there's certain things that like will fuck you up , say , like your parents would just ruin your whole mood for the whole day . And it was just like certain things , like some stuff will happen , and you're just like that just ruins my whole day . So I like , if I like , if I do know something , I probably wouldn't . If it's like an occasion , I would probably save it for later . It's like a time and place for certain things . So I'm like a time and place , like if I find some shit out and we're at a party , I'm not gonna cause a scene like that's nobody's business , girl .
Speaker 1Why did somebody do that to me , though , like he caused the scene . Oh , and in front of everybody . I'm a type of person like wait until like nobody . Wait until it's the right time , time , yeah , why all these people here don't talk to me about it and have you looking dumb ? Yeah , just like the whole situation because , like everybody's in your business , like someone had texted me because I had got back with my ex , but they texted me . It's like oh , I'm happy for you guys , but what happened ? Like that's none of your guys's business , right , that's what I guess ? I guess like anybody , yeah , to like , just ask me . So I was just like um , tmi , right , like , that's all I said was TMI . And then they're like oh , not to be in your business . But I'm like but , yeah , I was like not to be rude , but For you to have an opinion based on our relationship because of what we had going on isn't entitled to anyone else but us . And for somebody to just want to be in your business like bitch , you're weird . I'll fight you , girl .
Speaker 1What happened to your leg ? Which one Girl work ? And then you trying to have me work there ? Girl , look at my legs . They're a little hairy , but what the fuck happened right here that's my elbow . Um , yeah , that's what the torch did . Y'all , leslie would probably put it up here , but I burnt my mother . She literally obliterated her whole freaking window and she just got the car and yeah , I don't know how that happened . I'm gonna diy it and make a brand new like , like with the acrylic nail polish , like the acrylic nail thing . I kid you not , guys . She really just obliterated her whole dashboard like with a torch and didn't even I don't even know how she left it on . I don't know . I was like you know what , and then the bitch was gone , just burning . It was just burning .
Speaker 1Have you ever had someone cause a scene ? I have , but like , like what you mean ? Cause a scene , like in a situation where they made it overly dramatic than what it had to be , rather if it was friends or something , because I know when you had to fight them two people that was like you know what I mean , like just having a Make it bigger than what it actually was . It could have been so simple , but , yeah , it could have been so simple . But you know , I mean , yeah , now , looking back at it , I did fight two people y'all , and I was going crazy back then . But now that I look at it , girl , your mic is not even where it needs to be . Sorry , girl , because I'm trying to like the look , what's it called ? Like ? Looking back at it , what's it called ? Like ? I regret doing what I did .
Speaker 1You know , fighting and just being angry is not the right option . Y'all . Always think about things before you go do it . Even though you probably like heat it at the top of the moment , you know Well , when it comes to like a nigga doing some shit and you find out there and then and he or you go do some shit . But when it comes to like family or friends or anything , think about it , okay . So it's only okay to cause a scene if it's your dude . Yeah , because it's like you , my nigga , why you embarrassing me doing some shit ? You know that you shouldn't be doing . So you think it's okay to be like , yeah , I'm gonna embarrass you too now , no , just end it there . And how they do me . Girl , that also plays in a row because it's like , dang , I don't want to hurt you so I'm not gonna do it . But if you somebody that okay this , what the fuck I got you back ? You know , it depends , it does depend .
Speaker 1It feels really good outside y'all . I'm kind of glad we did this podcast outside and yeah y'all , nothing better than the last . I have a dream right , and leslie's gonna help me achieve it because she's gonna be my cameraman . Dude , yesterday I had my lighter fell right through the fucking floor , not the fudging , but anyway I forgot to introduce this podcast . It's prime example podcast . This is leslie , your host , and this is my guest , abril , aka my bestie , my bestie , miss miss westy . She was really no , because then I get copyrighted . Anything is copyrighted now , really , but what I feel like okay .
Speaker 1So this year , what do you think it has taught you so far ? For me , I feel like it's your money . Oh , my gosh , girl , what ? Yeah , I mean no , but for you it was what , for me it was what , okay . So for me it's acceptance and appreciation for what it is . To be honest , I feel like , since I turned 21 , like I feel like now that you're newly 21 , for some reason , like I feel like my mindset's not the same , like whatever I had back then after a week yeah , it's only been a week , yeah , literally , and I feel like I realized a lot , because , I don't know , I just yeah , I feel like my mind just expanded . I don't want the same shit . I want like that I've had back then because , like I don't know , I went through so much , so it's like I don't want to go through that shit again . I have lip gloss on , so it's okay . Yeah , my bad , um , yeah , actually has taught me a lot . You know , not to give a fuck . So , because you're 21 for real 21 ? I'm on my own for real , yeah , and I'm on my own for real
Balancing Responsibilities in Relationships
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Speaker 1Like people really don't care about how you feel . They really don't . You have to care for how you feel . Oh my gosh , I mean I'm on the team . I don't give a fudge either , but it's the fact that you know other people don't , yeah , yeah , other people don't , and it's not like they don't , it's just like they don't respect how you feel based off what they're doing , and I get , do what you have to do , what makes you happy , but I'm happy for whatever they do that makes them happy . But it's like , yeah , me too .
Speaker 1But it's like , don't talk to me if you know you're not in the right place with yourself , like why I waste my time and trying to , like I give my energy out to you . Yeah , my energy is amazing . My energy is amazing . When I give it out , it's like damn . And for you to not talk to me the next day it's like damn , it's draining . You just took my energy and you ran away with it . Now you got my energy ran away with it . Ran away with it , girl , this speech impediment is crazy .
Speaker 1Yeah , because it's like I want to say like I not give myself , but like I give , like me , like my personality to people , like so you give your all , like my happiness , like my energy , like that's also a good thing because energy passes . Yeah , that's how like , that's how I feel , like I give , like my vibe is raw , like my girl I've been feeling like girl . I'm like , so I'm like if I talk to somebody and I'm giving you my energy , my time , like it mean a lot to me , because it's like I'm giving it to you , you're taking it , you become like a better person from what I'm giving you and showing you . Yeah , that's what I've seen a lot from what I'm giving you and showing you . Yeah , that's what I've seen a lot from people .
Speaker 1And it's like damn for you to after that you take that from me and stop talking to me . It's like damn , like take it for granted . Yeah , that's why I say of appreciation . But just because , like the little things when you do lose something and you're like damn appreciating while you have it , yeah , yeah , definitely . Yeah , just because the moments like it's always gonna be ups and downs and then , like , when you up , make sure you appreciate that because there's gonna be more downs than ups , that's . And I heard I fucking heard that I heard that there's really always more downs and ups and that's why I'd be like , you know , it's the simple things that make me happy now . So it's like the little things .
Speaker 1I'm starting to learn how to be happy for the little things because , like , I'm so used to something up where I'm like anything that I'm giving nice , I think it's like a lie . Yeah , like , oh , you just got me some new shoes . No , bro , no , you're doing something . You're doing something like you're trying to bribe me or something like I think it's a setup . You're out because , see , I broke a . So when somebody give me something , I'll take that shit real quick . Yeah , thank you . No questions asked , I don't give a fuck .
Speaker 1The thing is like to me , it's not about the money , it's not To me , oh , my God , my ex . He's like oh , all you want is money . No , all I wanted was to be thought of , like , just the thought of Like . Thought of like , just the thought of like . That's it like . Okay , so the when I feel like what I'm getting out of , getting the thought of when she means if a girl's coming to you like I just want to be thought about , like , treated the way I treat you if I'm going to the store , you could hit me up like oh , do you want anything ? Right , thinking about me , it's like a little thinking about me . Oh , the the dishes is there . She just got out of work . You know , let me do the dishes because I'm thinking about you know , thinking I don't want you to overwork . Then you're already overworking , right , you know , like shit , that I will do for you . You know like , oh yeah , he just got out of work , let me go make you a meal , you know , yeah , it should be a balance between the two , especially since it's like a 50 50 type of relationship nowadays .
Speaker 1You have to do the other part too . It's not just based off the woman . The woman can cook just as much as you can , yeah , but now , yeah , that's just like you can't really . Yeah , I was right . My mom , yeah , my mom was raised like . She raised us like to cook and clean and shit . But that comes naturally , yeah , over time . Now it's like you have to develop .
Speaker 1Yeah , when it's just to do those things too , right , when it's just me and you , it's like if I'm , I'm caring for you , care for me too . Like don't let me do everything , because I already come with my own money . So it's like I feel like I'm a mom . If I'm caring for you , what the fuck ? It's not even that you're a mom . It's okay to do those things .
Speaker 1But I think to a certain extent , like if you're working just as much , you shouldn't have to take your time out the day to go . I mean , I do it anyway . If I already do my job , I already cook and clean for myself and wash my dishes , everything , and if I'm doing that for someone else and I'm working on top of that , if a man's supposed to be a provider , okay , you can provide , but I come with my own money too . So it's like you don't have to do that part as much . Now , in day and age , you can't make enough for one person to only work . It's it's more than capable , but at our age we won't make that much . To take care of two people right , it has to be two for a team , so we all have to contribute to the household just as much .
Speaker 1Yeah , maybe you don't like washing clothes . Okay , I'll wash other clothes . Okay , you cook one time a week ? I could cook two times a week if I'm working a certain amount of hours . No , it just has to be a certain balance . Like if I work three days and my dude works five days , okay , I'll cook most of the time , and it's you know what I mean . Yeah , it's who you , who you're with , because the nigga I was like he was lazy , like he didn't work , he was at home playing the game all day . That's why I was irritated , mad . He's like he never thought about me and then you just worked . Yeah , so I'm like , and I come home , so you're basically being a mom . Yeah , that's what I yeah , I will come home , have to do the dishes I cook for us so we can eat . I'll clean , dish , wash dishes , and you guys had no kids . Yeah , no kids at all . No , so no kids .
Speaker 1He was more than capable of working if there was a vehicle . And me personally , if I have no car , I'm walking . If I feel that's why I can't be with someone that doesn't have the same dedication as me , because if I have no car , I'm walking , if I feel that's why I can't be with someone that doesn't have the same dedication as me , because if I didn't have a car , I'll drive to . I wouldn't even drive to work . I'll ask for rides . I'll get a bike , I'll walk . Yeah , and I have done that . So , not even that .
Speaker 1He was picky about working wherever . Like I said , get you a fast food , rest like you know anything . Anything , you know anything . Money is money . I'll work under the table if I have money under under the table , yeah , but like money is money when I , like y'all , make money . However , money's money y'all . I agree , my dad , my dad , got a job , but when he's not working , he be scrapping . So money's money , money is money , and then they be collecting cans too . Yeah , my dad said money's on the floor y'all , and he not lying . So I think within like months I don't ever pick up money anymore .
Speaker 1Like remember that one time we were walking down the street there was a dollar on the floor ? I didn't pick it up because I was like I don't know what's on it . Nowadays I can't even trust to pick up money on the floor just because people say that they put drugs on it . Yeah , and it's dirty money like it's been on the floor . People's on it . Nowadays I can't even trust to pick up money on the floor Just because people say that they put drugs on it and it's dirty money Like it's been on the floor . People stepped on it , people step on it . Bro , with my shoes I work in a residence like nursing home , so like there's shit sometimes getting on the floor and there's like piss all over the floor .
Speaker 1You're going to imagine yeah , no , I'm good , I leave the dollar on the floor , I leave pennies on the floor , like all that shit . Like I don't , I don't know , I just can't do it anymore . Back in the day my mom used to have let's call that shit up , I'm her mom . Now it's not even worth it . Yeah , life be lifin' . Life be lifin' . Damn , I need to eat something .
Speaker 1It's already 2 o'clock . I woke up a little earlier , like 11 . I haven't ate . I still need to eat . I'm working on my diet . That's my problem , I feel .
Speaker 1So what do you think you have trouble with ? You think , based on your emotions , do you eat a lot , more or less ? Um , if I'm feeling some type of way , I'll eat less because it's like I'm feeling some type of way . I don't , I don't have to . Are you the type , are you the type , to get mad and then be like I'm not hungry , no more . Um , it depends , because if I'm really hungry , then no , like , I'm mad and I eat . I'm like I'm gonna , I'm still eating , but it depends like , like , if it depends , like if my stomachs like sink because like something's going to go on , like I want to eat Because I'll be like damn , I just lost my appetite , because that be happening to me , I'll be like damn , I'm going to go see this nigga Bruh . I don't know . Yeah , um , okay , so we played sports . I don't know . Yeah , um , okay , so we played sports .
Speaker 1What's the Funniest moment in like the you had In experience In the game ? I got hit in the ball in my face For real yes , with the volleyball , and I'm pretty sure my glasses fell off . I was like , ah , in front of everybody . I was going to say , bruh , not that you weren't ready , no , but one time when the ball was going , I ran , I kept running and I hit a wall because I thought the wall kept going . I look stupid . That's funny . Hey , that's funny as hell . I love sports , but I love volleyball
Childhood Memories and Growing Up
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Speaker 1I think you would have been really good at softball . You never played and I was so mad I never played it . I'm so me too , I , low-key , wish I played sports , low-key y'all . April could have been really better at sports , more than she thought she was , and she didn't want to play for who knows why , because she was weird it you only .
Speaker 1And then you think about , like everything , do as much as you can , y'all , and tell y'all , when y'all have kids , tell y'all kids to do as much as they can , because I'm gonna force them yeah , I don't know why my mom didn't force us like to just be out there , just to go play and have fun . Yeah , like you go , and then it's like being forced , because I feel like we both was in the position we had to grow fast . Yeah , so it's like you being forced to grow up and then you get older , you want to experience all the fun , just because , like you didn't have the money , you didn't have the like and you wasn't able to . Back then , like when we was young , like , and then April , could you not , april , come to my house ? And my mom , she would ask , like I think she only ever went to my house twice once . She was like , can she come outside ? She said no , I would . Yeah , my mom would never let me outside the house .
Speaker 1And as soon as I turned a certain age and I bought my own vehicle , I thought she was outside . I thought it was like unstoppable , she was . It's just like because at that point it's like you can't hit your child no more . Right , I feel like you kind of the way you raise your child . If you she kind of feared , like had a something against , like I felt the way that I couldn't open up to her Right About if I couldn't open up to her about if I did anything wrong , because I feared her reaction . Yeah , so it's like having those things and then when you grow up as a child and then you're like , dang , I'm just going to do whatever I want .
Speaker 1Yeah , because you didn't allow me to do that when I was younger , to experience those things . Like you know , oh , it's okay to do those things . No , she would scream why the ? You did that . Like you know . Boom , I'm like damn , like I would have been okay with the . You know that was wrong . Right , that it's okay , but don't do it again . Yeah , I mean I never did it again , but but next time I know what not to tell you and what to hide . Better , like it got me like to just like no , but one thing I never did was snuck anybody in the house . I did Because I stayed in the basement . No , I'm just kidding . No , actually I didn't , because at a certain age I feel like during high school , my mom like allowed me to have friends over , so like it wasn't bad because , like I think it was like my junior year , like my friends would stay the night , so it wasn't really bad . Like I had a cool experience experience , but it was like elementary . Those days are like the experience .
Speaker 1You like build character kind of , like your imagination grows . Yeah , yeah , because I agree , because when I was in elementary I was dating somebody . You know in elementary , you know you young dating . I know I never did so . I was shy , like , and being in elementary you're shy and stuff , I'm sorry , and you're shy , it's like you know . But one day this dude that I was going out with he was like you gotta stop being like that , like stop being shy . You need to like oh , so that was he really had that change in you , yeah , and from there I was just like damn . And I from there I just yeah , like was not shy , no more , I was doing my own . I wish someone told me that , yeah , and I was just like damn , okay , so I'm like I'm able to do this shit , like I don't have you felt like it triggered that little like that memory ? Yeah , like I didn't have to be shy , no more . Like he planted the seed , let me grow in , I'll paint the house . You know , he know who he is . No , he don't , but he do . He , let me know he . Let me Wait . No , he don't , let me . Something like that .
Speaker 1I don't know how you feeling on this Sunday , liz , I wanted to go to church , but April Me too Fell asleep . She didn't go to sleep until who ? April fell asleep , I was asleep , y'all . She didn't go to sleep until who knows when , six o'clock in the morning . I mean I want to sleep late too , but I still woke up . I woke up at Girl , you need to stop touching stuff . Sorry , y'all , I didn't mean to touch your stuff , yeah , but nah , I went to sleep pretty late and I still woke up . I , I went to sleep pretty late and I still woke up . I had my alarm on and everything . You didn't even set an alarm on . It was for 8 o'clock , for some reason . I had an alarm for 8 o'clock from , I think from when I had to wake up to get you . So that bitch was going off and I kept waking up . That's when I shut off , and when I called you you didn't even answer . Yeah , I don't know when the fuck you called me . That's crazy . But yeah , we didn't go , but I'm going to go Wednesday . We definitely had fun , though . Yesterday . I had fun .
Conversational Podcast on Life Experiences
Speaker 1I met Lizzy yesterday Down at the D . Ask her what she was doing down there . Y'all Ask her . Girl , this is getting cut out . We will not speak of anything . It was awesome .
Speaker 1My dad , wait . So what was she telling you then ? That we went , that I met you over there and I met Natalie over there and that we was just outside and shit , and that we was all drinking , just drinking , and that we was at the violence . And he's like , oh god , and I'm like that I wasn't drinking and driving for like I just wasn't drinking that much , like I wasn't drinking . Yeah , I sobered up real quick because like , yeah , yeah , that's another time for another story . Yeah , another day , another dollar . Yeah , yeah , damn , it's gonna be really like right outside later . Yeah , my dad wanted to do a bonfire , but I'm like he said no , I'm gonna wait because it's windy . And I'm like , yeah , that way , sway , way , let's see how much time we got . That's good .
Speaker 1So how long does the memory thing last ? Like memory , yeah , like how much I can record . It tells me how much hours I got , but I only record for like an hour each video . So then once I edit them , I delete them and it still adds them back . So it's really not bad . I just reused them and I've been reusing that one and that one has , I think , a couple more hours , but they're pretty good . Yeah , they're pretty good . Yeah , tune in , because there's gonna be so much more videos coming in and I don't know this segment really didn't .
Speaker 1Lately I've been noticing I've been taking the toll of letting my brain just go like I don't . I don't ask questions anymore by like my phone , like I used to , but now I think I want to just like talk without having an idea where it's going Right and just letting shit just go . Just go . Yeah , I feel like it will . Just God will speak through me to what needs to be put out there . Yeah , basically , yeah , I agree . Yeah , this is the segment of we're here in the balcony shooting a podcast and the next clip will probably be us in the cemetery . Yeah , yeah , all right , this was Prime Example Podcast and I was your host , leslie , with April . Yeah , besties . So yeah , hey .