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Selfish Parenting
Welcome to Selfish Parenting - where we flip the script on everything society tells you about being a "good parent."
I'm Chance Hinder-Lane (@hindirlane), and I'm here to tell you that what society calls selfish, we call sustainable parenting.
Tired of the guilt? Done with the burnout culture? Ready to stop people-pleasing your way through parenthood? You're in the right place.
This isn't your typical parenting podcast filled with shoulds and shouldn'ts. We're here to give you permission to: Hire help without guilt Prioritize your career AND your kids
Say no to activities that drain you Invest in your mental health and identity Maintain adult relationships and interests Spend money on yourself Set boundaries that actually work
Every episode, we dive deep into the "selfish" behaviors that research shows actually make you a better parent. From working mothers to stay-at-home parents demanding respect, from therapy to solo vacations - we're covering it all with science, sass, and zero shame.
Because here's the truth: Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.
New episodes drop every Monday at 7am Follow @hindirlane for daily doses of sustainable parenting content
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4. The Truth About “Broken Homes” | A Domestic Violence Survivor’s Story feat. Wadzanai Karanja
This episode contains graphic depictions of domestic violence. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or text “START” to 88788.
Leaving isn’t the hard part. It’s admitting to yourself that what you’ve been calling “home” has been hurting you. In this episode, I sit down with Wadzanai Karanja, a domestic violence survivor and single mother, to talk about the red flags she didn’t yet know to name, the years of isolation that kept her far from help, and the moment she chose safety over staying. We also break down the research that debunks the idea that children need two parents under one roof to thrive, and dig into what emotional safety, stability, and real community support actually look like for single mothers rebuilding their lives on their own terms.
Wadzanai Karanja is a survivor, a mother, and a passionate voice for women choosing safety over expectation. Her story is a powerful reminder that protecting your child sometimes begins with protecting yourself.
Resources mentioned:
- Journal of Marriage and Family: Longitudinal study on children leaving high-conflict homes (1,400 participants)
- American Psychological Association: Resilience in stable single-parent households
- National Center for Health Statistics: Maternal education as a protective factor
In this episode, we cover:
- The early red flags of coercive control
- How isolation and fear keep women from leaving
- Why many “traditional” family norms harm more than they help
- What the research says about single-parent stability
- How community becomes a lifeline for survivors
- A parenting truth that might change how you view “broken homes”
Hosted by Chancé Hindir-Lane, Selfish Parenting is the honest, empowering podcast that challenges the myth of self-sacrifice in motherhood. Each episode explores identity, partnership, and the balance between nurturing your family and yourself.
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