Stop Thinking Start Doing Breaking Free from Overthinking to Execute Your Dreams

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today's topic is going to be centered around stop thinking, start doing, and breaking free from overthinking to execute your dreams. So I'm a holistic life coach for those of you who don't know. And I typically, I hop on television, podcasts, different things like that, social media and talk about a lot of different concepts a around coaching. And one of the things that I've discovered over the years, just working with many people on many different projects is. People tend to have what we refer to in the personal development world as paralysis of over analysis, where you think yourself out of anything that you're working on. I'm not sure how many of you can relate to that. I know I definitely have been there where you tend to just overthink things, right? Or maybe you get caught up in being perfect. You get caught up in just wanting to do everything a certain type of way and you end up not doing the thing at all. And I know that this is definitely one of the things that people struggle with the most. I'm excited to share the value here because I know many of you're gonna be able to get value from this, especially for those of you who are a bit on the analytical side, like myself. I tend to be very analytical and sometimes it can be my biggest downfall. Let's get ready to jump right into it. Let's see here. We have some shares that we're gonna open up with before we jump into the meat and potatoes of today's Breakfast Club session. To get us kickstarted the very first share is cultivate an Abundance mentality. And this is from the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Really great book, by the way. And this flashcard, it says, describe what you could do to think more abundantly, celebrate the strengths of yourself and others. Stop comparing and share resources. So really good. So celebrate the strengths of yourself and others. Stop comparing and share resources. I know for me transitioning into a more abundant mentality. When I was growing up we didn't have a whole bunch we had a lot of love, but in terms of wealth I didn't come from a family of wealth. We grew up in the hood. And one of the things that. Tend to, or I guess a mindset that I would tend to take on was a mindset of scarcity. Like always being in survival in a sense, or accustomed to being in survival. And I adopted a scarcity mentality over the years, and it took a long time to finally get a grip on the understanding of just abundant thinking. Because abundant thinking, sometimes it, it doesn't seem a logical way of thinking. Sometimes logically we're thinking, okay, let me save money here. Let me do whatever it is that I can to prevent me losing more money or whatever. And abundant thinking is the opposite of logical thinking in the sense that. Logically, yeah, it makes sense to just let's say save for a rainy day or to make sure that you're not overspending. But one of the things that has helped me has been just transitioning this, my mindset to there is enough, and if I want it, I'm going to have it. And one of the things that does is when you transition into abundance thinking you tend to elevate your standards for your life. You tend to elevate your paradigm, if you will, where there, there's a saying that luxuries become necessities, right? So if you're always in scarcity thinking let's just say you live in a community that is not the best community and you're just there because you wanna save money on rent. You could very well because of scarcity thinking, trap yourself into just that paradigm and that way of living and always being fearful of taking that great leap or elevating your family's social status or quality of life or things like that. So it is important to adopt this abundance thinking, right? It's the kind of like in alignment with what we're gonna be talking about here today, which is centered around overthinking. Because overthinking is oftentimes something that people who are hyper analytical kind of go through, right? So if you tend to be a little bit on the analytical side, then logically speaking you're like, okay, let me get the more affordable place to live. Let me get the more affordable vehicle. But if you go on your entire life, just fearful of. Not having enough. Like how are you ever really gonna stretch yourself? And there's a fine line, right? Because on one side of the spectrum, you wanna be responsible. You want to be a good steward of your wealth. But on the other side of the spectrum, it's like sometimes you have to push yourself. You have to stretch yourself. You have to be the one to take that great leap of faith. And it's interesting because for those of you who are entrepreneurs, entrepreneurship sometimes is not something that you have to, or something that you should do very logically in a sense, because there are a lot of things in entrepreneurship that logically speaking does not make sense. So for example, if you have an intuition, if you have a gut instinct that tells you like, you know what I have a strong belief that this is gonna work. My gut is telling me that this is going to. Happen and you follow through on your gut instinct, oftentimes your gut will lead you to the best result. Not all the time, but a lot of times it does. And there have been countless cases of tons of entrepreneurs who they gone through very difficult seasons and logically speaking, it made sense to not continue forward, but they still did and they overcame whatever it is that they were going through. And I know for me, for example when I was considering leaving the workforce, like I left my six figure career with benefits, pension, all of that stuff to pursue a business that was not even paying me$500 a month. Logically speaking, it made no sense. Like I, I spent all this time going to college, getting my degrees, getting a Coast Guard license getting all this stuff and going through this entire program to pilot vessels all around the United States. I had a highly paid skill and spent all of this time, it, it probably was about six years of my life to get to this arrival point where I'm now in a position where I'm making up to a thousand dollars a day at the time. And I had the security, I had everything already set up and a job that would always be in demand. And I went the path of entrepreneurship, right? And it, not only did I go the path of entrepreneurship, I didn't even have a steady income that was anywhere near what I was making. It took years for me to even replace that income. Understand. So logically speaking, it made no sense. But when it comes to your dreams, sometimes it is not so logical. It's head and heart. It's a combination of the two. You can't just think everything logically all the time, and sometimes you have to put your heart over the bar. You have to wear your heart on your sleeve. You have to go out there and follow your instincts. And instincts are a very important factor when it comes to just going after your dreams. Sometimes it's more feeling than it is thinking. So ask yourself, do I truly believe that there is more than enough for everyone when we have an abundance mentality, we are not threatened by other success because we are secure in our own self-worth. This is super, super important. I always mention here in the Breakfast Club that one of the things that I love about my closest friends is they all have their own thing going on. Like my friends, they all do pretty well for themselves. Like my core set of friends, they're project managers in Manhattan, ENG engineers. I have friends that, that run big companies and all of this stuff and in really amazing positions. And they're running their own lane. There's no like competition. Everybody's got their own thing going on and I love that. I feel like relationships thrive when there, there isn't that underlying jealousy, right? When you really, genuinely want the best for your friends and you are comfortable in your own skin and you're pursuing your own path. Okay? Here's a great quote by Stephen Covey, and that is the abundance mentality flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough for everybody. It's interesting because sometimes you have people who feel as if if this person wins, then that means I lose, or if this person succeeds, that means that there's less for me. And oftentimes it's just not the case. There is more than enough for everyone. There's more than enough. For all people in whatever field that you're in. And it is important to make sure that you're always adopting this abundance mentality because if you don't, you're going to drive yourself crazy looking at everybody on social media and you're seeing everybody winning or maybe posting up their highlights because let's be honest, people don't really post the negative aspects of their lives. And you're seeing people winning and you have this, the, these insecurities that start to pop up like, man everybody's getting it, but me. You understand? And that's what scarcity will do to you. But you have to have the mentality where, man, if they can do it, I can do it A me too mentality. You can do it. Me too. I can do it as well. You're, if anything, it goes from jealousy to inspiration. You can look at people who are succeeding and you know you've got the right mindset when you can see people winning in life. Genuinely be inspired, genuinely be like, you know what? That's incredible. That they're paving the way for people like me showing what's possible. That should always be the mentality. Okay. Root people on, cheer people on. It's interesting too, because sometimes what happens is you have these little insecurities that'll pop up from time to time. Even for myself I'll have the these feelings of underlying, and I don't even wanna call it jealousy, but sometimes that that little boy, that little girl just feels less than, it feels like they're not enough because they see other people who are doing better than them. And I, and whenever that pops up, like I always have to do my part in silencing that voice. And if I see someone, for example, posting on social media and they hit a huge milestone. I intentionally will like and comment on them, especially during those moments where that little voice starts to creep in and try to tell me that I'm not enough or tell me that I'm not doing enough. We're all like running our own race here, and it is important to run your own race. Don't try to like, get up in someone else's lane. Run your own race. Because remember, sometimes that person's chapter 20 is like your chapter five, and you don't know what they had to go through. You don't know the underlying work that they had to do in order to get to where they are. You can't be upset with the results that you're not getting for the work that you didn't do. It is essential to always have that perspective. For example there are a lot of things that I'm limited on today because the reality is I'm a whole dad. I'm a husband, right? I've got three children that I'm responsible for. And yeah, I'd love to be out there just traveling all the time and living my best life and being wild and free. But the truth is, I'm responsible for other people, right? Like my wife, she homeschools and she she's not out there working the nine to five grind. And I always have to do my part to make sure that my family is good. And because of that, it's yeah, there's certain things that I'm not moving as fast with. I'd love for my podcast to be even bigger than it is and my platforms to be bigger than they are. But I'm in my dad season and that's fine. So it would be insane for me to compare myself to the 28-year-old dude that's out there getting it bolster the wall, putting in 80 hour weeks and imagine if I compared myself to that, right? Or that person compared themselves to me. You understand? It's just like we all have different lives. We all have different starting points. We all have just maybe certain things like grace that was bestowed upon you. Maybe you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, maybe you weren't right, but you had to honor your journey and wherever it is that you are and understand that you may be 35, 40, 45, even 50 years old and feeling like you wasted all this time. That's actually not the case. There, there have been a lot of valuable life experiences that you've you've gotten along the way and all those valuable life experiences understand that. You can end up having those life experiences come back full circle years later and you had no idea how the dots were gonna connect until life just ended up happening. And you're like, oh, I get it now. I get it right. All of those years that I thought I wasted actually, that wasn't the case today, you may have patience because of all the time that it took. So it is, again, essential to honor your journey and understand that your breakaway success, it can happen in a year. It can happen in a year, and then it all of a sudden is called an overnight success, but people don't realize. Years and years you spent just cultivating your leadership, cultivating your competence and so much more. Okay, so next we have another share. And it's if love, success, or integrity are important to you, then they are part of your values system. A value is an emotional state you feel is very important either to experience because of the pleasure you believe it will bring or to avoid because of the pain you associate to it. All our decision making is driven by these beliefs. How will a given action help us move toward a pleasure value? Will it help us avoid or move away from a pain value? What's one of the most important pleasurable emotions you value and what's a painful emotion? You'll do almost anything to avoid. And this is really good because. Think about like your journey. Think about how many times you probably did not pursue that endeavor simply because you were so consumed about what other people would think. You were so caught up in being judged, being criticized, and you never pursued that, that dream. And perhaps it's because you value maybe security, you value being accepted and that's the very thing that's sabotaging whatever it is that you want. So it is important to do those to have that self-inventory, if you will, do that self-inventory where you're analyzing, okay, what is it that I value? Maybe you value feeling significant and a lot of what drives you is feeling significant. Or maybe you value contribution, you value service to other people. So these are all a part of your value system and what is it that's driving you? And also you have push motivations. You have pull motivations. Sometimes the pain of going through rejection is the very thing that drives you. Sometimes it's the pain of not having enough or the pain of poverty, the pain or the fear of not being able to afford your to, to pay your home or your vehicle, right? These are things that drive us as human beings. But it is important to analyze whether or not that pain or that push or that pull value is actually sabotaging what it is that you truly want. Because imagine, for example, you wanna pursue a path of being an actor and you have this aspiration to be an actor, but you also fear rejection. Imagine fearing rejection, but you also want to be an actor. They're like, they're conflicting values in a sense, right? Because one of your values is doing everything in your power to ensure that you don't have to go through rejection and be accepted, but then you also value wanting to become an actor, right? And they're conflicting. That's why it is essential to always go through some of the things that you're valuing and determine whether or not those values are holding you back. Next pleasure. Values are known as moving toward values. They include such emotions as love, joy, freedom, security, passion and peace of mind. Pain values like rejection, depression, loneliness are known as moving away from values. As we make decisions, we consider whether these pain or pleasure states will be a consequence. Our actions in the next few days, you'll begin to clarify not only the emotional states that drive all of your decisions, but also their order of importance. For example, you may value both security and adventure. Determining which one is more important to you will help you be much more effective in making decisions consistent with what will give you long-term happiness. So one of the things that I think about is like I, I've valued a lot over the years just having variety in my life and value travel. One thing that I always felt about travel was that it would never travel investing in experiences like travel. I was never going to regret the money that I spent on travel and I for whatever reason I adopted this mentality very young and it has served me well and it. Proven me right over and over again. Would you guys agree? Like whenever you invest money in travel and experiencing new experiences, like it's one of the best things you could possibly spend money on. You may regret spending money on that bag or spending money on just that overpriced vehicle that you buy. But you will not regret a trip to Italy. You will not regret a trip to Thailand or these places because these are beautiful memories. Like when I reflect back on my year, for example the memory that sticks out the most this year in particular was my trip to Portugal and Spain with my wife. And I was just talking to a friend of mine about this like last year. If you ask me what was the highlight of last year, it was going to, where did we go? I think Africa. I went to Africa with my kids, south African and Zimbabwe. If you asked me the year before it was going to Thailand, if you asked me the year before that it was going to Peru and the year before that it was doing a solo trip all around the world, and it's these are the memories that you hold dear to your heart. And it doesn't always have to be travel. Maybe it's a camping trip locally, right? But unique experiences and investing in those experiences. It's like you can get the big old house, but honestly, think about this. Think about all of the people you admire in this lifetime. Think about all the celebrities you probably admire, or maybe they're their athletes that, that you absolutely love. Now think about those people's homes and their vehicles. I would say that it's safe to say that 90% of the people you admire, you don't even know what their home look like. You don't know what their vehicle looked like, that stuff did not even matter. You don't know all of their possessions or anything like that, right? You have no idea because that stuff is not as important as we think. It's more about the experiences that, that you develop. So it is essential to always reflect on that. And that's not something that you can logically quantify. So for those of you folks who are analytical, again logically speaking, you may say I don't wanna spend money on that trip to Turkey because I wanna make sure that I budget, I wanna make sure that I ha have enough to pay the bills, or and I know people that legit will spend that money going to Turkey and then go broke and they still never regret it. Like they still have no regrets. And it's okay, if you had to really judge. Whose life would you have rather lived? Let's say the person that was always paying their bills on time, always making sure that they're caught up with the IRS and everything like that. And they never travel. They never go out there and spend money on things that are like super valuable in terms of experiences. But the bills are paid on time. Or would you rather go with the person that maybe their bills weren't always paid on time, but they've traveled all around the world and created peak life experiences with their loved ones and they took chances. And you know what? They'll die with the they will not die with the things that, the regrets of the things that they didn't do. Like whereas the person that is just always clinging to security and comfort, it's imagine at the tail end of their life how many regret. On the things that they never took a chance on because they were so just overthinking everything logically. And I know I've been guilty of this especially as an analytical person. Today's session is gonna be super valuable for those of you who tend to fall in this category. It you've gotta take a chance, man. Like for those of you who have dreams and goals and aspirations and I get it, it's like we all want security. We all want peace of mind, right? But do not go out with regret because there, there are tons of studies like the five regrets of the dying. You guys should look it up online. Look up the five regrets of the dying. It's the five most common things that people on their deathbed they did a study on this. But it's the five most common things that people typically regret. And usually it's the chances they didn't take or not living up to their potential. Don't go out like that because you're caught up in clinging to security. And I know it's easier said than done, but I'm telling you from personal experience like today it's interesting because sometimes when people they'll come, they'll see our lifestyle and whether it's us homeschooling our kids or us being able to travel around the world and not have to come home or staying up as late as we wanna stay up and nowhere to be in the morning. But that came with a price that came with taking a chance. And yeah, you have your your ups and your downs your peaks and your valleys and all of this stuff that comes along the way. But when it's all said and done, at least you have the dignity in saying that you took a chance. Even if it doesn't work out okay most of you guys live in the western world where you can bounce back, but at least take a chance. Okay. Now, if that chance is putting your family in danger, right? In terms of your family security, sometimes you have to move a little different. Sometimes you have to work full-time on your job and part-time on your dream. Sometimes you have to do the nine to five on your job and the five to nine on your dream. And that's what it looks like. And you have to go overtime, right? But you work with what you got. And there have been countless scenarios of people over the years who have done extremely well with taking that approach. Okay? So here we go. Let's jump into it. Now, here's my question to you. How many times have you had an idea, a dream or a goal, but never acted because you talked yourself out of it? Drop a y in the comments if that's ever happened to you. I. I know a lot of people, for example, that I mentor. By the way I have a few slots open for my coaching on if you're looking to launch a podcast, you're looking to get into the coaching, consulting, speaking space. I mentor people all throughout the year. I have a certain limited amount of spots that I can open up with my schedule to do these types of programs. So if that interests you at all and you have any questions regarding that, I'd be more than happy to answer any questions. Just hit me up. DM me the word coach, and I could always send you some more information on how that works. I have tons of people that tune into the breakfast club that I've certified over the years. Different coaches and people who just wanted to like, get into public speaking, all that good stuff. But I wanted to bring that up because I have so many people, for example that I've consulted on launching a podcast I've consulted with. Getting a book underway. And a lot of them come to me because they've been having paralysis of over analysis and they don't execute. So they'll get the coaching for the accountability. And I have tons of people that I've encountered over the years that they just overthink it. They want everything to be perfect and understand that perfectionism is the enemy to execution. If you are someone that feels like everything has to be perfect, you are going to struggle with execution. And I get it. Of course, it would be amazing to have everything world class. It would be amazing to have it all perfect. But listen, not at the expense of execution. Not at the expense. So when I first started the Breakfast Club, for example, like you guys probably see all the fancy stuff going on, but when I started the Breakfast Club, honestly it was scrappy as hell. It was scrappy, but people loved it. They loved it. I didn't have a fancy camera set up or fancy lighting set up or nice little aesthetics or anything like that. It was just super scrappy. And sometimes I even cringe looking back at some of those Breakfast club sessions I can't believe I went in front of that camera looking like that. But during that time when I first transitioned to Breakfast Club, right before the Pandemic Online man it was just super just Hey, let's just get the value out there. I wasn't caught up in the way that I looked or the way that I presented myself or anything like that. And the most important thing though is that I started and I was consistent every single week, just consistent. I always put out the content and that is ultimately what led to my podcast, right? And was my podcast perfect? Is it still perfect? Absolutely not. But you know what? It's consistent and it's out there and it's all about the value. That's really what it comes down to. I'd much rather just be out there putting out the content, putting out the value than to just be waiting till everything is right. Everything is perfect, because here's the truth, the odds of everything being perfect are slim to none. It's never gonna be completely right. It's never gonna be a completely, a hundred percent. Even when I first became a dad I reached out to my stepfather and I'm like, man, like how do I do this? Because I didn't really read the books. I had no idea like how to go about being a dad, but you just learn as you go. You learn as you go. And that's the case with even business sometimes. Sometimes it is important to just take that leap of faith and grow your wings on the way down. So moving forward, we have. By the end of this, by the way, I'm gonna give you guys practical strategies so you're not overthinking all the time and you can start executing on whatever it is that you're working on. So make sure you're taking notes and you guys hear me say this all the time, that note takers on money makers and the weakest in is stronger than the strongest memory. Take notes as if you're gonna have to teach this information. And it's mind boggling to me how many people want to be successful so bad, but they cannot take the time to take notes. It like it's like counterintuitive. You're sabotaging your own dreams because you're not willing to just go the extra mile. It's which student is gonna get the most value in the classroom? Is it the student in the back just like hearing the words of the professor? Or is it the one up front? Just glued in, locked in, taking the notes, really doing their best to process everything. Whenever like you're getting value or mentorship or coaching or anything like that, be very diligent with taking notes. I, I had spoke to a group of young men recently, and I noticed that they were all just circled around me and just listening. And I, and the first thing I mentioned is just you guys take notes, what are you doing? You know what I mean? Take notes. You're locked in to someone who is very successful and you have the opportunity to learn from them. And also you have an opportunity to leave a really good first impression. What if I was willing to hire one of them as an intern or bring them onto my company? Do you think I'm gonna go with the kids that aren't taking notes? No. I'm gonna go to the one that's locked in, that's dialed in, that's hungry for success. So that, that's what it's about in the world of personal development. It's one thing to just tune in and listen in, but it's another thing to really integrate and assimilate the knowledge that you're learning. Okay, so next, understanding, overthinking, understanding, overthinking, define, overthinking in in the first place, right? Like how do you define overthinking? As I mentioned earlier, paralysis of overanalysis, right? Looping thoughts, just constantly thinking the same thoughts, fear-based thinking, disguised as quote unquote planning. One of my clients is a fashion designer, and when I first started working with him he was just caught up in the designs and like for years just wasn't putting out his work because he was just so caught up in it. And sometimes just having someone to give you that extra insight, having someone to help coach you through the process is all that you need. And sometimes you have blind spots that you're not even aware of. You don't even realize you're caught up in paralysis of over analysis. Okay. Sometimes you think that planning is part of the work, you think that you're putting in work just by planning or just by researching. And a lot of my clients I see this all the time. How did this week go? Yeah. I'm just looking things up and research is cool, but again, not at the expense of never taken action like you have to put in the work. You have to compliment it with it. I remember one of my coaches, I worked with this ontological life coach years ago, and she had highlighted to me that I was hiding behind my personal development. And boy was she right. She was right. Like I would go hours and hours reading the books, listening to the audios, because I was really fearful of just going through the rejection. Doing the things that I really needed to do to move the needle for the results that I wanted. Okay, so this is super important to understand. Now, break down why you even overthink in the first place. I'll give you some of the reasons why. Number one, fear a failure. Let's just call it for what It's, you are fearful of you. You're not fearful of pursuing that dream. You're fearful of what other people are gonna think if you fail. Oftentimes, that's really what it is. It's not the dream itself. Chances are you embarked on that dream because you love what it is that you're doing. But really what's holding you back is the fear of failure and the fear of what is everybody gonna think if I don't succeed? And that'll be one of the biggest things that hold you back, man. If. One of the, one of my favorite questions when people interview highly successful people is if you could do it all over again, what would you do? What would you do? Because it I always think about that. If I could have done anything over, and one of my best responses or one of the responses that, that I definitely agree with, and I know it's the case, it's the case for me, is I would've gotten over what people thought of me a lot sooner. A lot sooner. So for example, the first couple of years of launching the Breakfast Club online I did not go public with it. It wasn't on publicly like it is today because I was just fearful of like other people trolling me. I'd look at Celebrity post and the comments were just like, wow. Like people are going in. And it's interesting, I had put up a post recently and the post like. I didn't provide a full amount of context or go down like explanations of what it was that I was saying. And people completely took everything out of context and were going in on the comments. And if it were a few years ago, I would've been crushed by that. Like honestly it would've crushed me because it would've been like, oh my God.'cause I was so caught up on the approval, I was actually fascinated about it. Man there, there's still that part of me that it's like annoying. But there also is that understanding that this is part of the process. If you're gonna be someone of influence, just know that you're gonna be criticized. There are gonna be people who say things. If you have posts, for example, go viral, right? And in the case of this post, like it started to go viral and I'm getting all these comments and everything like that, and and I had to remind myself like, Hey, this just comes with the territory, right? There's no getting around that. If you wanna be a person of influence. One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is what I heard from my mentor one years ago. He said, if you wanna be admired by thousands, you must be willing to take ridicule from a few dozen ignorant ones, just the way it is. You wanna be admired by thousands. You have to be willing to take ridicule from a few dozen ignorant ones. Yeah. You're gonna have people who troll your stuff. You're gonna have people who say things, but that's okay. That's a part of the game. So pers perspective will take you a long way. It is important to have the right perspective whenever you're pursuing whatever it is that you're going for. Number two is, again, fear of judgment. So just what I was talking about you're fearful of being judged sometimes. It's like you're fearful of being judged by your own family, by your own family, by, by your parents. What am I Parents are gonna think. Yesterday I was interviewing a master barber. He's a serial entrepreneur runs many different businesses and. He had mentioned that his mom wanted him to be a, like a doctor and go off to college. And when he told her that he was gonna drop out of college and pursue a career in barbering, like she was super upset initially with him, but he intentionally had his pay stubs, or not his pay stubs, but like his bank statements going to the house and like she could actually see how much money he was making and and then that kind of lit the light bulb wow, he actually is doing quite well for himself. And eventually he ended up opening up a really beautiful barbers, probably the nicest barbershop I've ever been to downtown Tampa and a lot of other businesses around it. And has he mentioned that when he started to show his family, how he was showing up for his children. He has five children. What they respected is like, how well he just took care of his family. And you gotta respect it. And initially you may be fearful of the judgment of what is my family gonna think? What are my friends gonna think? But at the end of the day, if you're taking care of business, you're taking care of your family and you're genuinely happy. Imagine being a doctor, right? And your parents wanted you to do that, and now you're working 60, 70, 80 hour weeks and you're miserable, right? Is that really the path that you want? It's much better to do something that you're genuinely happy with, but as long as you are able to sustain yourself, that's the important thing. Next, we have desire for perfection. As I mentioned earlier, perfectionism is the enemy to execution. So don't get caught up in that. Even if your work is like a seven out of 10, listen, you could always improve as you go. There's still a lot of aspects of my podcast, still a lot of aspects of our live events, aspects of. The Breakfast Club, all of these things that have to be worked on, but honestly, it's like it is what it is. Sometimes you have to understand that when you are, when you're too perfect, a lot of people won't be able to relate to you. You think that being super perfect is the way to go. Like I, I remember when I was working on my vocabulary working on just the way that I spoke and I started to feel out of touch after a while because I was so caught up in sounding like a scholar, but the average person didn't talk like that. The people that I led did not necessarily talk like that, and it was okay to just be myself and not feel like I have to be super, super polished. And sometimes I have to go back to that. Josh, you don't have to use like all of these big words. Keep it simple. Because you're not relatable when you're using all of these like sophisticated word words. Now, are there moments where you may have to code switch? Maybe you're in different environments, maybe it is appropriate to use different types of words. Yeah. But understand that again, if you're too perfect, too polished, people are not necessarily going to rock with you like that. Like I remember I oftentimes share the story that I was in this speaking competition, and it was like, America's Got Talent, but for the best speakers in the United States. And I remember one of the judges mentioning that if you sound like you're too perfect, right? People are going to hate you. Like straight up. That's what the judge said. They're not going to like, like you at all. You're not gonna get voted for by the people because it's like you're not relatable, you're out of touch. Okay? So it can actually work against you if you're so caught up with perfectionism. So never forget that. Next, we have information overload. So maybe you have too much going on, you're doing the most, and maybe you have too many podcasts, YouTube videos, books, advice, everything, and it's information overload. And that's what's causing you to have paralysis of over analysis. You have to scale down. You have to simplify, right? So if you're in the process, like you wanna do a podcast, you wanna write a book, you wanna launch these online courses, you wanna do this and this, and build a community and all of this stuff, listen. Start with one thing at a time. Because a confused mind does nothing. As the Chinese proverb states, the man that chases multiple rabbits catches none. Do not be that person trying to do everything all at the same time, and you end up mastering nothing. Okay? So if you wanna launch a podcast. Dedicate a season just to the podcast. If you wanna launch a book, dedicate a season just to the book. Now, are there people who can do things simultaneously? Absolutely. But know thyself. If that's not the case for you, take it one project at a time. Okay? Now also know that there's an illusion of safety. Okay? So the brain will trick you into thinking that not acting will actually keep you safe when it really keeps you stuck. So sometimes people feel like if I don't pull the trigger on this, like at least I know I'm safe. No, sometimes inaction is even worse than action or taking that chance. Sometimes inaction like you think it's inaction, but inaction is also inaction. You deciding consciously not to do anything. Listen, the world is not gonna wait on you. That comes with consequences. Don't think that not acting is the way E even if you have to take a very small step, it's still an inch closer to the goal line. Do something. Just keep yourself in motion, okay? Now, always remember that the most successful people in the world have acted without knowing everything, have acted without knowing everything. When Elon Musk was starting SpaceX, he didn't know everything about rockets. He like literally had to start learning about rocket science from scratch, right? The same with Tesla, the same with every company that he's launched. It's like he had to learn new things. I had no idea how podcasting works, but I went out there, I did the research I learned the business of it and everything like that. You have to remember that like everybody who has worked on something great. They were okay with starting, right? Like the old cliche saying, you don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. And it's okay that you don't know everything, but you just kinda learn as you go. Now the cost of overthinking, this is a whole other rabbit hole that we can go down. By the way, if you're getting value so far, drop a V in the comments. All of your comments help, of course. So drop a v if you're getting value so far. Shout out to everybody tuning in on YouTube. I see we got Instagram as well. Facebook, we post a recording, so we're not live on Facebook, but if you guys ever want to hop on live, just hop over to dn breakfast club.com. Okay, so here we go. Next we have here, all right, we have the cost. Okay, so the cost of overthinking. The first thing, and I love this one in particular, and that is missed opportunity. So remember, some of your dreams are time sensitive. You don't have the luxury of waiting out, you're gonna miss the boat. And you have to be very mindful of that. It's like right now, for example, you may wanna launch a podcast, right? And just know that podcasting is hot right now, but is it always going to be hot? Maybe not. You have no idea. AI right now is booming and don't think that you can just wait five years from now to start embarking on ai. Learn how artificial intelligence works, learn how all these different things work. Like there. There are certain things that are very time sensitive. Now maybe you're wanting to write a book and perhaps like there, it's not a time sensitive thing on the book, but maybe it is. Maybe there are certain things that you're not actually seeing. And when it comes to business follows trends. There's trends, there's cyclical there's a cyclical nature to business. And you have to be able to identify trends. You have to be able to identify when it is the right time to take massive action, but do not miss opportunities because you're just sitting there just overthinking everything, okay? When that idea is hot in, the emotion is strong, that's when you should take action. Next. The other cost of overthinking is mental exhaustion. So isn't it crazy there, there are people that get burnout. Now, if you're gonna, if you're the person that's gonna encounter burnout, don't encounter burnout due to inaction. Encountering burnout due to inaction is so much worse than encountering burnout because of action. Because at least if you're going through burnout I was watching an interview by Mr. Beast who's the number one YouTuber in the world, and he spoke about just like his work life and how he goes so hard, like he's constantly working on different projects and putting in these ridiculous hours every single week. And eventually he gets to a point of just all out exhaustion just burnt out, and he'll need a day just to recover, and then he's back at it, right? But he's also massively successful. But you have people on the other side of the spectrum where they'll burn out and they're not even putting in any work. They're just overthinking everything. And then they burn out just from the process of overthinking, and then they're left with regrets. They're left with guilt. So don't be that person. Now, another cost is regret versus failure. So remember this, failure gives lessons, but regret gives nothing. Failure gives lessons, but regret gives nothing. So that's why it is so much better to just swing the damn bat. At least you got in the game. Even if you strike out, you still got in the game and you will never have that regret. The pain of discipline weighs ounces. The pain of regret weighs tons. Next remember people on their deathbeds regret what they didn't do more than what they did. Do more than what they did do, okay? They're countless stories of people who waited too long and missed their shot, right? And. They didn't take action when the time was right. So a prime example of this would be the company Kodak. You guys probably remember Kodak, and we all used Kodak back in the day for like photography. And do you know that Kodak was just denying this whole digital era that we were going in and they took too long to adopt the trend and end up having to file bankruptcy. How many of you see Kodak today? It was one of the most admired companies, one of the largest companies in the world, but they waited, they did not take action when the time was right and they paid the price in a major way. And this happens at the individual level, it happens at the organizational level. So it is essential to, to make sure that you're taking action, especially when the time is right now, shifting the mindset. So one of the things that you wanna do is reframe failure. So a lot of you are looking at it as failure, and you're all caught up. Trying to avoid it. But remember, failure equals data, not identity. I'll say that again. For those of you in the back of the classroom, failure equals data not identity. So what do I mean by that? Whenever you fail, you're learning. Like you, you wanna fail forward, and it's not really failure. I was watching an interview this week with Tyler Perry and he had mentioned to these group of guys that he never failed in his life. And initially these guys were like, what do you mean you never failed? And it's yeah, because everything was a lesson. Everything that he thought he failed at in the moment led to something even better, or he learned something along the way. He got some kind of value out of it. So it is essential to, to reframe the way you perceive failure. Okay. Another thing is to embrace imperfection. So it's one thing to always wanna be perfect, but imagine if you can be okay with being perfectly imperfect. That's really what it comes down to. Being perfectly imperfect, being okay with your imperfections. Remember, done is better than perfect. Done is better than perfect. Would you rather have a book that has the potential of being perfect, or a book that's actually out? Maybe it's not perfect, but you actually have a book, right? Or who would wanna be there just stuck and never putting out the book, never putting out the podcast, never putting out that course, never putting out whatever it is that you're working on because you want it to all be perfect, be okay with the imperfections. Like I've had to embrace this in a major way. Sometimes I've had life mastery events that I've had live webinars, things like that. Even events that just, everything wasn't completely dialed in, but at the end of the day it happened and it's so much better that actually got done than to have been caught up and just trying to make everything right. Now this is not to negate the fact that you should always do your best to be as world class as possible, right? But not at the expense of inactivity. Now next we have trust. The process. Clarity comes from action, not thinking. So sometimes you think that thinking things through is gonna give you clarity. No. Sometimes it's taking the action is what actually gives you clarity. You learn as you go, you course correct, and you make those adjustments as you go. Now I love this 80% rule. I'll share it with you guys. Take notes. If you feel 80% ready move. If you feel 80% ready, move some of you're waiting to be at a hundred percent. The moment you feel about 80% ready, you definitely like you've reached a limit. Go for it. Okay? Because you'll learn the other 20% along the way. You'll learn it along the way. 80% is enough to say, Hey, let's go. Sometimes it doesn't even have to be 80. You could pull it off at 60 70, but when you hit about 80, just go and make things happen. So the idea is action is the antidote to fear sometimes when you just get the ball rolling, that's how you overcome the fear. Because what tends to happen is if you are constantly overthinking everything you're actually making yourself more fearful. You're thinking of all the reasons why it won't work. When was the last time you actually took the time to think about all the reasons why it will? Why it will, and I have to catch myself sometimes because I'll start going down the rabbit hole of why something won't work and not really putting enough consciousness and focus and attention on all the reasons why it can't. Okay, so here's some practical tools to stop overthinking. First and foremost, we have the two minute rule. I talk about this all the time, and it's inspired by James Clear, who wrote the book, atomic Habits, and basically the two minute rule is this. If it takes less than two minutes, do it immediately. Do it immediately. Maybe it's picking up that phone and making that call, right? Maybe it's booking that meeting, whatever it is, but if it takes less than two minutes, you should do it because that's what builds momentum sometimes it's just taking that little action, that micro goal. Okay, next, we have set deadlines. Time bound goals kill, overthinking. So when you set those deadlines, and that's oftentimes what I do with clients. If I'm working with a client, what I'll do is I'll set a micro goal for the week. And if they don't follow through on that micro goal, then there's a fine associated with not following through. So you want to set deadlines, okay? Because the deadlines, it makes you just take action and go hard and wanna get things done at a specific time. And this is why many of your jobs, a lot of people who work jobs typically have some kind of deadline to different projects that they're working on because that's how you get things done. Okay? Now limit input. So only consume info that leads to direct action steps. Limit your, the input. Sometimes you're just inundated with too much information, it's information overload. You have too many people in your ear. Sometimes it's just good to, again, scale down what it is that you are consuming. We also have decision filters, so ask, will this move me closer to my dream? Everything that you do, ask yourself, is it moving me closer or is it taking me further? So for example, if part of your dream is saving up for that new home or saving up for that new vehicle, or saving up for that vacation, but you're about to go blow money in the club, is it moving you closer to your dream? Absolutely not. So why would you engage on it or engage in it? And that's why oftentimes we share the my, one of my favorite philosophies is, if it ain't a hell yes, it should be a hell no. If you're thinking whether or not Hey, is this really what I wanted to list? Just don't do it. Don't do it because it's not moving you closer to where you wanna be. Another thing is to break it down. Break it down. So convert big goals into micro steps. Win the day, not the decade. Don't get caught up on the decade or even the month. Just focus on winning the day. What are things that you can do today that can get you closer to where you wanna be next? We have an accountability partner. External push eliminates the overthinking cycle. Sometimes you just need that person in your corner to help you, right? Because they're there to hold you accountable. Hey, how's this thing going? I know for me whenever I have a gym buddy, for example, I find myself more in the gym and I found myself working harder in the gym when I have a gym partner, right? It's just how it's, so having an accountability partner always helps. Even in businesses that I've ran, like I was always a lot more productive whenever I had an accountability partner in business. Now, you could also have an action journal. So for those of you who journal I, and I would hope all of you journal to in some shape or form, but write down one action daily toward your dream and execute it before bed. So for those of you who are tuning in right now, think about what you can do for today that can move you closer to your dream and actually follow through just one thing. Okay? Now, if you're getting value, once again, drop a comment, you can put a V for value. I wanna make sure you guys are still with me here and we're about to bring the plane in for a landing. All right, so next there's so many stories I can tell you of people who have gotten caught up in overthinking, whether it's entrepreneurs who've launched before they were ready to launch, whether it was athletes who took risk on the big stage. You understand, like Michael Jordan, I remember just seeing him play with the flu, right? And still pushing forward sick as a dog and leading a team to a championship, right? It could be creators who started small, but grew huge. Some of your favorite creators, it could be YouTubers, podcasters, authors, right? And in terms of for me, again, a lot of the things that I've launched over the years, if there's anything that I'm grateful for, is the fact that I let go of this idea of being perfect a very long time ago, a very long time ago. And I know people who legit will not start speaking on a podcast or they, they're not putting out content because they don't like the way they look yet they're on their quote unquote weight loss journey. And I respect it. It's like you may not want the world to see you like that, but how about if you had the perspective of, I wanna show people my transformation. I wanna show people like what I overcame. It's like a different way of looking at things, okay? Like for me, if I look at the work that I put out in the early years, it's like super scrappy. But I'm okay with that because people can see the progression, people can see the evolution, okay? So it's not about having everything be a 10 out of 10. All right? So I wanna challenge you guys to pick one dream you've been sitting on and take action on that dream within the next 24 hours. What's that dream? Whatever it is. Maybe it's to buy that home, and maybe you could start researching things on that home, right? But don't stay researching too long. Take some kind of action. Maybe it's on reaching a certain level in your business and you have to make some phone calls, reach out to some prospects, land some customers, right? Maybe you have to hire that personal trainer. Your dream has been to get six pack abs, whatever it is, but whatever that one dream is, and do something today to take action on that. Okay? And once again, for those of you who are ready for that next level dm, me, I'm always happy to provide coaching, insight, mentorship, all of that stuff. And I offer complimentary coaching sessions for those of you who feel like you can use that extra push. But my hope for you after tuning into today is that you take action. You stop overthinking and allow yourself to just start building some momentum. Maybe today was a reminder for you Hey, I don't have to have it all perfect, or, Hey even if I just take one small step, it's still a step in the right direction, okay? And remember this, your dreams are not waiting for you to think more. They're waiting for you to do more. Okay. They're not waiting for you to think more. They're waiting for you to do more. So just to wrap up, remember when it comes to everything that we covered go back and understand overthinking in the first place. Know that there's a cost to overthinking and it typically comes down to going through a mindset shift to break out of the overthinking. And you have all the practical tools, whether it's the two minute rule setting, deadlines limiting, how much input you take in, right? Having those decision filters, like asking yourself, will this move me closer to my dream? Breaking it down into micro goals, having an accountability partner, or even an action journal. These are all practical tools you can take on today. To move the needle with your dreams. So ladies and gentlemen, I hope that this was super valuable for you. If it was, drop a comment. 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