whoa , whoa , whoa . Welcome back listeners , my loyal followers , welcome back to the come on you know podcast . Uh , I've been gone for a minute . I know I say that all the time , but guess what ? I'm saying it again . And uh , yeah , I mean it this , like I meant it the other times , so check it out .
Speaker 1I am proud to say that the Come On you Know podcast is now presented , I don't know , funded , hosted , powered by KMDA Studios . So that means I have to be a little bit more professional and I don't have to worry about sponsors . Well , I do have to worry about it , but it's not just you know . I mean worry . So , yeah , we're gonna come at you a little bit . Uh , more professional now . Uh , I have to , or I will squeeze in more shows . I have to , or I will squeeze in more shows . I won't be on a six month hiatus like I have been , but anyway , life changes . I ruptured my Achilles tendon and so , pardon me . So , yeah , you know , I'm a Jets fan , so I was upset when Aaron Rodgers did the same thing sometime back , fussing , yelling at the TV screen , you know , cursing my favorite team , my Jets , then fast forward present . I do the same thing . So empathy is real straight up , anyway . So now we're powered by KMDA Studios I don't know if powered is the right word , but I'm using it .
More professional , I'll drop more shows , get that admin stuff out of the way . I feel good , this is where I belong . I'm happy to be back behind the mic and getting my uh groove back , as us old , older people , elders , would say uh , you know , we have um a movie as a reference to that line . But yeah , so anyway , my first show under kmda studios .
Speaker 1So I want to talk about something that is relatively important and you know , hey , come on . You know podcast , we're all about pulling back the curtains on real topics . First , I was just going to talk about my adventures as a human being , stuff like that , my hobbies . But who really cares about my hobbies ? Everyone has hobbies . I fit under this uh , kmda studios umbrella . You know , see if I'm worthy , but I'm pretty sure I am . So no fluff . You know we keep sit hundo . I guess I don't know what the kids say now , but who cares ? But anyway .
Speaker 1So I want to talk about trust , the word trust , the idea of trust . I'm a little older , I understand people now , understand society , understand the individual , understand . Uh , yeah , I guess you could kind of say group thinking , macro level type stuff , micro level type stuff , the individual and I've had many conversations with many friends and coworkers about that . We throw that word around professionally , personally , mainly personally , but I haven't asked to grind about that personally . But I haven't asked to grind about that . Hey , you know , I'm a pretty smart guy and I I'm gonna spew my intelligence on you , my audience , and you can let me know if I'm right or wrong , but 10 times out of 10 I'll be right , but anyway .
Speaker 1So trust , the word , the verb , the action , the idea , the theory . What does it mean ? What is it actually ? So , wow , did my Siri just go off ? No one was talking to Siri . Technology has taken over .
Speaker 1But anyway , no one really defines trust . Everyone uses it . I've used it , I use it . I probably have not used it in a sense of how I think of it .
Speaker 1So , like , do we even know what trust means anymore ? Like , I'm not gonna dive too deep in , like the old english definition and what it it meant two , three , four , five hundred years ago . But what do we see it as now ? So I think just as an adult , human , professional , uh , someone with the social life , I hear it . I hear it a lot pertaining to relationships and human on human contact type of stuff . So , like to me and this is to me , but I'm generally right Like trust isn't necessarily , it's not love , it's not , I guess , like loyalty to me is Like loyalty to me is basically predictability and it's being comfortable with being able to predict predictability over time . So , like , what I mean by that is I know I'm going to catch some crap for this , but hey , bring it on . If you disagree , disagree , let me know . I mean , I may or may not care , probably won't , but you could try .
Speaker 1So , like to me , people use the word trust generally when they're talking about relationships , right , infidelity , when they're talking about relationships , right , infidelity . So , hey , you , you broke my trust or you lost my trust because you , generally they talk about in relationships , they talk about infidelity and cheating and stuff like that . Right , like , hey , I expected this person to be loyal to me because we're in a relationship . They weren't loyal and they cheated and so I I lost trust to them , right , but that's trust is not necessarily like the , the non-cheating and all of that is an expectation . It's like , hey , we chose to be um in a relationship together . So my general expectation is that you are in a relationship together . So my general expectation is that you are in a relationship with someone else . So that's an expectation .
Speaker 1It's not , to me , necessarily trust . Trust is like , hey , trust is a form of comfort to me . It may not be to you , but you're wrong . To me it's a form of comfort . It's like an emotional safety net . I lean towards it being tethered to emotions and an emotional state , as opposed to a tangible , logical , more so . Logical , more
so . Uh , I don't want to say professional term , what it is . You can use it outside of just describing something that you want in a relationship , right , you know what I mean .
Speaker 1Like you could say hey , man , I trusted that you were going to pick up the phone . It's because every time I call after five o'clock when you're off of work , you pick up the phone , right , but still , that's an emotional type , anchor type of deal . It's like , hey , I felt as though this person would respect me enough and saw that it was me that they would pick up the phone , respect me enough and saw that it was me that they would pick up the phone . So I built trust . But , like , I think we have tethered it to that so much that we've we make it more important than what it is like . It's a dramatic effect to it .
Speaker 1Now . It's like I could say , hey , man , I trusted you to take out the trash , nobody cares about that . It's like no , I expected you to take out the trash , nobody cares about that . It's like no , I expected you to take out the trash because , as a reasonable and prudent human being , I know you saw the trash was over , you know overflowing or it was too much , and boom , you did the right thing to take it out . But if you didn't , no one says well , I don't trust you to take out the trash anymore . You know it's , it's a very , you know , tangible thing and it's not tied to like no one is , no one's feelings will be heard if the trash isn't taken out . So I don't know if I'm making sense , but I know I'm making sense .
Speaker 1But I really think that we are almost abusing the word trust now . And yeah , you could use it in different aspects , different forums , different , like I said , aspects of your life . Like professionally , you have to trust partners , if you have business partners , for them to do their uh part in their business . But then that's almost like it's a reasonable expectation , like , hey , if I'm hooking up with you as a business partner , I expect you to roll with your 50 percent . That's almost a professional expectation . Oh , pardon me , it's not like a trust thing . I mean , we make it a trust thing but it's not really because I mean , say , it's a new business partner . So what I'm doing is I'm justifying what I think trust is .
Speaker 1So for me trust is linked to consistency more than it is to an emotional like . To me it's almost like an emotional anchor if it is , or people kind of use it like that nowadays , but I don't know . But I do know , like I said , it's not , it's predictability over time to me . So if you're in it with a new , it's predictability over time to me . So if you're in it with a new business partner , you're not going to know how they are . So you , you can't necessarily say you trust them or don't trust them , because it's based off of , like , their product , what , what , what you see that they are capable of and what they do . And then you kind of customize trust so , like I've had this conversation with more friends than one and I think a lot of people lean towards it being an emotional safety net and that's it , and net , and that's it . And like that's it , that's where the buck stops with them and like to me , trust is a lie . It's like integrity with money time .
Speaker 1When you're talking about business vision , which , when you scale it down , when you peel it on your back , it's consistency , it's like , hey , is this person , is this business partner ? You know , do they ? If they're trying to reach the bottom line , is that their daily goal ? Do they show that every day ? Hey , the bottom line , we're trying to hit the bottom line . Boom , boom , boom , boom , boom . Is that what they're all about ? Or , you know , one day it's like , hey , well , I want to experiment with new stuff . And the next day is the bottom line . And the next day it's like , hey , I have to help my family , so I can't really invest that much In business time . Blah , blah , blah . So , but I think we are definitely nowadays .
Speaker 1Nowadays
, um , we are probably taking the power away from the word trust . I mean , like , I don't want to , I don't want to bash social media and stuff like that . I'm not doing that because this is a form of social media and I don't want all of my listeners and followers to think that I don't want you to listen and follow . I mean , you know you better . But anyway , like so , trust in a social media perspective nowadays is more like transactional . You know , like people kind of present what they want to be and not necessarily what they are we . We get that . We get that . You have the platform , you're going to do what you're going to do with the platform and it and it almost erodes what people perceive trust to be , that emotional safety net . You know it's like hey , I expect someone to present to me what they really are . You know we all have our personal perspectives about that and it is what it is . I'm not going to go into that . We kind of know what the deal is .
Speaker 1So but like , trust me , when people say trust me or businesses say trust me and this and that and that , it's like they're not really nowadays it's not a testament to their consistency's , not , it really isn't , it's just like it's kind of wrong . You know it's . They're using it as like a pr campaign . I'm not a pr person but like trust me , it's like easy to kind of fall back on if you say that or that's your tagline or whatever . But to me , like I said , it's consistency and actions , positive actions . So it's like more so a receipt of like past behavior , like so , if you , you know , if someone's saying , trust me , that's kind of bad because your record should kind of speak for itself right , like that's why you don't see like Bentley commercials and stuff like that and whatever Maybach commercials , because the car , like you don't have to say , hey , this is a great , a great car . It is , I guess , or more luxurious than the regular cars which nowadays that's kind of flipped upside down , like nobody cares , like I don't ever want a Bentley I promised myself , I said , hey , I'll never get a luxurious car again unless I have a driver to come with it . But who cares ? Back to the subject at hand . But I hate that I'm tackling such a serious thing . But I'm seeing it . I'm seeing it in my everyday life People using terms just to use them and not really respecting language .
Speaker 1And , yeah , words are important , words hurt and all that garbage they do , they don't , they will , they won't . It's just kind of how you take it . But if we all kind of dilute something and we don't really know or we don't really care about diluting it , then that's the way , that's the way we're going to go , but yeah , I'm trying to be a little bit more professional and bring it back to hey , come on , you know , it's because we like to highlight and talk about the truth . I guess it's like you know . Guess it's like you know , come on , you know people use the word trust the wrong way .
Speaker 1We just do , and that's , that's how it is , and I'm gonna talk about it and I'm gonna educate my audience on it and if you agree , then stick with me , and if you don't agree , stick with me , and if you don't agree , stick with me anyway and you're wrong , but anyway . So to me , like trust , like I said , I think it's an emotional safety net . People use it as an emotional safety net and it's not really earned by promises . I hate to say , yeah , you can't just talk about it , you got to be about it . That's true . But to me it's built by patterns . I'm just going to get very smart on you real quickly .
Speaker 1It's trust me , being vulnerable and admitting that I trust something is just that I recognize a pattern . I'm putting my faith in that pattern . That's all it is . It's nothing more , it's nothing less . I trust that the A-Train is coming every 15 minutes , because it has . It's come every 15 minutes in the past , like that's all trust really is . But when people associate it with other people it has a dramatic effect . Right , it has this like dramatic tail to it .
Speaker 1It's like , well , I don't trust this person , so that's a super bad thing . But then , hey , your realization and ability to observe and recognize a pattern may be off . You know what I mean . You may not have the best attention span , you may not realize that this person does this one thing at you know , every day , at 6 30 so am . So you may not say , or you may not realize , like , hey , my best bet is that to trust that this
person will do this thing , one thing at 6 30 am , because you don't realize that . So if that person doesn't do it any other time and then you ask them to do it , they don't do it , say , well , I don't trust this person . It's like , well , yo , man , how about you ? Look at the whole picture . Don't just act like you're distrusting because or I don't know what the the antithesis is of trusting antitrust , antitrust laws . But sometimes you got to look at the whole thing , you know the whole picture .
Speaker 1Like I'm just gonna go , I'm gonna go on record and say , like I really think women use the word trust or I don't , or the sentence I don't trust you a little bit more than men , because it's also it's like reliability part to it , like I don't necessarily want to force someone to be reliable because I need them . So if they're not , I say I don't trust them . I don't know , I'm just saying that as a man , as an adult human being , not saying that I wouldn't want help , but it's like I'm not going to force someone to be available or to be helpful just because I need them to be . So not saying that women do it , but nine times out of 10 , it's about that emotional safety net issue is reliability . You know what I mean and that that comes into play when you're talking about relationships and fidelity in the relationship . And fidelity in the relationship , um , you know as it is . So it's like , hey , I relied on you to kind of carry the emotional weight of me seeing you as my anchor , if that makes sense . So if it doesn't make sense to you , you need to reevaluate a lot of stuff .
Speaker 1Anyway , yo man , first episode under KMDA Studios .
This episode was sponsored by no one , still gaining traction on the sponsors , you know , wish me luck with my Achilles here . It's a pain . Like I did not realize how many steps I have to maneuver every day until the achilles went boom . So , like every , every step , I'm , like they say , in the league making business decisions , decisions , man . Like hey , I do not want to step over that unstable step . It looks a little loose and all that , but I'm back . I'm going to try to pump out Eppies more frequently . I say that every time and I'm gonna continue to say it every time until I do . You better listen , cause you never know what I'm gonna say next , you never know what you're gonna learn next and you never know what I don't know . Theme music I'm gonna come up with , but I , my peoples , I don't know . Theme music I'm gonna Come up with , but Alright , my Peoples , keep it real and come on . You know we're gonna spread that truth . You know that's all I got .