Designing A Vision-Aligned Life And Business With Your Spouse With Dr. Alex Schloe

🎙️ Welcome back to another impactful episode of The Physicians and Properties Podcast with host, Dr. Alex Schloe.

💡 What if your marriage was the most important investment in your portfolio?

In this solo episode, Dr. Schloe shifts the conversation from real estate returns to relational ROI—and why alignment with your spouse is the foundation that makes every other investment work.

From his own experience navigating medicine, investing, parenting, and burnout, Alex shares powerful lessons about intentional partnership, vulnerability, and designing a life of freedom with the person you say you’re building it for.

Whether your spouse is deeply involved in your deals or holds down the home front, this episode is your blueprint to grow together—not apart.

💥 What you’ll learn:

✔️ Why your spouse is your most important business partner
 ✔️ How burnout often stems from disconnection—not workload
 ✔️ The 3 rhythms Alex and Stephanie use to stay aligned: Weekly check-ins, nightly resets, and quarterly vision retreats
 ✔️ How other power couples (Turners, Morbys, Hormozis) intentionally co-design their life and business
 ✔️ The right questions to ask your partner to reignite shared vision and purpose
 ✔️ Why your investing strategy should start with shared values—not spreadsheets

🔥 Key Takeaways:

✔️ You can replace a contractor. You can’t replace your spouse
 ✔️ Misalignment erodes everything—income, impact, and intimacy
 ✔️ A supportive marriage doesn’t just tolerate ambition—it helps shape it
 ✔️ You scale faster when you’re rowing in the same direction
 ✔️ The ROI on a strong relationship is exponential—personally and financially

If you're building a real estate empire, make sure you’re not leaving your most important partner behind. Invest in the relationship that holds it all together.

🎧 Tune in now and send this episode to the person you're building with.

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Transcript

 Dr. Alex Schloe: You want your marriage to scale with your investments.  Then intentionally invest in your marriage the same way you do in investment deals.

 Welcome to the Physicians and Properties Podcast, the show where we teach you how investing in real estate can give you the freedom to practice medicine and live life how you want. Doctor, doctor, doctor, doctor, doctor. Now here's your host, Dr. Alex Slo.

 You can replace a property manager.  You can swap lenders.  You can find another contractor, coach, or capital partner, but the one person who is irreplaceable in your life  and business is your spouse.  And yet most of us invest more time  researching  Bitcoin  than we do aligning on our vision of freedom with the person that we say we're doing it all for.

Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Physicians and Properties Podcast.  I'm your host, Dr. Alex Schloe.  Today's topic is different.  We're not talking about real estate markets,  debt structure, or the latest tax saving strategy.  Today we're talking about the most important thing,  your real foundation.

Your marriage.  If you're married, I'd argue that your spouse is the most important investment partner you will ever have because when your relationship is strong, aligned, and intentional, everything else, your career, your real estate business, your family, your compounds with it.  But when that relationship is strained or disconnected.

It doesn't matter how many doors you own or how much passive income you're pulling in.  So today I want us to help recenter on the most important partnership we will ever have.  Guys, being a physician is hard,  long hours, pager interruptions, missed dinner,  missed sporting events, emotional fatigue.  And then on top of that, we're trying to build real estate portfolios, businesses.

And a brighter future for our family.  If your spouse is not in alignment with that mission,  it can create some subtle tension.  Resentment can creep in  fatigue and double and doubt sets in.  This can lead to even worsened burnout.  But if your spouse is aligned, they become your emotional anchor after those brutal shifts.

They encourage you when you're tempted to just take one more call shift for the money.  They support you in choosing meaningful medicine, not just financially lucrative positions.  When your marriage is a true partnership, you are not doing it all alone.  You don't have to carry everything.  You start to co-create a life that you both love.

I've had sessions where I've been burning in the candle at both ends,  medicine, investing family,  and it was Stephanie's support and love.  That reminded me why we were doing it all in the first place.  She didn't just tolerate my ambition and my goals.  She helped me shape them, and she made sure that that stayed rooted in our shared values.

Rooted in what matters most.  Burnout doesn't come from working hard.  It comes from feeling alone  while you do it. So let's shift into the investing side of the equation.  If you look at the most successful real estate entrepreneurs, there's a common thread behind the scenes. It is a deeply aligned partnership.

And let's look at a few well-known examples.  Look at Brandon and Heather Turner.  Every quarter they take vision retreats  together, just the two of them. They map out where they're going in life and not just in business.  That practice has shaped everything from the Better Life Podcast to Open Door Capital.

The main takeaway here is they schedule intentional life design sessions.  They take the time out of their busy schedule and their huge real estate portfolios and businesses to not just talk about money,  to talk about what the money is for, to talk about the greater impact that they're going to make.  To talk about how.

They can impact their kids' future going forward, and most importantly, how they can be better parents to their kids.  Let's look at Pace and Laura Morby  Pace is the face. He's the creative finance machine, but Laura, she's the systems operator, she's the branding queen, and she holds the infrastructure together.

The main takeaway from Pace and Laura Morby is they divide roles based on strengths.  There's no sidelines in a power couple. There's just different lanes, and that partnership can help you grow exponentially more than you could do on your own.  All right. Let's talk about Alex and Layla Hor Mozy. I love Alex Hor Mozy  and everything that he puts out there.

If you are not listening.  To Alex Hor in the game podcast, it is incredible. But Alex and Layla, before they built a hundred million dollar business, they built alignment. They locked in on their core values, freedom, excellent service before picking asset classes or business models, and they've done an absolutely amazing job.

Building an incredible portfolio, being aligned and agreeing on values.  So it's important to agree on your shared values before you pick which investment vehicle you want to go down.  So I want you to ask yourself,  does your spouse know your investing goals? Have you clearly defined roles?  Does their spouse feel like they're part of the mission or just collateral damage?

Because when you and your spouse align on vision and values, the deals come easier, the winds feel richer, and the Y becomes obvious.  And this doesn't necessarily mean that you guys have to be partnered on every real estate transaction and you have to bring them in and  and walk through every deal together.

To be honest, Stephanie does not love residential assisted living in regards to, she needs to know every single detail. She likes being involved. She likes being updated, but to her, it doesn't matter necessarily. And she trusts me at this point.  She trusts that I know what I'm doing, that I'm gonna be a good steward of our money and our resources.

And that is because we have a shared vision and shared values.  We know what we want for our family in one year, in three years, in five years, and that's really important. So I'm gonna be honest,  I've seen it happen multiple times where a physician or an entrepreneur builds a killer portfolio.  They're making six figures in cash flow.

They have everything on paper, but their marriage is quietly deteriorating.  No one wakes up and says, you know what I want to do?  I wanna build a real estate empire alone while my marriage crumbles.  That's exactly what can happen if we prioritize spreadsheets over our soulmates, and it's usually not because of a conflict, it's because of disconnection.

If your spouse feels left out, they'll disengage. If they feel like your dream is running over their dream resentment may grow, but if they feel included, valued, connected.  Essential, you'll start to pull them in the same direction with exponential power.  So don't just ask, can I afford this deal?  Ask, is this deal moving us closer towards the life that we both want?

So let's talk about three practical frameworks to strengthen the link between marriage and money. And some of these we are still working on here in the slow household.  So one of those is an alignment meeting.  Sometimes that's weekly, sometimes it's nightly.  We'll talk about the weekly alignment meeting, which is just 20 to 30 minutes once a week.

Sit down, review family calendars, review your finances, investments, big decisions, and always end with this. What is one thing you appreciated about your partner this week?  This isn't  a budget meeting, it's a relationship reset, and this can be really helpful. Or this may look like a six minute meeting.

Every night you're meeting for six minutes. You're reviewing these same things and you're ending with something that you feel appreciated.  You're gonna miss these days, you're gonna miss these nights, you're gonna miss these weekly meetings.  But if you try and make it a priority, it can be really beneficial to help strengthen your marriage and your partnership.

We love the quarterly marriage review. This is something that's really shaped our marriage.  Every quarter, Stephanie and I try to spend one evening, usually a date night or even just a couple hours at home doing a marriage and a life check-in.  We ask each other,  how did I do as a spouse  over this last time period?

How was I as a parent?  Was I a good husband?  Was I a good friend?  We're honest with each other and sometimes this feedback is hard,  but it's always delivered with grace, support and encouragement.  We don't use this time to criticize or nitpick each other. We use it to try and grow together, and we know that this check-in is valuable.

We don't shy away from being direct, but we always end with love and we always leave that conversation stronger and more unified.  You want your marriage to scale with your investments.  Then intentionally invest in your marriage the same way you do in investment deals. That's what's most important.  Not everyone in a marriage needs to love spreadsheets or touring properties.

Maybe you are the investor and your spouse is the home base. They're that foundation, or maybe you both wanna be involved in different ways.  The important thing is figure out what you love,  define the lanes and honor those contributions. We're trying to work on creating a life maintenance, or sorry, a life matrix that may have different columns like finances, health, kids, investing, family faith, and figure out who wants to kind of take over those roles because clear roles can create peace, and undefined roles can take pressure, and that may just be  kind of just dividing up the calendar, figuring out how that is gonna be laid out.

So here's some final thoughts and a challenge for this week. Sometimes. Sometime in the next seven days, I want you to sit down with your spouse and ask them these three questions. One, what do we want our ideal week to look like five years from now?  Two, what's one thing I can do to be a better partner?

Three. What's something we can start or stop doing together?  Because your spouse is your greatest leverage.  They're the greatest partnership that you will ever have,  and when that relationship is strong, your investments will grow. Your career will flourish. You'll take better care of patients and your kids are going to thrive.

That is the real return on investment that is ultimately gonna lead to an incredible return on happiness and fulfillment.  So thank you for joining me today on this episode of Physicians and Properties.  If this episode resonated with you, do me a favor and share it with your spouse.  Let's start the conversation.

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