What up , what's going on . So welcome back to you know , come on podcast . So no , I'm over it . I'm over it , but Maybe not today . So Today I want to talk about friends and friendship and how important that is . I had a good friend of mine , my little brother , say hey , you're not , you're talking too short . He's like yeah , no , 30 minutes should be the minimum man . Why are you pressuring me ? Why are you pressuring me ? But you can , I will adhere to the pressure , but anyway , friendship , so Like that that is . I don't want to dive Into another serious topic , but I'm like why am I getting all these serious topics Throwing at me ? Like you should talk about this . You can talk about that , but I guess I will .
Speaker 1So friendship is is very it's an intimate issue and it's very important , right , we think it is . But we try to act like it's not . But it is because of it's it's , it's another venue . So the sound the board , if you had like , like , come on , you know , right , that's the name of the show . It's like we know , we know what the real deal is . We Utilize our friends as an outlet , as outlets . When we get older , we understand that . Hey , our friends understand us . It's like yo , we want to utilize our friends as venue To Say stuff . And our friends kind of gauges . They're like , hey , that was dumb , that was good , that was whack , that was Very ingenious , that was this , that was that , but , but , but , but , but , but , but , but , but anyway .
Speaker 1So , like this , this past weekend I went to a very , very good friends surprise birthday party and I , like his wife Text me . She's like hey , you gonna come to like we have a surprise birthday party with plan of a ham . You should come . But I'm like dude , I'm there . Man Don't even like I'm there . She's like , thanks , he beat happy , he would be happy . And I'm like I didn't even think about how happy would be . That is a thing , that is straight up a thing . And I thought about it . I'm like one like , first of all , that's a good , she's a good person , it's a good wife . Second of all , like , yeah , he wouldn't be happy . Third of all , I don't even know who would be there . I'm thinking it's like he , I work with him . So it's like people from work , which is like , yeah , you know , like this poor , but it , it was almost perfect .
Speaker 1He , he had no idea , he appreciated it and it was like a good , you know , jlb was a good job , like . So Props to the wife , she , she did a fantastic job and she had a perfect setup , perfect , you know , collaboration with people . He had no idea I thought I ruined it because I pulled up and I saw him pass by me . She , she , she was trying to keep him out Until it was time to party and I have a I , I have a very recognizable vehicle Be incognito . I can't be incognito . Yeah , it's like you see , you see my joint , but he didn't . So he was just focused . He was focused on family stuff and it was a thing . It really was a thing . But I really , like , I'm learning to appreciate things , that are things . And she was like , hey , just come in after him . Buh-bye , I gotta set up . And it was , it was very good , so anyway .
Speaker 1So my point is friends are I Apologize about clearing my throat no , no , human , but friends are Necessary . Do things with your friends , do do them do , whether or not you working too much . You have a huge family , don't have time . Like . That was very , very refreshing . Like you millennials like to say , I'm a Boom gut punch . I'm a jab at you millennials . Could you keep making up stuff . But it's a thing Just spend time with your friends and understand them and learn them and Be a part of their life . You know what I'm saying . Like it was really nice to just go there and Meet new people and and my friend is a , he's a , he's a teacher , he teaches , he's a coach , a teacher , and a lot of folks that were there were his students and it's like you see your friends in a different light .
Speaker 1It's like , hey , I admire this person because they do something Other than you know what you know before . And I know him for from work or for work , and he does other things , like I do other things but nobody cares about what I do . It's all good . But it's like , hey , respect what they have going on outside of what you know of them to be . And and he , you know he has a lot of pretty decent network . I'm gonna hate on him a little bit and if he listens to this he's , he's gonna know he's . Why is it like , yeah , we , we have good banter , he's gonna be like it , you know what , whatever , but Just be there , just be there . So anyway , I have .
Speaker 1I have other friends that you know . Do I have dumpster diver type friends , man , it's like yo get get . I have other dumpster diver friends . I have friends that I am , I have . Well , I love all my friends . It's no big deal but that's just . But this was a great , a great party . I am .
Speaker 1I'm completely happy that he was surprised and he , he , he . I was gonna see he deserved that . What . What is the derv ? He did that , he did they that . He deserves that and I'm glad that I was a part of it and in uh Is a little um , you know , we don't , we're not next door Davis , yeah , I drive through the the night and Rocks and alligators and all that stuff , but I'll do it .
Speaker 1It was fun . It was very , very , very , very fun . So what I am saying right now is hey , if you are , I Am not a spring chicken , I am a fall chicken , if you will . But I love that like , adhere to that , embrace it . The relationships that we have developed , initiated , nurtured Progress in like be , be in that moment , be in that moment . And I didn't .
Speaker 1I Like , I always am kind of in a moment if you will , but Not like , not really . I'm always thinking about the future , but it's like hey , do do that , do that like Just do it , don't think about , hey , I don't have any gas , or like I'll think of an excuse , yeah , I have to be at work my seven o'clock . It's like nobody really cares about work . We act like we do but we don't . But just be there , because those are the moments , those literally are them and um , I Experienced that and I appreciate him , I appreciate everyone that set it up his wife is the people that were a part of it because I had fun and that was very , very , very refreshing to me . It was very , very , very Just a good Sunday , you know , and I like what I did prior to that . I had , I had , I had a great Sunday .
Speaker 1I'm in a good person and just Like understand that people are all we have and you got to dive in , you really do . But I Think I went down a rabbit hole , but anyway , so like have other friends is Is , that is a . You need to do that . It's a staple and I would charge all of you , all , all 10 million of my subscribers , to nurture your friendships . Don't be mean , don't be a bad person , don't be mean . If you are , I'm coming after you and I'm a wolf . I'm tell you that right now . I am , I am a wolf , so I I I can't even deny it to . I Can't even deny it I am , but there's that .
Speaker 1So , friends , friendship , this is it's supposed to be about , friendship , today's episode . And we're all the same . We all have the same questions , we all have the same , you know , like Thoughts . One , one issue hey , can men and women be friends ? The answer is yes , done it . Yes , mature people can do anything . You have to be mature . It's not like .
Speaker 1So it's like hey , can men and women be friends if they had a some type of relationship , relationship prior ? Blah , blah , blah , blah . Yes , can men and women be friends if they didn't ever ? Yes , they can , they can . You know why ? Because if you , if you take a step back , look at the person , look at the person and not have some yeah , I'm about to , I'm about to like straight up , jack this up not have some sexual in the window , not have some sexual climbing in the window . I don't , I don't even know if that's the right . Whatever , maturity , maturity and logic wins in the end . So the answer is yes , I Can look at a woman and say , hey , I'm this woman I'm proud of , blah , blah , blah . You know I , I know her from this , we've been through this . She's she's doing this . The answer is completely yes .
Speaker 1People say no , but that's not true . That is not true and I I'll charge any , anybody , anyone . You know one of my 10 million subscribers . You know rather not that's you or I charge anyone that's intellectual or not intellectual , a realist , a faked , anyone to challenge me on that .
Speaker 1Men and women can be friends with and without sexual relations . People normally say , hey , yeah , men and women can't be friends because it's just one person that likes the person more than the other . But that's not true . Won't you take a step back and look at each other objectively and look at each other as people , which you will do when you get older , you will do when you become more mature . You can be friends because it's like , it's about progress . It's like , hey , what are you doing ? Say you are a female and then you are friends with a male and this male is like a I don't know . Say he's an architect and you're like a photographer and you're like , hey , what do you think about this ? We use each other as resources , not saying that in a negative term . But you can be friends because , yeah , it'll benefit you , but in a sense , but you're learning . But it's like , hey , I'm not trying to like this , maybe that was a bad example , but you know what ? Scratch that , I don't care . But I'm right , men and women can be friends , just like men and men can be friends . Just like women and women can be friends . It doesn't mean , like people say , well , women and women can be friends because they can relate to each other more and the same thing , men and men can be friends because they can relate to each other . But it's like , yeah , that's true , you can relate and that is a basis for friendship . But understanding also could be a basis for friendship . So it's like I'm not going to be like , hey , I'm not going to be friends with you because you don't like the Jets , which happens to be my favorite team . I'm going to talk to you all about that . We'll wait until hard knocks come out . Yeah , they're hard knocks , but that's not the issue . It's a rabbit hole . But yeah , I don't want to talk about that right now . But anyway , yeah , we know that sex on sex can relate . Because of that , they have that in common . It's like , hey , we have this in common , blah , blah , blah , blah . But people are people . People are dumb . People are not dumb . You can understand what the other person is thinking relating to , so you can be friends with them and you can . I hate to use the word use , but you can use that . You could say , hey , like I understand , you know this , so I want to use it as this blah , blah , blah , blah , blah . So don't give me that . Like men and women can't be friends because one person likes the other person . If one person likes the other person , then they absolutely should not be friends . They shouldn't . And friends is not like . Friends have mutual interests is what I'm saying , and it doesn't have to be sex . I'm out of here , that's , that's . That was an ingenious moment , so there's that . But so what else ? So , like I , I wanted to talk more about the friendship deal and just growing into friendships .
Speaker 1It's very important . Like I have , I have different friends . I have some friends that are clueless and just want to be like yo . Like yo , man , gotta be at work in 15 minutes . I have other friends Like I , like last episode of talk to my , talk to you about my friend that gave me advice about talking about guns . I love that dude to death .
Speaker 1So it's like hey , but I'm gonna make , I'm gonna . I need that type of person as a friend . But , however , we're gonna fight , we're gonna poke jabs , but at the end of the day , if I didn't have that person as a friend , I probably wouldn't be who I am . So I'll hate on him , talk about him jabs , those gut punches , but at the end of the day , I don't . I actually really don't care about what he says , I just care about that he's there and that's what we need to do . You know what I mean . And I'm charging you Whoever your friend is your bestie , don't call them your bestie . Show them that they are your bestie . And you know , I'm making friends every day , reluctantly , because I'm at that point it's like , hey , my friend is in my house , my couch , my better house , my evening meal , if you will .
Speaker 1But what I'm charging you all to do is respect your friendships , nurture them , because all we have is people . All we have is people . It's not . We don't have plants , we don't have animals . People get animals for companion , but you're just taking care of something else . You say gotta get back home because my dog is bar up , and that's great , but that dog is not gonna give you advice , he's not gonna give you advice but not gonna comfort you when your boss yells at you . They'll just be there for you to take care of .
And that is a key core thing we do as humans . It's like , hey , we find comfort in taking care of things . And there's humans that deny that , which is fine . But I don't know . Yo like I need , yeah , I need to . Like I'm not gonna say I need to run for all of his , but how am I like I'm a genius in my own regard ? That's crazy .
Speaker 1All right , I'm just like making up stuff , but I would charge you all nurture your friendships , listen to your friendships , understand them , pull those people in that you need to pull in , because we don't have that much time , we really don't and it'll mean a lot to them , it'll mean a lot to you and you'll find things like very refreshing . And like I have I talked about my little brother . Like he's , this dude is listening to my shows . He's like , hey , he's giving me advice on my shows . It's like that's priceless . You know , I appreciate that , I really appreciate that . It's like you know what , thank you . So I'm gonna nurture that friendship , the people around you . Just observe the people around you and appreciate them for what they are .
Speaker 1And I'm trying to actually apologize if this show is a little bit more serious like this is the third serious show in a row . Two , two , three , four fit in the . I don't care , just spitting that knowledge . Catch me in the corner , not speaking like girls face , give a shout out to the W and you know this . This that's real , integral to me , is real . I Just think we should like I have a . You know what , you know , I don't care , I'll just spit it out .
Speaker 1Whatever yo , treat your friends , treat the good friends your good friends , treat them like good friends . Do it , do it for me , do it for me and do it for you . Secondly , do it for me firstly and Do it for me secondly . But hold the people close . We've all gone through stuff last couple of years , five years , six years . Has has been Horrible . It's been like drinking bleach . So we should learn Right . All we have is people , and I will continue to say that . I'm gonna say that every other show . Oh , I probably won't , but I'm gonna say that , I'm gonna say it every other show now , the people that you , and it's not about just entertaining you , it's about , it's about being a , a base for you . The people that are a base for you , that you know you learn from , you rely on . Yo hold those people close , not trying to be too serious , but I am being too serious because it matters . So do that . Um , what else ? So , anyway , let me know what you think , and that's all I got . See you .