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Ep.033: Quarterly Rhythms (Part Two)
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Leadership isn’t just about strategy, it’s about rhythm. In this episode, we explore why intentional pauses and quarterly rhythms are essential for your business, family, and personal health. From balancing key life areas to safeguarding sacred family time, we offer practical strategies to prevent burnout and lead more effectively.
You’ll learn about tools like the balance wheel, the significance of family board meetings, and how small, consistent rhythms can create lasting legacies. This conversation will encourage you to rethink how you rest, reset, and refocus so you can lead effectively in all aspects of life.
Recapping Quarterly Rhythm
Speaker 1all right, benji brady, welcome, and we are here for part two of our quarterly rhythm. We got into the conversation on the last episode, for episode 32. And I mean, I just you know it's one of those conversations as we dove in, we got about halfway through and said, guys, we don't have to split this one up again, which I think is great. It shows diving into this. You know, some of this conversation and things that I feel like are great for people to hear and, honestly, it gives us a chance to really break them down. But we've got, um, a couple more things to chat about today, so we can really break down this topic. We're going to dive a little bit more into, you know, family life, work life, and then really kind of help you guys as we wrap up this topic. Uh, for this part two is really how you can apply that. So, um, yeah, I've been to it today.
Speaker 2I think. I think it'd be good for our listeners and, by the way, the listeners, thank you guys so much for tuning in each each time we have a episode drop. Uh, really appreciate you, really appreciate your feedback, your um, your engagement in our social media and all. But I think it'd be good, brady, if we just kind of recap for those that maybe someone's on here new listening for the first time, it's the latest episode just kind of a quick recap of the case for the rhythm that we came up with with quarterly rhythm, and how it could work to their benefit.
Speaker 3Yeah. So I think the core theme of what we talked about on last episode was getting into some type of rhythm, and really that rhythm is biblical as well. So God designed seasons and there's seasons for a reason. So God designed seasons and there's seasons for a reason. So if we look at it in quarters or seasons, then we sprint to or get to a specific milestone, which would be the end of the quarter. And yeah, we've done strategic planning and we've done objectives and goals and things of that nature.
Speaker 3But what we're, what we're able to do, is really set aside time to look at and say, okay, how are those things going? And so each quarter and it kind of ties into what we did a couple episodes ago. We talked about halftime and halfway through the year and are there adjustments that need to be made and all those different things. So last episode was really more about leadership and business, and today is going to be more of leadership in life, like how are we leading our families and how are we doing it? If we're going to do it in a business setting, then we've really got to model that in our own personal lives. So that's kind of what we're going to do it in a business setting, then we've really got to model that in our own personal lives. So that's kind of what we're going to break down today, yeah.
Speaker 1And that's always exciting to jump into because you know one of the things you have to think about, whether you're a business owner, creator, whatever it is. I mean, as we jump into some of these rhythms, I know we're about to look at. You know yourself, your personal life, your, your family, but I mean if you're not feeding yourself and you're not taking care of yourself and and you know, and not to dive into like the the deep of that but if you're not taking care of yourself mentally, spiritually, physically, I mean it's going to wear on you to the point where you're not going to be able to perform and you're not going to be able to succeed. So I know personally, for me this is one of the things I've shared with you guys, I've got, I'm trying to figure out too and work through. So I'm excited to jump into these topics and just hear from you guys and what you've experienced and really what our listeners can take from it.
Speaker 3Yeah, I think the uh, I think the core idea here is sometimes is and I'll, we'll just go from a I mean, this is a leadership podcast. So from a leadership perspective, a lot of times we worry or think about our organizations and we really don't think about ourselves. And so obviously we quote John Maxwell in here a lot, and Benji and I actually heard this a lot growing up from our own father. But he would say, guys, you can't give what you don't have. And we and we've talked about this before on the show but you know John Maxwell's law of the lid is you can't if your organization is only going to grow as far as you grow.
Speaker 3So you have to, from a personal perspective, is we have to give ourself time to be filled up. We have to give ourself time to be filled up right. And so from a biblical perspective, if you look at even in Matthew, in the book of Matthew, where Jesus starts his sermon on the mount, he starts it by saying blessed are the poor in spirit, for they will receive the kingdom of God, kingdom of heaven. And so really, what he's saying there is you've got to empty yourself, poor in spirit. Okay, empty yourself so that you create that posture, but you give yourself the capacity to allow God to fill you up, because if he doesn't fill you up, you've got nothing to offer. You've got nothing to give.
Speaker 2Yeah, you bring up a good point there too, that sometimes we're going through a series at our church right now called Identity, and our pastor brought out a mirror and he said look, the first thing we have to do with identity is figure out. We have to take a reflection. Look at yourself in the mirror. If you're looking in a lake and a pond, you're always going to see a reflection for the most part, unless it's dark outside, and then even in you're going to see a shadow of yourself. So you still see a reflection, no matter how you look at it. Right, and if we always take a look at ourselves and figure out, you know where we're trying to go, where we're trying to get in.
You Can't Give What You Don't Have
Speaker 2Yes, adam, you do have to have rest. We're going to be talking about that soon today. You have to make, you have to make time for that. And um, because it's it's, you get caught in the grind and you get caught in your rhythm, but sometimes you can get out of rhythm even being in rhythm. So just just think about that. That you know, get yourself in that personal rhythm. Brady's talking about Um, you can't give what you don't have, and man, I've learned that probably the last three years more than ever.
Speaker 3So look, so look in that good. I mean, that's really good, benji, good perspective when we look at it as a leader or even in our family life, and we talked about this last episode. But when you get out of rhythm you're on the verge of burnout, you're on the verge of exhaustion. So you have to give yourself some type of rhythm. For me and we've talked about C12 before but C12 gives me this rhythm, for me from a personal level, because I have some other men that I'm accountable to every month. I was just there yesterday and part of the C12 model was something called the balance wheel. I'll just walk through these real quick. But the balance wheel I'm accountable to other people for these different areas in my life.
Speaker 3So my walk with God, marriage and family how am I discipling others? Personal finance, biblical community, fun and recreation, fitness and nutrition, rest and retreat, you know. And then my walk with God. I walk with God. We already said that, but you know I'm accountable to these different areas and it's actual will. So, like yesterday, my will was, if you look at it, it was like a flat tire, because there were some areas I was real heavy in or I'd scored real well in, from zero to 10. And there were other, were other areas that that I needed some improvement on, and so that that's a rhythm for me to say, okay, well, let's look at uh, we'll pick on one like like rest and retreat I'm not good at rest and retreat.
Speaker 3I mean I'm like let's go. You know, go, go, go, go, go. What's the next thing? What do we need to be doing? I've got to be able to give some capacity, um, you know, to my wife, to my kids.
Speaker 3And uh, I remember, uh, actually, one of the guys in our group we were talking about marriage and family and specifically marriage, and uh, one day he talked about three D's in marriage and we were like, okay, what, what's three D's? He said, well, if you want a strong marriage, then you want to discuss daily. Okay, so have a conversation with your wife every day. You know like intentional time, date, date, weekly. So physically go out on a date, take her to dinner. You know you plan it that type of thing and then depart monthly and it's like get, get away for, you know, a day or a weekend or something. But that's a rhythm that actually Melissa and I have been doing for a little while and it's very helpful All those other areas are ones and you're not going to get them all good at the same time, but it's good from me from a monthly perspective is to look back and say, hey, how am I doing in these areas? What are the things over the next month that I need to try to work on and improve?
The Balance Wheel of Life
Speaker 2Yeah, and to your point, you're taking a reflection of yourself, right, you're trying to make sure that you stay on, you stay on track, but you got to give yourself time to get that, that planning in. Whether it's your family, you know, whether it's your business, whatever, you've got to make sure you get that time for planning because sometimes, even though our calendar might quote be filled up, is it filled up with the right things and the right activities? So you've got to take a take a reflection of that yep.
Speaker 3So so you know, from a, I guess, a practical standpoint, if you look at somewhat of a like a quarterly reset, you know, can you, like benji said, can you book it out on your calendar to go away for the day, you know, just have some strategic time.
Speaker 3Or on a Saturday I know it's tough right now, probably because there's, you know, college football and things like that going on but can you get away with your wife and, just, you know, focus on your marriage or focus on some things that you need to improve on, I know. Another big one for me is and I'm still trying to figure out how to get this right, and I don't know necessarily if there's a right way but the Bible is very clear about Sabbath and how do we Sabbath, how do we rest? God did it himself. He worked for six days and then the last day he rested. So if, if, if, he thought it was important, then we probably need to to do something there, and I and I haven't, I haven't mastered that one yet. I think that's going to take some time for me to um, but what do you, what do you guys do I mean as far as, like a, a rest and retreat or uh um a quarterly reset.
Speaker 1Well, I know for. So we're off Fridays and Saturdays, and so one of the things that we've tried to do more because you know, the girls have school on Friday Emily, emily works on Fridays. So one of the things I try to do is, either one, I'm booking clients on Fridays, whether it's photo shoots, video shoots, things like that, if I'm working with you guys on Fridays, I feel that because they're they're, you know, they're not there, I like, for me, I don't get the rest just being at home, like without, like, if I'm not without, unless I'm doing something, you know, honeydew list, something like that, um, so we'll do those, but those. But what I have done is some of those Fridays where, um, cause, typically if I'm working with you guys, I'm there all day, but if it's something where I'm working with a client, I've got a quick photo shoot. I always try to take those Fridays and kind of take that marriage principle and try to at least go have Emily, have lunch with Emily. You know, once or twice a month, if I can on a Friday, I'll go downtown, we'll go find a place to eat.
Speaker 1But Saturdays have really become that for us as a rest day, because we don't typically have anywhere to go. We don't have anything that we're doing unless the girls are involved in some type of sports or something like that, and then really that rests us together as a family. So that's kind of what our process has been is using that. I know personally I need to be better about using Fridays. That's why our work week is scheduled that way, because technically, saturday to Sunday is a full work day for us. But that's where my I think I've shared that with you guys before. That's where my struggle is. I mean, if somebody calls and wants something, I feel like I leave money on the table if I don't take it. So that's something I'm personally having to work through.
Speaker 2Yeah, I mean, for me it's as Brady said, this time of year with college football, nfl football. You know we've Saturday. We try to we go down to Auburn or whatever be at the games, just hang out with the family. Our oldest is at Auburn now so it makes it a little easier to get down there more obviously. But you know, we went down there a weekend ago and we just kind of chilled at her place for a half a day. We didn't do anything, we just kind of sat there, hang out and um, then Sunday afternoons after church we come in and we'd like, man, we all crashed for a couple hours, just put the football games on TV and just sit there and just relax. Don't open a computer, don't have your phone, just literally just just sit there, you know, um, so that's kind of fun.
Speaker 2But um, yeah, and there's times that you know, sarah and I'll try to get away for a weekend and um, we're in a kind of busy season of life right now, but we'll try to. We're going to get back to that here coming up soon, um, but it's, it's just, you know how it is when school starts and try to get the kids back in a groove and it. You got work going on, you got church going on, you got communities going, community groups going on, whatever. So just it. It does make it difficult, but to your point, brady, we got to make that time. You got to make that time to rest and relax sometimes.
Speaker 3Yeah, got it, got to be intentional, um. So here's kind of the thought. The final thought on on this particular section is and this is kind of a challenge to to us and to you guys that are that are listening but if I can leave my company quarterly but I can't leave myself quarterly, am I in trouble? Yeah, right, and. And a lot of times we think, well, you know, it's not about me, you know those types of things, but it's really not selfish, it's really stewardship. You know, how are you, how are you stewarding? And again, going back to the initial thought of you can't give what you don't have. You've got to be able to learn and to grow so that you can help others. So what we want to talk about next is really so that we just talked about how to lead ourself and get into that quarterly rhythm. Now we extend it to the family. So how do we do that well as a family? How are we stewarding our families? And, um, they, they need rhythm as well.
Speaker 3You know we go through, we go through different seasons of, I know, um, a friend of mine we were just talking about a C12 yesterday. You know they, they do competitive soccer and it's it's busy in the spring and in the fall. So what do you do in the in the summertime, you know? Are you enjoying other things? Are you having more of a restful season or busy? And I know people that play, like travel softball and travel baseball. But how do you get into a quarterly rhythm?
Speaker 3But also, how do we lead our families in such a way that I remember somebody telling Melissa and I one time that we're not really raising kids. You know, we're raising future adults, so how are we preparing them to go out into the world and to, to, to live? And I mean one thing that that, uh, that we started doing recently is really thinking about. And I was challenged with the next hundred years, the next five generations, like what is the fifth generation from from our family going to look like and how are they going to perceive, you know, what we've done and some things that we've set up.
Rest and Sabbath Principles
Speaker 3So we we actually started doing like a family board meeting, um, and we'll we'll meet month, monthly, but really on a quarterly rhythm, to to teach like core principles of stewardship and financial and budgeting and organization, and you know those types of things, cause I I guess the realization that I had was I'm doing that at work. You know I'm mentoring people on how to do this stuff, but am I really mentoring my own kids of how to do that? And I've got a 20-year-old that just got married and I've got a 17-year-old that's going to graduate this year. So that's been like a personal conviction of mine of how am I handing these things down to my own family? If I'm going to do it in work, I need to do it with my family too.
Speaker 2That's, that's a good. That's a good point, cause you know, we're going through a season right now with our son. It's a it's a good season, don't get me wrong, but I'm always wanting to do this to a vehicle or try this with a vehicle and put subs in and change tires and do this. I've been there. I mean, youtube is the answer for those parents out there listening right now. They seem to think that YouTube is the fix-all, be-all for everything that you have. So if YouTube says you can do it, you can do it. You know, oh yeah, but you look up and the oil cap is missing and you know why is the oil low? Oh, there's your problem right there. So why is the Ola? Oh, there's your problem right there. So to your point um, we get caught up.
Speaker 2In these year, I would say a year ago, man, we really had a struggle with our son just to try to look. Every time you do something, you're breaking it, every time you do this. So I had to. I'm trying to change my mentality to get in that quarterly rhythm for him, cause, as you guys know, every kid's different, right. I mean they all, they all adjust and adapt to different things and, um, trying to tell them look, if you'll take care of this, this is what it will benefit you in the future. If you, if you want, if you want to do this things to your vehicle, you're going to have to take the time to get a part-time job to pay for this Cause. We're not going to, we're not paying for this, you, you paying for this. You have to teach them those principles.
Speaker 2And then our youngest, of course, again, the oldest is in college, but the youngest. We were last night at dinner and she said Daddy, I'm really glad that I get to go to church because I get to study the Bible and she's starting to write her Bible verses down, she's quoting scripture and you get in that quarterly rhythm with your family. And because we did have a season and Adam knows this, being in the softball world too. But, man, we got. We got so busy with softball and baseball and soccer, and I said it a minute ago but we filled the calendar up. But for the family, you're looking back, I go.
Speaker 2You know, maybe there was a reason they got burnt out on doing this because I was probably pushing it more than they wanted to do it. So you got to again, taking that reflection of yourself but at the same time, putting them in a position to what matters most, and what matters most is eternity at the end of the day. Um, you can again. You can fill your calendar up, but make sure it matters. And for those of you that might be listening out there, just encourage you. You know, if you want to reach out to us, we can give you some tips and principles of how to do that. We'd be glad to share it with you.
Speaker 1I heard a pastor tell me one time if the devil can't get to you, he'll use your schedule to get to you.
Speaker 1Oh for sure, Because he's going to use that against you and because he knows if I will, if, if I, if I can have their schedule filled with these and, you know, keeps them from being in the word, or it keeps them from being in community with people, or just, you know, keeps them from being at a church with their you know, their church family. That's how I'm going to get to them, because I'm going to keep them disconnected, keep them from, keep them from being where they're growing and encouraged by others, and I'm going to use that against them. So I've always tried to do that, because we've gone through that same thing, benji that schedule. You know the kids are busy and you know you, you want to, as a parent, as a father, as you know, you want to give these kids the things that they want to do. You want to let them enjoy softball, you want to let them enjoy these things. But, um, you know that's one of the things that we've done and we've gotten non-negotiables. You know that's one of the things we've gone through as a, and what we've done is we've created a rhythm where I typically leave the church around 3.30 and I go pick up the girls, emily leaves work at four and then we go have dinner.
Speaker 1We go meet somewhere down Valleydale where the church is. We've got several options. We let the girls pick something. Chick-fil-a hey look, metro Diner. Metro Diner is one of my favorite. But we go and what's nice is we put phones down, we put everything aside, and so we typically get there about 4.30. I don't have to be back to the church until about 5.45, 6 to start prepping and getting things ready. And, man, for that hour we just sit and we have family time together, we have dinner together and we've been doing it for probably two or three months and we've created that rhythm as a family to say, hey, wednesday nights we're going to meet up, we're going to find a place, we're going to go sit down and we're just going to enjoy talking. How's our day, how's your week been, what are you doing? So that's been really good for us.
Speaker 1And then we go to church together, which is great, you know, if I'm not serving or Emily's not serving, if I don't have something I've got to do, wednesdays has been really good for her and I to sit together, because we do a full Bible study at the church. We have a full service on Wednesday and that's just been good for us as husband and wife and for the girls, because we're getting fed, like you're talking about, benji, but just sitting down, because Sundays for me it's wild. I'm running around, I'm running a team, you know we're fixing, we're fixing issues, it's just Sundays are crazy. So Emily and I don't get to sit in church together a lot. So it's like what you're talking about, brady. We find those things during our week that we can do that. So Wednesdays has been that for us. I get to sit with her during Bible study and it's just, it's just nice to for her and I to have at least that Wednesday night, when we know Sundays are crazy, it's good stuff.
Speaker 3Yeah, so yeah, just thinking about your family and we'll, we'll, um, we'll wrap up this section. But, um, you know, I'm just reminded of a verse, a verse in Proverbs that says a good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children. And that's not necessarily a lot of us may think of. Well, that's, you know, that's money or finances or whatnot, but it's really not, it's wisdom. You know Proverbs is wisdom literature.
Family Rhythms and Leadership
Speaker 3So what kind of legacy are you leaving? What kind of inheritance quote unquote are you leaving? And what are you teaching your kids? And you know all those things. But again, it goes back to you can't, you can't give what you don't have, so you have to, you have to do those things yourself first. So, whatever that looks like for you guys, you know, as far as some type of a quarterly rhythm with your family, or it could be monthly or weekly, like you guys were talking about. Whatever it is, it's just setting aside some time to reflect and and talk about. You know what are, what are we experiencing as a family, or or what's going on in the world? Maybe you know some. Just some conversation I've been, you said put the phones away and and that's probably hard for all of us to do.
Speaker 2It's hard for all of us. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3Yeah, because it's so distracting. I mean, before the show we were talking about TikTok, which I do not have, tiktok, by the way, all right, I think TikTok is of the devil.
Speaker 1But there are other. It's a search engine though. I know it's a search engine, but you need something.
Speaker 3Apparently, you can shop in there. Somebody told me about that the other day. I that the other day I was like TikTok shop. Okay, Well, that's interesting. So what we want to do is, I mean, last episode we talked about the business part and this episode we talked about more of family and personal type things. But how do we take all this information and really give you guys a call to action? Benji said this, but if you guys need some help, then reach out to us or give us some comments. We'll try to help you in whatever way that we can do.
Speaker 3Some of you I think we did this in the last series that we did but some of you leaders are going to be like gung-ho, like, okay, what do I need to do right now? We're going to go and implement this tomorrow and that's great. Some of you may, you know, think about it and kind of reflect on it. But whatever you do, at least do something, take some type of action. So kind of in review is just really from a quarterly rhythm type perspective is we want to review, we want to reset, we want to recommit, and so what, reviewing the last quarter from a business perspective? What are the objectives, that, the goals that we came up with for the year. Are they still working? Do we need to reset any of those or refocus on any of those and then with either yourself or your team is really a recommitment. I don't know about you guys, but, like in our world, three months is a eternity.
Speaker 2It is a long time.
Speaker 3Yeah, long time, and so it's almost good to say, okay, now what do we decide to do? And let's go back and recommit to those things One thing that we do in our business and we'll actually do in November, october, yeah.
Speaker 2Well, we'll do it in November, that's right.
Speaker 3Yeah, but each quarter we actually take our team offsite. So we, we, we call it a quarterly offsite so we get away from, uh, the the hustle and the grind of the day-to-day in the office, where there are those distractions, or hey, can I meet with you? Hey, can I, you know, see people in the hallway? We take our team off site. We, we reflect on the quarter and then we actually go to try to go do something, something fun together. You know, it doesn't have to be like super expensive. I mean, I think last quarter we went and played at a new indoor putt putt place. Yeah, for sure, uh, and it was a lot of fun just seeing some competition and the team having some fun. Um, but what, what other, what other wisdom would you guys offer up as far as action steps, or how do we take action on what we're trying to do here? Adam, I'll let you go first.
Speaker 1I mean, one of the things that we've really been trying to do lately is just re-evaluate where we're at as an organization. I mean, I think I've shared, you know, we're at that point right now with the church where we're moving from mom and pop to a more larger, well-oiled organization, a more larger, well-oiled organization. And so I think something that for us that we're going through right now, that we need to continue going through, is just evaluating what our processes are. And so one of the things that we're working through is we're trying to put things in place where and it's going to be very new to the team it's different for them, but, like any project video graphic event has to be submitted for a. We have what we call a budget and project planning tracker, and this is just one example. This is just the first step that we're doing to kind of look at those things, and it gave us a chance to step back. We met with the team yesterday and said, look, we know this is going to be like drinking from a fire hose, you know, but we're having to make these steps because we've got to make changes. We can't just walk into an office and say, hey, do you have time? Hey, do you, can you do this? We've got to really plan these things out. So I think that's something that I would challenge anyone to look at. It is reevaluate those and then really having those conversations with your team. That's something I brought up yesterday. We've got some things that we're working through. Like our student ministry is very student led, like it's awesome, but they lead their own worship, they lead their own media team, they lead everything. But we've got to step back and say, all right, we haven't had a meeting in a couple months, just like you said, brady, it's been probably more than three. You know, I brought up I said, hey, when we're done with our big student event next week, we need to get the student creative team together and we need to cast some vision. We need to express some of the changes we're making, you know, and have that changes we're making, you know, and have that, because I think if you aren't having those sit down vision casting meetings, you're going to lose what the point is. And so I think those every three months, because I do. I agree with you guys a hundred percent.
Speaker 1Three months is 90 days is a long time. A lot of things change. I mean, think about it Summer's 90, summer's, roughly, you know, two months, three months depending on where you're at. You've got that, and then kids get back into school and then seasons change and then holidays are here. I mean, three months is a lot. That's why I feel like everything is really split into the quarters, because you've got to look at those things and evaluate. So that's somehow a challenge is really making sure that you're not going more than 90 days and looking at things, because your business, your church, anything that you're in, to me it should constantly be evolving, because business is evolving the way things are. I mean trends, social media, technology. I mean, think about it how much we use ChatG, gpt now for everything I mean I, I mean here's adam's, adam's using chat gpt.
Speaker 1Hey, what's funny is my wife. If I tell her I use it, she was like, didn't you get pretty a hard time about? Yeah, all the time. Yeah, thank you, emily, I really please don't tell him this oh, that's, this is making a social media reel.
Taking Action and Implementation
Speaker 2I'm just telling you oh yeah, so. So just for the record, yesterday I was talking with a guy and I was like what in the world did we do without chat, gpt, like we actually had to research stuff, you know. Now you just type it in and tell it, tells you what it is.
Speaker 1Well, and, and you know, and this is why I say that I mean like even for me, when I'm, when I'm billing out projects and I'm trying to figure out where that median is for the right return. But I also, you know, I use it a lot to say all right, you know, if I'm making X amount of money and I have these expenses, how much do I need to set aside for my federal estimated taxes from this project? How much do I need to tithe off what I make? So I mean it is and, like I said, I know that's totally off subject with it, but I mean my point is is that things change quickly and if you're not evaluating those, it's going to hurt your team in the end.
Speaker 1And then we talked about this yesterday is our, our job really as leaders is to try to keep from having that burnout? You know our creative and worship pastor. She tells us my job is to be mama bear and my job is to protect the two of you, because I know the two of you have a hard time saying no to the team because you want the team to succeed. So I need to protect the two of you to make sure those things are, and I think that's our job as leaders as well. Yeah, because, especially in my field, I don't want anyone having church hurt or being burnt out, because the church, especially for creatives hey, can you do this, can you take these photos? But I mean, even in the business you guys are in, that can easily happen. Somebody could get used over and over for something because they have a skillset, and so it's just that. Evaluation for me is where I feel like it's so important.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'll just give a quick thing, brady, and we'll let you wrap it up, but I think for me, it's again taking a reflection of ourselves getting in that quarterly rhythm again, whether it's your business, whether it's your family, whatever, getting that quarterly rhythm and try to stay focused on that and fill your calendar again with things that are important, make it, make it, make priorities the priority, and that's that's what you want to stick with Cause again.
Speaker 2You don't want to fill that thing with the wrong uh, the wrong items that just are busy work. I'm actually mentoring a guy right now on and we're strictly talking about how to be better organized, using a calendar, using a task list. We've met three times and he's told me he told me this last week he said man, I never knew I needed it like this before, like this, this, this, and he actually brought, he's bringing out other challenges that he's picking up on himself and saying, man, I really I didn't know that I was actually doing this this way, but now that I'm seeing it on this side, it makes so much more sense if I just stay focused on that, that thing, that item at hand. So really good. Again, just encouragement stay in that quarterly rhythm. It's not perfect, but you can get. You can get there over time.
Speaker 3Yeah, so just three, three things to kind of wrap us up. Uh, one is I think it was Patrick that said this, but, uh, when everything is important, nothing is Okay. So just reflect on that. When everything is important, nothing is. So you have to figure out what the priorities are, and for us as leaders, then, what the quarterly reset does is allow us to again to reflect.
Speaker 3Yeah, I was reminded too of and there's multiple people that say it different ways but James Clear, you don't have to get this all right tomorrow. Right, he talks about the 1%. So just try to get 1% better every single day, and by the end of the year it's exponential. What will happen? But if you try to go out and do everything differently tomorrow, then you're going to get burnout. You're just going to try to overachieve and it's just, it's not going to go. Well, it's not, it's not going to happen. So this whole thing is not about perfection, okay, it's more about direction. And so how are we? How are we looking at the future? We're reflecting on the past to look at the future, to see what do we need to do different, what do we need to change? Like I said, some of you are going to try to go out and do it tomorrow, and that's great. Others, you may want to dip your toe in the water, you know just, but at least do something.
Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Speaker 2Or find a mentor, Brady.
Speaker 3That's a great point. Find somebody that can help walk you through this. If you don't know how to do it, then find somebody that will help you. Maybe somebody in your church, maybe somebody in your organization, your business. There are people out there that want to help you.
Speaker 1Yeah, I had a funny story, totally separate. You're talking about mentor, our pastor's daughter. She's kind of like my right hand person at the church, she's our social media coordinator, and Emily and I were just sitting last night watching TV and I got a voice memo for her and she was like, hey, this is kind of random. And she was like but I just want to brag for you for a moment. She said I have a friend that I saw posted something and I guess she you know she broke her camera, like she put it in a bag. And she was like I just want to tell you like, thank you for teaching me to like protect my camera and stuff. She was like, cause, when she first started doing it, I was like I said, kate, you need to go, you need to go buy an expensive bag. So you want to buy for a $3,000 camera and put it in a $20 camera bag that you bought off Amazon. I said it's an investment and I said protect that investment so that way you can continue to make money. And she sent that and I and what's crazy is you guys like I mean I was just telling her like I had an extra bag. I said, hey, I'll sell it to you. It's an expensive bag but I'll give it to you for cheaper. I've got some other nicer stuff.
Speaker 1I said, but you need something nice, like you've got to protect your. I mean, your camera is your investment, that's where you make your money and I didn't think anything of it. To me it. But you don't realize, like those small conversations as leaders oh yeah, you like you know, we're going through a series right now at the church called everyday influencer and you don't realize that the small things, the small conversations like that you're having with your staff, that you're having with the people like you guys are mentoring or that are mentoring you, these small conversations lead to larger things.
Speaker 1And you know, it was just I told Emily I was like that it meant a lot and I just didn't think about something as small as like, hey, put your camera in a nice bag, like protect it, that she would see that she was like hey, just thank you for like mentoring me and teaching me these things, because I'm learning, the things that I'm buying, I need to protect and I need to, I need to use those. So I just I thought that was cool. When you're talking about mentor and the things that you do. You don't realize that these small conversations, it creates this rhythm that you're talking about and what it's going to do for your business and for you personally.
Speaker 3Yeah, and Adam, if you, if you would like me to mentor you how to use chat GPT, I'd be glad to.
Speaker 1I'll be honest with you. I might be able to run circles around you a little bit now.
Speaker 3Oh for a challenge there, buddy.
Speaker 1Look, we got some stuff coming up. I need you to teach me anyway, so well.
Speaker 2As Brady said, just remember, rhythm is not about perfection, it's about direction. Just want to say thank you all for tuning in to another episode of higher up podcast. Again, you can check us out on any social platform at higher up podcast. You can subscribe at the higher up podcast dot com. We would love for you to share this episode, maybe with someone that may be looking for a mentor, maybe looking to get in that rhythm, uh, or just confused on how to even get in the rhythm, uh. Share this with someone and uh. We just want to say again thank you so much for tuning in and go out and choose to live a higher up life. See you next time.
