Claim Your Awesome

Claiming What You Want: The Key to Manifesting Your Best Life

• Jessica Hook • Season 1 • Episode 9

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Are you allowing yourself to claim those big, bold dreams of yours? This episode is a powerful exploration of how to manifest a life that truly lights you up. We kick off with a deep dive into understanding what we truly want, and why it's crucial to begin creating exactly what we want to experience in our lives. Unearthing the hidden power of intention and clarity, we share insight on trusting yourself and giving yourself the greenlight to follow your own path.

This episode is packed with actionable insights on how to upgrade your thoughts and mindset to manifest not just small changes, but your grandest dreams. Tune in, start prioritizing yourself and prepare to unleash your awesome. You're not just capable of more, you deserve more.

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Speaker 1:

Hello, all of you amazing and incredible and beautiful women. Thank you for tuning in and, if you're new here, welcome to the Claim, your Awesome podcast. I'm so excited that you're here and, as always, I appreciate each and every one of you for tuning in and listening. Today I wanted to talk about how we actually go about beginning to manifest a life that just really lights us up, manifest what we deeply desire, manifest those big, wild, beautiful dreams of ours. And we're all so unique and special and different and we all have our own amazing journeys that we're on. And I say this because we're all looking for what the best version of ourselves means for us and how that looks for us. And that is really such a huge part of the puzzle because, for so long and still, many of us do this and even you know I fall victim of this every now and then but we often find ourselves living for other people's expectations, right, even if we're doing this in a very unconscious way, not knowing or realizing that we're doing this. But we're playing out these roles based on what we think other people expect of us. Whether there is some truth to that or not, you know it could or could not be, but again, we believe, and we're kind of all operating based on these assumptions, like these assumptions, like this is how society thinks I should show up, this is how my partner expects me to be, etc. And when we can break free of those identities and when we can start choosing to bravely and boldly live a life on our terms, how we want to live the way we want to live, with, like, our dreams and our desires at the forefront, life just gets so much more magical. But it's a little tricky to do that, right, because we've lived this other way for so long, and especially for women. We're not always good at prioritizing ourselves or putting our own once in desires first, but it's just like what they tell you when you get on the airplane put your own oxygen mask on first, right, like that is what will not only save you but save everyone around you.

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So today I want to dig into how we start to choose ourselves a little bit more, how we start to get crystal clear on what we want for ourselves, what we want for our lives. You know how we start manifesting some of those bigger dreams of ours, and really all of us are manifesting things each and every day, right, a manifestation is just something that once lived in our brain, lived in our imagination and is now part of our physical reality. So we're doing this all the time and I think there has just been kind of this focus put on this idea of manifestation when it's around something really big or maybe something that seems out of reach, or maybe something that just seems like it's taking a long time to come, or, you know, it's harder for you to get it. But when you shift kind of this perspective of I'm constantly manifesting things in my life, whether it be a vacation, a new outfit, a new haircut, whatever that is when you realize, oh, I'm doing this all the time, how can I just upgrade my thoughts in my mindset to start manifesting those Quote-unquote bigger things? Because those are also totally within your reach, right? If you have the desire for something, if you have the thought about something that you want, or you're feeling, you know your soul being called to something More than the experience that you're currently having, something maybe a little bit bigger than what you're currently experiencing, that thought is there for a reason and, and that is already available to you. So now it's like, how do you just align your energy With the energy of the thing that you want to manifest to get there. So we're gonna really start to unpack a lot of this and dive Into this a little further. But what I want to start with, as we talk about this idea of manifesting and getting crystal clear on exactly what you want, is Do you know what you want? Are you crystal clear about exactly what you want to experience in your life? Are you crystal clear on exactly what you want to experience in the next six to twelve months? When you know Exactly where you want to go, that's when the universe starts to conspire to Line up all of the pieces to get you there right. And a key piece of this is then surrendering to what that looks like.

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I Might have shared this before on this podcast, but when I was a kid, I Said the same prayer every night, and at the end of the night or, sorry, at the end of my prayer, I would say and God, please guide me along. Whatever path is, you know, most suitable for you. And then I would quickly in my head not kind of in the prayer, but in my head backtrack that Because and be like well, I don't want to do this and I don't want to do that and you know I had all of these, these Criteria that I didn't want to be guided to, and what I have learned is when you actually surrender to the how, when you're just super focused on Kind of what you want to experience and how that feels, but surrender to that exact path and Just put full trust that whatever that looks like for you is going to be better than you ever imagine it actually is and it it might take you somewhere Completely different than you originally thought and there's so much beauty in that. But it definitely starts with being crystal clear about what you want and not doing like what I was doing, like I Want this, but I don't want that part of it. Or I want this big house, but it I don't know if I want it in the city that I'm currently living in or maybe I want it in a different country. All of this like wishy washy thoughts around what you want is super confusing, right. Like how can anyone help guide you to this beautiful experience that you wanna have?

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So I find that the women that I work with kind of fall into three different camps around what they want and kind of knowing what they want just their clarity around that. And the first camp is I don't know what I want, and I would say that this percentage of women is smaller, but I have definitely worked with women who they have no clue what type of career they wanna pursue. They have no clue kind of what they want for themselves out of life. They fall into this I don't know what I want camp. The second would be deep down. I know what I want but I'm afraid to say it. And for me and my work I would typically say not always but most of the time that the I don't know what I want is actually deep down. I know what I want but I'm afraid to say it. And then the third camp would be I know what I want but I either don't believe I can have it or I don't know how to get it. So this is where I find most women who are kind of stuck in wanting something more for themselves, wanting something more for their lives, feeling called to something bigger and something different, and they're not quite taking action on it yet. This is kind of where I find that people are kind of stuck in like their different levels of clarity and again I would say that most people. It's like, deep down, I really do know what I want, but I'm afraid to say it.

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And how many of you can that resonate with? I mean, that resonates with me so much because I was there, I remember, during the pandemic, when I was really starting to get into personal development. I was just feeling so incredible and I knew I wanted to share this with other women, because I wanted every woman to experience just this level of joy and peace and contentment. But I didn't quite know what that looked like. And then once I, in true divine timing, fell into the coaching certification program that I ultimately ended up doing, I realized I did know what I wanted. I wanted to coach other women to feel this way as well and to help show them that they can feel really freaking good and follow their own passion. But I had my own stigmas around what that actually looked like. So I was afraid to really own this idea of wanting to help other women do the same, because at the time that just seemed like a ridiculous idea to me and like who am I to help someone right? So that message completely resonates with me of knowing what I want, but I'm afraid to say it, I'm afraid to really own it and I'm afraid to really own it. And I really want to encourage you.

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If you are in this boat right now, if you do know deep down what you want maybe you've never even told another soul what that is Can you allow yourself just to explore what that looks like, even if you're not sharing it with anyone yet? Can you allow those desires to bubble up a little bit more inside of you? Can you again, you don't have to share it with anyone, but can you start to just imagine what your life would look like if you started to go after some of those dreams, started to go after some of those desires that you've pushed down, maybe for a long time? Can you start to just get curious, play around, daydream about what that might look like? And the more that you do that, it might start to feel a little bit safer to have that desire. It might start to feel a little bit more comfortable. It might start to feel a little easier to have that. And the reason that this is so important when we are trying to manifest anything in our life is we need to know what we're actually going for right.

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We need to still be taking inspired and aligned action in pursuit of our goals. And how can you do that if you're not fully claiming what you want? And really I mean you can? Obviously, there's a ton of ways to get from point A to point B. There can be lots of twists and turns and pivots, and sometimes that's really beautiful and that can be a really beautiful journey with a lot of lessons and you know things along the way that serve you and maybe that is your path. Or, if you want to get to the thing you want to manifest faster, the best way is to be super intentional and clear about what you want. So you know okay what is the next most simplest action I can take.

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Or, even better is like really leaning into what is the next thing I'm called to do. Where am I feeling like this tugging at me to you know? Maybe it's again like registering for an online class, or maybe you want to create some sort of website and it's just a matter of like registering a domain name, something so simple. But where, when you really lean in to what you want and lean back from the expectations that you think you should be doing, where are you called next? And can you just keep following these little nuggets of insight and inspiration, because that's how the universe is showing up for you, right? It's putting all of these things along your path so that then you can take just the next, easiest step. And it gets really, really fun and it doesn't feel nearly as overwhelming when you're just following the next thing, versus thinking of this big picture, breaking down all the ways and all of the things that you need to do to get there, instead, like you're just leaning in what's coming to me, what's coming into my awareness today, where am I feeling called? Let me follow that. But it is much harder and much slower to follow these impulses if you don't have clarity around where you want to get to in the first place.

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And I think that, from my experience, one of the biggest reasons that we struggle with this idea of giving ourselves permission to claim what we want to go after, what feels really good and true for us, is, again, we have lived as women for generations and generations of having these societal and other expectations placed on us that we've forgotten. And again, logically, this seems so silly. I don't think if I were to ask any one of you, logically, you would say I can't do that because I have a societal expectation. I mean, maybe you would think that, but it's almost become ingrained in our DNA and just in our culture and therefore it's so much harder to give ourselves permission. Right, because we've prioritized everyone around us for so long that now it's like wait, I'm able to do this for myself and that can feel really scary.

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And we've also, I think, lost a certain level of trust in ourselves. Right, we've, again, because of the roles that we've played for so long, we have had to rely on other people kind of making decisions for us, and we've just gotten used to that in so many ways, because of the way that society and our culture has defined women's roles for so long, it has unfortunately allowed us, or it has unfortunately taken away, some of our own power, not just externally but internally. It's like we've forgotten that we have, that. We've forgotten that we're actually so freaking awesome and capable of doing anything that we want. We've forgotten how to trust ourselves. We've forgotten that we're worthy of getting anything that we want, and we've forgotten that anything that we want is available to us. And when we come back to our power, when we wake up to oh yes, I do remember, I am capable like everything shifts because you are able to create anything that you want. You're able to experience anything that you want in this lifetime. It is available to you. So how can you start to give yourself a little bit more permission to do this?

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One of the biggest shifts for me was I realized that if I didn't put my oxygen mask on first, everyone around me in my family was going to suffer because I could not show up as the best version of myself. I could not show up as the mom I wanted to be, the partner that I wanted to be, if I wasn't prioritizing myself. Fortunately, I had that level of awareness and the timing was right for me to have that awareness and also start taking the steps to just prioritize myself a little bit more and show up for myself a little bit more and know that I really am worthy of that time. I am not just here. I love my kids, but I am not here just to be cleaning up after them and picking up their toys and doting on them constantly. That's not going to serve them the best either. I want to set an example for them. I want to set an example for my son to know that women are equal, to hopefully have him marry someone who's really going to be a true partner and support one another and each grow into their own fullest potential. Then, of course, for my daughter, I want her to see that she has the ability to be anyone she wants to be and that it's all available for her.

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If I wasn't showing up embodying that, how can I teach my kids that? Because we all know it's not about what we say, it's about what we do and how we live and it's about our actions. That was so important to me. Once I started to show up for myself, things started to shift because I prioritize myself. And then I showed up. In showing up, I started to teach myself that I could trust myself, that I wasn't going to let myself down. With that comes so much self-love and I'm showing just how worthy I am of all of those things, and each and every one of those pieces just make things so much easier and make it so much easier for me to show up for myself and my life and my kids in the way that I wanted to.

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So how can you start giving yourself a little bit more permission, maybe for you if you're married and if you have kids? Maybe this is a conversation that you have with your partner, that you need some time to yourself. I mean, really, you don't even need to explain yourself. It's like you just need a little bit of time for yourself and then you can choose what to do with that time. But if you're talking about wanting to create more intention and getting really crystal clear on exactly what it is that you want, it's giving yourself time and space and quiet and stillness to reflect, right Like meditation, journaling, just allowing yourself to be without the distractions and the thoughts and the outside noise and everything else. Even if it's 10 minutes a day, right, even if it's, I'm gonna go out and go on a walk and I'm just gonna allow myself to be how can you start giving yourself more permission to do that and doing it in a way that is really, really nourishing for you, because you don't always have to be doing things right?

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I remember during the pandemic, there were a lot of memes that started to go around, like going to the grocery store without your kids is not self care, because sometimes that's all that we have as moms, or maybe that's all that we feel like we have is okay. I can get away without the kids and hear myself think and I'm gonna go to the grocery store and that's great if that's all you get and that's I understand. Take that. But how can you do a little bit more for yourself? How can you create that space for yourself? And in those moments when you're quiet and when you're still, and even if you don't wanna meditate or do the journaling, you can still allow yourself just to daydream a little bit more about what you want? And I find that, even if you're struggling with the what, can you start super small and really just lean into what feels good for you, right, like leaning into. Well, I know I don't wanna be working for someone else, or I know I want to be spending more time at home with my kids or whatever that looks like.

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I remember, before the pandemic, I had a sales job and I fortunately, the sales job gave me much more flexibility with my time, which I really really appreciated, even though I the job itself was not aligned and it was not something I wanted to be doing long term. But in the mornings, because I didn't have to get into an office, I remember just being able to sit on the couch and snuggle my son, who was probably, you know around two at the time, and just instead of focusing on dreading going to my job or starting, you know, my work day, instead I just focused on how good those snuggles felt and how I just wanted more of that. And I, even now I can remember thinking like I just want to be able to spend as much time as I need to on this couch with him in the morning, right, like I always chose to lean into what I wanted instead of what, focusing on what I didn't want. Because the more that you lean into what you want, a you're attracting more of what you want, right? You're aligning your energy with the things that you want, versus focusing that negative energy on the things that you don't want, right? So you're aligning your energy with that good feeling, the thing that you desire to have, and you start to attract more of that. And as you do that, you start to open up your awareness around. Oh well, this is what I want. So, hmm, maybe I should get a job where I can work from home, or could I possibly go part-time in my job? Is that something that I could explore with my partner? Maybe that's something that we can make work and that would free up some time for me to be home more with my kids or to start a side business or whatever that looks like for you, right?

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But you can see how, simply allowing yourself to just really appreciate and be in gratitude and enjoy the things that you want, focusing on how you want to feel, focusing on getting closer and getting more of again those feelings that you want, instead of focusing on the lack, instead of focusing on the fact that you're not there, instead of focusing on being so frustrated and miserable that you have to, you know, go to a job today that you really don't like. Focusing on that is just. It's just going to keep you stuck there, right, not just energetically and emotionally, but physically as well. So how can you start to just, yeah, lean into things that feel a little bit more exciting and alive for you and this is where journaling really is so beautiful, and meditation as well. When you start to do this a little bit more, you will start to get those insights right. You will start to have new inspiration and new creative thought come into your awareness. Those thoughts they have to form from somewhere. So adjust the thinking to thoughts that are more positive and then allow those positive insights and that positive inspiration to start coming in. And then you get to choose where you follow that to and what feels good for you and what feels aligned for you.

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And the more that you do this, things just start to get so much easier and really drastic, transformative shifts can literally happen overnight. And I know that seems crazy and you know I'm not saying that they always do or that it's guaranteed to work that way, but shifts can happen in a huge way. Right Like you could start aligning yourself with these thoughts and just aligning with wanting to have more work-life balance and how good that feels and really leaning into again the emotion and the feeling that you want to create. And then tomorrow you randomly hear from an old boss who has a new opportunity for you and it's exactly what you want, you know, in your life and would give you the more of the work-life balance that you desire. It's like it's all about the energy. So how can you align to that? And then the energy will connect and align with what you want and that's where the magic starts to happen and that's where things just start to get so much more fun and that's when you start to just manifest those things that you want, and then it gets really fun. And then you're like, oh, what else can I do? And you, you know, start to play around and dream a little bit bigger. And you know again, there's no stopping you once you get started and once you fully believe in just what you're capable of creating.

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I hope you got something out of this episode today. I truly believe that we are all having this experience each and every moment. You know that we're meant to be having, so if you tuned in today, you needed to hear this message and I hope it serves you. And I hope that today you can start getting a little clearer on exactly what it is that you want. If you know what you want, I hope that you're able to start giving yourself permission to really claim that for yourself and start going after it. I believe in you. You're so much more capable than you even know and your potential is infinite. I hope you have a beautiful day.