5 Feng Shui Bedroom Rules I'm Willing to Break (And the One I'm Not)

I've been sitting on this episode for a while now, it’s one of those topics that keeps circling around in my head until I finally have to sit down and get it out. Today it's the master bedroom, and I'm walking you through five feng shui rules: which ones I'm genuinely willing to bend for a client's real life, and the one I hold firm on no matter what.

Before we get into the rules themselves, I share a little bit about my own history with perfectionism… from struggling to get ready for school as a teenager, all the way to a very expensive hand-tufted carpet lesson during my private aircraft design days. It's the reason I don't believe in "good feng shui" versus "bad feng shui." I believe in a sliding scale and in releasing the pressure to get it exactly right.

Here's what we cover in the master bedroom:

• The bed in the command position — bendable, sort of. New construction is making this harder than ever, and I'll tell you what to do if your bed can't avoid lining up with the door.
• Headboard against a solid wall — bendable. What to do when your only option is putting the bed in front of a window (including a real fix from a very oddly shaped bedroom of mine in Willoughby, Ohio).
• Matching nightstands and lamps — bendable, with one important caveat about proportion. Plus a client story about mismatched nightstands mirroring a mismatched relationship.
• Mirrors facing the bed — holding firm. This is one of the most consistent disruptors of restful sleep I see, and I'll give you a few real options if you can't remove it.
• No exercise equipment, desks, or screens in the primary bedroom — mostly holding firm, with a practical workaround for smaller homes, condos, and RVs.

None of this is about getting your bedroom "right." It's about noticing your specific space and working with how you actually live in it.

If this resonates, I'd love to have you join me in the Aligned at Home Collective — my monthly membership group, meeting the first Wednesday of every month from 7–8pm ET. Reach out for a free first month. Prefer to go deeper one-on-one? You can also book a free 15-minute discovery call — link in the show notes.