The Messy Middle of Nervous System Regulation

The Complex Trauma Podcast

The Complex Trauma Podcast
The Messy Middle of Nervous System Regulation
Aug 12, 2026 Episode 143
Sarah Herstich

This week's episode is  a little different. Instead of something super polished, I'm giving you the real time version of my own messy middle. What dysregulation actually feels like in my body right now, why regulation isn't the absence of activation, and what's actually helping me stay steady in a hard season of my life, from a walk around the block to finally asking for help.

If you're a complex trauma survivor in your own hard season, this one's for you. It's okay to lower a standard, ask for the help, and let the tears come if they want to come.

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If you haven't listened to the episode about why nervous system regulation can feel impossible with CPTSD, tune in here. 

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