Claim Your Awesome

What You are Going Through Actually Holds the Key to Set You Free

• Jessica Hook • Season 2 • Episode 4

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What if the very thing you’re calling a problem is the key that unlocks your freedom? We pull on that thread, inviting you to step outside the swirl of emotion and look at your life like a film on a screen—without judgment, with a detective’s curiosity, and with the kind of lightness that lets clarity land. Rather than ruminating on the pain, we ask better questions: What is this really about? What sits beneath the first wave of sadness or frustration? Where did I dim myself, loosen a boundary, or perform for love?

As we walk through real-world examples—breakups, career shocks, and tangled family dynamics—we show how reframing turns a setback into a signal. The moment you stop insisting that a challenge is proof something is wrong with you, energy returns to action. You can name what you learned, update a boundary, or let an ending be a beginning. We also talk about the surprising speed of transformation: sometimes the right insight shifts more in days than months of effort, especially when you bring playfulness instead of pressure.

Underneath it all is a steady source: the love already inside you, not something to earn. From that place, fear loosens its grip, synchronicities show up, and choices get cleaner. If life is a classroom, every hard thing is a lesson in plain clothes—meant to bring you back to your truth and alignment. Listen to spark your own aha moment, then take one clear step from that new awareness. If this message hits home, share your story with us so we can offer more guidance for you and the collective. Subscribe, leave a review, and pass this on to someone who needs a gentler lens today.

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Along with the shift that is happening, it is stirring so many things up individually within each of us, right? Within relationships, within things going on in your career, within you know, just home and family life, within a variety of things and ways. And I really want you to trust and know that if you are seeing this message, if you are hearing this message, it is truly meant for you. Give yourself the space and time to be able to sit with it in a way that you're able to catch those glimpses and those nuggets of wisdom. Because anytime you hear me or anyone else say something and it like kind of sparks a light bulb inside of you, you know, turning on, that is just information. It is like your soul saying, Yep, that's for you. Listen closely, listen up, right? So again, because I really want this conversation to be whatever it's meant to be and whatever it needs to be for you, and have it be supportive. Don't just listen and trust what I'm saying, right? Do the work. Take action, let things spark within you. Okay, enough. I'm not gonna ramble on that because I could probably keep rambling and have that be a whole episode in and of itself. So let's really get into the meat of what's going on, right? You clicked on this video because you saw the whole thing around your problems, are going to set you free. And I love this right now because there, like I said, so many things beautifully and divinely coming up for you. And this is your choice right now. You can choose, and yes, it is a choice, okay? You can choose to be kind of like stuck in the problem, to be absorbed in the problem, to be ruminating in the problem, to be emotionally caught up in it all, or you can choose to step outside a little bit. And I really want to encourage you to do the latter. And I want to support you in really how to see what's going on and what insights that may be coming up for you know within you right now. There is juice and information and wisdom and freedom and literally everything that you want found in the situation that you are currently in. So whether your problem or your perceived problem, right? Because even the idea of a problem is still a judgment that we are placing on something going on in our life, right? Say you're going through a breakup and it feels really hard and heavy and it feels like a problem you're in. Well, you don't know if it's a problem, right? You're putting that judgment on it now because it feels sad and hard, or you know, maybe you're angry, you're resentful, you're frustrated, you're grieving, right? All of these things. But we can't say that in a year, two years, you look back on this so-called problem and you realize it was actually the best thing that could have happened to you. It was the best thing that changed the trajectory of your life about allowing yourself to just see it from a different angle and say, okay, instead of me judging this being a problem, what am I meant to see instead? What, and again, I'm gonna just kind of say some things that are coming up for me that you can then reflect on for yourself in hopes that you know something, something will kind of resonate and start allowing, you know, your brain to fire in new ways. Okay. So again, simply like stepping outside of that and saying, okay, what what did I learn from this situation? What do I need to know and understand from this situation? If there is a deep emotion, right? What are you actually sad about? Right. And I say that, and I want to say it in a lighthearted way because I want to give you like a way to get into something deeper. And sometimes when things feel really heavy, again, we get stuck in the loop of that heaviness. So when I can bring some lightness, and when you can in turn bring lightness to what's going on, it opens up for more clarity to come in. So again, it's like maybe what you're really sad about is that you poured, you know, your heart and soul into this relationship and it wasn't reciprocated. Okay. So what's below that? Right? What is one layer deeper? If that doesn't feel like, okay, there's not enough of kind of a an epiphany there or a shift there, keep going deeper, right? Sometimes there's grief because we realize that we dimmed ourselves. We we shrunk ourselves for someone else. And the real grief is seeing that we did that, right? And then sometimes that grief turns into like frustration and anger because then we see it and the clear the clarity of the situation becomes so obvious and so in our face that we're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe that I did that, that I allowed myself to do that, that I allowed myself to, you know, let go of some of my boundaries, that I allowed myself to shrink to make this other person happy, to shrink to make this other person love me. Right. And this message is clearly for someone because I've really gone off on a little bit of a tangent around relationships. So if this speaks to you in whatever way, trust that um and sit with that a little bit and sit with, okay, what is it? Because if our existence here as humans, right, if our experience actually has nothing to do with the things that we think that we want, and the things that we think we want are actually just ways that we can personally grow and expand as humans, as souls, having this human experience, that completely changes the game because now you look at your life as a giant, I don't know, I don't want to say game. I mean, yes, I mean it kind of is, right? But if it's like just like this giant learning, and we are here just to really allow ourselves to kind of enjoy this experience and just live life, to have the opportunity to just live this life in the good and the bad, and what we grow and evolve and experience and expand because of that, that shifts everything. So again, this so-called problem, issue, challenge, whatever it is that you're going through, and maybe it's a multitude of things, right? Because things are quite nuanced and they're they're layered and they're all interconnected. So the more you dissect them, you can see them. And I want to just add that I have done so much, gosh, healing work, emotional work, mindset work, um tons, tons of different types of therapies to, you know, again, do my own level of healing. And what I want to add to that is right now, the shifts that are happening are so fast. And some of the shifts and healing that I have experienced in my own life over the past month have been like this, right? It hasn't been the deep levels of breath work that I've done. It hasn't been some of these like deeper, um, these deeper practices, which I love those practices and I love, I they're so beneficial. My point in saying that is it's okay to be where you are, right? We don't have to ruminate in it. We can simply just like zoom out and see and and bring curiosity, right? Bring a lightness and a playfulness to what you're going through. Again, if we think of it as I'm just here to grow and learn and expand, and that's that's it. That's my only job, right? That's my only purpose here. The rest is just like the icing on the cake. It lightens the mood a little bit. And when you can lighten the heaviness and the intensity of what's going on, it creates holes and space and air and movement to kind of see the lesson, to kind of see what it is exactly that you need to know, that you need to learn, that you need to understand in this moment. And I have literally had moments in the past few weeks that I like saw something so freaking clearly, even after I've done so much work around it, I've seen it so clearly that I literally start laughing out loud. Like, how in the hell did I not see that before? And it and it's beautiful. And it's just like, oh my gosh, this new level of lightness that I feel. And what is then coming up with this new spaciousness that I've created because of that, because of not holding on so tightly to things and not taking everything so seriously and not, you know, trying to, you know, get out of, you know, the frustration or kind of like I'm saying I'm wanting to say pain, but it's like, you know, it's like that body tightness when you're just like feeling contracted because things feel hard and tough and heavy and frustrated and stressful and overwhelming and a myriad of other emotions that I can bring up right now, right? So it's really an invitation for you to let yourself say, huh, what if this wasn't a problem? What could I see? What could I understand? What new levels of awareness could set me free and bring more peace and more joy and more love and more abundance into my life if I simply stopped looking at what is happening in my life as a problem. Okay. And again, there are a bunch of different ways that you can try to get there. Because I know that that's hard when you're in it, right? Like it's really hard to kind of see the silver lining when you're in the thick of it. And I get that. And let yourself sit with that, see what comes up. You will be amazed, right? Like you can reflect on this, you can maybe go on a walk in nature, you could write it out, you know, journal it, but really let yourself kind of keep going deeper and deeper. And I want to just really hone in on the fact that by going deeper and deeper, I do not mean like emotionally ruminating in the problem. Okay, because you're not gonna be able to see it from that place. This is really like if you were watching a movie, right? Your life, your situation is a movie on the screen, and you are kind of being that like super sleuth detective watching the movie, trying to like pick apart in a very curious, in a very gentle, and a very compassionate, and in a very non-judgmental way, what's actually going on here, right? And even that, and it's like I even feel that, right? Like, even that, when you approach life, you approach whatever it is that you're going through, kind of as like this puzzle piece that you're trying to kind of make sense of. And yet making sense of it doesn't have to mean anything about you. Okay. It doesn't mean that you have to believe whatever kind of story you're creating is true. Okay. It doesn't mean that. You don't have to, you know, I think that that's where it kind of gets really heavy, is because we think that so many of these things that are going quote unquote wrong in our life mean something about us, but they don't. Okay. That's just the meaning that you're choosing to attach to whatever the situation is. But like I said previously, who's to say that in six months, in one year, two years, five years, ten years, you look back and you're like, thank God I went through that. That was the exact thing I needed to go through, right? I needed to get fired from my job because it freed me to finally pursue something that I feel really passionate and excited about. Thank God that relationship didn't work out, right? And oftentimes the relationships, the jobs, the situations that are being mirrored back to us, right? We're we're finding ourselves in these situations and they're being mirrored to us simply to show us exactly what we need to see, exactly what we need to understand, what we need to know in this very moment to come closer to our truth, to come closer to our own alignment, to come closer to allowing ourselves to live the life that we came here for. And not everyone is gonna get to do this, right? Because it takes a lot of freaking courage to look at something and not get caught up in it and not get swept up in it and see it for what it is, and see it for this is for my highest good. What is that, right? Maybe it's like this relationship needed to needed to end because oh my gosh, I'm not I'm not showing up how I want to be or how I want to show up because again, I think that I need to wear this mask or this role or perform a certain way in this relationship. And I didn't even realize I was doing that. And it's like, oh my gosh, now I see it. And now that you've seen it, you can't unsee it, right? And then again, the choice is yours, what you're gonna do with that information. And that takes another level of courage. But I believe in you, and I know that everything is working out for you exactly the way that it's meant to. And you don't have to fear it. You get to move from a place of love. And I don't mean family love or romantic love, intimate love. I mean the love that lives inside of us, the love of the divine, the love that we are all interconnected with and through, right? And when you are connected to that and you feel that and you know that that already exists in your being, there's nothing to fear. Because again, we can go back to remembering that we're here to have this experience. We're here to grow and learn. And that's gonna show up. Life is gonna present many, many, many, many, many ways over and over again how to do that. And it's all exactly as it's meant to be. And it's all meant for you to remember. It's all designed for you to come back to your own truth and live from that place. And when you can do that, and when you can consistently do that, life gets to be easier, life gets to feel more magical, the synchronicities start happening, you start feeling more fulfilled, more on purpose, right? But you must go through these little nuances and these things to remember who you are, to come back to that truth. Okay. So again, I would love to hear from you. Share, you know, obviously as openly as you want what's going on. If you are like, oh my gosh, I'm just really stuck on this idea of letting something go, or I'm really stuck on this, or you know, how can I dive a little deeper into this topic, right? Like I'd love to hear from you, and I would love to um offer more of those messages in the way that best serves not only you, but but the collective. Because again, if you're seeing this message, if you're hearing this message, trust it. It's meant for you, and it is for your greatest, most aligned, most authentic path forward. Sending you so much love, and I'll see you next time.