Confessions of a Freebird - Midlife, Divorce, Heal, and Date Differently with Somatic Experiencing, Empty Nest, Well-Being, Happiness
Are you somewhere in the middle of your life wondering — is this all there is?
Maybe you've spent decades putting everyone else first. Maybe you're navigating divorce, empty nesting, loss, or the quiet ache of a life that no longer fits. Maybe you're ready for something more — you are stuck and don't know how to get there yet.
This is "the" podcast for "that".
Confessions of a Freebird is a space for people in midlife who are done surviving and ready to live again. Three times a month, host Laurie James — author of Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go, certified somatic practitioner, coach, mother of four, divorcée, and recovering caregiver — brings you honest conversations and embodied tools for the journey back to yourself.
Expect raw personal reflections, expert conversations, and somatic coaching strategies covering everything from divorce strategies, grief, trauma healing, and anger to sex, dating again, finances, caregiving, and reinvention. Because the people who need this podcast aren't looking for toxic positivity — they're looking for someone who gets it.
Every episode is an invitation to stop managing and start feeling. To stop performing fine and start living freely. To come home to yourself through attuning to the body — and design a life that fits who you actually are now, not who you were twenty years ago or who someone else told you to be.
Whether you're in the thick of the sandwich generation, starting over after loss or divorce, or quietly dreaming of your next chapter — you're in the right place.
Confessions of a Freebird. Your midlife permission slip to evolve, heal, and fall in love with your life all over again.
Because the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
XO,
Laurie
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Confessions of a Freebird - Midlife, Divorce, Heal, and Date Differently with Somatic Experiencing, Empty Nest, Well-Being, Happiness
10 Science-Backed Keys to Happiness and How Somatic Healing Helps
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Why does happiness sometimes feel out of reach even when you think you are doing everything right? You take steps forward, check the boxes, show up for the people you love, but underneath it all, something still feels unsettled. Life can start to feel rushed, full, or emotionally heavy, yet you can’t quite put your finger on it.
This is what happens when you’re not prioritizing the foundational keys to happiness and, in turn, living with a dysregulated nervous system. When your body stays in a constant threat response—do more, earn more, and achieve more is when your nervous system becomes overwhelmed. Sleep becomes harder, and when you do wake up, you feel exhausted.
In this solo episode of Confessions of a Freebird, I reflect on the work of Dr. Laurie Santos, Yale professor, host of The Happiness Lab, and one of the leading voices in positive psychology. Her research offers a grounded look at how to feel happier, and I add a somatic lens to the conversation, because happiness is not only a mindset issue–it happens when you have a regulated nervous system.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why chasing success before happiness has it backwards — and what the science actually shows
- The Somatic Experiencing perspective on each principle and why the body is the missing piece of the happiness conversation
- Why your nervous system state and learning nervous system regulation matter more than your mindset
- How self-compassion and emotional agility help feelings move through you with less shame and fear
- The 10 principles Dr. Santo says genuinely move the needle on human happiness, which include more human connection and social connection.
- What prosocial behavior does to your mood, and why the helper high matters more than you might think
- How to implement each principle with specific, research-backed practices.
This episode is for you if you've ever felt like you were doing everything right and still not feeling the way you thought you would. You are allowed to slow down, listen inward, and find your way back to what helps you feel more alive.
Much love,
Laurie
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RESOURCES MENTIONED
Dr. Laurie Santos: Yale professor and host of The Happiness Lab podcast
The Happiness Lab Podcast: Available wherever you listen to podcasts
Somatic Experiencing: Developed by Dr. Peter Levine, PhD — a body-based approach to healing trauma and nervous system dysregulation
Researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky: Positive psychology research on happiness and success
The Harvard Study of Adult Development: One of the longest-running studies on happiness and relationships
Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-compassion researcher at UT Austin — kristinself.com
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