Feeling Behind in Life? Here's the Truth You Need to Hear!

Achieve Life Mastery and Embrace Your Unique Journey | The Breakfast Club

Feeling left behind? Discover the transformative journey to Life Mastery, hosted by Josh Valentin. In this episode, Josh discusses key insights and practical advice to help you realign with your personal growth timeline. Learn about the upcoming Life Mastery event and the 21 Days to Transformation Challenge designed to reset your life. Josh also shares tips on maintaining a balanced and proactive mindset, the importance of gratitude, and actionable steps to audit your life and set achievable goals. Join the session to find motivation, inspiration, and the clarity needed to navigate your unique life path.

00:00 Introduction to Life Mastery
00:55 21 Days to Transformation Challenge
02:40 Proactive Living and Emotional Mastery
05:00 Engagement and Community Interaction
06:36 Life Hacks and Personal Stories
10:14 Overcoming the Feeling of Being Behind
25:14 Mindset Shifts for a Better Life
25:24 Whose Clock Are You Living By?
25:53 The Changing American Dream
28:16 Embracing Progress Over Perfection
29:57 Purpose Over Pressure
31:03 Five Action Steps to Realign Your Life
43:56 Affirmations and Closing Thoughts

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if you're feeling left behind, here's the truth you need to hear. Life Mastery, for those of you who don't know, I've been hosting it for many years and. Typically we bring in different guests to share their expertise. And it's essentially a holistic approach to making your life better. So we cover all different aspects of your life. Think of it like the Breakfast Club, like a master class of everything we cover throughout the course of the year on the Breakfast Club, but over the course of. A two day webinar. So make sure that you get yourself registered. If you need the link for whatever reason shoot me a dm. I'll send you the link to life mastery so you guys can get registered. It's going to be free for everyone. We're also going to have it posted up on our knowledge and inspiration Facebook group. For those of you who are not in the Facebook group, make sure you send me a dm. That way I can add you. And outside of that, we also have. The 21 Days to Transformation challenge getting kick started here in two days. On Thursday we'll be kickstarting our 21 Days to Transformation Challenge. For those of you. Who are again, new to the Breakfast Club and you have no idea what the 21 Days of Transformation Challenge is. This is basically it right here. It is 21 to dos in 21 days. So as you can see, it's pretty much things that could essentially make your life better. Let's just say. For example you need to work on getting more sleep. One of 21 Seduces is getting a minimum of seven hours of sleep. Also waking up at least 30 minutes earlier, right? With no snooze, different things like that. Journaling going over your calendar. For those of you who. Need more planning no, no gossiping, complaining or excuses. Tidying up your space having a day of rest throughout the week, all kinds of stuff. The 21 to dos. For those of you who've never embarked on the 21 days of transformation challenge, I can assure you right now, the 21 to dos will definitely help you reset. I know a lot of people are long overdue for a reset. Especially for those of you who've been, setting those new year resolutions and maybe you put the new year resolutions on the back burner by the time February rolled around and you need that reset. The halfway point of the year for our community is typically a great time to just reset yourself and get back on track with everything that you've been, putting on the back burner. With that being said we're about to. Jump into today's main topic and before we do that, we have some shares for you all. So let's jump into the very first share. The first one is have a proactive day. Have a proactive day. Today summon one of the four endowments. And the four endowments are self-awareness conscience. Independent will and imagination. When you feel yourself becoming reactive, try to use each one over the course of the day. So ask yourself, what's going on in my life today that might affect my proactivity? Proactive people are the creative force of their own lives. They choose their own way and take responsibility for the results. Reactive people see themselves as victims. Here's a really great quote by Stephen Covey. Every human being has four endowments, self-awareness, conscience, independent will, and creative imagination. This gives us the ultimate human freedom, the power to choose. So this is from the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People flashcards. And next up, we have, you are the source of all your emotions. At any moment, you can create or change them. So why don't we? For most of us, feeling bad is natural, yet we have to have a reason to feel good. But you don't need an excuse to allow yourself to feel good. You can just decide to feel good right now simply because you are alive, simply because you want to. You don't have to wait for anything or anyone. Really. Great share. And last but not least, we have, what's the best way to deal with the negative emotions? There are several common ineffective responses. You can ignore your emotions. Of course, they don't go away. You can suppress them, but they just come out in some other way. You can indulge in them and just feel sorry for yourself. That doesn't make anything better. You can try to compete by saying you think you've got it bad. I've got it even worse. Of course, the more intelligent thing is to transform them by dealing effectively with the situation, looking for solutions and learning from and using your emotions to enhance your life and the lives of all those you have the privilege to touch. So really great share and before we jump into. Some more shares here. If you guys don't mind, drop a comment. Let us know where in the world you are tuning in from. If you are watching the replay, drop an R in the comments for replay. And if you're watching Live Drop in l and I know we have been live streaming on many different social media platforms, but you can also watch the, or you listen to the breakfast Club live with me. You can engage live with me@dnbreakfastclub.com. So if you hop over to dn breakfast club.com, you can engage live with me every single week, and you can also hop over to the YouTube channel. You can go over to the Journey podcast. Find me as well. Just type in wherever podcast, but stream the journey with Josh Valentine and you'll be able to find me as well. Okay? Welcome, welcome everyone. Happy to be here on with you all. I see we have port St. Lucy in the house. We got Stewart, Florida. We got Brooklyn, New York. We've got Texas. We've got Jamaica. Welcome. Welcome everyone. Happy to be here with you all as always. Man, I'm excited for this week because life Mastery is just a great time to reflect on your life. It's a great time to just get that reset that you need. It's a great time to, get back on track with I. Everything that, that you need to get back on track with, sometimes life is life and then it gets really challenging, just keeping up with it all. And I know the Life Mastery Halftime event in particular is just always just a great time to get yourself back in the game. Let's see here. We're about to jump into some more shears. Okay? I have some life hacks for you guys. Instead of going to dinner and a movie I. Go to the movie first and then dinner this way. At dinner, you have something to talk about. So I know for me, dinner and movies is like the ultimate date night. Like I love MA good movie and also some good food. We had some friends over for the weekend. My best friend Lamar Thompson many of you know of him. He travels all around the world. You probably have seen him and his wife, Vicki. Traveling around the world with us. And it's just been a great time just doing life with them. And for those of you who don't have a core tribe, I definitely recommend get yourself like a good solid core tribe of people that you can travel with. People who are equally yolked people who are like-minded, people who are just open-minded even to trying new things and growing with you. I can tell you right now friendships and relationships have been one of the areas of my life that has served me the most. And that was really cool because 4th of July weekend my friends Lamar and Vicki they flew down and we had a bunch of fun and we were actually prepping for our creators conference. We got to shoot a podcast episode, create content. And so much incredible things. And shout out to Lamar and Vicki. I know they jump on the Breakfast Club from time to time as well. And find yourself some really solid friends. That's really what I wanna leave you guys with because it's just, it makes life so much better when you have genuine people to do life with. And, it was pretty cool'cause my, my wife was with us and my kids are actually they're spending their summer in The Bahamas with my in-laws and their family out there. And it is just a really beautiful thing to, to witness, kids being able to just spend time with their family. I remember as a kid, just summer breaks, is so exciting to. Get around your cousins and all that good stuff, but it also freed up our time to be able to do some more things. So it was really cool just being able to hang out and just live a I don't even know what to call it, but live life without having to parent every single day. And for those of you who are parents, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It is nice to get a break from time to time, but next life hack we have is. When nothing goes right, go to sleep. Now, that's probably not gonna be practical advice for every single scenario, but. I know that there's nothing a good nap can't handle. Like after taking a good nap, sometimes you just need a reset. Yesterday, it was just one of those challenging days for me, and having just a, taking a quick nap, it always just helps you reset. And if you find yourself moody throughout the day or you're going through a very challenging circumstance, if you have the ability, just take a nap. Go for a walk sometimes. You're hungry and low on energy and don't even realize because you're on adrenaline and get yourself a good meal. Go for a walk, get some exercise if you need to take some time for some breathing exercises, whatever it is that you have to do to get yourself reset. But sometimes we just need those subtle reminders. We need those reminders to, say, you know what, life has been life in today, and it's been super challenging. I've been going through it emotionally and it always helps to just get that reset. And maybe it's a nap. Maybe it's getting yourself hydrated because sometimes our emotional flare ups a lot of what contributes to that is just dehydration and things like that. Just go a long way, right? Like just the simple things that we tend to forget. So let's jump into the meat and potatoes of today's breakfast club. We have tons of food for thought, and I love those corny no pun intended things to say. And today my goal is really to help you guys reframe the feeling of being behind and to recognize the illusion of comparison and give you practical tools to get back into alignment. With your own specific timelines. So I don't know about y'all, but I most certainly have had tons and tons of moments throughout my life, just feeling behind. And I know a lot of people can relate to this, and that's why I thought it was definitely a really great idea to just cover this topic in particular because even for those of you who are, you know now, like halfway through the year and you're like, man, I'm so behind on all of my goals that I set early in the year, and I see so many people on social media who are just so ahead of me. And maybe you feel that way with, your career. Maybe you feel that way with your finances. Maybe you feel that way with. Your family life. You haven't had, children yet, and you're like, man, I feel so, so behind with life. Or, it, we all tend to fall into this trap of not feeling like we're where we need to be. And if you've ever felt that way, if you guys don't mind drop a one in the comments. If you've ever felt like there was a period of your life or maybe even right now where you just feel behind with so many different things. Sometimes it is like you may feel behind, but there are moments where you really behind, like you may be behind on your bills and you're like, Josh, like it ain't even a matter of feeling behind. I am behind on a lot of things right now. You may be behind on your taxes, you may be behind on your bills and all that stuff, and. This Breakfast Club session is definitely going to be for you, for those of you who feel behind, and it's so important to just make yourself or just not fall into the trap of comparing yourself, because that's really what all of this is rooted in. We tend to just compare ourselves, and in the world of social media, there's this phenomenon now where it's referred to as relative deprivation and relative deprivation is. When you're finding yourself getting depressed because you're comparing yourself to everybody else. Not realizing or just forgetting that these people who post on social media just post up their highlights. They're not posting up like a lot of the bad aspects of their life or the aspects of the, their lives that aren't so great, no one's just there just posting all of their problems on social media. Maybe some people, but for most people, they're not posting all of their problems on social media. And it's important to, to remember this because you're just looking at a bunch of highlight reels, not realizing that even for the people who seem to have it all figured out. Even myself, like I have tons of things that I deal with on an everyday basis when it comes to life and all kinds of challenges, but you'll never hear about it on social media. So you have to be mindful of that, like just always falling into the trap of comparing yourself. Run your own race, run your own race. That's one of the best things that you can do on this journey. Okay now have you ever looked at someone else's life and thought. Wow. I should be so much further by now. And if that's the case for you, then again today we're going to be unpacking that sinking feeling of being behind and help you rewrite the story you've been telling yourself, because that's really what it is. You have this narrative in your mind. That, okay, it has to all be perfect or it has to fall in this specific timeline. I remember that was the case for me, like I wanted to be a millionaire by 25, right? I don't know who the hell like told me that was like the standard, but it's just a ridiculous standard to set for yourself, especially being that by 25 years old you're still like figuring yourself out. And I remember just thinking that to myself. And I remember one of the businesses that I was in the early days. I wanted to be at the very top of that business, not understanding that there's a process. There's a growth process that also has to happen internally before reaching these milestones. And oftentimes if you really got your goals in the timeline that you want it, you won't become the person you need to be. Because remember, success is not something you obtain. Success is something you attract by the person you ultimately become. Understand that, and I'll say that again. For those of you in the back of the classroom, success is not something you obtain. It's something you attract by becoming the person you need to become. That's really what it's about. I remember Jim Rowan would oftentimes say that, don't become a millionaire for the sake of. Just getting money, like become a millionaire. You should wanna become a million a millionaire because of who you become in the process. That's really the idea because in order to even sustain a million dollars, think about it. Who do you have to become? What kind of value do you have to add to the world? How responsible do you have to be? How disciplined do you have to be? How consistent you have to be in order to make a million dollars? So important to understand. There's so many people out there that they want to put the, the cart before the horse, the carriage before the horse, and just not understanding that there's a process to this. That's with anything you wanna become successful in there. There's a germination process that has to take place where you're becoming the person that you need to become in order to have what it is that you want. And typically things that you know, let's just say things that are great in life. If you wanna be great, understand that there is a capacity for responsibility that you have to have in order to sustain that. Any person of greatness has a great capacity for what they can be responsible for. So now the first thing that you know I think is a great aspect of this to cover is the root feeling behind just not feeling like you're doing things on the right timeline, right? There's a root cause to that, and it often starts with comparison. So that can be on social media, that can be your peers. That can be family expectations. Maybe you're comparing yourself to a sibling or someone in your family that maybe they're making the six figure income. Maybe they went to college right out of high school and they went to a good college and they went and landed a really great career right out of college. And you're now comparing yourself to that. Maybe your family had these crazy expectations for you to. Take a specific path, and that's why you're feeling the way that you feel, but you have to identify what is the root cause for you feeling like you're behind. Okay? Now understand we're also, most of the time chasing timelines. We never even agree to. For example, you may have this timeline where you are gonna be married by 30 and have children by 30 years old. Or a millionaire by 25 or 30, or your dream life by 40, and understand that this feeling is not true, right? It's a perception. It's not necessarily true. There's no rule book to say, oh, you have to have children. All of your children by 30, or you have to, have your house by 35. There's no rule book per se. It's just, you're like making these comparisons and looking at everybody else's life and understand that you are not behind. You're just on a different chapter than everyone else. You're not behind. There are so many stories of really incredible people that they didn't have their breakaway success until later on in life. You look at people like for example Gary v. Gary Vaynerchuk, for those of you who know him, mega influencer. And he, at 30 years old, he was still working at his dad's liquor store, right? And today, the dude is making a quarter million dollars of speech and has, companies that are doing extremely well. Is influencing millions of people on a day-to-day basis. And again, at 30 years old, he was running his dad's liquor store, right? You look at people like Colonel Sanders. Colonel Sanders didn't really take off with KFC until his sixties, right? Warren Buffet didn't become a billionaire until after, reaching his fifties. Then there are tons and tons of stories like this where people had their breakaway success later on in life. I know people one of my really good friends just got married now for the first time in her life, in her fifties, right? Imagine if she had all the pressure of just getting married in her thirties. Her life would look very different today. And she married her dream spouse right in her fifties. There are people even deciding to have children in their fifties. There's so many options today, whether it's a, IIVF or IVF and or surrogate or whatever you have adoption, so many different options today that you can choose to even have children later on in life. So it's so important to understand that don't go on anybody else's timeline. You do what's right for you, right? Because for example. Today I look at a lot of people who are my age, who are having mega success, mega success. A lot of some of my biggest inspirations today are, these guys and gals that are killing it right now in their, some are even early thirties. And the thing about it is that what I've noticed is many of them. Don't even have children. And imagine if I was comparing myself to people that don't have any children that have the ability to put in 70, 80, 90 hour work weeks. Like I would be insane to compare myself to someone that doesn't have any children and they could dedicate every ounce of their being to their work. So that's what I mean by running your own race. I'm also married and there's those obligations and it's a completely different ball game. So I have to always remind myself of that. Hey your journey is completely different than that other person's journey. Now when I'm like, let's just say my kids are off to school and now things really take off because my wife and I at that point will be empty nesters and we can dedicate a lot more time to our work. So again. Everybody's path is different. Now. You may, let's just say, decide to have children in your forties and then you slow down, right? And maybe you dedicated your twenties and thirties to just working all the time, and now you finally decide to settle down and have a family. So it really just depends. It really just depends. It's interesting because one of the things that I was talking about with my friends Lamar and Vicki, they're married they're like mid thirties, no children, but they travel all around the world and they have an amazing lifestyle and, their path was a little bit opposite than ours. Like now they're, finally deciding to have children are considered having children at this stage, but. I started at 25 having children and we just said, you know what, let's knock'em out early. And again, two completely different life paths. And it's not to say that one is better than the other. You just have to make a decision that whatever timeline God has in store for you, you, you go about that timeline and you make the most of it. Okay, so next we have understand that. Everyone feels this way. So for those of you who are like beating up on yourself about just feeling like you're behind, everybody feels that way to some degree, and it may be different for some people. For some people they may be they're behind with their finances. For some people, they may feel like they're behind with their careers, they're behind with entrepreneurship, they're behind with building their brand, whatever it is. Everybody can relate to this to some degree, and that's why it was important for me to, just make it make this specific session about this, because everybody can relate to this. Okay? So even people who look successful behind or they look successful, let's say on social media, behind the scenes in other areas, they still feel like they're behind. I know people who are killing it. They may be 35, 40 and they're killing it with their careers. They're killing it financially. They're killing it with their lifestyle, but they feel be behind when it comes to like marriage and family life. So again just because someone has it all figured out from a success standpoint with their finances and career, they still may feel behind with other areas. Okay. So I know for me. There have been moments where you know with, from a business standpoint, I've felt behind, there have been moments from a financial standpoint I've felt behind in, in different areas. There've been moments, even when I got into podcasting, I felt man, I should have been, started podcasting. I was already doing the breakfast club for years and I could have very well had embarked on podcasting. A lot earlier. But again the worst thing I could have done at that point in time is just have guilt or shame or just beat up on myself about it. There's no, no reason to beat up on myself about it, because at the same time, there were other aspects of life that I was working on, right? That, like working on my family life or just even just working on my health or working on different areas of life. Again. Identify, okay, what are the areas that you may feel behind? Because it may not even be your whole life. It may just be one specific area. Maybe you're like, man, I'm here I am, I'm in my forties and I still haven't been married, and all of my siblings are married. And here I am, like the one sibling that isn't married, or the one sibling that you know hasn't had children. Listen there are other ways you can make up for that. I would hope that you're not just dwelling on that one area and really doubling down on your strengths, right? Because there's a lot of things you can do that maybe your siblings can't, or maybe your peers can't. Okay? So super important to understand now. You never know who's quietly restarting their life while you are comparing your chapter four to their chapter 14. You never know, and right now is a great opportunity to just restart wherever you are, whatever area you feel be behind in, it's a great opportunity to restart. So here are three mindset shifts to reset your specific timeline. The very first one is reframe the timeline. Super important to note now, whose clock are you living by? Are you living by society's clock? Are you living by your family's expectations? Is that the clock you're following? Whose clock is it that you're following? Is it your peers clock? Most timelines are simply made up. Understand that success is not linear. You have to shift from deadlines to direction, okay? You have to shift from deadlines to direction. You don't have to operate on anyone's clock, and especially in today's day and age, the world is so different. It's no longer like the, let's just say the typical American dream, I think that we had got caught up on or just sold on this American dream for so many years that it's like expected of us to just follow this specific timeline, right? You go to school, get the good grades so you can get the good job. Then you get this good job and then you work the 40 40 plan, right? You work 40 hours a week for 40 years of your life with this one specific company. You buy the big house with the white picket fence. You got the two cars and the two and a half kids and all of this stuff, and you're married. And listen, that is definitely no longer the American dream. It's it, that world is no longer applicable to today's day and age, right? It's just not. How do I know that? Because, think about it. The average person, especially in America today, is probably going to work for at least eight different companies in their lifetime. A lot of companies just come and go. It's no longer where you work for a company for 40 years of your life and retire and get your gold watch and sail off into the sunset. It's no longer the case. The technology the rapid transformation of technology is happening so fast that industries are emerging out of nowhere. Jobs and com, like entire departments of companies. Are completely being eradicated because of technology like AI and automation and so many different things. So that's a big reason why it's just a completely different world. Another thing is education is a lot more accessible than it was in the early days. Today you can go right on YouTube and pretty much learn whatever it is that you need to learn. Also, you have so much access to online learning. You have AI that could assist you in learning a lot of things or could even draft up a business plan for you. So many things that, that, that are different today than, the way our grandparents had it, or even our parents the way they had it just a few years ago. Okay? So understand that we are on completely different timelines than the generation before. Here's another thing. This is another great mindset shift to reset your timeline, and that is progress over perfection. Really what we're pursuing is just this path of perfection, and really it's about progress over perfection. Perfection is an illusion, right? You're never gonna have it all together because there are a lot of things that are outside of your control. For example, you can't control. Whoever you end up with, per se, like you can control who you choose to be with, but you can't control whether or not someone is going to want to stick it out with you in a relationship. You can't control whether or not that company is going to keep you on long term. You can't always control these things. You can't always control what, what's happening in the economy. You can't control it at all. So rather than aspiring for perfection, just set a goal to always pursue progress over perfection. It's a much better mindset to have and also know that you are not behind if you're still moving forward. Celebrate those small wins. They compound over time. So as long as you're moving forward, that's the idea. If you're not growing, you're dying. That's just universal law. You're either in a state of growth or you're in a state of decay. There's no such thing as a plateau when it comes to just the way the universe works. You're either growing or you're dying, right? As long as you're moving forward with whatever it is that you are working on, even if all you get is an inch for the day, guess what? It's an inch closer to the goal line. Here's another mindset shift. That's purpose over pressure. So many of us put so much pressure on ourselves to meet these timelines in our lives. Or maybe you have that annoying, let not say annoying parent and be savage here, but you have that one parent that's constantly nagging you. When are you gonna gimme grand babies? Or when are you gonna do this? Or when are you going to do that? Listen. It's purpose over pressure. It's what's right for you. The only person that can truly dictate what's right for you is you, nobody else can. It's your life to live. You were gifted this life, and you get to decide exactly what you want to do with your life and how you wanna live your life. And also understand that when you stop performing for approval and start aligning with purpose, you stop feeling like you are running out of time. That's what it's about. It's letting go of this performance for approval, this performance of perfection, right? It's just not sustainable over time and you have to align yourself with purpose. Okay? Now here are five action steps to get yourself back into alignment. Number one. And take notes. Take notes as if you're gonna have to teach this. As you guys oftentimes hear me say, the weakest ink is stronger than the strongest memory. So take notes on all of this different stuff because it will most certainly help you just kickstart this second half of 2025. All right. I don't know about y'all, but I'm definitely long overdue for a reset this year. The, these last couple of months. It's just been work for the most part, working and just laying a foundation. But I know for me, I most certainly, I'm overdue for a reset. And here's five action steps to get yourself back into alignment. Again, this Thursday, 7:00 PM Eastern Standard Time. I'll be sharing the links, on social media and all that stuff. So just follow me on social media. You can find me at the World Traveler. For those of you who don't find me on Instagram or just look me up online, I'll be sharing. Information on this week's Life Mastery event which is free for everyone. We also have a VIP option as well. That comes with a complimentary coaching session and then the 21 Days to transformation Challenge. For those of you who don't know, we also have a digital course. We have two ways of. Doing the digital course, you can have the course alone. So we, you can purchase the course alone or you can get the course with one month of coaching. If that interests you for whatever reason just dm me the word coach, and I'll be more than happy to send you over some information on that as well. Okay. So here we go. Five action steps to get back into alignment. Number one, audit your current life. Audit your current life. Ask yourself what's going and what no longer feels aligned. So think about that. What's going well in your life? Maybe it's your health, maybe it's your relationship. Maybe it's your social life. You guys will see on Life Mastery, I'll cover a lot of the different categories of your life. So it may be finances, it may be your personal development, it may be the level of contribution. That you're operating at or the contribution that you're providing the world, it may be let's just say it could be anything. It could be your purpose, but what's going well in your life and what no longer feels aligned. So maybe that job no longer feels aligned, maybe the way you've been living, maybe that relationship. No longer feels aligned. Maybe the friends you've been keeping in your life or the associations, the environment you, the environments you've been entertaining, right? Those things no longer feel aligned, but this is a great time of the year to just do that self inventory, take self inventory of the relationships that you have, the environments that you're in, the way you've been living, your lifestyle, all of that. And really identify what's going and what no longer feels aligned. Secondly, the second action step is turn off the noise. Turn off the noise. Maybe you have to take a temporary break on social media and do a social media detox or even unfollow accounts that trigger comparison. Maybe they trigger just anything, right? Like maybe you have people on your. Social media that every time you look at their life, and it's just like it, it triggers something inside of you. Listen, guess what? There's a mute option on social media. You don't necessarily have to unfollow them or block them, but you could just mute them, right? And perhaps that's what you have to do. Or just detox from social media altogether. I have tons of friends that they just take a break from it for a while, and it's one of the best things that you can do for your mental health. For those of you who've been struggling with your mental health, ask yourself. Has you comparing yourself to other people on social media, has that been contributing to anything that you've been battling with your mental health? You constantly comparing yourself to, again, a facade, right? People are many times they don't actually live the way they're portraying themselves on social media. So it's always essential to remind yourself of that. Okay? But maybe you need a break and you have to turn off the noise. You have to reconnect with yourself. Go out in nature, right? Just get off of the social media altogether. Unplug the television, deactivate your Netflix account or your Hulu account or anything that you've been dedicating a lot of time to on things that don't serve you. Think about this. How much more time would you have? The average person spends over two hours a day on social media. The average person spends probably over two hours a day just watching television or watching things on, just on shows or reality tv, whatever it is. What if you just eliminated that for 21 days? You just dedicated your time to maybe writing that book, creating the content that you need to create for that business project that you're working on, whatever it's, maybe it's building your brand, but what can you dedicate more time to by eliminating certain things in your life? Number three is set micro goals. So what's one thing you can do this week to feel proud of yourself? Maybe your micro goals are the 21 to-dos. Maybe your micro goal is hiring that personal trainer. Maybe your micro goal is getting that coach for the next 21 days. Maybe your micro goal is posting consistently on social media. For those of you who are building brands on social media, maybe that's what your micro goal is, but set some micro goals throughout the year. Listen, if you've been lacking happiness in your life, one, one thing that I know for a fact is that you'll be a lot more happy. When you're setting goals and accomplishing your goals when you're following through on your goals. Yesterday, for example, like one of my goals for the week is to work out for at least four days out of the week. That's one of my goals, and they're not crazy. Two hour workouts a day, like most of the time. My, my gym sessions, I would say session. I'm super setting about two to three different workouts. A day. Or not a day, but at least four days out of the week. Yesterday, for example, I worked on my traps. I worked on some shoulders, I did the cycle and I did some abs, right? And many times I'm just super setting those workouts. So if I'm doing legs, I may do my quads and my hamstrings. Or maybe some calves and I'm just, super setting it to save as much time as possible. I may do, let's just say eight to 12 reps for four sets each. That way I can get at least 50 reps in per workout. And I'm just going through it really quick. So that helps me just at least maintain, it's not the best workout in the world, but it allows me to maintain, and that's just where I'm at in this season of my fitness. Okay? But that is a goal that I commit to every single week. One thing that, even posting on social media every week, like I have at least the Breakfast Club where I know every single Tuesday I at least have the Breakfast Club. Now, do I post every day on social media? I don't. Is it a goal of mine? Absolutely. But every time that I follow through on posting content on social media, again, it's a micro goal accomplished. Okay. Maybe the micro goal may doing something for my business for the day, right? Or whatever it is. But you have to set micro goals. Maybe it's spending time with your kids, but having those micro goals are essential and following through because. Nothing will build your self-esteem more than following through on your word, following through on the things that you set out to do. Listen, discipline is the bridge of, from that'll take you from where you are to where you wanna be. It is discipline. Discipline, and I always say that it's good to. Really shift this mindset of discipline. Sometimes when you think of discipline, you think of something that's rigid, things that you have to do as opposed to things that you get to do. So I, I always do my best to look at discipline as lifestyle choices. And that's why the 21 to dos are essential because. The 21 to-dos are really just lifestyle choices. Like when you think about it for example one of the 21 to-dos is taking one hour a day of dream building. And dream building is that one hour that you dedicate to whatever your dream is. Maybe your dream is to become a podcaster and maybe that one hour is putting together that podcast. Maybe that one hour is reaching out to potential podcast guests or doing some research or whatever it is. That's the one hour of dream building, right? And that's that the one thing for the day you set out and you commit to maybe your one hour of dream building is reaching out to that prospect, that potential customer. But you have to set those micro goals and follow through on it. And the thing about it is you have to plan out your week. That's what calendar optimization is all about. And this week on Life Mastery, I'll be going over the best way to structure your calendar. For those of you who need that reset one of the best things that you can do is just plan out your day for those micro goals. Number four is rewrite your story. Rewrite your story. So you can have a journal prompt. And maybe the journal prompt is, if I wasn't behind, what would I believe about myself? If I wasn't behind, what would I believe about myself? So maybe you're like, okay, here I am. I'm 40 years old and I've been working a career path that I'm not fulfilled in. And you have this feeling of being behind. You feel like you should have been way more ahead, but what if you're just growing in the process? What would you believe about yourself if you didn't believe you were behind? You would probably believe something along the lines of, you know what, like I'm just running my own race and I'm just, building up myself for the meantime, or I'm just getting myself prepared for when the opportunity presents itself. Luck is really what luck is. I remember hearing it years ago. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. So perhaps you just haven't come across that opportunity that was specifically meant for you, right? And you're just preparing yourself in the process. So perhaps that's what it's about. Maybe you're preparing yourself for that soulmate, because let's be real, how many people want that soulmate, but still have a lot of work to do on themselves. That's most people, they're just simply not ready for the relationship. So that's another important thing to understand. Number five is practice. Gratitude and visioning. Gratitude and visioning. So you wanna balance where you are, right? You wanna balance where you are with where you are going. Gratitude grounds you and vision pulls you. Okay. Gratitude grounds you and a vision pulls you. So having gratitude just for your respective journey, maybe you probably have been feeling behind, but what are some of the good things about your life? Maybe you're, you've got to do so many other things, right? Because you put other aspects of your life on hold, right? So what can you be grateful for in this season of your life? Like the last six months, for example. I've just been, just working right. Laying a lot of foundation over the last six months. And for me, my gratitude will be centered around that. My gratitude will be centered around, every week spending some time with my family, right? And having that core vision, that star and on life Mastery, I'll be covering a lot on the North Star and what your specific North Star is. Having gratitude for where you are, but having a compelling North star, that'll always be that guiding light or that one vision that will direct you every single day and will help you be a lot more intentional. Okay, so again, the five action steps to get back into alignment, we, number one, audit your current life. Number two, turn off the noise. Number three, set micro goals. Number four, rewrite your story. And number five, practice gratitude and visioning. All right here's the, here's some great words of affirmations or words of affirmation for you guys. The first one is, I'm not behind. I'm becoming, I'm not behind. I'm becoming. Second great affirmation is I am exactly where I'm supposed to be, right? I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. What if you are exactly where you're supposed to be? And you have no idea that's actually the case, right? What if you're not behind at all and you're exactly where you should be? And there's a lot of things that are working themselves out. You guys oftentimes hear me say that God answers prayers in three ways, and those three ways are, yes, not now. Or, I've got something even better. Yes, not now, or I've got something even better. And from my personal experience, it's always been good to just trust in that because it reduces the anxiety and the overwhelm of just not having it all together. Okay. And next we have, the last affirmation we have here is I honor my pace and trust my path. I honor my pace and trust my path. Okay, so today's breakfast club session. Super short and straight to the point. And if this episode resonated with you, maybe you have someone in your life that, maybe they've been feeling like they've been super behind. They haven't really been on top of, their career path or whatever it is. Send them this, this breakfast club session. You can send'em the link, you can tag them and understand as we get ready to close out here that you are not late. You are learning. Keep going. Your story is still unfolding. All right thank you for all of you who tune in on every week you guys tune in. Appreciate you guys. You can find the Breakfast Club, whether it's Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube, the Journey podcast, or just simply hop over to dn breakfast club.com every single Tuesday at 7:00 AM to hop on live. Make sure you guys are on life mastery. I'll be sharing all the links, so just keep an eye out. If you don't find it for whatever reason, just shoot me a dm. I'll be more than happy to jump on with you. Also, I'm very limited with coaching slots this month, so if you want to. Get a complimentary coaching session. It probably has been some time since you got one from me or you never even experienced one. Shoot me a dm. Just write the word coach. I'll be more than happy to send you over my Calendly link. And my schedule's gonna be getting super packed after this week from everybody, getting coaching after life Mastery. But if you are long overdue for a reset, this is the time. Why didn't I do it July 1st? Because. 4th of July weekend, people are spending time with their family, their loved ones, and I wanted to make sure that we were all ready to go and this is the time if you are in and you are ready for a 21 days transformation challenge that's going to be starting this Thursday. If you are committed to, even if you can't do all 21 to-dos, if you are committed just to taking us up on this challenge, doing it together as a community. It's absolutely free. I can add you to the Facebook group as well. We have a separate Facebook group that I can add you to just drop a comment, write the number 21 in the comments if you are ready for a reset and ready to embark on a 21 days to transformation. I look forward to seeing you guys Thursday evening. For those of you who will be attending Life Master three halftime. All in all breakfast is officially served. If you could do me a favor comment, share, tag, it most certainly helps, get this information out there. Appreciate you guys. Love you all, and I'll be seeing you at Life Mastery. Take care. I.