What up ? Welcome back to the Come On , you Know podcast . I'm your host with the most . So , um , a little . On cloud nine , my jets won . We beat the Eagles Eagles . You should have done better , but we did better and we won . So how about that ? Go home , go home , back to Philadelphia , southern New Jersey or wherever Philadelphia is . Bye , bye , not fly Eagles , fly Bye , bye , eagles , bye . But there's that . So , yeah , I have a little bit of energy to do a show , do an epi . Yeah , my jets won against one of , if not the best team in the NFL . I know a lot of . You don't care , but I care and my boys , my gang green , my the green line , took them out at home . What a high . We did it . We just won a Super Bowl . We're done , we're done , we're done . Season is over . Championship game was won tonight . We're done , we're good . We're good . We have rings . We have rings now . We're good , anyway .
Speaker 1So I wanted to talk about , uh , I had a decent day , well , with this win , it was over the top . But I wanted to talk about the difference , like friendship . I know I made an episode about friendship before . This is a . This is different . The differences in friendship . I don't . I don't like to get into the men and women thing and but women Like with women friendships and men with men friendships is different . So I wanted to talk about that , got a little insight on that topic or or that being a thing and and yeah , that I thought about it . Like my you know , my friends , my besties I have . I have a female friend that is one of my besties ever . I was in her wedding and Of course , I have male besties , and Men and women can be friends . But I think there is a different dynamic between men being men friends and women being friends with women , and it's it's from observation in life , you know , and I'm I don't I don't like to toot my own horn , but I'm whatever the genius , whatever qualifies you to be a genius , I'm pretty sure qualify to be a genius , and so I Just want to talk about my observations and talk about my perspective and what it is . So , anyway , it's about how Women are Friends with women and men are friends with men , the differences . So I am an expert on how men are being friends with men , so I think here's his one huge difference . So men are more Harsh with each other , and harsh is subjective because people Can translate Statements , opinions , differently . But you know , I have a best friend and and everything I do if it's not over the top or if it's not Meeting Whatever his mark , he's like all your punk , your bill , or blah , blah , blah .
Speaker 1It's like , yeah , just because I use dish soap instead of Licking my plate and putting it , you know , in a dishwasher , oh , you're punk , you didn't do this . It's like , well , pardon me , pardon me . It's like , okay , I Get it . And I , and I believe I believe like , well , you know , we would just bread that way and I'm different generation , a little traditional , back in a day . But it's like , hey , you didn't wake up with your boots on your , you know , laced up on your feet automatically , so you're punk . But I don't think it . It works that way . But I understand what he's saying and that's my friend and and love him to death and that's how it works .
Speaker 1And I believe that women on the , on the opposite , and they kind of give the opposite type of criticism and advice , they may say , oh yeah , you do look good in this , or everything is Is good , when you really don't . They won't degrade you , but they'll give you maybe like a false Positive acknowledgement of something and I don't want to say truth , but Like I don't want to say like men are more truthful , because I can guarantee a lot of people will disagree with me . But I think we we don't like we associate what women do with women . So like if my boy is like , oh man , you look good in that , like he's not gonna say that , because that's what a woman would do , like would tell her friend like hey , you look great in that . Right , we're like , oh like , hey , you look dumb , and but it's okay , let's go out anyway . And a woman is like , hey , you look fabulous , when she doesn't really look fabulous .
Speaker 1So I think the relationship between like women and women as friends and men and men as friends , it's different and I think it's about more so protecting feelings and kind of dodging accountability , if that makes sense . Like I think a girl as a friend will not , will withhold telling her friend if she's not , you know , I mean good friends will just kind of tell you whatever , whenever , but I think they will spare her feelings . Girl as a friend will spare her girlfriend's feelings just to kind of keep it going . And then a dude as a friend is not concerned about feelings but they're concerned about actions Like hey , you look dumb , change , let's go out and just to kind of keep things in motion . But that's just the dynamic I believe to be . I could be wrong , but I'm really wrong . We can go with that , but I think , I mean , it's always room for improvement in both relationships .
Speaker 1You know , I think a male bestie to another male bestie can keep it in the holster a little bit , just like you know not blow things up immediately . And I , you know I am a you can accuse me of doing it Like I talk crap to my boys all the time . Like that's how we start off immediately on the phone . It's like yo , man , shut up . It's like I called you . Are you gonna talk to me ? In the first thing you say shut up . That's just how we roll . And you know , female and female , I believe they could . The first thing they say doesn't have to be hey , girl , hey , the sky is , you know , blue and we could blow up a bus like , hey , what are you going through ? Let's , you know , put a stake in a grass , start from here and move forward . There's that . So that is my perspective . What else ? Like I believe that , like I don't want to be .
Speaker 1I'm not trying to be insulting to any of the like situations or any of the scenarios that I mentioned , like women being best friends with women and men being best friends with women . It's not at all like a criticizing session , it's just an observation . But whatever , I think also , what I believe and you can tell me if I'm wrong is that if a woman fights with her best friend , which is a woman , I think they can be a little bit more petty than men . Like men us , my best friends we fight , but it'll be over Once we fight . That is the solution to whatever is going on . We fight by the bang , it's done . Then we're still friends . Or if we don't talk for weeks , when we talk , it doesn't even matter , we didn't skip a beat .
Speaker 1I believe women do not . They take the indirect route . Like , hey , we're fighting , so we're fighting , that's where we stand , that is where we stand . We are fighting , so we are fighting . So that's it , not fighting to get it over with , but this is our place , this is our predicament , this is where we are , so we're fighting , and I think that is the main difference . Like , hey , I can , unless a friend that I'm just done with , like you know I cut the cord like cable , like unless that friend is like completely erased out of my life , I can talk to him like we didn't miss a beat . I don't think women can do that and you can tell me otherwise . If that's not the truth , I'm making up crap . If I'm just delusional which I really am , I'm only delusional about Jets wins Just let me know .
Speaker 1But I think that women kind of hold on to hey , we're not talking , so we're not talking . That's our status . We're not talking . Hey , barbara and I had a fight . That's how it is when I talk it . So guys are just , you know , we'll say we'll think hey , you know , I didn't talk to my boy in a couple of weeks . Whatever blah blah he calls , I call . So hey , what's up , man , what's up ? Just tap in blah blah , we catch up blah , blah . And I think that is very common with guys and it's very uncommon with females .
I think if a female has not talked to a friend in a while , that's the status they're in . They're not talking . So what else ? How do you make up ? And what is like , how petty is how petty , what is too petty in regards to a friendship and fight in and stuff like that . So how do you make up With dudes ? We don't make up , we , just we . We like straight up , like you know , call and like yo , what's up ? That was the last six months , dude . You know , I had a flat tire . I won a couple of games in Madden , rained a couple of times , boom , I was like okay , same thing happened to me . I think women make up in subtle , more subtle ways , like hey , I'll send , like , send you a link to an Instagram snippet . I don't know TikTok posts and I don't know show like pictures of I got my nails done and the orange was on point . I think that's the difference and it's a difference . Neither one is is better or worse , but it's just a difference and I think that's the thing .
Speaker 1And you know what I wanted to make , mention to like if males and females can be friends . My answer is yes . Like I have a best friend she's a female and like we've talked about life a lot and we've gone through life and we talked about dating and we talked about professional life and what we've gone through . We talked about like racism , whatever is pick , picket , move is . We've lived in different cities and talked about that and when you really value somebody as a person . It doesn't matter what , what like external differences they have . Rather it's sex , race , food choices , physical fitness choices , I don't know , I'm just making up stuff , but it doesn't Like . Once you hit that maturity level and respect and understand a person for who they are and what they are , you can definitely maintain like a friendship . That gets the thing and you can value or respect that friendship . But , yeah , but , and I've learned , I've learned a lot through my friend that's a female and that is how I'm able to talk about , you know , friend , you know girls being friends with girls and guys being friends with guys , like Like she's taught me a lot as well , like you just soak up a lot through experiences , but yeah , so Back to the topic at hand .
Speaker 1Oh , and I want to talk about when is petty , when is being petty too petty as far as making up being friends , like we kind of all know , come on , you know podcast , like come on , you know , you know , you know when petty is too petty . It's like when you know what , when your friends being too petty is , when you know when , like you know your friends action , if your friend does a certain thing to to Try to make up with you after you had an altercation or or you know , a long time apart , you've been estranged for some dumb reason and but you still don't Utilize that as a bridge to make up , that's being too petty . So what I'm saying is , if your friend is a type that you know your beef in , or you have an issue and and they like Say certain things To you directly but it's not addressing the issue , but you know they're trying to open up the door because they they aren't the one to to , you know to bridge that , you know to kind of put out the fire , and then you you're just like , well , whatever , I know that's how that person is , but I'm gonna still shop for early Christmas gifts then that's being petty , and being petty can go too far when you are damaging the relationship . So it's like , hey , I know what I need to do To help my friend , kind of like come back to me or Help me bridge this gap or whatever . And you just kind of you're like , whatever , I don't care , I'm just gonna Continue to watch my soap operas or whatever comes on TV . Now , although my friend is reaching out , I'm gonna get out like I'm gonna Literally do what I need to do , like no pottery , I'm gonna go out of my way to , to , to ignore my friend or do something Just contentious that doesn't help the progression of the situation . So , like we know , we know what being petty is about and I definitely know because I am Super petty . You call me Tom Richard petty , the third Straight up . I am the mayor of Pettyville and I will continue to be .
But we all know , and it's not you know , if it's not helpful to the friendship and If it's taken away from the friendship , then let's just be in petty and we don't . We know , you know , we know and all that , but anyway , so back to the subject hand . So I'm not saying it's a difference . I'm not saying men being best friends with with men are better , women being best friends with women Better , but we just have our differences . And I think the point is , if you have a friend that is a Like that's the opposite sex of you , you can learn from that and listen and See how they manage their friendships , because you have to manage friendships .
Speaker 1Friendships are a gift . They're not just a given . We do , especially if you get a little bit older , like I am , and things aren't Easily maintained , and they're not a given and they can go away in an instant . But you know , I think there is a significant difference between women being friends with women , men being friends with men . But just because there's a difference , it doesn't mean it's different . If that , if that makes sense . Like we all know , women know how to manage their friendships , men know how to manage their friendships . Just because they're different doesn't mean you need to tap into the other side to see if you could Make it better . Just manage it better , like that's the cake . So so , um , okay , the jets one and that's all I got .