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The Unseen Joys of Inner Transformation

• Daniel & Alicia

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When Alicia and I embarked on the profound journey of personal growth this year, we never anticipated how a simple change in perspective could redefine the very essence of success. As we peel back the layers of our own experiences with themes like 'connection' and 'overflow', we uncover the unexpected joys that come from forging deeper relationships and tuning into our inner selves. Through heartfelt conversations, we share with you the transformative shifts that have steered us away from the relentless pursuit of financial gain, toward a path filled with rich experiences and genuine human connections.

This episode isn't just about setting intentions; it's a deep dive into the soul. We unravel the intricate dance between spiritual alignment and the practicalities of everyday life, highlighting the role of intuition as our guide through life's myriad decisions. From uprooting limiting beliefs to embracing the power of self-inquiry, Alicia and I invite you on a reflective journey. If you're standing at the crossroads of personal transformation, ready to take that leap, let our stories and strategies illuminate your path towards a more purposeful and interconnected life.

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Speaker 1:

One, two, three, four. Welcome to Synergy, the podcast where we uncover the secrets to successful relationships, effective leadership and transformative parenting. I'm your host, Alicia.

Speaker 2:

And I'm Dan, and we'll deep dive into relationships, friendships and, most importantly, the relationship we have with ourselves. Together, we'll explore different strategies, techniques and approaches that can help you achieve synergy in every aspect of your life.

Speaker 1:

Stay curious, keep learning and embrace the power of synergy. Welcome back to the PodStar 2024. 2024. Edition. Money honey, no, we are talking today about. We did send an email out to our list about intention and the word and the urge and setting up your year. And, yeah, what's your? So at the beginning of every year, daniel and I do a theme like a word for ourselves. So what's yours, daniel?

Speaker 2:

So mine's connection.

Speaker 1:

Okay, mine's overflow. Oh well, I don't so. Do you want to explain how you kind of got to that?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I'm going to explain how I got to connection. So 2023 for me was heavily around money, wealth, finance. I got to the end of the year and I tend to do this after having a theme and I will say throughout the year, even though you've got this theme, that at the start it varies, top of mind in your very is, very is. You know your actions and things are congruent with what the theme is and as the year progresses, sometimes it fades and then it comes back. So for me, 2023 was about money. I spent a lot of time focusing on it, leveraging it, how to get more and things like that.

Speaker 2:

Got to the end of year and debriefed it and I questioned my happiness. I was like, okay, I focused on this, done not too bad, considering, like, the circumstances of 2023. For those in business, some probably found it a tremendous year, but I would say that most probably fair. Well, what I heard in the business community is quite challenging and I would agree with that. So, focusing on money in that time, I think it actually was really served me in terms of keep going and having the grit and determination to move forward. But, yeah, at the debrief at the end I was like, wow, I really didn't do a lot this year in terms of, you know, connecting with friends, going on holidays with family, things like that, and I was like I got to the end. I was like I just don't feel super happy.

Speaker 2:

And it was like it's not the answer. So I came into 2024 and I'm like it's not, like I've totally forgotten about money. I think I'm wired in a way that you know, being in business and dad being an accountant, I always, you know, had education around finances and money and, you know, have to obviously be aware of that stuff owning a business. So it's there, but I was like it's just not going to be the focus for 2024. For me, it's connection.

Speaker 1:

And really, which is what?

Speaker 2:

money gives you, yes, and it's the connectedness to so many things. And this is what I'm uncovering about you know so early, I guess 31 days into this journey, it's like how many trips have we Exactly Like?

Speaker 2:

holidays, like there's been a straight A that's just passed. Like I created an event for family and friends to come around and have, you know, share some food together and some drinks and really connect. And it was such a fun time. And, you know, I got to the end of that day and I was like fuck, that was so good and like even the people saying off thanks for organizing that.

Speaker 2:

It's like I think at times we get so busy in life we forget to, you know, do the things that actually light us up and make us happy.

Speaker 2:

I just want to say I saw a post a long time ago with Dan Bazarian and he said the funny thing about becoming wealthy is you go off and you might buy all these things and acquire all these things, but eventually you will land at a place where you can have all the things and you've got them, and then you end up doing the things that don't cost money, hanging out with mates and stuff like that, and I really, you know, I've always been really good at extracting lessons from other people and applying them to my own life. So I'm like, well, if that's the roadmap, I'm just gonna start doing the things anyway. And it's very fulfilling and I'm finding, even going on a walk for myself on like exploring the self-connection I'm. You know we've spoken about money and what it gives us in terms of experience, lifestyle, coffee. You know so many. You know just the way that I look at things. Through focusing on this, I think connectedness is gonna be a really interesting journey for me this year.

Speaker 1:

And we might so call back at the end of the year and see how we went with our themes for the year how connected we are.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so why Do you wanna know why? Why is yours Overflow, overflow?

Speaker 1:

Because I it's very similar for last year. I was like we didn't do a lot of things together. We didn't do well in saying that, like we didn't do a lot of, we probably did more the most, but like for what we the life that we wanna live, we didn't do a lot of connecting things right. And overflow for me is like an abundance of my like. I love my life and I think I like I love everything in it and I'm so grateful for where I am Because, honestly, like this is what I've envisioned the last 10 years on my vision board. It's like I'm living the life that I always dreamed and I'm like, okay, cool.

Speaker 1:

So now, what does overflow look like? So what is an abundance and an overflow of all these things look like in the sense of connection, in the sense of family, in the sense of money, in the sense of business, in the sense of everything? Like what does overflow look like for me this year? And overflow just makes me feel good. You know, and that's what I'm all connected with is like I was going through words and I'm like how does this feel to me? Like I think I can't remember what the other one was. I had like three words and I'm like no, not really Don't really feel those. And then when I got to overflow I was like yes, like I'm ready for overflow.

Speaker 2:

And that just feels good to me. It just feels good to me. And just on the feeling side of things, I find that you know, since last year, doing that psychedelic work, getting more in touch with my emotions and feelings, and you know, doing something and then going in my body. Does this actually feel right? Is this what I want to do? Or is this an external factor that I'm stressing over in my head for no reason?

Speaker 2:

but my body actually feels okay with this and I find the more that I've lent in. Yeah felt my way through that Life is so much less stressful.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I want to say most of you might not know this, but I'm into like psychic readings and all that sort of shit.

Speaker 2:

I've got a button for that. Here we go, there it is.

Speaker 1:

I'm into that and there you know, I had one last year at the end of the year and now I've lost my train of thought because you did that fucking butter.

Speaker 2:

Sorry, okay, you're into psychics and you had a reading and you're very spiritual.

Speaker 1:

No, I've lost it.

Speaker 2:

Anyway it was going to be good. It was going to be good.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, anyway, it'll come back to me. Keep continue.

Speaker 2:

Continue. I'll just pick up my squirrel moment, please.

Speaker 1:

No. So what was I saying about that? So, basically, oh, that's right. So she said to me that this business as one, I'm not going to do anything that doesn't feel 100% right. And for those of you who don't listen to your intuition, that's what it is, is the feeling of something. So when you feel like this is the right thing, or this is the right place, or this is the right person to be spending your time with, that's what your intuition is, because I think we can get really lost in. Okay, well, what's my intuition and what's my thoughts? And the intuition for me is the feeling.

Speaker 2:

So when you think about the theme for the year, so overflow, and then you link that to your intuition. How does that guide your journey?

Speaker 1:

The how's not the, that's not my problem.

Speaker 2:

Do you know what and this is something Lesha and I butt heads on a lot because let's go there, Because I reckon this happens in a lot of couples Like I am classed myself as someone that's spiritual. You know I believe in manifestation. I do a lot of manifesting practices. I feel connected spiritually. I do believe that I I get what I ask for when I'm not attached to the outcome. Being really clear on that, lately Everything shows up that you're not attached for, whereas when there's attachment there and you're trying to manifest it, it's going to run.

Speaker 1:

So that's a sign of that. Yeah, repelling the energy of it.

Speaker 2:

However, saying that I'm very logical, like it's got to make sense, and I frequently talk about how, how are we going to do this, what's the process, what's the order and sequence and how do we get from where we are to where we want to be? And Alicia's response is that doesn't matter.

Speaker 1:

No, okay, can I expand on it? Because it doesn't not matter, it's you don't actually know. If you know the end, this is my thoughts on it. When you know the end outcome, the how, okay, let's say, for example, we are here, where we are now, right, we want to be here whatever and this can apply to every area of your life you want to be here. You're not actually the person and you don't have the skills and knowledge and experience to be here yet. Otherwise you would be here, right?

Speaker 2:

Correct. I'm not agreeing or disagreeing. I'm listening.

Speaker 1:

Okay. So anyway, whoever's listening agree with me. I'm kidding. So my thing is is I don't actually know how, otherwise I would have done it already. Right, so I'm going to use my intuition and I'm going to ask the questions along the way and the things will come to me. The how will come to me, but the how right now, if I was to put a strategy in place of the how, I don't know if that's what's going to happen, because I don't actually know that that's going to get me to the outcome, because there's so many things that aren't. It's not just the strategy. Like you can have the best strategy, but if you've got sh** limiting beliefs that are holding you back from things that you're not working on, if you've like. It's just such a whole holistic view. For me, it's not just about the strategy. Does this make sense?

Speaker 2:

It makes sense. Yeah, I think there might be a fair few people listening that disagree, though, probably.

Speaker 1:

They're on my side of the fence Probably Because I believe it's not really about taking sides, it's about whatever feels right to you, right.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, no, yes. What I want to say about it is because I've seen it play out in both ways and I think, bringing it back to feeling, when there is a, I guess, a tactical or strategic path towards an outcome, you're somewhat causing an effect on it Because you're trying to force it essentially, which, from a feeling perspective, generally will bring stress, pressure, and for the people that are of the hustler community, this is how they operate, right? Yeah, keep trying to force the outcome until it comes.

Speaker 1:

It's very masculine.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I agree with that. However, what I'm hearing from you is it's more of like and there's a book about this power versus force. Yours appears to be more on the power side. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Move on to the next. The how will be discovered on the journey.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, we're going to do the things though. Yeah, but it's not one road.

Speaker 2:

There might be multiple different things, yes, correct. For you, the how is more of a reflection. Yes, it's after the experience. Yeah, for me it's before, and I think this would happen so much in couples, when you're both actually trying to achieve the same outcome, but the perception, or where you're standing or how you're looking at the perceived problem is through a totally different lens. You want success for the business. I want success for the business, yeah the purpose is still the same.

Speaker 1:

We can agree on that. The how will argue for days and debate for days about, but in saying that it's not the how, like we know the model right, yes, so like the outcome and this is the same, you know this played out through COVID Like, over and over and over, like our purpose was the same. Everyone's purpose was health, to stay healthy. Right, how are you going to get?

Speaker 2:

there Are we going here.

Speaker 1:

We're going there. How are you going to get there? There's not just one way to get there right and, depending on our, you know and you can, like I said, you can apply this to everything. There's more than your way to do things, there's more than my way to do things, but when you and this is kind of keeping up with the Jones'. Style it's like if you're gonna go copy somebody else, you're more than likely not gonna get the results that they get, because that was their way, that was their you know, whatever intuitive, you know, guidance that came through them, even if they didn't. Don't see it as that.

Speaker 2:

That was their journey, which is really interesting, because there is a quote that goes copy what successful people do and you'll get the success that they get right. And I think I don't believe in that Don't have to. I think, at some points, looking for inspiration and looking for what's working is valuable when you're starting from nowhere, but I think as and this has been so true for us on our journey like to put it in perspective this business has been running for six years. We have spent six years working out how we wanna run it. Because and why haven't we sprinted into it?

Speaker 2:

I'll tell you, there's a couple of reasons. One is because it's not the main financial contributor to our lifestyle, so there's no urgent need for it to happen. But secondly, it's looking at what we wanna do, future-pacing that and going how will our lifestyle look? Will that give us what we desire and will we be able to create the level of impact that we want? And there's been so many times that when we're future-paced a thought or a model or whatever it may be, and gone actually, no, that wouldn't be right back to the drawing board Now this has been, honestly, six years of back and forth of thinking of, trying this, trying that on.

Speaker 2:

Now we're landed at a point where it's like, okay, this feels right, this feels a line.

Speaker 1:

But it also takes and this is another thing about not planning. But your next 12 months is like are you gonna continue to do the same shit? That's not getting you the results. And when we talk about that, we got to a point now where I've now got to a point where I've sold my other business and because that's not gonna serve where we're going. So it's like that had to happen in order for us to get to this point. But I wasn't ready for that point to happen yet until the feeling that I got. I was like it's time.

Speaker 1:

You know, I'm like I did a lot of work around limiting beliefs. What is that I want? Like, what do we want as a family? What does our life look like in the next five, 10 years? And other things that I'm doing today are gonna get me there. And the answer was no Like is it gonna give me the finance that I want? No. Is it gonna give me the impact that I want? No. Is it gonna give me the purpose that I want? No. It was purposeful at one point in my life, but I've changed and my purpose is now different and I wanna reach the world, not just.

Speaker 2:

Parkside.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

And I, so we had a close family, friends, grandmother past recently, and mortality is one of those things that I think really makes you reflect on your own life and where you're at and what you're doing.

Speaker 2:

And you know, I find, as I get older, I'm like, well, the time's running out and in terms of having the impact and doing what I want to do, and it's like when I think about you know that what I was talking about before, about the six years of getting the model right and stuff I'm at a point now where I was like, no, now it's time to lock it in and actually go, because time is ticking and I think so many people don't have a theme for the year, don't have a plan of what they're doing for their business. They get caught up in whether it's their kid's, kids' lives and routines and and lose what they want and don't have a vision for their family and direction and, ultimately, are trying to find ways of happiness when they're not set up for it in a in a way that is like OK, well, what do we want to achieve independently and together?

Speaker 1:

But I think you can't be set up for something that you don't know that you want and do you think that's the biggest problem? That is the biggest fucking problem. You don't know what you want.

Speaker 2:

You know how do you find that?

Speaker 1:

OK, let's think about, because we put up a post recently about as one about.

Speaker 2:

I was curious to know who had a theme for the year or who you know, and obviously January, december, january rolls around, and it's like the thing that gets thrown around as New Year's resolutions is what am I going to, you know? And then by the 15th of January they're generally forgotten, and I think this is you know, and then you get back on the habits and patterns that you'd been running previous years. So what is the thing that creates and makes the difference?

Speaker 1:

Knowing what you want.

Speaker 2:

So how do you find that?

Speaker 1:

Well, ask yourself the question first and foremost. A lot of people don't even ask themselves that question, right?

Speaker 2:

If I look at like Can I tell you why I think yeah, change is hard.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, but change, choose your hard, because it's still it's it's.

Speaker 1:

it's hard staying the same too, yeah, but I think I think most people they're always looking for the path of least resistance and there is Can I just put something in there as well when, when, looking at what it is that you want, there were some really powerful questions that I answered, and it was. It was. One of them was and I use this on a mastermind table and it fucking like blew the socks off people because it was so simple, but it was like if nothing were bad or wrong and no one cared what you did. What would you want, right?

Speaker 1:

If removing all judgment and that's what we were talking about.

Speaker 2:

The judge, the keeping up with the Jones. Yeah people trying to outdo other people or like being jealous of what other people have.

Speaker 1:

But it's the judgment, but it's also your limiting beliefs around that thing that you actually want. Like, oh, do I not believe that I can reach that amount of success? Do I not believe that I can have that type of life? Do I not believe that I'm worthy of that type of life? Yeah, probably not. And the like. If we go one layer deeper and chunk down again, it's self-love. Do you love yourself enough to live the life that you actually want? That's what I've come to.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, powerful.

Speaker 1:

Because if you've got these, like majority of the time your limiting beliefs are running your life, and 99.9% of them are not true.

Speaker 2:

Yep, I'd agree with that.

Speaker 1:

So if you're listening to this and you wanna step on how to find what it is that you want, the first thing is answering that question of if nothing were bad, good, wrong what would you want? And the second thing is what makes me believe that I can't have this thing? Because there's probably a whole fucking bunch of things as to why you think you can't have that thing, or that life, or that money, or that relationship, you know.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and that comes back to what I'm saying about doing that work, you know, and it's honest work, though it's like really fucking uncomfortable to look and go so how do you make it not hard for people?

Speaker 1:

It's not hard, you just do it. If you keep putting that it's hard, then it's gonna be hard. If you say this is the work that's gonna get me to my best life, it's not so hard anymore. It's like one puffed-inth of a fucking Puffed-inth it was Of the step to get there. You know, yeah, it's like again. Choose your hard. You can stay as you are and keep fucking, bitching and moaning about it. That's hard, that's not very nice feeling. Or you can go and delve deep and be fucking honest with yourself and be like hey-.

Speaker 2:

I actually think that can be the catalyst, for the change Is when you get sick of your own voice complaining and you've shopped your problem around so many people that they're sick of it too, but you start listening to yourself and have the awareness to go shit.

Speaker 1:

It the fed up in a stage is probably the best stage for change.

Speaker 2:

That is the time to change, yeah.

Speaker 1:

When you're so fucking fed up with yourself to go. I'm not running this fucking story anymore, I'm done with this bullshit story that I keep saying to myself, and I think that's the thing is like for people that you know, have that talk track loop that's continually running is have the awareness to catch yourself and go.

Speaker 2:

Oh, what's that about? Why am I saying that and why do I keep doing the thing that doesn't make me fulfilled or happy?

Speaker 1:

And how do I? Yeah, XYZ not. Why do I? The question is so powerful.

Speaker 2:

Can I just say, though your mind is gonna challenge every single thing about that in order for you to stay the same and not change 100% Cause your ego wants is there to protect you.

Speaker 1:

The other thing is, though, is that's just your limiting beliefs playing over and, over and over?

Speaker 2:

And I think that is the what can be for some people. The beginning of the personal development journey is when you're fed up. You're in a situation that you don't wanna be in your issues, you need support, but you might not be able to ask for help and you don't know all the way out, but you know you wanna way out and I think at that point that's where you know I think of this business and the purpose and the impact that we wanna have.

Speaker 2:

That we're going to have For the going to have, for the people that go. You know what. It's time. Now it's time. I've been doing this for long enough and I'm just gonna give this a go and see what happens, and I'd like to invite people that like join our podcast, our Facebook page. You're gonna be seeing a lot more content from me and Leish in the podcast style and also piece to camera style. We're gonna be getting a lot more guests on this year, and if it feels right to you and really use your intuition and feeling to guide you it's like if it feels right to reach out and see what it's about for you then do so 100%, especially with you know life in general, like if you're at a point where you're just like I need change and I'm looking for change and I want to do the things, then you're in the right place.

Speaker 1:

100% 100%.

Speaker 2:

So, to wrap this up, I really want people to question and think about what's their theme, what is your intention for 2024? What is the grounding piece that you're gonna really put a stake in the ground and go? You know, I'm gonna keep this top of mind for how I live my life for this year and see what that does for me and where it takes me, and it might come with an abundance of lessons, like mine did last year.

Speaker 2:

It may come with an abundance of experiences that really light you up and make you happy.

Speaker 1:

And I will say, if you want to delve deeper into the limiting beliefs, we have an e-book coming out very, very soon on how to manifest your dream life. Is it free? It's free, it's free, it's free, but it requires you to do the things.

Speaker 2:

Awesome, can't wait for that.

Speaker 1:

Okay, awesome, see you guys next week.

Speaker 2:

Ciao.

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