The Tyranny of the Nice: Why the Most Dangerous Pastors Aren't Always the Bullies

The Healthy Church Staff Podcast

The Healthy Church Staff Podcast
The Tyranny of the Nice: Why the Most Dangerous Pastors Aren't Always the Bullies
Feb 13, 2026 Episode 550

In this episode of the Healthy Church Staff Podcast, Todd Rhoades discusses themes from his new book, *When the Church Falls*, focusing on unexpected leadership failures. He emphasizes that dangerous church leaders are not always overtly controlling or egotistic; sometimes they are seemingly humble and quiet, yet subtly manipulative and unaccountable. Rhoades highlights the need for true accountability, suggesting that both aggressive and passive leadership styles can lead to unhealthy environments, especially in smaller churches with long-term pastors. He encourages listeners to assess their church's susceptibility to leadership failures through an online assessment linked to his book.• Dangerous leaders can be quiet and seemingly humble, yet manipulative.• True accountability is crucial for healthy church leadership.• Nice is not the same as healthy in leadership contexts.• Identify signs of covert control: decisions always favoring the leader, seldom acted-upon feedback, spiritualizing dissent.• Long-term pastoral relationships can obscure necessary accountability.• Listeners urged to reflect on their own leadership and board dynamics.• Resources and assessments available to identify potential leadership blind spots.

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