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Friendships and Family: A Journey Through Life
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Can becoming a parent transform your worldview overnight? Lee, a 20-year-old Sagittarius, joins us to reveal how motherhood has reshaped her perspective on life, making her more cautious and keenly aware of her surroundings. She dives deep into the unique emotional expressions of Sagittarius men and women and shares insights into her childhood experiences and how they shape her parenting style. From comparing the strictness of her parents to discussing the nuances of public versus private schooling, this conversation is a heartfelt exploration of generational and personal growth.
Navigating adolescence as a mixed student comes with its own set of challenges, and Lee opens up about the racial perceptions and peer pressures she faced. Imagine a misunderstanding that escalated into a near-fight at school or a group of peers showing up at your house, challenging your identity and friendships. Through these stories, Lee provides a raw and honest look at the complexities of teenage social interactions, the authenticity of friendships, and the fight for social acceptance.
In the final part of our episode, we switch gears to discuss the joys and struggles of young motherhood and friendship. Lee shares candidly about the social isolation that comes with being a young mom and the importance of understanding and support from friends. We also touch on the significance of reading for personal growth and recount humorous family anecdotes that highlight the quirks and challenges of different life stages. Join us for a well-rounded conversation that spans from the trials of adolescence to the heartwarming tales of family life and personal development.
Generational Differences in Religion and Emotions
Speaker 1um , well , now that's recording fully . This is prime example podcast . I'm your host , leslie . This is my guest lee so tell me about yourself , lee um .
Speaker 2I am 20 years old . I'll be 21 in December , sagittarius , I don't know how I feel about Sagittarius .
Speaker 1I don't know if I'm I've met Sagittarius men . I don't like , I don't know about you , but I get along with the women because they show less emotion .
Speaker 2No , I've never met any Sagittarius men Like I personally . Like I don't know , I don't want to be around anyone . That's my own sign .
Speaker 1I don't want to hate my own sign oh you don't want to meet anyone just like you , no .
Speaker 2Like everybody says . Oh , sagittariuses have bad attitudes and I don't want to see the negative . You know , do you think you have a bad attitude ? I ?
Speaker 1feel like I have an attitude that depends on you know , the environment and stuff like that . I'll say because I had friends that was a Sagittarius and they were cool , they were funny Mm-hmm . But it depends what . I feel like men are more emotional .
Speaker 2Yeah .
Speaker 1But the females aren't as emotional as in Sagittarius .
Speaker 2I feel like it just depends , I don't know . I feel like before having a kid I definitely wasn't as emotional , oh okay . But after him I feel like it changed .
Speaker 1So you think a lot of your perspectives changed when you had a kid .
Speaker 2Yeah , I mean I became more like I don't know . It opened my eyes more . I guess when I had a kid , because I didn't really pay attention to the world outside , I I didn't watch the news or see like the stuff that's going on . So now that I have a kid I definitely watch for that stuff like that like so you became more what superstitious ?
Speaker 1mm-hmm , I'd be scared like that's one thing I fear that you have if I have a kid and I become one of them . Parents like OCD about like everything , like who are they coming with ? Like who are you with ? Like how many people are gonna be there ?
Speaker 2yeah , I feel like I'll definitely be one of them honestly , like when my son , when he gets a little bit older , like I don't think I'll necessarily be a parent that'll be like a hovering parent or , like you know , always worried , like y'all be worried , but I don't think I'll be yeah no . I feel like that's how my mom was okay so also you based off not doing that yeah okay , I'm gonna let me know if I need to go further down , or what okay ?
Speaker 1so growing up , did you have a strict parent life or like um .
Speaker 2So my mom ? She wasn't okay , wait right here . Yeah , that's good so your mom oh so my mom , she wasn't . She wasn't like very strict or anything . Like you know , she would like friends over and let me go places .
Speaker 1But it was always my dad that you know never trusted anything so it wasn't a thing where it's like , yeah , but ask your dad yeah , and if he didn't ? Approve .
Speaker 2You wasn't like nope but I don't know , I don't like I didn't like that .
Speaker 1You think that was an excuse , so they won't have to answer yeah like I don't want to you . No , but I don't want to be the one to be the mean parent .
Speaker 2Because my mom like she'd like go ask your dad , and then my dad would be like go ask your mom and I'm like bruh , you're a parent too Like answer .
Speaker 1Just answer the question . Is it yes or no ? Well , please be yes .
Speaker 2Like , did you grow up with like a big family ? Uh , no , so I have one . This isn't a touch here , but I would go around it so it can like just blend . Okay , yep , that's fine . Um , so I grew up with one sibling . Um , he's six years older than me , so we have really no bond at all . How do you think about that ?
Speaker 1that's good oh I hate when that happens , that's funny . Oh wait , so how many siblings you have ? Just one , oh , is it older or younger ? Older , six years older ? Oh shit , mm-hmm , that'd be a big gap difference .
Speaker 2Yep Well , because when I was in high school he was already obviously well out of high school .
Speaker 1Did he go to ?
Speaker 2college . Yeah , he went to college , he went to college .
Speaker 1He went to ut . Oh nice , pretty sure it was different , though back then , yeah , he got to go to private school .
Speaker 2I wanted to go to private school , so bad . And then I don't know , I just felt like it was like so would you send your kid to a ? Private school , well , private school life , my brother told me it wasn't even all that . So no , I guess . But if he wanted to go , yeah , but I wouldn't , you know , go out of my way , you know , to make that happen if I had a choice to go to private school ?
Speaker 1um , I don't think I would , just because the curriculars and I heard it's harder and more work yeah as enough .
Speaker 2I hated doing work see , like I just I don't know , when you go to private school , normally they're catholic schools , so you have to go to like mass and stuff like that , which I wouldn't mind , but I don't know .
Speaker 1So are you religious ?
Speaker 2No , I'm not a religious person . My family's Catholic and stuff like that , but I don't go to mass and stuff like that . I don't know , I just feel like I pray enough .
Speaker 1I pray enough in my own time , yep . Anyway , I don't know if they can see the design , but we're doing like floral .
Speaker 2Mm-hmm .
Speaker 1But yeah , that's fun . No , I grew up off the church Like I went to . I was Catholic once upon a time .
Speaker 2Mm-hmm .
Speaker 1Then I went to being like like Christian on my own right . I feel like you have to kind of grow into that and find your own way . You think your parents forced you to go to church when they did , or did they ?
Speaker 2go see um . It was mostly like my grandparents and stuff that would go like um . On my dad's side he was baptist . They were like all christians and stuff , and on my mom's side that's what they were catholic , so they never really went besides , like on christmas and like stuff like that oh wait , so is your dad's family christian ?
Speaker 1you said yeah , and did they go often ? Oh yeah , they went every week so could you tell the difference between the two and how they were raised like ? Uh , yeah , definitely yep do you think one side was way more calmer than the other ?
Speaker 2my grandma like my mom's side . That's definitely the more chiller side , the less expectations and stuff like that and when she was catholic yeah so was your dad more religious than your mom ?
Speaker 2um , I would say honestly , to be like honest , I feel like it was kind of the other way around , like my dad veered away from like a lot of things because he was forced into a lot of things as a kid . So like I feel like because it was forced upon him , you know , when he was a kid he kind of just wasn't really too religious , but it's mostly like my mom , like where she would be the more religious one than him .
Speaker 1Oh , because she kind of fell into it .
Speaker 2Mm-hmm .
Speaker 1I can see that , honestly , my mom was I feel like it's always a female- I feel like it's because maybe it's like that mother nature is like . We want you to be able to find some outweigh or outsource to cope with your feelings .
Speaker 2I feel like dads really don't express the feelings as much right at least my dad didn't yeah , no , my dad never really expressed feelings . I feel like that wasn't really a big thing in our household , like we didn't really talk about emotions , you know like , if someone died , did you guys like ever discussed it ? Or like uh , like no , not when I was a kid , like when I hit like teenage years , like I had more family members pass away that I was closer to , then we discussed it , but other than that , like nah so it wasn't really discussed unless it was brought up right .
Speaker 1I had a situation where , like stuff did happen . Like you know , you do grow up and a lot of people do get older , right ? I don know , maybe it's because our generation sees more deaths because of how long it's been . Does that make sense ?
Speaker 2I don't know .
Speaker 1Like with our parents . They probably didn't see as much because they were still that generation where they didn't have that . They were the ones to bring up the more generation , basically Right . So that's why I believe that they didn't get that much suffering . Besides , like the warship , I just found out that there was a war in 2010 , from like 2003 to 2011 , between the iraq , and here I'm like why am I just not finding this out ? I found that out at work because I forgot what happened . But the guy was like yeah , there was a war , a war . I'm like you're lying . I searched it up and it was that's crazy .
Speaker 2See , don't ever pay attention to the close one .
Speaker 1No , for real . Do you think our generation is going to lead into a war , Honestly ?
Speaker 2I don't know . I just feel like maybe I mean people in this generation are like way more reckless and you know they do a lot more crazier things , so I feel like it could be , I mean , shoot .
Speaker 1So bigger violence , Yep more definitely more violence ? Well , I feel like there has been a lot more violence in this generation .
Speaker 2Yeah , for sure , how's the tattoo feeling ? It feels fine . I feel like I need to for sure . How's the tattoo feeling ? It feels fine .
Speaker 1I feel like I need to make sure .
Speaker 2Yeah , see , the little hand part like that little leaf . It was pretty painful , but it wasn't too bad .
Speaker 1Nah , she just don't want to show the camera .
Speaker 2I've been thinking about getting something on my neck but everybody keeps telling me I'm crazy . But I just really have to commit to it .
Speaker 1Crazy that you're getting a neck tattoo or just too , money one , but it's a little bit of the same thing .
Speaker 2Yeah , kind of like just a simple fact of getting a neck tattoo .
Speaker 1You're a gangster .
Speaker 2I don't want nothing , all crazy .
Speaker 1No , but back then if you had a neck tattoo , you were , like considered a gangbanger . And now they normalize it . So it's like you're not .
Speaker 2I'm weak . That's crazy . My mom , she calls me this crazy nickname . She calls me Chua and I hate that nickname so much .
Speaker 1Wait , she's always called you that , mm-hmm . She always has called me that . What does it mean that she told you ? No , I was gonna say , they always have like some weird nicknames . I was gonna say , why did they call you lee , but your name is actually just lee , just like no , so my name's liana like my full name , but I just go by lee .
Speaker 2I don't really like my full name , but I just go by Leah .
Speaker 1I don't really like my full name . That's a nice name , though . Yeah , I've heard that is it because you just I feel like everyone doesn't . Well , I want to say everyone doesn't like their name , but I want to say I like my name .
Speaker 2We did see , I don't like my name , just because everyone has always pronounced it wrong .
Speaker 1How do people usually pronounce it ?
Speaker 2Well , since it's Liana , everybody always says Leanna or Leanne , and I just never correct them , because I just got tired of correcting people .
Speaker 1No , you just don't care .
Speaker 2No , I don't care , no more .
Speaker 1You know what ? Just call me Leanna .
Speaker 2Just call me whatever at this point .
Speaker 1I'm going to say whatever .
Speaker 2Not whatever , but .
Speaker 1Yeah , because people will be reckless .
Speaker 2Especially when I'm here in Toledo .
Speaker 1So , like in high school , what do you think you struggled with ?
Speaker 2like growing up Um well , my parents were very like strict on grades , so that , like maintaining my grades , you know , like .
Speaker 1Why you think you weren't like honors . Oh , I wasn't .
Speaker 2No I didn't feel like I was like I like a real honor roll student , like yeah , I was on the honor roll , but I struggled to be on the honor roll , like it wasn't something that came easy so okay .
Speaker 1So I remember I was debating with someone like with this um kind of topic . It was like some people are . I was like some people are blessed to be able to be given opportunities and other people aren't , so people have to work extra hard to achieve those things . And their debate was no , everyone has the same opportunity . I'm like no , I don't think that I feel like some people are blessed with more , which gives them a better push , where other people have to work harder to achieve where they want to go Right .
Speaker 2See , honestly , I feel like everybody has different opportunities . So a push . Yeah , like you know , for me I went to
Childhood Bullying and Generational Differences
Speaker 2Northwood . I was , like one of very few , like you know , mixed students .
Speaker 1Did you have like a lot of fake people ?
Speaker 2try to be your friends because of that yes , like everybody wanted to be my friend , like it was like something cool , like oh , I have a friend , like I can say the word , like I just never got it . Like and for me , like also , like I always felt like everybody thought I was such an angry person because I was black and like I don't know , I just felt like I had to was such an angry person because I was black and like I don't know , I just felt like I had to stand my ground more .
Speaker 1I don't know so did you get in a lot of fights no , not necessarily there at school . No , so what would you get in ?
Speaker 2fights . So I've been in like a few fights . One of my biggest fight this girl came to my house with like like a whole bunch of people .
Speaker 1What's your mom saying ?
Speaker 2She was out there . Yeah , my mom was out there . My mom was out there with a stick . She was holding a stick . She is so funny she was telling people to get back and I was like , well , because it was like the whole freaking school .
Speaker 1Oh , they all showed up . Yes , they were well at first .
Speaker 2They tried to get me to come to the park . This was like forever ago . I was so young . But wait , how old were you ? How all these people get a ride . This was like I was youngest . I was like like 12 . I was young , really young . And they came and I fought this girl and they wanted me to go to the park and my mom was like you're not going to the park , I'm going to try jumping Exactly .
Speaker 1I hate those type of people .
Speaker 2That was a tough day . Did you actually fight her though ? Yeah , I did fight her . I just felt like I didn't , like I don't know you didn't want to fight . I didn't want to fight because I didn't know really what the reason was . Like I just heard from everybody else it was like 60 different reasons to why she wanted to fight me I just didn't know the real reason .
Speaker 1So I didn't feel like she was from northwood uh , no , she was like from toledo um , some people do it just because they're hating . I got half of my fights I got into is because of other people , not even because of me .
Speaker 1I feel like I wasn't , well , maybe the one because the girl she was like she got mad because I was in fourth grade but I was kind of like , not like an asshole , but I was blunt , um , so I went to like so many different schools , but this girl , like when people would talk , you know how you just overhear people talking yep , so I overhear these people talking and then I transfer schools . But what they were saying was this one girl from this one school , and then they went to boys and girls club or whatever . They said that she was a hoe and I was like , oh shit , I don't know what a hoe is . I'm in fourth grade . I'm in fourth grade , not knowing what this stuff is . So I'm like , okay , I go to this new school because my cousin's like , oh , go to this school and go to school me because I only have friends . So I convinced my mom to let me transfer and once I transferred , uh , it's like it was .
Speaker 1It was like the girl that they were talking about went to that school . I was like , wait , hold on . I know you look or not look familiar , but sound familiar from what they were talking about . And I asked her do you go to Boys and Girls Club ? She's like , yeah , so , and then my cousin , my cousin being my cousin , I go and we're leaving school and we walk into her house .
Speaker 1I'm like you know that girl that she was like popular , you just know who's the person that's popular ? Because all the kids would go up to them and ask them for favors , like , oh , can you do this ? You know what I mean ? Mm-hmm . So she was one of the popular people or whatever , and for some reason my cousin wanted to be friends with her . So bad . I'm like why are you going to be friends with her ? Oh , because , oh , everyone wants to . She was a hoe . I don't know what that means , just know I heard that . And then my cousin's going to go and ask me like , oh , can I tell her that that you said that ? And I was like , uh , sure , I don't care . And I'm thinking , since it's my cousin , oh , you're not going to go really tell her . You're just asking just to say that what ?
Speaker 2No .
Speaker 1She no , she really went to go tell her . So , literally , my me the first day of school and it's not even the first day of school . It's like , oh , probably like a couple days in we're in the gym and then the girl comes up to me like , yeah , I want to fight . I'm like why you want to fight ? She's like because you called me a hoe . I'm like , well , I didn't call you a hoe , the other people called you a hoe . I was just relaying the message and I don't know if it's true , but if you're getting mad about it , it must be true . And she was mad and I'm like , honestly , I don't see really no reason to fight .
Speaker 1And everyone was like trying to hype it up because I think everyone just likes the drama , mm-hmm , and especially they're all kids like if they see , if I happen it , oh my god , let's all round up like y'all lame people love drama and that's what was really happening , and the fact that they were all rounding up with each other just don't want to have her fight me , I thought was so childish and I was over it and I was like you know , I don't want to fight and that's that . And my mom she . That's how I got embarrassed . The secondhand embarrassment , like how your mom came out the back . Were you embarrassed that she did that ?
Speaker 2Because I was doing it to her , yeah , kind of .
Speaker 1Because I was like okay , now you're pushing me , but basically my mom embarrassed me with something like that . She went up to the little girl and we're in fourth grade , we're not older so it's like she went up to the little girl and was like you better not lay your hands on my daughter . She's like or I'm going to do something . What are you going ?
Speaker 2to do to a four-year-old .
Speaker 1I'm going to hear that later . Like get bullied more because you're doing that .
Speaker 2Right . Oh , your mom's crazy . Your mom said she was going to beat me up .
Speaker 1She was like oh , so you got your mom on me . I'm like girl . That's not what happened .
Speaker 2But if you'd like to interpret that , and that's what happened and I was just like damn mom , why would you say that ? The crazy thing is is like when you're in younger grades .
Speaker 1Kids are mean like they are like , really like and I could just imagine this generation , how they are now because , like , more terms have came out and a lot of parents don't give a fuck right what their kids be saying , because now it's skipping toilet is whatever the fuck that means . Like I've been trying to figure out what that means for like the past months yeah , I don't know what that means for real . I'm hearing like my cousins say that shit . I'm like what does that mean ?
Speaker 1I wouldn't have been able to think like one day I'm gonna not gonna understand the terms that they're saying now and like they don't even understand what I'm saying now . I'm considered the old person like I'm not cool . What do you mean ? I'm not cool , I invented cool and then that makes me such a bigger limb , apparently that's funny .
Speaker 2Kids are funny like they're also they're really mean , but they're funny .
Speaker 1It's like heck , like I'm low're really mean , but they're funny as , like heck , I'm low-key , mean to my younger cousins because I'm like , well , you got to get bullied by me , so that way , if other people bully you , you can have that strength to be like well , my older cousin bullies me and I'm not scared of you .
Speaker 1So I kind of try to build that confidence in them and it's because it's funny . I don't know . Messing with kids is funny because when I was younger I used to be the yeah , no , I used to be one of the mean cousins .
Speaker 2Yeah , I was a mean cousin too . I used to make everybody do everything that . I knew I was going to get in trouble for , but didn't want to .
Speaker 1You didn't care .
Speaker 2So they did it .
Speaker 1Oh , like what .
Speaker 2I don't know . I was just that superstitious person that would like , oh , go over there and get that , so I don't have to , or I ?
Speaker 1didn't get in trouble . Yep , bro , my brother used to be like , oh , if you want to stay the night , you have to clean my room . Yeah , it's because he's the only kid that had the game system . And they were like , oh , can we go to your house and play the game ? He's like , yeah , if you clean it , yeah , if you clean my whole room . I was like uh-uh , but I was the type if you don't stay in my house , I'm gonna hit you , and it's just like , bro , I used to have to blackmail people to hang out with me . Oh my and . But those were just my cousins , but not like they all called me . But I know , when I was younger I wasn't the best cousin , but know , I feel like I'm like that because my older cousins was like that with me , like I think it was just like a generation , like pattern , like they used to make all our younger cousins fight each other , and there was a lot of us . So it's like , damn , why would y'all make us fight for their own entertainment ?
Speaker 2I just felt like the um one of those ?
Speaker 1um , what are those ? Not the Vikings , but the people that be fighting in war , not war . It's like the Renaissance and they had that little big thing and then they have people fight .
Speaker 2Yeah , like in the middle . Yeah , that's basically how it was .
Speaker 1They had us circle up with each other and then it was like they had us in a circle so none of the adults knew what we were doing . Oh my , and they would just have all the kids fight from ages like five to like ten . I'm like what the fuck ? It's a real life . Fucking duel out here . Hunger game style .
Speaker 2Yeah , hunger games I never really watched it , but I read the books .
Work, Aging, and Family Stories
Speaker 1There was books . I never read the fucking thing . I was never into reading Like I wish I was .
Speaker 2See , I want to get into reading . I feel like it would be Something good to do , you know when . Serve the community To be a good citizen , to be a better citizen Right .
Speaker 1Cause papers are Fucking going to waste For no one reading . To be a good citizen , to be a better citizen , Right . Because papers are fucking going to waste for no one reading .
Speaker 2They only really give them out for freaking nursing homes Like newspapers . I feel like that's the only place I'd see them is at my job .
Speaker 1The nursing home .
Speaker 2Mm-hmm .
Speaker 1Oh okay .
Speaker 2So , since we both work at nursing homes , what's like the most weirdest thing that happened , um , so like there's this older lady , um , and she's just very fond of like this older man at our job that he's an aide , and I just , you know , never really understood why he never really wanted to go in her room or why he wouldn't really like associate with her , he wouldn't go in there .
Speaker 2No he didn't ever want to and he was just always uncomfortable with it and we just never knew , like why , until like one day I was walking in her room and she was laying towards the door and she was rubbing her nipples .
Speaker 1Oh what .
Speaker 2And was just laying there and I was rubbing her nipples , oh what . And was just laying there and I was just like okay , so I went and told the like nursing , like facility yeah like the whoever is like there there and she's doing the same thing , like when they come in the room and she does this often . Like this is something that , like she just does yeah , this is like how old is she ?
Speaker 1is she older ? Well , she's not . I think she's like in her 70s oh okay , I'm used to having like in my um facility .
Speaker 2They're more like older , like up in their 80s and higher , yeah see , we were like more of like assisted living . Um , so we have some like really young people for like memory care and dementia and stuff like that . They're in a different building , but , um , yeah , we do pretty .
Speaker 1We start out pretty like there is some younger people there I think the youngest we might have is like a guy in the 60s , but that's because he had paralyzed from like half of his body and from work because I guess a bolt full like flew out of one of the machines and like hit him in his eye . Oh my , that's just scary . I'd be like , oh hell , no , sued for sure , especially if you lose half of your like feeling . I'd be , honestly , that's what kind of worries me , because you never know what can happen right and then just so happens to happen . So like , yeah , because I was going to change the subject , because I was going to ask you a question like say , if you was do , do you believe in if it was meant to be , it would happen , like if it was meant to be , it would be .
Speaker 1Yeah .
Speaker 2Yeah , do you .
Speaker 1Yeah . Like that's what I was going to say because , like some people believe in no , you have your own say , but I'm like no , because I think God has a time for us . Oh yeah . And if it's going to happen . It's going to be in his time not my time , right , that's understandable .
Speaker 2Yeah , I definitely agree with that . You know , I feel like there's definitely been a lot of things in my life where that you know that would be proven . You know it's not on my time ever . You know I could be ready to prosper and it could just not be the right time . God's not ready for me to go down that path yet and sometimes all you can do is agree .
Speaker 1Yeah I guess I wait , because I have no freaking choice like this guy at my job um , he's like 94 , I think , or he just turned 95 , I believe and he was like I'm ready to die . I'm like okay . He was like I'm waiting for God to reach out and say come home . I'm like , or he's going to say , go back downstairs . Oh my Dude , he's just funny because he starts singing like I don't know , it's just hilarious . Mm-mm . You ever find your kids doing ?
Speaker 2funny stuff . Well , my son like Does he not talk yet ? No , he . Well , my son like does he not talk yet ? No , he doesn't not . He doesn't say like full sentences or anything . Um , but earlier I found him like doing like a whole , like handstand on his bed . I was just confused , like how do you even know how to do that ?
Speaker 1like you're standing on your head dude , my little um cousin he's freaking riding a bike already .
Speaker 2And he's three Period . I was confused .
Speaker 1I was like , wait , I never . I didn't think . I think I learned how to ride a bike when I was like six .
Speaker 2The younger the better .
Speaker 1Yeah , I'm like yeah , but that's kind of scary .
Speaker 2People forget how to ride bikes .
Speaker 1You forgot .
Speaker 2No , people do Like that's a thing .
Speaker 1People forget how to ride bikes . Oh , I think my grandma forgot , because I tell my grandma she's like 60 . And she's talking about oh , I'm going to go ride the bike with my son . Grandma , what bike are you getting on Like you shouldn't be on any bike , but I'm like , okay , whatever . And she calls me and like I fell . I'm like Grandma , grandma , I'll buy you a bike that's lower to the ground , cuz she , you know them high-ass bikes that you can have to like sit on and like you kind of to reach and the Pedals are like so low .
Speaker 1Yeah , it's all one of them . Yeah , like now , you know , dang Well , you should not be on that bike . If I could ride a bike everywhere , I would I .
Speaker 2Wish . Oh , like there was more to do , like to see while bike riding . I feel like living in Toledo . It's kind of boring .
Speaker 1Oh , that there's not enough Scenery . I think it might depend where you go , though , too . Yeah , then again , there isn't nothing here for real . That's where my cousin left , because my cousin came from Cali and the number one excuse was I want to go back because you guys don't have fun .
Speaker 2I thought you were here to save money .
Speaker 1Man Ain't nothing correlated .
Speaker 2You gotta spend money to have fun .
Speaker 1Yeah , I was gonna say you can find stuff to do , you just gotta spend money to have fun . Yeah , I was gonna say you can find stuff to do , you just gotta have money to do it . And if you have money you can go to detroit every .
Speaker 2They have everything up there I've always wanted to go to detroit .
Speaker 1I was thinking about going up there for my 21st and you never been , or something . What nope ? That's crazy . You should try the mexican food out . It's way better than the American .
Speaker 2I've heard I need a good , some good Mexican food . I feel like around here it just depends on where you go . I don't know . I'm very wary about where I get my food from .
Speaker 1No , for real . I'll probably show you . I'll send you , like the link .
Challenges of Young Motherhood and Friendship
Speaker 1So is there anything that you wanted to say , that you ever felt the need to say ?
Speaker 2Um .
Speaker 1Like what do you mean ? Like there's something like lately that's been on your mind that you haven't been able to understand In terms without having to get in detail . But in detail . Oh , something I've been wanting to say Like struggling with basically .
Speaker 2I just feel like you know being young and you know being a mom , you know talking to people is already hard enough and having friends is hard enough , you know , because not many people want to hang out with their kid , with you and shit , so I don't know . But if you're a friend of somebody that's a young mom like reach out . I feel like Sometimes it's like really hard to be a mom at that . Still keep your friends .
Speaker 1Yes .
Speaker 2And I feel like you know you lose most of your friendships during pregnancy because you go through like all these hormones and shit , but also , at the same time , people you change , so people like don't really like who you are anymore or something like that . So I don't know , just be mindful , I don't know of that and I just feel like for me , having friends has never been like a problem . It was never a problem until I had a son and I feel like that was really the main like factor of like why people stopped inviting me out and talking to me and stuff like that .
Speaker 1But yeah , I was about to say I think most of I was just debating with my friend about that Like , if you have a kid or you decide to have a kid , don't think a lot of people are going to stick around because of that , because certain people I was like with your certain friends . You're not going to invite someone that has a kid Because , first of all , her first priorities and be her kid , not because she wants to go out and hang out with you right , and she's like no , I'll still invite her .
Speaker 1I'm like you won't , because that's not .
Speaker 2That's just logically , like it's not going to work that way because you're going to think of her kid , like , oh , she has a kid , she's probably not going to let go right that's just the first like opinion about it and the thing about me is like I'm always down to go , Like I just always feel like people don't ask me , like you said , because I have a kid , but half of the time , like I have people to watch my kid , Like you know , I got my mom and stuff , so that would never be an issue , I guess . Let me worry about that as a friend , you know , Like I don't know .
Speaker 1I get that .
Speaker 2Well , before we end this segment off , um , is there anything else you would like to conclude with that ?
Speaker 1uh , no , I don't think so well , it was nice having you . We're still gonna be finishing this tattoo for a while . So yeah , that was prime example podcast , and I was your host , leslie , and this was my guest .