Letting Go of Your Past and Reinventing Yourself

Letting Go and Reinventing Yourself: Release the Past and Embrace Your Future

In this episode, we delve into the process of letting go of our past mistakes, regrets, and old identities that hold us back from stepping into our future. We discuss the significance of releasing what no longer serves us and reinventing ourselves into the people we are meant to become. The session covers personal anecdotes, strategies for emotional healing, and steps to redefine our identity. Additionally, we provide updates on the upcoming Creators Conference, and introduce the Monetize Your Mission Mastermind community. Join us for a transformative discussion on overcoming the past, finding inner peace, and creating a new, authentic you. Don't forget to take notes and engage with our community!

00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Past to Shape the Future
00:50 Upcoming Events and Community Announcements
04:15 Why Most People Feel Stuck
06:21 Personal Stories of Reinvention
09:24 Understanding the Power of the Past
21:25 The Process of Letting Go
29:01 Detachment from Identity
29:35 Release Rituals
30:10 Summary of the Five Steps
30:49 Reinvention: Creating the New You
34:08 Steps to Reinvention
42:47 Spiritual and Emotional Side of Reinvention
47:34 Gratitude and Reflection
50:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Transcript

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So today's episode is going to be about something that we all navigate through and wrestle with, and that is the past, the mistakes, the regrets, the pain, the old identity that we sometimes cling to. We all can relate to at some point in our lives just holding onto the past. But here's the truth about that. You can't step into your future if your hands are still holding onto your past. So today we're gonna walk you through how to release what no longer serves you and how to reinvent yourself into the person that you are truly meant to become. Really great session that we have lined up for you here today. Definitely take some notes if you're new. We are a notetaking community, so treat it as if you are in class because we're gonna be sharing a lot of great. Value with you all here this morning. And just a few updates. So this weekend we have our Creators Conference. So it's our second annual creators conference happening at the James Museum in St. Pete, downtown St. Pete, Florida. It's gonna be a phenomenal time. We're going to be having all kinds of creators, influencers, entrepreneurs, coaches who are going to come and show our audience how to. Build or how they've gone about building their brands and businesses online. So we have people flying from all over the place and we're super excited because we're doing it much bigger and better than we did last year and it's just gonna be a great time to just come network learn a whole lot and leave inspired. Okay. So we have a lot of people in our community who are into. Just the world of content creation and who are entrepreneurial. And I know even if you're just looking to learn how to get into content creation or looking to learn how to build your network or even just influence our network, definitely come to the Creators Conference because it's just gonna be an amazing event. We always have a great time. On Friday, we have a soiree red carpet type of meet and greet where you'll be able to meet a lot of the people coming to the event. We're gonna be having some light bites, drinks, all that good stuff, followed by a mastermind session. And then on Saturday's, the main event, we're gonna be having live keynote, live keynotes. We're gonna be having a live podcast, experiences, panel discussions, all that good stuff, and a whole bunch of networking. And then Sunday, we're gonna be having a great time. So this Sunday is actually my birthday, so I'm looking forward to this weekend because a lot of great things to celebrate. And then the last thing that I wanted to announce is our 3M community that we launched for the fourth quarter of this year. So the 3M, the S stand for the Monetize Your Mission Mastermind. So the Monetize Your Mission Mastermind. I actually just did a masterclass on how you can monetize your mission no matter what it is that you do, no matter what your expertise is or your knowledge is based on. I have a masterclass that just shows you how to go about actually being able to monetize. Your message, whether that's through coaching, speaking, consulting it's a really great masterclass. It's free for everyone within our community. And also we're launching this as an official community. So I know a lot of people didn't catch the Breakfast Club where I mentioned that we were having a few limited scholarships. The Creators conference is actually the. Official launch of this amazing community where we're pretty much going to be showing you how you can take your brand and business to the next level. How you can monetize on whatever it is that you have going on. It's gonna be a great place to just learn from other people, get live, just workshops and all kinds of stuff, every single. Month we'll be gathering together as a community to show you pretty much the ins and outs of how to go about monetizing your mission. So a really amazing community. And if you have any questions regarding that, feel free to DM me the word coach. I'll be more than happy to send you some information on that, answer any questions that you may have as well. With that being said, we're about to jump into. The main topic of today. So let's just see here. I think we are all good to go. So here we go. Why most people feel stuck. That is today's that's one of the talking points of today's topic, which is on reinventing yourself and letting go of the past. So why most people feel stuck and remember it is not the present. It's their attachment to their past. That's the reason why most people feel stuck. That's a huge point because many of us do become attached to the familiar, attached to what we know, because we do clinging to. A certain degree of certainty. As human beings, we want certainty. We want to know that everything is gonna be okay. And sometimes, as you guys oftentimes hear, we'd rather settle for the devil we know than the devil. We don't. And a lot of people are very fearful of going into the unknown. This is a major part. When it comes to reinventing yourself, you have to really identify what are those things that you've been holding onto. Now remember, this reinvention isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be so good. That's really what it's about. It's about rediscovering just who you really are at your core with no persona, no, no facade, nothing like that. In the world of social media, people tend to put on this persona. And persona is a Latin word. The original Latin word means mask. And we tend to put on this mask in society just to fit in and be not judged and stuff like that. And oftentimes if you live long enough like that, you'll end up losing yourself in the process. So reinventing yourself is really. Coming back home to yourself. That's really what it comes down to. And letting go of your past, the past that has got you to this place. Whether you are happy with your life or just not satisfied with it but it is important to, at some point in time, live an authentic life. Come back home to yourself and reinvent yourself into the person that you ultimately know you are. One thing that I wanted to share are just moments in my life where I've held onto the past. And it just stopped a lot of my progression. There have been seasons in my life or my career as an entrepreneur where I just really had to reinvent myself to get to the next level. For example. If you dress a certain way and people perceive you a certain type of way, and this is not about being someone you're not, it's about being the very best version of you. So when I was on the come up, I was way more hippie like. If you knew me in my early twenties. And I was traveling around the world and just living a very minimalist lifestyle. And I, I loved the philosophy of, or the way of living of essentialism, like just having what I needed. And one of the things about that way of life I feel is that it was. Blocking a lot of my abundance, blocking a lot of prosperity from flowing into my life because I had a certain self-image about myself. And one thing that I knew is that if I was going to lead an organization of thousands of people, which that was the path I was on a path where I wanted to attract. High caliber people into my organization, business people. And I had to evolve. I had to grow. I had to let go of who I once was and reinvent myself. And during that season, I remember I, I became very intentional about how I carried myself. I remember when I first started speaking on television, for example when I first started speaking on television, it was important. To really even change the way that I had my hair. So I was way more hippie, so my hair would be looking all kind of crazy, I got locks. And I remember when I started to speak on television, I had to really polish up a lot of how I carried myself. And some people may disagree with this, but honestly it was one of the most effective things that I did because they keep bringing me back. And a lot of the. Types of business partners that I was looking to attract resonated with a more vibrant life coach a life coach that exuded abundance, right? Not this scrappy, minimalist type of vibe that I was giving off for quite some time. It's crazy. Looking back at old videos that I used to do on social media, I cringe at them because you could see the evolution, you could see how much growth there was. So it is important. Really to evaluate where you are and is your current paradigm, is your self image, is your identity, are your standards, the environment you keep, the people that you hang around, is this in alignment with who you ultimately wanna become? That plays a big part of the process when it comes to just reinventing yourself. That, that's just some of the moments that came to mind for me. Now for those of you who are taking notes this is gonna be I'm gonna cover some really great points here, and that's on understanding the power the past holds. So the past, like people who really cling to the past understand that the past has a lot of power. If you dwell on it and remember this, you can't heal what you don't understand. So if you don't understand how much the past is affecting your present. Ultimately affecting your future, then it's going to have in many occasions, negative consequences. So it's super important to understand that because the past shapes not only your beliefs but it also shapes your habits and your identity, the way that you look at yourself, how you move your human behavior, everything about yourself. A lot of the times it's predicated on your past or the way that you look at your past. So it is important to have a healthy relationship with how you go about looking your at your past and how you use it as leverage. So I've learned to use the past for gratitude, use the past for learning from my mistakes, use the past for just whenever I wanna feel proud of myself. Like I'll just reflect on the good and anything that I probably wasn't so proud of. I just take it as a lesson learned. I take it as a very valuable lesson learned. That plays a big part as well Now understand that why unresolved pain repeats itself in patterns. So there's a lot of unresolved pain like unforgiveness. There are people in your past that you probably haven't forgiven because you're still holding on to maybe what they said to you or what they did to you. And sometimes these things turn into patterns. Think about it, you end up in the same kind of a relationship, right? When you think about it. Same person, different face. Many of us can relate to that. When you just are on these toxic cycles and you're not even aware. How many of you have been in a relationship where it's the same toxic situation and you keep wondering like, why am I like attracting these types of people? Remember, you guys hear me oftentimes say that your vibe attracts your tribe and you are going to attract a person who's a vibrational match to who you are as a person. Okay? Now think about certain business struggles that you probably are repeating, right? History does repeat itself in a lot of ways and. There are certain business struggles, career struggles, relational struggles, health struggles that are all essentially patterns, and they're tied to your past. Sometimes or many times, it's self-sabotage. And I see this happen a lot of times where people that I lead, they go into this spiral of self-sabotage and it's so unfortunate because there are a lot of gifted people, talented people who have so much potential. They're their biggest enemy. Remember, sometimes it's not the enemy, it's the inner me that you're really dealing with. It's that enemy within. It's just like the African proverb that states, if there's no enemy within, the enemy, outside can do us no harm. So it is important to really come home to yourself and identify what are the areas that you have to heal in your life? What are the areas that you have to really resolve? Okay, now there's a term referred to as emotional memory. And emotional memory is super important because how your brain and body store old experiences acts like code running in the background. So how do how do certain aspects of your past, how do you interpret them? How do you look at certain aspects of your past and what do they mean to you? Certain things that you've gone through. So there are a lot of ways that I've had to go about reframing a lot of what happened to me, like throughout my childhood, growing up in the hood, growing up, seeing a lot of violence and crime and murders and all kinds of crazy stuff that I was exposed to, but. At some point in time, as my mentor would say, I had to stop letting my past piss on my future, like because I could sit there and dwell on all the bad stuff, or I can reframe it and choose to look at it from a different lens. Remember, you can't always change the world, but you can change the lens in which you see the world and that makes the biggest difference. There are people that go through very similar situations, and these people have two different outcomes simply because they have two different meanings. How do you interpret your past? What meaning do you give to your past? Are you looking at your life as life is happening to you or for you? So when I made that reframe with everything that I had gone through, what happens is it empowered me. I took control over the narrative and I actually now had leverage. And allowed my past to actually fuel my future and my past and my struggles and my setbacks and everything that I had gone through actually became useful for the work that I do today. I wouldn't be able to relate to so many people if I hadn't gone through what I had gone through. And oftentimes what I encourage clients to do when I'm working with a client and they're really dwelling on what happened to them, and maybe they went through something super traumatic. I always give them the reminder that, Hey, think about it like this. Are you more valuable in the marketplace because of what you've gone through? Are you able to empathize with more people because of what you've gone through? Are you are you more wise? Are you more resilient because of what you've gone through? So it's all about reframing how you look at. The things that you've gone through, maybe you've gone through a really difficult divorce or breakup and that relationship prepared you for who God really had for you for your soulmate down the road, and maybe there were aspects of that relationship that really built your character and taught you what you don't want. Maybe it helped you really know who you are as a person and raise your standards. So it is again, important to always reframe your past so that it's actually useful for you down the road. Now there's a difference between remembering your past and reliving it. Remember that there's a huge difference between remembering your past and reliving it. A lot of people relive their past over and over, and if you didn't have the greatest past it's probably good to. Put it where it belongs. If you're gonna remember it and use it for something that's useful, use it for wisdom. Use it for gratitude. Use it for a story, right? Remember, there's treasure in that trash. There's an inspiring message in that mess, but it's all how you look at it. So you could either choose to remember it or relive it over and over, okay? Most people. They're they don't really live life. They're living their past over and over again. It's the same story over and over again. And you see this constantly happen. So remember there are common signs that your past is still controlling you. And I want you guys to take notes of these, okay? Here are the common signs that your past is still controlling you. Number one, constant comparison. To old versions of yourself. So you're constantly comparing yourself to maybe how you were in the past or what you've gone through or the different versions of yourself in the past. That's another way you know your past is controlling you, feeling guilt. Number two, feeling guilt or shame about past decisions. You can sit there and you can dwell on it like, man, I really messed up, and you can beat up on yourself and just be really careful with that. Some people, what they tend to do is they'll always talk about it and they don't realize that at a very unconscious level, they're looking for significance by constantly talking about their past. And don't be the person that's always just, woe is me, a Debbie Downer, Johnny Raincloud kind of person, and you're doing it really so that you have your need met for significance or your need met for connection. Maybe that's the way you've been connecting people, connecting with people in a very toxic way. So constantly feeling guilt or shame about past decisions is another one. Lastly, the fear of trying again because of past failures. How many things are you putting on the back burner or maybe procrastinating on, or maybe you're having paralysis of over analysis because of what you've gone through in the past with certain decisions that you've made that led to quote unquote failure. Remember, it's never failure. It's feedback. It's not failure if you extract the lesson from it. That's really how you should interpret. Maybe things that you've done. Maybe you found different ways to not go about that business. And ultimately, if you don't quit, it's not failure. Maybe sometimes you course correct, maybe sometimes you realize that endeavor is not really what you want for your life anymore, and you pivot and you do something else, and that's okay as well. So here's a great quote. The past is a place of reference. Not residents. It's an unknown. Whoever came up with it is absolutely amazing because that's a really great quote. The past is a place of reference, not residence, so you don't wanna live and dwell in the past. You want to just reference it and extract whatever value you can get from whatever it is that you went through. I remember I had a lot of just trauma just growing up in, in environments with a lot of crime and gang violence and things like that. And I remember that I would just get triggered, like in public I'd be in clubs and I'd just be super paranoid, like I never felt safe in certain environments. I was always on edge. I was the person like back against the wall looking at everything going on just. Seeing who's plotting and all this stuff, and I just had this crazy way of going about life and just going through my healing journey, I had to come to the realization and that healing that, hey, you're safe. I had to come home to my inner child and really remind him that he's safe. He's a grown man now. He ain't living in the hood anymore. He doesn't even go to those types of environments anymore. And it's okay to move on and live your life, not having to be paranoid. And that was a big part of my healing journey, right? So I was living in the past and I had to put it in this proper context. Allow it to be a place of reference. Reference as opposed to a place of residence. Second part of this is the process of letting go. The process of letting go, man, it's sometimes it's hard. Sometimes it's hard. The word decision is the original meaning of the word decision means to cut or kill off. So when you make a decision, it's ultimately killing off any other possibility or any other outcome, right? You're making a decision. This is the moment, like the word side means to kill off, like genocide, homicide, suicide. That's what it ultimately means. Whenever you make a conscious decision that this is who I'm going to be. You're killing off any other outcome, any other possibility of being anything else. And a great mentor of mine, you guys hear me say it all the time, he would always say that you are who you say you are until you prove otherwise. So the moment you make a decision that this is who I'm gonna be, this is what I'm about, then you move forward and you move accordingly. Okay? Letting go. The process of letting go. Remember, it's not. Forgetting it's releasing attachment. That's what letting go is about. It's not about just like pretending that the past never happened, it's just releasing the attachment, the bondage that it's been having on your life. Whether that's leaving you feeling a sense of guilt, shame, resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness, all of this stuff. It's letting it go. It's letting it go. It's like getting to the airport and you have all this baggage and you only came with$50 to your name to the airport, but you have all these bags and you're gonna have to make some decisions that you're either going to hop on that plane with your$50 or you're gonna let go of all that baggage. That baggage that's probably not even serving you and get on that plane to your destination. And that's what a lot of letting go looks like. It's being okay with letting go of all of that baggage so that you can get to where you ultimately want to be. Okay. So here are some steps to letting go. This is first step is acceptance. So acknowledging what happened without judgment. This is huge when it comes to forgiving your parents or your loved ones, maybe a family member who did something to you, and understand that when, whenever someone hurts you, whenever someone causes you pain, or maybe your parents, you didn't hit the parent lottery and they didn't do the greatest job, right? Like just being there for you or nurturing you or giving you any kind of attention. It's super important to remember that your parents have also gone through trauma. Like we've all gone through trauma or we've all gone through different things that ultimately lead to us being the way that we are. Oftentimes, our parents were just really doing the best with what they were working with. They did the best with what they were working with and that's a big part of it. Because we have so much resentment. Even, let's just say you were in a toxic relationship and your ex caused you a lot of harm. Understand that they also had trauma and this is how generational cycles of trauma carry on because there's no awareness or acknowledgement. Getting to a place of acceptance where you can acknowledge what happened in your life or what people did without judgment. Understanding that you know what, they've also gone through some things and every person that has ever caused you harm or pain in your life, just know that they were once innocent little boys and little girls playing in a playground with other little boys and girls, and the world ultimately made them how they are as people. The world hurt them. The world traumatized them. No, no child is born with malice per se. Kids are innocent, they bubble with bliss. Kids are beautiful. It's the world that programs, you know us to be who we ultimately become. So having that acceptance and acknowledging that without judgment is one of the best things that you can do on your journey. So remember, you can't heal what you keep pretending didn't hurt. You can't heal what you keep Pretending didn't hurt. If something hurt you, again, you acknowledge it, but you acknowledge it without judgment. That's the biggest part. Okay? Sometimes we try to pretend as if these things didn't happen, right? We try to sweep it under the rug, and what ends up happening is you have this unresolved trauma that ends up triggering you later down in life, because that's. That's really what trauma is, the word trauma. The root meaning is wound or wounding, right? And these are wounds that you haven't properly healed. And that's why you get triggered the way that you do. So the second step on this process is forgiveness. Remember, forgiving others and yourself sometimes is the hardest part. Sometimes it's the hardest part. Just getting to the point where you forgive someone and sometimes it's just forgiving yourself. That can be even harder at times. And just remember that when you are forgiving someone, oftentimes it's not even it's not even for the other person. It's for you. It's for you. It's so that you can get closure on that situation and move on with your life. Remember that self-forgiveness. Is a major key when it comes to your own personal growth. And I know for me, time and time again, whether it's my relationships or decisions that I've made in business or just anything like, I've had to constantly forgive myself and I just refuse to just dwell on that because I know how detrimental it can be to my future if I just sit there and dwell on my mistakes. So you move on. The third step is, as I mentioned earlier, reframing the story. So instead of, let's just say, this ruined me, say this, refined me, or instead of saying, they ruined me, say they refined me. Because the reality is, yeah, that situation may have caused you a lot of pain, harm, anguish, all of that. But at the same time, it also led to who you are today. It also refined you. It also cultivated wisdom and resilience. So that's a big part of it. So which are you going to focus on? Remember, what you focus on expands in your life. So if you sit there and dwell on the negative, you're just gonna get a lot more of the negative. But if you focus on the good that came out of it, your life just becomes so much better. The fourth step is detachment from identity. Detachment from identity. The version of you that went through that pain served the purpose, but now you get to evolve. That's the big part of it. So however, you may think you have screwed up your life in the past, listen, that does not have to be your identity. At any point in time, you can decide to let it go and evolve and move on from the past. Step five is release rituals. So these are really cool tools and strategies that you can implement to help you on this journey of just letting go of the past. And that can be journaling, it can be therapy, it can be prayer, meditation, getting a life coach, burning old notes. Sometimes you, you can write these certain notes and just burn them right till it symbolically let it go. The leading toxic reminders, whatever it is, but these are all symbolic acts that matter. They play a big part. So the five different steps in the process of letting go, number one was acceptance. Number two, forgiveness. Number three, reframing the story. Number four, detachment from identity. And number five, release rituals. Whether it's journaling, prayer, meditation, whatever it is, gratitude, all of that stuff definitely helps. Here's a really great quote by Marianne Williamson, forgive the past. It's the only way to free the future. How powerful is that right? Forgive the past. It's the only way to free the future. Next up, we have reinvention, which is a lot of fun, so creating the new you. I know oftentimes during New Year resolutions and stuff, we always have these like cheesy sayings, new year, new me and all that stuff. But this is deeper than that, right? It's not the same old cliche, new year, new me kind of vibe. We're going to implement specific strategies, right? Science, back modalities, and tools that you can implement so that you can truly go through a reinvention. Sometimes it's like. Even moving to a different city can be incredible. Like when I moved to Tampa in the last three years, it was a great opportunity to reinvent myself. Don't be afraid to just move to a new place. Like we, we tend to think that we have to. Stay in one city, and we get very fearful, especially if you're in the United States. Listen, the state of Florida is like the entire, the size of the entire country of Italy, right? The United States of America is massive. You can move and start your life over in different cities. If you really want to just reinvent your life now, do you have to move to a different city? Absolutely not. Maybe you wanna move to a different neighborhood. Maybe you wanna cut off past relationships. Maybe you wanna start your social media from scratch, but what does that look like for you? Okay. There's so many ways that you can go about your personal reinvention. Maybe you change your look ladies, you may wanna change your hairstyle of fellas. Maybe you wanna grow a beard. What they call it no shave November or whatever. You have so many different ways that you can reinvent yourself. Maybe you wanna just change up your swag, change up the way that you carry yourself, the way that you speak, the way that you look, those types of things. But these are all things that you can do to go through your reinvention. Okay. Remember, you don't find yourself, you create yourself. It's not always about finding anything. You, you're not going somewhere to, to find you. No it's an internal process, right? And it's a coming home, but you're like creating yourself in the process. Okay? So remember when it comes to starting over, this idea of starting over is a myth. Remember, you are not starting from scratch. You are starting from experience. So it's not about just like starting all over. No you are starting from a place of great wisdom. You are starting from a place of resilience. Everything that you've overcome, that's what you're starting out with. You're much different than you were 10 years ago. The person that's quote unquote starting over now. Is much different than the person that may have wanted to start over just five years ago. You've licked your wounds a few times. You've gone through those relationships, you've gone through those health challenges. You've gone through those financial setbacks, so that's what you're starting over from, starting from experience. It's a much better place to start. So this is a great time. Okay. Especially with everything happening in the world. Why not reinvent yourself? Maybe you reinvent yourself by starting a new job, new career, new business, okay. But there's so many ways that you can go about it now steps to reinvention. Okay? And before we jump into that, remember you have to go through an identity shift. And that identity shift is ultimately, who do I need to become to live the life I desire? Who do I need to become? To live the life I desire? That's a really great question. For example for me, one of the things that I had to work on more than anything was my patience. Just getting having more patience in my relationship. That was a big part of it. Becoming more disciplined. If I was going to build successful businesses and be a successful entrepreneur, I had to get very disciplined, very consistent. I had to avoid a lot of the things that I was doing in the past that weren't conducive to where I wanted to be. So that played a big part. Okay? So you have to really question that. Who do I need to become to live the life I desire? Maybe you have to become more empathetic. Maybe you have to become a better leader. Maybe you have to become a more effective communicator, more articulate. There's certain things. Maybe you need more emotional intelligence, and you can double down on the areas that you're weakest. Now another thing is you have to define your new vision. Your new vision for your personal life, your professional life, and your spiritual life. Maybe it's your physical health when it comes to your professional life. Maybe it's you doing a complete 360 when it comes to your career, when it's your spiritual life. Maybe it's getting closer to God, having some more. To get you grounded with your spiritual practice practices, but define your new vision. Okay? I refer to this as your North star. Your North Star being that guiding light of who you wanna be and how you want to live. Here are the steps for reinvention. Number one is clarify the new identity. Clarify the new identity. Who is the upgraded you? What does that even look like? What are their habits, their values, their boundaries? Who is this person? What's their swag like? That was a big part of it. So I remember when I first got started in entrepreneurship and there, there were a lot of mentors that I had that they had a certain swagger to them. They carried themselves. Themselves a certain way. They would even wear these like fancy shirts. A lot of the guys that I looked up to in those early days they'd wear these really expensive Robert Graham shirts, and that's when I actually started wearing Robert Graham shirts. Not that I had to jack their swag or anything like that. I really loved those shirts and it always felt like big energy. And I started buying me some Robert Graham shirts and wearing them. And I love the way that I felt. For those of you who aren't familiar with Robert Graham, it's like wearable art. Every piece of every piece of their fashion is like wearable art. So it's beautiful designs. And I just started changing my sweat and that was a big part of it. I went from just wearing flip flops to also wearing dress boots. I remember when I started wearing blazers when I would go to certain meetings, and again, it was. Who I needed to be to attract what it is that I wanted in my life for that specific season. So clarify the new identity and really identify who is that upgraded version of you. Secondly, rebuild your environment. Remember this concept, show me your friends, I'll show you your future. So you're, you are going to attract a lot of people who are like you into your life. You're gonna gravitate to certain environments and just know you hear this all the time in the world of personal development, if you're the smartest person in the room, you need to be in a different room. You need to elevate your circle of influence. So rebuilding your environment, engineering your environment so that it's conducive for becoming in alignment with your North star. Change what surrounds you, people, places, inputs, all of that. That's a big part of the process. There were a lot of environments I used to chill at back in the day, and like these days I you wouldn't catch me in a million years going to some of the environments that I used to go to back in the day. Like I don't put myself in environments where there's a lot of trouble or it is like low vibrational or there's certain types of people I like being in classy environments, high vibrational environments in environments that embody. Opulence and abundance and peace and just good vibes, good people, kosher environments like that's, those are the types of environments that you wanna be in. Thirdly is commit to consistent action. This is a big part of the process and it's funny because a lot of people they're like really into law of attraction and they forget that you're not just going to think your way to results. It doesn't work that way really. Like from a very scientific standpoint, the law of attraction is your reticular activating system, the RAS, the ingenious part of your brain that filters out. Like all of your thoughts, because we think anywhere from about 40 to 60,000 thoughts a day. So the RAS in your brain is designed to just filter out stuff so that you're mainly focused on your predominant thoughts. What in the world are your predominant thoughts and desires. That's really what it is. So whenever you want something yeah you obsess about it. You get locked in and you have this compelling vision, but you have to take action. It is not just automatically going to come to you, that your actions have to be in alignment with what it is that, that you're looking to bring into fruition in your life. So that's a big part of it as well. Okay? So commit to consistent action and remember small habits that align with your new direction. That's a big part. So if your new direction is being healthy. Obviously you have to take consistent action with getting into the gym. You can't pay somebody to do the pushups for you. You can't pay somebody to do the jogging for you the sweat equity, the rent is due every single day when it comes to your personal success. So having those habits that are in alignment with what it is that you want. That can be for your health, that can be for your relationships. Maybe the habit is going out on a date night, once a week with your loved one. Or maybe it's spending time with your kids, taking them to the park for me. Going to church on Sundays, prayer, meditation, reading, scripture, all those different things. These are like different habits that feed my spiritual life. And there's so many different things that you can implement, okay? But all of this definitely leads to your reinvention. Number four is create new meaning from old pain. And that's major. So you want to use your story to inspire and serve other people. Okay? And today, for example my coaching, my speaking, my consulting, a lot of my past is what, what allows me to do the work that I do today. I wouldn't be able to reach the people that I. Reach today or really empathize with them the way that I do if it wasn't for what I had gone through. So I just embrace it all. I look at it as all useful. Even things that happen that aren't so glamorous in my life today, like I look at it as all useful. It's never failure. It's always feedback, okay? Because at some point in time you can use that to help serve people. Now, here's a really great quote. You can't become who you are meant to be if you are still attached to who you were. Okay? Really great quote. Remember, you can't become who you are meant to be if you are still attached to who you were. So that's the big part of your growth, your transformation is really letting go of who you think you are. Now. Next we have the spiritual and emotional side of reinvention, which plays a big part. It's not all tactics, it's not all just binary, right? It's not black or white. It's there's an emotional side. There's a spiritual side. And just know that transformation starts from within before it ever shows outwardly. You have to do the inner work. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind as scripture states. Here are a few talking points that I wanted to share. The connection between surrender and peace, this is major. So why letting go brings inner freedom, surrendering to whatever may have happened, and choosing peace instead. Surrendering and as they oftentimes say in church leaving it all at the cross, just deciding to just release everything that you've been holding onto because it's familiar, because you feel like it's a part of your identity or maybe you just didn't have the awareness of it, that you've been holding onto this and this is the one thing that has been holding you back. Maybe you've been with a victim mentality and pointing the finger at everyone else, not wanting to do the inner work, and this ultimately is what leads to freedom. Just surrendering, letting it go, and choosing peace instead. Another thing is the importance of solitude. So remember, sometimes God isolates you so he can elevate you. Sometimes you have to find solitude. Spend some time with yourself, come back home to yourself. Take some time for some introspection. Sometimes there's just too much noise. You guys who've heard me talk many of you have probably heard me do a chant referred to as the sonic boom chant, right? So it's me yelling Sonic and people go crazy about all over the world. And the whole audience yells, boom. And oftentimes I explain. What that means symbolically. So the sonic boom when a when something, when an object goes past the speed of sound, there's that crack, that boom that you oftentimes hear. It's like when you see Superman flying, you'll see him have a mini sonic boom, like a little mini explosion in the air. Or maybe you're looking at a fighter jet and you'll see it sonic boom. And that's because you're breaking past the sound barrier at that point in time. And the reason why it's symbolic for your own life is because sometimes you are. Just hearing too much from the outer world. There's too many people in your ear. There's too much that you're plugging into, and you have to symbolically silence the noise because when you silence the noise of man, you can hear the voice of God. Two thoughts cannot occupy the mind simultaneously. So if you're constantly listening to other people, constantly have other people in your ear, how are you possibly going to hear? God is trying to tell you. So that's a big part of the process is spending that time and solitude, spending that time with yourself and really asking yourself what is it that I really want with my life? What is it that I want? Sometimes our judgment becomes very clouded because we're just tuned into the outer world and really. All of the answers are within. Remember, scriptures teaches that the kingdom of Heaven is within. Sometimes we just have to go within for our answers. Next, we have reinvention as alignment, not striving. So this isn't something that you're chasing. You're not chasing this higher version of you. No. You're aligning with who God already intended you to become. It's about becoming more authentic, not more impressive. That's the difference between being more interested versus trying to be more interesting, right? Be more interested in other people, be more interested in life as opposed to just focusing on yourself and being more interesting. That's how you get caught up in personas and facades and all of this stuff. It's about becoming more authentic. And remember, authenticity is the highest expression of self-love. When you can truly be okay with being unapologetically you, next is on how gratitude and reflection keep you grounded as you evolve. So that's a big part of the process, just having gratitude for where you are. Listen, you may not be where you wanna be. You're probably better off than where you were and that's the idea, or even the fact that you're considering going on this reinvention journey, even the fact that you are working towards an ideal goal that's something to be grateful for, and it's important to always have that reflection. Reflect back on your week, maybe Sunday night you take some time to just really think about the past week. Where did you fall short? What did you learn? Who did you meet? What did you do that your future self could thank you for? And maybe it wasn't the greatest week. And you can set your intentions for the following week so that you can actually move with intention and purpose and be in alignment with what it is that you want. So here's some here's a mini exercise that I wanna do with you guys before we get ready to wrap up here. For those of you who are on the receiving end, don't do this. If you're driving, don't do this. If you are commuting to work right now but if you have the ability, you can either close your eyes or just sit there and imagine your future self walking towards you. Think about you in 10 years and just for a second, envision your future self, your higher self walking toward you right now. What energy do they carry? What do they let go of easily? How are they dressed? How are they? What's their aura? What's their vibe? What would they say to the version of you that's still holding on? Think about that. Sometimes it is important to reflect on the highest version of you and tap into that consciousness. Really tap into that version of you that makes better decisions, that version of you that has higher character, that version of you, that's wise or more resilient. And question, how would they go about this scenario? That's the big part. Now, letting go of your past, remember, is not an event, it's a decision you keep making. Reinvention is a daily process. The idea is just 1% better. You get 1% better every single day. You're over a hundred percent better next year, which is incredible, right? It's not these huge quantum leaps. It's not these huge milestones. It's incremental changes and shifts that ultimately make your life better. And I wanna encourage you guys to remember this. You don't owe anyone the old version of you. Show up as the best version of you. And I wanna encourage you guys also to journal about three parts of your past that you're ready to release. Maybe it's forgiveness, right? Maybe extending forgiveness to someone that you have a lot of resentment towards. Maybe it's aspects of your past that you failed at or you feel like you failed at. Maybe it's certain things that happen to you. Acknowledging the fact that it's been really preventing you from getting to the next level in your life. Maybe it's the fear of success and there's certain things that happen that are causing you to have fear. Maybe you got bullied, whatever it is, right? But just genuinely making a conscious decision that you're ready to release that past. So if this resonated with you, I wanna encourage you guys to share this Breakfast club. Whoever can get value from this, right? It's truly a blessing that we're able to reach so many people around the world. And breakfast is officially served. I hope that this was valuable for you. If it was, drop a comment. Thank you for all of you who like, comment, share, tag. All that good stuff. It's greatly appreciated. I wouldn't be able to do the work that I do today if it wasn't for you guys. I'm looking forward to seeing many of you at the Creator's Conference and thank you. And if you have any questions, remember about our mastermind community, all the stuff that we have going on, just DM me. I'm more than happy to help you however I can and look forward to seeing you guys next week. And remember. You can't drive forward if you keep staring in the rear view mirror. So let's drive forward and get to our destination. Take care. God bless guys, and I'll be seeing you all next week. Breakfasts, sir.