CTP (S2EFebSpecial3) From Dating Tips to Relationship Triumphs

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ChristiTutionalist Politics (S2EFebSpecial3) Valentine's Day Special         
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CTP (S2EFebSpecial3) From Dating Tips to Relationship Triumphs  

This episode explores the essential components of a successful dating experience through an engaging conversation with matchmaker Julia. We discuss the importance of communication, understanding individual preferences, and the impact of past relationships on present dating endeavors.
• Debating the romance of sharing a banana split 
• Recognizing personal dating preferences and boundaries 
• Importance of clear communication in building connections 
• Managing past relationship baggage for new opportunities 
• Suggesting ideal first date ideas for better engagement 
• Humor in exploring pitfalls of modern dating habits 
• Sharing success stories of matching couples leading to marriage 
• Discussing commitment levels in dating and their implications 
• Advice on nurturing relationships once established 
• Encouraging vulnerability and openness in love

Chapters

• 0:00 Dating and Communication in Relationships
• 17:49 Matchmaking and Relationships

Transcript

CTP S2EFebSpecial3 32m 27s before audio editing   
CTP S2EFebSpecial3 NOTES ( listen (Wed Feb 12 2024 and thereafter) at: 
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ChristiTutionalist Politics (S2EFebSpecial3) Valentine's Day Special         
See buzzsprout Transcript for fuller/extended Show Notes (inc. related links) and Transcript Bonus 
CTP (S2EFebSpecial3) From Dating Tips to Relationship Triumphs  
This episode explores the essential components of a successful dating experience through an engaging conversation with matchmaker Julia. We discuss the importance of communication, understanding individual preferences, and the impact of past relationships on present dating endeavors.
• Debating the romance of sharing a banana split 
• Recognizing personal dating preferences and boundaries 
• Importance of clear communication in building connections 
• Managing past relationship baggage for new opportunities 
• Suggesting ideal first date ideas for better engagement 
• Humor in exploring pitfalls of modern dating habits 
• Sharing success stories of matching couples leading to marriage 
• Discussing commitment levels in dating and their implications 
• Advice on nurturing relationships once established 
• Encouraging vulnerability and openness in love   
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Welcome to ChristiTutionalist Politics podcast aka CTP in association with TheLibertyBeacon.com and I am your host Joseph M Lenard and that's L E N A R D   CTP is your no muss no fuss just me you And occasional guest type podcast as Graham Norton would say let's get on with the show 

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JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):   Hello everyone, welcome to the institutionalist politics podcast again. I have a guest with me. I'm not even going to begin to attempt to pronounce her name because, you know, I'm sensitive. People look at my last name and think it's L-A-N-A-R-D, but it's Leonard without an O. And I had Chantal Londerville, which I had enough trouble with that name alone. Back last February, February 23, February 7, I mean of 2024, Season 1 episode Feb Special. I also had a gating episode, Season 1 December Special of Wednesday, December 6, 2023, that drop, that's why I got the other date mixed up. And I also had Andrea Putin on Season 1 episode 28. And the reason I, Andrea Putin doesn't really match with those other episodes, but I mentioned her because I joked about her name. It's Putin with two T's not putting like the dessert with two D's. And like I said already, I'm not even going to begin to attempt your name. So let's start there. How do you actually say your name?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Julia, the streets are loose, but I'm also used to Julia. Okay. Who lived in India, they were speaking countries.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, okay. So Julia, it is. That name I should manage. And you are here kind of as a date expert, although I joked with you an email because I can never pass on bad puns. Is data fruit or vegetable? And do you talk about avocados and conquats too?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  You know, I eat a lot. I love that.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  But today, yes, we're good. Your audio is cutting in and out a little. Sometimes have trouble. I phones. Hopefully it won't be a problem through the whole episode, but people, if her audio cuts in and out, it's not just your equipment. I'm hearing that already during the attempted record, but a dating expert matchmaker expert. So I thought I'd have you on. And the first thing I got to ask out the way out the bat, something I asked Chantal during that episode, is it? Oh, oh, I forgot to say for the behind the scenes video watchers, I tried to find appropriate date, you know, a shirt with hearts on it or something, something to do with Valentine's Day. If I ever had a shirt like that, I don't anymore. So inappropriately unrelated, I grabbed the Who Is John Galt from the 2012 Atlas Shrugged movie for the heck of it. Just, you know, I had to wear something. So what this will do. But in all seriousness, to what we're here to talk about, is it romantic or is it lame and cheap? And this won't work for me because I don't eat bananas, but to take a date to a sweet shop, get a banana split and two spoons to share. Is that romantic or is that lame?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  You know, it depends on two people. What's the actual type? If the boss wants to share the pudding with two spoons, like in one bowl, it's okay. They can be enjoying it. Or sometimes one person can be objecting it because for them, it can seem very cheap. Sometimes people don't want it, but if two people want to share the pudding, I think it's their thing and they should definitely do it. It's all the unlike the likes and boundaries. What's the boundary for one person is not for another person. I think you've got a date for what they actually want and listen to it and they can give you tips, cues of what they want and how they would love to celebrate St. Valentine's Day with you.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  A reasonable answer. So I don't really have any other planned out questions in advance. As I explained before the show, I like to just hit record and we go and we just kind of have a conversation and flow and wherever it goes, it goes. So what is something that you generally, you know, because I don't generally like a show that it's the same boring, like when I go on a show to promote my books. Welcome to the book show. Tell us about your book. Those are boring. What's kind of get the usual stuff out of the way? What generally indeed do you present and is a general theme over episodes that you indeed do talk about? That's a very bad phraseology kind of question, but I think you know what I'm getting at.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  No, I think I do. Well, I generally make people from all over the world and I have their relationship to develop. They come to my dating agency. They tell me what they are and how they want their relationship to be and I measure them with people. That's are the best matches for them. And with time, we choose the best option for this and this person and then I have them to build a happy relationship together. As these two people are either from one culture, but men and women think differently or if they're from two different cultures, it creates more problems because a man can get offended when a woman does something, but a woman may not even know about it. And the woman may get offended. Yeah, vice versa. Yeah. Yeah. And the worst thing is that when they're both silent and they don't have anybody in the middle that know about them. And if they don't have any common friend or if they don't have any common acquaintance, that's it. And sometimes women want men to guess what they're thinking about.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  I'm upset. I'm glad you said it. Not me. But you may write. I mean, that's the obvious thing here. The obvious next question, the next point. Communication. People are not mind readers. You're not a mind reader. The person across the table from you is not a mind reader. If you don't open your mouth and say how you're thinking and feeling, they can't read your mind.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  We've got to communicate. And it doesn't mean that you have to be a great communicator. Yes, all make mistakes in communication. But if you don't say it, if you don't spell it out, nobody will find out. And then you can be met and the man will go away just because he doesn't know how to make you happy. Or if a man shuts like distances himself from a woman and she doesn't know what she did or maybe something from the past triggers that reaction in him. Then a woman may make a few tries and then she may get tired of trying to find out, trying to read the mind of the man.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Oh, you're cutting it out again. So a relationship. What?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  That's the very super call. There has to be communication. People have to spend time talking to each other and reaching a compromise, reaching an agreement that will make both of them happy. And it's possible.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, I think you touched on another important thing there. Past relationships are past relationships. And we all have baggage. We all carry baggage. But we've got to try to make sure we leave the past behind us and not make assumptions of this potential current new relationship based on past relationships, especially if hopefully, like through you, a matchmaker, you should have similarities, things in common that you can talk about as opposed to randomly meeting somebody at a bar. You have no clue what you may or may not have in common, right?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Yes, plus I also check the latest to make sure that they're single and they are who they say they are so that man don't go through the trouble of trying to find out who this person is whether she's or she's not who she says she's maybe she's hiding something. Maybe she's married, but things are very bad. And she's like into minds whether to leave that marriage or stay there to organize day so that a man can live his own busy life and then can come on a date and enjoy it. Sometimes trouble to make a reservation when you want to get to one restaurant or like you have a few options where you want to go to, but you need to make a few phone calls. It takes time. It takes effort. And some men are not prepared to do it. So they come to me. They ask me to help them.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, so right. You try to prevent catfishing, right? People who claim they're something or somebody they're not using a fake picture. You kind of verify. Yeah, this is who they say they are. They're not using some models picture or some actors picture.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  If this is an actress, this is an actress. If this is a model, this is a model. If this is an athlete, this is an athlete. In order to charge the top past relationships, it's like you're not carrying a bag that you should stop carrying. People feel it. When you're not done with your past relationship on some level, people also sense it. And no matter how you try to enter your relationship, you cannot. Because people feel that either you are in love or you're still met at someone from the past. And you can say whatever you want, people feel it. Even if you don't talk about your past experiences or past relationships, but you can be thinking about it subconsciously and people read it from your bio films.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, that's interesting. So you're the supposed expert. What is a good or the best, the safest so everyone is comfortable for steak?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Yeah, you know, it all depends on two people on what they want to do. Usually it can be coffee in a coffee shop or it can be dinner in the restaurant. It depends on whether the people have more time or less time, whether they want to wear something casual or something more romantic and elegant. And how much time they're willing to spend. I usually recommend to spend maybe like from 45 minutes to an hour on a first date. It has to be Samsung Lite, Samsung Refreshing, where both people are enjoying each other's company and see whether they want to see each other again or not. A lot of people build same castles. This is my future husband. Oh, this is my future life. No, no, no. If you're only talking about your second date, it's about 50% again or not.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, don't put the cart before the horse. And obviously, a really bad early date is, and I'm going to give the audience a little behind the scenes here. This is going to air for valentines around then 2025, but we're actually recording in October 2024. And I'm like, the TV, unfortunately, is political ad after ad after ad after ad of lies upon lies upon lies, mudslinging at each other. It's like, I'm thinking, but it's a bad early date, like escaping to the movies, right? Because you're secluded, you're away, none of that outside crap, but it's the same token early date. You can't talk during the movies to each other.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Going to the movie is a great second date, and then added by dinner. Because at dinner, you can just movie. You can see what you liked and what you didn't like. And it can actually create a connection. A lot of people make it of going out to dinner all the time. And then they get tired and they get tired, not of the person, but they don't feel any emotions. Because you eat, you can eat alone, you can eat with your friends, you can eat with your mother, with your brother. So what you, and you forgot about it.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, it becomes a monotonous sense. I never really thought about that. A movie alone is indeed absolutely a bad thing. But like you said, if, if you're not a woman, you can't be a woman. And if it's going to be moving in at dinner rather than dinner in a movie, do the movie first. So that way you have that connection at dinner to be able to talk about what you saw, what you liked, what you didn't like, what your most favorite genre of movie is and things like that. Because I go to the movies all the time by myself and often write about it, you know, some not official movie reviewer or movie critics. But at that dinner, you could kind of be movie critics. And that tells you something about each other.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Yeah, you can find out about each other a lot. Or you can also go to a bookstore. It may seem a little bit old-fashioned, but it creates emotions. And it can also tell you something about your date and about yourself. And then you can go out to dinner and discuss what books you saw, what you liked, what you disliked. Bookstores are very old, but they create a sense of sentiment. Everything that creates a sense of sentiment and it was people enjoyed doing it. This is what should be done on the date.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Certainly never ever thought of that. That as an author myself, if somebody wants to go up and pick up one of my books, that tells them they're probably not somebody you want to be with. Right? Kidding. Right? Gotta laugh at yourself. If you're not willing to poke fun at yourself, you shouldn't poke fun at anybody else. But seriously, what you're saying is that by what section of books they gravitate to, what genre of books they gravitate to is a very big indicator to begin with. And then what books, what particular authors are their favorites? Yeah, you could discuss all that after. Who's your favorite author? What's your favorite book? And why? And what really made that book so endearing to you? And things like that you're alluding to, yes?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  And it creates a sense of connection. You know, when I was still in Ukraine, I saw a very sad scene. I saw a couple. They were sitting right next to each other. And they were texting each other. They were sitting next to each other and they were texting each other. They were not looking into each other's eyes.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah. Yeah. Well, if they were both doing it, they're made for each other. The problem is, is that, you know, because generally if someone is going to break out their phone and start social media posting or texting or whatever, to me, it would seem that it indicates boredom and disinterest. And that is not somebody I would put up with. There would be no other additional dates.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Yeah, because this person is like, is physically on a date, but mentally and spiritually this person is not. There's somewhere else.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah. There's a joke there because we were talking about going out to eat, right? So mentally they're out to lunch, but I'm bummed.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Yes. And we men and women feel like somebody is not out here. They're mentally out to lunch.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  I'm glad we could tie that all together because again, I can never pass on the lame puns and the word play like that. How long have you been operating as a matchmaker?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  I've been a matchmaker for 13 years.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  So you're not a Johnny come lately. You've been there. You've been doing it a while. So clearly by now, we would certainly hope you know what you're doing. So the next obvious question is then how many marriages are the people you hooked up come out of your service?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  They have been close to like 10 marriages. They have fallen in love. I believe that love is something that either there is or there is not. You cannot force a connection. When there is love, you've got to promote it. You've got to cultivate it. And there is something to work on.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  But even if 10 marriages over 13 years actually doesn't sound like a lot, but in the meantime, you're creating, you're bettering yourself so that hopefully you're becoming better marriage material eventually when it comes along. You're not looking to try to force anything.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  All the parents are married. Different people have different objectives while dating. There are some people that want to go out on the first dates all the time. And until they change their minds, there is nothing I can do. If it makes them happy to go out on the first date, I say hello. This and this, I do this and this to many different people. They don't get the bit. They like because I will be going out on the first date until they realize, okay, this is not what I want anymore. I want something stable. I want to meet one person. I want to share all my time with one person. And then they begin to be serious about their search. But until they figure it out.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah. Well, given the way we are in today's society, actually, the more I think about it, 10 marriages over 13 years is really actually not surprising because there is so much lack of a difference. I don't have any real commitment out there. And so I get what you're saying is a lot of people just kind of want to go out and have a lot of different casual dates. So they have company and people to associate with, but indeed, they themselves aren't looking for anything long term.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  All the right people that are looking for long term, but they are not looking for marriage. And they are like they were married before and they have had some past experiences. And no matter what you say until they are ready to hear it, they won't. And like if they're much wants something more serious, this relationship won't last. If they're not to get past their trauma, because when you truly like somebody, when you truly love somebody, you want to be with them and you want to be with them unconditionally. And you definitely want marriage as soon as you fall in love and you feel that this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. And if another person is not ready or doesn't see marriage as a potential at all, that this is not the right person for you.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, and you as a matchmaker is helpful in that you inquire and question and try to learn about them. So you're matching casual daters with other casual daters and people who are indeed looking for something a little more serious with other people who are looking for something a little more serious. As opposed to again, that random chance that you're going to meet somebody in the same mindset as you out on the streets.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  You know, there is a funny story. There's a latest couple that I've connected. Because the guy and the lady used to go to the same bars to the same restaurants. But they had to miss. They know all the same places are like the they like all the same places. They like all the same foods. They're really like, like they're really connected. They were really meant for each other. But I had to connect them.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Yeah, that's a very great story about this. Because again, yes, I mean, there are eight billionish people who are going to be able to connect with them. There are a lot of people on the planet now. So the chances of you running into the right mindset people with at least no one. No one is 100% match. No one is perfect. No one thinks exactly like we do. And if you're looking for that, you're always going to be disappointed. There are always going to be differences between people. You're expecting 100% agreement on everything. You're a delusional person. Right. So, but yeah, the randomly come together with people who are even remotely compatible. Nowadays with eight billion people wandering around is probably not realistic in why indeed matchmakers and dating services seem to be more and more and more popular.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  You know, there is a joke in Russian and Ukrainian that there was an ideal looking and she was looking for an ideal man. And when she found him, it turned out that he was looking for an ideal woman. They didn't connect because they both had their own ideal set. Right. Right. That definition of what is quote ideal unquote. Yeah.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  And they didn't match. Right. There's that terminology and language and kind of word play thing, right? Because they can have different values, different meanings from person to person. Unfortunately, it's part of what's going on in the United States that I talk about on this show all the time. People who warp into stork language to kind of fit their own narrative. And we're not talking the same language anymore to be able to be on the same page.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  It takes time and effort to be on the same page. Like every relationship can be worked on every relate like they're not incompatible. Like every relationship has the right and the chance to exist. When boss people are working on it. It's not about the zodiac sign. It's not about astrology and numerology. It's all about the hard work. You're willing to put into a relationship. It's all about the commitment. It's all about your enthusiasm. It's all about your gratitude for having it. Even after a few months of a year being in a relationship because a lot of people get into a relationship and then they get lazy. They begin to take it for granted. They begin to neglect their partner and then by their relationship and they say, oh, but this is not what I meant. I wanted something different.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  And of course there are times people can change over time and they can change their mind. But the same page thing, an obvious joke is the possibility of being on the same page. Let alone in the same book. Let alone in the same bookstore. While I'm at the movie theater instead of looking at a book. It's like the joke too about my ship came in. But I was at the airport.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Those people can talk to each other. They can be like soulmates. They can talk to each other. But they may miss each other once because they could be busy with something else. Something else could be under their mind. The lady may have talked to that man that I introduced even before. But maybe she was busy with something else. Maybe she was thinking about something else. Or maybe he was busy with something else. And that's why I like that. They didn't have an exchange for numbers.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Okay, I'm going to go ahead and have us wrap things up. Like any and every guest I have, we could probably talk for three hours or three days on all this. So where can people find you? They can reach me via WhatsApp. 408571952. Okay, what's that? Now, what's app or what's up? What's app? app. A P P. Okay. Yeah. There's so many apps out there. I want to make sure I get it right. And what was that ID number?
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  408571. 9552.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Okay. And I will put that in the show notes. So thank you, Julia, whatever your real name really is. I'm not going to attempt it. Tell us again what it is.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Julia.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Okay, so you're not even going to give us the whole full name again. I don't want to be really. It'll be in the show notes, of course. But again, I'm not going to attempt to pronounce it because I will really, really screw it up. And at any rate, thank you, Julia, for coming out. I really appreciate you being here to talk about these things.
IULIIA BYSTRYTSKA LUCE:  Thank you very much. It was my pleasure and honored to be a guest of yours.
JOSEPH M LENARD (HOST):  Take care. God bless.



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ChristiTutionalist Politics (S1EFebSpecial#1) "Human Connection - Valentine Special"
No, not discussing "Valentines Day Massacre" LOL. I Welcome Chantal Landreville to the Show to discuss her forthcoming book (Pre-Sales on now) that is dropping on Valentine's Day (Feb. 14th 2024) titled: "Raise Your Love Signal." As a "play" (as I propose, yes LOVE/Valentines Marriage/Fiancee' pun intended, in this episode) on the traditional "Sweets/Treats for your Sweet" (variation on the "Box of Chocolate in the Heart shaped box" and more interactive/shared) indeed "Sweet" or "cheap" to share a Banana-Split (one dish, two spoons) at the Sweet-Shop for Valentine's Day Dessert? Is it "nice tradition" or "unimaginative and lame" these days?!?! External Beauty (which is indeed in "eye of the beholder") is wonderful, but internal Beauty (Content of Character) is the best foundation for a long-term solid/sound/lasting Relationship. The Tale of the two Emma's. More...
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Welcome to ChristiTutionalist Politics podcast aka CTP in association with TheLibertyBeacon.com and I am your host Joseph M Lenard and that's L E N A R D   CTP is your no muss no fuss just me you And occasional guest type podcast as Graham Norton would say let's get on with the show 

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Hello everybody. Welcome to another special version of christitutionalist politics podcast. Normally politics were not dealing in politics Today. Today, we're dealing in affairs of the heart and human connection. A Valentine month special, we're not going to drop right on Valentine's Day, we're going to drop early. And joining me is Chantel, although it's spelled C-H-A-N-T-A-L, not an E in there. And it's C-H, not S-H, C-H-A-N-T-A-L, important of course, since we're going to be talking about your book. We want them to be able to find you on DuckDuckGo, GIBIRU, and/or FreeSpoke, Search-Engines, and all that. And it's Landreville. What's the proper pronunciation

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  French pronunciation? Well, you said it pretty good. Chantel Landreville, if you want me to do

JOSEPH M LENARD:  the French thing. But you said it really beautifully, and thank you. Well, I'm and again, and it's spelled L-A-N-D-R-E-V-I-L-L-E, because I already caught myself in my notes writing Landerville. So we, again, we want to make sure people, and I'm sensitive to pronunciation because my last name Leonard, without an O, people look at it and assume French, Leonard. Yeah, so I get all that. We want to make sure they've got your names. But anyway, you're here because you're an expert on the Valentine's

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Day Massacre, right? Oh, yeah. Yes, the massacre. The Valentine's Day Massacre, right?

JOSEPH M LENARD:  No, that is not what this Valentine's special for February is about. Chantel is known as a human connection expert, and we'll be talking about that and her upcoming book that's dropping on the 14th pre-sales now, and we'll get into all that in a minute. But first, for those viewing on, I've got a silly question. Well, it's half tongue-in-cheek, hack-serious question that I'm dying to ask for. For those viewing on the behind-the-scenes video cast, you could see because yes, in these specials, I do worry about my wardrobe. What should I wear that's appropriate for this episode? And you might see I'm wearing my Holy Cow Creamery shirt, which is the local sweet shop. Well, Valentine's Day, right? Suites for your sweets, right? I love it. Normally, it's traditionally the box of chocolate in the red heart, but I'm wondering, and if you're ever in Windout, Michigan, please head up to North Line and go to see Tyler and the crew at Holy Cow Creamery. I always order a root beer alamode, and for those who don't get it, that's a root beer float.

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Wow, your way of saying it is much better. You just told it to me.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  That's our inside joke. I always joke with Tyler that he should change the name of it on the availability board to root beer alamode because it sounds so much fancier. He could charge more,

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  right? Excuse me. Yeah, exactly. I totally agree with you. Bless you. Bless you. Thank you. Thank you.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  As any right, my question is then why I'm wearing the Holy Cow Creamery shirt as a prop. Is it cheap or sweet to take your sweet to your local sweet shop and share a banana split?

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Oh, that's cute. I actually like that. I think it's sweet. Okay, that's good. Some, I think,

JOSEPH M LENARD:  might think, I want to keep bastard, but that's a it's like share. I like the idea that you said

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  sharing where you're like putting, taking ordering one and sharing two spoons and sitting down. It's like a connection time, and we often tend to make it it has to be big, but sometimes it's the little

JOSEPH M LENARD:  things that matter the most. That's right. That's the way I see it. I'm an old romantic, but again, I mean, I've been out of the dating market for decades, so I might be considered an old fart rather than old fashioned, you know, now the traditionalist, but an old foggy at any rate. Give us an explanation first, what a human connection expert would be. I guess that's an

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  obvious first question. Yes, actually, I love that question. And well, so people can also understand I'm a certified love and relationship coach, but through my journey getting here, I used to be in sales all of my life. I worked in fashion. I worked in the wine business for over 20 years, and the talent I discovered that I had was a really great active listening skills. And when you are listening to people and curious about people, people will definitely confide extremely well within you. So I really, really thrive because I'm a natural, curious, and I love people. I love to understand where you're from, how where, you know, the journey of your life. I'm just really, really fascinated. So a human connector for me is having interest and getting to know someone and being curious about it, right? We're so disconnected right now from human connection, especially since COVID. So I've seen the results of what human connection can actually create, and whether that's at home in your, you know, marriage and your romantic relationship at work with your friends and your family, it's a huge difference. So human connector for me is building relationships with people. I love connecting people with the right people when I feel it's time. I have this innate instinct of when I need to introduce a person to another that also involves

JOSEPH M LENARD:  matchmaking. You mentioned the Wuhan virus, so obviously the lockdown. So human connections or the lack thereof. Yes. And my concern is not so much for us as adults, what it did to our children, but that's not what we're here to discuss. Yeah, I mean, social interaction, we are discussing and the importance of that our children developing social skills in their early formative years is important. But let's get to the book, the serious question at hand. And first, let's have you grab a copy and hold it up close to the camera. There it is. What is it? It is called raise your love signal. Yes. I've got to write that down because I hadn't wrote that down yet,

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  written it down yet, wrote that down, write that down, write that down, write that down, raise your love signal. And it's a guide to attracting and keeping the love of your life. Because when we are on the journey to love and we're looking for love, it's literally what we want. We want to be able
JOSEPH M LENARD:  to keep and sustain our relationship, right? Yeah. Now, again, we we've hinted at this is going to drop officially on Valentine's Day 2024. But presales are available now where?

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  So if you, I'm sure you'll put it in the show notes, but on my website, www.raiseyourlovesignal. So we only have one thing to remember, title of the book, title of the website, you will get a pop-up right there where it's a pre-order link. So it's available obviously on amazon.com, Barnes and Nobles, Kindle. So all the links will be there accessible for you and you can go pick

JOSEPH M LENARD:  the one you prefer. Okay. Now that's raiseyourlovesignal.com.com. Okay. Dot com. Yes. Yeah. Mine is a dot info for my book because unfortunately, and I still haven't checked, they were supposed to the internet people. I'm a former IT guy. They've been promising a dot book extension for years. I don't know if they finally ever got around to it, but we need a dot book extension. It may be obvious, right? Exactly. I agree. You're looking for a book, you would think dot book would be a but you we need to get on them. There's a probably be an obvious answer, but I've got to ask the obvious question then. Why this book? It's not such an obvious question actually or answer either.

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  So why this book? So through my own personal journey, I was single for almost just a little under 18 years constantly struggling, not able to well, I would say always attracting unavailable, emotionally unavailable partners. And you know, I would hear things like, well, maybe you're too intimidating or you're not too this or you're too much of that. So I really started questioning who I was and what was wrong with me. And that did not take me to necessarily a great place because I started diminishing who I was and trying to tone down my personality, which you know what, why do we want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't accept us? So when I kept on hearing maybe you're too picky, you're too demanding, you know, you start questioning yourself, well, maybe I am. And through those 18 years, the one thing that saved me was that I was always as my curiosity about people and trying to understand who they are and connect with them. I had a massive passion for learning all things self development, like massive. There's not much that I didn't see, try, explore, do name it the book, the conference, the speaker, Tantra, ayahuasca plant medicine, like name it, I've tried it and done it. So when I actually found my amazing partner now we've been together for five years, I realized three things. One was that, you know, it's already super hard to put yourself out there and attract the right partner. Two is that we've never been taught the skills on how to actually be in relationships. So you can actually find the right partner and not be equipped to succeed in your relationship long term. So, and number three, I realized, oh my God, I have all this knowledge, everything I've learned, and I've been able to apply it to my own relationship and to myself, and I've seen the results. I've seen the results. So the book is literally every, the best of everything I've learned over the last 20 years and the hundreds of thousands of dollars that cost me all in one place.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  We get to buy your expertise. That's good. Thank you. I am indeed a cheap skate going back to the banana split idea. I am indeed a cheap skate. So that's good. I don't want to have to pay thousands of dollars for the advice. But you mentioned intimidation. I think it's more a male self-esteem issue that they feel intimidated by beautiful women because I've heard this in interviews of models, saying they have a tough time at times on the dating scene because that word, they feel others are intimidated by their beauty and their status because they're seen on magazines or wherever as a model. So people just assume, oh, well, you know, they're dating some rich guy, which may or may not be the case. They may be available and indeed looking, but it's the male low esteem issue that's more than because for those looking on video, you're certainly not some Buddhist manish kind of intimidating person. You've started answered this already. What's in the book? Do you want to give maybe chapter titles of one or two or?

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Well, I'll make it easy for you. And before I answer that question, I would just love to touch back on what you said where men sometimes can struggle. But I want women and men to understand that if you are threatened or feel insecure in any way and intimidated by someone's beauty, because it could happen, I remember being attracted to these really hot men that was like, oh, he would never date me ever. And it actually happened to me once in my dating journey that I met this amazing hot model guy that wasn't to me because of my personality, not because of my looks. So one of the things that I circle back to what I talk about in the book, one of the things I talk about a lot is self love and your self worth. This is something for us to succeed in any given relationship. We have to really own our own worth and raise what we do have, right? Instead of focusing on, I'm not good enough. I don't have this. I don't have that. And this was something that I learned very late in life. And I wish I would have learned it young because when I was going through that cycle, my God, I remember so many nights crying myself to sleep because I didn't think I was pretty enough that I was skinny enough that I was crazy. But here I am. I had this massive great personality, very knowledge. I had other assets. So I would invite people if you feel that way, threaten any way, work on yourself, worth and yourself love because it's super important. You have no idea what the other person is looking for in front of you. And you know, looks is one thing, but maybe people are actually attracted to personality and good brains and you know, knowledge of the world and politics or whatever it may be. So the book is actually divided in three love lessons. I've divided in three love lessons. So the first one is your want. Your want. I love this because most people when they're looking for love, I asked them, do you actually know what you want? Everybody says yes. And I'm like, okay, let's hear it. Let's describe it. And it's very vague and funny enough too. It's like everybody has the same wants of what they want out of a relationship and a partner. So I really dive deep into this because when we are looking for love, we often make it about the partner. I want him to be successful. I want her to be a great cook. I want him to be financially well off. I want her to be a great dancer, whatever, very, very self-absorbed and very superficial. But we never think about how do we want to grow and evolve in our relationship. What are the core values that I need to make sure that I can, once the fire is out and this honeymoon phase, how do I make sure I'm taking care of in my relationship? How do I want to be treated when we go through an argument? How do I want to raise my kids with this person? And it's crazy how, you know, I would say the average person does not take the time to really go through that thought process. And when you've been on the dating journey and you're not succeeding, this is a really great exercise to help you avoid dating burnout and not get trapped or blindsided with poor quality dates because you get wiser, you filter better, and you're not afraid to stick to what you're looking for. Love lesson number two is all about what I just mentioned before, self-love, worth understanding why you are the way you are because, you know, when we show up in relationship the way we do or not, and we've had these patterns or beliefs, so for example, in my case, I kept attracting unemotional available people, I had to look hard at myself and understand why am I doing this? So, and all of these things are rooted to childhood because our first example of love are our parents and whether they were good, whether they were bad, whether they were there, whether they were not, this is the root of why you have become who you are in adult life. And all of this has already decided for you before you hit the age of six, which is pretty crazy. So, it's really important to understand that part. It's a little bit more intense in the book, but it also like gives you so much insight on who you are today and why you show up the way you do. And love lesson number three is all the ABCs of helping you through your dating journey, the to-dos, the nod, and some really, really great advice on how to navigate through it. And also, the fundamentals you need to learn before going into your relationship, ideally, things you need to put into place and practice before you go into your relationship, and things that you actually need if you want to sustain a long-term, healthy, committed relationship. So, it's literally a to z. It's not just ABC. So, wherever you are in your dating journey, you have something to learn. And that's why I call it a guide because it's a short book. I wanted to create something that was easy to read, great storytelling, also a little funny. You love a great sense of humor as I. And I think that when we're talking about difficult topics like this, it's nice to be able to laugh about ourselves and laugh about the situation. Humor is a great healer. And sometimes, we think we know it all, but we forget. I fall off the wagon all the time in my own relationship. So, this book is a really great way for me to, oh, yeah, I need to, you know, I stop doing this. I need to get back on the bandwagon and start, you know, practicing what I teach all the time I catch myself. 

JOSEPH M LENARD: Three things I think you kind of brought up. I want to touch back on. You mentioned the honeymoon period. Now, obviously, when a relationship is fresh and new, we generally look through rose colored glasses and or unfortunately, project what we hope and want from a person rather than see maybe what they really are. And that can be a danger. I don't want to dwell on that though, but beauty, if you go back to is indeed in the eye of the holder. I mean, it's open to interpretation. And there is someone for everyone, whether you think you're beautiful or not is not relevant. It's how others perceive you. And I like, you know, what people think beauty to think, Oh, drop dead gorgeous models, right? But no, I like to say the story or the tale of two emmas. All right, because I like to think beauty has different categories. Drop dead gorgeous. And again, I like to use the tale of two emmas, Emma Stone and Emma Watson. Because a whole lot of different people, of course, including me, think they're both beautiful in their own unique and different way. Emma Stone, now, you look at her and not to be insulting. I'd say this tongue and cheek. She's got the gray alien, big eye look, you know, but she's what I call, or part of my microphone fell off. The his filter fell off. Hopefully, it will be okay. But Emma Stone with those big eyes, she's got not that exact symmetrical type beauty that science would categorize as drop dead gorgeous. I call her intriguing beauty. Yeah. Emma Watson, she's got the short hair, I think still, the perpetual, youthful, cute look. Yeah, I call it terminally cute. Yeah, terminally cute. I like that. Right. So there are different categories of beauty. And you fit, no matter what you think about yourself, you fit into one of them. It's just, you know, because the third thing Martin Luther King, Jr., content of character and not judging a book by its cover, right? Yeah. We often are attracted based on appearance at first, what a lasting relationship has to be built on, understanding, giving to know, and meshing

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  content of each other's character. Absolutely. Absolutely. Because beauty is, you know, it's just one thing. So beauty shows up in many different ways. And it's not just physical. It's it's who the person is. In our beauty. Inside. Yeah. Absolutely. I mean, I'm sure you can relate to this. You know, you'll go to a party or you're attending a networking event and there's a person that comes in and just like, you're just like drawn to them because of their magnetic energy, right? They have a lot of charm or they're funny or, and they're not even good looking whatsoever. So as we say in French, Chagony has, every rag has its cloth. And that's the beauty of things. We're not nobody's the same. So we're not attracted to all the same things. And I think what I've loved about the last couple years, especially with social media, and we're seeing it in the, I go back to like the fashion world of models, we're seeing all kinds of different shapes, size and foot like the beauty has been really expanded to, you know, A, B or C. So, and I, I love that because it just goes to show how, you know, you can, you can be very different and not

JOSEPH M LENARD:  have to fit in into a specific category. This is kind of now off topic, but not. I mean regarding beauty. I think there is an issue and of the expansion of beauty, right? You like you're talking about the different alternative. I will say models on covers, right? Now, I think there is a danger, however, and a difference between, yeah, heavier is still beautiful, but, and I'm not, I don't want to be insulting. I'm not trying to fat shame, but people's health is a concern. And this is where I'm getting off topic. The fat normalization. Oh, now I don't want to say that. That can be beautiful, right? Heavier can be beautiful. Yeah, let's use heavier. The normalization of obesity is what worries me. Yeah, I totally agree. Lizzo may be a wonderfully talented musician, but the normalization of her size and making her a role model over that worries me a little, but again, I don't really want to dwell or go down that road with you. No, let's focus on what we have. We're scheduled to talk to you about. At any rate, my verbal crutch that I've developed lately as my segue. At any rate, the obvious question that I will ask anyway, just to be able to get back to the book, why this release date? Duh, but I'm asking anyway. Well, you know, and you know this,

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  because you've written a book and the author's journey. I mean, it's really hard being an author today. It's not what it used to be 20, 30 years ago. And you really have to distinct yourself, because you're a reindrop amongst all the other in that falls. So I was trying to be strategic in the timing. I could release it. And when I thought about Valentine's Day, it's a holiday that I have a love hate relationship with. And you're going to love this because you talked about massacre, but I remember being single and, you know, again, kicking and screaming, I can't wait to be in a relationship to celebrate this holiday and just feeling all the shame and the guilt of being by myself and single. But I've never not celebrated Valentine's Day as much since I've been in my relationship because my relationship with Valentine's Day and the perception I had of it has completely changed. It's the day of love. And it's not romantic love. It's so many kinds of difference of love. And I think we forget what that means because it's kind of like the holidays, right? Just social media media has like overextended and puts all this pressure and things that we need to do so it creates so much expectations. We're really forgetting the meaning behind it, which is celebrating love where holidays is celebrating people you love coming together and celebrating together. So Valentine's Day for me was a natural thing because I wanted to what a better way to obviously release a book about love, my journey, and my journey to love was not only with my romantic partner, it was a massive part was with myself. And when I asked people to define what love means to them, the one thing that I realized even as I was doing the research and my coffee table talks with men and women to get to see what they needed and wanted was love was always about other people. It was never about themselves. Never did I hear self love, which was really interesting to me. And my journey finding love has also been a big part of it. The success of my relationship today is the relationship I have to myself and the love that I give myself. So I think that's why

JOSEPH M LENARD:  it was important for me to really sit on that. It's hard to be able to give yourself in a physical and emotional aspects and respects. If you don't first at least, if not fully love yourself at least respect yourself. And I'm glad I asked what I thought might be a silly question because that was a great, great answer. And indeed, I mean, Valentine's Day, right, we get caught up in the secularists of it and the commercialism of it. It's why some people don't like Christmas these days, right? We've gotten so commercialized and the pressure on the gift giving aspect as opposed to the being there to share in the love with each other. And this being a Christian program of love with and of God, of course. Yes. So I guess it wasn't such a stupid question after all. Yay.

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Zero. Zero. No questions are stupid. No questions are ever stupid.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  To start to wrap things up and close things out. If you were to have me ask the question, I've not asked yet, what would that question and answer be?

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Oh, that's a good one. I would ask why are people struggling so much today in either finding love or staying in a relationship? You want to ask me or you want me to answer my own question?

JOSEPH M LENARD:  Go ahead and yeah. Okay. It gets rhetorical now. Well, not rhetorical. That's the wrong word, but yeah. It's on the table now. doing,

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE: So one thing I realized as I was  writing the book and through again, my own personal journey, I realized that we have this misconception about what love really means. We've been so rom-com and Disney-ified about love. So we have this fantasy. We are in love with the idea of being in love. But that kind of love is not enough and it won't help you in a long-term healthy committed relationship with the ups and downs of life, with kids, financial, bullshit happening, whatever. It's just part of my language. All of that good stuff, right? So I would invite people to really think about what is my relationship to love and what do I want my relationship with love to be? Because I realized that doing exactly what I just described, all my life never worked out for me. So when I started dating my boyfriend, one of the things that I had decided was to do things very, very differently. One of them was showing up like my truest-handic self, not pretending to be someone I wasn't, not trying to hide someone, you know, things that flaws or pretending to like things that I did because I really wanted to be liked or I was, you know, and-

JOSEPH M LENARD:  And only hurts you in the long run if you're not honest with yourself and the other person, right?

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Yes, exactly. And knowing what I wanted my relationship with love to be really transformed how I was going about dating. I was more, it wasn't about the butterflies and the passion and the lust. It was more about getting to know someone and building a strong foundation and seeing how that person would show up with the value system that I had, you know, identified that I was looking for. So let's say for you, you know, you ask yourself that question and what does love mean to you and love to you means like excitement and joy and butterflies. Well, you're setting up yourself for failure. You'll be in constant relationships that, you know, I call that the fire straw where it's like really, really lights up really quickly and then dies down. If your relationship with love and what you've seen, we're toxic and screaming and like, you know, verbal abuse, for example, well, you'll attract narcissistic people or, you know, just toxic, toxic partners. If your relationship with love is like always seeing people giving, you're always giving, giving, giving and not making room to receive, well, that's going to create an imbalance. So it's really important to identify what your relationship with love is and what you want it to be. In my case, I wanted safety. I wanted acceptance. I wanted support. I wanted also freedom because I'm a free bird. I travel the world. I, you know, being in the wine business previously to this. I was very socially engaging and, you know, I would walk a room and it was a very male-dominated industry. So I couldn't be with someone that was insecure or felt threatened in any way that they would just let me do and be who I was and feel safe. So by doing that exercise, I've realized for me what true love means is all of these things. It's safety because it gives me a sense of peace. I can show up and say a stupid thing and not feel that I'm going to be, you know, threatened or the person would leave me. So you really need to think about that and how you want to grow and evolve with this person because beauty is great but it won't always stay. Money is great but you might not have a partner that's sticking around to be there for you because they're working all the time. So there's so many things that you need to think about. So I just invite people to re-evaluate everything that we've been taught about love and when you find a person that has all those high qualities, you can build the fire. That's what I've done and I always say to my poor boyfriend, he's the guinea pig of my teachings. I'm more in love today in my relationship of five years than I was for the first two years because we've built, we've invested, we hold each other to high standards and we know it takes work. You know, this morning we were saying we've both been working, I'm so crazy busy with the book launch. He's been working 60 hours a week and I'm like, eh, we need a date. Like, no, this is like, it's been 10 days that we're just flying by, seeing each other. So we hold each other to high standards and I need to create the fire. So we both know. So we booked our date night this weekend and I'm going to organize something fun to do the connection time. So but you have to work and invest into the relationship. Most people just get lazy and just wait for their partners to do everything and we have to take ownership ourselves.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  Yeah, I'm glad you said you have. Make sure you go for the banana split after the date. Yes. And I'm glad we have something in common. I too was in the wine industry. That's why I'm now divorced. My XY says you can see where the joke's going. I was constantly whining. But I'm just a joke. Just a joke, people. I can never pass on the lame pun. And you know what, like we talked about humor, things are so serious. You've got to have a sense of humor and you've got to be able to laugh at yourself. I thought you were saying. I thought you were saying. Or you've got no business laughing at anybody else. No. We've been talking with Chantal Londerville. Yes. And it sounds like there's an E in there. But it's C H A N T A L. And the last name is not Landreville Landreville L A N D R E V I L L E. So tell us again, the name of the book and the website with the proper dot extension. So people

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  know where they can find you. Awesome. Thank you. So the web, the name of the book is raise your love signal, a guide to attracting and keeping the love of your life. And that can be found and purchased on my website, www dot raise your love signal.com. You will have a little pop up window that comes up that will take you to all the different links where you can purchase the book online.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  Thank you for joining. This was a lot of fun. I knew it. Didn't I say in our email back and forth. Yes. Really looking forward to this. I knew this was going to be fun.

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Yes. I appreciate it. I'm happy that we did this and that you were persistent. Thank you.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  Take care. God bless everyone. God bless them. Definitely. If you've not found that love human connection, definitely find it. And if you don't have it now, don't be depressed. Your time is coming. Yes. Valentine's Day can cause depression and some. Your time is coming. As I always say, you don't know what tomorrow will bring into you. Carpe diemit. Right. Yes. Because today may not be your day tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, baby, all life matters.

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Hang in there. And celebrate yourself on Valentine's Day.

JOSEPH M LENARD:  There you go. Yes. Now I've got that stupid cat poster in my head. You know, hang in there, baby. Anyway, thank you again. Take care. 

CHANTAL LANDREVILLE:  Thank you. 



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