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Claim Your Awesome
Why Searching for Clarity Might Be Keeping You Stuck and What to do Instead
As I was walking through the mall on a Friday morning, it hit me, I had manifested everything I always wanted and I didn't even realize it!
I am seeing this common theme amongst the women I coach as well as in the personal development space, of searching for Clarity. What do I want? How do I get there? What do I need to do?
Sound familiar? In this episode I am sharing why I want you to stop searching for clarity and what to do instead to manifest faster!
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Hello, welcome back to Claim, your Awesome. I am so excited to be here with you and so appreciative of you and you spending this time with me. I'm super excited to dive into this conversation today. We are going to be talking all about clarity and how our kind of obsessive search for clarity, in whatever way that looks like for you, is maybe hindering your manifestations to come through right. It's maybe not allowing them to come through as fast as you would like. So I want to just kind of start with how I really came to want to share about this today, because I was walking through the mall a couple of Fridays ago in the middle of the day picking up a pair of shorts I'd ordered for my son for a school uniform online and there was no one there, hardly, you know. It was like the middle of the morning and in that moment I realized something. I realized that I had manifested everything that I wanted. I had manifested everything that I wanted and I had manifested everything that I wanted and I didn't even fully see it. I didn't even fully realize it, right, even though I'm obsessed with this work, even though I support other women in doing this work, I'm still also a student of this. I'm still doing my own work and this was so profound because own work and this was so profound because in 2020, the beginning of 2020, I was still working at a job that really was misaligned for me, it did not light me up whatsoever and I finally got up the courage to quit my job one week before the pandemic started. Quit my job one week before the pandemic started, and that's important, because I quit my job to start an events business and clearly, events as we know it. You know we're shut down for the foreseeable future and you know, as I'm able now, with the power of hindsight, able to look back and reflect on this, what I really wanted to create with that business at the time was truly more freedom to spend my time the way that I wanted, with my kids. I think for so many women who want to start their own businesses, especially moms, that is the crux of why they want to have these businesses. They want that freedom and flexibility to be with their kids more.
Speaker 1:I would spend my mornings getting myself together, getting my kids stuff together. I looked like I was going on a two week trip every time I left the house between the baby stuff and the kids stuff and I was pumping at the time, so all of my pump stuff and bottles and and food for everyone. It was insane and it was exhausting every morning. So if you happen to be listening and that is your current situation, I see you and I was there and it gets better and I'm just sending you so much love and compassion. So just kind of a quick side note to say that, because I know how challenging that can feel and how challenging that can be in those moments.
Speaker 1:And really again, as I wanted to start this business, it was to spend time with my kids, it was to not have to rush out the door in the morning so I could just sit on the couch and snuggle them a little bit right, without being just constant in this rush and hustle. So then the pandemic happens right, and instantly my manifestation comes through, right. Instantly my manifestation comes through because ultimately I was so focused on wanting to start the business. But why I wanted to start the business was to spend more time with them. So now the pandemic happens and here I am having all the time with my kids, right, and I didn't even see it. I didn't even see it because in those moments my head was so caught up in oh my gosh, how am I going to make this business work? How am I going to start an events business when, literally, events as we know it have shut down? And really, when everything first started, I mean that was definitely not my first thoughts because it was just a wild time, as all of you know and can relate to. But it's so interesting how the ego does that right. And I wanna quickly say that this is really before doing all of my work right. Clearly I had not gotten into personal development the way that I do now. I had not gone through kind of my own spiritual awakening, I had not decided to become a coach, like so much has happened in the past four years. But this is really where I was and I was so focused on this idea of I need to start this business that I wasn't even seeing like, oh, I don't even need to start the business to spend more time with my kids, because now there's a global pandemic and I'm going to be spending all the time I want with them, right. So it's just really interesting and beautiful and funny how life works. Funny how life works and whether we're able to see it in those moments or not is sometimes up to us and sometimes completely not up to us, right, it just is based on our own level of awareness and that's all completely okay.
Speaker 1:So many women come to me with wanting clarity, right, and this is really where I want to bring this conversation to. So many women that I work with come to me because they want clarity around what they want. They want clarity around what they should do. They want clarity around how they should do something, how they should show up, right. They want to know the what and the how. And through this, like huge epiphany of my very short time walking around the mall, I realized that we're so focused on trying to manifest the how we're trying to manifest the how. What does that mean Below what you want to manifest the how we're trying to manifest the how. What does that mean Below what you want to manifest?
Speaker 1:So again, whether you want to manifest money, whether you want to manifest a new job, whether you want to manifest starting your own business, like I did, whether you want to manifest I don't know a trip, right, anything, beneath all of those things, there is something deeper that you think that the thing that you want to manifest will give you. So when we think of, okay, what is under this? Right? Again, going back to my example of under me having my own business, what I really desire is that ability to have my own schedule, to have the freedom to spend more time with my kids, to do things with them at school and just not be so tied to my nine to five in my own job. Right, having that flexibility. I was so focused on manifesting how I was going to make that happen.
Speaker 1:So, when we think about wanting clarity, or needing clarity in order to manifest something, okay, right, because sometimes we get stuck in. I want to manifest a business, but I don't know how. I want to manifest a business, but I don't know what I should do. I'm using business just because it's super relatable and easy for me to speak to. But clearly, use your own examples here. I'm wanting to start an online business, but what could that look like for me? Right? What do I need to do?
Speaker 1:When we are constantly searching for the clarity that we need to do something? We are most likely going to fall into this loop, into this trap of not actually taking action and instead just be in the loop of never feeling like you have enough clarity to do the very thing that you need to do. Right, and the very thing that you need to do is so simple. It's just taking that next step, it's just being open to having that insight come through, and then you get to say yes or no to it. Right, it's so simple, but we cloud the simplicity of it because we are stuck looking for the how, we're stuck looking for the what, we're stuck looking for the how and we're stuck looking for the what and we're stuck searching for clarity. And we're stuck looking for the what and we're stuck searching for clarity. So this is a simple invitation to just stop. Just stop looking for clarity, because here is the thing as I mentioned earlier, beneath whatever that manifestation is, there is a deeper why, a why you want to manifest the thing in the first place. That is the only clarity you need in this moment, and there's no way you're not clear on that. There's no way. There's no way that you're not clear on maybe.
Speaker 1:The deeper intention is you want to have that freedom to spend more time with your kids. There's no way that you don't know that. Right, there's no way. There's no way that you don't know. I just want to feel better about myself. I just want to feel happier. I just want to feel more joyful. I just want to love myself more.
Speaker 1:Right, whatever it may be. There is no way that you're not clear on that, because underneath any of these desires there is something deeper, or else you wouldn't want it in the first place. Right, we want it because we think that the physical thing is going to make us feel a certain way. Right, and that's what we want. We want to feel a certain way, we want to feel good. Right, when even the freedom of spending time with my kids, what I wanted to feel was the ease in that, the joy in that, the pleasure in that right, the love in that, there's always an emotion that's deeper, that is attached to the physical thing that you want to manifest. And, again, there's no way you're not clear on that.
Speaker 1:So, if you are finding yourself getting caught up in this loop of I don't know what I want, or I don't know how to get there, or I don't know what to do, or I don't know what I should do, or I don't know what next step to take, I want you to just let that go and focus simply on what you want to feel. Focus on what you want to feel. So why do we need to focus on what? What we want to feel, right, like what does that matter? How does that then ultimately affect what we're able to manifest? So there's a couple of things coming up here.
Speaker 1:One, there are an infinite amount of possibilities that are available to you that all lead you to an outcome better than you could have ever imagined for yourself, that don't currently live in your awareness. So, when we are so focused on how we're going to make something happen, what we need to do, we are only able to access the information that is currently available to us. But there's so much more available. There are so many more possibilities, there are so many more ways that we could actually get the very thing that we want, and it's going to be better. I should say, it's going to be as good as, or better than, the very thing that you thought you needed to manifest in the first place. And this is what's so beautiful when you, instead of trying to control the how and control the what, and instead tap into that feeling right, experience that feeling now that you ultimately want to experience, that naturally raises your vibration.
Speaker 1:And as we do this, we open up ourselves energetically to then receive the exact thing that will lead us to what we ultimately want, right? Maybe that opens us up to a new creative idea or a thought or inspiration, and you're like, I never thought of it that way. That's super interesting. Let me test that, let me try that out, let me, you know, explore that, right? Maybe it will just bring a little nudge, guiding you to check out a website or read a blog about something, or who knows? But it's only when we let go of trying to control every aspect of what we're doing, right, every aspect of our day, every aspect of what we're trying to manifest, and we simply let go and trust that there is a much bigger force at play, working everything out for us for our highest good. When we truly trust that, when we truly can do that and let go again, we open ourselves up to these limitless possibilities that are ultimately available to us. And I'm sure you can even reflect on this a little bit and experience this in your own way.
Speaker 1:Right, when things almost happen, seemingly out of nowhere, and you're like, how in the heck did that happen? Or you get this idea that leads to another idea. That leads to another idea and you're like, where did that even come from? And you're trying to trace the steps and it almost doesn't even make sense, right. But it just comes to you because you finally let state of right whether it be the emotion of love or deep gratitude, right, when we think of abundance or money or things like that that we want to manifest. Right, there's just a deep level of gratitude there and appreciation for all that we have. Right. When we're tapped into those higher frequencies, those higher level emotions, we then align ourselves energetically and that's when we again are open to receiving exactly what we need to get the very thing that we want. Right.
Speaker 1:And whether that's like the manifestation that we wanted beautiful, wonderful, sometimes we get the thing that you know, the feeling that we want, and we realize, oh, we didn't even need the manifestation. Now I'm just feeling really good and I'm just feeling really deeply connected to something bigger and my body just feels lighter and I feel more at ease and I'm happier and I'm more confident. And I don't even know exactly what this is, but it just feels really good and now I don't even care about the thing that I wanted to manifest. But now I'm like, oh, what else can I do, what else can I create? And maybe you're getting new inspirations and insights, and I don't know, maybe you want to write a book, or maybe just new things are coming to you, right? You? Maybe you love music and you want to start a band or who knows? Right, just like throwing fun things out there, like feel into this and just see whatever feels true to you, because that's really where the magic is and where the magic happens.
Speaker 1:And really, this leads me to the second point, and it's that when we let go of trying to control the how, trying to control the what, trying to figure it out on our own, and instead we tap into a higher consciousness, right, we tap into our highest self spirit. You can put a name on this if you like, or you can just feel into it. Right, you can just feel into the expansiveness of this. When you are tapped into that, then you are allowing yourself to be guided to your highest potentials. And whether you're listening to this for the first time or you've been with me for a while, you know that I believe that your soul came here to experience magic. You are being nudged and pushed to something so beautiful and miraculous. Your soul is literally like begging you to say yes to seeing just what you're capable of.
Speaker 1:I don't mean this at all from like a hustle, do more mentality. I mean, what is the fullest, highest, truest expression of yourself? That is what your soul wants you to wake up to, wants you to come home to, wants you to experience in your physical existence. Right, your soul is already there. Right, your soul is already like the highest consciousness, it's already tapped into that. But it wants to experience that here on earth in this lifetime, in your lifetime.
Speaker 1:So, when, again, we're letting go of the how we're not trying to control, we're actually allowing ourselves to be guided to that highest potential of our soul's calling, and that is really the most magical path. Right, I mean, we're all just scratching the surface, barely at what we're capable of. And I say all this, right, and even though myself and so many humans on this planet have never actually reached that Myself and so many humans on this planet have never actually reached that we're living in a really interesting time where, collectively, humanity, as more and more people wake up to this, wake up to this knowing it is consciously feeding into all of us. Right, we are feeling that, even if we aren't fully there yet, we are feeling that connection to something more. We are feeling that connection to something deeper inside of us and again, just as I'm saying this, see what gets activated, see what feels true to you. Are you feeling that? Are you feeling like, yes, I'm doing all the things, but I know there's more. I know there has to be something more, because I feel it right Again, not from like I have to do more, I have to be more.
Speaker 1:It's not like that. It's like I feel this deeper connection and I'm wanting to cultivate that, I'm wanting to lean into that, I'm wanting to wake up more to that. What does that mean for me? Right, ask yourself, what does that mean for me? What does my highest self want for me? Right? This is so beautiful because, again, the more of us that are doing this work, the more that everyone else you know who isn't doing the work is starting to feel it, starting to get these nudges and these pings. And you know, again, because we're all connected, it's like and everything is always working out for everyone and in direction of their highest good. It's like these little pings and these little insights.
Speaker 1:Maybe I'm saying something to you that's going to activate you purchasing a book and you purchasing that book is going to wake up something inside of you or bring a new level of insight. And then you're going to move in a new way and you saying yes to something that you're doing and something that you feel really excited and passionate about and something that you want to pursue, and just you saying yes to giving yourself permission, you're going to like radiate that right. And then other women are going to see you doing that and they're going to be like, oh my gosh, like what's Sarah doing? I want more of that, like that looks so good. And then you're going to inspire them to want to say yes to themselves and follow their own insights and things right. And you can see this like beautiful ripple effect and it's so simple. It's just letting go of that little bit of control and trusting that there is something so much bigger at play, trusting again that there are infinite ways, infinite possibilities to experience whatever it is you want to manifest.
Speaker 1:And on a more personal note to this, I was really starting to feel this. You know, kind of even before my own. You know revelations and thoughts around this at the mall, you know, probably a month, even before that where, while I love coaching women, while I love showing up in this way, while I love, you know, making this podcast and doing these videos, and I am also okay with the idea that this is not it for me, right? Not like this, like this is not the I mean like this is not it for me, right? Not like this. Like this is not the I mean like this is not the only thing, like there are so many more things that I'm capable of and I'm so open to that, right. And I'm open to that because I'm not allowing myself to get sucked into the story of needing to figure it out. I'm okay with all of it because I'm not buying into the story that this is going to be in some way hard or that I can't do it or that it's just too much.
Speaker 1:I am open to all of the possibilities. I'm open to whatever wants to flow through me. I'm open to literally like life force, energy moving through me in the way that is of the greatest service to me and to you and to the greatest good of all, and that is one of the most liberating ways to go through life manifestation and as much inner work I've done. I don't know if I've ever felt more liberated as I have in the past month and a half or two months, truly being so okay with letting go of how I think things need to go or how I think things should go, and instead trusting that whatever wants to be moved through me, whatever wants to be birthed through me, whatever wants to flow through me, is truly aligned with my highest expression of myself Like, oh my gosh, then you're just like okay, I don't need to worry anymore, I don't need to try so hard, I don't need to do all the things, I just need to be in alignment, I just need to allow myself to be in flow, I just need to be connected.
Speaker 1:And connection is the key to all of this, because what I have found in the work that I've done with so many women is it's not clarity that we're actually wanting, it's connection. It's connection to our own intuition, it's connection to our highest self, to God, to spirit, to a higher level of consciousness that literally lives inside each and every one of us. And when you finally connect to that, when you finally reconnect to that right, when you find that connection inside of you, when you remember it, everything will start to shift. So it's not that we want that clarity. We think clarity is going to give us something, but it's truly in coming back to that connection, to reconnecting to our own truth and then connecting to our intuition, connecting to our highest self and letting that guide us. When we have that connection, we no longer need clarity. When we have that connection, it feels so true and so alive and so aligned, and then all you have to do is say yes, all you have to do is follow your intuition. All you have to do is keep taking another step, picking up the breadcrumbs, following the nudges. Sometimes it's so small, sometimes it feels like you might not be getting anywhere, but keep trusting that you are, and that is just the most beautiful thing you can do.
Speaker 1:Okay, so if you're looking for clarity right now, a simple prompt that you can use is what would I do if I had clarity right and just see what comes up? What would I do if I wasn't worried about getting it wrong or needing to be right, or needing to do the next right thing? What would I do next right? These are super simple prompts that start to activate that inner voice, that start to activate the intuition, and the more you do that, the more you hear it. And then promise me that you take action, because I know the action part can be a challenge right. There's so many oh goodness programs and patterns and beliefs and fears that can get in the way. But do the smallest thing to ground into what you're hearing, to ground into where your intuition is guiding you, to know that you're on the right path. Just take the smallest step and trust that you're going to keep feeling the nudges, trust that you're going to be always moving in the right direction. You cannot get it wrong. You just can't. You can't get it wrong. Okay.
Speaker 1:So again, test this out, integrate this work, give it a try. Integrate this work. Give it a try. See what comes up for you when you do the work and then you're not taking action or there's a stumbling block or something happens. That's not a sign that you should stop. It's an invitation to dig deeper. It's an invitation to see what is here that I'm finally ready to release, I'm finally ready to let go of. And yes, I say ready, because sometimes we don't see blocks until we're ready to release them. Right, sometimes blocks are big and sometimes they're tiny, and they present themselves when we're ready to do the work to heal them. So, again, don't let something negative or, you know, when you feel like maybe you've gotten off track or whatever it is, don't let that deter you. Use it as an invitation to deepen into this work and to continue to guide you, because those blocks and triggers and whatever else are lessons, and there is so much beauty, there is so much wisdom, there are so many gifts in those moments. Okay, so just keep keep going, keep trying this out If you are interested in really deepening into this work, into really understanding what it feels like to hear your intuition, to really tap into, like your highest self, and hear the call to trust that, to let it guide you, to understand what it means to feel aligned with whatever that next right step is, rather than being like completely lost in the overwhelm and overthinking and all the things that we think we need to do, instead of being like super focused on just maybe a few actions that will actually get you to your manifestation or get you to whatever it is that you want to feel and do and experience so much faster.
Speaker 1:It's so much faster when we're focused. It's so much faster when you can just hear your intuition and you just take action based on that, right? If you want to deepen into this work, I am starting a three-month group program called Everyday Magic, and it's really about integrating this work. It's about understanding that there is so much magic available to you. It's about waking up to the fact that you are the magic, that the magic lives inside of you, and when we're tapped into that, it is infinite what we are able to create, what we are able to do. We are limitless beings and I want this for each and every one of you, because not only are we manifesting really big things, we're also manifesting things like more joy and ease and abundance and just being more present and patient with our kids, being more loving moms. Right, it's all of it, it's all integrated. It's not separate, right, it's not like we build the business and we're a mom and we're doing this with our friends, like it's just all connected. So how do we experience the fullest life that we came here for? That is what we're doing inside of Everyday Magic.
Speaker 1:So if that calls to you, if that resonates with you, if you're curious, I will drop the link below, of course, that you can check that out. We start at the end of May and I'm just so excited because I think that we are all really craving more deeper connection with ourselves, more deeper connection with other women within community, just sharing in a much deeper way, being more raw and real and vulnerable, because, whether we're aware of this, consciously or not, we know that it's in these moments, in these moments of diving into our own shadows, diving into these parts of ourselves that we've maybe been afraid to express, that we wake up to a life beyond our wildest expectations and dreams. And I don't know about you, but I am just here for, again, all of the magic and I love doing this work and I love supporting other women and doing it. So, again, if that feels resonant, if not totally, see what insights you gain from you know, listening to these conversations, see what comes up for you and just trust yourself. Right, you've got this. You are so much closer than you realize.
Speaker 1:All right, thank you again for spending your super valuable and precious time with me. I'm so appreciative of you. If you have any comments, you know send them over. If you want to DM me privately, like send something on Instagram, say hey, let me know how you're doing, let me know what's going on. Let me know what's working. Let me know what's not working. I love to hear from you, as always. All right, have a beautiful day and I'll see you soon.