Unlocking Trust: Your Key to Enriching Relationships and Self Growth

Picture this: you're at the center of a network of trust, radiating a positive influence on others, cultivating a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

Sounds wonderful, doesn't it?

In this enlightening episode, we dissect the complex and fascinating concept of trust and its crucial role in our lives.

You'll discover ten straightforward ways to amass or amplify trust - from practicing honesty to keeping commitments, from nurturing self-trust to prioritizing communication.

I promise, this is not just about enhancing your relationships with others; it's also about fortifying the relationship with your own self.

Ever been let down, hurt, and then struggled to rebuild trust? You're not alone and I'm here to help.

In the second part of our episode, I lay out a treasure trove of strategies to regain and reinforce trust.

We discuss the positive impact of consistency, attentiveness to small things, the power of time, and the strength in trusting others.

But more than that, I open up about how trust is an ongoing investment that reaps massive rewards.

Tune in as we navigate the path to becoming more trustworthy and how it shapes more successful relationships, both at home and at work.

Trust me, this episode is a game changer!

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Transcript

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Get ready to be inspired, motivated and empowered. Welcome to the Home, happy, successful Podcast, where we will talk about positivity, mindset and different tactics and strategies to be more happy and successful. I'm your host, Behnaz Vala, and I'm on a mission to help as many people as possible to be more successful through a positive mindset. So you're looking to improve your career, strengthen your relationships or find more happiness and fulfillment in your life? You'll find the guidance and inspiration you need right here. Join me in this fascinating journey and become more home, happy and successful. Welcome to the beautiful world of the power of mind and positive thinking. Let's start our journey together.

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What is trust? Trust is the foundation and the glue in all human relationships. Without trust, you are alone in a hostile world. You stay small and anxious and can achieve little. With trust, you can spend and love and be your best self. You can lead a happy and productive life.

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Trust has been fundamental to our survival as a species. Relations have relied on each other for thousands, if not millions, of years. We would not have become the dominant animal on the planet if we didn't have a long-standing and pervasive bedrock of trust and cooperation. When you think of the word trust words like honesty, respect and reciprocity follow. We base trusting relationships on an unspoken agreement that we will respect and take care of each other, no matter what. In the distant past, trust assumed that you wouldn't steal my food or burn my house down if I was off hunting woolly mammoth and not there to defend them. In 21st century terms, trust implies that you will treat people with kindness and respect and honor your commitment. So why is trust important? Studies have shown that people who trust and are trustworthy are happier in their personal and professional lives. They are calmer, more successful and productive. The relationships are sound and are better able to withstand adversity. Trust makes every aspect of life easier, at home or in the office. On the sporting field, trust is vital or the team just won't function. Think of how much advertising money goes into building a brand that people can trust. Trust is a gateway to contentment, acceptance and safety. There are lots of straightforward ways you can build or increase trust right now. Here are 10 ways to build trust 1.

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Honesty. Nothing kills any kind of relationship, personal or business like secrets. Trusts are corrosive and add a layer of anxiety to relationships that make it impossible for them to grow and develop. Studies show that for many people, lying is part of their everyday behavior. People lie in one in five of their interactions, rising to 64% of deep betrayals of trust involving close partners. The flip side of this is that people say that trust and betrayal are the most important issues for couples. Related to honesty is openness. If people know you are not hiding anything, they are more likely to trust you. Similarly, it's always better for you to tell the truth. You can deal with problems whatever the situation, and people will trust you not to cover up or gloss over things.

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Number 2. Trust yourself. How can you expect others to trust you if you don't trust yourself? It's worth investing the time in really improving your relationship with yourself. Do the self-work and be clear about your mindset, your values and the things you find a struggle. What assumptions and internal messages are your thoughts and behaviors patterned around? Where do they come from? Are they still serving your best interests? Adjust your mindset to positivity. Lack of self-trust comes from self-doubt. Be kind to yourself. Prioritize positive self-care in your life and learn to value your experience and your intuition.

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Number 3. Communication. Clear, open communication is fundamental to building and maintaining trust. Make sure everyone knows what you expect and what agreements you have made. Let your colleagues, staff and loved ones know what's going on as early as possible and share information. Don't hide things or try to cover up or fix things in silence. Similarly, if you make a mistake, model the behavior you want to see in others and admit it. If people see you own your mistakes, that builds a bond of connection and trust. They know you're human and it's okay to be vulnerable.

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Number 4. Commitments. In all your relationships it is vital that you keep your promises. If you say you are going to do something, then you need to do it and you need to follow through. If you can't or don't want to do something, learn to say no politely and firmly. And if something genuinely comes up that means you won't be able to make your commitment, communicate this as early as possible so you can reschedule or re-prolaritize.

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Number 5. Be kind. Being kind to yourself and others not only makes life better, but it also builds trust. Being kind may not be a topic usually discussed under the heading of trust, but it should be. If you aren't kind to yourself and others, it's almost impossible to build trust. Here are some tips Give people the benefit of doubt and don't leap to judgment. Stay calm in the face of bad behavior or bad news. Being quick to fly off the handle only makes others feel they can't be themselves around you. Show you're interested in the other person. Find points of connection. Don't gossip, triangulate or talk about people behind their backs. Have reasonable, firm boundaries. Being kind doesn't mean you are a pushover or that you let people take advantage of you, but you need to be kind to yourself and learn how to say no positively. If you know yourself worth, you will be less vulnerable to people who might betray you or let you down. Give yourself for past mistakes. Making mistakes is the way humans learn and grow. Don't dwell on the past, but look to the future with hope and openness.

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Number 6. Listen. Listen intensely to people, whether you are talking to a friend or in a meeting. Listen and respond to what they are saying and don't interject with a pre-planned speech. It helps to minimize distractions, so put your phone away and don't put it on the table. Look at the person while they are speaking. Be available for conversations and be open to hearing what people are saying. If others feel you never listen, they will eventually give up. They don't trust you to take them or their concerns seriously. 7. Be consistent. Become known as a person who can be relied on to do what you promise. Make sure you are on time for meetings or movie dates. If you threaten your misbehaving child with no internet for a week, then follow through with the punishment. If you are consistent in your actions, you are signaling to other people involved that they are a priority for you, and consistency is rewarded In the workplace with greater responsibility and promotion and in personal relationships with a relaxed affection and trust.

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8. Pay attention to the small things. The small things generally are important. If you pay attention to the small things, you build a bedrock of trust with people. They will know they can count on you for the big thing in life, simply because they can trust you to do the little things, things that may seem small to you in the bigger context, can have greater significance for people. Take it a priority to remember people's names. Say thank you and smile, and remember to buy milk on the way home without being asked At the office. Say good morning or good night to your colleagues and team members. Say thank you to the cleaning staff. You build trust on these small blocks of connection and mutual regard and support.

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9. Give it time. Building healthy and trusting relationships takes time and patience. Trust is not a thing that can be done and dusted and ticked off the list. Trust requires maintenance. If you find it difficult to trust people or worry that they will not do as you ask, try building trust in small steps and be kind to yourself. Use one or two things from this list that don't seem too risky. Focus on these first and build from there. Similarly, earning trust takes time. You need to demonstrate that you are trustworthy, not just once, but over and over again. The good news is that trust is incremental. The more you demonstrate reliability, consistency and commitment, the more trustworthy you become.

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10. Trust other people Even if you've had problems in the past. Nothing will inspire trust like offering it yourself. If people feel valued, understood and respected, they will respond in kind. You will have a positive feedback loop that will incrementally grow from the mutual trust between individuals and groups. It doesn't matter if it's a team, a couple, a family or a friendship group. If you've been hurt or let down in the past, trusting might seem a risky business, but trust is the bedrock of all relationships. The more you trust and demonstrate trustworthiness, the easier it will become to trust further Be known as a person of integrity and honesty, and you will find reward with positive, supportive relationships.

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Building trust in yourself and others is a life-long investment that will reap increased contentment, happiness and fulfillment throughout your world. We are all interconnected, dependent on the integrity and generosity of those around us. The more you can see yourself as the center of a wide and expanding network of friends, family, teammates and colleagues, the easier it will be to become a lighthouse of trust. You will begin to see the positive influence of your self-trust and trustworthiness spread and improve the lives of others in ways you could never have imagined. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and share it with your friends and family. I would also love to hear your thoughts and experiences, so leave a comment and share them with me. Also, join my free Facebook group Positivity Powerhouse and discover more. The link to join is in the show notes. Stay tuned for the next episode, where we will continue to explore important topics related to being home happy and successful. I'm so looking forward to talking to you next week. Expect the best, and the best will happen to you.