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Extraordinary People

• Shaunda Pendleton • Episode 51

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I deal with many people in my line of work, but I had my first interaction with someone who has to mentally fight with themselves to be "normal".

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One of them being people who come in high

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deal with people who are

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like drunk.

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But, I wanna say, with this customer

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He definitely had a mental Problem issue

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I feel bad for him and whatever

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he's fighting with in his mind. It must be a really, really big struggle for a person to fight with yourself in your mind, knowing that

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you're, you're good,

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right? Like you're good, but then on my end, you're not good, right?

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them just being the normal selves, like that's just

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them on a daily basis

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It's just how they're working with their brain. They can't be who they are because then we look at him. It's like you're like

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really crazy

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welcome back to my 51st episode of

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I'm Just Sharing with Shonda. I am Shonda. Hey guys. Hey, happy Thursday. Welcome.

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Welcome. I'm super excited to say that this is my 51st.

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Uh,

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it made me think about like

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the consistency part about it and trying to stay up and making

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sure that I get every episode out every Thursday. But as I said

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before, life is life. Things happen.

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Um, Um, so I feel like I've missed at least three uploads on a Thursday. So

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that, I was looking at that, you know,

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you, you, you just keep on moving. You just

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on going. So that's what I do.

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Um, other than that, I want to say what wasn't going to stop me too, is that I broke my lens of

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camera, my Sony camera.

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And this is what the second

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that I had to like purchase. My first lens, uh, The light fell on

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top of the camera. The camera fell forward

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it broke the lens like, uh, broke, broke. So I had to purchase that.

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I believe I got

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on

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Amazon. I think

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at the time it was a deal on Amazon where I got it for like 79, whatever.

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Then this one, because this

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broke, I'm like,

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okay, I gotta keep on moving. Gotta keep on going. This lens back on Amazon is 119. I was like, ah, big. Whoa. Don't have that right now, but luckily I

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my 15 pro and that

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is what

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this is recorded

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off of so Hey, I hope it's

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and it's still the same Um,

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Maybe even better than my camera, but I move on. I just wanted to give an

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update on like what's going on about

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that, but

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do appreciate the love and support that i've gotten um Before i'm just sharing with shonda. I have

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followers who are following people who like. People who DM, no emails yet, but I hope that changes

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on down in the

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future. But I know that with people who do

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out and say that they want to be on the podcast is like super, super, super

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like, exciting and warming in my heart

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they want to be on something like this. And I'm very excited. It's just working with schedules

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and

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also figuring out audio. It is something that I'm learning and going for, but

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I think for people's

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patients and the patients themselves,

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time.

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Um,

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but that's just a little update. I want to move forward on what

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I'm going to be talking about in this episode. So in this episode, I just wanted to talk about how I've dealt with, um, many customers who come in,

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right. And it's many

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different customers who, you know,

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Whatever they

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to do to get through the day and how I have to deal with them. One of them being people who come in high, they're cool, you know, real laid back, but like repeating myself with certain things. I'm like, bro. I don't know how many times I got to say this, but this is what you're asking for. I said it. This is what you're getting. Get it.

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Um, I have to also deal with people who are

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like drunk. The hoes.

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always do. I know how to do with

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those people like people who are drunk

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I'm like, Yeah, bro, like I

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can entertain the conversation for just a little bit But when you

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go back and forth and

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can't stand up i'm like bro I

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think

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just

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need to go

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I can get you help. I can go get you some

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water, whatever you need. But they just go anyway. They usually, for the

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drunk ones,

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they usually come

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in to pay a bill and then they be on their way. But sometimes when

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they're trying to get into buying a phone, I'm

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I can't do this with you until you're sober, bro. Like I cannot get into this conversation with you drunk right now. Because you're all over the place and I'm not trying to be all over the place with you. So we gotta move on.

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But, I wanna say, with this customer

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that came into the store, I never dealt with before. He definitely had a mental Problem issue.

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I never dealt with somebody.

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I believe he was I'm trying not to judge a book by its color But what cover

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but what

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I got from him is that he was he was

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either bipolar or

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schizophrenic

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And I want to say, um, with what I had to

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with had to like really tread lightly on the

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on the conversations

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we were having. Um,

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when he first came into the store, I want to say he was like came off,

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was very direct on what he wanted that he wanted to move his number from a different company over to us and he wanted to under a business account. I'm like, cool money. Got you. Um, got his name, gave him

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my name. We started off

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like a different like conversations, which was really nice. We were just going back and forth on what he

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was doing and what he does for a living and

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What he accomplished

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at the age of 26.

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he's done a lot. I'm like, you go boy. You go, you

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Dang, I'm stuck in this job. I've been here for a while and I try to get out when I can. And that's about it.

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But you ran a club? He, uh, traveled, went to Mexico, got his own, uh, clothing line, also managed CEO, some other place. I'm like, all right, cool. Yeah. Um,

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so with

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him saying that, he said that he

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just had to step out real

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quick. Cause he said that he was shopping to go different places. He had to go to the jewelry store. That was like,

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you know, where we are. And

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like, oh, okay, cool. So, um, with setting everything up,

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Waited for him for

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a couple of minutes, I'm like, all right, cool. I'm waiting for him to get the sale. He going to come back. He does come back. I see that his clothes, it looked like he spilled a drink on himself. And I'm like, oh, okay. He

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comes back and he was just like, yeah, did you do everything? I said,

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well, no, I need your, you know, ID. I need the card. I The account number and pin to get everything over,

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Um, with him, I

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want to say everything started off pretty good. He started to like, from what I noticed, like the first thing that he started to do was like, take things

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out of his bag.

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organize it, then put it back in his bag and put it back. And

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then

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like, yeah. And he says, so what do you need for me? I said, the account number and the pin, um, from your company. So we can move over the number. He's like, Oh, okay. Gotcha. Yeah. And then

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he would do it again. He would

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everything out of his bag, then put it back, but then he took it out again. And he was just like, yo. And then we would have a conversation.

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He had a lot of

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knowledge to drop. It was pretty good on what he told me and how he makes money online and stuff like that. I'm like, okay, yeah, there you go. Um, and then he told me that he journaled.

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journaled.

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I was like, okay, cool. I'm still waiting for what I need to, to start this process. But He's having a conversation with me. He says that he journals. So I was like, okay, cool. Um, you know, I try to journal too, not, you know, as much as I can and all that good jazz. And, um, from there, he just started to ask me like these random questions and he just started to write down things like, Oh shit,

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he's about to do

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little trick thing where he probably might write down something to see something. So he first started off is like his initials on there. So, you know, I use this. My signature to sign the checks. I said, okay, cool. And then he also did in that his logo ish sign for, uh, his signature on that. And then he asked me, like,

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Where do you,

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where do you see yourself fitting in this? I said, I'm not sure. And he

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circled like a little, made a

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little target on the inside, and he was

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like, yeah, right

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right there.

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And I was like, Oh, what's

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Right in the middle? Oh, nice.

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And then he started to

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I asked more questions. As I answered, he would write this down or like scribble down from what I'm seeing.

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And I was like, okay, maybe

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this is going to lead into something.

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And then I'm like,

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um, after he asked me the question, he asked me, what is my initial for my first name?

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Um, a letter

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my first name. And I

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was like, S. He started

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to shake, like shake really bad and then also tear up. And I'm like, okay. And, um, He said, mine. And as

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you know, his voice

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like breaking up. And he said, my last name starts with an S. I'm like, oh yeah.

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And,

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um,

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then he starts scribbling some more on the

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paper. And, um,

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then he

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shaking again. He asks me, what's my childhood, like, cartoon? I said, Bugs Bunny. And he said, mine's

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Bluey. Bluey died. And I was like, I'll

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so sorry. Like, And he starts like crying a little bit and shaking. And I was like, Oh my gosh, like, are you okay? Like,

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I just don't know what to do. Like,

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is

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everything all right? And he just like wiped off his tears

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and got right back into the normal.

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He wasn't

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anymore. He laughed it off after asking another question. And I'm like, okay. And

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then he puts everything back

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his bag and then says that he was going to be right back. And

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I said, okay, um, just whenever you come back, I'm

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need that account number and pin. And he said, yeah, I got you. So, um, minutes go by, I'm dealing with another customer. After dealing with them, he comes back in. Um, this time he shows me, he said, did

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everything go through?

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said, no, I was still waiting for that account number and pin, all the information I need from you. He said, oh, okay, but do you have a band aid? And I was like, uh, yeah, I have a band aid. He shows that he has a cut on his hand.

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little small cut.

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He was like, Harry, like I'm bleeding. It wasn't too big, but he was bleeding. And so I gave him a, uh, bandaid. I put it on for him.

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And then when I looked at

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look again, on top of

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his forehead, he has like a, like

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like a scar. So it looks like he hit his head up against a wall or whatever he did, he bruised himself. I don't know what I have to do, but try to keep him

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in the now,

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Keep him calm. Keep him in the moment. Um, so I just started asking him like a couple of questions

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about like what he's

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been doing, what his, why he get into his like clothing line, his business, his YouTube page, and just started to,

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you know, just try to get

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know him. Um, in those moments with talking to him, he did still have like, uh, uh, shaking and getting emotional. So I was like, oh man, oh man, I really don't know what to do in this moment. And then I realized I'm really not going to get anything out of him. Um, he did seem pretty like he did want to do it. Like he was so focused on doing it, but he just had so much going on in his mind.

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And I just knew that I

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I need to just

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make sure that treating this man

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no more as possible. Like I could tell, um,

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that he was struggling. And It got a little bit

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a little bit weary

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just because

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like his demeanor and how he like changed up

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He, he sort of

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of got on the defensive

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and then looked like he gave you

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this look and it was

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super cool but very scary. He, he, uh, got his vape

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out He smoked on the vape

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and like just made this pouty face and but like

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little bit big So two things were going through my mind about like wow, this

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could probably

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three things

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like, wow,

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is cool

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Other things like. I feel bad for him and whatever

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he's fighting with in his mind. It must be a really, really big struggle for a person to fight with yourself in your mind, knowing that

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you're, you're good,

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right? Like you're good, but then on my end, you're not good, right?

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Other thing is that this

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is a very scary, I don't know what is going through his mind or what he could be thinking. Could he hurt me?

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It was just like so many things that were going

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through my mind,

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that I feel so bad that with people who have to

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fight and struggle with themselves to be as normal as possible. And um,

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I think it was like twice he left, he came back. And then

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I went on my break after the second time.

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my

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worker said that he did come back when I was on my break and said that he'd come back in like two weeks. And, um, with my co workers, she said that she dealt like firsthand with somebody who is bipolar and schizophrenic and that he has to take medicine.

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And I know that with

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medicine that, you know, doctors give you, it

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makes

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super down and probably depressed

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and how you

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to work with your emotions and fight and do it all the time. It's very hard to do that and that people hate taking those so if the people who

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don't take them, they're just trying to go on as normal

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possible without taking those pills. So it's just very interesting on Don't support people taking them because I mean I haven't taken but seeing how down that it makes them and that they just don't like the way how it makes them feel that they just rather not take it but then when they don't take it in being around

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people and them just being the normal selves, like that's just

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them on a daily basis

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It's just how they're working with their brain. Um,

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that they

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they can't be who they are because then we look at him. It's like you're like

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really crazy

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You know, like you're, you're going through a lot of stuff. You're really, you have a really bad mental problem, but you just got to work around it. Um, I've only supported is when people are doing harm to themselves and like with

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having that situation

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of having a cut on his hand and a bruise on his forehead. Um, you know, him probably doing something and him fighting himself that he probably injured himself

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I feel that the

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support and the need for pills, but,

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um,

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yeah, it was just very interesting. I want

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say he did try to end up

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calling somebody like he called somebody on the phone, um, and asked about a pool party and she was like,

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we're not going to make it to the pool party. And if he

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started like shaking again, crying, then immediately hang hung up with her. And then with the person who he was getting

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the account with, which is his dad, I recommend like, do you want to call your dad? See what he says? Um,

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And then he like switched the conversation with like, Oh,

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you know, uh, it's

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this FBI agent that I

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that this FBI agent,

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like he, he helps me and in

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this way. And I'm like, Oh, okay.

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I said, I don't know what to say or what to

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if

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this guy gets on the phone, hopefully it doesn't get me in trouble, you know, just trying to lighten up the mood. But that was just like the interaction that I had. It just made me think about how

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Having a

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conversation with them and just trying to figure it out and seeing how it is very scary that some people don't get to talk about it. And with this situation, he didn't really want to talk about it, but he can tell that I was concerned. But, you know, he just wanted to move on with what he was doing or what he was trying

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do.

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He did shop and got

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other things,

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um,

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in

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the mall and then came back to me. But once I noticed that I was just like, you know, I can't really

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Get anything out

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of him and I hope that everything goes good. You

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I just like I'll see you the It

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was pretty interesting, the

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with

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that. I just never dealt with a

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of person like that before and

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in the store for however long I have never dealt with

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a

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person like that. They're always like the other people that I always deal with are drunk people or high people, but never somebody who has like a really bad mental problem in dealing with it.

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So that was a pretty interesting interaction

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that I've had with somebody, but it just made

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think of

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how we as a people and community, like, have to treat people who are mentally, like, have a mental problem and who needs pills to

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cope

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To try to treat them as normal as possible, that they're just a person at the end of the day. And, yeah.

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Um,

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Hopefully that came across cool, but I just wanted to share it. I

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wanted to

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share that experience, uh, with everybody on here. So. Please remember

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to

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rate, like, comment, and subscribe to

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Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. If you'd like to

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share your experience with me, please email me at

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imjustsharingpod

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at gmail. com. Um, I again appreciate

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people

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who like DM me and ask me if they want to be on the podcast. I am working that out and I will definitely reach out to you when I can. So, I will

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see

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you guys all

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in the next one. Bye.