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So"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2715.588,"endTime":2718.591,"body":"we're gonna have a little bit of"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2715.588,"endTime":2718.591,"body":"a focus on weaning"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2718.65,"endTime":2721.948,"body":"neurodivergent children coming"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2718.65,"endTime":2721.948,"body":"up. And I look forward to"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2722.006,"endTime":2725.657,"body":"hearing from you. If you've got"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2722.006,"endTime":2725.657,"body":"any other further questions, I"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2725.716,"endTime":2729.367,"body":"might do another Q\u0026A session in"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2725.716,"endTime":2729.367,"body":"the future. So do feel free to"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2729.426,"endTime":2733.077,"body":"message me through Instagram, if"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2729.426,"endTime":2733.077,"body":"you've got any questions that"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2733.136,"endTime":2736.316,"body":"haven't been addressed today"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2733.136,"endTime":2736.316,"body":"that you would like to be"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2736.375,"endTime":2740.026,"body":"addressed in a future session."},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2736.375,"endTime":2740.026,"body":"Thank you for joining me today."},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2740.085,"endTime":2743.677,"body":"You can find me on Instagram"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2740.085,"endTime":2743.677,"body":"@EmmaPickettIBCLC and on Twitter"},{"speaker":"Emma Pickett","startTime":2743.736,"endTime":2747.328,"body":"@MakesMilk. 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