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S3 E10 "The Price of Happiness - Is Money The Key To Yours?" - Discovering Inner Fulfillment Over Financial Gain
Can money truly buy happiness, or is there a deeper connection waiting to be uncovered? Join us as we, Anton Lefwich and Michel DuPoux your Neighborhood Finance BRO's, explore the intersection of money and happiness, especially during the holiday season when introspection is at its peak. We share personal insights on how moments of gratitude—like simply appreciating the air we breathe—can shift our entire perspective, and why nurturing positive mental and spiritual habits is crucial for achieving a harmonious life. Discover how these internal practices can lead to external success, enabling us to handle adversities with grace and resilience.
Our candid conversation explores the often misunderstood relationship between financial wealth and genuine contentment. We discuss the emotional roller-coasters that can disrupt workplace productivity and highlight the transformative power of investing in memorable experiences rather than mere objects. Challenging the notion that money alone brings joy, we advocate for discovering and sharing your unique gifts with the world, which naturally brings financial rewards without letting your bank balance define who you are. Money should amplify your inherent qualities, not alter your identity.
In a heartfelt exchange, we underscore the importance of maintaining happiness and perspective, drawing wisdom from mentors and personal stories. From paying tribute to a father who prioritized happiness over material burdens to exploring how acts of gratitude and giving back enrich our lives, we delve into the spiritual aspects of fulfillment. We discuss how understanding the "Five Love Languages" and viewing money as a tool can strengthen relationships and personal growth. Join us as we explore how financial resources can facilitate meaningful interactions and align with our deeper spiritual purposes, ultimately leading to a life of true prosperity.
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First and foremost we want to be clear that what we are sharing with you are strategies and concepts that can be implemented by individuals who understand the logistics of how to approach such platforms as far as the literal, the mental and spiritual format needed to be successful with your aspirations what's up world?
Speaker 2:you're tuning into fbn and this is another episode of Finance Bros Network. I am the one half of finance, Anton Lefwich.
Speaker 4:And this is Michael DePoe, the other half we are coming to. You live with finance for everyday people and we are honored to be here and to be able to serve diverse communities as usual yes indeed.
Speaker 2:Hey man, happy holidays everybody. You know it's Christmas time. Everybody's spreading cheer. You know we want to try to bring some as FBN. You know every episode is close to our heart. I mean, you know, me and Mike, we do this definitely from our deep down, our soul, giving you guys something that's really special to us and hoping that you'll resonate with these things that we bring from our deep down our soul, giving you guys something that's really special to us and hoping you'll resonate with these things that we bring from our hearts. But this is definitely definitely an episode that will really really hit me hard. Specifically and I actually hit me so hard I'm calling Mike in the middle of my work week.
Speaker 2:Like Mike man we got to do this. I feel like. I feel like I wonder how you drive to the house like right in, so we can record it right there on the spot.
Speaker 4:You know, that's why. That's why the title is money, the key to your happiness?
Speaker 2:Yeah, is money the key to your happiness? We're asking the question, ladies and gentlemen, and Mike, you know why. You know why this is so. This really hits me hard right here. Because you know we're all every day, we wake up, go to work or go work our business or run our businesses. You know we come home, take care of our family, maybe spend a little me time, hopefully, and then go to bed, wake up, go and take the time to either, you know, think about what it is we want to do or be grateful for what's going on, like we're going to talk about here in a little bit, to the extent that we can just take a minute, 30 seconds, sometimes 15 seconds.
Speaker 2:The other day I was in the front room, I was doing my little morning routine, I was doing my pushups and I sat down. I sat down on my butt on the floor and I just closed my eyes and I was taking deep breaths like that and I was just like man, just thank you, thank you, god, for letting me breathe, just for having the ability to breathe. And it was just a few seconds, it was less, it was, it was well, it may be. It ended up being like two, three minutes, man. Do you know how much better my day was that day? There you go, bro, stopping and pausing for a second to just be in the moment, right, right. And you know, I've, I've had, I've had the conversations with people in the past when you know, and they've given me this advice. I've actually received that advice many times throughout my life, but in the, in the time, in the, in the season that I'm in in my life personally, right now, I do feel genuinely like I have this sense of calm, like, of course, there's adversity all day.
Speaker 1:There's always things going on.
Speaker 4:Always things coming at us and everything that we do, but for some reason I'm able to just take a minute take a second and you know it's funny that you're saying that, anton, because for our wealthians out there, and you know we're trying to find money, money. This is the whole point of this podcast and for season three, we we said we're going to focus on on more the uh, the, the mental and the spiritual part of things, just the things you just spoke about. Just just taking that time out, yeah, man, to to breathe, to reflect, you know that's that's part of that wealthiness, that's that's.
Speaker 4:That's that time out. Yeah, man To breathe, yeah To reflect. You know that's part of that Wealthy. It is that's part of that, you thinking it's not go, go, go. Let me see how I could try to make this money here to be happy. That's not how it works.
Speaker 2:Telling you, bro, that's what's going to bring it to you man.
Speaker 2:This is the mental and the spiritual behind the act of the literal of going out and doing it Right Setting, creating a space for ourselves so that when we finally do go out and we are putting our hands on something, the little intricate things that try to come at us throughout the day just roll off of our shoulder. You know what I'm saying? It's a, it's a muscle that we build, and a man is so subconscious. We really hope y'all are grabbing this, wealthians, because this is really deep stuff.
Speaker 2:And when we ask the question is money the key to your happiness or to our happiness? Exercised constantly, daily and becoming habitual, positive habits that we're actually building? And now we're doing it second, just, it's, it's secondhand nature and we're doing without thinking about it, right, man? But man, if the money don't just start coming, let me tell you, and you just sit back, you wonder like man, man, all of a sudden, it's just, things are clicking, things are happening. It like man, man, all of a sudden, it's just, things are clicking, things are happening, it's just, it's just like effortless. But it's these things that were built up underneath the covers, under the water, in the, in the times that no one is watching us, that we get to harness these skills and then watch it unfold in the world when we're about, when we're able to give our gift at its highest capacity. Right man told you I was going to go off on this bro man.
Speaker 1:Seriously, man, I feel this man Seriously.
Speaker 2:And I want to say this because I looked up the. You know we got to look up, we got to go to Webster, yep.
Speaker 1:Real quick Went to.
Speaker 2:Webster, google it, right, google it. And I went to the definition definition. I said definition of happy, just real, basic, right, right. And it said feeling of showing pleasure or contentment. That's simple. I said, well, that's simple, but I don't know what contentment means. Let me go look that up, okay right you know, because I want, I want to be.
Speaker 1:You know, we want to mic the poet man. Break it down to the simple right.
Speaker 2:So so I definition of contentment a state of happiness and satisfaction. So it kind of threw you right back, right, right. But but that satisfaction part, all right. Made some promises to myself that I talked to you about in private. Talked to the people closest to me about Right To lately made a couple of promises to myself.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And here it is, some days later and we were out and about just now and you have full support of me. We were sitting there ordering some food. It was real real simple yeah, right, and I, just, I, just I felt satisfaction.
Speaker 1:There you go.
Speaker 2:Because the promises that I had made to myself were being kept.
Speaker 4:That's the point.
Speaker 2:That is the highest form. I believe my and I've even read this, and Tony Robbins did this, this, he did this. I just thought that wasn't a survey. He did this, this, this Assessment, I guess, on the six human needs and he came up with a couple categories that we'll bring up here in a second. But anyways, at the highest form of self for me that I believe for that is working in my life right now Is the fact that you know, if you want to build self-confidence, keep the promises you make to yourself.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And also the quickest way to destroy our own confidence is break the promises that we make to ourselves. There you go. You know you said you was going to go work out tomorrow and gave up. Went to work and didn't do it, went to bed, felt bad about it, got up the next day. You know you ain't got to tell nobody, but you know, that's it. You know what I'm saying. So I had to look that up and what we got down here is actually really key too. You know money, basic needs first right.
Speaker 2:Money can bring happiness when it's used to meet your basic needs Food, shelter, healthcare, all right. Without those, happiness becomes hard to achieve because, let's, let's be honest, I mean, if you can't eat right, stress comes. If the family can't eat, stress comes especially. You know the weight that uh, that, uh, that uh, those men out here care you know, holding down the family, Right, right, right, right.
Speaker 2:So, um, and I, I want to break this up a little bit, mike, right, you know I I don't want to, I don't want to go too too in, too deep on it, uh, early. But you know, I wanted to kind of bring up that fact and mention that. That tony robbins assessment. If you guys want to go out there and look it up, do some googling. Like I said, we're not going to dig deep into you guys go. We want to give you fundamentals, you know, encourage you to go out and do your homework. So the six basic human needs was certainty, or IE, security, right. Variety, the need for things to change and have new things from time to time. All right. Significance or recognition want to be seen right, we all want to be recognized in some way. Right, love and connection All right.
Speaker 4:Of course some way right. Love and connection, all right.
Speaker 2:of course right, self-expanded of course that's you ain't gotta, you ain't gotta, you ain't gotta emphasize on that. You're right and in growth right whether that's personal or professional, and then contribution right right getting outside of ourselves to go out there and and meet the world. Right, all right.
Speaker 4:So yeah, so, so, and you know, you, you think about all these things is and, and you're like well, how is that related to money? It's related to money in the sense that, in order for you to, to, to do or to make what you're looking to make, because, think about it, if you're upset about something and you're doing a job, does the job come out.
Speaker 2:Well, that's true, no, no no, not as probably not as well as it could Right.
Speaker 4:If you're mad, sometime you're making, especially if you work in an office, if you're stressed out it. Let's take one of these if you don't have love and connection let's say you're having a problem with your spouse or with your significant other are you able to concentrate and make something happen, man?
Speaker 3:you understand, so think about that.
Speaker 4:So you know, and that's the whole point of of this conversation, yeah, for sure you know, you know you even have it, you know you even try to experience things.
Speaker 4:Like if you're, if you go do some research and you, you know you spend some money on on spend some money on experiences. Let's say you take a trip or you go have fun doing outgoing things, those things will last longer when you spend money doing those type of things, as opposed to being stressed about doing other things. That's that's not gonna give you that benefit back because you spent the money on something that's gonna, you know, last longer, or or it's gonna give you those those warm and fuzzy, the things that you love memories, yeah, things that you connect with.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know things that that makes that satisfy you.
Speaker 4:Yeah, those things you just with, yeah, you know, things that that makes that satisfy you, those things you just mentioned, yeah, you understand. So that's what we're talking about, that connection with money and your feelings, and that's what we mean about the happiness, and it's kind of hard to connect it but or hard to explain it, but that's where it comes from and that's why we were trying to do this podcast to show, uh, or this particular subject, to show how happiness and money connects.
Speaker 4:Yeah as opposed to what you or what people have a perception of money and how to use money or how to get money, and it may not be bringing you the joy that it's supposed to bring you in your life.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, because maybe the the going after it was with the wrong energy or with the wrong intent.
Speaker 2:You know, we say connecting money and happiness, the pursuit of just giving your gift at its highest form to the world, it will bring money mark our words right, hey right giving your gift at its highest form and being free, with it all right and being able to not to, to be able to put out, drown out distractions, the world gets real loud. But if you're just deep in your gift and you are focused on giving that to your best ability, the money, everything, and guess what, when it comes it, it won't define you right.
Speaker 4:The money will never be a part of that right. You know, that reminds me of something somebody said to me you know who you are. You'll always be that person, whether you have money or you don't have money bro say that again, man, who you are, you'll be that person, whether you have money or you don't have money. So if you're a kind person, you'll be a kind of person with more money. Yep, yep.
Speaker 1:But if you're an a-hole, you'll be a bigger a-hole with money.
Speaker 2:It heightens, it multiplies what's inside of us outside and it brings it out Right, those things that are going on inside. With a lot of money it'll, it'll bring those things out at a at a very heightened factor.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:And you know, man, I want to, I want to say this to you. I want to, I want to ask you this, bro, because you know you, you are one of my not only one of my best friends. You know, I have a. Really, we keep a small circle.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah but.
Speaker 2:I mean, you are also one of the most direct and very focused people that I know in my life and you do not let things that are outside of you get in side of you where it starts, yeah, where it starts to control you, and I talking about?
Speaker 2:I'm talking about people, places and things. Okay, doesn't matter what it is, whether it's drinking a beer or whatever you have one when you want to have one. It might be six months later maybe you have another, but it doesn't control you, right? You know what I'm saying and you know this real quick man I gotta I gotta throw this in, because we did this on our TV show and you know I just had to bring it back.
Speaker 1:I feel like we couldn't do the episode without it.
Speaker 3:All right, so you remember this, because I'm happy all alone, if you feel like you're moving.
Speaker 4:I'll be moving Because I'm happy all alone. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Oh, yeah, I feel like I'm happy.
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, all right really we can't do the show without bringing in the for real man you know,
Speaker 4:it's just how we talk about yeah, we're talking about happiness. Definitely, we gotta play the song, bro.
Speaker 2:It's a feel-good song and you just gotta put it out there. But I want to ask you this, mike, I mean seriously, man, just I want to just share with our people, man, share with our wealthyness, the world, man. How do you maintain that sense of calm, no matter how? I mean, yeah, things are, things are good, things bad, whatever. It's just not too high, not too low, mike's, just right here, right in the middle. You know, and I, a mentor, once told me, you know, don't get too high on the highs, don't get too low on the lows, because reality is somewhere in the middle. To me, you are the definition of that, bro. You know what?
Speaker 4:I mean, well, I have to tell you I had a great teacher. That's what's up. And God rest his soul my dad who just passed away.
Speaker 4:Man bro, my dad was the epitome of stressless. Nothing stressed this man and what I learned from him is what makes against it. He's like, okay, my dad was the type of person. He came from another country. He came into this country. He said one of the reasons why in a, you know, maybe this was, uh, god's way of helping him he never bought a house. And he said the reason why I never bought a house because I knew all the stuff that involved in maintaining a house in this country was going to not make my life happy. So I didn't buy a house. So I was okay renting where, having the landlord take care of all the problems. So he never bought a house. And you think about that. You're like, okay, that's kind of weird because we're Americans and that's the American dream We've been setting.
Speaker 4:Buy a house, right Buy a house, yeah, but not my dad. My dad kept it simple and I look at that. I mean I have a better understanding of buying a house, so it wasn't that much of a big deal for me, but for him it was. This is not going to make me happy, so whatever did not make my dad happy. He did not allow into his aura and I saw that he lived to be 100 years old because of that Triple digits.
Speaker 2:man, that's a blessing bro.
Speaker 4:So I've adapted that in my life. Yeah, I am not going to allow things to come into my life, and that's including, you know, if I have money to allow the money to dictate my happiness. Preach brother, say that I'd rather give it away, because if it's not, if it's going to make me unhappy, I'd rather not have it. Man and you know something.
Speaker 2:I'd rather not have it, man. And you know something. I see the love and the deposits, deposits. You know we talk about deposits and withdrawal. I see the deposits you make into your twin girls and you know, whenever I hear you talk about your father bro, I see I can relate that directly to the way I see you with them. Yeah, you know what I'm saying and the things that you give them, and I mean it could, it could be a, it could be a straight storm, blizzard of life going on, man. But you, you know, if it's got something to do with them, it's just hey, this is Cause.
Speaker 4:That's what makes me happy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, I see that.
Speaker 4:That's what makes me happy. I see that, bro, whatever they need, whatever's necessary for them, and real talk right now. An ex-girlfriend told me that he's like the three most important thing in your life is your three kids, and she sure is right. My son he's 27, and my uh, twin girls, 10 years old yeah most important things in my life. That's what I do, whatever I'm doing.
Speaker 2:Making enough money, getting more money to make sure they're okay man, brother, you know, I know that they're gonna grow up to be very proud extensions of you. Man, I want to say that that's, that's, that's real man. You know, I give you, I give you so much credit and respect for that, bro.
Speaker 4:And it's not easy to do, and I'll give one more advice about the happiness thing and this is maybe a little bit off on the money thing, but hey, this is all to appreciate.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we gotta do it.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we gotta talk about it and everybody who's in in the who's hearing this. The other thing you gotta do is look at yourself in the mirror. You gotta make yourself happy. Yeah, make yourself happy first, because guess what if you're not making yourself happy? Whatever you like, if I make any amount of money and we said this in another podcast I pay myself first 10%. If I make $100, I'm paying myself 10 bucks. I got to do something with it. How could I work so hard to make $100 and not give myself anything?
Speaker 2:That's ludicrous that's man and the way you put that. You know, it seemed like it should be simple, right so, wealthians, you're out there, take care of you.
Speaker 4:First, make you make yourself happy. First, you're number one. Make you happy and then let that energy spill out to everyone else, especially to the ones you love.
Speaker 2:There you go man In the form of your gift, because everybody got a gift to give. So that's my advice hey, and look we completely off. We're not on script, right?
Speaker 4:now we are off script, bro, we get back on script.
Speaker 3:No, get back on. No, no, no, no. I love this, though, man.
Speaker 2:I love this I I, this is real, this is from the heart, I really, I always know when I'm listening to somebody, when they're just straight coming from the soul, man, right and I, nothing makes me listen and pay attention more than when I feel that, right, you know, I mean, people ain't gotta see us, they ain't gotta be looking you in the eye to feel you, bro, and to feel your spirit.
Speaker 2:Man, I'm glad you brought that up, by the way, because I want to mention this about avoiding comparison traps. Right, all right, all right, constantly comparing your financial situation, all your marriage, or just children, for that matter, to others, others, which can drain your happiness? Right, focus on your own journey and progress. Right, because we're all on our, yeah, we're, we may be, you know, in life, we, we connect to people and we may choose people that we're going to. You know what it was going to business with, like you know, me and mike and I, you know, we naturally, genuinely found ourselves in a business relationship and we're, we're, thriving in it. You know what I mean. It was not forced, it was not forced.
Speaker 2:It just literally happened on its own. All right, it was organic. Right, he's like man we go just sit here talking about this you know, every day we might as well start writing some stuff down, right? You know, one thing led to another and you know genuinely, here we are, but you know you are on.
Speaker 2:We are all on our path in life and we are going through seasons right and we are not to compare chapter 2 to chapter 25, right in someone else's life. So and that, and that's like mike, you always talk about gratitude man right and that's being grateful in that moment.
Speaker 2:Take a minute, take a second, be grateful for how far we've come and the journey that is ahead. Right, you know, because we're living, we are living this life. You know, I'm saying, if you, if you going through, some congratulations, because, guess what, you going through, you not stuck in, right, right, so you, just, you just said, you just spoke the words of victory, right there.
Speaker 3:What's going on?
Speaker 2:man, I'm going through some congratulations. You just spoke victory, right? You didn't just say what's going on, man, oh, I'm stuck in something, right? I'm saying because that could have been your mindset. Most times we say we're going through something, but in our head we're stuck in it, right? So let's believe the words that we're saying when we say something is negative, is I'm going through something and believe that that's a positive. I'm going through, I'm not going to be here forever and there's going to be a way. There's going to be a solution will present itself if I just stay positive and believe Right positive and believe Right.
Speaker 4:And mentally, you have to adapt a growth mindset. Instead of stressing over what you don't have, think about what you can achieve. Yes, you know, build financial goals, give you, give, you know, give yourself a sense of purpose and control, because, because, like you were saying, you know, just, you don't want to be stuck or something. You, you want to be able to grow out of it mentally and and that's the and that's gonna bring you that happiness I love it brother, I love it man, and look going back to others all right, so excuse me yeah give, give back to others yeah, I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Well, it is true. Going back to others, yes, give back to others, right right.
Speaker 2:Helping someone in need, whether through donations, gifts or or your time, yes, creates a deep sense of fulfillment yes, all right and that's a spiritual, that's, oh, that's definitely the spiritual right.
Speaker 4:That's a spiritual content.
Speaker 2:Right here we hitting the spiritual when it comes to money right now I'm telling you, bro, and look man, I, I see it in my mom's eyes every time I I'm I am moving a lot and I do work a lot. I know I put a lot into my craft and things I'm doing day to day, but you know it does hit me at night. Gotta winch, gotta go check on moms, and if I sit down there for a few minutes I she values that time so much, whether it's five minutes, ten minutes, whatever, man, you know, I'm reminding myself right now to make sure I'm intentional about that?
Speaker 2:right you know, I'm saying thank you, god for reminding me that, because, just saying it right now, I feel it, bro, right just sitting there, it don't matter if you're not saying a word and you're just listening to her talk. Bro, you just went and visited your mom yeah, I just did bro, man, just real quick, I I hey hey, man, if we go, we go okay because, we're giving it. We're giving it to him this holiday season.
Speaker 2:Right, there you go, we're spreading cheer the fbn way, yeah, and it's, and it's real. So when you walked in the door when your mom's bro, you didn't tell nobody was coming. You didn't tell nobody he was coming.
Speaker 4:I didn't tell anybody I was coming, okay, and nobody was coming. My mom has a dementia. She's pretty much not mobilized, but she's been getting better. I heard she's been getting better and then I went to see her a couple of days ago and then I walked through the door and everybody's looking at me like what, like they saw a ghost. I'm like, okay, it's only. I know I didn't tell you guys, I was coming. But come on, now it's I. This is me, mike and then no, they said no.
Speaker 4:No, it's not that. Mom was just saying where's mike? Where's mike? I want to talk to mike. Wow bro, she sensed that I was coming. That made me happy.
Speaker 2:I bet he did. I believe it ain't nothing like a mother's love for her son bro.
Speaker 4:It's nothing, and you know that that goes back to what you were saying giving back. You know that. You know just being able to go. What you gave to her in that moment, bro, that was a gift, you know. And then we, she, yeah, and then we, she, yeah. She didn't say much, but I sat there with her for an hour, just just my present. Yeah, she spoke about some things. I had no no idea what she was talking about don't matter, don't matter but my presence.
Speaker 4:That was there, yeah, yeah, she wanted to speak to me and I flew from california, new york, 3 000 miles. You can't go no further without jumping in the water, and she's and then she just sensed that I was coming.
Speaker 4:Man, that's deep and and it was crazy, but you know it's. You know giving back that that's where your happiness is going to come from and being afford to be able, using money to do that. You know, yeah, it took money for me to fly to get there and I had to save that money to fly to get there to do that.
Speaker 2:You know that's that contribution piece too from the from the tony robbins study. I don't know if he, we don't know if he did it first or right first or whatever, but it was a study that was done and you know we happen to come across it, but that's definitely that contribution piece right right, right, so they did for you. I'm sure it was even exactly so.
Speaker 4:You know, wealthians out there try not to be too materialistic, you know, try to find these different things that's gonna make you happy. Don't go out and buy gadgets and stuff like that that you think it's gonna make you happy because you're gonna buy. Just like kids, they ask for toys, you, you go out, they cry for it, you buy for them. Guess what? Five minutes later, where's that toy right in that corner.
Speaker 2:Think about that they playing with the box right, they play with the box.
Speaker 4:That's the same believe it or not, that's the same thing with us you want that purse or you want that jacket or you want that stuff, that's not gonna give you happiness. That's not gonna give you happiness. You know. Give back to your family, give back to you, to you, your religion, if that's what you know, those things can pay back ten times full. That's what's up to the people you love. Those are gonna pay you back ten times full. Yeah, yeah, that that goes.
Speaker 2:What you're saying with the, you know detaching from materialism too, bro, yes, you know that's deep man. So, saying with the, you know detaching from materialism too, bro, yes, you know that's deep man, so I love that, you know. True, well, comes from relationships, community purpose, all right. So man are we go.
Speaker 1:We got to get into the breakdown why because I know we're gonna keep me here all night. Hey look real quick.
Speaker 2:Before y'all, before we get into this breakdown, y'all go research something else called the five love languages. Yes, I'm getting cheesy. It's who I?
Speaker 2:am, I'm, you know I'm made of love, so hey, there it is for y'all. So you know just something. It's actually a book the five love languages like too. So there's there's receiving gifts or gift giving. That's one of the love language. Another one is quality time. Obviously we talked about that uh, words of affirmation. This is, this is, yeah, definitely, I, I know, I'm definitely uh, words of affirmation. And the next one here acts of service you know, doing things through showing love, through doing things.
Speaker 2:It could be. This could be a laundry, this could be doing a dishes, cleaning the house for your, for your significant other or whatever. Right, right.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Um words of affirmation is obviously you know, uh, I value you, I respect you.
Speaker 2:Thank you for you know what you've, what you've, what you've done for me in my life, Things like that Saying build we're using words to build people up Right and then, of course, physical touch you know some people from a hug, or, or, or, or just holding a holding hands or something like that. These are ways that, um, you know, these are different love languages that we all interact and use from time to time to communicate our affection to people, our feelings to people. So, you know, this is something that we thought, or I mean, it just really hit my heart, Mike, that we should put that out there to give to our wealthians, Because, again, bringing back full circle these things that go on inside will eventually allow us to give our gift at its highest level, will eventually allow us to give our gift at its highest level, and that will translate into all of the means that you will ever want to obtain in this world as a wealthy.
Speaker 4:And guess what? Most of these things are free. You didn't need money for that.
Speaker 2:Those- you ain't got to get no prescription you ain't got to buy the book.
Speaker 1:Are you saying those things are?
Speaker 3:free all free bro how about that, man?
Speaker 2:how about that? Oh man, I love it. Man, let's get into the breakdown.
Speaker 4:Let's get into the breakdown okay the literal the literal is emulating financial stress eliminating oh sorry, sorry, my bad sorry.
Speaker 4:Sorry. Eliminating financial stress, being debt-free or having emergency fund can bring peace of mind which directly impacts your happiness. That's real. So that's the literal. You know, when we do the breakdown, we always tell you what's the literal, mental and spiritual. So, in this episode, debt free. So and and debt free is in in our society, you know, it's I, I. I don't want to say it's a hundred percent, because you can still have a mortgage, you can still have car payments. I would say debt free in this sense of the word is having enough savings. God forbid something happens. You know you have at least three months they say three to six months of savings for your regular bills and then after that you're not. You're not having big credit card bills and all those other things to put you in a situation where you're more happy when you don't have all these crazy bills. You have savings enough and that's the literal sense of the money making you happy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's that security factor, I believe, bro, and I would even argue that that equates to giving more to something than you take from it, right, whether that's a relationship, a job that maybe can go a little, that can border on spiritual, but still literally giving more to something than you take from that, right, right, and guess what? It works best if everybody does it there. You go. All right, let's hit him with the mental Yep.
Speaker 4:Practice financial gratitude or appreciation. I appreciate you, gratitude isn't just for the big things. Be thankful for the small financial wins, like savings I just said that On groceries, or hitting a budget goal. See, that goes hand in hand with the literal. That's for real. I like savings, just savings on everything, or having a budget will give you that money happiness.
Speaker 2:Bro, I love that. Hey look man, the Chiefs was playing the game the other day and they barely won by a couple points. You know what Patrick Mahomes said after the game. What did he say? Porter's like how you feel about just barely something. Like something today said about how you feel about just barely winning. A win is a win Pretty much. He said a win. He said what's the score? Say.
Speaker 4:Hey, that W it doesn't say 12 wins kinda, it says 12 wins. The Chief had 10 wins this year and they had four, kinda wins.
Speaker 2:No, it's 14 wins there you go.
Speaker 4:A win is a win, bro, that's it All right.
Speaker 2:So loving that and, of course, the spiritual man. You already know we got to do it. So use money as a tool, not a goal. So use money as a tool, not a goal. Money is a means to an end, not the end itself. All right, when you use it to support your passions and enrich your life, it aligns with your deeper spiritual purpose.
Speaker 1:Wow, that's a lot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, man, that's deep brother. They might have to rewind that a couple of times brother, I'm not going to say it again. They can rewind it a couple of times, but love, love, love that, Because money is a tool brother.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean. That's all it is.
Speaker 2:And, like we said earlier, it's going to emphasize what's going on inside of us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, who you are.
Speaker 2:And magnify who we are on the outside.
Speaker 3:All right.
Speaker 2:We just have more of it to work with, because now this, this money, this thing, this tool is now giving us access.
Speaker 4:All right.
Speaker 2:So we support our passions and literally again I'm going to say it again and I said it 15 times around this episode brother, allow us to operate in a way that allows us to give our gift at its highest, at its highest form, to the world and bring back more and more and more abundance that we can then circulate back into the world. And now there's this, there's this meaningful cycle that's going on and it's endless.
Speaker 4:It's infinite, forever.
Speaker 2:And the t-shirt is. I love this t-shirt.
Speaker 4:Here we go, I'll give him the t-shirt True. Love this t-shirt, bro. Here we go, I'll give him the t-shirt true happiness isn't for sale, but it's definitely in your budget give me 20 of them.
Speaker 3:Man give me put 20 of them in the box for me right now and ship them, man I gotta get them out for christmas.
Speaker 4:We gotta put that on the t-shirt, for sure for sure, I really like that so you know we're talking about happiness. Make sure it's in your budget, man, make sure make sure it's in your budget that's another t-shirt there you go.
Speaker 2:I flipped it on him I love it man, hey you guys, we love y'all, we love the world. Our wealthiest, mike Christmas, is coming up.
Speaker 4:Christmas. Merry Christmas, wealthians. Merry Christmas to all our wealthians out there. I appreciate you. As usual, we want everybody hopefully, everyone gets something. We don't expect you to get everything that you're looking for and, yes, it is a Kool-Aid holiday, but you know what that was our last episode of the year.
Speaker 1:We get it, but you know what?
Speaker 4:However, you celebrate this holiday, whether you celebrate Hanukkah or Christmas, it's a form of happiness, right. It's a form of getting together. Society has built it that way and it's hard for some people.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:And whatever it is like, whatever little that you have. You know we spoke about that in the episode. Yeah, we have appreciation for it. Right, there you go. If you're able to get whatever you can get, even if it's a card that says Merry Christmas, appreciate it, yeah for sure. Have gratitude that you were able, because some people are not even getting a card, brother, we know that's right. So make sure whatever you get for Christmas yes, we know it's a societal thing, but if it's a religious, you focus on the religious. You know the birth of Jesus Christ with Christmas, that's the way you celebrate it Then go ahead and do that.
Speaker 2:Celebrate that way. Do what makes it special for you.
Speaker 4:Yeah make sure because that's what's going to make you happy and we at Finance Bros Network want to make sure our wealthians out there they're celebrating their holiday the best way. And definitely, with the new year coming up, you know you guys, it's going to be a new day, this is the best time and we're going to preach it. We're going to be here, we're going to come to you. New year, new time. We have fun because we're going to come to you for sure. New year, new time. We we have fine because we are financial. We talk about financial.
Speaker 4:our new year is technically january, uh, or february 1st january 31st or whatever, because that's the fiscal new year but, for, but, uh, for everybody else who's celebrating the new year, happy new year, uh, because we're probably going to be out for the next couple of weeks.
Speaker 2:We're taking a couple of weeks off family. So we're, going to be with our families. We hope we're going to be with yours. And look, if doing absolutely nothing is what makes you happy over the next couple of weeks. We encourage you to do that Do it 100%, because it's got to start with you.
Speaker 4:It's got to start with us, yeah, because it's got to start with you. It's got to start with us, yeah, but we wanted to make this episode so you guys to know that this is what we want to encourage. We want to encourage you, yeah, we talk about money and we want to make sure you equate finance money with a level of happiness.
Speaker 4:Absolutely. And if you didn't get anything from this episode, that's what we want. We want to bring you that joy, we want to bring you that mindset. However, you get that happiness into your life and whatever little you have, see, if you can balance it out, for you to get that happiness in your life. Amen, brother.
Speaker 2:I think that's a good way to wrap it up there you go. Hey y'all weall. We gonna miss y'all over the next couple of weeks. I know we've been teasing and we know we've been teasing y'all about this announcement and it's getting closer.
Speaker 2:We promise you it's getting closer. We're about to make it. The. The t's are getting crossed, the i's are getting dotted, literally, literally. All right, we gonna make sure it's right for y'all. So don't forget to check us out on all your social media podcast platforms Apple Podcasts, iheartradio, spotify, obviously at our home on HHN TV. And as usual, mike, one more time I appreciate you. You already know y'all Merry Christmas. We'll see you at the bank. Happy New Year, peace y'all.
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