Dating Differently Podcast
Dating Differently Podcast
Minisode 4: Is This Really For Me?
What if you could easily connect with individuals who share your quest for personal growth and fulfillment? Would you be willing to expand your social circle and possibly stumble upon a romantic spark along the way? Welcome to our podcast, where we share our ongoing journey at About Good Company. Founded with the aim of bringing together determined yet busy individuals, we're passionate about building a community that helps you find not just company but 'good company.'
At About Good Company, we believe in the power of real-life connections. We explore the often elusive realm of matchmaking, a service considered a luxury for the high-end demographic, with an aim to bridge this gap. We're here to prove that the thrill of meeting new people and forming meaningful relationships is an experience that should be accessible to all. So buckle up as we share our insights, discuss the highs and lows of our mission, and invite you to join our community of 'quality people' on a journey to personal growth. We promise you'll leave with a fresh perspective on relationships and community building.
So, now that we know about Good Company why you and I came together to create this organization called about Good Company and part of the mission behind it to bring good people together and now we know about the place, the Macrith, where a lot of this will happen. Now we have to talk about types of people, that what kind of people do we want to be a part of this? Like who are we looking for to participate in? Like who do we want to bring together?
Speaker 2:I would say I think we've talked around who these people are and the types of people. When I think about Good Company and what we want to provide for people, in my mind the avatar of this person. They're really busy, they're doing a lot and a lot can be professionally growing, a really heavy work phase where they're about to get a promotion or they just got a promotion, or they're hustling to build something, a vision, a dream. But they're busy and they're the types of people that their person is going to have to slap them in the face because they're so focused on the pieces of their life that make them a full person. Not that they're workaholics or they're anti-relationship or they haven't expressed interest or they haven't talked to their married friends about hey, if you know any single people that are good, some quality single people, let me know I'm over here. Live them a life, not that they haven't had those conversations, but just that they are. They're taking the time to focus on themselves, not in a trite or cliche way, but really honing in on what brings them joy and trying to chase after that. And I think that really describes you.
Speaker 2:Before you met Debbie.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:We're building this for younger Valden, current Anna Bevan.
Speaker 1:Well, you know so and I think you and I discuss this a little because I think we have a little bit of divergence about who, who, not necessarily divergence. Like the audience you're after is somewhat narrow the audience in a global sense. The audience I'm after is a little bit broader, because keep this in mind, like you and I are of two different generations, right.
Speaker 2:We are.
Speaker 1:And I know let me bring it home. So you talk about busy people, right, and because that's something that resonates with you right now, like you're a busy person, you've got a job, you've got a couple of side hustles and you're going to do this with me as well, right. And I can deal with that too. I'm still an electrical engineer, but I'm a master maker also, but I'm also a photographer and I'm a full-time husband. You know, and not even talk about the other stuff.
Speaker 2:You're doing a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do a lot myself and you know, back in my single days I had a website development company and I was an electrical engineer and I was a photographer and I was a single dude trying to figure out how to date people. So I understand the whole busy idea. The question around quality people right, this is a tough one that I have to deal with in the communities of people that I talk to with.
Speaker 1:You say the word quality people. Sometimes people get offended, which I don't understand, because I'm not saying you're not quality. If you think you're a quality person, you're a quality person. And not only that, it's somewhat subjective too, because the quality person to you is not the same as a quality person to this next person over here.
Speaker 1:But at the end of the day I want to help people in general, come together. I know I cannot help everybody. I know that Some people don't even want to help themselves. So this what I'm saying is that that avatar might be we've honed in on this specific one, which is great, and that's what we're going to move forward with. But I think the target will move a little, not necessarily move.
Speaker 2:I think you're exactly right.
Speaker 1:It'll broaden over time, right, because you know, I know some 40, like, let's talk about the age range, like right now. The target that we're after right now is kind of late 20s, mid, 30s, mid to late 30s.
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, yeah yeah mid, late 30s, which is great. A lot of people that I talk to are late 30s, late 40s, right, and that's a demographic that I really want to service as well, right? So you know, as we go on, like you and I won't be able to throw all of the parties, or you know, we can't be in more than one place at one time this whole social circle idea just so you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1:Because this whole social circle idea is, from my perspective, is big, which is aside from about good company, have the same spirit, you know. But in my eyes, you know, with my communities of people, I want to plant social circle events all over the city eventually. But I and I can't be all over the city, so I've got to kind of enroll other people to help me with that sort of thing. But this right here, what we're doing, I think about good company, is at a higher level, right, and I won't use that word. But I'm excited about what we're going to do because I just I know how frustrated it is for quality people to find other quality people, right, whatever that means to whoever's listening. And I know people share that frustration and I we've got the resources to make that happen and to help people and I'm excited about that because I like helping people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think you're a point about the audience growing, the avatar of the person not necessarily changing, but like expanding a little bit is very true. I think the more we pull people in on this group and invite people to be part of about good company, we're going to see that there are more people that want to be a part of this Right.
Speaker 1:And that's what we want to create Exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2:Like at its core, like dream of all dreams, and everything that I ever throw party related is.
Speaker 2:I always wanted to feel like breakfast at Tiffany's, where you like wander through and you're like holding your drink up in the air and you're like, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, pardon me, like oh hey, oh my gosh, I didn't see you. This is great. How are you doing? Yeah, like that sort of energy. Where you're, you're always like moving to the next place because you don't have to stay in one spot.
Speaker 2:And so, if we can, like, we're going to get to that point where, about good company events are going to feel like breakfast at Tiffany's and then we're going to bring them back down to smaller, more curated communities of people who are really similar in their backgrounds and their value system, in what they've expressed they wanted in the future, through intimate events that are exclusive to people who are further into the about good company community, right, and that's exciting too, because it's that you described earlier like a smaller social circle where there's five women and five men, like that's this too. Like four men, four women, absolutely Around a murder mystery dinner party, where there's a theme and you sort of are talking to somebody about nothing that you're actually talking about, but you're connecting over some of the interpersonal stuff through wine dinners where we have a Somalia, come in and walk through. Why are these pairings working? With what you're having, where people can learn but also joke about how much they don't know, there's something.
Speaker 1:I feel like you're talking about me and my wife when we were at that last wine party.
Speaker 2:No, but there's something really exciting about like having a conversation about something that you're not having a conversation about because that's when you get to know, like, do they laugh at the same jokes that I laugh at, do they like the same movies that I like, without having to ask those questions. So I think that what sort of sets us apart other than being a fan of chance meetings with a little bit of help, but also there's so much you can learn about somebody without having to directly ask the questions, about learning to learn about them, and if we can facilitate those interactions, like that's it. That's the whole thing.
Speaker 1:That's the backbone of the whole thing is facilitating. What's the word you just used, Interactions. Interactions facilitating interactions in a comfortable setting. That's what it's all about. One question that was on the table last weekend when we talked was value proposition.
Speaker 2:Yes, one. I think our value proposition is your time is better spent with us. We care about your relationship goals and where you wanna go in your future relationship wise as much as you do. If that hasn't come across in our like hype about this, like our volume's gotten a little higher. I've gotten more animated, my hands are moving around, then maybe like start at the beginning of the episode, then you'll catch it all the way through. But we believe in what you wanna accomplish. We wanna accomplish that with you. We wanna help that be made possible and we wanna use your time wisely, right and so and like. That's why you're here as a matchmaker.
Speaker 1:Exactly, and I mentioned earlier that matchmaking itself is a high ticket item. It's a luxury item. Yeah, oh yeah, and the idea of matchmaking is not on the radar of most people, like they don't even hear about it. But there's a society of people that have because they participate heavily in it. But that's a society of people who are high income individuals, and this is going back to the value proposition conversation. As I mentioned also, one of my goals when I came into the industry is to see what I can do to bring that service to more of a working class demographic also. Yeah, yeah, and what people may not know is that the average contract in the matchmaking world is about $15,000.
Speaker 2:That's the average, so that means a lot of the high end people that I work with Go a lot higher, yeah, a lot higher.
Speaker 1:Like I was just on a mastermind call with some people in the industry and the guy said hey, we need everybody to raise their prices $5,000. Now their price is already $25,000 for a contract Shhh Right, and they wanna raise it another like $25,000, $50,000, $100,000 is not weird for people who participated in the matchmaking industry, Both clients and matchmakers themselves. But I know normal people, not that they are normal people, but regular people don't have, I'm gonna go with they aren't normal.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they don't have $15,000 to, I mean, the company that you mentioned. You know I've gone through their process and I know that their cost is $9,000 to $15,000. Right, so it takes some financial resources to participate in this right. So another one of the value propositions that I'm bringing to the table is the same work that we do for people who pay $100,000 for a contract is the same work I'm trying to do for people who participate in about good company.
Speaker 1:And not only that. This is the same work I'm trying to do for the people that are in my communities. They don't recognize the value of it, right you know. So I'm pretty much casting my pearls to swine, so to speak, but I'm also dedicated to helping them understand the value in what I'm doing, because it's real value. I use the exact same tools the high-end matchmakers. The high-end matchmakers are part of my network, like we work and we collaborate with each other all the time. So the value proposition for about good company is not only are we putting you in the space of good people, we're actually doing some work behind the scenes to make sure those people are somewhat compatible with being in your space right.
Speaker 1:Because, at the end of the day, I want people to be in rooms that are target rich for enhanced social circles, building friendships and finding you know your love interest. That's my goal as a matchmaker in this particular endeavor.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think that's fantastic. I also think that there's a value proposition that we've talked about a little bit. I think being in real life with people is so important, and I was just talking to a friend of mine who's having a hard time making friends. She just moved to a new place and, as we get older, making new friends that aren't connected to us at work and didn't go to college with us or aren't like best friends from childhood if we still have any of those is extremely hard.
Speaker 2:And so this is also an opportunity for that, for you, to meet people of your same sex, a different sex Like. That's still pretty awesome and though it's not the core of why we're gathering people together, but it is a benefit Absolutely, and I think, if you can like, spend one price and get two things kill two birds with one stone as they say back in the day Back in my day. Yeah, back in your day. I think that's exciting too. Yeah, absolutely, I mean I like meeting new people.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't say that I'm always in the market for friends, because that's a heavier lift Right, but I'm not opposed to meeting new people and finding new friends by any means.