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Love Court Off the Record

In the podcast, Love Court Off The Record, we look at specific legal questions regarding all family law matters. From child custody to child support to divorce. We also take a humorous look at divorce. It does make people go crazy!!

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Different Houses, Different Rules: When Co-Parenting Hurts Your Teen

June 15, 2026 • Anderson Keuscher Brachmann

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“My ex and I have a teenage son, and when he’s at his dad’s house there are basically no rules—he’s allowed to stay up all night gaming, skip homework, and even miss school sometimes. When he comes back to me, he’s exhausted and falling behind in classes. I’ve tried talking to my ex, but he just says I’m being controlling and that our son needs ‘freedom.’ Is there anything I can do legally to address this, or is this something the court won’t get involved in?"

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In this episode of Love Court, divorce attorney Jessica Anderson addresses a parent’s concern about inconsistent parenting between households. One parent enforces structure and school expectations, while the other allows late nights, missed homework, and even skipping school—leaving their teen struggling academically and exhausted.

Jessica explains when courts will step in on parenting style disputes and when they typically won’t. She breaks down the difference between general disagreements and situations that may impact a child’s health, education, or well-being, which can justify legal intervention. She also discusses practical options, such as documenting concerns, requesting modifications to the custody or parenting plan, and how judges evaluate what’s truly in the best interest of the child.