The Energy of Hours: Making Time vs Taking Time

Dom and DJ explore time from spiritual to personal and even as parents, sharing personal insights balancing busy schedules with family priorities. 

• Recently completed a month of Ramadan/Lent for spiritual reset & charge

• Parenting challenges across three children (16, 5, and 2) 

• Transforming "trapped time" like car rides into productive moments

• Being Productive vs Being 'busy"

• Setting boundaries with technology for quality rest and energy 

• Way to maintain focus and ensures self-care

• Who and what we invest in matters

• Gods Time >> our time

Thank you for listening! Like, share, comment, subscribe, and we look forward to speaking with you next time.

Transcript

Welcome Back After Ramadan

Speaker 1 0:00

Hello , hello and welcome back to the Reset Channel podcast . This is Dominique . I'm with my amazing husband .

Speaker 2 0:06

Hey , and I'm with my amazing wife . What's up , good people ? It's DJ .

Speaker 1 0:09

And we are here and excited to bring you guys another episode . Today . We're going to be talking a little bit about time and all that can entail , but I don't think we're going to waste too much time getting into it . We're sort of just going to go ahead . So we are coming off of a month break with you guys , but during this month it was actually Ramadan for me . So I sort of took a step back with my own time and really dove deep into my faith and reconnected with Allah , or God . I fasted from sunup to sundown from food , so that within itself was its own challenge . From food , so that within itself was its own challenge . But I felt so spiritually reawakened . It had been the first time in almost five years that I have been able to fast , because you can't do it if you're pregnant or breastfeeding . So it was my first time in a while actually giving my effort and everything that I had into fasting , and I am so overjoyed and grateful that the Ramadan went how it did and that I had the support of my husband through it .

Speaker 1 1:09

Time came up because of the ultimate schedule switch that Ramadan gives you . I had to eat before the sunrise even began , so I was getting up about 5 , 5.15 in the morning , cooking a full breakfast , eating and then getting up and proceeding and get the kids ready , all while trying to pray and read the Quran . Around that time , spending the day not eating freed up time , but I tried to use this with our daily prayer times , reading more and praying before I went to bed , so just finding a way to recenter and get back to God and let him know that I am devout and I am here . And I had DJ's amazing support waking up with me in the mornings , even when he was off . That meant everything . I don't know if he knew that , but it meant everything having him get up with me . Although he did not participate in Ramadan in the way I did , he found his own twist to it and it was amazing to do it together .

Speaker 2 1:57

No doubt , no doubt it was . It's been great , guys , just seeing her get back even deeper in her faith . You know we're a copa , she is a Muslim and I'm a Christian , so but the great thing and the joy about that is we both believe that religion ultimately is manmade and that God is where the source of everything is , absolutely . So it's been joyful to see that While she was participating in her Ramadan , one thing that I did want to do to help support her was fast and add something into my daily schedule , and one thing it allowed me to do was I would wake up 15 minutes earlier , so I was getting up basically at 3.15 with my time and then getting ready , and then that gave me 15 minutes from 3.45 to 4 o'clock where I could read the Bible andI would put different scriptures or I followed the scripture that I did the day before and it helped me tie deeper into my faith and , as far as my time , even after . It's something that I continue to do , man , and it feels great .

Speaker 1 3:08

Yeah , I definitely think that we can get so wrapped up in our day-to-day that we forget that , at the end of the day , if you're a believer , you know that God just wants to hear you talk to him . He wants to hear you getting closer to him and with that he'll bless you and give you those rewards . Um , and setting that example for our kids too . There was one day I was praying and Amara came and sat beside me and just mimicked what I was doing , just like having those moments that you know are reassuring that you're doing the right thing and getting closer to the source . It was . It was amazing . I can't even put another word

Spiritual Growth Through Faith Practices

Speaker 1 3:41

on it , but so grateful for that time .

Speaker 1 3:43

Also ready to dive back into full life , but keeping those daily things top of mind , still making that time to pray , still getting up and at it . Dj is still getting up 15 to 20 minutes early to read . So not using Ramadan as a one time a month thing , or even Lent or anything like that , but using this as a daily practice , because that's all it is . It's just us practicing things that we should be doing and getting re-centered and realigned .

Speaker 2 4:08

No doubt .

Speaker 1 4:10

Yeah .

Speaker 2 4:10

Just playing off of time , guys . We diving into that . So making time versus taking time , and then prioritizing

Making vs Taking Time As Parents

Speaker 2 4:18

our time , especially with our kids . I know the majority of us , especially our BG people out there , we have kids .

Speaker 2 4:25

We are fortunate , dom and I , to have three kids , as challenging as that is . We have our son , caden , who is 16 years old , in a sophomore high school . We have our five-year-old daughter , amara , who's turning six in a couple months , in May , and then our two-year-old the youngest , kamari , who's turning six in a couple months in May , and then our two-year-old the youngest , kamari , who's turning three in July , thelmar . So we're fortunate to be tapping in and always have to be alert and even communicate to them differently , guys , since they are three totally different age demographics with 16 , 5 , and 2 . So time is huge for us as far as making time for them , whether that's trying to make it to Kaden the cross game football game , whatever he's doing at the time , or picking him up for practice , to picking up Amar in the middle of the day at 2 o'clock and just being aware of Kamari's nap time in those ways . So just manipulating and taking advantage of the time that we have in between .

Speaker 1 5:23

Yeah , I think when we're going to the making time versus taking time being parents and entrepreneurs or people that work and do parenting , or just if you're a stay-at-home mom , that's a full-time job , guys . But making time ? So we know we have our 20-minute car ride to their schools . We know we have the pickup line , which takes almost 30 minutes . We know Caden's practice sometimes after his games he doesn't get out to almost 9 , 9.30 , and we're sitting there waiting for 15 , 20 minutes . So , with these time gaps and these things that we have , how are you making that time to be productive ? Can you listen to a podcast while you're waiting in the car doing practice ? Can you read , Can you journal ? Can you use this time that you already have doing your parenting but make it something that is more focused on you and that is a challenge that we've tried to accept with our personal growth and self-growth to match our kids' schedules , because we're not going to have them sacrifice .

Speaker 1 6:28

We're just going to figure out a way to make it work .

Speaker 2 6:30

That's got to pivot and that's one challenge that we'll ask of you guys is just looking back at those certain moments during the day five minutes , 10 minutes , 15 minutes whether you're in between the drive or whether you're , like us , waiting at the car line , where we can actually take action and be productive , whether that's journaling or , like what Dom said , as far as listening to the podcast or even tackling a couple tasks that we know we need to do tomorrow and just being more productive and just staying away from the phone and doom scrolling and being unproductive and looking at , possibly , things or people who or not really adding value or charging us the way that we should be charged .

Speaker 1 7:13

Yeah , I think that's powerful within itself .

Speaker 1 7:16

It's hard to make the distinction between being busy and being productive , and that's one thing . I challenge you to go look at your phone and look at your screen time report because both Androids and iPhones have them and see exactly where you're spending your time . If you spent an hour on Facebook , I totally am with rest , totally with taking a mind off , but can you do 20 minutes instead of 60 and use that other 40 minutes for something else ? Sometimes it takes that self-check to be like okay , maybe I did lose track , let me see what I've been doing lately . It'll pull it up .

Speaker 1 7:48

It'll tell you it might be hard to see , but you'll know that , hey , I feel like I'm so busy and I'm stressed out , I don't have time to do x , y and z , but let's take a step back and really evaluate what we are doing . Um , especially as entrepreneurs me and DJ have to check each other sometimes , like okay , we've been on the phone for like 20 minutes , we got this to-do list .

Speaker 2 8:06

Let's go ahead and get back re-centered and realigned with what we're doing um , and that's sort of making that schedule for you yeah , yeah and um , um and just learning guys to it's okay to be off um , random , random stat man . I mean it's throwing their guys with it . Going back to our children real quick , as you , uh , you know , children are reprimanded eight times more than their praise . So whenever you have that time with your child ,

Creating Productive Schedules and Boundaries

Speaker 2 8:34

um , just remember , it's not always about , hey , cleaning up or getting the dishes or getting this done , but give them some . Give them some love sometime , man . They they're in a different world than we are now , so they may be getting . It's so much easier for them to be cyber bullied . We don't know what influence they're being being under whenever they're at school .

Speaker 1 8:50

So just throwing , throwing that praise man as much as possible , patting them on the back yeah , I think that's a horrible but very profound statistic and it's one thing that I'd also say , picking back with DJ praise your kids , but also learn how your child needs to be talked to , because each of your kids are different . I know each of our kids are very different A hundred percent and learning their communication style , how they receive and what they receive , I think is a very important skill as a parent , and I also think it's ever evolving especially as they're getting older and changing .

Speaker 1 9:25

But for real , the things they have to deal with now , we didn't even think about . So just bringing it down to that level , because there's some stuff we can't even handle . On social media , we have issues , we get off , we do this , we do that . They're seeing everything we are , if not more . So let's just be mindful of that , as parents for sure .

Speaker 2 9:44

That's fast , guys , and there are hundreds of books written , man , on parenting . But you just got to figure that thing out and we had to figure that thing out together . Man , one day at a time . Yeah , facts One moment .

Speaker 2 9:56

But getting back on task , as far as with making schedules , one thing , man , that helps me out tremendously , guys , is I've said this before in the past is literally making my alarms go off in my phone . I'd be glad to show any of y'all , especially if you're a BG person , and I'm going to tell you too , man , I'll show y'all my phone . I have about probably 10 to 12 different alarms set every hour to two hours and sometimes 30 minute increments , just to keep me on task . Because it's so easy to get off task , obviously , if I'm training or I'm coaching , I'm on the floor , that's off . But as soon as I'm done , guys , I have an alarm . Maybe that's telling me hey , it's time to fuel , time to eat , or hey , respond to this person , because you can get so much involved and so much could get thrown at you that we can forget things . So making that alarm for me helps me save time and helps me recreate the energy where it needs to go in the right way .

Speaker 1 10:53

Yeah , I definitely admire DJ's alarms . I'm not an alarm person , but I use notes . But one thing I would love to say , just based off of DJ's alarm he even schedules his nap time if he's working that morning , which I say only to say how important it is to refuel and re-energize and give your body that rest as well . We're such a big hustle , culture , community and lifestyle . Sometimes we forget that sleep and food are among the highest of priorities that you need to accomplish every day . So I only add that tidbit into what DJ said , just to let you know like we grind and we're hustling . We're working 80 to 100 hours a week , but we're also very much prioritizing our own self-care , our own self-love , making sure that our bodies are refueled and ready to tackle what we have , and I really want you to do the same to just protect whatever you got going on for sure .

Speaker 2 11:44

Yeah , and you're playing off of time guys . So not only scheduling time , but your time is energy that is transferred , that is not destroyed or created ,

Time as Energy and God's Timing

Speaker 2 11:55

so that's including people as well . We're setting up positive boundaries . Dom , if you want to tap into that , I can play off of you , yeah for sure .

Speaker 1 12:04

I think when DJ says time is energy , that's 100% true . It is who we're spending our time with , what we're doing with our time . Are we staying up till two o'clock in the morning on our phones or are we going to bed and waking up earlier so we can have more of our day ? Are we spending our time with people who are energizing us and feeding our souls and giving us wisdom , or are we constantly it's okay to do it sometimes , but constantly having to feed others and reassure them and stress out ? Are we watching the news all day ? Are we checking in Like , just what are we doing with our time ?

Speaker 1 12:39

That is , giving our bodies and our souls energy in life ? Because , at the end of the day , if you're giving out more than what you're taking in , you're going to feel depleted , you're going to feel done , you're going to be stressed , have anxiety . These are just I mean , it's physics what comes in , what comes out . This is what's going to happen . So very much protecting your time and seeing what you're doing every day , which is why the result you're feeling the way you are , whether that be good or bad yeah , yeah .

Speaker 2 13:04

And then sometimes , you know , we may even have to be that energy or charge some other people because some people may be running on fumes low . I know we see that um A lot , you know , and we're in a different environment . Obviously , guys , we're in the gym setting , but whether people have lost their jobs or they're feeling down , they can have an argument or anything with their spouse or kid Before they came in . You never know . But I think one thing God has blessed us with and not only Domino , but even other coaches Charlotte , michelle , melissa , brooke , andy , ashley , amber man , we can definitely pick up on that when we need to pour in a little bit more to our people , man , and that's where the real changes hurt .

Speaker 2 13:52

You never know where you can be . You can redirect someone else's day just by giving them that compliment or giving them that fist pound or patting them on the back . Um , so , um , but , yeah , so , but . Uh , I think what dom said is a hundred percent . Like where your energy goes , man , that's where we're gonna flow . Um , so you on the phone , like literally right before you go to bed , and you're having problems sleeping . Maybe that's a correlation there . Um , me personally , I love to have that two-hour rule where I'm off electronics at least by 8 o'clock and I'm able to lay down at 10 o'clock .

Speaker 1 14:24

Yeah , for sure . I think , just piggybacking on what you said , that is probably my favorite part of being in the gym is , whether you're tired from work or life , or your day , whatever it is , by the time you come in feeling low , we 9.5 times out of 10 are going to see you feeling better with a smile , walking back out . So if you don't have that space , if you're not a Body Games member , if you're not local , I challenge you to find something that fuels you and your body at the same time , so you can get those effects and don't let negativity weigh you down . It doesn't take anything , it doesn't take energy or anything to be kind or respectful to somebody , and we need a lot more of that right now in the world . And I think I just want to close by reiterating something I heard this morning .

Speaker 1 15:11

Actually , I was listening to a lecture as I was getting ready and he was talking about God's plans versus God's timing . And we always , always submit to God's plan and we know that's what he wants us to do and he's guiding our direction . But one thing as humans that we get extremely frustrated with is things not happening on our time or when we want it . We're so hasty . We're so busy . We want things when we want it . That's the human way . But finding a way to not only submit to what God's plans are for you , but knowing that his timing is perfect and sometimes that timing could be not in this world and he's saving it for you in general , or heaven in the next world we don't know what that is but finding peace , that at the end of the day , god knows the perfect timing for everything that's happening in your life , and just submitting to that and knowing he's the ultimate guider .

Speaker 2 16:00

Facts and on that you can . You can , I'll say you can speed up that time , guys , in the way that we're acting , in a way that we give them praise , you know , and also delay that if it's going the opposite way . So in that time , or we got to ask ourselves are we growing and what have we learned to help us get to that next level and be better ?

Speaker 1 16:23

Yeah , absolutely , and I think that's the best thing . Way to end it right there 100%

Episode Closing and Final Thoughts

Speaker 1 16:28

guys . Thank you all for listening . We are hoping to be back very soon with our next episode . But like , share , comment , subscribe , do all those fun things , and we look forward to speaking with you next time .

Speaker 2 16:38

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