155. MONDAY MINDSET: Your emotions are revealing your standards

Your strong emotions are actually powerful data about your standards—and they're telling you exactly what needs to change.

If you feel things deeply, this episode is for you. I shares why strong emotions (good and bad) are a gift, not a curse, and how to transform them into actionable standards that upgrade your business, relationships, and life. Using real stories from dating to client payments, discover how to turn emotional signals into productive strategies instead of staying stuck in the same patterns.

Key Topics Covered:

• How strong emotions reveal your hidden standards
• Why people-pleasers and highly sensitive people actually have an advantage
• Using emotions as data instead of drama
• The dating story that changed everything
• Setting the standard for payment terms and reliability
• Why "sitting with your feelings" isn't enough without action
• Turning negative emotions into strategic business moves
• Recognising when something is below your standard

TIMESTAMPS

0:00:00 - Do you feel things deeply? 
0:00:34 - Why strong emotions are actually a gift, not a curse 
0:01:15 - Standards are the foundation of everything 
0:01:50 - Most people don't know what their standards actually are 
0:02:35 - The dating story: First date vs second date chaos 
0:03:45 - Feeling anxious about unreliable plans 
0:04:15 - What standard was being revealed? 
0:04:45 - Setting the 24-hour notice boundary 
0:05:30 - How to recognise standards from strong emotion 
0:06:10 - The payment example: Getting paid on your terms 
0:07:00 - Why sitting with feelings isn't enough without action

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Transcript

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Hot stuff. Are you someone that feels really strong emotions? You feel sad? You feel angry. You feel bored. You feel what? Like happy, whatever, right? You feel excited. Are you someone that just feels things so fucking deeply if that's you? Sometimes it can feel like a, it feels, it feels like a curse, doesn't it? It's like, why the fuck do I have to be so affected by things? Good. It is good. You are affected. I'm gonna tell you why. You'll realize your standards that you have in business life, love with your health, whatever, you'll realize your standards through strong emotions. If you've listened to this podcast, you've got my $35 offer. If you don't, what are you doing? Go buy it. You'll know that the standards work that I do, standards really is the foundation of everything that we do in business. You wanna change, raise your standards if you wanna make more money standards work, you want to change how you look, standards work, whatever you want, it all comes back to your standards. Now, for some people, they don't know what their standards are. If I was like, what are your standards in business? You may kind of say some things, but you are probably just like pinning the tail on their donkey. You're just picking something. You're like, oh, this kind of feels good. Or maybe you're saying it because, no, it's what you think that you should be doing. You're not actually doing it. When something happens and you feel a particular way about it, it is highlighting to you a standard that you should have or a standard that you need to set. I've got a story for you now as we know. Love A Date. That's why this podcast is called The Business Fondle. I was a sex and dating writer. Yes, I was pretty sure. Most of those articles have been scrubbed from the fucking internet, thank God. But anyway, let's circle back. I love a date, have dated a lot and it's really, it's, I, I feel very, like, I don't wanna say lucky. I generally have really good dates and I think I have good dates because I have a really high standard of what I will accept. And anyone that is red Flaggy, I just won't go there. Now, sometimes something will still happen. Something will happen that is well below my standard, and it actually happened the other day. So I went on a date with this really sexy guy. I'm not gonna give too many details because who knows if these men listened to the podcast, but he was attractive. He was well traveled, attractive, smart was into it. I was like, good enough for a first date. Tick qualified, went on the first date, fantastic first date. Locked in a second date, but was the second date locked in? The second date was not locked in. There was a a time, not even a time, there was a day in my calendar where I knew that I would be seeing the sexy man, and guess what happened? I had to follow him up twice. I was like, what is happening? You can't do a Virgo like this. You can't do someone that's also a bit anxious like this. And it didn't end up happening. It happened about three hours before we, he proposed for us to meet. He was like, let's go here. And I found myself in my home feeling stressed. I have not, I cannot remember the last time that I have felt highly anxious in a, in dating. And I felt my, my, my heart rate was racing and I was getting really stressed and I was feeling really emotional. And when this happened, it made me realize, oh. Oh, okay. You are feeling this way because of this. Now I feel sometimes when things like this happen, people will be like, men a shit. It, it's it. It goes into this really like, let's say unproductive. Okay? It actually doesn't help anyone including yourself. If you are like men, a shit that unreliable, what actually will help you is to realize. Why you are feeling the way that you are feeling and what we can do moving forward. So I sat with this and I was like, awesome. What standard is being revealed to you right now? And the standard was, I need plans locked in. I need plans locked in so I know what I'm doing, so I can organize my day, so I can organize my hair and my outfit and my shoes. I like to dress where I'm going, believe it or not, not always in heels. I do own flats. And also getting around as someone that doesn't drive, I need to know. And I was like, awesome. So what could the stand be? I need to know the day before. I need 24 hours notice. I'm not gonna go out with you otherwise. It is so interesting, the shift that I felt within myself and my anxiety and how I could have gone down this like, I'm never gonna meet anyone. Fuck that. Right? We're not doing that. What we are doing is we're looking at this in a more productive way. And I looked at this and I was like, awesome. You've now recognized a standard that you have. So I want you to look back to a couple of situations that you had last year in your business, maybe even in your personal life where you had a lot of strong emotion present. Maybe you felt really good about something awesome. You can make that a standard. I allow good things to happen in my life every single day. Or maybe something really bad happened. Maybe someone didn't pay you and your brain was like creating this drama story of how dare they do this to me? Pause. Not how dare they do this to you? How dare you do this to you? What's your standard? Well, my standard is I need to get paid for the work a week before it happens. Awesome. How cool is that? Do you feel better if that had happened? Yeah, you'd feel amazing. Guess what we get to do? We get to put that standard in action. You now get to go and create a strategy around that. And again, this is something that that $35 offer will a hundred percent teach you, but. I, I say this because a lot of the time we feel that, we feel all these strong emotions and people will tell us to sit with our emotions and it's like, sure, it is one thing to keep sitting with our emotions and feel our feelings, but the problem is if we don't actually have a productive strategy moving forward, you are just gonna keep sitting with your feelings. Because you're not actually putting anything into change, so of course you're gonna keep having the same shit happen, and we don't want that to happen. So anytime you have strong emotion, good or bad, that is a standard that you have, we get to do something with it. And I say this because now everything that happens in business, it becomes data. It becomes something that we get to use in a really productive way. So I'm sorry. And the reason I'm sorry is because I feel that when we have these conversations, something inevitably will happen. Someone is gonna push a. Something is gonna happen. You are gonna feel a particular way. You are gonna feel some kind of negative emotion. And now it's a good thing because guess what we get to do? We get to practice this. There's no point learning all this incredible advice if I don't say so myself if we don't do anything with it. So hot stuff, go and do something with it. When you feel something, it's telling you something. And then what we get to do is set a standard. Is this meeting your standard? Is this below your standard? And what the fuck are you gonna do about it? Oh, I love this. I love you. I love you more than I actually am so into this backdrop. Look at that sexy city, obsessed love, blue sky, sunshine. I've put my sunglasses on. I probably like, I, I'm batch recording today and like, to be honest, everything I wear is basically like a variation on Athene. There is probably gonna be black, there's probably gonna be animal print and there will be a sun glass. Actually, there's always the same sunglasses. And you know, I've got some kind of like sexy shoe on today. They're flats. I'm usually in heels. Uh, but I just, I love, I love this setup. We're back to, we're back to recording on the weekend and it feels good. It feels fabulous. I love you more than that. I love you more than this shop near work called Scoop. And they have these like macadamian arts. Oh my God, I'm salivating. They're called Moon Maccas I think. And they are caramelized macadamias. And then they are covered in milk chocolate. And then on the outside of that, it's like speckled white and milk chocolate. They are, they are thick, they are big boys. Like some of them are si the size of like a golf ball. And you bet I shoved that whole fucking thing in my mouth. Just had a flashback. They're really good. I love you more than that. Obsessed. Obsessed as well. Actually no, I love you more than, but I am obsessed with. I kind of like rearranged my coffee tables. So I love a book, love a coffee table book. I have them out on my coffee table. Speaking of which, maybe I'll go and buy a book. Super random, but how fun is having adult money? Anyway, I rearranged my coffee table books and I've got this book by Russell James' photographer and I was opening and I'm like, what vibe do I want? And I opened it to this page with Cindy Crawford and she's in this. Animal print number and this power pose. I'm like, fuck yes. And I, I arranged everything and with the color of my sofa and the carpet and my coffee table and that book, and I've got this sexy little tray and a few cute things. I look at that this little scene that I have created. And it makes me so happy. It inspires me to show up and make more money. And remember that life isn't too bad because look how, look how beautiful this little corner is. How can I be sad when I just have all this beauty present? Oh, I love this. I love you. Hot stuff. We are on a batch. Recording roll. Guess what? Second. Second episode. Second episode. I, I love this. I love you. Let's tick this off. Let's tick this off together. I don't know if you can hear A SMR. Can you hear this? Did you hear that? Did you hear that again? Yeah. Okay. Maybe I'll edit that out. Probably not. Okay. I love you.

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