How to Raise Your Frequency (When You Feel Like Sh*t)

You don’t need to feel amazing to raise your frequency — just a little bit better.

In this episode, we’re ditching toxic positivity and talking about how to actually raise your frequency — by meeting yourself where you are and making small, honest shifts that feel good.

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This episode is for the days when positive thinking feels impossible, and honestly, kind of annoying. I'm your host, Megan, and welcome to the High Vibes Experience. This is how to raise your frequency when you feel like shit. Today we're talking about something that I actually think is more important than being high vibes all the time. And that is what do you do when you're not feeling very good? Because the truth is you're not meant to feel good 24-7. And I feel like there's so much pressure in the personal development space to always be positive, always be grateful, always be high vibes. And if you're not, it kind of feels like you're doing something wrong. So this episode is really for the days where you feel off, you know, where you feel low, anxious, overwhelmed, or honestly, just like shit. Have you ever been in a bad mood and then you try to think positive thoughts and it just makes you feel worse? I mean, I know I have. Like you're sitting there and you're trying to say affirmations, and your brain is like, yeah, no, we're not doing that today, Megan. Well, that's because you can't just jump from a low emotional state straight into a high one. It doesn't make sense. And your nervous system literally won't let you. And when you try to force it, you actually create way more resistance, way more frustration, and sometimes guilt, even. Like, why can't I just feel better? So if you've ever felt this way, you are not broken, I promise, you are human, just like the rest of us, just like me and you. We are all feeling this way sometimes. And that's honestly why I wanted to do this episode. Well, the thing is, you gotta meet yourself where you are right now. So the real shift starts here, now. Instead of trying to fix how you feel, what if you just met yourself where you are right now? Like, okay, right now I feel like shit. Without judging it, without trying to rush out of it, because the moment you stop fighting your emotions, your body can actually start to calm down. It's kind of like you're telling yourself, you're safe to feel this, you're safe to be in this head space or emotion space. And that alone can shift your energy so much more than forcing positivity ever could. So, this is the biggest thing I want you to take away from this episode. You don't need to go from feeling terrible to feeling amazing, like ever. You just need to reach for the next best thing, the next best feeling, one step better. It's like that saying if you just make one percent improvement every single day, you're going to improve by 352% throughout the year. So one tiny small change can really make a huge difference over time, lasting time. And it's the same with delayed gratification, with marathon training or setting a goal. You have to take all these little baby steps and do all these tiny micro actions to see results long term. And that's what we're focusing on for so many different aspects of your life. But really, the bottom line is you are creating a safe space for your nervous system. I talk about it every single episode, and that's what we're doing. So instead of I feel awful, to I'm so happy and abundant and everything is perfect, which is unrealistic. Why don't you try? I don't feel great right now, but I'm open to feeling a little bit better. Or I feel overwhelmed right now, but I can handle one small thing like taking out the garbage, or even I'm not okay right now, but I won't always feel like this. This works for me with literally everything. So anytime I have an injury, which is common, I have lots of injury. Well, no, knocking on wood. I have had a lot of injuries or just like little things that have come up through running. And anytime I have something like that, I oh I tell myself, okay, I'm hurt right now, or I have this feeling right now, but it's not going to feel like this forever. It will eventually go away. And like I remember I had plantar fasciitis for like two years. If you know anything about plantar fasciitis, it is so annoying. It is the most annoying sensation. It's on, well, for me, it was on my arch underneath my foot. But most people, it affects the heel of their foot or the ball of their foot because the fascia runs all the way under your foot, all the way up to the back of your leg. So what I learned was I wasn't stretching my calf muscles, which in turn caused plantar fasciitis. And now I stretch my calf muscles religiously, but it was the sensation of every single time I took a step. And I'm not just talking about running. Like I was an advid hiker, I was climbing mountains all the time. I went to the Rancho La Puerta, which I've talked about that a few times in Mexico. And uh part of the program is you do a hike every single morning, and like every single step on these hikes was painful, and not the kind of pain that you can't tolerate, but the kind of pain where it's oh, you're here every single step. And as soon as I told myself, because mind you, I had it for like two years, two plus years. As soon as I was like, you know what, Megan, it's not gonna last forever because eventually it will go away. I swear, it was like days later, it was gone, and I've never had it again. So you're kind of just making your body feel okay. It's the same old thing. We're regulating the nervous system here. That's all we're doing. Uh, so you just say, I'm not okay right now, but I'm not always gonna feel like this. That's how you raise your frequency in a way that actually works. Small, honest shifts. And even if it's just acknowledging what is bothering you, then you can see it for what it is, which it is what it is, but it doesn't have to traumatize the rest of your life, it doesn't have to affect the rest of your life. It just you're noticing it so that you can make changes. It's just like if you're looking at your budget, you need to know where you're starting from. You need to know how much money you're bringing in in order to come up with a budget that works for you. So you, you know, you have to know where you are. You have to know exactly where you stand and how you feel. And if it's not good, if you don't feel good, if you feel quite frankly, like shit, we've all woken up feeling like shit one day, you can acknowledge it and recognize it and then move forward and say, okay, well, what can I do to make myself feel better tomorrow? Or what can I do to make myself feel better in 10 minutes? And I kind of want to bring this back to just acknowledging what is present, what is happening, like you got to meet yourself where you are now. I really think this is relatable to relationships and people as well, because you know, you can meet someone where they were 10 years ago or how they treated you 10 years ago, but that's not really fair to them, and it's not really fair to you. It's really is important when you are dealing with relationships, with friendships, with family members. I think I used to be really good at holding grudges. Um, I'm not, I don't do that anymore. I just don't have time for it. I don't have energy for it, and also it's such a waste of my energy to hold a grudge for something that was happening years and years ago. I just think it's such a waste of time and energy. But, you know, I do try to meet people where they are and how they're treating me today. And really, once I started doing that, um, my relationships really did get stronger with everyone. Of course, I also noticed that certain people were not treating me well. And as soon as I acknowledged it, they naturally left my life. And I'm not saying to like cut people off, but if if someone is not treating you fairly and you acknowledge it, it's your choice to do with that what you will. And you can just decide, well, I'm not going to lean in with any more of my energy, you know, and that's healthy. Uh, but most of the time you'll notice that as soon as you acknowledge the way you feel around people and the way you feel around yourself, those things kind of naturally take progression where they're supposed to. So you might have a friend that treats you really terribly and all of a sudden they kind of stop calling you. It's not really like there's a falling out or anything, but you acknowledge that they kind of suck you dry. They drain you of energy. And um once you acknowledge that feeling, you've brought awareness to it, and for whatever reason, they just kind of fade away naturally. And it doesn't mean that you have ill will towards each other. I mean, you can send them love from afar, but you're not giving them any sense of emotion or energy, and it's the same thing with acknowledging yourself, like, okay, I feel like shit today, and I acknowledge that. As soon as you acknowledge that, you can take a step forward and you can move on and you can let that go. And now you're not gonna wake up tomorrow still feeling like shit. I mean, you might, but you might also feel a lot better. And even if you do wake up feeling like shit tomorrow, you acknowledge it again and you say, Okay, well, how can I make myself feel a little bit better? How can I make take little tiny actions to improve my surroundings today? Maybe it's just a sweet treat, you know. Maybe I go get a scoop of ice cream, maybe I step outside for a minute and look at the sunlight. Maybe I just drink a glass of water, you guys. It's it's like, and this is all the same stuff that I talk about in every single episode. These little things that you do, they have so many benefits. You're bringing awareness to right now, you're creating a safe place for your nervous system. And you're just realizing it's not that serious. You're creating a field of positive energy every day that you do that, every tiny micro action, every time you take deep breaths and you say, I'm so grateful for this beautiful environment that I'm in right now, or I'm so grateful for my cute dog that's staring up at me right now, or I'm so grateful for my husband and my children. Like all of these things, every time you take a moment to center yourself, bring awareness to right now, the bad kind of fades away. And that's so beautiful. I mean, it really is so powerful because we all have the power to change our lives, period. We all have the power to live a high vibes experience life. You have the power to make these tiny changes. It is our responsibility. No matter how you grew up, no matter what traumatizing thing you went through when you were a child, no matter when your parents got divorced, no matter what you went through, no matter what if you were homeless, you were jobless, all these things, you still have the power to center yourself. Nobody can take that from you. And it is our responsibility to be adults and to be better and to grow 1% every single day. Wow, I'm getting kind of preachy over here. I need to step off my soapbox for a second. I get into it because we all are guilty. Like, I'm guilty of being in a pity party too. Like, I'm totally guilty of it, but I do practice these things regularly, and I swear it really helps me. Like, I'm so much more mentally grounded and stable and centered than I ever have been in my whole life. And I've been practicing meditation for like 15 years. So it does take work, it takes training, but these are small things that each and every single one of us can do and learn from. And I talked about this before too, but like when I ran the Berlin Marathon, I was like a ball of stress at the start line. And if I would have taken some breaths and taken some time for myself to center, align, meditate, be in the present moment, I think I would have had a completely different race. And it's the same with at work, it's the same with your relationships with your significant others, it's the same with your relationships with your friends, your family members, it's the same with anything that you're working on. I have this little trick when I don't want to go for a run and it's on my calendar because I write my calendar out for days I have to run. And I always give myself a little bit of grace to skip a run or switch my days around if I have to. But say I have to run tomorrow and I'm feeling terrible and I don't want to do it, I give myself 10 minutes. I say, go out for 10 minutes. Once I get to the 10 minutes, I usually forgot that I didn't want to run. Um, taking the time to give back to yourself is only gonna benefit your life. So, what are some things you can do to create small little energy shifts if you're feeling terrible? Or even if you're just feeling like meh, you know, blah blah blah. You can drink some water, you can put on a good song. This works really well for me. I have a list of songs that I listen to that are like manifestation songs. There's one that's called Letting Go of All the Bullshit. There's one um that's like manifest your reality. I also listen to the golden ratio 432 hertz. You can find that on Spotify, but um it's really cool. It's just um certain pitches, it's like dee dee dee dee dee. I can't do it. Anyway, you can find it on Spotify. I don't have the music rates for it, but um it is 432 hertz, and it is it just basically automatically calms all of your chakras, which is really cool, and it does work. Uh so if you if you need a really quick reset, that's really, really um helpful. You can just simply change your environment by going outside, sitting with your dog, anything. These are tiny little teeny tiny things that basically signal safety to your body, hence your nervous system. When your body feels safe, your energy naturally starts to shift. And that's when the vibes shift. When your energy shifts, your vibes shift. Your energy is currency. So when your energy is higher, you get better opportunities. You meet people because your energy is higher vibrational. Uh, it is all transferable. So you're never going to go backwards when you're doing these things to raise your vibration and raise your frequency. It's always going to be a positive motion forward, one step in front of the other. And honestly, I think this is the most freeing part of all of it, is that you don't have to force yourself into a high frequency state of being. You just need to stop fighting the one that you're in. That's all. Just stop fighting it and acknowledge it. And also just recognizing that your emotions are not permanent. Whatever you're feeling, if you're feeling down, depressed, sad, anxious, overwhelmed, angry, whatever that emotion or feeling is, it's not a permanent state of mind. So once you allow it, the faster it passes. This too shall pass. But as soon as you say what this is, it has the freedom to pass. And it really is incredible. I I I encourage you to practice this. Like anytime something comes up for you, if you're feeling terrible about anything, maybe you had a bad sales call, maybe somebody cussed you out when you were making a call. Um, hang up the phone, obviously, and just be like, okay, well, that was that was a bad call, you know? But it's like even me just saying that out loud, I can be like, I can laugh about it now because you acknowledge what it is. So if you're having a bad day, a low day, or a low moment, just remember this. You're not failing because you don't feel good all the time. You're human. We're all human. And your power isn't in being high vibes 24-7. It's knowing how to gently bring yourself back. It's one small shift at a time. If this episode helped you at all, send it to someone who might need it too. I know that we're not all feeling great all the time. You know, we're all in this together, this funny experiment of life, this journey that we don't know really what it is, but we're all in it together. And if it helped you, send it to someone that might need it. Uh, you can always come back to this anytime you're not feeling your best. And I am coaching. If you're interested in coaching, or if you want to just do like a guided meditation with me, or if you just want to chat, I'm available. So uh you can reach out to me, you can DM me at high vibes experience on Instagram, or you can email me, or you can find me at high vibesmethod.com. That is my website. And I love you so much. Thank you so much for listening to this short and sweet little reset uh episode. Um, I'm also doing the high vibes reset. It is eight weeks. It's a screaming deal. It's normally$777. Right now it's$555. It is eight weeks. You get me one-on-one every single week for an hour. We talk, we chat, I coach, I listen, um, I give you exercises to do, we do journaling, we do meditations, it's super welcoming and inclusive. And I give you step-by-step uh guide to basically raise your vibration naturally and easily so that you can take it on with the rest of your life. So if you're interested in that, head over to high vibesmethod.com. Otherwise, I will see you next week. Thank you so much. I love you. This is Megan with the High Vibes Experience.