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Speaker 1So I have a good friend . He's a pretty good dude . He's very easy to talk to , very smart , opinionated and just goes with the flow and sometimes he , he , he , he flows the flow . I don't know what that means , but we were talking today and he's like hey , man , we were talking about Dayton , like just in general , and he was spitting some stuff , I was spitting some stuff and we , we were merging collective thoughts . But that's what I want to talk about today . I want to talk about the like . Everyone Talks about it .
Speaker 1While it's a thing , it's like hey , what was your opinion on this and what do you think about this ? And everybody , we all do the same thing . And it's like that's the . You know , come on , you know we , we know what we all do , we know what we all are trying to aim for .
Speaker 1But I want to kind of revisit that conversation that I had with this good friend of mine and and Just kind of spit some Some come on , you know , type of Philosophy , knowledge , hard facts , this and that it's my opinion , but it's kind of right and and he was asking me questions . I was asking him questions and we're pretty pretty average decent dudes and and we go through stuff we were just kind of talking about . It's like , hey , you experience my experience and I want to kind of capstone my my Thoughts on this because I'm right , it's crazy like I'm giving mad advice and mad , mad Experiences and mad what you should do for for free , just to make the world a better place , I guess . Anyways , so this is the basis he's . He is a Regular dude , I'm a regular dude , and what I mean by regular I mean like Nothing , cray , dece , a little bit better than decent jobs , careers , if you will smart , understand the world , understand our place in the world , understand when the world is , you know going towards , if you will , and just just like you know we live in a very , very , very decent place and Maneuvering , we're just Just doing it . So he asked me Well , we just talk . So it's like , hey , I tell him what I think , he tells me what he thinks and this and that . So I told him and I'm I'm letting you know , my audience , all one of you that this is how it goes .
Speaker 1So I Don't want to talk bad about the Dayton apps , but that is what we . We have no choice but to adhere to , right ? So it's different factors , pictures and what you say , levels of attraction . But I told him Because this is what I think and I know it's the truth it's like hey , I Told him that . I said , hey , it's a little difference between you guys and gals . I think gals Pardon me , I had some good Korean chicken Mad good .
Speaker 1So I Would assume that we have different experiences , guys and gals , and I Would . I would think that that girls have like more options , and what I mean by more options is is a larger number of Guys or whatever , on the Dayton apps like hey , you know what's up , are you doing good blah ? And then regular guys like myself , we may have a medium to low number of girls that we match mitt , match mitts , match myth that's a new word match myth , match with Right . And then , if you want to and I hate rating people because people like Souls , are beautiful , so you can't rate a soul , you really can't and if you agree with me , then you're right , if you don't , then you're wrong . But it's nothing .
Speaker 1Like this person was , I wasn't attracted to Um blah , blah . You didn't give that person a chance . That's a thing , and and that's why this is kind of weird . But people in prison same Sexual or like Like people in prison are like , oh , you know you , I Like the way you soaked up today because it's a longevity thing and that's reality you will become . Once you learn and understand Something , you , you will become attracted to it . But anyway , so , like , here's a deal , I'm just gonna straight up , spit it , spit it out . I , I believe and you can prove me wrong , let me know in the , in the comments , whenever I throw it out up I believe that women on in in these Daytona thingies have more of a perceived sense of options .
Speaker 1And and guys , unless they're like Some you know , super attractive Brad Piddish , I'm doing pull-ups in every , in every picture type dude , we have a mediocre reign . So we're like , hey , we're gonna get , we're gonna try to shoot for the best of what we can get Right now . So to better illustrate that , I would assume , like Women that are , it's all about attractiveness . And then , hey , if you can articulate words To an extent , that comes secondary and everyone acts like they want that as a primary factor . But it's like , hey , if you could speak , or you could talk or you could articulate a thought I want that first , but that is a semi . I've learned my lesson down the road thing and I want that first . But we all do the same thing . It's like , hey , how attractive are you ? And then , what's the secondary ? Can you tie a shoe ? You know what I mean . Can you ? Can you Do you put periods at the end of your sentence . So we want to act like we don't do that , but everyone does that . So this is my
thought .
Speaker 1My thought is that women with a lot of or perceived , a lot of perceived Daytona options Can go through those like hey , how you doing ? Oh , you didn't put a period Next , hey , you know how's it going . Oh , he didn't say how's it going to me Next . And guys are like what up ? And she's like what up , is that okay ? Well , I'll talk to her for a while , like let's , we'll see . You know where the magic happens , if you will . And so I Think the women are going for the guys that it's like , if they think that they are highly attractive , can piece together a sentence , maybe a joke or two , maybe I'm not totally ignoring you . So , okay , I'll go for this .
Speaker 1And those dudes also have a Don't want to say a plethora , but like they have options too . So I think it's the people with a lot of options are going towards each other and and they're not realizing that , they're not realizing their situation , they don't go a little deeper and it's not like hope . I'm not saying like hey , this person is , I know , this person is attractive , so I'm not gonna talk to them because I know they're talking to other people . Everybody has to go for what they want to go for .
Speaker 1But I think that is the problem . It's like they're going everyone , like the people with the options are going for each other and then Calling each other like whatevs , and then the people with the mediocre options are kind of paying for it . So it's like , hey , I know we , hey , you , you , you have a haircut in your picture , so you , you're probably talking to 17 girls . It's like , well , I know for a fact , you , I mean you are attractive girl , you are an attractive female , so you have to have 17 times five dudes talking to you . So what's the happy medium here ?
Speaker 1And that was the crux of my conversation With my Highly intelligent friend and , and , and that's a problem . So he's like hey , he was talking to me about , like different dating apps . I'm like I don't think it's the apps , because it's the , the people . So , same pool of people talking to the same pool of people , everyone wants to Assume that what they are attracted to is attracted to them . And I'm not gonna talk about people not want to get to know each other , because that's kind of that . That is a implied thing . It's like everyone likes the shiny piece of candy until it rinds their teeth right , and then it's like , oh , all candy is bad . Well , you did you not know that ? Yeah , but that that was my , that philosophy , if you will . It's like I , I can identify a problem .
Speaker 1What the solution is is Just realization . Realization , it's like we're all on this checkerboard and I'm talking about I'm not saying me , but just people that are dating each other , the same cities and stuff like that . You're on this checkerboard and you have a it's a , it's a . I Don't say everyone does this , but People look for the bad and Instead of looking for what they can grow with and maybe they don't know what they can grow with so it's like , oh , this person's Smile is crooked and it's a false sense of I could find someone with a nice smile and it's nice and happy and blah , blah , blah with that person . You aren't the only person looking for that other person . So nine times out of ten , or maybe ten times out of ten , that person is probably with another person that recognized that way before you .
Speaker 1So I'm not saying there's no hope out there , it's just that , dating with a sense of realism , this is my advice be a human . Be a human . Don't don't say , oh , you know what this person is , this political party , so I know I'm not gonna get along with them . It's like They'll when you , if you get married , stay married for a long time and die . You're not gonna be thinking About a political party . You're not gonna be , oh man , I'm glad I married this political party . You know you're gonna be like , hey , I'm glad I married this human that breathed like me , sweats like me , that Feet smells like mine does , or not . They eat food like me . You're not going to be like , oh , I'm so glad I married this person in this profession , because that doesn't matter at the end of the day .
Speaker 1What matters at the end of the day is you hold hands , you love that , your your minutes with this person . It's , it's peaceful , or even if it's turbulent , it's . It's not turbulent in a false sense . It's like hey , like I don't know , I woke up at 6am , this person woke up at 6.05 . I'm gonna , that's it's like . No , it's like this person woke up , woke up , woke up , woke up with me . That's what matters at the end of the day , because we all have the same fate . You know what I mean . We all have the same fate .
Speaker 1Once you realize that , once you put that in your wallet or your purse or you know , you , you put it , you create a CD out of that and get some interest , some fixed interest , you you realize it's like , hey , nothing really else matters except your minutes . And once you realize that you allow yourself to like people say this , younger people like be vulnerable , but what that means is just being honest . It means being honest and that is the thing . So you don't want to like . My advice is don't look for the bad , don't think you have to look or highlight the good . Be okay with the comfortable , be okay with someone that is like how do I explain it ? Like , understanding is really about understanding and not 100% .
Speaker 1It's about trying to understand . You know , if someone has , if you like them , they have good . If they , you know , good banter . They talk to you and you could talk to them and you could communicate and you like communication and you can communicate that , you like that and they get it , then that's , that's cool . But you know , maybe their , their , their breath stinks . It's like man . It smells like this . This smells like the sneakers that I threw out . They took them out of the trash because they were psych psychables , put them back on my porch and then was like , yeah , what is going on ? Like it's . It's complicated , but it's simple .
Speaker 1Once you start hunting for the negative , you you get where you hunt . You highlight the negative , and then you got to realize that when you do that , the other person may not be dumb . They , they may know you do that and they may do that themselves , but I don't know . So here's some key points in dating , because I think I've going down rabbit holes and I'm not a rabbit . But if you think you like someone , like them , try to like them , don't try to dislike them . Look at them , you know . Try to understand them . Try to don't put some checklist against them and I'm talking to men and women and whatever .
Speaker 1Don't , don't hold them against some checklist , and people may call it expectations , but how do you , how do you have expectations for someone and you may not even have them for yourself , like I'm a very self improvement type of person , so I'm my biggest critic and I would never , I never would hold that against someone . Like , oh , what , you don't Do this because I , I I'm very understanding , so it's almost a balance in beam . But do that , do that and you'll , you'll be happier . It's like hey , and Then when you do that , you'll see , because a lot of times he was a well , you know this person Talking to me and I didn't know their intent . And you don't have to know the intent yet , you don't have to be psychic . But if you Like , look at the person and understand them and understand their position in the world , understand your position in the world , talk to them about it . You'll get it , you'll see what they're doing .
Speaker 1There's no like don't pull out a checklist and say , hey , well , were you married three times and how come ? It didn't work . It's like You're talking , you're asking me that and you're single too . So it doesn't even matter if you were married or not married . You are in the same predicament as I am . That's the first step to understanding . So you got to get there like try to doggy paddle through the minutia and you may have a better outcome or not . But it's a little bit of work involved .
Speaker 1But I don't want to talk about like how it is nowadays . And because people are people , we evolve , we create standards and Sometimes they they are , are not even standards , they're just checklist . Get rid of the checklist and embrace life , because you may find that you were getting in your own way and that's the thing . And I love it when I hear like , oh , there's no good people out there , blah , blah , blah . So it's like well , you're out here , are you not a good person ? There's a Zillion people like you'd . I think the same thing . So that is a very I need external Energy and external stuff To satisfy me type of mentality . Sometimes you just have to build your own Road , you have to build your own destiny . And when you Can't pick a contractor because you think Everybody is this or that and not experienced that , so I'm not gonna pick a contractor , then you're not gonna build your own destiny . You're just gonna be Sitting in a trailer figuring out , figuring out why you bought a hide on the project , but I Don't even know what I said . But I know it was . It's probably , it's pretty dope probably .
Speaker 1But People , don't be mean . If you're dating , don't be mean . Don't . Don't look for the negative , don't Automatically be mean , thinking that that's gonna Make you successful . No one , no one was successful by being mean . They became mean when they became successful .
Speaker 1But don't like , don't go out on dates talking about oh you , you're this and blah , blah , blah and thinking that is gonna Help you . It's not . No one wants to deal with that men , women , etc . Already above . But yeah , that's the main thing I think . I think that's that is like a key Thing . Just don't be mean . You don't have to be overly nice , but you don't have to be overly mean because that's , that's not very enticing . So women , men , don't like you to be mean because we we already go through enough . So someone that we are interested in being mean is a turnoff . Men , women don't like to feel insecure .
So , whether that's first , first date , 30 years of marriage , why would they want to talk to someone that doesn't give them some type of Security or some type of consistency and that's it . That's it not saying the consistency needs to be overwhelmingly positive . But people want people that they can figure out and know and Kind of adhere to their general characteristics for a bit of being comfortable , and that's all . That's all we are , we . We are human beings that want to know what tomorrow brings , because we don't know what the next day brings . And that's , that's the thing .
Speaker 1So , whether it's Dayton , whether it's work , whether it's Hobbies , we kind of all do the same thing . And then , when we're looking for love or looking for companionship , we try to beef up quote-unquote standards , because it's pretty important to us . But we all do the same thing . So it's like , come on , you know , you Know so . So , dudes , if you go on a first date , one don't talk about guns to Look . Look at the Woman as a person , as a person . You know the whole movements , what she's talking about , if she's nervous , if she's happy , if she's Jittery , if she's looking at the phone . We , we , we kind of know women do the same things like , hey , don't hold a dude to a standard like , all , will he provide me security ? Don't , don't tag him with a Task , just sit back and See if he's looking at you , see if he's seeing you . Men do the same thing . See if they're seeing you . It's like , hey , I could , I can tell she's looking at my shirt sleeve and my shirt sleeve has a couple of wrinkles in it . And she concludes that I don't know how to iron but is not taken in consideration that I had my shirt sleeve . I had my shirt at work not hanging up and I was excited to see a Etc , etc . But we could do it . We could do it .
Speaker 1Just Everyone look at people as people . When you start doing that , the game will change . Look at the person that you are quote-unquote interested in or want to meet , or a Talking to look at . Look at them as a person instead of as Asset a man , a woman , a Whatevs , a person that's trying to Take me for money or take me for sex or take me for Something . Look at , look at him as a person , and then you get there . You , you figure it out , and then you'll Develop your own path , and then your path will either cross or not , but you'll have that in your pocket . So there it is , you know . So I got .