You know that's a dope intro song . Anyway , welcome back to the Come On , you Know podcast . I'm your host , dez , and you know I have like 2 million subscribers and every single one of them sends me requests for what to do a show about . And today's show is about rejection and , more specifically , if you are holding on to someone that you want to have a relationship with and they don't want you . So how you know , in my infinite wisdom , I will give you my opinion about that what to do , what not to do and what I think about it . So anyway , I don't have 2 million subscribers that was a joke . I think I have . I don't even know how many I have . Probably I'm probably in a negative , I'm probably probably people that left , but anyway .
Speaker 1So rejection and wanting a relationship with someone that doesn't want you that it's rejection is , in my opinion , it's bad for the soul but good for the character , if that makes sense . So rejection is a thing , but to me it's also just not getting something that you want and we just see it as being rejected . But really , in its essence , to me it's just not getting something that you want and in turn we say we were rejected . But I think of it like this If we got everything we wanted , we wouldn't value anything . So that's why I think rejection is bad for the soul but good for the character , because it builds character . It's like , hey , I know you've , we've all met a person that well kids that are spoiled , adults that are spoiled , people that have gotten everything that they wanted and they don't value things as much . Rejection is not a thing to them because they don't either get rejected or they end up just receiving stuff that they want people , things , materials , stuff like that . Anyway , I say I am I am , you know , well versed in rejection . I've been rejected by people , jobs , things I don't know , animals you know what I'm saying Clients . So I mean , I know a little bit about rejection or not getting what I want , and I have a pretty decent character . It makes me , it makes me value the things that I have , the , the relationships that I have , the stuff that I have worked hard for or maintained , in a sense , but anyway , so I'm getting a little off track . So back on track , so I don't be whack , being rejected . I'm going to , I'm going to turn this into the . It's going to be like I'm going down the relationship road . So I'm talking in terms of relationships . So wanting someone that may not necessarily want the same thing that you want with you , and how to deal with that , how to deal with that is just really , in its essence , it is what it is . If you know what's going on , then you have to put your you know if you're an adult , because this could happen to you know , at any age teenagers , teenage love and stuff like that but if you're an adult , you got to put your adult hat on and say , hey , this is the situation , just like if you were applying to a job .
Speaker 1I hate , I hate . I hate to talk about relationships like jobs , but essentially , like it is one , they can be one , you know , a date turns into an interview or a relationship turns into a duty , right , just like a job . But anyway , like it's just like a job , if you don't get hired for the job that you want , then you just , you just don't . You don't keep applying , or you can , I guess , because maybe it wasn't the right time , but a lot of times when it comes to people liking people , you can't force it . You know what I mean . You just gotta go with the flow .
It sucks , it's not great , but in essence you gotta think about it . It's like you just not getting something that you want and really that is . I'm going down another road , I'm going down the side trail , the bike trail right now . But in essence you gotta look at it as what causes pain . I don't mean like somebody punching you in the face . I'm talking about , like , emotional pain , emotional pain and just hear me out Emotional pain . I guess you have no choice but to hear me out , because I'm the only one talking on this thing . But emotional pain comes from just not getting something that you want , so it comes at a loss . So a loss means you don't have something that you want to have , right , and it causes pain and hurt . And that's where rejection is At the core of everything . It's just not having something that you want and dealing with that and with that it's . We kind of make up stuff Like rejection , we call it rejection . It's not rejection , it's not having something that you want . I'm gonna like I said that 13 times already , I'm counting . But that is the essence of it and when you can deal with that , you have enough character to deal with that and know yourself and know that is the core issue . I mean emotional pain is just one thing . It's not having something that you want and that's like knowing it is the first step of being able to deal with it .
Speaker 1Like this is how did this become a serious show ? This is a serious show . This episode Like this is crazy , but I got it . I gotta spit that knowledge though . I got it . I'm sharing my knowledge with the world . Like this is my gift to you all . Is my brain . The stuff that I have in my brain you need to know because it's golden .
Speaker 1But anyway , back to the subject . So dealing with it , um , I don't have some encyclopedia Britannica type definition for a solution , it's just really dealing with it . It's knowing what the issue is . That is the core of problem solving , is knowing what the problem is right , and then you could figure out how to attack it . It's you knowing that you are not getting , or you don't have the ability to get , something that you want , and relationship wise or person wise . If you attack that , then that's the battle . You know what I mean . If you know , if you walk into a candy store and you have diabetes , you can't have this candy bar and you're upset . The candy bar didn't reject you , you just can't have it for other reasons , right , I don't know if that's a good analogy , but I'm sticking with it . But what do you ? Do you adjust ? You say , hey , you know what , I can't have this candy bar . I'll just start eating fruit , I guess , and maybe that'll substitute . But when am I going with this ? You know what I'm saying , but dealing with it is a part of me . Dealing with it is it's not even dealing with it , it's dealing with yourself . You know what I mean . It really is just dealing with yourself . Because , yeah , you got to .
Speaker 1If you look at it like , why am I saying this so much ? I'm unable to get what I want , what I desire right now . If you look at it like that , it's like , well , maybe I should just assess my desires . You start looking at that . Then it's like , maybe I should assess myself , maybe I should look at this space that I'm in , I mean relationship-wise , mentally , because everything that you want is not in the space necessarily good for you . Then you got to look at why do I want this ? Why do I want this person ? Why do I want this candy bar ? Why do I want this new car ? What is it ? Do I just like it ? Am I in my possession , do I just want to possess ? You know what I mean ? You got to peel back the layers . You got to get to the middle of that onion . I'll bet it's still an onion . You just got to get down , you got to get down , you got to get
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Speaker 1But yeah , I think , man , that was like some straight up Albert Einstein Well , not Albert Einstein , he wasn't . What is it ? Who's a well-known philosopher I'm spitting straight philosophy right now , although it is to sum it up because I'm tired of talking about it , but I still want to . Anyway , it's not rejection , it's you not getting what you want . Look at what you want , look at wanting stuff . Why do you want stuff ?
Speaker 1Everything doesn't have to fit in your box . If you got everything that you wanted , you'd be a spoiled Millennial . But I don't know , I don't want to Joke on millennials , I just it's because the last show was about Gen X , which is like Probably the best generation ever . But if you got everything you wanted , you you probably would not . Your character would take a hit , you not . You not getting what you want . Your soul takes a hit , but your character , you know , becomes solid and that and that , uh , you know that that Builds you up for when you actually get what you want . I mean this , this , you'll be a better person , and All of that .
Speaker 1So , anyway , I don't mean for it to be a serious show , but every now and again I got a half one I have a serious show . I gotta spit that philosophy because I got a lot of things on the brain and I'm , uh , I'm pretty . I'm like , I'm , I'm in , like the top 1% in in Intelligence . I'll just say that like I'm pretty , I'm pretty smart man , like I'm so smart , like I drive myself crazy . It's like insanity is the what is it ? Insanity is product of Non-ignorance , I don't know . But whatever , I just said , I just made it up . So , anyway , uh , that's all that .