Dating Differently Podcast
Dating Differently Podcast
Episode 5 - Season wrap up - Dating Differently
As we wrap up season one, we are thrilled to usher in a new season full of promise. We'll delve deeper into the diverse natures of men and women, address your pressing questions and concerns, and most importantly, we're planning to host events. Aiming to foster healthy interactions and promote a culture of connection, these gatherings will serve as a platform for good people to meet and learn from each other. We're grateful for your company this season and can't wait to welcome you back for more insightful conversations in the next.
Wow, guys, we have actually rocked up our first season of the podcast.
Speaker 2:That is so hard to believe. I feel like it was just yesterday that we sat down and were like, hey, we should do a podcast. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:But it's been a while. It's been some months, but I'm excited about the topics that we talked about, like I really want people to have better experience in dating and I hope they walk away from some of these conversations with different perspectives and a little more hope. Actually, because I personally, based on what I've seen out there in the world, there's room for people to have hope. They just need different direction.
Speaker 2:I think the coolest part about this season is that we really laid the foundation for how to talk about what men and women want in relationships. Yeah, I know, for me, the episode we did on the FIM score was I don't want to say mind blowing, but I'm going to say mind blowing. Yeah, I think that really started some new neural pathways on what is it that men want from women when it comes to a relationship. That I hadn't really thought about, or at least being able to provide the language around it, and that's been the biggest thing that I've taken from this entire season.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think the theme of shared language running throughout the entire season was really valuable because, as Valin would normally say, we tend to weaponize or advise or coaching to both men and women, and I think once we are able to get certain definitions down and just really understand that both sides mean well and we just need to learn how to communicate with each other, then we can have a different experience when it comes to dating.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I guess it's probably important to point out that if we give definitions during our conversations, it's a way for us to have a conversation around what we mean by that particular thing, because there are a lot of definitions Like there's no manual for dating, right? There's no.
Speaker 2:Unfortunately not yeah.
Speaker 3:There's no dictionary of terms and, regardless of where terms come from, I notice as I listen to a lot of people out there in the world talk about these things Like people have their own interpretations of it. I hope we did a good job at explaining what we mean by it. If you go out to the world and find another definition, that's okay also, but I just want people to walk away with something they can use to have a better outcome when they get out there in the world, because it's tough out there dating and I got a date differently.
Speaker 2:But be hopeful. Yeah, it's tough out there, but be hopeful, yeah. And I think this what I'm really looking forward to is actually season two, when we start getting into the specifics and building on the foundation and really diving into the nature of men and women, yeah, and understanding the person. So this was understanding the market overall, but going into the next season where we get to get more specific into some of those questions that I'm sure were, you guys as listeners are left with wondering, or I know I have questions that we're going to get into in season two, but that's just very exciting.
Speaker 3:The thing I'm excited about is our aspirations to actually have some events.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, that's a great blend out.
Speaker 3:I don't know if people know that the reason why we're doing this podcast was Mainly motivated by our desire to get people together in real life. I did talk to people on the podcast. We want to bring good people together and we're having some of these conversations because we I know I personally want men to be safer and more friendly to women and I want women to be more Friendly and respectful to men like I want us to care about each other so that we can make some impact in creating a better culture around dating, because no one person can do it on their own, and that's part of the real big challenge is that you got men and women out there trying to do it on their own and they can't do it on their own, even if they're a really good person. They need a culture to deliver that good person to, and it's just. I hope we can do something to Effect change in that area.
Speaker 2:That's where an event comes into play. Yeah, one might dare say a party.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but before we even get into the party, though. One other thing that really stood out for me this season was the whole concept of this. Is not your grandma's dating? Like the way things happened back then is not what's gonna necessarily work for you right now. People may be wondering, like why do I need to learn how to date? Why do I need a dating coach? Like, why do I need all these? Why do I need a podcast? And what we're finding is that there's the language has changed, the desires have changed when it comes to relationships. People just want different things and they have different ways of approaching it. When we can come together and One get to know what we want, be able to communicate to other people what we want and then learn how to work together to get those things, that is the foundation, I think, for going into Dating differently.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think that's a great point, val, and you said in one of our earlier episodes Something along the lines of marriage used to be a journey and now it's a destination. Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm pulling from my memory here.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So a couple of comments I've made about marriage. One one is it used to be the starting point of life and now we treat it as the destination. Right, and Without getting into that, we'll go back and listen to the episode. But that's the state. That's one of the statements that I made about marriage, one of many statements I make about marriage. By the way, I do believe in marriage. There's a case for marriage, but boy it's hard to get there.
Speaker 1:The thing is, people need to accept that Marriage has changed with the needs of society. And when you look at the different groups, the different individuals, we all have different needs. Somebody might want to get married for immigration purposes. Somebody wants to get married for love. Somebody wants to get married for family, tax purposes, business that there's so many different Reasons behind marriage that we have to go into it. One, understanding what it is we want out of it and making sure who we choose to partner with wants the same thing. Yeah, because if I want to get married for love and you want to get married for business, we're gonna have some issues somewhere along the line. We're not satisfying each other's needs.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you bring up a good point. I don't think we talked about marriage that much this season. Maybe we'll put that on the list.
Speaker 2:Oh, I definitely think that's an even to relationship. Yeah, like people.
Speaker 1:I think the assumption most of the time is that we're getting into this relationship because we love each other and, without talking about it, we Move blindly through the relationship and we complain about things, and things become issues because we never discuss what we're really here for.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so it's a lot to talk about marriage. I think the one thing that I keyed off of that you said is that marriage changes with the needs of society and I think it's important for people to recognize that, because a lot of times we we hear these Conversations about our grandparents and how they did a good, a bad or indifferent, when a lot of people might compare Mm-hmm, they're forefathers, to how the men are today in traditional women. True, all of those conversations are being had, but you hear me say it all the time, like back in those days, in In a certain period, people got married for survival. It was a survival thing. Yeah, we don't have to get married for survival today.
Speaker 3:At some point in life people got married out of duty to family Mm-hmm and because that was very important. We don't have that today. So it makes it really tough to compare or try to make a comparison to what people did before. We live in a new society and there are a whole lot of things that are different about our society than the societies that existed in Generations past. So we have to consider that when we anyway, that we got already getting in the season to about some of these things.
Speaker 2:But that's a great conversation to have around marriage and to bring it full circle, the thing that remains Consistent is social gatherings.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:Social gatherings have happened throughout all of time. Whether you're watching Bridgerton or any sort of Jane Austen movie or a 90s movie, what have you? There's still social gatherings, and that's one thing that Valin mentioned a second ago. We are definitely going to throw an event, an about-good company event, as Dating differently is an about-good company podcast, and so be on the lookout for more information about that. We'll be putting out details as we get closer to, and we really want you guys to come. We want you guys to sign up and be a part of about good company and come to our event. So with that, I think this closes out the first season. Any final words?
Speaker 3:oh, we'll see you guys in season two see you in season.