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Welcome to SGR - Straight Gay Reviews! Yes, I'm Gay, hence the name. I'm Rumeal; it's like Ru Paul & a Meal you'd eat! Feel free to share this with anyone; SGR started as a movie review channel, which I did with a friend. However, it has morphed into something I love doing: learning from others and networking. There are many different segments; I hope you have time to listen to them when you can, and they provide value in your world. Oh, if you want the visuals check us out on YouTube.
Straight Gay Reviews
Relationship Realism: Aries Alignments, Trust Tactics, and Social Media Surprises with a Slice of Intuitive Insight
Ever wondered how stars align to influence our relationship dynamics? This episode features an engaging conversation with Terrell J. We dive into Terrell J's four-year relationship and discuss how communication and trust are integral to maintaining a healthy partnership. Together, we shed light on the profound influence partners can have on each other, as well as the challenges social media introduces into the mix. Terrell J generously shares his strategies for nurturing trust and security amidst an ever-connected world, drawing from past experiences that shape his perspective on valuing relationships today.
From the evolution of Straight Gay Reviews to candid discussions on sexuality perceptions, this episode serves up a refreshing dose of authenticity. I reflect on the show's journey from a co-hosted venture to a solo project, sharing how feedback has fueled its inclusivity and hinting at exciting new merchandise endeavors. We also tackle the importance of gut intuition, encouraging listeners to trust themselves in both personal and professional realms. Stay tuned for moments of humor as we wade through frustrations with video editing software and express heartfelt gratitude for your support, all while promising more engaging topics in future episodes, such as the ever-entertaining "Messy Minutes".
Welcome to Straight Gate Reviews. It's your boy, sgr. And then we got this is Terrell. Hey, terrell, how do we actually meet each other if you don't mind telling the people at home?
Speaker 2:Yes, so me and Bay were actually out at Juicy King Crab having a few drinks and we were on live and you happened to join our live and I was like whoa, you have a podcast. Hell, yeah, let me be on that.
Speaker 1:Well, first and foremost, I love networking. I will tell you that and that's one of the things, and shout out to you and Bae, because you and Bae are cool. We just had a quick conversation and then we're here, brothers, after finding out, with Firesides I'm like that's why the energy is entertaining. And then Bae's an areas like I am, which is even cooler. Absolutely, because you know you ain't got to worry about nothing. You ain't got to worry about nothing.
Speaker 1:So when's your birthday? When's your birthday? Oh Lord, I just tell people hey, listen, after you get my name and you get the birthday, I'm going to teach you this, okay, okay, okay, be careful, you don social and that's it. They got y'all. Hello, I'm telling you. Right, you're right, but um, the the topic for today. Uh, before we get into the topic, we usually do what's called the rasta pasta update and, for those at home that have never listened to relationship realism before, the rasta pasta is the roster of potential candidates, but it does not apply to terrell, because terrell is happily in a relationship. How long have you been in that relationship, terrell?
Speaker 2:This month, on the 27th, will be four years.
Speaker 1:Come on, First and foremost. I guess let's take it back and let me ask this what do you feel is the most important building block? Do you feel like it's communication? Do you feel like like what? Do you think what, what, what helped your relationship first?
Speaker 2:So I feel like, first off, communication is always the biggest thing for me in a relationship, because I feel like you and your partner have to stay on the same page, like even when you guys are going through good moments and even when you have to have those hard conversations with your partner. I feel like staying on the same page is the key to your relationship, because once when you guys are on the same page, can't nobody, nobody, can come in between that, because you guys both know what's going on. So it's like like you know, like even if you know people are not so honest in relationships and things like that, but it's like you're on the same page. It's like you can't say anything to your significant other that you know somebody else is going to be like oh well, no, he did this or he did that. You know. It's like no, wait, hold on, because me and my man like you know, we, we, we talk about these things. You know type, you know.
Speaker 1:I've learned so much from social media. I've learned so much, like one of the things and I am proud of you with you know, sharing your relationship on the social media, because people crazy that's what I'm going to say I've learned that people are crazy and we kind of you know it's take two Ain't nobody I know about take one, but the way that people come at you on social media and that's one of the things that, like shocks me because, like, especially when you're on live, you'll be reading stuff and people will say something, and I've also gotten to this point in my life where not everything deserves a response, absolutely. You probably have had randos in your inbox and so on and so forth, like, how do you protect you, your relationship, from that type of stuff too? If you don't mind me asking, oh, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:I feel like when me, when me and Bay talk about social media platforms, like we both know that we would love to be viral or like we would love to be one of those social media people where it's like you always get like thousands of views or you always get thousands of likes and things like that. So it's like, if we're aiming to be these type of folks like you, I already know as a human being, like if I find you attractive, somebody else is going to find you attractive. So it's like those folks that are in your comments or that are trying to get at you or do this or do that, it's like I get that. That's going to happen regardless. Because I think you're attractive, so somebody else is going to think you're attractive.
Speaker 2:My thing is it come. It also comes down to trust as well, because it it's like I trust this man with my life. So it's like if I trust you with my life, I can trust you how to handle somebody trying to come at you sideways or come at you like you know flirtatious, and this, that and the third, because it's like I trust you, so it's like you know how to handle that. You know you're in a relationship, you handle that.
Speaker 1:And I don't have to worry about that For me. And again, when I was in a relationship, I feel and again I like to make the statement I feel that your partner can shape your world either positively or negatively, as I expressed to you again I'm gonna stop saying previous, but I was in a four-year relationship. It'll be two years since that relationship ended. We were engaged, the full gamut, lived together, same house. The reason why I felt like I wasn't valued was because when I come to you and I tell you, hey, I want to be put first. There are places you have to go.
Speaker 1:Family is important, friends are important, but ultimately, like you and bae are together, you and bae are building a unit, you and bae are building an empire, kingdom, whatever you want to call it, and from my perspective, it's simple to get lost into all of, like the shenanigans and everything else. I don't need excuses, I don't need BS, I just need you to own what it is and move forward. I, again, I feel like communication is important. We live in a world and, hi, I work in telecommunications and for those at home that don't know what that means, think about your wireless cell phone providers and I've worked in telecommunications since I've been 18. So literally my whole life almost half my life has been telecommunications or customer service or whatever. So I know how to talk to people and my experience is really simple. Okay, if you're, you got your phone in your hand and you like a post on Instagram text me no no, no, I'll probably drop my thing and I have to give that to you.
Speaker 1:I wonder why. Why is it that you're quicker to reply off Instagram? And I wonder why, why can't? Why is it that you're quicker to reply off Instagram? Or you're quicker to reply but you can't communicate to me? Like how do you? It goes back to communication, right, you feel about that. Yeah, like, how do you feel you should be communicated to? Do you feel like a text, a call? I like? I said it doesn't really matter, but like what's? I guess this is the next question what's off limits or what's on limits for you when it comes to communication and, again, any relationship? Like, do you expect your friends to reply to your text before they hit you up on instagram? Or like, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, I feel like, when it comes down, if you're, if you're regarding to like communication with my significant other, I feel like it all depends on the scenario. Like, I feel like so, for example, me and bae we live together. So I know we both go to work at the same time. So it's like I know you're at work and I know you're at work from this time to this time. And, mind you, me and Bae we're the type of relationship where I share my location with him and he shares his location with me. It's not that we're checking it all the time, but if I want to know where you are, I can see where you are. So it's like, obviously I know that you're busy.
Speaker 2:Now it may be a little shady to me if you go all day without texting me, like even on your lunch break, you know, but it's like I don't take that to heart. And then, at the end of the day, we live together. So I know, even if we don't talk all throughout the workday, I know when we get home I'll be able to be like oh, bae, how was your day? Like, what did you do today? So like we'll still be able to recap our day at the end of the day, now, in a situation where we're not together, I feel like the communication plays a little bit more of a bigger part when it comes to reaching out or, like you know, check-ins and things like that, because we're not living together, you know. So I feel like that's a bit different. But me and Babe, we've been living together for the past like maybe two and a half years, so it's like I just feel like that is a task in itself because people don't realize, like, um, my previous relationship.
Speaker 1:I was with him, we were together, but he worked nights, so that was one of the bigger issues in the relationship. Because he worked nights, I worked days. There would be days we didn't see each other. And exactly, I want you to put this equation in and, like, after we broke up, I had to tell him I'm like we see each other about 72 hours in a week and that doesn't quantify and I'm not.
Speaker 1:You know, I want you to pay attention to this when I say this, that doesn't take into account any time that your friends or your family asks you to do something. That doesn't take into account the random emergencies that aren't really emergencies and I like to say adventure-level threats, like I just saw the new Captain America movie. You ain't need all that adventures for this. Y'all could have figured it out with probably three or four of them, but that's my opinion. And, granted, they ain't use all the adventures, but from my perspective, you have to sometimes quantify and it goes back to communicating and you don't know what you have until you know how to do it. We've all seen those times.
Speaker 2:Times, no, I was just gonna no, I know I to to speak on that. I really do feel that. So there was a point. So me and babe have been collectively together for four years. This month, on the 27th. However, there was a short period of time where we were separated, about maybe two years ago, and that was just because, you know, something traumatic happened in my life and I just needed some time to get my own thoughts together. Where we were separated about maybe two years ago and that was just because, you know, something traumatic happened in my life and I just needed some time to get my own thoughts together, you know, but I feel like the saying you saying that you know, you really don't know what you have until you don't have. It is so true because it's like, even though I didn't separate myself from the relationship to see what else was out there, but, having being separated, I worked, I was able to see what was out there and it's just like you know, you really don't truly know what you have until it's gone.
Speaker 1:Trash is out here, trash. I always jokingly tell my best friend there's pee in the dating pool. And there is pee in the dating pool, regardless of what you say. Like I dated someone who wasn't comfortable with their sexuality. Rule number one dating me, you gotta know if you're bisexual or gay, I'm sorry. I can date someone who's pansexual, I can date someone who's asexual, I can date someone who is even a sapiosexual, and I can go down the list of all of those.
Speaker 1:If you know and I think you know the extensive list that we now have I am not dealing with someone who is not comfortable enough with their sexuality because I dated a gentleman who wasn't and we went to a white elephant gift exchange at my friend's house and this was wild to me. This was wild because, um, from my perspective, I felt like I was being myself, how I am right now, you know, and before you know, we started recording, I jokingly told you like, using your person, if I'm cool with you, you know I'm talking to someone, so forth, but they're like this side of me, there's energy. This takes time, this takes effort, this takes a lot, and people don't think that it does, because I'm also like I said, I communicate for a day to day and like different personalities. Anyway, said person went to the white elephant gift exchange and then got upset on the way home because they were like you made me feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:You kept doing X, y and Z and I'm like maybe I'm looking at things from a different perspective. But like, uh, and I reached out to my friend and my friend's like, you didn't do anything extra than what you like normally do, you were yourself. I'm like, okay, but this is also someone who doesn't have friends. This is also a part of who isn't comfortable with their sexuality. And jokingly, of course, said person was like, not said person. My friend was like he was concerned about people knowing that he was gay, like he was the one with the tight clothes on.
Speaker 2:He was the one like doing X, y or Z, like we they didn't know and I was just like and it's so funny that you said that, because when you joined our live and once we got off that live at Juicy King Crab, we went on to your Instagram page and we were like, is he gay, is he straight? I'm like. I said, hey, I was like I don't know. I was like I really don't know. I was like I have no idea. And then we seen like a picture of like I think it was like you and like some female and y'all were like dressed up, like really nice. So we're like damn, is this a wedding? I'm like I don't know, I really don't know.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I guess I'll post my new, my new photos Um. My new photo, not nude. New N E W new photos.
Speaker 2:I want to say, okay, wow, yeah, we're taking it there. Okay, go ahead and post that, frank, go ahead, do your big one, absolutely not Do the small one.
Speaker 1:I used to say on this podcast I am gay. So I'll give you a little history lesson with Straight Gay Reviews. It used to just be a movie review channel with me and a guy. I was a gay side, he was a straight side Straight Gay Reviews that's why it's called Straight Gear Used. But when I relaunched it he didn't want to do it. So I was like F it and I'm like I'm not dependent on one person, I'm on everybody, and that's kind of how this became a thing. But yeah, no, I used to every.
Speaker 1:If you listen to any of the old episodes or any of the stuff, I'm like oh, hi, I'm gay, it's SGR. I used to say that all the time and then I got feedback people. They were like we really feel like it's not like inviting because you're not probably like sure, sure, so that was a 2024 thing. So I don't say hi, I'm gay. I do have a shirt and I'm gonna start selling this merchandise that says hi, I'm gay. I'm gonna make something like say hi, I'm trans, hi, I'm pan like different Nice, I'm going to buy it.
Speaker 2:Go ahead, drop it, drop it now the best.
Speaker 1:The back will be customizable Now. If y'all change your hashtag, hashtag, username, that's on you and Jesus that's on you, that's on you right, my, my business, you know, on the back.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm a business, like your socials on the back, so I want to have one that says hi, I'm straight, s T, r, eight gay reviews Follow me. You know what I'm saying. Like stuff like that. That's how my brain works, so I'm going to eventually post those. It just it hits and then it don't hit and I like sometimes I crack up because I talked about this too where people are not comfortable with their sexualities on a previous episode where people will hop in your life and they'll be able to like are you a punk? And I'm like, yes, are you? That happened to me, that happens to me. Like people do this. I'm like, yes, are you? No mad respect? I'm like, okay, straight person. It's okay if we're cool, but tiktok is algorithm based and I talked about this on the messy minutes, which is a really short episode. It's just, I have a lot of drama in my life. That's why I watch the housewives.
Speaker 2:that's another segment, messy minutes was one of the topics that I said we can most definitely do, because I love a good messy minute I don't have much in my life.
Speaker 1:My, my life is so boring I promise you. People are like well, how do you have? I'm like, listen, I ain't got a lot of drama and the drama I have I'll be up to like It'd have been swallowed up, because I literally have none Swallowed. Well, because I address stuff with people. It goes back to communication. So if I have an issue with Terrell, I'm like hey, terrell, let's talk over here. Please. My name's Ramil, let's have a conversation.
Speaker 2:Let's do this, but this is how messy minutes could be so extensified, though, honestly, because a lot of people will think. A lot of people think that hard conversations or you being just brutally honest with somebody is you being messy? Or you being just brutally honest with somebody, is you being messy, but in all reality, like baby?
Speaker 1:no, I'm just checking you on your bullshit honestly, you know, I I get flustered because I am the person I'm like, hey, tarot, can we talk? Can we, can we talk over here? It's just, it's just simple. And I'm like, wait what I'm like I can tell you that you're wrong without cussing you out. Yes, yes, I again relationships all encompassing not just intimate ones. I have a mentor and I shared something with him. He's like hey, did you do this? And I'm like, yeah, I did the test yesterday. And I'm like I'm sorry, I got the confirmation that I should have forwarded it to you. Well, you didn't do this. I'm like I'm sorry, I got the confirmation today. I should have forwarded to you. Well, you didn't do this. I'm like, well, I follow the new steps, but it doesn't say that. And then he sent me an email like, oh, yeah, you actually are right.
Speaker 1:I'm just like I'm going to have a conversation with him tomorrow. I'm like you know, I appreciate the relationship that we have. I always compliment sandwich, like if I got to talk to you about something serious, I'm not like I got a problem, I'll be like. So, hey, terrell, I wait for you to reply. How's your day going? You tell me it's crappy. Why am I dumping more on your plate? That's my logic, right? But if I want you got a temperature check.
Speaker 2:And he can I call you, because you never know. But anyway, I lay down, I, I, I literally lay down the foundation with all of my friendships, like all of them, and I tell people I'm like, listen, I am the friend that's going to tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. So, if you want advice from me, do not come to me with a messed up story and not think that I'm going to tell you like friend, no, you are fucking, you are wrong and you need to apologize about this. And because I will tell you that straight up and it's like no, I love you to death and baby, I'm going to support you all the way through, but you're wrong. But you're wrong, you know it. And it's like some people will associate that with you being messy, but really no, I'm not being messy, I'm just being truthful to you because you're my friend and I always will be truthful.
Speaker 1:I have ended a lot of friendships and relationships because of that and I think it's funny. Oh, stop, hold on there, you go, you back, you back. Sorry, yeah, somebody had called my bad. Oh Lord, you were posted. It's okay. You're very Okay. I want you to. And again, this is not real homework, but there is I love comedy and there's this TV show or not a TV show, it's like a YouTube series called Very Important. Okay, I love sketch comedies, snl, all that stuff. Okay, do you know what all that is? Yes, absolutely. Which version? The 90s or the 2001? Or the 2010? Exactly?
Speaker 2:Probably the 2000s, because only what pops up on my For you page and social media is and this is again dating me.
Speaker 1:So, on Facebook, when Facebook was invitation-based only and it was only for college folk because Facebook wasn't for everyone originally there's a segment or the show called Very Important People and it's with this co-host and she basically makes her people dress up. They like do prosthetics and everything. There was this whole thing about this person and they wish they were a fourth grader. They weren't really a fourth grader, but they wish for and it's just funny, it's a whole bunch of random stuff like that. But, yes, very much so. Zombies selling soup and she's like lawsuit and they're literally like Knocking over stuff, something to check out.
Speaker 1:I'll send you some links when you know, via Instagram. My point of yeah, no, most definitely. Oh, listen, I'm gonna tell you this. Okay, this is a Come in real quick. This is real dangerous. Okay, I don't be watching every mean. So you gotta be very, you gotta be very, very careful. What you're sending me, because people be sending me, means I'll be up there like I'm I'm quick to like a mean and I ain't even watch it. I'm not even like I'm quick to watch.
Speaker 2:Oh, my God, clock that.
Speaker 1:Do not be that when I be at work from 9 to 4 excuse me, from 8 to 5, because mine's an 8 to 5 type situation you gotta turn it all off. You gotta turn it off because it be like bing bing. I had to tell one of my friends from the UK I'm like friend, he got upset. I'm like I can't watch all of these. Just send me the ones that you think are the funniest and then I'll be watching this. The UK humor does not transfer here to America, so it's not funny. Communication. So if you had to leave the people with one thing that makes your relationship successful, what do you feel and I'll rehash a few different things for me, but what do you feel? And I actually I'll rehash um a few different things for me, but, like, what do you feel is the most successful element aside from communication, because we, we kind of touched on that but what do you feel like is the most successful element or a successful, pivotal part for your relationship?
Speaker 2:I feel like. I feel like, aside from communication, the thing that really solidifies our relationship is loyalty at the end of the day, because I feel like that ties in. It ties into communication, but the loyalty that's when, you know, the social media comes into play. So it's like, if we want to be these big social media stars and this and that or whatever the case may be, it's like, ok, I know you're loyal to me, I'm loyal to you, so it's like I am not going to restrict you from doing these things to put yourself out there, because I know that you're loyal to me and I am loyal to you. So if there is any situation that comes about, I know that you will be able to handle that situation appropriately because you are loyal to me, you know. So I feel like communication loyalty. I don't know what I can say on this podcast, but also good, you know, you know.
Speaker 1:But Listen, that matters too, because people be trying to act like a don't but a do. Because people be trying to act like I don't but I do. My only piece of advice for people that are in the dating world, because obviously, again, terrell is happy in a relationship loyal communication. If you feel a red flag is a red flag, do not proceed. I used to. I won't use this word anymore. I used to live a three-strike life. Oh no, the first strike I'm like, got to go See you later.
Speaker 2:Hello, I used to be the same way, like no out of here Got to go.
Speaker 1:This is in the last like week and a half. I'm a weak witch. Replace the W with a B. I used to be real weak, I promise you, and now I'm just like this. You know why am I chasing this?
Speaker 2:person.
Speaker 1:What's your self-worth? What are you doing here? Right, like me, like, what are you doing? What are you trying to get out of this? Because I sometimes I think that we put ourselves in boxes. So like I, you know, explained to you about straight gay reviews, and I always so like I explained to you about Straight Gay Reviews, and I always have the original note where I wanted to have different segments and my original co-host was like no, I don't think that's going to work and I'm just like okay and I'm happy.
Speaker 1:Sometimes things happen for a reason. My previous relationship I used to call him DC.
Speaker 2:You know dc stands for nope, I thought she was about to say dc young flying. You see how much of a gen z I am it's okay, you can be gentless.
Speaker 1:I'm millennial, big, millennial. Dc stood for dream crusher, because I didn't believe in my dreams, so that's why I used to call him dc. He was like I was like you're a dream crusher. He's like what, what, what? I'm like you don't believe in my dreams because like so forth.
Speaker 1:Like you need somebody to believe in your dreams, you gotta believe in your dreams yourself. But community, if I believe in your thoughts and your process, why can't you believe in mine? Exactly? So I could go on and on, and on, and on and on talking about you. I promise you and I'll talk about this. Is there anything you want to leave the people with? Because you're welcome back to any segment anytime. Hey girl, come on, don't be doing that, come on in.
Speaker 2:Come on, I'm just trying to say I literally know Listen and I want this all recorded and I need you to post this too. I told them all that I had a podcast to do at 10 o'clock and they are in here bugging me. I've only been in here for 24 minutes. That is the craziest thing, but yet when she was on a business call, I kept my motherfucking mouth shut and I know exactly what I'm going to do next time I'm going to take her off, mute myself.
Speaker 1:Get out of here.
Speaker 2:Sorry, what was your last question? Let's finish this off appropriately and professionally, please.
Speaker 1:Terrell, I appreciate you being professional. Listen, this is going to be the one that's going to go viral, I promise you that's going to go viral, I hope so I literally hope so I do too. My last question was is there anything you want to leave the people with?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so okay. Well, there's a few things that I want to leave you guys with. For one next time you agree to do a podcast, make sure that you are the only one around that's one, that's one thing.
Speaker 2:And keep that number one on your list. Look at me, look you see this. Yes. And then number two, retrospective to the relationship realism that we've talked about. I just want everybody to be left with just know always, always, always, trust your gut intuition. If it don't feel right, it's not right, go ahead and exit. If it don't feel right, it's not right Because, let me tell you, it may be the right person, but the wrong time. So if it was that right person, when the time is right, you guys will find, you guys will come back to each other and y'all will be right there. So if it don't feel right, get out of there, sis, get out of there.
Speaker 1:Say it.
Speaker 2:Preaching for. So this was SGR. This is Terrell plus 10 other people.
Speaker 1:Sorry guys it's listen, it's okay, because it's the one thing I love. Not doing is editing, and I have to edit a video this weekend that I'm very upset about. So a lot of people are like you know, edit like no, do you know how much of time? And you gotta go back. You gotta keep hitting it and splitting it. I don't have time. I have Final Cut Pro on the computer that I'm using right now. I've only opened it twice and I've had this computer be two years on my computer. It's that serious. So you know we'll get there eventually.
Speaker 1:But again, appreciate you guys, for stopping by and we'll have you on again soon absolutely.
Speaker 2:I'm definitely going to be back for sure to do more topics, especially messy minutes.
Speaker 1:Be careful now, they get messy.