Motherhood, Memories, and Making Connections

Lee shares how becoming a mother transformed her worldview, making her more aware of events happening around her and changing how she processes information and relationships.

• Growing up between Catholic and Baptist religious traditions created contrasting family dynamics
• Tattoos and their significance in changing social perceptions
• Childhood memories of family rivalries and cousin dynamics
• Stories from working in nursing homes and memorable patient interactions
• The challenges of maintaining friendships as a young mother
• How people often assume young parents aren't available for social activities
• Perspectives on generational differences in handling emotions and difficult topics
• Thoughts on whether opportunities are equally available to everyone

If you're friends with someone who's a young parent, reach out to them. It can be really isolating when friends stop inviting you places just because they assume you're too busy with your child.

Transcript

Getting to Know Lee

Speaker 2 0:02

I'm trying to do that and that shit just like works over . That's a word , and it didn't work . Anyway , I'm gonna shave your arm area and then we'll start . Okay , well , now that's recording fully . This is example podcast . I'm your host , leslie . This is my guest lee so tell me about yourself , lee um , I am 20 years old .

Speaker 3 0:59

I'll be 21 in december . Uh , sagittarius , I don't know how I feel about Sagittarius .

Speaker 2 1:05

I don't know if I'm I've met Sagittarius men . I don't like , I don't know about you , but I get along with the women because they show less emotion .

Speaker 3 1:12

No , I've never met any Sagittarius men Like I personally , like I don't know , I don't want to be around anyone . That's my own sign . I don't want to hate my own sign . Oh , you don't want to be around anyone , that's my own sign . I don't want to hate my own time , like , oh , you don't want to meet anyone , just like you . No , like everybody says , oh , sagittariuses have bad attitudes and I don't want to see the negative , you know do you think you have a bad ?

Speaker 3 1:32

attitude . I feel like I have a attitude that depends on you know , the environment and stuff like that I'll say , because I had friends , that was a sagittarius and they were cool , they were funny but it depends what I feel like men are more emotional , yeah , but the females aren't as emotional as a Sagittarius . I feel like it just depends . I don't know . I feel like before having a kid I definitely wasn't as emotional , but after him I feel like it changed so you think a lot of your perspectives changed when you had a kid .

Speaker 3 2:06

Yeah , I mean I became more like I don't know . It opened my eyes more , I guess when I had a kid , because I didn't really pay attention to the world outside . You know , I didn't watch the news or see like the stuff that's going on . So now that I have a kid I definitely watch for that , stuff like that .

Speaker 2 2:30

So you became more what superstitious ? Mm-hmm , I'd be scared like that's one thing I fear that if I have a kid and I become one of them . Parents who are OCD about everything , like who are they coming with ? Who are you with ? Like I'm never gonna be there , yeah , ocd about like everything , like who are they ? Coming with like who are ?

Speaker 3 2:46

you with like I'm never gonna be there . Yeah , I feel like I'm definitely one of them , honestly , like when my son , when he gets a little bit older , like I don't think I'll necessarily be a parent that will be like a hovering parent or , like you know , always worried , like y'all be worried , but I don't think I'll be . Yeah , I feel like that's how my mom was .

Speaker 2 3:03

Oh , so you based off my family , yeah , Okay , I'm going to let me know if I need to go further down Okay . So growing up , did you have a strict parent life or like Um , so my mom ?

Speaker 3 3:21

she wasn't Okay , wait Right here , yeah , that's good . So your mom , so my mom , she wasn't like very strict or anything Like you know , she would like friends over and let me go places . But it was always my dad that you know , never trusted anything .

Speaker 2 3:44

So it wasn't a thing where it's like , yeah , ask your dad .

Speaker 3 3:46

Yeah , mm-hmm , and if he didn't Approve you as their mom and dad , nope , but I don't know , I don't like , I didn't like that .

Speaker 2 3:55

You think that was an excuse , so they won't have to answer .

Speaker 3 3:58

Yeah , Like .

Speaker 2 3:59

I don't want to tell you no , but I don't want to be the one to be the mean parent .

Speaker 3 4:03

Well , because my mom like she'd like go ask your dad , and then my dad would be like go ask your mom . I'm like bruh , you're a parent too like answer . Just answer the question , yes or no .

Speaker 2 4:14

Well , please be yes . Like did you grow up with ? Like a big family ? Uh , no , so I have one this isn't a touch here , but I would go around it so it can like just blend okay , that's fine .

Speaker 3 4:25

So I grew up with one sibling . He's six years older than me , so we have really no bond at all . How do you think about that ?

Speaker 2 4:37

That's good . Oh , I hate when that happens . That's funny . Oh wait , so how many siblings do you have ? Just one , oh , is so how many siblings you have ?

Speaker 3 4:43

Just one .

Speaker 2 4:45

Oh , is it older or younger ?

Speaker 3 4:46

Older , six years older .

Speaker 2 4:48

Oh shit , mm-hmm , That'd be a big gap difference .

Speaker 3 4:51

Yep , Well , because when I was in high school he was already obviously well out of high school Did he go to college . Yeah , he went to college , he went to UT .

Speaker 2 5:02

Oh nice , pretty sure it was different he went to UT .

Speaker 3 5:06

Yeah , he got to go to private school . I wanted to go to private school , so bad . And then I don't know .

Speaker 2 5:12

I just felt like it was like Well , my brother told me it wasn't even all that .

Speaker 3 5:20

So no , I guess . But if he wanted to go , yeah .

Speaker 2 5:23

But I wouldn't , you know , go out

Family Dynamics and Religion

Speaker 2 5:25

of my way , you know , to make that happen if I had a choice to go to private school , um , I don't think I would , just because of curriculars and I heard it's harder and more work . Yeah , yeah , as enough , I hated doing work .

Speaker 3 5:47

See , like I just I don't know . When you go to a private school , normally they're Catholic schools , so you have to go to like Mass and stuff like that , which I wouldn't mind , but I don't know , I just so are you religious ? No , I'm not a religious person like my family's catholic and stuff like that , but I don't you know . Go to mass and stuff like that . I don't know .

Speaker 2 6:11

I just feel like I pray enough , yep anyway , I don't think I see the design , but we're doing like floral but yeah , that's fun now . I grew up off the church like I went to . I was catholic once upon a time then I went to being like christian on my own right . I feel like you have to kind of grow into that and findhmm Do you think your parents forced you to go to church , when they did or did they go .

Speaker 3 6:48

See , it was mostly like my grandparents and stuff that would go Like . On my dad's side he was Baptist , they were like all Christians and stuff , and on my mom's side that's where they were Catholic , so they never really went besides , like on Christmas and like stuff like that .

Speaker 2 7:04

Oh wait , so is your dad's family Christians .

Speaker 3 7:06

Yeah .

Speaker 2 7:07

And did they go often .

Speaker 3 7:09

Oh yeah , they went every week .

Speaker 2 7:12

So could you tell the difference between the two and how they were raised ?

Speaker 3 7:17

Oh , yeah , definitely .

Speaker 2 7:24

Do you think one side was way more calmer than the other ?

Speaker 3 7:27

My grandma like my mom's side . That's definitely the more chiller side , the less expectations and stuff like that .

Speaker 2 7:36

And why she was Catholic .

Speaker 3 7:38

Yeah .

Speaker 2 7:42

So was your dad more religious than your mom .

Speaker 3 7:46

I would say honestly . To be honest , I feel like it was kind of the other way around . My dad veered away from a lot of things because he was forced into a lot of things as a kid . So I feel like , because it was forced upon him when he was a kid , he kind of just wasn't really too religious . But it's mostly my mom where she would be the more religious one than him .

Speaker 2 8:11

Oh , because she kind of fell into it , mm-hmm , I can see that I feel like it's always a female . I feel like it's because maybe it's like that Mother Nature is like . We want you to be able to find some outweigh or outsource to cope with your feelings . I feel like dads really don't express their feelings as much .

Speaker 3 8:32

Right .

Speaker 2 8:34

At least my dad didn't .

Speaker 3 8:35

Yeah , no , my dad never really expressed feelings . I feel like that wasn't really a big thing in our household , Like we didn't really talk about emotions , you know . Like , if someone died , did you guys like ever discuss it , or like Uh , like no , not when I was a kid , like when I hit , like teenagers , like I had more family members pass away that I was closer to , then we discussed it , but other than that , like nah so it wasn't really disgusting lessons brought . Right .

Speaker 2 9:06

I had a situation where like stuff did happen . Like you know , you do grow up and a lot of people do get older . Right , I don't know , maybe it's because our generation sees more deaths because

Generations, Death, and War

Speaker 2 9:17

of how long it's been . Does that make sense ? Mm-hmm . Like with our parents . They probably didn't see as much because they were still that generation where they didn't have that . They were the ones to bring up the more generation , basically . Right .

Speaker 2 9:31

So that's why I believe that they didn't get that much suffering . Besides , like the worship , I just found out that there was a war in 2010 from like 2003 to 2011 between the Iraq . And here I'm like why am I just not finding this out ? I found that out at work because I forgot what happened . But the guy was like , yeah , there was a war . I'm like you're lying . I searched it up and it was .

Speaker 3 9:57

That's crazy , see , don't ever pay attention to things that go so wrong .

Speaker 2 10:02

No , for real , do you think our generation ?

Speaker 3 10:07

is going to lead into a war . Honestly , I don't know . I just feel like maybe . I mean people in this generation are like way more reckless and you know they do a lot more crazier things , so I feel like it could be , I mean shoot .

Speaker 2 10:25

So bigger violence . Yep definitely more violence there has been a lot more violence in this generation . Yeah , shoot , yep more yeah , for sure it feels fine .

Speaker 3 10:39

Yeah , see the little hand part , like that little leaf it was . It was pretty but it wasn't too bad . She's a dumb and sharp kid . I've been thinking about getting something on my neck but everybody keeps telling me I'm crazy . But I just really have to commit to it .

Speaker 2 10:59

Crazy that you're getting a neck tattoo or just a money one .

Speaker 3 11:01

Yeah .

Speaker 2 11:03

Well , it's a little bit of the same thing .

Speaker 3 11:05

Yeah , kind of like just a simple fact of getting a neck tattoo .

Speaker 2 11:10

You're a gangster .

Speaker 3 11:12

I don't want nothing , all crazy .

Speaker 2 11:15

No , but like back then , if you had a neck tattoo , you were like considered a gangbanger . And now they normalize it . So it's like you're not .

Speaker 3 11:23

I'm weak . That's crazy . My mom , she calls me this crazy nickname . She calls me Chua . I hate that nickname so much .

Speaker 2 11:31

Wait , she's always called you that .

Speaker 3 11:32

Mm-hmm , she always has called me that .

Speaker 2 11:35

What does it mean ? Has she told you ? No , I was going to say they always have some weird nicknames . I was going to say why did they call you Leigh ? But your name is actually .

Speaker 3 11:46

It's just like yeah no , so my name's liana , like my full name , but I just go by lee . I don't really like my full name that's a nice name though .

Speaker 2 11:56

Yeah , I've heard that is it because you just I feel like everyone doesn't ? Well , I want to say everyone doesn't like their name ? But .

Speaker 3 12:03

I want to say I like my name see , I don't like my name , just because everyone has always pronounced it wrong and people usually pronounce it well . Since liana , everybody always says liana or leanne , and I just never correct them because I just got tired of no , I don't care , no more them , because .

Speaker 2 12:32

I just got tired of people . No , I don't care . No more , just call me whatever . At this point I want to say whatever not whatever , but yeah , because people be reckless especially around here in Toledo so , like in high school , what do you think you struggled with ? Like growing up ?

Speaker 3 12:47

Um well , my parents were very like strict on grades , so that , like maintaining my grades , you know like .

Speaker 2 12:55

Why you think you weren't like honors . I don't know , I wasn't .

Speaker 3 12:59

Nah , I didn't feel like I was like a real honor roll student , like yeah , I was on the honor roll but I struggled to be on the honor roll like it wasn't something that came easy , so okay .

Speaker 2 13:09

So I remember I was debating with someone like with this kind of topic , it was like some people are . I was like some people are blessed to be able to be given opportunities and other people aren't , so people have to work extra hard to achieve those things . And their debate was no , everyone has the same opportunity . I'm like no , I don't think that I feel like some people are blessed with more , which gives them a better push , where other people have to work harder to achieve where they want to go . Right .

Speaker 3 13:39

See , honestly , I feel like everybody has different opportunities . So a push , yeah , like you know , for me , me , I went to Northwood .

Speaker 2 13:49

I was like one of very few , like you know , mixed students so did you have like a lot of fake people try to be your friends because of that yes , like everybody wanted to be my friend , like it was like something cool , like I just didn't understand it .

Speaker 3 14:06

Like I just never got it . Like and for me , like also , like I always felt like everybody thought I was such an angry person because I was black and like I don't know . I just felt like I had to stand my ground more . I don't know .

Speaker 2 14:19

So did you get in a lot of fights .

Speaker 3 14:22

No , not necessarily there at school . No , where would you get in fights ? Not necessarily there at school , no . So I've been in like a few fights .

Speaker 2 14:36

One of my biggest fight this girl came to my house with like a whole bunch of people . What's your mom saying ?

Speaker 3 14:39

she was out there , yeah mom was out there with a stick . She was holding the stick telling people so funny . She was telling people to get back and I was like , well , because it stick , she was holding a stick telling people . She is so funny . She was telling people to get back and I was like , well , because it was like the whole freaking school Like , yeah , like they all showed up . Yes , well , at first they tried to get me to come to the park . This was like forever ago . I was so young Wait , how old were you ?

Speaker 2 14:59

How old were you to get a ?

Speaker 3 15:00

ride as fuck . I was like like 12 , I was young , really young , and they came and I fought this girl and they wanted me to go to the park and my mom was like you're not going to the park you're gonna try jumping exactly

School Experiences and Childhood Fights

Speaker 3 15:17

I hate those type of people .

Speaker 2 15:21

That was a tough day did you actually fight her , though ? Yeah , I did fight her .

Speaker 3 15:24

I just felt like I didn't like , like I don't know , did you want to fight ? I didn't want to fight because I didn't know really what the reason was . Like I just heard from everybody else there was like 60 different reasons to why she wanted to fight me . I just didn't know the real reason , so I didn't want to fight .

Speaker 2 15:37

I honestly feel like she was from Northwood . No , she was . Some people do it just because they're hating . Half of my fights I got into Is because of other people not even getting married . I feel like I wasn't Well , maybe the one . She was like she got mad . I was in fourth grade but I was kind of like , not like an asshole , but I was blunt . So I went to like so many different schools .

Speaker 2 16:08

But this girl , like when people would talk you know how you just overhear people talking yep so I overhear these people talking and then I transfer schools but what they were saying was this one girl from this one school and then they went to boys and girls club or whatever . They said that she was a hoe and I was like , oh shit , I don't know what a hoe is . I'm in fourth grade , not knowing what this stuff is . So I'm like , okay , I go to this new school because my cousin's like , oh , go to this school and go to school me because I only have friends . So I convinced my mom to let me transfer and once I transferred , uh , it's like it .

Speaker 2 16:46

It was like the girl that they were talking about went to that school . I was like , wait , hold on . I know you look familiar or not look familiar , but sound familiar from what they were talking about . And I asked her do you go to Boys and Girls Club ? She's like , yeah . So then my cousin , my cousin being my cousin I go and we're leaving school and we walk into her house . I'm like you know that girl that , um , she was like popular you can you just know who's the person that's popular , because all the kids will go up to them and ask them for favors , like , oh , can you do this or like you know what I mean so she was one of the popular people , whatever , and for some reason my cousin wanted to be friends with her .

Speaker 2 17:25

So bad . I'm like , why are you gonna be friends with her ? Oh , because , oh , everyone wants to be friends with her . I'm like , okay , whatever . Anyway , I heard she was a hoe . I don't know what that means , just know I heard that . And then my cousin's gonna go and ask me like , oh , can I tell her that that you said that I was like , oh sure , I don't care . And I'm thinking , since it's my cousin , oh , you're not gonna go really tell her , you're just asking just to , just to say that , right , no , she really went to go tell her .

Speaker 2 17:53

Oh , my god , so literally my me the first day of school and it's not even the first day of school . It's like , oh , probably like a couple days in we're in the gym and then the girl comes up to me like , yeah , I want to fight . I'm like why you want to fight ? She's like because you called me a hoe . I'm like well , I didn't call you a hoe , the other people called you a hoe . I was just relaying the message and I don't know if it's true , but if you're getting mad about it , it must be true . And she was mad and I'm like , honestly , I don't see really no reason to fight . And everyone was like trying to hype it up , because I think everyone just likes the drama , mm-hmm , especially they're all kids like if they see a fight happening .

Speaker 2 18:28

Oh , my god , let's all round up like y'all lame people love drama the fact that they were all running up with each other just don't have her fight me . I thought was so childish and I was over it and I was like you know , I don't want to fight and that's that . And my mom she . That's how I got embarrassed the second hand embarrassment , like how your mom came off the bat . Were you embarrassed ?

Speaker 3 18:56

that she did that .

Speaker 2 18:57

Yeah , kind of I was like okay , now you're pretty . But basically my mom embarrassed me with something like that she wants a little girl and we're in fourth grade , we're not older . So , she wants a little girl . Who's like you better not lay your hands on my daughter . She's like or I'm going to do something . What are you going to do to a four-year-old ? I'm going to hear that later Like get bullied more because you're doing that .

Speaker 3 19:17

said she was gonna beat me up like she was like oh , so you got your mom on me .

Speaker 2 19:23

That's not what happened . But if you like to interpret that , yeah , and that's what happened , and I was just like damn mom . Why would you say that ? The crazy thing is is like when you're in younger grades , kids are mean , like they are like really me , like mmm and I could just imagine this generation , how they are now because , like , more terms have came out and a lot of parents don't go right . What's their kids be saying ?

Speaker 2 19:52

because now it's skipping toilet is , whatever the part that means mm-hmm like I've been trying to figure out what that means for , like the past month , yeah , I don't know for like the past months . Yeah , I don't know what that means for real . I'm hearing like my cousin say that shit , I'm like what ? Does that mean , I wouldn't ?

Speaker 2 20:07

have been able to think like one day I'm not gonna understand the terms that they're saying now and like they don't even understand what I'm saying now . I'm considered the old person , like I'm not cool . Yeah , what do you mean ? I'm not cool , I've been too cool , and then that makes me such a bigger limb apparently that's funny .

Speaker 3 20:28

Kids are funny like they're .

Speaker 2 20:29

Also they're really mean , but they're funny as like heck , like I'm low-key , mean to my younger cousins because I'm like well , you got to get bullied by me , so that way , if other people will you , you can have that strength to be liable . My older cousin bullies me and I'm not scared of you .

Speaker 2 20:45

So I kind of try to build that confidence in them . And it's because it's funny . I don't know messing with kids is funny because when I was younger I used to be the yeah , no , I used to be one of the mean cousins yeah , I was a mean cousin too used to make everybody do everything that I knew , yeah , that I knew was going to get in trouble for , but I didn't want to , so they did it . Oh , like what .

Speaker 3 21:08

I don't know , I was just that superstitious person that would like , oh , go over there and like , get that . So you know I don't have to , or I didn't get in trouble .

Speaker 2 21:17

Yep Bro . My brother used to be like oh , if you want to stay in my house , you have to clean my room . It's because he's the only kid that has a game system .

Speaker 2 21:26

And they're like , oh , can we go to your house and play the game ? He's like , yeah , if you clean it , if you clean my whole room . I was like uh-uh , but I was the type if you don't stay in my house I'm going to hit you . And it's just like bro , I used to have to blackmail people to hang out with me , oh my , but those were just my cousins , but not like they all clued me . But I know , when I was younger I wasn't the best cousin , but I know , I feel like I'm likely , because my older cousins was like that with me , like I think it was just like a generation like pattern , like they used to make all our younger cousins fight each other . And there was a lot of us . So it's like , damn , why would y'all make us fight for their own entertainment ?

Speaker 2 22:06

that's messed up one of those um the not the vikings , but the uh people that be fighting in war , not war . It's like um the renaissance and they had that little big thing and then they had people fight .

Speaker 3 22:25

Yeah , like in the middle . Yeah , that's basically how it was .

Speaker 2 22:29

They had us circle up with each other , and then it was like they had us sit in a circle , so none of the adults knew what we were doing . Oh my . And they would just have all the kids fight from ages like 5 to like 10 . I'm like what the fuck

Working in Nursing Homes

Speaker 2 22:45

it . Just like five to like ten . I'm like what the fuck ? It's a real life .

Speaker 3 22:47

Fucking duel out here hunger games style yeah , hunger games . I never really watched it , but I read the books there was books I never read .

Speaker 2 22:55

I was never into reading like I wish I was see , I want to get into reading .

Speaker 3 23:01

I feel like it would be something good to do . You know when To serve the community , To be a good citizen , to be a better citizen .

Speaker 2 23:12

Right , because papers are going to waste for no one reading .

Speaker 3 23:16

They only really give them out for freaking nursing homes Like newspapers . I feel like that's the only place I'd see them is at my job .

Speaker 2 23:23

The nursing home . Mm-hmm , oh , okay , so since we both work at nursing homes , what's like the most weirdest thing that happened ?

Speaker 3 23:31

Um , so , like there's this older lady , um , and she's just very fond of like this older man at our job that he's an aide , and I just , you know , never really understood why he never really wanted to go in her room or why he wouldn't really like associate with her . He wouldn't go in there . No , he didn't never want to and he was just always uncomfortable with it and we just just never knew , like why , Until like one day I was walking in her room and she was laying towards the door and she was rubbing her nipples oh what and was just laying there and I was just like , oh , okay . So I went and told the like nursing , like yeah , is like there , and she's doing the same thing , like when they come in the room and she does this often , like this is something that , like she just does .

Speaker 2 24:34

this is like how old is she ? Is she older ?

Speaker 3 24:38

well , she's not .

Speaker 2 24:39

I think she's like in her 70s oh okay , I'm used to having like in my um facility .

Speaker 3 24:45

They're more like older , like up in their 80s and higher yeah see , we were like more of like assisted living . Um , so we have some like really young people for like memory care and dementia and stuff like that . They're in a different building , but , um , yeah , we do pretty .

Speaker 2 25:05

We start out pretty like there is some younger people there I think the youngest we might have is like a guy in his 60s , but that's because he had paralyzed from like half of his body and from work , because I guess a bolt pulled up like flew out of one of the machines and like hit him in his eye .

Speaker 2 25:27

Oh my , that's just scary I'd be like oh , I don't know , sued for sure , especially if you lose half of your like feeling I'd be . Honestly , that's what kind of worries me , because you never know what can happen , right and then it just so happens to happen .

Speaker 2 25:42

So like , yeah , because I was going to change the subject , because I was going to ask you a that's what kind of worries me because , like you never know what can happen , right . And then it just so happens to happen . So like yeah , because I was going to change the subject , because I was going to ask you a question Like say , if you was , do you believe in , if it was meant to be , it would happen .

Speaker 3 25:54

Like , if it was meant to be , it would be yeah , yeah , do you ?

Speaker 2 25:58

Yeah , like that's what I was gonna say because , like some people believe and know , you have your own say .

Speaker 3 26:06

well , I might know , because I think god has a time for us .

Speaker 2 26:07

Oh , yeah , if it's gonna happen , it's gonna be in his time right , right , that's understandable .

Speaker 3 26:13

Yeah , I , I definitely agree with that . You know , I feel like there's definitely been a lot of things in my life where that you know that would be proven . You know it's not on my time ever . You know I could be ready to prosper and it could just not be the right time . God's not ready for me to go down that path yet and sometimes all you can do is agree . Yeah .

Speaker 2 26:36

I guess I wait . I have no freaking choice , like this guy at my job . He's like 94 , I think . Or he just turned 95 , I believe , and he was like I'm ready to die . I'm like , oh God . He was like I'm waiting for God to reach out and say come home . I'm like , or he's going to say go back downstairs . Oh my . Dude , he's just funny because he starts singing like I don't know . It's just hilarious . Mm-mm . You ever find your kids doing funny stuff .

Speaker 3 27:07

Well , my son like .

Speaker 2 27:09

Does he not talk yet ?

Speaker 3 27:13

No , he doesn't say like full sentences or anything . But earlier I found him like doing like a whole , like handstand on his bed . I was just confused , like how do you even know how to do that ? Like you like a whole , like handstand ?

Speaker 2 27:27

on his bed . I was just confused , Like how do you even know how to do that ? Like you're standing on your head , Dude , my little cousin , he's freaking riding a bike already .

Speaker 3 27:31

Oh , my Period .

Speaker 2 27:33

I was like , wait , I never . I didn't think . I think I learned how to ride a bike when I was like six . The younger , the better better yeah , I'm like yeah , but that's kind of scary people forget how to ride bikes .

Speaker 3 27:46

You forgot ? No , people do like that's a thing . People forget how to ride bikes .

Speaker 2 27:50

Oh , I think my grandma forgot , because I tell my grandma she be , she's like 60 , and then she's talking about , oh , I'm gonna go ride the bike with my son , grandma , what bike are you getting on like you shouldn't be on any bike . But I'm like , okay , whatever . And she calls me and like I fell . I'm like grandma , oh , my god , I'll buy you a bike that's lower to the ground , because she , you know them high-ass bikes that you kind of have to like sit on and like you kind of have to reach and the pedals are like so low yeah , she gets on one of them like now you know , dang well , you should not be on that bike .

Speaker 2 28:24

That's funny .

Speaker 3 28:25

If I could ride a bike everywhere , I would I wish it like there was more to do , like to see while bike riding . I feel like living in toledo .

Speaker 2 28:37

It's kind of boring like there's not enough um scenery um , I think it might depend where you go , though , too yeah then again , there isn't nothing here . That's what my cousin was , because my cousin came from cali and the number one excuse was I want to go back because you guys don't have fun . I thought you were here to save money . Man Ain't nothing correlated .

Speaker 3 29:09

You got to spend money to have fun .

Speaker 2 29:11

Yeah , I was going to say you can find stuff to do . You just got to have money to do it . And if you have money you can go to Detroit . They have everything up there .

Speaker 3 29:21

I've always wanted to go to Detroit .

Speaker 2 29:22

I was thinking about going up there for my 21st .

Speaker 3 29:33

I've heard I need a good , some good Mexican food . I feel like around here it just depends on where you go . I don't know .

Speaker 2 29:40

I'm very wary about where I get my food from so is there anything that you wanted to say , that you ever felt the need to say um ?

Speaker 3 29:57

like what do you mean ?

Speaker 2 29:58

there's something like lately that been on your mind that you haven't been able to understand

Young Motherhood and Friendship Challenges

Speaker 2 30:04

In terms of without having to get into detail , but in detail .

Speaker 3 30:06

Oh , something I've been wanting to say , like struggling with basically , I just feel like you know being young and you know being a mom , you know talking to people is already hard enough and having friends is hard enough , you know , because not many people want to hang out with their kid , with you and shit .

Speaker 3 30:26

So I don't know . But if you're a friend of somebody that's a young mom , like reach out . I feel like sometimes it's like really hard to be a mom , be a mom at that and then still keep your . And I feel like you know you lose most of your friendships during pregnancy because you go through like all these hormones and shit , but also at the same time like you change , so people like don't really like who you are anymore or something like that . So I don't know , just be mindful , I don't know of that . And I just feel like . Feel like for me , having friends has never been like a problem . It was never a problem until I had a son and I feel like that was really the main like factor of like why people stopped inviting me out and talking to me and stuff like that .

Speaker 2 31:13

but yeah , I'm about to say I think most of I was just debating with my friend about that like , if you have a kid or you decided to have a kid , don't think a lot of people are going to stick around because of that , because certain people I was like with your certain friends , you're not going to invite someone that has a kid Because first of all , her first priority is going to be her kid not because she wants to go out and hang out with you Right .

Speaker 2 31:36

And she's like no , I'll still invite her , I'm Because that's just logically like it's not going to work that way because you're going to think of her kid , like , oh , she has a kid , she's probably not going to let go .

Speaker 3 31:44

Right , that's just the first like opinion about it . And the thing about me is , like I'm always down to go , like I just always feel like people don't ask me , like you said , because I have a kid , but half of the time , like I have people to watch my kid , like , like you know , I got my mom and stuff , so that would never be an issue .

Speaker 2 32:07

I guess , let me worry about that as a friend , you know , like I don't know , I get that . Well , before we end this segment off , is there anything else you would like to conclude with that ?

Speaker 3 32:16

uh , no , I don't think so it was nice having you .

Speaker 2 32:21

We're still to be finishing this tattoo for a while . That was Prime Example Podcast . I was your host , leslie . This was my guest . Lee .