Have you ever wondered if your relationships, your name or even the way you parent might be a part of a bigger spiritual plan? Well, today we're diving into something that honestly blew my mind soul contracts. Yep, we're talking about the spiritual agreements we might have made before we even got here. I'm joined by the amazing Amelia Struthers and we are unpacking all the juicy stuff how your name can shape your soul path, why certain people show up in your life for a reason, even the hard ones, and how karma, talents and free will all play a role into your growth. We're also getting into the power of birth charts and parenting, healing family dynamics and how to show up more consciously in your relationships with your kids, your partner and yourself. And this episode is brought to you by the how we Get Woo community. If you're into the spiritual stuff in a grounded, real life kind of way, then you're going to want to be a part of this. We have live healing events, journal prompts, meditations and actual connections with women who get it. The link's in the show notes Welcome or welcome back to how we Get Through. Where we heal, we expand and we get through together. Welcome back to how we Get Through.
Speaker 1:Today's guest is Amelia Struthers. Welcome, amelia. Hey, so good to be here. This is so good, okay. So I found you on TikTok because you were talking about soul contracts and I was like what the hell is that? So I reached out to you to be on the podcast and you were like girl, let's read your chart first before we do a podcast. And I'm like, okay, and so we've had a session together and it just feels so good to come back to you and your presence and really understand myself and my soul path. So I'm so excited to chat today.
Speaker 2:I am too. I really love touching base again. I think it's important. So what a great opportunity.
Speaker 1:Thank you, yeah, okay, so can we talk about first, like what the hell is a soul contract?
Speaker 2:Well, I can tell you what I know. So I learned this information through the Center for Conscious Ascension, and so this soul contract method came through in the 1980s. It was channeled by a man, Frank Alper. Blah, blah, blah. You can go to that website and really do a deep dive and learn all about it, and you can also learn a lot about it by using the book your Soul Contract Decoded. So the way that I describe this is based on common knowledge that maybe you designed a few things before you came in right.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Maybe you. There's a reason for this life, and what that journey is is the spiritual signature.
Speaker 2:I call it the soul signature. So that is the agreement that you have, and I might have drawn this for you when I had your reading, but I dropped a little truck with big wheels. Yes, and I say so, you know astrology and you know human design and that stuff. That's like the make and model, like I'm going to have red paint and I'm going to have leather seats. I'm going to go around with this attitude and but what is the track you're on is that soul signature and that soul contract? So when you use the method that I use the soul contract you're actually looking at a picture of your soul contract and it looks like numbers on the Star of David, but those numbers are pulled from your birth name. So that's what that soul contract is. It's the agreement you made when you came in the karma to clear from your soul's past lives or from generational karma, and that's really. It shows you what your work is in this lifetime so you usually take the birth name.
Speaker 1:And what happens if they've changed their name, they've gotten married or changed their first name? How does that? How do you read a contract then?
Speaker 2:change your name, change your life, that's what I like to say so we always start with the birth certificate name, no matter what, even if you and this has happened your name got changed three days later. We call that the cake. So it's the foundation, it's what you're hardwired for. And then, when you change your name, you add on a different chart. It's called an overlay. So a lot of women change their names when they get married. So oftentimes I'll look at the birth certificate chart first and then bring in the common name and do a side-by-side to say, okay, this is like a layer of frosting on that cake, it's giving you some extra information.
Speaker 2:Yeah exactly Love that word Totally. And then another thing that can happen is you have that common name since you were born Like I never got married. No, believe me.
Speaker 1:I'm on number two.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm on number two so. So I have a common name from birth and that has all these other you know possibilities to it because I mean I could get into it. But the other thing that happens is you can then have a married name, so there's another chart and maybe then you get divorced and you put your name something else. Every time you change your name you add this other little layer. But what really matters is what you're commonly being called all the time. So, for example, I had a nickname, my family called me and that has a chart of its own, but because it's not really used anymore, it's not, it's sort of dormant.
Speaker 1:When you do that overlay. Have you seen significant like whoa? This is a totally different karma or path or soul. Do they ever really contradict each other or do they complement? Sure.
Speaker 2:Okay, absolutely, can contradict each other or compliment. In fact, I'll get back to that. If you are having a challenging, challenging life, then you're just like oh, I've had enough, I'm so tired. Or in your heart you said this is not really my name. You can deliberately work with someone like me, a level three soul contract practitioner or a level two soul contract practitioner, and deliberately change your name and we work through all these different names and choose the one that has just the right number of vibration, the qualities that will help overlay and change some of that. That happens. So that's a deliberate way.
Speaker 2:If you have something that comes in and you change your name and you look at it. I just did this with a woman not too long ago and her name was, um, like Christine, but everybody calls her Chris. So we looked at both of those. I said stop having people call you Chris. You got to use Christine because there was a conflict with some of those vibrations not really helping out. So the answer is yes, it can go either way it either got it yeah, our causes like some friction.
Speaker 1:So it's helpful to have like your birth name and then like for my birth name was Jennifer, but I go by Jen, and so to have that overlay Absolutely Change everything. Right Well clear my karma.
Speaker 2:Well, nope. No, because I think you're using Jen with your birth name, right, or are you using a married name? No it's made a name.
Speaker 1:I never changed it.
Speaker 2:So this may sound a little confusing, but let me put it in as simple terms as I possibly can. The numbers all have a negative or positive vibration. The negative is, and we tell which it is, by where it lands in your chart. So when the numbers are in the karmic, there's two karmic positions we're going to say like at the three o'clock and the five o'clock position of that star of David right, those are the karmic areas. Those are negative, meant to turn positive. Your common name from birth, because it's your common name from birth, it's not an extra name you put on. It has some of that vibe, some of that zhuzh the karma.
Speaker 1:but you questions and not make assumptions and ask you questions like oh, hmm, are?
Speaker 2:you busy all the time? How busy are you all the time, jennifer? How's your empowerment feeling, speaking of your chart Right?
Speaker 1:Because you have to test it out.
Speaker 2:And it depends on what the other numbers are as well, because some are really powerful, like your. N1 is also overlaying the karmic part for you. So it's really with your 12-3. So it's really, it's this lovely fluid dance, and so the way I put it is this way I believe in these numbers 100% and what they mean totally. But you know your life, so we have to put it together. So that's why it's my job. I'm telling the therapist.
Speaker 1:That's all right, we all need it.
Speaker 2:It is my job to be a good listener and not make assumptions, and ask questions and also know what questions will lead the person to become through their own discovery. I just brought you on and said I'm going to tell you about your life when you're 48, you can expect this. Those are the charts that we get and then we throw them in a drawer and forget about them. This chart I want my clients to be working with continuously and seeing how there's fluidity in there.
Speaker 1:Yes, and that was so true. I mean, let's talk more about the contract and what you can reveal from it, because I'd like to pull like similarities of what came up. So there's six different points seven, six points.
Speaker 2:And then the middle is your middle life, past your soul destiny.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:Can we go through the, the six first and then the last one of what they mean? Absolutely, the Star of David has lots of triangles, but what we talk about is the downward triangle and the upward triangle. The downward triangle is what we call the physical. It has everything to do with being human ego, because you're coming, having to learn to be human again. So that physical downward chart is going to be about your outer world, your personality, relationships, job, just the outer world. So the points that that touches is like that three o'clock, point, six o'clock and we'll say 10 o'clock, something like that. Right, the downward triangle, you can imagine that. And it has karma. So that's physical karma. It's what you came in with to heal and it could be like what I would ask you. So, when you were growing up, did you have any feeling of being disempowered? Were there strong male influences in your life?
Speaker 1:Mm-mm no, and I felt like very unseen, very invisible.
Speaker 2:So you couldn't express your power. You were ignored. Yeah, so that's another way of I'm saying to the therapist again yeah, to dysregulate. Who am I? What am I about? How can I right you weren't getting reflected back to you? A parent that said you can do this, you are able to. Oh, here's a challenge for you. I can't wait to see how you make your way through that. Yeah.
Speaker 1:None of that, yeah.
Speaker 2:So then you had to heal that and ask is there something wrong with me, right? Yeah, so that's that first triangle is the physical karma. So then down at the bottom, you have talents, and the talents are what I call. They are so wonderful that you just decided to have something come in that works so perfectly for you. You are so smart to have these come in. Yours are 11-2s, so you're really good with systems and perspective and wisdom and just like all of that in your world, right? People probably come to you to say is this a true thing? Can I count on this? And you're like, absolutely or absolutely not. You're just like that, right, a weathervane. And look at what you do with this podcast. You're doing that for people, you're helping them find their way, but it's so positive that we pay no attention to it. It's just like blinking. How often did you think about blinking today, jen?
Speaker 2:never, no, but were you good at it?
Speaker 2:yeah, uh-huh the best I know, I believe it. So, where that karma is, where the healing happens, the talents is where, um, as you're doing that healing, your talents come more and more and more online and I say to my clients I want you to activate those, I want you to step into them. I want you to say every day and in this course that I teach the six-week, 40-days Soul Contract Deep Dive I say I want you to make a statement about your talents and I want you to say it every day. Pick a time every day when you're doing something else, because habits only only 40% of our habits require full attention. So when you're walking the dog, make the statement.
Speaker 2:So, jen, you'd be like I can figure these systems out and I am so wise, right, just step into it. Yeah, take that, I love that. Yeah, so that's the talents. Now we're going over here to the goals and as this talent is sort of pivoting you to heal, it's also pivoting you to like, step into these things that you really want to do. And guess what, holy moly, here is our 7-7. A goal Perhaps To bring people together with information, maybe. Maybe people want to come to you and you say, oh, I know what your heart's feeling.
Speaker 1:Here I have someone you can see, yes, oh my gosh, yes, and that's what I'm doing right now with how we get woo, the new community. Like that I just feel and that's what I think the app of the therapy app, when I first started, was a part of that. Like I want you to go see this person, this person's amazing and specialized in this and like this blew me away, that they because even I've experienced people on the podcast just like you come into my life and bring this beautiful, like it's almost like holes in my like spirit, body and you just go boom and you fill a hole and I'm like, oh my god, thank you so much like just a beautiful receiving of different aspects of self that you get to kind of enter into. And there's a vast variety of ways to do that and it's just been such a blessing.
Speaker 2:Sorry, I didn't mean to go on a tangent, but but no, and this is what I love my clients speak. I'm like they're talking about their number and they don't even realize it, because what you're talking about is the heart wound and we talked about that. Sevens, they need a lot of very, very gentle kind, loving healing, don't make me cry.
Speaker 2:I know we did some crying. I'll do cry again. Yeah, okay, we can do that. Because I also like to say when a seven comes into my space, so many people say I saw you in TikTok and I just knew it and it's like, yeah, your send masters are like nudging you to get the information. But I also know that with your twos of seeing whether things are real trustworthy, and your sevens with your heart wound, needing you can't be around the nasty that, then I say I am so honored you had, on a cellular level, a knowing that you'd be okay here, and so I take that with a lot of respect and no fooling. Those sevens are just like you can't see. It's more like this I'm out in the world with my mask right, and then you go home and go. Oh phew, I could take the mask off, yes, yes.
Speaker 1:And I feel like that has sharpened the more and more that I attune to myself where, even if I reach out to someone, I'm like, oh, this is going to be a great fit, and then I meet them right away. I'm like, oh, no, no, no, no, what?
Speaker 2:can I do for them? No, you should be everybody's wingman. If they're going out on a date, say, bring Jen, have her sitting at the bar, walk by and say, oh, I didn't know you were going to be here, meet Joe, and you're like, if I take a shot, it means go for it, yeah, yeah exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2:All right. So that is to continue the big question you asked me. So that's the goal. So you have karma, talents, goals in the physical downward facing triangle, and so that's what gets you out of bed in the morning, that I want to go, I want to bring people together, I want them to learn the things. So this is all in the outer world, right, the things. So this is all in the outer world, right. And then we have the upper triangle, which is the spiritual triangle, which really comes online between the ages of 35 and 42. We're right there. Yep, it goes knock, knock, hi, are you listening? And the more you don't listen, the more chaotic your life could become.
Speaker 2:I'm not going to say it's an absolute, but it really is the time when we kind of bring that soul self out again. So we go over it again. We've got karma down here on this side of the triangle, we've got talents over on this side of the triangle and goals up here at the top. Except now we're talking about something more profound. It's not necessarily the vibrations aren't so much outward, they're more about your very divine, sacred practices. So, using you as a beautiful, obvious example, so you've got your 12-3 down here and your karma. And I like to say to my 12-3s and I like to say to my 12 threes, who love to share, very loving, so would you give your socks to a stranger on the street? Yeah, yes. And this is where I say not everybody would do that.
Speaker 2:That's the 12th three and so, since yours is in karma, what we have to encourage you is ask you questions like have you ever given too much? Have you ever gone too far? So that's your karma. Right, that's where I say I know the number, but do you know your life? So I ask you this question and test it out, and I can hear someone saying right now, this is channeling through, right here, right now.
Speaker 2:Someone says but what if that doesn't happen? To me? It's like it's okay, I know the numbers well enough. I will find somehow for you to manage some part of it to resonate with, because it's come on, it's just there somewhere. So for you, that healing is around those boundaries and slowing down, doing what's going down, doing what's right, not what's next. The three is the worthiness. It's like being a little librarian inside with these hidden feelings and just having being able to have the confidence to come out again like those sevens very, very gentle need to have such gentle lovingness around. But as you heal that and feel more confidence here in your throat to be able to speak who you truly are and feel your worthiness, then that switch is more positive Again. Both the physical and spiritual karma you're moving those out and you have this 10-1 over here in your spiritual talents ain't gonna let you be quiet forever. You're just too freaking powerful.
Speaker 1:And that was so helpful the 10-1. Can you speak about that? Because, yeah, how was it helpful for you. There was a phrase you said which I mean we have free will with everything, but you were like this is taking away that free will, like they are not going to sit and watch you not step into that or or do this for other people, or like it was just that I can't remember what you said, but it was so impactful of like permission in some way, of like you've been feeling this your whole life. For this reason, keep going, yeah, was what I received, and I was like, oh, and it just gave me a little extra umph from the universe, the world of like yeah, and you know what that umph is.
Speaker 2:Remember I talked to you about the car on the path. I like to tell people you've been channeling your soul signature your whole life. So for you to say, umph, that gave me the power. It's like, well, of course, because you just stepped back into the channel In alignment, which is the flow of life. So that's what this chart shows you. It says, hey, you got free will to go anywhere you want. Try it out, see how it goes, see how it feels, and then come back and try it. This way You've got a choice. And for you it sounded like oh, that made me get into the flow of life again.
Speaker 2:The 10-1, archangel Michael, the number one, is this crown chakra. It's like heaven is real. You don't have to go really far to find heaven. It's like right there and you bring unity and stability to people, which is nice for your 12-3 over here in your karma, because that can just be like I want to do this, I want to learn this, I want to do that, I want to find that. It's like it's the highest God-like vibrations in numerology, that 10-1 and archangel michael had the you know, the sword for heaven like right over. Might you're there to say, hey, uh-uh, we're gonna do this in a holy way now. 10-1s have to work hard, though, to stay on the path. It's almost like that it's set up so it's like shiny hello over here. Do you notice that, that you have to kind of work it?
Speaker 1:coming back to a practice, oh yes, absolutely, yeah, yeah and even again, you getting the reading was part of that, like coming back to it yes, sure like hey, but don like. This is your path here, because there's a lot of ego, there's a lot of fear, there's a lot of I mean there's and also just distraction from it, from life.
Speaker 2:Well, there it is, the distraction you input there on purpose. Thanks, soul Great job, and that's your job as a 10-1 and even as a 12-3. I am here to get distracted so that I can commit again and again and again.
Speaker 1:I do feel that feels very resonant of my life and also I feel like a little bit of it's, a little bit of death and rebirth in some way that I enjoy, of like reinventing and like what needs to be sifted through and what is being born.
Speaker 2:Well, now you're talking about your 11th. Okay, yeah, look at that Two of those. Yeah, look at that Two of those. The statement for the 11 is death to life, which can mean with two 11s in your chart. This would be an example where it'd say tell me about relationships. Have you lost a lot of relationships in your life? Has there been a lot of changes in your life?
Speaker 1:Is this the divorce number, Amelia?
Speaker 2:The 10-1 is Okay. Yeah, the 10-1 is the divorce number.
Speaker 1:Check that one out. Yeah, yeah yeah, it is. Why is it the divorce number 10-1?
Speaker 2:It has to. Why is it? I'll have to go deep into my memory to remember exactly why. But there's the yin and yang balance with the ten. So if you have met somebody to balance your need for more of either yin or yang, right and they bring that in, but then through your spiritual path, you claim that for yourself. You no longer need that mirror anymore and you can say okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so it's really important in relationships with your three and karma working on relationships that um. But the more you become true and authentic with your worthiness, you're going to step into a relationship much better. Right, and those sevens as well. When you heal those heart wounds, it can't go in and say, oh no, I'm fine, I'll marry you. Look at, I'm totally healthy, right?
Speaker 1:we know how that works, yeah check kind of um.
Speaker 2:So the 101 is very much about balance and I always like to hold up that. Princess Diana had a couple of 10-1s. 10-1s are about service. They want to, they're not in service, they're not happy. So you're giving. Nature is really important. But she was an example of someone who was not balanced with that yin-yang right. She was looking for men to come in and really fulfill her because her power was being down, down, down, down. So she was like but then it's also the don't step on my dress number. I like to call it.
Speaker 1:Give me some room.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is call it uh-huh, give me some room. Yeah, it is, it's like give me some room, don't so like for her. It's like oh yeah, you're not gonna let me talk about my depression and everything. I'm gonna write a book and talk to the BBC, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 1:I love that. I even take that to a like physical level, like when I'm dancing, I'm like don't touch me, like I'm dancing, like I'm in my space, I'm in my zone, my body, um. So that was absolutely absolutely all right.
Speaker 2:So that's the talent there. I'm just looking at my notes because there's a lot to know about this stuff there is um. You need a yeah, you need a routine to stay focused, because so easy to get off your path. Learning compassion is important. Stability Unlock. Unlock the powerful energies inside of you, because if you don't, it's just like.
Speaker 1:If you don't, it's just like oh yes, and I think what you put together that again was so resonant was the karma of being disempowered, coupled with the unworthiness and something else the goals that, when I look at my childhood of like feeling invisible and unworthy and I'm working through these relationships and how to set boundaries, how to speak, my needs, how to do all these things and really, I think in the later years, finding what like meeting myself at the depths of me and then seeing who can do that outside of me. But I still have that work of empowering and emboldening myself in my worthiness and in my emotions. That feels like when I say that I'm like, oh, I've done a lot of work on that, but it feels like teetery still, because it doesn't feel super clear and like the sevens have a lot of dreamland stuff to it and it's almost again that avoidance thing like it's just so much.
Speaker 2:Yes, how do I really take a look at this? So it's easier, just go. No, everything's good and I don't really see, I don't A little bit of that. And I am just taking a quick look at this. The 10 is the symbol of manifestation of spirit on the earth plane. Spirit moves, yeah, and spirit is eternal and forever moving. So it's a forever coming back, learning again and again. It's not like you're going to sit and put your feet up. You're always going to be having to come back and reintroduce yourself to yourself and your power. Um, it's very, but it's about work hard, work, work, work, work. You have to work hard to achieve um like inner work.
Speaker 2:Um, it could be well. It's in your spiritual spot, so it's more like your inner work. Okay. But if someone has a 10-1 in their physical chart, it's challenging because it's a spiritual vibration in a physical position. So those people can feel like misfits, like they don't ever really fit in because they've been, they're powerful and they're in this other plane. The five fives are the same way Multi-dimensional timeline jumpers and it's a physical chart. It's just like how do you make sense of the?
Speaker 1:world or how do other people?
Speaker 2:make sense of you.
Speaker 1:Well, that's so interesting. So if you're listening and you've ever felt like not a part of this, that'd be so interesting to get a soul contract read.
Speaker 2:Yeah, there's a joke with us that we say don't do it, don't tell us, don't try to guess what it is, because you can't. But there are some things that are like eights they're just eights in karma, just very, very, very to me very obvious. And fives, I got fives, and actually on social media, fives and eights. Any videos I do about those, I get tons of responses and I think it's part of that misfit, I see kind of feeling and that's a five and eight in any of the stars, like that's in any category.
Speaker 2:No, the eights. The eights are um much heavier, it's denser, it's harder in karma, it's hard to relate to the world, but you're really here to bring heaven on earth, which is a paradox, because you're like I want to get the heck out of here, yes, but no, you're really. You're supposed to be back up. That's exactly it. That's exactly the phrase people say. I came in and said why can't I go back? And it's like because heaven is here.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And you're here to help others. They can be with anybody. I often say I could put you in a coal mine and you'd get along with everybody, and then we could get on a plane and have high tea with King Charles and Queen Camilla and you'd get along fine there too. Yeah, yeah so interesting All yeah, so I just want to like pin your original question.
Speaker 2:So we didn't do the talents, spiritual talents for you, 11-2. Again I mean spiritual goals at the top. So again it's the inner expression, that 11-2, the questioning. You know what's changing? Where's my resilience? The two is called foolishness to wisdom. Changing Where's my resilience? The two is called foolishness to wisdom. And as a therapist you know this. When you're working with your clients, you're helping them regulate before they make decisions. That's what the two is all about. The symbol is a spring. There's symbols for all these numbers and if the spring is shaking like this and you're emotional and then you make it yes, I'm going to buy that car, or yes, I'm going to buy the puppy, or I'm going to have a baby, I mean yeah, right oh yeah.
Speaker 2:But if you slow down, do all those practices, all these number vibrations have recommendations for healing. So you bring the practice in, get quiet, and then the spring stops shaking. And this is for you and your goals. Slow the heck down, the spring stops. It becomes a solid unit. Now you stand on top and you have perspective and then people are your aura changes, people are drawn to you, yeah, and they find like you're the it's called being the shock absorber for people's lives. So you've got that in your goals. And then in your physical goals you have the 7-7, which is I am magnetic, Come to me, Come to me.
Speaker 1:Like the siren.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. And the 11-2 is like here let me help you find the truth. Yeah. And the 10-1 is let me be a spiritual teacher, let me use all the spiritual knowledge I have and be disciplined. That 10 needs a lot of discipline and showing other people how to be disciplined. So, oh, this goes great. So we talked about all the areas except the one in the middle. We'll get there when you look at your karma, so that three o'clock, four o'clock, whatever you want to say as those heal, which they are, if you are an awakening person, you're healing them. You say that again If you're an awakening person, you're healing them.
Speaker 1:Say that again.
Speaker 2:If you're an awakening person, you're healing your karma, okay. And if you come to me for a reading, you are healing your karma because you were guided and you're not going to be guided if you're not awake.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Or you won't realize you're being guided. So you find your golden gift of service and your karma as it moves towards the positive, towards that healing. You find it like this is what I'm here to do, and I always tell people in readings. I tell them this right away, just say, by the way, so your gift of service is to learn and with such a loving heart and just to share and give so much so that you empower others, how does that sound for you? I want to cry. Yes, so it work.
Speaker 1:You know, it's so interesting because, um, in order to do that, I have to do that for myself oh yeah, the, the healing work. Yeah, and I think it's that idea of like being always being the teacher and the student you know yeah. And I think there's something very um like. Uh, there's no hierarchy a little bit in that, because it keeps shifting.
Speaker 2:Right, and through our healing we find the compassion for others. Right, and through our healing we find the compassion for others. I had some real dark times in my life, Right, and all through it I was saying I'm learning something here. Because I was too awake not to pay attention, I said, okay, there's something I'm learning here, and now, because of those experiences, I say I have so much compassion for other people. I can't fault them, I don't have to agree with them, I don't even have to forgive them if I want to, but I do, just can't help but feel compassion. All right, let's talk about the middle part.
Speaker 2:You have six, six Creative. Don't even have to think about it. Ideas, just Creative.
Speaker 1:Ideas, just yes, yes, that's so interesting because some of it, I feel like, matches up with astrology.
Speaker 2:Oh, it definitely does yeah.
Speaker 1:With the Enneagram.
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely. Well, it makes sense, right, because it's all vibrational. So I'm not saying anything, please. I'm not saying anything against any tool and you're going to align with it. It's just it's yeah.
Speaker 1:I've already said that I think they're all pieces, yeah, yeah, but I just think, the more that you explore these things, how you can't ignore how much they all come back to the same shit of who you are.
Speaker 2:And I was taught with this. I can't help myself. I'm a teacher. I want to bring people over the line. That's why I have a mini course about how to take a deep dive and bring this as a daily practice into your life. 40 days it takes 40 days to change a habit. So that's what this is 40 days. But I was taught you can bring the people to the information and it's up to them to be sparked to do the healing work. But I'm never satisfied. You will do it. Come, come, learn, learn how to bring this into your life.
Speaker 2:So your six sixes in the middle and yes, absolutely aligns. And there's an anytime you're inspired to learn more about yourself and do better work in the world. Who doesn't love that? So the soul destiny, I like to say, is like an inner and an outer experience, because we know what we're here for, we feel it, but for some reason we also kind of want to see it outside of ourselves too. Right, we kind of want to reconcile something with a destiny. A destiny is something you're reaching towards, something you want to reconcile with and come back and come into contact with. Even though it's here. It's like the Dorothy thing. You don't have to look beyond your own backyard. So it does start out with some karmic aspects, like the goals are karmic and positive, negative and positive. So you are working towards it to fully manifest it. Not everybody is here to fully manifest their soul destiny. That is described in the soul contract and that's okay. Why is that? I think it's because a soul destiny is a process.
Speaker 1:Oh, like, not every lifetime you're going to be able to work through your shit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you get done what you needed to get done. Hopefully you don't make new karma. More stuff, yeah, yeah. So I usually draw a lighthouse with like a circular thing because it's this circular staircase. Yeah, getting more and more. That's what it is. It isn't ta-da, I'm the king of the mountain. It's more like okay, going through learning, learning, learning. And the way the big payoff I always show my clients is you get there your soul destiny, by healing the karma, activating the talents and working towards your goals.
Speaker 2:Beautiful Do all that and then you're moving along. So let me read you your soul destiny again. It's a good one, Ready yeah To become the vessel, to become the vessel for the creative force of God to manifest.
Speaker 1:Why are you making me cry again?
Speaker 2:It's my job. It's what I was made for.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, I love that what does that mean for you? I'd first of all there's power in it, but then I think it makes me feel special. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2:And I think that's so helpful for me and my worthiness.
Speaker 1:Yes, Look at you making connections Like I need to feel special. I don't need to, but when that comes in like the 10-1, I'm like I am worthy of this, yeah, and the 9.
Speaker 2:The 9 is so powerful. The 9 is the most powerful vibration of all the numbers. Okay, it wants to help the underdog. It wants to be a peacemaker.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you feel that. Yeah which I'm a nine on the Enneagram, which is a peacemaker.
Speaker 2:It's like you have a direct phone. See, I'm an old lady, so I still do phones like this, yes, so do I?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you have a direct phone line with heaven, and what your role is with the karma is to accept your channel. And to do that you got to feel special, right. You got to feel like, hey look, I've got heaven on the line. That's pretty special. So accepting that it's special is part of accepting that you have that power and it's with your threes unworthiness. I mean, look at how beautifully that's set up right.
Speaker 1:Yes, like it's all working together, yeah, which is fucking crazy, mm-hmm. And it's so interesting. Even I'm like, oh wait, was it okay that I said I'm special? So here's the unworthiness coming through.
Speaker 2:Exactly Filtering back and like.
Speaker 1:Distraction. Can I say that on this podcast, when other people are?
Speaker 2:I mean, and then everyone's special. You know which? I really believe everyone has their specialness. I love what Ram Dass says we are not special, we are unique. That's very true. So, by saying we're all special, is that big, huge, big L love? Oh, we are a part of the spark, of the same fire, but your spark is going to go like this and mine's going to go like this, and that's what makes us unique. So, yeah, you are special and you're unique. And the more you accept and say that you're not going to do any harm with it, because your 10-1 is in talents. Instead, instead, you're going to use that as a spiritual teaching tool but that's where I think the work is.
Speaker 1:For me is that. Does that tip me up in the power, in the ego selfishness? Because I'm not saying it does, but I'm saying that's where it go, where that nine comes in of like, well, don't think you're too, don't think you're too special, don't think you're too unique. Like, who are you? What have you done with this power before?
Speaker 2:Where have you heard that voice before in your life?
Speaker 1:I don't know. I feel like it's more the absence of someone saying you can take up space.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying Because I hear that as a resonant to what you said earlier. Yes being invisible and even if they didn't say it overtly, their silence was saying don't be special Jen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just be nothing.
Speaker 2:Bland old Jen. There she is, went all along, you're like baby, you're a firework.
Speaker 1:Yes, I'm triple fire in astrology. I'm just burning shit, burn it.
Speaker 2:Burn it. Yeah, I want you to because you're a peacemaker. So just remember this In this lifetime, if you're trying to think well, I can't misuse I think I talked to you about this in your reading the nine has heavy duty karma of misusing power, right? So of course, you come and you're like, ooh, I know what power feels like. I know it's really bad. So you feel undeserving of the power, right? Is that a word that makes sense for you?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Ding ding, ding, ding ding. All of that Yep, that's that. Nine in karma. Is that undeserving feeling and what you're going to come to because you're a peacemaker? Now I'm going to start to cry. This is channeling through right here. You're not ever going to hurt anybody, honey. You're incapable of hurting anybody because this time you made a promise to do it differently I'm crying, that's why I'm silent. I am listening. Do you need me to take over?
Speaker 1:oh god, oh God.
Speaker 2:Oh my.
Speaker 1:God.
Speaker 2:I know, nicely done, nicely done. It's such a risk for you to open your heart up that deeply it's, to be that vulnerable. So I celebrate that wisdom for you that it was okay to go there.
Speaker 1:Thank you, and you too, and I think the tears honestly in my life are always like that resonant peace where I'm like this is hitting.
Speaker 2:Let it come Like oh yeah, you gotta you know, as a therapist, you gotta feel it to heal it. Yeah, so there's a lot of recommendations. Yeah, you know, as a therapist, you got to feel it to heal it. Yeah, so there's a lot of recommendations. These are all in the book. You're still contract decoded, as I said. Recommendations for this number, so that empowerment the anger for the nines.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, so much anger, yeah, moving that through. But then there's ways to also get help with that. There's a method called divine healing and there are practitioners who I recommend, that are my colleagues, that do this work. It is not about talking, moving things, working with your ascended masters and angels to move the vibrations, because sometimes it's a heavy lift and you can't just do it on your own. So divine healers often have also taken um the soul contract, um trainings as well, so they can look at your chart and go, oh, look at those nines there, let's see and go through all these different um oh, there's a word for it um, there's things. Is it like energy? Yeah, it is, it's. It's connecting you with the what is in the body that's being held karmically right down the mitochondria right and then using affirmations of sort, but they're more statements, it's like I command that this is over now. And it's using the force of the universe ascended masters, angels, guides and it's just it's channeled information.
Speaker 2:These practitioners are incredible. They can pick which area. They're all different areas, many, many different layers and levels. There's different levels of divine healing, light body work. So what I'm saying is we don't leave you hanging right. There's a lot of supportive work to do along with that, and that's when you have a reading with me. That's what I do, is I recommend people to that, and you can also find some practitioners who offer webinars on these so you can test it out. You can look this up on the Center for Conscious Ascension and then in my course that I this 40 day, like deep dive, I bring in a divine healer to work with all my students yes, oh, I love that.
Speaker 1:Okay, can we quickly shift a little bit to kids and partners and how you work with that?
Speaker 2:absolutely. I think you and I had a great conversation about that. So my background is in early education, so I have a whole lot of that knowledge. But then you bring this in. It's like, oh yes, spiritual parenting, which I did very much with my daughter and it made a big difference.
Speaker 1:So who's a therapist?
Speaker 2:She's a therapist. She's a therapist, she is, and I was just talking to her today. She was working with a young child.
Speaker 1:I said you were channeling right there. She said yeah, I know, oh, I love that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're going to have to talk with both of us. I call it a relationship chart so I can take up to like five names and it could be your spouse or your ex-spouse, your mother, parents, parents, absolutely, you want to look at those parents and the children's names and then we look at them side by side and then I can say where there's harmony and where there's discord. And isn't that lovely to know. If you have a child with sevens, for example, heart wound, you're going to parent that child a little bit differently. Or what if they have nine in a karmic position? You're going to help them find the peace within them and find the way to empower themselves. So that's very rich information to have if you want to do conscious parenting. And then, spouse, it's great.
Speaker 2:I remember my teacher looked at my husband I was in the training. He looked at our charts. He said he must give you so much love because he's got sevens in a talent position and it just made me go oh my gosh, yeah, because I was having the worthy thing of being able to accept love, yeah, and being able to see it as love Right, and then it just came right in. So that's how I work with spouses and then for my daughter's father. It was beautiful. Again, my teacher again. When you work with a practitioner, it's different than just reading it yourself, which is a great start, certainly how I got started. But he said, oh, he was a divine asshole. And I went oh yes, and I went like this and I said thank you, if you hadn't been that way, I wouldn't have woken up even more. And then the compassion came through and most of the forgiveness yes, too, the forgiveness comes through, but I was able to go, I understand the role this person had in my life.
Speaker 2:It wasn't just chaos, it was a role, it was a relationship and it helped me bump up to a more profound, higher level of seeing things, which was very helpful for me and helpful for my daughter. I mean, you don't want your kids feeling your animosity, right? Right, you don't. So, if I can put it into perspective, it's like okay, yeah, so when we get together, because we're still a family, we're going to still get together for certain events. I'm not energetically projecting anything anymore yeah to the divine.
Speaker 1:What a gift sorry, honey, if you're watching this podcast, but we'll talk about it later yeah, yes, but even just, you know when you can kind of reflect of like that had to be so painful in that way for me to shift, I mean, and you could have chosen not to shift either, right, but you see the the purpose of it, when you can look back and be like in gratitude In gratitude, that was the word, and it became healing instead of destructive. Yeah, it's like a catalyst.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what a different way to live. Okay, you said something interesting about C-section babies. I did. Can you repeat that? Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:So when a child is born through C-section, it's sort of like taking a leap away from having to work through the parents or the mother's karma.
Speaker 1:Oh, only the mother's.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say the parents' karma. Okay, the parents' karma. You're just basically saying I don't need to do that. Work, Mom, dad you do that work.
Speaker 1:Oh, maybe not. They don't have it Like. Mom and dad will do that work, but they're not. Their soul isn't taking it on. They're not.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like they don't have to process it like what I notice a lot, the more of the work that I do I notice in my daughter. It's like oh, she doesn't, she's not having, she's not getting hooked the same way she's the same section. No, okay, no, no, no, she was a painless birth because oh.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, you transcended.
Speaker 2:I did, I totally did. That's going to be our next podcast, yeah, anyway. So, yes, if it's a vaginal birth, natural birth, then they take on the karma, the generational karma. Karma could end. So if it's a C-section, then it's like no. And my best friend when I learned this, I shared this with her and her oldest child oh, that makes so much sense. She's just like burning through in such a different way. You're like is this your kid? Or she'll look at the stuff that my friend is dealing with and she'll be like Mom, just get over it. In a much different way, and mine was all about the mother wound and I clearly decided to not raise my child the way I was raised. I was raised beautifully, lovely family, lovely parents, but still trauma, you know you're a therapist.
Speaker 2:Yes, and I remember growing up my mother would look at me and go fakey smile and I was like this right, it was just like and then when my daughter, with little someone, said, wow, look at how amazing she is, I said and I felt it and I just said, oh, hell no hell, no, hell no.
Speaker 2:And then I was able to say when people said, wow, what a great kid, I would say yes, she's amazing. And I could feel my heart lightening. I could feel the pain of my childhood just lightening. And this is how healing works in my experience. My father love him had a great, you know, a good relationship, but he had a complicated relationship with my sisters. He was dying. He was at home. It was six weeks in bed and at one point he looked at me and he said you are so beautiful, beautiful. And now I realize, oh, he was transcending, it was enlightenment, and in that one phrase it healed everything, right, healed everything. And the same thing happened with me saying my daughter is great. Suddenly, all that fakey, fakey smile it was like was gone.
Speaker 1:So now maya doesn't have to heal that wound, because I healed it and I think you're speaking to everybody that's listening to this podcast that knows there's something better and they want to raise their kids better I mean all the millennials anyway.
Speaker 1:they're like I know how do we do this differently? And so and I think again, like my children are my greatest teachers that show me and mirror really painful things that I'm like okay, how do I deal with this differently? Because I don't want this to be yours, but I also can't manage if it is, or you pick it up a certain way or it becomes something for you, right, it's just that I'll be able to validate and hold space for that and repair what I need to repair like that, that worthiness and that scene for me is is the biggest thing for me and my kids.
Speaker 2:And when you can just love them and celebrate them, it's just going to brighten you up so much.
Speaker 1:And even to be present sometimes, which I've noticed in the last couple months, just looking in their eyes and looking at how Sometimes my daughter and I can get in it a lot. And so I've been trying to shift that more of like how beautiful she is, like as a person, and just really observing her and smiling at her, you know, like yes, because I think I've, I've especially in these. I mean, she's gonna be seven, but I could see a lot of dark times with her where I'm just like I've got a mean face, like if I'm pissed you'll fucking see it, you know. And so like really trying to repair even that with some moments of like I see how wonderful you are.
Speaker 2:Now I again say look, you're talking your soul contract. I want to see yours and hers next to each other. Contract. I want to see yours and hers next to each other. For example, my daughter and I both have nines in physical goals and when I started to get really deep into this method, I could see how, through my own conscious parenting just what I know about child development and parenting how I was already adjusting. But now, with this information, I was able to adjust even more, to say, okay, we're going to butt heads with power.
Speaker 1:Right, but I mean.
Speaker 2:I don't have to be attached to it. And again and again, again, through her life I've just been like okay, and now I realize how important that is because it's giving her the experience of being in her power and it being safe. She knows she can go there with her mom. Now are there times I have to go? Uh, no, yeah, and we do have. We do have conflicts, emotional conflicts, but the thing that she always knows is that we're always okay. Even if there's a rift, we're always okay. And part of that came through as I was a single mom. I would lose it. I'd just be like, because I was a single mom, it was hard.
Speaker 2:I had five jobs and I would like stomp away. And then within 30 seconds I'd come out and go okay, I'm sorry, that was totally me, not you. And she says that as a therapist. She says that she goes like, yeah, my mom would freak out, but it was okay, it didn't affect me because she would always come back and apologize. Now it turns out that I have a 20-2 in my chart. We get over things really, really fast and I used to say how come people you know they hold on to things? And now I realize, oh, it's just a part of my abilities to be able to do that. So now I can be patient with my husband when he doesn't get over things right away, or my daughter. See how this works. It just it comes in, it comes in.
Speaker 1:And then if you want to use this as a tool for your entire life, for all your relationships, it's powerful, yes, and it has been really powerful in my life and I bet you we have that power dynamic somewhere, because that is. I know that that is what I'm living and how to really see her in her power and and but not be disempowered. That's what's getting triggered for me. Is I feel disempowered in when I'm in spaces with her because she's craving the power and I'm like, oh fuck, no, you don't get that. Blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2:That's well, no, and you do. You do need to they, yes. This is the thing that I see when parents aren't setting boundaries yeah, with their kids.
Speaker 2:It makes me, but I think I talked to you about this. There there's a developmental theorist named Sambhava Lovemore who did something called natural learning rhythms and they described that seven to 10 year age is emotional being. So she's going to be moving into the emotional being, moving into the emotional being and you need to just be so understanding how suddenly their skin is totally thin. One of the things they suddenly realize is they're mortal and death becomes like a whole thing. And also being understanding rules and saying, no, you've got to do it this way. No, this is the right way to do it. So it'll be really interesting to see what happens with her power when that, when she kind of becomes a little bit more vulnerable.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I can see her shifting into that which we've kind of talked about death all the time. But we are, you know, at this stage, when we're recording this, I'm moving out and we're going to be, you know, doing time two days. Well it's, her whole life's going to be shifting, so perfect time for her to step in the emotional world and remember she's got her own soul signature.
Speaker 2:She signed up for this. She signed up for something, but you can be conscious about it and aware about it. And what is it? You know, leave as little harm as possible, Leave nothing behind as possible, but we're going to mess up, we're going to screw up, and I do. I call Maya sometimes I go oh honey, I'm just remembering a time she said Mom, I don't remember any of it.
Speaker 1:It's fine, please don't go there you.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes. I would never say I was a perfect parent. I'd just say I was a very conscious parent.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's which means you're conscious of self in order to be different in relationships you know like yeah, yeah, I can't get away with it.
Speaker 2:that's the other thing that my and I have in common. I wonder if this is a nine thing. You can confirm this? This for me, I can't get away. You know like somebody can get away with being in a restaurant going this sucks, and like walking out or saying to their boss I don't think blah, blah, blah, Right, they can get away. And everyone's like, oh, I'll listen to you If I try to do anything like that.
Speaker 1:it's like ladies sit down, yeah.
Speaker 2:I can't get away with anything and I just think that's heaven's way of saying come on, you're more aware, Do better.
Speaker 1:I feel that dynamic between her and her father Like he can get away with anything but me. It's different.
Speaker 2:You guys have some things there, well, we should look. You guys have some. We do Some things there, yeah, well, we should look at his name and her.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because they are very synonymous in a lot of ways and my son and I are a little bit more synonymous, but we have our own. It's very special still, I appreciate it.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say this you don't have much to worry about, you're on it. I'm going to say this you don't have much to worry about, you're on it, you're not going to do it. Remember, I said you're not going to do any harm. Yeah, you got it.
Speaker 1:Don't make me cry, you got this, yeah, and I mean stepping into my power in a lot of ways and my job now and has always been but to really hold space for my kids as this happens, like I had to go through my shit to be as clear as possible, as grounded, as much, which there's still be unraveling, but now it's holding space for them and whatever that. Forever, forever in this.
Speaker 2:But it is forever and it's, and it's just facing that it's going to be sad, it's, it's always going to be sad and just you know, not trying to be like, oh, let's go out and get some ice cream, because you know, as a therapist, you know that stuff. It's just like, yeah, let's hold this, but at the same time, it's not the end of the world. This is where your twos are really helpful, because you can help people learn resilience.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm going to remember that help people learn resilience.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm going to remember that. Yeah, because here's a great opportunity to learn resilience, to say, yep, things in life are hard and things fall apart, and we this just channeled right through. We are a family and no situation is ever going to change the fact that we're a family and I oh, and this is the biggest thing you say, I always have your back. This may feel like stuff, you may, whatever it is, but I want you to know we are always a family and that's never going to change. Amen, and the little old woman too. That's good.
Speaker 1:Yes, well, on that note, thank you for reading me. We have 10 minutes, I know, but, but I but I think what people can hear is also the experience number one, anything about the soul contract, but the way that you read and the way that you intuitively really like even you said like I, I'm imagining you being marble and like so sturdy oh yeah, that came through yes, but your ability to do, to have those downloads and say, just write what you need to hear, and I just think that's very unique and special.
Speaker 1:So thank you for doing this work.
Speaker 2:It is my pleasure, my pleasure Truly. My name is Amelia, which means ameliorate, to improve or make better. That's what I was made for. That's what Merlin said.
Speaker 1:I was made for.
Speaker 2:That's what I was made for.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for coming on again. I love being in your energy and in your field and thank you for the work that you're doing and you're teaching. Can you tell everybody where to find you?
Speaker 2:My website and my business name is Essential how To. Essentialhowtocom is my website that will show you where my readings are. Here's big information. I'm booked out really far, but here's the good news. Of course I am. There's no mistakes. Get a reading Sign up for one, because it's perfectly timed, because something's going to happen between now and then that you're going to want to talk to me about. Absolutely Don't worry about it. And if you need something in the meantime, I have these classes that I'm doing on a regular, rolling basis, where you can start looking at your soul contract and using it in a really good way, and I'm going to actually start some even more mini programs. So it's always good just to get on my email list, and you can do that at essentialhowtocom. Get on the email list, I'll send you information. You can find me on Instagram. Find me on TikTok.
Speaker 1:You're killing it, I'm killing it. I've got a reel that has almost half a million views right now. Oh my gosh, look at that. Look at that, get it. And that's how we connected. So I'm very grateful for that TikTok.
Speaker 2:I am too. I know that what is right for people is going to resonate for them. I'm working with Ascended Masters. It's not me giving the information. It's like this I say there's a triangle, your Ascended Masters. It's not me giving the information. It's like this I say there's a triangle, your Ascended Masters are up here, you're down here, right, and they're giving you downloads all the time. Hey, hey, hey, hey. And sometimes the ego like makes the journey a little bit hard. Yes, so they go, amelia, like yes, and they give me the information that then comes across to you. Oh, I love that. So if you're feeling drawn yeah, you're feeling drawn and you know it like you did, you're just like I got to do this. So that's why I don't worry about advertising. I don't worry about broadcasting really loudly, because I know, if I'm just that lighthouse, that the people who need to see it will come yes, yes, and I did so, thank you no, thank you, and I love your podcast.
Speaker 2:I love it because I've also said this is the work, this is the conference. I want to do is bring people together, like you are, because I also have sevens, yes, um, so that's another thing. Being on my email list, you'll see about some conferences where I bring someone like you on and then we can switch roles. Yes and I can interview you, I love it Yay.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much, Amelia.
Speaker 2:Thank you, Jen. Blessings to you and everyone who's listening.
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