{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":12.694,"endTime":15.856,"body":"Hey guys, my name is Danny Dumas and this"},{"startTime":12.694,"endTime":15.856,"body":"is the Earn Your Title Podcast."},{"startTime":15.856,"endTime":17.717,"body":"Today we're talking about Christmas."},{"startTime":17.718,"endTime":18.478,"body":"Yeah, Christmas."},{"startTime":18.478,"endTime":20.78,"body":"It's coming up, believe it or not."},{"startTime":20.78,"endTime":24.543,"body":"It will be here before you even blink."},{"startTime":24.843,"endTime":28.666,"body":"And I'm going to talk to you about giving"},{"startTime":24.843,"endTime":28.666,"body":"specifically for Christmas."},{"startTime":28.666,"endTime":33.01,"body":"I think as dads, I really want my kids to"},{"startTime":28.666,"endTime":33.01,"body":"have a good Christmas."},{"startTime":33.01,"endTime":33.891,"body":"I love Christmas."},{"startTime":33.891,"endTime":34.671,"body":"I'll be honest with 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