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Every Body Welcome: Plus Size Wedding Planning Tips
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What if every guest, regardless of size or mobility, felt completely at ease and included at your wedding? Join us in this episode of Pop the Question as Kathleen and Camille share and practical insights on how to make this reality. Get ready to learn the secrets to maximizing reception space, selecting the perfect attire, and ensuring comfortable seating—all tailored for plus-size individuals and guests.
Calling all brides, grooms and wedding enthusiasts welcome to Pop the Question. The podcast that takes the stress out of wedding planning and injects the fun back in. Grab your drink and indulge in expert advice and jaw-dropping stories. We're turning anxiety into anticipation over here because everyone deserves to enjoy their wedding planning process. You're getting married. You should be excited about it. Here are your hosts Kathleen and Camille. Let's get started.
Speaker 2:Hi, hey, what's up? What are we going to?
Speaker 3:talk about today. You're not going to tell the people who you are. Oh, I'm Kathleen. She's like, I'm Kathleen, I'm Camille Hi, hi, camille, hi. So Kathleen has been texting me about a topic that she's like we've got to do it, okay. Whatever you want, kathleen, next time I see you.
Speaker 2:I mean I just it's time.
Speaker 3:It's time. Are we breaking some news?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we need to reveal something about ourselves to the listeners. It's time to be honest.
Speaker 3:Okay, out with it.
Speaker 2:I don't know if you know this, but I'm a. I'm a plus us person sound like you're an aa meeting I have recently shed like 60 to 70 pounds and um, and I'm still a fluffy person. I've always been a fluffy person okay, so you're saying you're fluffy.
Speaker 3:If you want to call me fluffy, I, I'm fluffy with a shape. Let's get that straight.
Speaker 2:I'm like a biscuit A biscuit.
Speaker 3:Okay, being that, you are immediately fluffy and I'm fluffy with a shape. As I said, what we want to talk about today is our couples who are plus size or got a little junk in the trunk. You got enough you want to put into a shaper.
Speaker 2:Just everyone should have shape where let's get that straight, just plus us in general, like sometimes I'll have family members that are plus size, like an aunt or an uncle, and it's it's always consider it like they'll have a family member, like one of the parents would be like, hey, my brother's gonna be here and he's kind of a big guy and I'm worried, like what if these seats aren't strong enough?
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I mean it and it happens.
Speaker 2:And and I always, you know, I'll look at them and say, well, I used to weigh 300 pounds and, um, this is, you know, uh, a white resin chair and I've sat on them many times. Just, I wouldn't sit on them very quickly, don't go hard, don't plop down. But you know there are things that relate to events and weddings. You know with plus size people that I don't think a lot of folks think about, right down to floor plans. The size of a person's floral bouquet and the shape of it can play a factor, the way they obviously attire and dress for the, the bridesmaids, the moms, the bride.
Speaker 3:Your photos.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and even some guests that may be listening and are curious about what to wear to a wedding Cocktail attire, did you mention floor plan yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, floor plan for sure, because when I have to walk through a room, I want to be comfortable, and so I want to make sure that you know, when I'm designing a layout for somebody, that it's fully functional for everybody, including not just plus size people, but also handicapped people.
Speaker 2:you know if grandma's in a wheelchair. That matters. So I think that when people have something that makes them different, whether it's a walker, a wheelchair, obesity, even a cane or crutches or something, they don't want the attention on them. And so anytime that we can make it something that's not even a topic in the room that's the way to do it. Okay.
Speaker 3:You've given us quite a few things to go over which I'm pretty sure no one thinks about regularly being weddings. You know how they say oh, this is our first time, we don't know what you're doing. This is like that niche topic that is under all the planning. Everything that you're like I never thought about. So let's talk about floor plan start there? Why does a plus size party couple or guest, how does that play into a floor plan?
Speaker 2:so, like when we're talking with a couple about how they want the flow of their reception to happen yeah, if having a introduction of their wedding party is important to them, where, like, everybody's going straight out to the dance floor and cutting up, I want some big, wide aisles for people to work through so that they're not like bumping into each other, knocking over tables making people stand up. Yeah, Like let's not make it awkward.
Speaker 3:Booty on the shoulder as you move past.
Speaker 2:But then I also consider the fact you know I've I've done my time in catering those catering staff members. They need work space and nobody wants to have to work around a room carrying a bunch of plates or heavy glasses or fragile glasses and the backs of the seats are butted up against each other and you're like excuse me, pardon me, and people aren't listening.
Speaker 3:Nobody's paying attention to you and nobody wants to move like why are you coming through here, oh my?
Speaker 2:God, but they don't. They don't want the dirty dishes on the table either. So it's like it's, you know so. So you want to make sure that you've got plenty of room. Um, on top of that, honestly, from like a, a fire and safety issue, like, you definitely want to leave room for people to be able to get from point A to point B without having anything in the way. But it's also like when you're a plus size person, you don't want to have to, like, draw attention to yourself by even saying like excuse me, pardon me, coming through, I do it sometimes and just kind of make light of it, cause I own who I am at this point, but you know, I still have my days.
Speaker 2:you know, especially like if I'm hot and sweaty and not looking my best. Like you know, it's one thing to be cute and fluffy, but I mean, everybody has their reasons.
Speaker 3:I do it because I move quickly and I have gear. Yeah, so it's like, excuse me, move, move. No, I don't say move.
Speaker 2:Pardon me.
Speaker 3:But, yeah, trying to navigate through where you can quickly move with girth or gear, it can become a thing. Looking at your overall floor plan, I think a tip would be to see how much space it is and then probably downsize what you're trying to pack into it. Yeah, so you can have comfortable moving spaces. I feel like people they're like okay, this space can fit 25 rounds, but should you put 25?
Speaker 2:rounds. Well, let's touch on that for a second. Okay, let's say it's a 60 inch round that typically accommodates eight to ten people. A lot of folks, when they want to be cheap and don't want to pay for a lot of centerpieces, will to really pack them in. You can't put 10 plus size people at a 60 inch round. Yes, you can. Well, you can't have them cut any meat, I can tell you that it better be some finger food.
Speaker 2:It'll be elbowing and black, but I mean I like, I mean I hate to use the clumps as an example, but like when you got a bunch of big people at a table, like they do take up real estate, and it's just, you know, when you make them feel self-conscious because somebody's like right up on them like a plane seat, oh, so awkward I would never like you could even them like a plane seat oh, so awkward, I would never.
Speaker 2:like you could even go to like nine. Just take that one person away, give yourself a little wiggle room. Just make your floor plan or just, you know, do open seating with table numbers and you know, whatever I just, I think, making a conscientious plan in your head to accommodate people, especially like if you know your family's big, you know your family's big, you know like, let's say, you're a I don't know like I had a Samoan bride once and she was like, listen, I got big brothers.
Speaker 2:And I'm like, oh, I bet you do. I mean Samoan guys are typically pretty ripped, you know, Polynesian style, and I mean I've seen some. There's some big dudes, Um, and I, you know, would be conscientious about what type of chairs I would put people like that in and how much room they would need for a dance floor, and all of that because I want them to have a really good time, Okay.
Speaker 3:so floor plan kind of flows into chairs, which is rentals. So when you're going to your rental appointment, what are some things you need to ask the person who's helping you about the chairs that you're worried with? Can you test them out.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. You know, we we've had Terry from happy on the show and he's really good. You know, terry's kind of a big dude. He's nice and tall and I think that he's really good at like looking at somebody's structure and frame and he'll be like, hey, let me recommend this over here. You know he he's the's the type he would pull me aside and be like, listen, I got this one chair and it's going to be great for this, you know, and he would steer me towards what would be best for the client and and he would be up front like, hey, you know, we can do all the chairs in this particular style, but if we do need a couple of extra that are stronger, you know we can make that happen. I think, you know, having honest, open communication with your vendors is always the best route and if that is something that you think you need to address, then absolutely I like it, bring it up.
Speaker 3:Okay, let's talk about guest comfort, and you've touched on that just a little bit. What are some other things that you need to think about when it comes to?
Speaker 2:I'm instantly looking at you and thinking padded chairs, because we have had conversations about how I go both ways.
Speaker 3:I mean, padded chairs are fine and they're great, especially those wetting chairs, the shivari chairs. Those have to have pad. Those are very uncomfortable.
Speaker 2:You're talking about my metal chairs, and my farmhouse, your Joanna Gaines farmhouse. Those are actually really comfortable.
Speaker 3:Maybe not, for and I've sat in there for hours and hours and they'd be just fine that and I have a wooden chair downstairs that you did not find all that comfortable at all.
Speaker 2:I don't think I know which one you're talking about.
Speaker 3:The one that I have downstairs. I'm going to order more of I don't know. It's totally fine. Anyway, we don't agree on chairs and comfort.
Speaker 2:As far as guest comfort, what? What are some things that we can give brides for advice on that? I mean, I think maybe even right down to venue selection. Don't go picking a place that's like loaded with stairs If you know that you have people that are going to have mobility issues.
Speaker 2:Whether it's plus size or elderly, you know if your sister is going to be your ride or die. Maid of honor. Don't get married in some old mansion that has three flights of stairs. She has to go up to get to and from the rattle suite all day. That would just be cruel I've done that several times I need a water. I gotta say I gotta go downstairs again yeah like no, that would just be awful.
Speaker 2:Like the chub rub alone would annoy me um you should get calories in for the day and the next. How many steps did you get in tonight, Camille?
Speaker 3:Okay, so making sure a place doesn't have a whole lot of steps and comfortable chairs.
Speaker 2:Comfortable chairs. I think that any soft seating like in a bridal suite, like any sofas or chairs that are nice and comfy for people to lounge in you know, it's always lovely to have. Not necessarily mandatory, but it's always welcome. We certainly have lots of venues that have nice like couch, settee kind of settings and I think that's great. I think having shoes, comfortable shoes as an option.
Speaker 3:Oh my God, as a couple, as your wedding party, yes, everything, everyone.
Speaker 2:You know, if you know that your friend is a size 26, who is like a pear shape, don't ask her to wear stilettos.
Speaker 3:All that weight is in the thighs.
Speaker 2:I mean it just the balls of my feet feel like I could feel the blisters come and just thinking about it.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, okay, so I didn't even think about that. One Comfortable shoes for the wedding party, and then you yourself as a couple, if the bride or the groom is plus size, maybe think about a comfortable shoe. I think comfortable shoe anyway.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's touch on that. Like, let's be transparent. Have you ever had a bride where, like somewhere in the night, they did like an outfit change or something and you noticed that like their feet were swelling or no? No, oh, I've seen somewhere they look like they were gonna bust out of these shoes and I don't know.
Speaker 3:I don't get it. I haven't seen that because I'm usually on the floor when they're off doing the change okay so I don't see the the intimate in-betweens of that most of the time. I've only once, only because I was trying to see what was taking so long.
Speaker 2:I love my brides but man, sometimes I feel like it's all this pain and then you're leaving for your honeymoon with blisters on your feet. I would much rather see my clients in like fun sneakers that light up or glittery or whatever, and have a really fun night of dancing and cutting up with their friends and not worrying about being so stylish all the time that's what I advise always.
Speaker 3:I'm like you should wear flats as much as you can like. If I can't see your feet and we're taking pictures, take those shoes off. Yeah, wear flats. Say that for the ceremony. You just must walk down the aisle with your shoes on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't even know, I don't I don't get it.
Speaker 3:Some of them do it because they want a certain height differential, like maybe their fiance is really tall, yeah, and they're like I have to have on heels for these pictures that I get all day long. I got you, you want it to look a certain way, yeah. But if it does not matter, and especially if you are a little self-conscious about being as tall as your fiance, take the shoes off well and and let's be honest you can get height and still be structurally sound like wedges wedges or an espadrille or something, but this the pumps and the stilettos.
Speaker 3:When you're a thick chick, it's so uncomfortable and the older you get, the worse you'll get. You can take it when you're younger if you get older and you've got weight on you. Why are you doing that to yourself? Like my 29 and up. Yes, I said 29.
Speaker 2:You still gotta worry about it what's crazy is, in my 30s I was like a size 24 maybe I had this leopard print pair of stilettos. I had gotten them at a payless on like clearance, and they were like cheap like nine dollars. Weirdly, they fit my feet perfectly and they were so oddly comfortable and they were maybe like three or four inch heels. I wore those fuckers to the office all the time. I know they look like stripper shoes and I loved them and I don't know why I loved them so much. I don't know how I thought they were comfortable, but I would wear them again in a heartbeat In my mind. They were amazing.
Speaker 3:There are good heels, like a Jessica Simpson is a really good heel, for sure, and I can't think of any more right now. But if you find a good pair that you feel comfortable in, definitely test them out beforehand. Wear them for an extended period of time throughout the day, a couple of months before, just so you can see and get a good barometer of what they can do.
Speaker 2:Anyway, heels leads us into clothes in general fashion as far as clothes I mean all my life, camille. I've struggled with finding cute clothes um yes and no, I mean I mean it's gotten better.
Speaker 2:But like I can remember shopping at the old sears crosstown and the the pretty plus section and my mom would just complain and bitch and moan because she couldn't find anything cute in my size and everything fit me awkward or like I don't know just, or it cost a lot more yeah, because it was special, or. And then then by the time lane bryant came into my life I was maybe like in high school or junior high and it was the most basic of basic, but it was something in my size and that was nice. And then torrid came in and was like let's shake shit up. And then they started partnering with like Betsy Johnson and then everything just kind of like took off from there. So now there's all kinds of cute stuff for big girls and now you've got these like fancy dress companies like Ivy City and stuff out there that are going all the way up to like a size 28.
Speaker 3:So, with all these nice things out here, why do you think people and we're going to talk specifically brides, bridesmaids wear stuff that does not complement their body? Because I've still shown up at weddings and been like why was this picked?
Speaker 2:I think sometimes people are not honest with themselves If that's not a word. Yes, that is definitely true so then you gotta consider like okay, if you're having a summer wedding and you're a plus-size bride, are you covering your arms?
Speaker 3:you know, let's go back a little bit. Not even summer wedding your own insecurities. If you don't like your arms, do not have your arms out or you need to have some. Come to jesus, because then I come into the story or have like a custom jacket or something. You can, because you're then asking your photographer hey, I really don't like my arms. Well, why do you have your arms out? What do you think we're going to do with those today?
Speaker 2:Well, I just thought you'd Photoshop my arms and make them look better.
Speaker 3:One, you have to pay for that. And two, in not all cases you can Photoshop. It depends on what's around you, what's beside you, what your arm is doing. Yeah, it, just I don't know. It's not always possible.
Speaker 2:Their arms might end up looking like one of those, like hairless cats.
Speaker 3:So, when it comes to clothing and being plus size if one thing that I have done in life and if you know you're getting married or you, you know that's a possibility maybe start looking around now for the things you need, so when they become available or when you run across it, you save it, you look into it, versus now. I'm on a time clock, now I've got this amount of time to get my dress and nothing will ever appear. When you're on a time crunch Right, I know this from a lifelong series of lessons If you have a time crunch and you're actively looking for something, you're far less likely to find it versus when you're just in your everyday life.
Speaker 2:That's so true. I can't tell you how many times I've needed to find like a specific type of like cocktail dress for like a party on like X day.
Speaker 3:You're not going to find it when you're looking.
Speaker 2:And type of like cocktail dress for like a party on like x day. You're not gonna find it when you're looking and then I start like scrambling to find like the perfect dress and then it just ends up being something I absolutely can't stand and, like I, almost never end up wearing it.
Speaker 3:yeah. So if you take a proactive approach, when you're plus size, you need to be actively looking for things all the time, and that's generally what I do. I have an event that'll probably be next year in May and I bought the dress for it. I just stumbled across a gorgeous dress and just last week decided, oh, that dress I got a couple of months ago, I'm going to wear it today event. So, and now I ran across a pair of shoes that I think will go gorgeous with that and just ran across them. So when you're in your everyday life, if you see things, you might as well try to grab it, especially if it's one of those things that makes your heart stop. You're like, oh, it must be a part of my collection. I bought one last week. Okay, those things make you happy. You have no idea where you're going to wear it to, do you?
Speaker 2:We actually need to pivot back to weddings, right?
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:Okay. So let's talk about your wedding party and their attire. So let's say that you're a bride who's a size 10, but your mom is easily a size 22 okay, and your sister is a size 18 okay. And then you go and you hop online on birdie gray or azazi or one of these sites and you're looking at your bridesmaids options and you're looking at the mother of the dress option or mother of the bride options and things like that. Are you considering their body shapes when you are mentally picking out what they're going to wear? When you click on that image of that one taffeta dress that you love so much and you imagine all your friends wearing that exact dress? Are you thinking about your good pal, sabrina, who is a size 24 and just gave birth to a baby and is probably all up in her postpartum feelings and wants to look her best for you? And then you want to put her in some strapless number in like a funky color that's going to totally make her stand out.
Speaker 3:One thing about bridesmaids' dresses that I've noticed. Noticed, if you have one or a couple of plus size friends and then the other ones are a variety of sizes that don't have things that bulge, if you get a dress that caters to the bigger girl, the rest will be just fine. They may not have anything that's hugging them and, you know, showing off their figure, but there'll be an address. That's nice. Can you belt some or do this? Yes, but they'll still be uniform. Another option is to let every girl have different dress types, like they can be different colors, yes, different um yes, yes, yes, different designs, a line empire, all the different things that will complement their specific body shape.
Speaker 3:Having a uniform dress that is the exact same for six different body types and yes, there can be that many different body types it's just not realistic.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say this I will probably hear backlash for this. I love a wedding party that has different characteristics, different textures, fabrics, colors whatever.
Speaker 3:That's just amazing.
Speaker 2:I love because we get six different dresses, camille, we get a lot of brides who like all of their ladies to look exactly the same same hair.
Speaker 3:Because you're going back to the origins of why they don't even know why they do that, why all the different. For the medieval days, yes, there's a reason why they said all the girls have to look the same, because they all had to look like the bride. Yes, so when? The person showed up to steal the bride. They wouldn't know who to take. So you don't have to keep doing those things, and they're still doing it.
Speaker 2:Yep, we get a lot of ladies where they all have the same hairstyle the same hairpiece, same jewelry style, the same hair piece, same jewelry, and I'm like, wow, I mean they all look like little twins. And that's awkward too, because then you'll have the one, like you know, maybe three of them are size 10, one's a size six, and then there's, like you know, your pal on the end who's maybe a size 20, and they're all trying to look exactly the same, but it's like it looks awkward, it looks weird.
Speaker 3:Yes, because it's like one of these things is not like the other.
Speaker 2:I was thinking it I literally was thinking it in my head and I didn't want to be that person, so I'm glad you started that I'm the person.
Speaker 3:It's okay. I would encourage you to just think about what works for what you are working with, yeah, instead of trying to fit a mold. There's nothing the mold needs to be broken when it comes.
Speaker 2:Here's what's funny, what you want to do. I think 20 years after the event, they're all going to look back at those pictures and say why did I do that to her? Why? A lot of them do. Why did I pick out that dress for her?
Speaker 2:we're not even friends anymore because of that dress please get a stylist that helps to have stylist friends, they'll talk you into it, or follow stylist tiktok yeah, there's so many free trip tips and tricks out there, like I mean, you know, I will get on like pinterest and type in uh, apple shape, plus-size body and clothing.
Speaker 1:I need to do that.
Speaker 2:Like you know, if you know your body type, because they're like Lane Bryant a couple years back had a color code system where they had like yellow triangles and like these blue squares and it talked about different shapes. And, like, my friend, jana worked at Lane Bryant as a manager and she would talk about how, like the triangle shape was like a pear-shaped body and then, like your apple shaped body was like the square, and then some people are just like round, you know, and and I mean I look, apples are a thing. Yep, so you know some girls.
Speaker 2:I mean I kind of feel like I'm apple because I got I got a big old middle here, but like my butt is not like Kardashian level or anything, it's just fat Okay.
Speaker 3:All right, I don't squat. I might be a pair. I don't know, you got some boobies. I mean, they're not as big as the bottom at all.
Speaker 2:You know, it's funny because, as I was always fluffy, I just assumed that being fluffy meant that you would get boobs.
Speaker 3:That is not the case. No, that is not the case. What you get is not what you think it's going to be.
Speaker 2:I even tried, like standing on my head as a kid. What?
Speaker 3:is that going to do?
Speaker 2:Supposedly gravity was going to help. I never heard that one and I would like lay on my stomach so that all of my weight would like move forward. You know, yeah, I'm telling you I wanted, isn't that like laying? Oh, laying on your stomach, yeah, like I wanted. I didn't want, like my boobs, to be tiny, I wanted them to level out, and they never really got where I wanted them little.
Speaker 3:Did you know? You live in a time where you can just pay money and get your boobs yep and like you, did all that work for nothing.
Speaker 2:You can make them do tricks. Now I mean, I'm okay, they practically glow okay. So we've already said get a stylist, consult a stylist friend, follow someone on tiktok and you know and be honest, like be communicative about what's going on in your head, because you might have a friend who could totally hook you up with somebody that could help you. You know, use your resources. Yeah, like you know, don't just sit there and stew in silence about it okay, you were saying something about flowers and that oh yeah, oh yeah, you totally can you have brides that have?
Speaker 3:they have tummy, they're tummy conscious, they're like oh I don't want my stomach to do this or show you can get a bouquet made that is so gorgeous that will block all that, or just use your bouquet to block it.
Speaker 2:And sometimes, like, even the colors of the flowers or the style of the flowers can play a part in how you photograph. Like if you know that you're a wider person, you don't want a bouquet that's going to be so, like all the same color that it draws the eye to where it's like wow, look, how wide that is.
Speaker 2:You know and yeah, like you want something that's going to like draw attention away from any of your unwanted areas okay you know, or maybe you want more of a cascade style bouquet that's going to kind of like add some length and make you look taller or something. There's definitely ways to work with your, your florist and I think a good florist, to be honest. They can kind of read the room Like they can look at a bride and just envision it.
Speaker 2:Like, like Ty would be the type of guy he could look at a bride and be like girl I know what you need, like, and he could just make it. Yeah, I'm going to do this. Yeah, and he would make something that was so artistic that you were so drawn to the flowers that you weren't even really looking at the bride.
Speaker 3:To be honest, On that note, speaking of the aesthetic, let's talk about photos. Oh yeah, and how, being a plus-size person, this is, and hiring the right photographer that knows how to work with a plus-size person yes, have they had.
Speaker 3:Do they have it on their portfolio? Ask them, point blank and simple hey, do you work with plus-size people? Do you know how to pose them? Yeah, can't. What can you do with me? Because I have this insecurity I don't like this to show. Now, be realistic. But have that conversation with your photographer and tell them about your insecurities, what you don't like to show, how you want to be seen in your wedding photos. They can help and guide you on that day and if you get it, if you get a photographer like me, maybe they have tips to tell you on how to hold your body or what to do to get that more desired look or aesthetic that you're going for yeah, and if you're a wedding pro, that's out there and you're trying to portray the fact that you're inclusive.
Speaker 2:you have to portray that you're inclusive.
Speaker 2:You can't just go around posting the same types of couples every single week on your socials, because all it shows is that that's all you want to work with and I actually sat with a client on Saturday and she mentioned to me that one of the reasons they had chosen to hire us was because we were super inclusive on our social media. She said it looked like y'all did every race, color, gender, whatever. She said and you know, even though we're a straight couple, she said I know my friends. And she said I know that we're going to have a mixed group and I wanted everybody to be very comfortable with our vendors. And she said so we conscientiously picked vendors that were all inclusive and I think that's pretty cool it is.
Speaker 2:It's a good time so I'm like you know. I think that when I first moved back to memphis and started doing events, there was a photographer named caitlin stoddard oh yeah, she's awesome.
Speaker 2:um, she is like a former model, but she was posting plus-size brides online and getting a lot of love about her things that she was posting. And I remember having met her and she wasn't plus-size, she was gorgeous and I liked that. She knew how to pose them, where they didn't look just round, they actually looked like people that were sexy and attractive and you, I didn't see a lot of that in the bridal world. I felt like everything I was saying that was like a plus size bridal looked old school, like very traditional, like they were afraid to move her body stand yeah, yeah, do this yeah it's got a lot better where people are boldly showing off different bodies, because people comes in.
Speaker 3:People come in different shapes and sizes, different heights. I had a couple yesterday where my bride is a little taller than her uh, her fiance and she was a little older and she had a little bit of a stomach, but she showed up and she had some confidence and I was like okay, all right, let's do this.
Speaker 3:I was gonna help you with that. But you showing up with some helps too, but there was posing that we did. Uh, we had a conversation about her not being so comfortable, him being shorter than her, why she wore heels, I don't know so so, but having him stand more forward in the frame, yeah like have her kind of come around or something.
Speaker 3:We'll have her like back a little bit, like if you're doing posing, it's not just them hugging each other. Yeah, you can stand her back there just a little bit and him maybe four steps forward, yeah, and it makes him look taller in the frame, and then then also finding like I got lucky this day and I had like a little slight heel, so having him stand more up the heel a little bit is just he's standing right there but it doesn't look like I deliberately put him on top of something, right, but there's ways you can do it to kind of deal with that. So, long story short, I was dealing with a height difference and a body situation that I was trying to make her feel like she was her best.
Speaker 2:I remember sometimes when we'll do the rehearsals, when we're practicing the night before a wedding, I always talk to the wedding party about how their bodies are going to photograph and I explain how they don't like want to just stand full frontal forward and how they want to put a little twist in their hip just to kind of create a little shape. Yeah, I think they photograph better. It makes them look taller. The importance of rolling your shoulders back and dropping them I mean it immediately like makes your back a little straighter. It feels good.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:And so just being conscientious about, like, where you're putting your hands. How are you standing? Are you putting more of your weight on, like your back foot? Are you, you know, are you putting your? Are the guys putting their hands in their pockets or their thumbs in their pockets? You know some guys. I want them to look exactly the same, some don't care, and so I just want to talk about what look they're portraying to the audience and the photographers. So we talk a lot about that and I will say your lineup matters with talls and smalls and plus size people too. Like, sometimes it's so awkward when you're like that one groomsman and you're a fluffy dude.
Speaker 2:Let's say you're a six foot four 325 pound guy and you gave me the biggest. That's a huge guy. I mean, those are my kind of guys.
Speaker 2:I like a big guy. Okay, you know, you get a dude like that and then you pair them up with the opposite end of the wedding party and maybe she's like a five foot four, 120 pound little sorority girl. It's so awkward and so, you know, sometimes you kind of got to think about like your lineup and what that's going to look like. You got to consider, like, where you're getting your men's attire too. You know a lot. A lot of places would say, oh well, I went to men's warehouse because they've got all this variety. Well, they probably still have some limitations on their sizing. You know, you might want to check with different local tech companies and see what their sizing looks like. You know, before you make some commitments, don't just assume that one blue suit is going to be identical to another blue suit.
Speaker 3:Gotcha.
Speaker 2:You know Cumberland's on big dudes.
Speaker 3:Anyway, we have been running our mouths, but there's so much you can talk about when it comes to plus size clothing having a plus size wedding day.
Speaker 2:Just thinking about those things. If you have any questions that relate to having plus size wedding issues, reach out to us, send us a message.
Speaker 3:We'd love to talk about it here we obviously have experience in this area of being a bride ourselves yes plus size brides saying that let's go ahead and get wrapped up wrap it up like a burrito we? Why? Why would you talk about burritos on the fat girl episode? Because I'm hungry.
Speaker 2:Anywho Gotcha.
Speaker 3:Yeah, All right guys. With that, let's go ahead and wrap this episode up. We hope that you've greened Feel enlightened.
Speaker 2:Enlightened here's what I will say. We are both assets for anybody who is needing help with a plus size wedding issue, whether it's attire, finding the right makeup artist or a hair person, or whatever it may be. If you are looking for a certain type of style that's going to go with your body type, or if you need rental advice or whatever, hit us up, send us a dm and you know. That way we can maybe try to either steer you towards the local vendor that we know or give you some free advice, and then we can talk about it on the show.
Speaker 3:So I'm down for that. Yeah, all right. If you guys have any questions, you know to dm us at pop the question podcast. We'll talk to you guys next time.
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