Santa, Take Notes - 2025 Gift Giving Guide

Welcome back to Proof It's Possible! In this episode, Jamie and Dayle explore the nuances of gift giving, sharing personal anecdotes and creative ideas for thoughtful gifts. They discuss the importance of understanding the recipient's preferences, the value of secondhand gifts, and the joy of personalized items. The conversation also touches on unique gifts for kids and adults, the significance of teaching children about giving, and the challenges of selecting the right gifts for different occasions. Tune in to discover: 

• Jamie and Dayle's favorite gifts to give and their holiday gift recommendations for adults and kids
• Why secondhand is a great option if your child asks for an expensive gift
• Choosing gifts that help your child work on specific skills, like counting money. 
• How a kid's choice for a gift for someone can give you insight into how they would like to be loved and appreciated

What's the best gift you've received? Share your thoughts with us — we’d love to hear! DM us on Instagram @dayle_sheehan_designs & @jamiedfrancis! See you next time!

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Transcript

Jamie (00:30)
Hi guys, welcome back to Proof It's Possible. Today is just a wonderful day because we're talking about my favorite thing, Christmas and gift ideas. I'm kind of known for being a pretty big deal around the gift giving world. I give a very good gift. I'm very thoughtful in my gift giving. And as we've mentioned before, I like to package it beautifully. It's just who I am and what I do.

Dayle (00:33)
Thanks.

You are.

This is true.

Jamie (00:57)
So I thought today we would talk about gift giving. I'm not sure that Dale's gonna have a ton of input. Things to say to him.

Dayle (01:04)
I love giving

a gift, but I find it very hard to know what other people want. So it's not that I don't want to give the gift. just, I'm really bad at coming up with like creative or thoughtful or interesting ideas, but I'll give you a couple of mine. ⁓

Jamie (01:20)
Okay, okay.

We'll see what she has in store. So we did the kids did their Santa lists over the over the weekend. Mila took it to whole new level. She painted hers. She painted like a big canvas and then in gold and then wrote out her list, which is yeah, and you know what she's

Dayle (01:24)
Yeah, it's guys, it's not much.

Yep.

Mm-hmm.

I can respect that, because the fun of that.

Jamie (01:49)
She's 12, so she's like, I'm not just mailing something off to Santa. I'm beyond that, I'm too good for that. So why not make it this beautiful piece of art? So that's what she did. There's a things on there that I'm like, absolutely not. That's a hard no. A brand new iPhone. I'm like, come on.

Dayle (01:54)
Mm-hmm.

Like what? yeah,

that's been on her list for a long, time. So. And she'll take a data package with that, please.

Jamie (02:10)
Yeah, anyway, yeah,

she'll take a data package. She'll take Snapchat. She'll take all the things, which she's not getting any of them for any moms that are listening. can stand in solidarity with me that she is never getting Snapchat and she's too young for Instagram.

Dayle (02:18)
Yeah, yeah, she-

Exactly.

Well, she wants it all. She wants

Instagram. She wants everything. TikTok.

Jamie (02:31)
Her Christmas

wish list last year had one item on it and it was Snapchat and I was like, real sorry, but that's a no. And I stuck to it because I don't think Snapchat has anything good to offer a 12 year old or 13 year old or 14 year old or 15 year old. But that's just my take on it. Anyways, back to this year's wish list. There was some things that I'm like, okay, yeah, these are good ideas and things that I think other people.

Dayle (02:36)
gosh.

Yeah, no kidding.

Yes, I agree.

Jamie (02:58)
would like to hear. So one of them was an Aritzia sweatsuit, which a little on the higher end of, know, budget wise, I think like an Aritzia sweatsuit, think is a couple hundred dollars. Each item is like 80 or $90. So, you know, a big, a big gift, but I do think that that generation only cares about comfort. So I do think it will get worn. It's a gift that will keep on giving because she will wear

Dayle (03:01)
Thank

Yeah.

totally.

Jamie (03:28)
it tell it falls apart. For anyone who's like listening and is thinking to themselves like, oh, that's ridiculous. A $200 sweatsuit. I agree. It's very, very expensive. And I wouldn't, I don't value a sweatsuit enough to spend that much money on it, but she does. And if you also have a child that values an expensive sweatsuit, I don't know about your community, but I'm sure there's like a Facebook page that you can get like

secondhand or where we live, there's a mom that does an Aritzia and Lululemon sale. So she rents out an entire like community hall and she saves up for like several months at a time. She's a consigner and she only takes those two brands and then she fills it. Like I'm talking not just like slightly fills it like to the brim, fills it with hundreds of thousands of items.

Dayle (04:10)
Hmm.

Jamie (04:19)
And then people wait outside for hours before to get to go inside and buy these secondhand items. And like teenagers, grandmothers, like the whole, every generation is waiting in that lineup for hours. And I just think it's really cool because A, it's better for the environment. B, it's helpful on budget. And C, it normalizes that like some kids wear secondhand, some wear brand new, some wear designer and some don't, you know? So anyways.

Dayle (04:28)
Everybody. Yeah.

Just cause you grew out of it. Yeah.

Yeah. Well, and

it also is like, if you grow out of it, isn't garbage. It can go to somebody else because you probably only wore it for like a year, especially at your kid's ages. ⁓ One thing that is like such a fun, cute thing from last year. Do you remember? I think Mila got like a puff, like a Ritzia puffer or something. Or Lulu puffer. Anyways, and I don't know if you or grandma found it, but you found it from like secondhand from somebody.

Jamie (04:51)
Totally. Yeah.

Totally.

the loop.

yes, no, this was, it was the super puff. It was a super puff winter jacket.

Dayle (05:16)
Yeah, was super tough. Yes.

And she's like, Mila opened it. And of course, you had like the bag and the all the accompaniments that made it feel really new and the box and all that.

Jamie (05:27)
Okay, so let me give the backstory. I had ordered her a pair of cargo pants on a Black Friday sale from Aritzia. So it comes packaged beautifully in this Aritzia box and with this Aritzia ribbon and it gets delivered to the door. Well, I opened it up. I'm like, she'll never wear these. These are terrible. They were a sale item. I knew the second I saw them, I'm like, I've got to return them. But I saved the box and the tissue and the ribbon and all of the things. And then I found her the Super Puff because that was also on her list.

Dayle (05:37)
Okay

Yes.

Jamie (05:55)
It's like a, I don't know, four or $500 jacket. And she has like a very nice warm ski jacket, but she needed like a school jacket, like something that's cooler that you wear to the school yard every single day. So I found one online, secondhand. I washed it and put it in the box, yeah.

Dayle (06:02)
Yes. Exactly. Yeah.

But when she opened it up, this was the cute part. Yes.

So when she opened it up, she looked at Darren and I, my husband and I, and she's like, it even smells like a ritzy. And I'm like, no, doesn't. It smells like your mom's. Yeah. It's gay laundry detergent from Costco. So nice try. But that's what the thing is that it's all about the perception of

Jamie (06:25)
This smells like gay laundry detergent.

Anyways...

Dayle (06:34)
that they got the thing that they wanted. And she wouldn't have cared if we had told her it was secondhand. ⁓ But at the same time, we didn't even need to because she was so pumped about just having it. But your kids love those sales, the Lulu sales. They're all about that. Yeah.

Jamie (06:39)
No, not anymore.

Oh yeah, they love those sales. And if you're

a mom listening and you don't have one of those sales in your community, you should start one. Because I am telling you, she used to do these sales once a year and now she does it like, I would say once a quarter and the lineup doesn't get smaller. Like it just doesn't, the allure of it keeps just growing. So very cool. The other thing I thought of, which is a little kooky and a little weird, but my kids are so into

Dayle (06:58)
Totally.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Exactly.

Jamie (07:20)
painting right now? Like every day after school they come home they race to the dining room where we have all the painting stuff set up and I just have like cheap dollar store canvases and whatever. Some Christmas ornaments that they're painting. This year I was like how cool would it be to get like a picture of them doing something that they love made into a paint by numbers so that they end up

Dayle (07:45)
Mm-hmm.

Jamie (07:45)
with

a piece of art that they've actually painted, but it's like them playing honky or them online. You can upload on Etsy any photo and say, make this a paint by numbers and they will send you a canvas with numbers on it and your picture. And then some of them even come with the right colors of paint or they'll just give you a paint palette, like piece of paper to match as closely as possible, but very cool. And then I was

Dayle (07:48)
of them. Well, where do get this?

really? Like, where though? Ohhhh.

that's cool. Yep.

Jamie (08:13)
to take it up a notch, because I don't like just like a traditional painting. I like wild colors and all the crazy things. I put it into chat first and said, make this more pop-artish, make this more like, know, kind of crazy. So then all of a sudden it's like wild and crazy colors and a little bit shadowy. Anyway, just a unique idea that it's like a piece of pop art of them doing something that they paint, which can go into their room.

Dayle (08:24)
Right. Yep.

Yep. ⁓ that's fun. Yep.

Mm-hmm.

One thing I will say about this topic of like buying something for somebody's house. It's such a hard, like, and I mean, kids aren't as hard because their bedrooms can be a mishmash, whatever they want them to be. And that's what they usually end up being. And like their own art, other art, what their mom wants for their art, all the things. But I, as an interior designer, that's something that like, I think to myself, like if I love it and I would recommend them to buy it for their house, if they hired me today, would.

shouldn't I just buy that as a gift? You know what I mean? Like that's my like natural inclination is to go get something nice for someone's house because, but that can go very wrong. Pardon. I know. And it can go very, very wrong because it's like, you don't want to display something that someone gave you that doesn't have the same style as you or, and I do my best to like understand people's style. And if I don't know your style, you're probably not getting anything that would

Jamie (09:20)
It's the biggest no-no. It's the biggest no-no.

Dayle (09:40)
for your house that would need to be on display. But I'm also like, I kinda know what I'm doing. I feel like I have an upper hand on picking nice things. I know.

Jamie (09:48)
But just as a general rule of thumb listeners,

please don't buy things for people's houses. Give them an out. Like this is the difference. Like you buy them a shirt while if you're not wearing it the next time you see them, can be like, it's in the washboard, or I guess, but if it's at your house or it not at your house, they can visibly see that and you're not giving them the out.

Dayle (09:55)
Exactly.

Wore it yesterday. Yeah.

And it's a very specific placement.

Like they bought you a bowl for your dining table or they had an idea of where it needed to be used on top of it. that's a real hard one because they can see your dining table at Christmas dinner and they noticed that they didn't see it anywhere in the house.

Jamie (10:26)
We got given a gift for our wedding, which was to be hung in the house. And it was a Bible verse written on, like painted on barn wood.

Dayle (10:36)
Mm-hmm.

Jamie (10:37)
Tough one because it's came from somebody very close to us that would actively come to our house. And I don't do barn wood in any capacity. And I also don't do...

Dayle (10:48)
Bible match. Yeah.

Jamie (10:50)
much of the Bible,

nor do I do a lot of like browns. I mean, it's kind of ironic that I have like a somewhat brown shirt on today, but for the most part, I have like a general rule of thumb. I don't wear brown. Brown is just not my favorite color. And I was like, gosh, what do you do? What do you do? And then it just went in the next garage sale. You know?

Dayle (10:54)
Right.

Yeah, I know.

And like, you know that person put a lot of thought and like love and stuff into it. So it's such a like, I'm sorry, but no, I know. And that's exactly why I said it like, kind of not nervously because it's like, if you find the perfect thing for somebody and you know their style and you're close with them, then fine. But it is a dicey choice. A very dicey choice.

Jamie (11:38)
Totally. Okay, my next thing for a child, or I guess it could be for an adult as well, is a specialty sporting good item. So I'm not talking like, oh, they've outgrown their hockey stick, they need a new one. I'm gonna gift that for Christmas. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about like the cool thing that they wouldn't just naturally get, like light up pox for the outdoor drink. So if your son or daughter,

Dayle (11:48)
Mm-hmm.

Yes.

Jamie (12:07)
plays hockey and has an outdoor rink, go to, I think they're called flash pucks? Anyway, you charge them like you would charge a phone and then they light up in three different colors and they are, I'm telling you, they're the hit of the outdoor rink and they make it so you can play late into the evening. They're very fun, very exciting, very, very good.

Dayle (12:22)
Very

Jamie (12:34)
The other thing I bought the kids last year, maybe two years ago, which they really like because we do night skiing, is these almost like vests. They're not a full vest. They're just like a little kind of rope thing that you put on. But they also plug in and then they light up so that you can see your kids on the ski hill and they light up different colors. So like, know, Mila has a blue, Ari has a pink, Penn has a green. So I can always see them when they're skiing down the hill because night skiing can be pretty terrifying if you don't.

Dayle (12:50)
Yeah.

Hmm.

Jamie (13:02)
you can't spot your kids. And then they think they're fun and cool and they take them to the living room and all this other fun stuff with them. And they're very inexpensive. I bought them on Amazon, I think. Other things that I think are a little maybe out there, but you never know. And this is for all ages, but an audible subscription. So my dad, for the last decade, has been borrowing my

Dayle (13:04)
Totally.

Yeah, it's like a glow stick.

Jamie (13:30)
subscription anytime he needs to go on a road trip.

Dayle (13:32)
like

this is not something you can borrow but anyways carry on I love you dad you're hilarious

Jamie (13:36)
I know, I know.

He's been borrowing mine and then, you know, sometimes I'll be in the middle of a book, but he'll like the sound of it. So he'll start it over for his duty. His duty? ⁓ yeah. Every time. Every single time I'm like, what? The casino gone wrong or whatever the like detective's look is.

Dayle (13:47)
Right, exactly. Well, that or all your credits are used up when you've got just like the whole collection of James Pattison books that you don't actually want to listen to.

So funny. Yeah. You're like, I've finished all these

already? When?

Jamie (14:05)
Yeah, no, there's often no credits left. But I think it's a great gift for somebody who has everything and doesn't want more stuff and would actually use it. So I know my dad actually uses Audible. He just doesn't have his own account. And then I was thinking about it for my kids because they aren't avid readers. They don't love reading. But they love when I read to them.

Dayle (14:12)
Mm-hmm. For sure.

Jamie (14:28)
Penn in particular loves when I read to him and he loves his Alexa, which is in his room and plays music for him before bed. Like that's his favorite thing to do is to turn on Alexa, listen to a little music while he falls asleep. So was like, how cool would it be if I got him like a kid's book on his Alexa that read aloud to him? If he's not gonna do the reading himself, at least he can still use his imagination and like imagine the scenario or you know, all the good things.

Dayle (14:35)
I

Yeah.

Yes.

Yeah.

Exactly. Yeah, I never thought I'm audible

for kids at all, but I love it.

Jamie (14:57)
I know,

crazy, right? It was just a thought I had this morning. I'm like, well, okay, maybe something to check out. Something that is a real hit that is under $50 is the T &A crew socks.

Dayle (15:11)
yeah, yes. I'm like, they better be under $50, they're socks. What a waste of money. No, I haven't, no. Okay, I'm just in grandma.

Jamie (15:13)
my God, they bring more joy than you should, because they're just.

There are five pack deal. Have you looked at the price of the Nike socks the kids are wearing? $25 a pair. A pair. For the teenage at, you

know, five pairs for $30 or whatever it is, feels like a really good, really good deal. Another one that is a real big hit is the Ouala drinking cup. I mean, this seems ridiculous because who cares about a drinking cup? But the generations...

Dayle (15:31)
Yeah. Mm-hmm. For sure.

Yep.

Jamie (15:47)
after what they do. They really care about it. Like look at the bear cup that sold out within seconds and at $40 a piece. Like they care about their drinkware way too much.

Dayle (15:48)
Yes.

for sure.

⁓ huh.

And bring it everywhere and absolutely

bring it everywhere. Well, and the other thing about what I like about things like a wallahs or those types of things is that if you want to just like not make it seem like the wallah from Costco or like the wallah, you can go get it like engraved with their name or if you want just to have their name on it. I think that that's like a nice way to give somebody that's hard to buy a gift for a like more personalized gift, like something that

You didn't just grab off the shelf and then, you know, hand over to them. Exactly. Everyone does. Like I, I really, I think it's like childhood trauma, never finding my name on the pencil or the key chains or whatever at gift shops. like, I don't get one. And your name was a little bit more common. So sometimes we would find your name. Not often. It was often like spelled wrong or wasn't there at all. So for me, if I can get my name on something like, yeah.

Jamie (16:27)
told her.

And who doesn't like something with their name on it? Young adult. Everyone does.

But not often.

Dayle (16:55)
I need it. I need my name on that. Or my initials or whatever. Yeah.

Jamie (16:58)
Absolutely. Okay,

and then the last two gifts, these are more like you're going to a like gift exchange for kids and you don't know or you could get them for your own kids. But these are just like good universal, non gender specific gifts. One is the piggy bank. I don't know if I

mentioned this last year, but I still am rocking it for every birthday party we've ever been invited to. And it's just the hit of all hits. So it's a mini ATM. comes with a plastic debit card. You get a pin, you set a pin. It counts your money for you. So when you put a bill into the machine or coins in, it keeps a account for you. And then you can make a withdrawal. So you can be like, spit me out a 20, type in your pin. has an alarm if your sibling is trying to break into it. I mean, it just,

Dayle (17:19)
I don't think so.

Mmm. Fun. Yes.

yeah.

Mm-hmm. Fun.

Yeah,

it's so good. Honestly, do you want to know what that is to me? That's the cash register of our generation. Do you know how like if somebody had a cash register, you're like, wow, they've got it all. Everything I ever wanted these people have. They could have one toy. And I was like, that's all the toys you need. So I don't know why you'd get anything else. I, you know what I like about a toy like that or a present like that is that it helps with

Jamie (17:47)
It doesn't get much better than that.

Absurd.

Yes.

Absolutely.

Dayle (18:15)
kids math too, like they like see if you put in $20 and you already had $20, it's now $40. And like, you just clock some of that stuff. ⁓ Yes. Yeah, exactly. Now you're not at 40 anymore. You see the big hit, for sure. speaking of money gifts and like helping kids like learn things.

Jamie (18:23)
It also is the devastating realization that it's not endless. If you do take out that 20, you no longer have that 20 in there.

Yeah. Yeah.

Dayle (18:41)
One of the games that is also another like gift exchange type game and most people have never heard of it. It's called Big Money and it is an excellent game. It's super easy. It's fun for adults too. So if you need like a gift exchange for adults as well, but it's a great game for kids and it's one of those games that you let everybody be their own banker. So there's money in the middle and if you make money or you need to you owe the bank money or whatever you do your own math.

And it's amazing to me because I'll play with like your sister's kids or your sister's kids, my sister's kids, your kids. And then I'll play with like some of their friends that have never played before. And I can tell at the beginning of playing, they're like, how much change do I get? If I got $9, but I want to buy something, you know, what's the change? They have to figure out their own money in the game. And so the first few times they're like, I have no idea what the math is on this.

Jamie (19:12)
I don't have a sister that has kids.

Yes.

Dayle (19:36)
But then they just start getting good at it because they're like, okay, well, if I'm going to buy a $5 thing and I made $15 in my turn, then I get the $5 thing plus a $10 bill. if I make, you know, and they're constantly, getting more familiar with doing the math and doing it in a much more fun way than math. so in this, like if you have kids that are like not picking up certain basic skills, it is a very easy and fun way to like,

Jamie (19:49)
Okay.

Dayle (20:05)
Just get them familiar with like buying things.

Jamie (20:08)
And like the game is addicting. When Dale comes to town, it's all they play for hours, every day after school, before school, the whole night. I'm like, are we not sick of this game yet? But no, they are not. They are not sick of it. Okay, a couple of other quick ones for girls that are, like if you just have a gift exchange, you need a girl present, actually boy too as well.

Dayle (20:10)
Yes.

while we play. ⁓

we are. We're sick of it, but they're not.

Jamie (20:31)
Glitter tattoo kit, I mean, you can just never go wrong with a glitter tattoo kit. Like where you paint the stencil on their arm or whatever, and then you pour on the glitter. I know, it's a nightmare for parents. The joy that it brings, and I saw a kid pull that out at the baseball diamond this summer, and I was like, man, this is the way it belongs. At a baseball diamond where you don't care where the glitter goes. And it kept like a pack of 20 kids entertained.

Dayle (20:34)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, there's nothing I want less in my life than that.

Totally.

Jamie (20:59)
for three straight hours and I was like, it's a brilliant idea. And then the last one that is kind of this thing that an ad that just keeps popping up for me. And I never fully trust the Instagram ads because you never know what you're gonna get or if you're getting scammed or whatever, but this is called Glorbs, G-L-O-R-B-S. And so basically what it is is like a sticky ball or more than one.

Dayle (21:00)
Mm-hmm.

⁓ same.

Jamie (21:24)
You throw it on the, they glow in the dark. You throw it on the ceiling, it sticks for a couple of seconds and then it falls down.

Dayle (21:26)
Yes, I've seen these. No, this is,

don't buy this please. It's a scam email or like company and you just want your paint to forever have little sticky marks on it. No, this is the worst idea you've ever had.

Jamie (21:42)
it's, I ordered it on Amazon, so I'm pretty sure I'm not being scammed, but, ⁓ yeah, I'll stay tuned. I might regret it, but.

Dayle (21:44)
⁓ well, that's good.

Mm-hmm.

Do you want to know two of the things that I caught my eye this year is I almost always buy Darren a Because when we got when we first got together I like had Decorations, but they were just like a box like boxes of decorations from Canadian Tire like they weren't they were really nice But they weren't like personal or they didn't have stories and Darren hated that he's like remember our kids and we had like every everyone we ever made and

all these like personal things. So I started buying him one or two little tree decorations every year that like were from Hawaii or were from like something that we had a memory or it was his favorite thing or whatever. So there's this one that I ordered for Darren. So hopefully he's not watching, but and hopefully it gets here before Christmas.

Jamie (22:29)
huh. huh.

Dayle (22:40)
but it is a little tool or a little fishing tackle box because he's obsessed with fishing, but it has his name on it. So you get to like personalize it. So I thought, that's fun and kind of dumb, but it's another like social selling company that they, I, my credit cards are probably being compromised as we speak, but that's fine. Yeah, we'll see. I'll, I'll keep you posted in the new year. and then the other one that I keep seeing that I want to get for Penn so bad is it's a

Jamie (22:47)
Monday.

compromise. Good. We'll see. We'll see.

Dayle (23:08)
It's a basketball net that sticks to the ceiling. And then it has like a foamy type of ball, but it's got a little bit more weight than your standard foamy ball. It looks like. And your goal is to lay on your back on your bed and try to get it in there. Cause you know how he takes a really long time to like fall asleep and he loves to fidget, but you want him to stay in his bed. Like you just don't want him getting up and like playing toys in his room after you put him in there. This is one of those kinds of toys that helps kids that go to bed.

Jamie (23:21)
Yes.

about

playing basketball before bed, that's really like the relaxation.

Dayle (23:36)
Well, he's doing way

more elaborate stuff than that. Remember when he was little and he would get like all of his trucks out and you'd find him at like 11 o'clock just still up doing what he likes to do.

Jamie (23:48)
Yeah, in his room with the door closed, lights off. Mm-hmm. No. Yeah. Oh, yes. Okay, and then the final one, and I probably said this last year and I'll say it every year until everyone has one. It's a bit of a splurge, but I'm telling you, our kids have had it for at least four years and it is still the most exciting toy that we have ever bought and ever owned. It is the hoverboard.

Dayle (23:50)
Yeah, and you thought he was asleep for hours, but he wasn't. He was waking up, just having a good time.

Hmm.

Jamie (24:18)
Still to this day, like 12 year olds, 13 year olds came over for Mila's birthday fighting over the hoverboard.

Dayle (24:26)
Yeah, it's all ages fun for sure. Yeah. Well, and I highly recommend, I like that you guys use it in the basement on the carpet so that if someone falls off, it's fine. Because you know they're not putting the helmet on every single time.

Jamie (24:28)
It's all ages, it is a good time. It is a good time.

Yeah.

No, absolutely. I mean, if you take it outside, I think you need like elbow pads, knee pads, whole line. But okay, so that's it for my ⁓

Dayle (24:47)
Absolutely. It's a brain damage activity. Yes. Yeah. That's

it. So you're only doing you're only doing kids then you don't have any ideas for adults.

Jamie (24:58)
No, a Ritsi Aswatsu was an adult idea. Well, the Owa Wala could be any ages. this is the thing. I think that, no, Christmas is for kids, so there's that.

Dayle (25:01)
I see. Well, it could.

I will

in our in our family, we definitely prioritize getting the kids the things that they want before we do. We don't we buy what we want for the most part. One thing that I do, I saw online recently that I think is a nice idea and about 20 people, I shared it. 20 people wrote me and was like, can I get I'll invite you to my house if you'll buy me this. And it was so simple, like it wasn't an expensive thing. But basically it was two packages of really nice

tea towels, but they took the packages apart and they took and they made like one like a bunch of little sets. basically one of them stays long and skinny the way it's folded in the package. And then they took another one and made a fancy looking bow around it. And then from the bow they hung a gorky

Jamie (25:54)
⁓

This is one of

those things that seems easy, but it's not.

Dayle (25:59)
I know. They hung these like this really pretty measuring cup set as one of the examples, like just a small little household. They were gold off of it. And I was like, that's a nice present for like a hostess gift. Yes, for a hostess gift. Exactly. So people are saying like, I'll invite you over if you'll bring me this because this is what I really want. And I thought to myself, that many people were impressed by this. Like, that's a pretty easy thing to put together and affordable.

Jamie (26:12)
That's a hostess gift present. That's a beautiful hostess gift. Yeah.

Dayle (26:27)
If you just need, yeah. Go to my stories. It's there, a nice lady in Texas put it together already once and then we'll just look at it, you know? You know me, I'll bring all the stuff over to your house and just like put it in a gift bag like you hate and be like, yeah, there's some really good stuff in there. You should have it. ⁓

Jamie (26:28)
Famous last words, we'd like to see you put one together.

you

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

I also think that like I, one thing I do believe in is that if for the adult gifts, like we don't do a ton of adult gifts in our household. but the, if the children feel inclined to get a gift for their mom, their dad, their aunt, their uncle, their grandma, their grandma, whatever that looks like, I always really encourage that. And oftentimes it's something that I'm like,

Dayle (27:14)
Bye!

Jamie (27:15)
Yeah, but I let them do it because I just think that a they need to get into the idea that giving is better than receiving. So like any time that they feel the urge to gift give, I always like embrace that. Number two, what is so meaningful to that? It is a window. What they give to somebody else is a window into what is meaningful to them. So like

Dayle (27:25)
Yes.

for sure.

Totally.

Jamie (27:39)
Pen? No, let's use Ari as an example. Ari loves like girly things and makeup and the finer things in life. Like she just loves the finer things in life. So when she's like, we gotta get Auntie this fancy summer Fridays lip gloss, I know for sure that she's not, it's coming from like a place of love because that's how she wants to be loved. She wants, she knows that like,

Dayle (27:46)
Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

yeah.

Totally.

Jamie (28:03)
Their connection point is that they both love fancy lip glosses and lipsticks. And so I think that it's really important that we don't shoot down kids' ideas and be like, well, no, Auntie doesn't need a lip gloss like that. That's not really her color. She doesn't like that. She likes lipstick instead. And we just allow it to happen because it's their connection point to that person. And that's actually what gift giving is all about is even if you don't use the lip gloss, every time you look at it, you're going to think about our

Dayle (28:14)
wear those or yeah, she has a lip gloss she likes. Yeah.

First step.

Jamie (28:31)
That's the food.

Dayle (28:32)
Well, know

what's funny about that example is we were at the mall not too long ago. I was there with grandma and your girls and they were like, this is the best lipstick or lip gloss or whatever it was. And they're like, you need it. And I'm not a huge lip gloss wearer. But the fact that they thought they were like introducing me to a new product brought them all the joy. So like I did end up buying it. I do like it. It's really nice. It's a good color.

And but they were like putting it on me in the store like they work there and they're like, yeah, no, it's magic. It's magic. And you two are just pretending we're on TikTok or something right now. Like whatever you've seen on YouTube, this is what you think we're doing. So I totally agree with that. And honestly, I think that's part of why like I'm I'm not great at giving gifts because the only things that I like can think of are

what's in my day-to-day life and it's what I like. And it's like house stuff. And then we already talked about why house stuff isn't for everybody. It's not everybody's favorite. Not everybody values it. I'll go buy a gorgeous brand named beautiful decorative bowl for somebody, but it's probably gonna be in my color scheme, which is as I'm wearing today, black, white and gold. And someone else's house might be burgundy, peach and red. I don't know.

But I'm, but so to them, they're like, I don't value this. They, I know she probably spent too much money on this at Creighton barrel. I don't even want it. Like, you know, and I bought a gift recently for a friend for her birthday. And Darren looked me in the eye he's like, somebody gave me this. I'd literally say to them, can I have the receipt? I'm going to return it. I was like, he would never, that's the thing about him is he would never.

Jamie (30:14)
And here we go, you would never.

Perhaps a big game,

but he would never.

Dayle (30:21)
He

would never return anything. That's also a lie. But like to him, that was his like example and like his extreme situation that he's like, this would be the thing I would actually return because he absolutely hates stuff like that. Like he doesn't want to decorative bowl. So I do think like learning to give from your own perspective as a child is one thing, but that's my biggest thing is it's hard for me to get out of giving from my own perspective as an adult.

Because as an adult, you have to get better skills at it. And I'm not great at that.

Jamie (30:51)
Yeah, I agree. also think that like there's... If you look at it from like a child's lens, if you look at how like simple their life is and how they don't have a lot to give, they don't have any money, they don't have any... So when they are gifting you their favorite wrestling figurine, because the person's wearing black, white and gold and it reminded you of Auntie, you have to know that like...

Dayle (31:01)
No, exactly. They don't shop in stores all day, every day.

Yes.

Yes. Mm-hmm.

⁓

it's from the... Yes. Yeah.

Jamie (31:18)
This means a lot to him. It means nothing to you, but it

means a lot to him and the fact that he wanted you to have it says everything about him.

Dayle (31:26)
Mm-hmm.

Well, and if I got

given that by my babies, I would literally put it in the kitchen. Like I'd be like, this is mine now. So because I love them so much. anyways, we'll leave it on that note. We hope you have a great time shopping. We'd love to hear your favorite things you've received. Favorite things you've been you've given. You've gotten great feedback about because we're always looking for more ideas.

Jamie (31:48)
Yes. Yes.

Okay, goodbye everyone. Merry Christmas.

Dayle (31:55)
Have a great week, bye bye.