Episode Summary:

In this episode of Finding Sanctuary, we sit down with Melissa D’Cruz—a powerhouse florist and wedding planner whose story is as inspiring as the blooms she works with. From dreaming of being a psychologist to becoming a trusted presence at some of life’s most emotional moments, Melissa opens up about how deep personal loss and grief reshaped her path and fuelled her passion for bringing comfort through creativity

Melissa shares how, as a single mum facing tough legal battles, she leaned on her faith and her village to not just survive, but thrive. Her journey is one of grit, grace, and giving back—whether it’s helping clients celebrate love or honour loss, or dreaming big about supporting single parents and those doing it tough.

If you’ve ever wondered how empathy and purpose can transform a business—or how beauty and pain can live side by side—this heartfelt chat will stay with you long after the final bloom fades.

Key Takeaways:

• Melissa D’Cruz’s journey highlights the power of combining personal passion with professional purpose to lead a meaningful and impactful life.
• Personal hardship and loss can open the door to deep professional fulfilment when met with empathy and a community-focused mindset.
• Finding purpose at work isn’t always about direct outcomes; creating a positive space for colleagues can also build strong, meaningful connections.
• Embracing faith and community support plays a vital role in navigating personal adversity and building resilience.
• Reflecting on personal trials can inspire new initiatives to support others facing similar challenges.

Notable Quotes:

“Everything you do and everyone you work for, do it as if you are serving God.” – Melissa D’Cruz

“You don’t know what battle people are fighting in life. Be kind.” – Melissa D’Cruz

“It’s amazing how God actually made that happen for me and used me in a way I never thought he would use me in.” – Melissa D’Cruz

“You could be dealing with somebody who’s going through tragedy and trauma.” – Melissa D’Cruz

“From being in the valley, you get up to a mountain, and it’s not short; it’s a long journey.” – Melissa D’Cruz

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Key Takeaways:

• The critical role of securing a sense of belonging and acceptance in shaping one’s identity and choices.
• How Andrew’s journey illustrates the deep links between trauma, addiction, and the search for masculine identity.
• The importance of seeking spiritual guidance and community support in overcoming personal challenges.
• The concept of “I am” and its influence on personal identity and behavior as demonstrated through Andrew’s transformation.
• A message of hope: It is possible to reinvent oneself and align with a healthier and fulfilling path, even after hitting rock bottom.

Notable Quotes:

• "I felt safer in a gang than I did at home, which is disordered when you look back at it."
• "Addictions are a trauma response to our sorrowful mysteries."
• "The identity then forms our habits, and then those habits reinforce the identity."
• "I had this desire to seek, to go on a quest to answer this question [about the meaning of life]."
• "If I go out and do xyz, I feel guilty about it. And that's a good thing because then I'm drawn to come back to try to stop that habit."

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About the Guest:

Dr. Peter Holmes is a senior lecturer in theology at the University of Notre Dame. Recently Dr. Holmes published a book titled “Redeeming Masculinity,” which delves into understanding masculine identity from a theological perspective. To add to his list of credentials, he is now completing studies in counselling/ psychology.

Key Takeaways:

• The Evolution of Masculinity: Peter discusses how his personal and academic journeys shaped his understanding of masculinity, emphasising the shift from traditional markers of success to relational impact.
• Redefining Male Identity: Masculinity should be seen as a relationship-focused identity that prioritises giving and nurturing, contrary to societal pressures that encourage competition and self-centredness.
• Cultural Influences: There’s no single way to be a man; various cultures have their interpretations of masculinity. Understanding and extracting positives from cultural identities can lead to healthier self-perceptions.
• Importance of Communication: Effective communication in relationships can prevent common misunderstandings and strengthen bonds, especially if approached with a mindset of mutual respect and supporting growth.
• Seeking Support: Building a support network through mentorship and counselling can be crucial for personal development and redefining masculinity away from harmful stereotypes.

Notable Quotes:

“I am supposed to be strong… all of that strength is to help people, not to push myself up, to elevate, to push other people down.” – Dr Peter Holmes

“Real masculinity is self-giving and puts itself out there for the other.” – Dr Peter Holmes

“It’s never about the dishes.” – Eddie Reaiche

“You are amazing. You’re special. And you have something for the world.” – Dr Peter Holmes

“A strong man walks away. A weak man, who’s insecure in himself, has to fight more because he’s so insecure.” – Dr Peter Holmes

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Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Faith: Pamela Chedid emphasizes how her faith in Christ helped her carry the burden of grief after the loss of her child.
• Writing as Therapy: Through writing, Pamela found solace and a means to process her emotions, leading to the creation of her poetry book.
• Honor and Memory: Remembering and honoring lost loved ones through personal rituals and sharing stories aid in the healing journey.
• Support Networks: A strong, caring network of family, friends, and professionals is crucial during times of loss and grief.
• Grief is Personal and Complex: Pamela shares her experience of handling grief as an ongoing process, not confined to a specific timeline or method.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Everybody experiences something in their life that profoundly changes them. And for me, it was the stillbirth."
2. "I actually wanted to write her a poem when I first started reading my poetry. And believe it or not, it was one of the last ones I wrote."
3. "It was the most terrible day ever, but I got through it. Everybody who saw me after, even in the days after and the day of the funeral, commented on how calm I seemed. I mean, of course I was crying and I was heartbroken, deeply heartbroken."
4. "The one thing that I would advise them to do is to mention their name, remember the name of the child, and don't brush it under the carpet. Don't try and, you know, push it away. We actually want to talk about it."
5. "If you have a friend who has had any kind of pregnancy loss, even if they didn't have a stillborn and they had a miscarriage, remember that. Honor that. Because it's just food for the soul really when you, when you receive a message like that, you think, oh, you know, her memory lives on."

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Key Takeaways:

• Holistic Approach to Mental Health: Combining medication with therapy and spiritual practices offers the most effective path to mental well-being.
• Stigma in Faith-Based Communities: Addressing mental health in religious contexts often involves tackling stigma and misconceptions, emphasising that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
• Pharmaceutical Insight: Antidepressants can serve as an essential tool, not a lifelong crutch; they enable patients to engage more effectively in therapy and ultimately aim towards gradual reduction in dosage.
• Balance and Risk Management: Therapy and medication should be seen as a dynamic balance; potential side effects require careful management in consultation with healthcare professionals.
• Importance of Community Support: Having a supportive network or "buddy" system can be instrumental during challenging periods of mental health treatment.

Notable Quotes:

1. "It's like breaking your leg and being put in a cast. The medication comes in to help lift your moods, so that therapy can start working." — Jony Raad
2. "Suffering in silence is a sign of strength in some eyes, but having a voice and sharing is the real strength." — Debbie Draybi
3. "Whether it’s religion or a belief in a greater power, it helps people through tougher times, especially with addiction." — Eddie Reaiche
4. "There’s more to healing than just medication—it’s about combining mind, body, and soul approaches." — Jony Raad
5. "Your mental health matters to us, and seeking out help is not a weakness." — Debbie Draybi

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About the Guest:

Berta Azzi is a distinguished holistic health coach and nutritionist with a rich history in the wellness industry. Over her expansive career, Berta has transformed her personal health journey into a professional mission to empower others. With expertise in holistic approaches to wellness, she emphasizes the integration of mind, body, and soul in achieving optimal health. Berta is also a Pilates instructor and has an extensive background in counseling. She is the founder of Bellator Wellbeing, a platform dedicated to nurturing individual health through personalized holistic strategies.

Key Takeaways:

• Holistic health considers the mind, body, and spirit as a cohesive unit and focuses on individual-led strategies for health improvement.
• Small, mindful lifestyle changes can have significant impacts on overall health, challenging the notion that complex problems need complex solutions.
• Listening to one's innate wisdom is key in recognizing what truly benefits one's health, rather than blindly following generalized health trends.
• A safe space and the support of a health coach offer invaluable insight into personal health narratives and encourage sustainable lifestyle adjustments.
• Taking time for self-care, rest, and reflection counterbalances the culturally ingrained glorification of busyness, enhancing both physical and mental well-being.

Notable Quotes:

• "Health and wellbeing go beyond just a diet; it goes on to look at you as a whole person." - Berta Azzi
• "Our body is made up of systems that rely on each other... when one system is off, it affects the others." - Berta Azzi
• "You are the expert in you; you know what's wrong; you know what the solutions are." - Berta Azzi
• "Even complex health issues can be addressed with simple changes and choices." - Debbie Draybi
• "Don't compare yourself to other people... be in touch with yourself." - Berta Azzi

Resources:

• Berta Azzi's Website: Bellator Wellbeing

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Resources:

• George John Photography on Instagram
• Dodie Jay Hair on Instagram

About the Guests:

Dodie Jay: Dodie Jay is a renowned hairstylist in the wedding industry, known for her authentic and candid approach to her craft. With a commitment to building her clients' self-esteem, Dodie has crafted a career that balances personal passion and professional excellence. Her journey has been marked by resilience, having triumphed over personal health challenges, and she now shares her expertise with a curated list of clients and a dedicated team.

George John: George John is a highly respected photographer who specializes in capturing weddings and other significant life moments. Known for his ability to blend authenticity with artistry, George has built a successful career by prioritizing client relationships and creating beautiful, timeless images. His approach is deeply rooted in understanding the unique expectations of each wedding couple, ensuring their special day is beautifully preserved in photographs.

Key Takeaways:

• The role of community and support networks is crucial in managing mental health within high-pressure industries like weddings.
• Personal challenges can lead to profound personal and professional growth, as exemplified by Dodie's experience overcoming cancer.
• Maintaining authenticity in client interactions fosters trust and long-term success in the service industry.
• Balancing personal boundaries helps manage the intense demands of creative professions.
• Building a positive team culture and treating colleagues well can significantly enhance professional satisfaction and client outcomes.

Notable Quotes:

• "As individuals, we definitely have roles that require pressure... I wouldn't be able to do that without the support system that I have."
• "Recovering from cancer was harder than having cancer."
• "It's pressure that seems like a lot from the outside, but we are fortunate enough to be distracted by everything else."
• "I think communication and education are two really important things with any service based transaction."
• "My biggest blessing is that truly, it doesn't feel like I'm working."

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About the Guest:

 Jade El-Choueifati is a seasoned Master of Ceremonies who has emceed numerous prominent events throughout Sydney. He is well known for his event management and charisma and specialises in coordinating weddings and celebrations within the Maronite community. His focus on fostering community spirit and emphasising the deeper significance of matrimonial celebrations highlights his dedication to creating memorable and heartfelt experiences. Besides his professional achievements, Jade is deeply rooted in his faith, considering his work a vocation. 

Key Takeaways:

• The Importance of Community: Milestone celebrations like weddings and baptisms offer a unique opportunity for family and friends to come together, enhancing community bonds and contributing to individual happiness.
• Managing Expectations: Navigating the pressures of social media and external opinions is essential in maintaining joy and authenticity during significant events.
• Preparation Beyond the Day: Emphasising the significance of spiritual and emotional preparation over material concerns can establish a more resilient foundation for marriage.
• Dealing with Family Dynamics: Understanding and respecting family roles and expectations while focusing on mutual growth as a couple is crucial in managing the complexities of marital unions.

Notable Quotes:

1. "The grandeur of celebration isn't in the event itself, but in what it represents." - Jade El-Choueifati
2. "Witnessing the joy and community of milestones can be a truly uplifting experience." - Monsignor Shora
3. "I try and make sure that I'm the one that's always at a good level of being relaxed." - Jade El-Choueifati
4. "Sometimes parents need time to let go; recognising this helps build a harmonious future." - Monsignor Shora

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Key Takeaways:

• Anthony Salame has successfully merged his love for comedy with his deep-rooted faith, creating content that is both entertaining and enriching.
• His children's books aim to simplify and communicate complex values in an accessible way for young minds.
• Comedians often face mental health challenges, and Anthony emphasizes the importance of a strong faith foundation to navigate these struggles.
• The discussion underscores the powerful role of humor in enhancing well-being and encouraging interpersonal connections.

Notable Quotes:

1. "When you're speaking to people purely just to make them laugh and bring them joy, it's very rewarding."
2. "The joy I received from hearing parents... that is more rewarding than anything."
3. "If we're trying every single day just to get a little bit better, we can all kind of pat ourselves on the back."
4. "God doesn't leave us. Never, not for a second."
5. "My command is this: to love one another as I've loved you."

Resources:

• Anthony Salame on Instagram
• Anthony's children's books available on Amazon
• His publishing company - jcbook.co

Join us for more enriching discussions in the upcoming episodes of "Finding Sanctuary," as we continue to explore the transformative power of faith and humor. Listen to the full episode to delve deeper into Anthony Salame's inspiring journey and be sure not to miss future episodes filled with valuable insights and uplifting stories.

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Key Takeaways:

• The "Finding Sanctuary" podcast invites community members to share their voices, effectively breaking the silence on mental health issues.
• Hosting the podcast provides personal growth and deeper connections for both the hosts and the listeners.
• Special guests bring new insights into episodes, enriching conversations with their unique perspectives.
• Workshops following episodes allow for further community engagement and practical applications of podcast themes.
• The enduring message of forgiveness, mindfulness, and holistic health is central to the podcast's most popular episodes, resonating deeply with its audience.

Notable Quotes:

• "You bring a voice to suffering, you normalize it, you share it in a way that's meaningful." - Debbie Draybi
• "In some things it's helped me save time. So to me, that was something good." - Monsignor Shora
• "It's safe. I think that the podcast feels like a safe way to start introducing some of these very... can be very heavy topics..." - Natalie Moujalli
• "God has placed every one of us in different spaces. There is a higher purpose for this." - Derrick Yeoh
• "You pull over and you listen to us and you give us, you know, your time and you're so curious about the conversations." - Debbie Draybi

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About the Guest:

Helena Roumanus: Helena Roumanus is very involved in community service and is known for her passionate commitment to helping those in need. She has been instrumental in organizing charitable activities, particularly around Christmas, where she engages friends and family to support young mothers and children in crisis shelters. Helena is a dedicated wife and mother of four, balancing her family responsibilities with her community endeavors to uplift and support those less fortunate.

Key Takeaways:

• Transformative Charity: Helena Roumanus shares how she shifted her family's Christmas tradition from receiving multiple gifts to donating to crisis shelters for young mothers, highlighting the positive impact of focused community efforts.
• Gratitude as Action: The episode emphasizes not just being thankful but acting on that gratitude by giving back to those less fortunate, making a difference in their lives.
• Community Involvement: By rallying friends and family, Helena created a ripple effect, showing how collective small efforts can lead to significant change.
• Conversations with Children: Helena uses these charitable activities to open dialogues with her children about social issues, helping them grow empathetic and aware.
• Mindful Pause in Festive Rush: The discussion encourages listeners to pause during the busy holiday season, reflecting on how they can contribute positively to their community.

Notable Quotes:

• "If it's for the kingdom, you gotta say yes." – Helena Roumanus
• "You can't practice gratitude at top speed." – Helena Roumanus
• "Having a roof over your head is a privilege." – Helena Roumanus
• "I want to be part of the conversation too." – Helena Roumanus
• "It's important that our kids know that we're doing this too." – Helena Roumanus

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About the Guest:

Dr. Greg Bottaro is a Catholic psychologist and the founder of the Catholic Psych Institute. Based in the United States, Dr. Bottaro integrates Catholic philosophy and theology with contemporary psychology to address mental health issues. He is passionate about aligning spiritual and scientific approaches to enrich lives affected by psychological struggles. Dr. Bottaro has extensively explored themes of happiness, suffering, and identity through both his institute and his podcast, "Being Human."

Key Takeaways:

• Integrating faith, science, and reason can create a comprehensive approach to mental health, offering deeper insights into human nature and behavior.
• Modern psychological challenges, such as the effects of social media, highlight the need for an inclusive philosophical foundation in mental health care.
• Developing a strong spiritual and philosophical identity is crucial in overcoming personal and societal challenges.
• Psychology can benefit from incorporating a spiritual dimension, as practitioners recognize their role as instruments of healing.
• Social initiatives to counteract negative technological impacts, like banning kids' access to social media, can support a healthier developmental environment.

Notable Quotes:

1. "All truth is derived from the same source of truth, and there's a unity to all truth." – Dr. Greg Bottaro
2. "If we had a philosophical foundation, we won't have to experiment first to see if something doesn't work." – Dr. Greg Bottaro
3. "We are accountable to the maker." – Natalie Moujalli
4. "Psychology is like the X-ray in the MRI. We get to see what's happening." – Monsignor Shorah
5. "The body makes the invisible visible." – Dr. Greg Bottaro

Resources:

• Catholic Psych Institute: www.catholicpsych.com
• Being Human Podcast: Explore more episodes and insights from Dr. Greg Bottaro.
• "Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt: A book exploring the impact of screens and social media on today's youth.

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Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness as a Choice: Leila advocates that forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of anger and bitterness, promoting personal and communal healing.
• Community Support: Emphasizing the role of community, Leila describes how collective support can facilitate healing and reconnection, outstretching the isolation caused by grief.
• Strength in Vulnerability: Leila’s openness about her grief underscores the strength found in vulnerability, inviting others to embrace their pain as a path to healing.
• Building Legacy Through Forgiveness: Forgiveness not only transforms personal circumstances but also creates a lasting impact that can influence future generations.
• Spiritual and Emotional Connection: The episode highlights the intersection of mind, body, and spirit in the healing process, as demonstrated in Leila’s journey.

Notable Quotes:

• "Forgiveness is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness."
• "Holding on to a grudge and anger is not worth it; life is too short."
• "Forgiveness is for the forgiver more than the forgiven."
• "Love is when you love someone with their imperfection."
• "Having an unforgiving heart is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die."

Resources:

• Visit the i4give website to learn more about Leila’s advocacy and how you can get involved.
• Article written on the Abdallah family and i4give day
• Engage with the "i4give" initiatives on social media to stay updated on events and resources.

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Key Takeaways:

• Artificial Intelligence Overview: AI is fundamentally about simulating human intelligence through machines, enabling smarter decision-making processes in our everyday lives.
• Technology Adoption: Effective change management is crucial in technology projects, ensuring smoother transitions and stronger stakeholder engagement.
• Potential of AI: AI offers vast opportunities for improving life quality, from automating repetitive tasks to enhancing learning experiences and mental health services.
• Balancing Risks: Users of AI must find a balance to avoid overreliance and ensure authenticity in personal and professional engagements.
• Human Connection: Despite the digital advances, genuine human interactions hold irreplaceable value, underscoring the need for responsible technology use.

Notable Quotes:

• "AI should be about augmenting what we do, not replacing it."
• "Technology can improve the way we do things. It's about embracing it, not fearing it."
• "Artificial intelligence is in development... it's part of our lives every day."
• "I'll always be a father and a husband first... nothing will ever replace that."
• "We need to tread lightly with AI but also celebrate our humanity."

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Key Takeaways:

• Holistic Health Over Aesthetics: Prioritize mental wellness and emotional health through exercise, as physical fitness provides measurable psychological benefits.
• Moderation in Nutrition: Mindful eating and balanced nutrition directly impact mental health, with serotonin production closely linked to our dietary choices.
• Community and Connection: Engagement in group exercises or shared physical activity promotes mental well-being by fulfilling humans' intrinsic needs for connection and interaction.
• The Power of Routine: Regular physical exercise and nutritional discipline instill perseverance, echoing spiritual growth practices.
• Love Your Body: Embrace and cherish the body you have as a unique gift, which is crucial for maintaining mental and physical health.

Notable Quotes:

1. "You literally are what you eat; most of our serotonin is produced in our gastrointestinal tract." - Buddy Bou Francis
2. "Doing difficult things make hard things easier." - Buddy Bou Francis
3. "You can't heal a body you hate. Showing your body grace is the deepest of medicine." - Paraphrase from Dr. Will Cole referenced by Natalie Moujalli
4. "Exercise is not just a physical release but a clearing of brain fog, allowing for problem-solving and clarity." - Buddy Bou Francis
5. "Taking care of our body is about stewardship; our bodies are a gift from God." - Monsignor Shora

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Key Takeaways:

• Importance of Community Engagement: Engaging community members in creating mental health services ensures that these services are relevant and effective.
• Power of Connection: Authentic connections within the community can provide profound support and help individuals feel less isolated in their struggles.
• Role of Culture in Mental Health: Understanding the cultural context is crucial in providing effective mental health support.
• Holistic Approach to Well-being: Addressing mental health involves looking at the whole person, not just diagnoses or labels.
• Intentionality in Support: Offering genuine support requires being present for others without trying to fix their problems.

Notable Quotes:

1. Judy Saba: "One thing I believe in is that we need to look backwards in order to be able to move forward."
2. Lisa Makhlouf: "People that are hurt hurt others, just like healed people heal others."
3. Eddie Reaiche: "What really does define us is not a condition. It's not whether we've got this or we've got that. Nothing really defines us because we're a person of multiple parts."
4. Lisa Makhlouf: "Knowledge in action is power. If you're doing something with that knowledge, there is power."

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Key Takeaways:

• Integration of Faith and Psychology: Faith-based psychological services often provide a greater strength or recovery from traumas, as faith can play a crucial role in mental health support.
• Challenges in Cross-Cultural Mental Health: Confidentiality, community engagement, and managing shame are significant challenges faced in cross-cultural counselling.
• Client-Centered Approach: Effective counselling requires an understanding of a client’s cultural and faith background, with a focus on letting clients lead the conversation about their needs.
• Innovative Community Projects: Initiatives like the "Friends of Friends" project illustrate successful cross-cultural mental health strategies tailored to community needs.
• Importance of Confidentiality: Ensuring client confidentiality is essential, especially in tight-knit communities where maintaining privacy can be challenging.

Notable Quotes:

1. Judy Saba: "Our community can be so supportive, but it can be so judgmental."
2. Monsignor Shora: "Psychological services that do have a faith base statistically show greater strength in recovery from different traumas and issues."
3. Judy Saba: "We didn't know it all either, so we reached out for expertise outside to us and were constantly being supervised around this work."
4. Eddie Reaiche: "It's that whole person centred thing, isn't it? The client knows the answers. We just need to help them find it."
5. Judy Saba: "I truly believe that people come through us, we don't do anything for them. They do it for themselves. We just facilitate and journey with them."

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Key Takeaways:

Embrace discomfort as a path to growth and resilience, allowing post-traumatic strength to emerge from life's challenges.

Cultivate mindfulness through gratitude exercises, guided meditations, and silent sits to enhance emotional awareness and presence in daily life.

Practice focused presence in all activities to foster emotional connection, resilience, and well-being.

Use mantras, nature connection, and body awareness to ground yourself in the present moment and nurture inner peace.

Prioritize emotional self-awareness and connection with others to build strong relationships and navigate life's complexities with grace.

Notable Quotes:

"Deepening the practice of mindfulness has sustained me in my day-to-day life and shaped how I parent and engage with others." - Lisa Makhlouf

"Discomfort is not bad for our children; embracing loving boundaries and sitting with their pain nurtures resilience and growth." - Lisa Makhlouf

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Key Takeaways:

• Embrace diversity within families and value each individual's unique skills and interests.
• Encourage open communication and healthy conversations to foster understanding and support among family members.
• Trust in your own abilities and stay true to your goals while seeking guidance and mentorship when needed.
• Allow children to make their own choices, learn from their mistakes, and develop at their own pace.
• Recognize the endless opportunities available in Australia and create roadmaps for personal and professional success based on individual strengths and aspirations.

Notable Quotes:

• "Give your children the opportunity to feel free to make their own choices. Tough love doesn't work; support and acceptance go a long way in nurturing individual growth." - Eddie Reaiche
• "Opportunities in Australia are endless; create pathways for success and allow individuals to flourish based on their unique skills and gifts." - Joe Zeidan
• "Knowing who you are, setting goals, and finding a support network can help you stay true to yourself and achieve success in your chosen path." - Alex Bechara
• "The beauty of diversity in a family can create an incredible, dynamic environment with everyone contributing in different ways." - Debbie Draybi

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Resources (courtesy of Alex Bechara):
https://moneysmart.gov.au/financial-advice/choosing-a-financial-adviser

https://www.fairtrading.nsw.gov.au/buying-products-and-services/buying-services/banking-and-finance/investment-and-financial-advice

https://www.service.nsw.gov.au/business/business-concierge-service

https://www.service.nsw.gov.au/transaction/find-a-financial-counsellor

 https://ndh.org.au/financial-counselling/find-a-financial-counsellor/

 https://www.ato.gov.au/businesses-and-organisations/preparing-lodging-and-paying/record-keeping-for-business/setting-up-and-managing-records/manage-your-business-cash-flow

Key Takeaways:

• Career Transition: Alex Bechara shares his experience of transitioning from a career in computer science to accounting, highlighting the importance of finding a fulfilling career.
• Economic Climate: Current financial pressures are causing significant anxiety for families, and economic downturns have pushed more people to seek financial help.
• Financial Education: Understanding personal finances, including income and expenses, is critical. Start by asking questions and seeking financial advice if needed.
• Emotional Impacts: Financial stress can strain family dynamics and relationships. It is crucial to have open conversations and seek support from loved ones and professionals.
• Community and Support: Utilizing community resources and support systems, like those offered by Hill Sanctuary House, can help alleviate financial stress and anxiety.

Notable Quotes:

1. "It's very hard to change and adapt...we do need to have the ability to assess and understand what can I do and what I can't do anymore." - Alex Bechara
2. "There is a huge misconception about who we are...living within our means is definitely a great way to start." - Alex Bechara
3. "Financial advice is a really good place to start, but it's also not the only tool out there...being educated enough to understand your current personal situation." - Alex Bechara
4. "Debt is a natural and normal thing now for a society. As long as we can keep up the payments, we should always bring our focus back to the family." - Eddie Reaiche

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Key Takeaways:

• Importance of Early Career Guidance: Engaging with professional career advisers early in a child's educational journey can help identify their strengths and aspirations, preventing future career dissatisfaction.
• Cultural and Familial Pressures: Within tight-knit communities like the Maronite, family expectations can heavily influence career choices, sometimes leading to misaligned career paths for the young individuals.
• Financial Considerations: Transitioning to a new career often involves financial sacrifices, which can be a significant barrier for those looking to change their career paths in their mid-twenties or later.
• Finding Purpose in Work: Encouraging young people to find meaning and purpose in their work can greatly enhance job satisfaction and long-term career happiness.
• Accessibility of Professional Help: There are numerous services and professional resources available to assist young people and their families in making informed career decisions.

Notable Quotes:

1. "It's about trying to minimize those sort of things where we're finding those gaps that I guess the careers adviser provided all the information, but we're just trying to narrow those gaps and bridge those gaps for the individual." - Joe Zeidan
2. "Consulting with that outside person just gives it that little bit of distance to calm your worry or your fear or sometimes your panic." - Monsignor Shora
3. "Everyone loves their kids, and if you really want the best, then take them to where they can actually be the best that they can be." - Eddie Reaiche
4. "As a parent, give yourself permission to not know everything and to get some guidance and support by professionals who do this all the time." - Debbie Draybi

Resources:

School students. Under 18 years of age.
Parents book an appointment with their child's school career advisor.
•Have a conversation with the school advisor about your child's career choice.
•Develop a strategic plan and set clear goals.
 
Young Adults. Over 18 years of age.
https://book.service.nsw.gov.au/services/careers-general/landing
https://careersuccessaustralia.com.au/career-coaching-counselling/
https://www.careermagnifier.com/

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Key Takeaways:

• Addiction often leads to a profound loss of connection within families, resulting in loved ones feeling desperate to seek help.
• The secrecy surrounding addictive behavior stems not only from a desire to maintain the habit but also from an attempt to protect loved ones from the burden.
• Trust is a central aspect of relationships that can be greatly compromised by addiction, leading to significant challenges in family dynamics.
• The therapeutic process emphasizes non-judgmental listening and creating a safe space for individuals to feel heard, validated, and supported.
• Conversations about addiction and seeking help should be approached with compassion, and therapy can provide a path for individuals and families to reconstruct trust and find healing.

Notable Quotes:

"Nobody wants to drag a family member kicking and screaming... They're desperate." - Natalie Moujalli

"It's sad, but we gotta remember, too, it can have a happy ending." - Eddie Reaiche

"A good therapist would be creating a safe environment so we can remove all our masks." - Eddie Reaiche

"Truth needs to be softened by love, and love needs to be softened by truth." - Natalie Moujalli

"Being able to unpack some of the stories we tell ourselves, that's part of the goal of getting help." - Debbie Draybi

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Key Takeaways:

•          Recognizing addiction often involves observing changes in frequency and control over the use of substances, as well as the impact on daily life and relationships.

•          A five-point plan to recovery, analogous to the five fingers on a hand, includes spiritual guidance, counselling, lifestyle changes, transparent relationships, and a supportive community.

•          Monsignor Shora underscores the need for comprehensive strategies, comparing the approach to managing chronic conditions like diabetes.

•          Eddie Reaiche emphasizes the importance of the therapeutic relationship and educational components like understanding dopamine’s role in addiction.

•          Finding Sanctuary advocates for a hope-infused, non-judgmental, and trust-building process towards recovery, with spiritual support being a vital component.

Notable Quotes:

•          Monsignor Shora: “What’s your five-point plan? …for a hand to hold something solid and to be, you need all five fingers. So you need a good, solid plan…”

•          Eddie Reaiche: “…the beauty of this is the brain can heal itself, but we need to give it a chance.”

•          Debbie Draybi: “So being able to seek help from professionals… these are evidence-based, they work…”

•          Monsignor Shora: “…just wanting to move forward and find the fullness of life, to live a fuller life and to be free from that which chains you and holds you back.”

•          Eddie Reaiche: “The two most important things is we’ve all got it in us. We just have to believe in ourselves.”

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Trigger Warning - We talk about addiction and how we can get entrenched in it. If you need help, please contact Beyond Blue. 

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Key Takeaways:

• Addiction often stems from an attempt to cope with underlying trauma, pain, or distress, presenting itself as a complex layer of a person's life rather than the entirety of their identity.
• Addictive behaviors can sometimes be hidden for years, creating a secondary layer of pain that involves secrecy, guilt, and shame.
• The physiological aspects of addiction can lead to significant changes in brain chemistry, making recovery more complicated than simply a matter of willpower.
• Recovery from addiction is not only possible but also deeply inspiring. With the right support and professional help, individuals can reclaim control over their lives.
• It's important for those struggling to know they are not alone and that seeking help from individuals like Monsignor Shora, Debbie Draybi, Natalie Moujalli and Eddie Reaiche is a vital step in the journey toward healing.

Notable Quotes:

• "They are, especially us, as people of faith. They're a child of God. They're valued." - Monsignor Shora
• "No one wants to have an addiction." - Eddie Reaiche
• "They're one of the greatest heroes that I've ever met. How they can turn their life around..." - Eddie Reaiche
• "Whatever stays hidden keeps growing and expanding. But the more we put it in the light and, you know, get help and guidance about it, the more we can manage it." - Monsignor Shora

Resources:

• Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/
• Email for comments and queries - admin@hshl.org.au

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Key Takeaways:

•          Mental health experts are not immune to personal struggles, highlighting the need for self-care and support even among professionals.

•          Current generations are placing significant self-imposed academic pressure, often fueled more by societal expectations than parental ones.

•          Proactive approaches to mental health, such as early community engagement and open discussions, are crucial for prevention rather than just intervention.

•          Parents and students alike grapple with the balance between academic achievement and emotional well-being, signaling the urgency for practical support strategies.

•          Exam stress and procrastination are exacerbated by a quest for perfection, underlining the necessity for a change in mindset towards academic performance.

Notable Quotes:

•          “As a community, we’re very good at coming together in celebrations… I think we gotta get better at coming together with sharing our pain.” - Debbie Draybi

•          “I do feel the culture right now isn't so much that we're putting pressure on our child, but rather, them putting pressure on themselves.” - Natalie Moujalli

•          “The anxiety is always about what can happen - What if I fail? What if I don’t know the answer?” - Eddie Reaiche

•          P's get Degrees - Eddie Reaiche

Engage with the heartwarming and insightful discussions of Finding Sanctuary by listening to the full episode. Join Debbie Draybi, Natalie Moujalli, and Eddie Reaiche as they unravel layers of shared human experiences, guide you through the nuanced landscape of mental wellness, and infuse a sense of community-based empowerment in your daily life. Don’t miss out on enriching content like this - stay connected for more episodes that promise to bring peace and understanding to the forefront of our collective journey.

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