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Money Trees & Piss Pools: Confronting the Stories We Tell Ourselves

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Struggling to reach that next level in your life or business? The invisible barrier might be a limiting belief you don't even realize you've inherited. 

In this deeply revealing conversation, we unpack how these borrowed stories—from family, society, religion, and culture—quietly shape our decisions and capabilities without our awareness. The fascinating thing about limiting beliefs is how they create "edges"—comfort zones we hesitate to push beyond, particularly around money and success.

We share personal experiences with limiting beliefs that surprised us, including the sneaky way they can disguise themselves as positive traits like gratitude. That "I'm happy with what I have" mindset might actually be masking a deeper belief that wanting more would make you selfish. This "abundant ego," as we call it, creates a ceiling on your growth while appearing virtuous.

What makes these beliefs so powerful is that they lurk in our subconscious, emerging precisely when we're stretching toward new goals. This explains why growth feels uncomfortable—it forces us to confront these hidden narratives. But there's hope! We explore practical techniques like journaling, visualization, and developing "thought curiosity"—observing your thoughts without judgment before deciding if they serve you.

The transformation doesn't happen overnight but through consistent practice. When negative thoughts arise, simply ask: "What's a better thought I could have instead?" This approach, maintained with discipline and patience, gradually rewires your thinking patterns and expands your realm of possibility.

Ready to break free from the stories holding you back? Listen now and take the first step toward rewriting your narrative. 

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Understanding Limiting Beliefs

Speaker 1

Welcome to Synergy, the podcast where we uncover the secrets to successful relationships, effective leadership and transformative parenting. I'm your host, Alicia.

Speaker 2

And I'm Dan, and we'll deep dive into relationships, friendships and, most importantly, the relationship we have with ourselves. Together, we'll explore different strategies, techniques and approaches that can help you achieve synergy in every aspect of your life.

Speaker 1

Stay curious, keep learning and embrace the power of synergy. Hello and welcome back to another podcast on Synergy Today. Oh, I'm Alicia.

Speaker 2

And I'm Dan.

Speaker 1

Today we're talking about limiting beliefs and stories. So what's a limiting?

Speaker 2

belief.

Speaker 1

A limiting belief is put it. This is how I interpret limiting beliefs. They're beliefs that we've been programmed over our life, whether it be society, maybe religion, parents, friends, social. What's that thing called the rest of the world Society? Did I say that one, yet? What's that thing called the rest of the world society? Did I say that one yet? Where we have borrowed stories that might not necessarily serve us.

Speaker 1

So I just want to pre-frame that this is a conversation based on. So if you haven't listened to the last episode, jump on and listen to it, because we talked about creating your dream life and we talked about really getting clear on what it is that you want and what you're creating in your life, and being the creator rather than being a victim of life. And then the follow-on of this is create. You know the limiting beliefs that might come up when you want the things that you want, and you might have some borrowed stories around some family like, oh, if you've got money, you're a show-off, or you know the whole tall poppy thing in Australia. So the limiting beliefs are those borrowed stories and those borrowed beliefs from other people that might have been passed on without you even realising that they're not your stories that are preventing you from you know, doing the things that you want to do, or maybe taking the next step, going to that next edge in business in life.

Speaker 2

What's an example of a limiting belief that you've come across in your life?

Speaker 1

oh many mine what's the biggest?

Speaker 1

one around money oh yeah yeah, so the biggest ones around money for me, um, majority came from my parents, and I'm not this like I think I want to say as well, when you're delving into things like this, it's not that they did anything wrong, like they actually have some really good stories around money as well. There's some good stories and then there's some borrowed story. You know some stories that don't serve me that I borrowed in that time and, in order for me to go to that next level, they, they actually can't be my stories and I had to rewrite them. Um, you know, we hear things like money doesn't grow on trees yeah funny.

Speaker 2

I always laugh at that, that comment why? Because I've like I, I just know some people that grow some certain trees and money sell the leaves from those trees and get money exchange for it. So I was like money can grow on trees?

Speaker 1

no, but it's the, it's the things of like, for, like my dad, he's not a showy person, like he would never get a really big house, because he's like, oh no, people start looking at you different then and I'm like, oh, okay, and there's some you know things that I had to break around. Judgment and belief, especially in the work that I'm doing now, is, like you know, in order for me to get the course that we're doing out there to help more people, I need to be visible, and that requires me sharing and that requires me some people judging me, and I have to be okay with that Right.

Speaker 2

So, um, and I think, do you think it's fair to say that if, if you're in a fairly comfortable position in life and you're not challenging yourself, that you're going to not necessarily face many limiting beliefs? Do you think it comes in the face of challenge that your limiting beliefs are shown to you or are heightened?

Speaker 1

So I feel like sometimes limiting beliefs can feel like why can't I do that thing? There's like this invisible ceiling and I just don't know what it is. It's like that feeling of like you want more and you know that there's more for you, but you're like I just don't know how to get there and I don't know what that thing is that's holding me back. It's like this invisible wall that's holding you back. They're what I would call limiting belief. It's like really delve into what are those walls and what are the things and the stories that you've been told, and are they yours and are they going to serve you to take you to the next level? Or, if they're not, what's the new story that you're going to tell yourself?

Speaker 1

And what's the new story that you're going to create for yourself?

Speaker 2

So I think about those types of ones that you refer to in terms of glass ceilings or can't get past walls, and it's almost left the person feeling like why can't I do this thing? But I also think there's a piece in there of the conscious narrative that you tell yourself that is either ingraining a limiting belief or affirming to yourself that you can't get over that wall. Do you get what I'm saying? So I think it's two-pronged.

Speaker 2

Say it again I think there's an element of having a narrative or a story that is creating the limiting belief. But then I think there's also an approach to life that when an obstacle's present and you're not sure why you can't get past it, it's more a limiting belief that sits in your subconscious mind. That's not. You're not totally aware of what's happening or what, why it's there. That requires you to do some work in order to overcome so one is a once.

Speaker 2

One once is a conscious limit that you're creating. The other one is an unconscious limit that you may not have created, but you know. Thankfully, through gene transfer you've inherited.

Speaker 1

And they're the ones that you go deep with. They're the hard questions that you asked yourself.

Speaker 2

Yeah, Well, they're the ones that, when you work at you, break the genealogical trauma so that you don't pass it on to your kids.

Speaker 1

You know whereas that I mean, that's just a whole nother fucking. Oh, I know I've just got to share this quote that I saw, which I'm froth. It was like uh, it ran in my family until it ran into me right and then it fucked off when it met you and then it fucked off because we fucked it off what was it?

Speaker 2

give it to me?

Speaker 1

no, that was this quote I. It ran in my family until it ran into me, meaning it ran into, it, tried to run into me, but I broke down the limiting belief and created a new narrative right.

Speaker 2

So I thought there was this, I thought there was a specific narrative or story was like. Well, this fucking ran into me and I was like you're stopping here.

Speaker 1

If you thought that, then everyone else thought that I didn't explain it very well. It's a quote that I heard Right. It ran in my family until it ran into me.

Speaker 2

Oh right.

Speaker 1

Now we're here.

Speaker 2

Okay, but all right, let's put the. Let's relate this to you now. What's one that's run in your family that fucked off when it got to you? Putting you on the spot here, I think it's probably the Italian housewife thing.

Speaker 3

Oh, yes, I mean that's a pretty obvious, that fucked right off when it got to you.

Speaker 2

That's a pretty obvious Fucking clothes. You're still sitting in the wash basket. That wouldn't happen back a generation ago.

Speaker 1

Okay, A little bit of background my mum's Italian and Daniel's mum's Italian, so we always joke to say Daniel's always like where the fuck's my little Italian housewife.

Speaker 2

I'm like it ain't here. The dust doesn't even get a chance to hit the floor.

Speaker 1

That definitely stopped. Yeah, that one fucked right off, that fucked off with me and Melissa, but that's, I don't, I can't, I don't know. Yeah, I can't think of one right now.

Speaker 2

The reason I asked the question about challenge and I guess the pursuit of something great doesn't even have to be. The pursuit of something, for me, highlights where your limiting beliefs may be, because for me, if you want to identify what the limiting beliefs are, you just really need to tune into the voice that's in your head. Yeah, because that's the little fucker that turns around and goes oh no, no, no, you can't do that, stop, no, no, no, no, stop. They're going to look at you funny if you do that.

Speaker 1

But also, I think limiting beliefs come up all the time. Right it? I think limiting beliefs come up all the time right. It's like you might reach a new edge and like, okay, so let's say investment, for example. Yeah, we might invest a lot of money into something that's an edge for us where we go. We've never done that before. It's feeling a little bit like A bit uncomfortable A bit uncomfortable, the unknown's a little bit.

Money Stories and Borrowed Beliefs

Speaker 1

you know like what, if all these sorts of things, and then you start delving into the limiting beliefs around it and then you start rewriting those limiting beliefs and then we invest, let's say, 100k somewhere, and then we go okay, that feels like the normal for me now, and then that's your new normal. Yes, and then there's another edge where we go maybe you want to invest 500k and we're like, oh, that's a bit, that's a bit much. Let's do the work around that. What's coming up for us around that?

Speaker 2

yeah, right, and I actually think this also just want to, you know, touch on the finance piece here. It also works for, say, as well as investing money, for saving money in terms of what you're referring to, of edges. Like if you're living fucking week to week right now and you can't put away $2 to put into a side account that you don't fucking touch, you would normally spend that money elsewhere and then slowly build up to $5 and so on. You'll find a way to adapt your lifestyle to be able to put that money away, to start building up a nest egg so that you eventually have money to invest.

Speaker 1

So let's talk about that around, because I hear a lot of people talk about investment.

Speaker 2

They've got no base. Yeah. They've got no savings or leverage to actually go on if you invest. They just heard this thing about investing. That's cool and it's passive and you don't have to work hard and you get a lot of money from it yeah um, but I think for me, and I don't know why, this has turned into a finance podcast where are we going with this?

Speaker 1

let's just go there, I think.

Speaker 2

I think that the active income that you make, that you can go on and then invest, brings edges, and I think those edges bring levels of discomfort that may show you what your limiting beliefs are around money. And that's the piece of how I tie the finance to the limiting belief, because what what can happen is, once you start getting a level of comfort, there's's two money problems either getting it or keeping it.

Speaker 1

Or three and then overflow.

Speaker 2

That's not a problem though.

Speaker 1

Oh, you're talking about problems.

Speaker 2

No, I'm talking about money as a problem. It's either you don't have enough of it or you've got too much of it and you're trying to keep it Right, right. So when I think of the first problem of getting it, once you come into it and get some of it, you just want to hold on to it because it feels good to have it.

Speaker 1

Can I like I want to be conscious of the words that we're using right, because I don't think it's what. Did you call it? A challenge or a problem?

Speaker 2

Money problem.

Speaker 1

I see it as this, as like there's different stages, right? So the first stage is making money, the second stage is keeping money and the third stage is overflow, which is where your investments come into play.

Speaker 2

Right debatable, but yeah go on. Well, it can be, let's just say like if that was yes, let's just say for limiting belief purposes.

Speaker 1

So there's a, there's a point where love a good debate there's a point where you are making money yeah so there's there's things to do around. I love the topic of money because for me, my limiting beliefs came up around money the most right. When I started working on money, the limiting beliefs just trickled like a big, big tap of very fast water.

Speaker 1

So it's like when you're trying, when you're gushing limiting beliefs when you're creating money, there's, you know, an edge there to creating the amount that you're creating. Like you said, putting five dollars in in your savings, or putting starting, putting 10, and then the new edge might be 50, and then the new edge might be 100, and it's like each time, though there's limiting beliefs that you can do the work around to get you to the next level.

Speaker 2

Right. And then you just move the scale, you'll find the belief like a two buck yeah, I can do two bucks. Two hundred bucks yeah, oh, that'd be a stretch. Two thousand bucks no fucking way.

Speaker 1

Yeah, you know, you just pick it back. Yeah, you just find that that what feels right in terms of, because then we call that your energetic minimum. Sorry, your energetic maximum. It's like that's the maximum you're going to be able to put in energetically Until you do the work to be able to open the energetics up to more, creating more.

Speaker 1

To find the new edge To find the new edge, yeah, and then you go. You know, even if it's like a monthly, you know monthly revenue for your business, it could be like oh we, we sit at 50k a month. My new edge is going to be 55. Does that feel? No, I think I could stretch it 60. And then you go and you just you need to go through all the ways that that money could potentially come in to give you evidence that that could happen. And it probably won't happen that way. But it's just the belief You're building, the belief behind the thing.

Speaker 2

That is so fucking true because if I think about the business and metrics of turnover and the narrative of what number I used to say was the limit for the monthly revenue, and then one month it went up and I was like, oh, that's possible yeah, and then that became the new minimum, yeah, and it's like it kept going and kept going and kept going.

Speaker 2

And now it's at a level where I'm like I'm reflecting back on the first edge and I'm like why have I stopped the edge? Why haven't I pushed it to the next level? Yeah, and to the next level, yeah, you know, because I know for me, for me, it comes down to that comfort piece of having everything that I desire. It's the overflow piece. It, for me, is like what do I need more for? Right?

Speaker 1

so oh, can we touch on that? Yeah, go, because I really feel like there's this, it's like this narrative around oh, but I've, I'm happy with everything I have.

Speaker 2

I just heard all all my family, the seagulls give it to me, give it to me.

Speaker 1

I feel like there's this narrative around like oh, but I'm great, I'm so grateful for everything that I have, I don't need any more. But what I'm hearing really is I'm grateful for everything I have, and if I was to want more because I'm already grateful and really abundant in my life that would mean I'd be selfish yeah whereas what I want to propose is you can be really fucking grateful for your life and love your life as it is in this present moment and still want more. Those two can exist together.

Speaker 2

I'm just talking about this coexisting. They can coexist.

Speaker 1

Well, I've just opened my mindset up to like because it's another limiting belief. Sometimes I'm so set in like it has to be just that one thing. Yeah, what I'm loving about this, and that means I can't have that and it's like, well, can I have both?

Speaker 2

I'm loving about this episode and I hope the listeners can see and hear this that right now, if you're tuning in, you can actually hear Alicia and Maya's limiting beliefs coming out. Tell me what. Well, there's a limiting belief around an edge and being comfortable at a certain point. That in itself is a limiting belief because it's limiting me from preventing me that. There's a narrative in there that says I have enough, therefore I don't need to create more.

Speaker 1

That's limiting, right yes, and it can come and it can be so subtle. This is what I was getting, okay, okay, so I didn't explain it very well. You explain things really well, so that's what I'm saying is like it can be wrapped up in this positive positivity yes, right. So, like you, cotton wool your limiting belief cotton wool your limiting beliefs to then not get you to the next edge because, because you're so great grateful and yeah it's like that could be a sabotage in itself.

Speaker 1

It's like it can be so sneaky. It doesn't have to be this big bold like oh my God, it's the money stories, it's all the things. Sometimes it can be the smallest of things and those things can be like you're grateful and that's stopping you from having more.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I love this. It is. It's almost like the abundant ego. You know what I mean so well. It's like you've become so abundant and so connected and you've created so much that your ego is like you don't need anymore. Have a rest, you deserve it, but it's limiting, it's, it's preventing you from moving forward, if that's what you desire.

Speaker 1

Yeah, 100%, if you're desiring that. Yeah, I think I heard one of my mentors say this.

Speaker 2

I feel like there's a good saying around comfort zones for now, but I don't have it, so I can't say it Okay well when it comes to you share that something about fucking comfort zones.

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

Get out and stay out.

Speaker 1

That's what it is, one of my mentors was saying how, when she reached a certain amount in her business and she started believing that she was going to get cancer and die, and she went to her mentor and said, like what's going on? Like I feel like you know, I'm going to get cancer, I'm going to die'm gonna die, and she's like, life can be this good and she's like, and you just have to start making. You know, I think it was 100k a month or something. You just have to start making 100k months. No big deal, she's like, but it is a big fucking deal. She's like. Well, no, some people can't live off 100k. She's like I couldn't. So make it no big deal and move to the next edge, because there's somebody out there that is like has more right, has gotten to that new edge that you want to get to. Just had a light bulb what about share it?

Speaker 2

it's got nothing to do with what we're talking about, but limiting beliefs. Oh yeah, limiting beliefs. Yeah, it took me back to my early dating days and early nightclub days about going up and approaching girls.

Hidden Ceilings and Invisible Walls

Speaker 1

Oh my god, I've got some around relationships too.

Speaker 2

You go tell yours and I was thinking it was like at that point in time I was riddled with limiting beliefs about what was one. I'm trying to trying to think now what the actual belief was, but I would say that I I'd really need to sit with it to work out. You know what the narrative or story was, but I can tell you that the outcome of the limiting belief kept me stuck and not not approaching girls for a long period of time until I got fed up with it. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 1

Ooh, let's talk about the fed up stage. Yes, because that's a really big pivoting point.

Speaker 2

Well, for me it lies in motivation. It's like you get moved by the thing that's shitting you the most, that you just can't bear to be around it anymore. This probably touches on relationships, too, that you just can't be bear to be around it anymore. This probably touches on relationships, too, that you've just got to get out of it.

Speaker 1

Fuck, sometimes I can get so fed up with myself. What?

Speaker 2

do you mean?

Speaker 1

well, it's like I don't know. I feel like that really helps me. Shift is fed upness, yeah. So sometimes I just get so fed up with things that I'm like, fucking, something needs to change.

Speaker 2

All right, I'm changing tomorrow yes, do you know what I mean? Yeah, okay, so that that that's your operating system. That is totally 100. I find that where I get fed up are you talking about me now?

Speaker 1

are you talking? About me you're looking very like where I get fed up with you. I get I get fed up.

Speaker 2

I'm not talking about you specifically, I'm saying things in general. Okay, when I get fed up, for me it's looking at it from different perspectives, and this can be a bit of a curse. I've realized, whilst it's, I think, an asset to have this multiple views of a situation and different angles and perspectives, I actually think that you can sit in it for too long and over analyze and delay and procrastinate and swim in the fed up before you realize I'm swimming in my own ship. Yeah, in the piss pool, like I used to say. Yeah, swimming in the piss pool, you know. But let's talk about breaking limiting beliefs, because I think it's all good to talk about limiting beliefs, but there are ways and things that you can do, that you can move past limiting beliefs.

Speaker 1

So limiting beliefs. There's a really good exercise we did when we were training to do nlp and it was um, what's this one?

Speaker 1

parts integration. That was a really big one for me around money, because it identified for me that so there will be a parts integration piece in our course. So I don't want to say exactly how to do it, but there's. It basically shines the light on a part of you that has this limiting belief and then it's the other part who's? Who is this person like? Who's saying this to you? What does it look like? What does it feel like? What does it smell like? Is that a person? And if that's a person, who is it? And then it's integrating those parts together. Right, that was huge for me around money, because it wasn't me, it was my dad and my dad's my greatest fucking teacher. Honestly, like he's such a cool fucking bloke and like, even when you were saying about the fed upness, like he has this thing where he's like I've got the. You know what does he talk about? The piss off list, the piss off. Like he has this thing where he's like I've got the.

Speaker 2

You know what does he talk about?

Speaker 1

The piss off list. The piss off list. He has a list that things that piss him off and whatever's at the top of the list and that pisses him off the most. He'll get done so like and he's he's the big like he's the most. He's like this really nuanced person to me, cause he's like on one hand he's got these limiting beliefs around money but he's done quite well for himself, but then on the other hand he is all into that spirituality stuff and he's like believes that what you put out is what you get. You know your mindset and all that sort of stuff. So he's he's probably in in the spiritual realm like his. Him and his family have been my biggest um spiritual inspiration.

Speaker 1

Yeah for that but um around limiting beliefs and how do we break them. The way I like to do it is I like to journal. I like to ask myself questions. I really honestly believe questions are the most fucking powerful thing ever for development, for breaking limiting beliefs, for all the things it's like. What is the question?

Speaker 2

Can I share my hacks?

Speaker 1

Yeah.

Speaker 2

So for me, limiting beliefs is identifying what is on the other side of the belief. Yeah, so it's writing down your current state, what you're currently experiencing, and then your future state about what you're going to experience and what that will feel like. Look like what you, what your reality will be when you pass that experience. And the more you can sit down and write down all the reasons as to why, all the things you're going to experience, you start building a belief system around the psychology of believing it, and breaking that belief is much greater and bigger than what the original narrative or story is. That's holding the current belief. That's limiting you. So that's one one thing that I've done that's really helped with limiting beliefs. The second thing I've done that was amazing is called an arrow break. Oh, yes, and this was putting an arrow. Believe it or not, you put it in the centre of your throat, somebody holds their hand up with the arrow and you walk into it.

Speaker 1

Oh, but you've got to say that on either end of them. I'm finished. Yeah, oh, you didn't say what that.

Speaker 2

Yeah, I'm finished. Yeah, oh, you didn't say what that? Yeah, I'm finished.

Speaker 1

Oh, we're done, we're done. Yeah, yeah, okay bye-bye.

Speaker 2

The middle of my sentence interrupts the start of yours, so the person's got their hand up and you basically walk in and snap the arrow.

Speaker 2

Prior to doing that, as Alicia was saying, Sorry, I was like that's a really important piece, you're right the previous belief around the current state on one side and then the new belief on the other side of the arrow, and the idea is that when you walk in and snap the arrow in half, it's a visualization, representation and a commitment that you've broken the belief. Such a powerful exercise, it's a very powerful exercise. However, I will say this it's a powerful exercise when you follow it up with starting to do the things that create the belief.

Speaker 2

Otherwise it's just a great piece of transformation that feels good for a short piece of time, yeah you know, and that's a lot of a lot of this. I guess transformational work is actually in the application of after the learning.

Speaker 2

Yeah, you know that the learning occurs, but it's really in the implementation and the integration phase is where the transformation is yeah, you know because a lot of people want the quick hit and the feel good, but then they go back to the old habit, the old belief and the old psychology. But I think when you, when you start, you know with a um, a piece like an arrow break or a board break, or you know some exercise like we were talking about before with the journaling piece, unless you fought, it's not a do once and it's done. You know you've got to follow it up with an intention and that and what we're talking about, the previous's done. You know you've got to follow it up with an intention and that and what we're talking about the previous episode about you know, the law of attraction. You've got to follow it up with your thoughts, follow it up with intention and follow it up with the expectation that this is your new reality and that's really how you rewrite your story and change your belief systems.

Speaker 1

Period can we talk about expectations?

Speaker 2

How? So I know we touched on that last episode, but I think Are you excited or do you need to go to the toilet? You're hopping up and down like a kangaroo.

Speaker 1

I'm so excited. I love this conversation. Expectations I know you mentioned last episode that that was a challenge for you around expectations with the law of attraction the book Law of Attraction. I want to. How have you integrated expectations into your life like how has that changed for you, changed your perspective?

Speaker 2

um, it's, it's a, it's a muscle I'm still working on. So by no means am I saying that I'm a. Um, I'm working, of working on being a master of creating my reality. That's the current state of where I'm at, the evidence I'm being shown and the materialization of my creations are showing up, but it still feels like a bit of an experiment, if you like Gathering evidence if you like, you know, not gathering evidence?

Speaker 2

yeah, because my logical mind wants to, wants to make sense of what's happening and in order for for my spirituality being to convince my logical mind, you probably need to research quantum physics. Yeah well, yeah well, that that integration to be a master of it needs to take place through my thoughts, truly believing and expecting that I am the creator. And I feel like that journey for me not necessarily is at the beginning. I feel like I'm a fair way down the path, but I still feel that the pre-paving piece in terms of deliberate intent and creation um, I'm still exercising that muscle the expectation piece is the part that, uh and I said this on the last episode in the whole book, it was the part that I was most challenged by and it's because of the language and association that my psychology had with the word expectation and it's like okay, part of my mind thinks expecting is bad, but now I'm being taught that I need to expect in order of to believe that it's going to happen.

Speaker 2

So there's a there's a part in that talking about limiting beliefs and bringing it back to that. There's a part in that that's in conflict. One part of me believes it's possible, but then, on the other hand, the other part's yet to see it do you know what I mean. So um the expectation piece, the unwavering faith and the belief I've lent more into now than I ever have, and I have just found so much more peace and harmony in my life through doing so.

Speaker 1

Do you have any um any stories that you can share with us? Anything that stands out?

Breaking Through Comfort Zones

Speaker 2

that. Um, look, the main thing that stands out for me is, you know, when I think about you know, not, not this business, but the other business that I have. It really is a luxury goods industry where you're talking about people that you know have disposable income and stuff like that. So if you look at the narrative of the economic climate at the moment, it's fair to say that majority of people that are owning these types of businesses are experiencing not my reality, experiencing some level of struggle, some level of business loss, not as much volume of work, and these types of narratives and psychologies of businesses closing down and these types of narratives and psychologies and businesses closing down and these types of experiences. I'm, you know, as an example. I am just not entertaining that in my thought. That is not my reality. You're not entertaining those conversations.

Speaker 2

I do not even like that is over there, Like, if you want to be a part of that piss pool off you go.

Speaker 1

That's not mine. Jump in. It's all nice and warm.

Speaker 2

Go for a swim, yeah that piss pool off you go that's not mine jump in yeah, it's all nice and go for a swim yeah, be the trevi fountain if you want, spit it out your mouth. You know. Hopefully there's not a nugget in there, but you know it's. For me, it's about the deliberate creation and desire of what I want, and I also feel like coming off a three-week rest over the Christmas break that I haven't normally done is really key to be able to amplify the magnitude of your creation. I don't think you can do it from an empty cup, or I don't think you do it well from an empty cup, or have as much impact when you're drained and depleted yeah um well because it's a very energetic yes, um it's a magnetism, yeah it's a magnetism process.

Speaker 2

So for me it's the evidence and, I guess, story that I relate to. What you're asking is you know I'm driving to work. My psychology is I see opportunities everywhere. I'm surrounded by abundance. People with money want for the things that I have to provide. They're getting incredible experiences from the interactions that we have and the products and services that we give them. I'm surrounded by money. I'm in a constant state of abundance like this is literally what I'm thinking as I'm driving to work.

Speaker 2

You know, recently I've been um listening to. You know kirwan did a piece on what's called power to create. That's really about changing your story psychology. You know, when I was speaking about the previous episode about listening to something that's feeding on, like I'm consuming that content so that the story I'm creating, the funny thing is, every day I drive to work and when I jump in the car, if I feel like music, listening to music and not wanting to do it, and I have the discipline I've just put it on and shifts my whole day, shifts my whole fucking day and just changes when I first sit in that chair at the computer. My state, my energy, everything is different. And I truly believe that when customers walk in and feel that first before having a conversation. The whole fucking economy, everyone's struggling and no fucking money, just disappears. Yeah.

Speaker 2

But again I'm choosing that reality. Yeah. You know people might say you're fucking crazy. You know you're spiritual. You woo, woo. Whatever you go swim in the piss pool. Yeah.

Speaker 1

Because I'm rocking with abundance. Yeah, 100%. Do you know what I mean? This narrative serves me way better than the other one.

Speaker 2

Yeah, and that, for me, is the limiting belief and story and narrative. I didn't even want to say it, to put it out there like that?

Speaker 1

yeah, I know that's like when once I guess you've reached that spiritual consciousness part.

Speaker 2

It's like that's how you're just so yeah you're so intentful with what you speak because you know that by saying those things, you're somewhat attracting them. Yeah, so when I, when I think of what my old beliefs were and my old narratives and old stories that would be in alignment and association with the you know what some people believe the current economic climate to be, for me it's like no, I did that for long enough yeah and I know what it creates.

Speaker 2

Yeah, and I'm putting it down. Yeah, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm doing it different yeah, I think as well.

Speaker 1

Just a little piece of um, a little hack is like. It's not that you never have negative stories or never have. Oh fuck, no moments, right? No, not at all.

Speaker 2

I'm not, I'm not like fucking uh, buddha and fucking wake up positive every day and enlightened no, like like I have to work fucking hard.

Speaker 1

It's about what you do with those thoughts, right?

Speaker 2

And it's not even hard. I have to work intentionally.

Speaker 1

Yes, and it's like when a thought comes past like this is a little hack that I use constantly. When a thought comes in without judgment, it's like what's a better thought that I could have, what's? A better choice that I could make with my thoughts right now rather than this one, because this one's not serving me.

Speaker 2

Yeah, For me it's in terms of changing it, because the book really went into thought and stuff like that. For me it's being curious about your thoughts first before owning them. Yeah, so it's like oh, that's interesting, what's that about? Now I'm actually going to change that, that's. You know, I've got a better way of thinking this. Yeah.

Speaker 1

Or does that serve me?

Speaker 2

Yeah, and for instance like as an example, you might think, oh fuck, the economy's fucked, it's going to be a shit day at work. It's really hard to make a sale, for instance. It's like oh, that's quite curious, heard that on the news last night. Maybe I'll stop watching that shit and go. You know what? If you watch the news turn it off. But the new thought is like I'm constantly surrounded by abundance and I see opportunities absolutely everywhere.

Speaker 1

Yeah, I'm open and available to them.

Speaker 2

And you know, I say to people like, don't just do it once and expect a result, do this for three months and tell me it doesn't work and with disciplined conviction and intent and expecting it to show up. Yeah, do it for three months and tell me it doesn't work yeah and I'll tell you to get fucked no but I'll say you're not doing it, it's.

Speaker 1

It's a constant but, like you've got to think also is yes, we could do it for three months, but it's really dependent on how long this narrative has been playing out in somebody's life. Yeah.

Speaker 1

Because if it's decades on decades and someone's trying to change their thought process, it's not going to happen overnight. It's going to take constant changing of your thoughts. It's going to take constant changing of your thoughts. It's going to take constant pulling yourself up. Curiosity what's a better thought? What's a better? What's something that I could insert in here rather than this, because this isn't serving me it's exercising your mind and the reality of it is is.

Speaker 2

it takes patience, discipline and effort, with a bit of curiosity, in order to do this over an extended period of time, but I truly believe it is the formula to living your dream life and, as you're on the way going to there, working through what the limiting beliefs are so that you can find and create new edges, so you can get there.

Speaker 1

I think we're going to end it there. That was a mic drop.

Speaker 2

Shabang Boom.

Speaker 1

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