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EP:153 Beyond the Bottle: How Alcoholism Destroys More Than Just the Drinker
Miguelina shares her harrowing experience living with her daughter's alcoholic father and the devastating effects his addiction has had on their family.
• Miguelina's ex-partner stopped drinking for 14 years before relapsing
• His alcoholism led to increasingly violent and erratic behavior
• She endured physical abuse for 14 years, including being hit with belts and boots
• Her daughter now lives in constant fear of her father
• He threatened to reveal her daughter's settlement money to people who might harm her
• The ex-partner comes from a generational cycle of alcoholism
• Both Miguelina and her daughter struggle with anxiety, PTSD, and trust issues
• They have obtained restraining orders but continue living in fear
• Miguelina attends therapy to deal with the trauma
• Her daughter's advice: "If you see red flags, walk away before you notice them"
If you're experiencing domestic violence related to a loved one's alcoholism, seek support from family and friends, report abuse to authorities, and remember that with persistence, life can improve.
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Speaker 2:And this is NYC Boom from the Double A Club Podcast. You can catch us on Spotify, Amazon Music and iHeartRadio. We're going to continue Our web series About alcoholism and drug abuse, and I have a special guest with me. Can you please introduce yourself?
Speaker 3:My name is Miguelina, from the Bronx.
Speaker 2:And From your side, you're not An alcoholic or a drug abuser. No, you're not an alcoholic or a drug abuser.
Speaker 3:No, no, I'm not an alcoholic.
Speaker 2:Okay, so your story is from what side?
Speaker 3:My story is from my daughter's father's side. He's the alcoholic in the family.
Speaker 2:Okay, so you're basically you're the family dealing with someone who's going through this problem. Yes, I am yes, Okay, so why don't you tell us your story?
Speaker 3:To see if it can help other people.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:And to talk about how it has affected both of us, yes and what he has done, and how it has also not only affected me. It affected her also.
Speaker 2:It's very important to know that because from an alcoholic's point of view and from other people's point of view, they never really know how trauma affects the family dealing with that. You know, because you only see the part of the victim, you don't see what happened well, how it trickles down to everybody else. So yeah this is going to be a good outlook, hearing from you on how it has traumatized you and your family yes.
Speaker 3:So, even though I don't consider him a victim because my stated he has. He stopped for 14 years and we first started, he was good, we had our issues. Then all of a sudden he starts with the drinking again. So he Did it basically has hit him rock bottom. Now he has a relationship with our daughter. What do you mean by rock bottom stuff?
Speaker 2:he's done what do you mean by rock bottom?
Speaker 3:um rock bottom that um his family lives in florida his mom and his sisters. They basically don't communicate with him because when he was staying with them for a time I believe for two months he he didn't act correctly with his mom. His mom is an older lady. He would um try to break stuff in his mom's house. His mom finally just had enough and decided that he has to leave her house. And because he was here in new york first before he went to florida, he came back and he's still drinking. He says he's not. Um, my daughter is terrified um to go outside. Last year she was supposed to finish high school. She was. She couldn't finish because she was so terrified of him thinking that he was going to do something to her. I'm even scared sometimes to leave my house and leave her alone. I have to literally close, lock the door, have her put all the locks on the door because I'm afraid he's gonna come to my house. I have to look behind me when I walk now, cuz he knows what he's gonna do?
Speaker 2:Has he been violent with you?
Speaker 3:Yes, I let him stay with us. Last year because he was in a treatment program in brooklyn. He left the treatment program. I felt bad for him. I let him stay with me, let him stay with us. And, um, my daughter was feeling sick. One day I take her to my mom's house. We come back and he's just. He threw a plate of food on the wall. He kicked me. I had to get a restraining order against him. I had to have the sheriff's come and kick him out of my house because he doesn't act correctly. He, uh, he even came to my building drunk and laid on the front of my building and that embarrassed me and his daughter. And people were asking us do you know this person? I said no, I don't.
Speaker 2:So what do you think triggered that violent episode? Was he?
Speaker 3:drunk already, I would say, because his father used to be an alcoholic as well and his father did stuff to his mom. So I guess when he saw that, he felt that that's how he had to act as well.
Speaker 2:So generational.
Speaker 3:Yes, generational yes.
Speaker 2:And he wasn't drunk at the time, right, he just had numbers.
Speaker 3:He's never stopped drinking. He supposedly says he stops and then it just continues.
Speaker 2:Okay, so he just shows up drunk.
Speaker 3:Yes, he just shows up drunk. The other day on my super yeah Friday, he came to my house to fix something and I was taking out my dog and I noticed that there was a paper on the floor of my door and he had the gall to come to my door and slip his number under my door when you know he's not supposed to be coming to my house. Okay, it's like I've seen him in the street and it's like I speed walk or I go the other way so I don't have to have no interaction with him. My daughter likes to, you know, come outside with me. But I told her, no, I don't want her to go outside because, um, one saturday we had an incident. We were walking and he just jumped. He just runs up on us.
Speaker 3:I don't know what he would have done. I don't know if he was going to do something. Somebody has to tell him. You know that's not cool. He's like oh, that's my daughter. I literally have to threaten this man with the police for him to. You know, leave us alone. And even then that doesn't work because, oh, they come, they take a statement, but they haven't caught him yet.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's kind of hard for the police to do their job on a situation like that, because it's not actually the economy, mm-hmm. So they can't really do nothing but just keep reporting it and just do a picket trail.
Speaker 3:Yes, I had to buy pepper spray for me and her, but she can't really have it because, um, when she goes to school they have metal detectors, so and security, so she can't really have it with her so has he?
Speaker 2:okay, okay, we already we know that he's been violent with you. Has he been violent with your daughter?
Speaker 3:um, he has threatened her, saying he's going to break her jaw and do stuff to her, and that makes her be afraid to go outside because last year she was supposed to graduate but because of this that she wasn't going. Now, hopefully this year she'll be able to actually finish.
Speaker 2:So how long ago, how many years ago was it that you noticed that this was a problem?
Speaker 3:I noticed it. I would say maybe five or six years ago.
Speaker 2:And in five or six years? Right yeah, You've been still dealing with this person. Why has it been so difficult for you to detach from him?
Speaker 3:Why, what? Why has it been?
Speaker 2:so difficult to detect yourself, your family's funding?
Speaker 3:It's been difficult because he's the type that'll act like he doesn't do anything to make himself seem the victim. That's his him up. I've gone to court with this man when we lived in Jersey for domestic violence and he says oh, I didn't do anything. I haven't done anything, I don't know what she's talking about. And he makes it seem like I'm crazy when I've literally had, I would say, almost 100 text messages from him that I took to court, that the judge even said what is wrong with you? Why are you sending this woman so many text messages? He's kicked me out of the house. I don't know how many times he has done a lot.
Speaker 2:And he wasn't like that when you first met him.
Speaker 3:No, when I first met him, he was normal. He was normal. I didn't, you know, notice anything out of the ordinary with this man, and it's like now that I, you know, still am dealing with you know the issue. It makes me think, you know, maybe I missed something, maybe I didn't see something, but he didn't show any signs.
Speaker 2:So how was he when you first met?
Speaker 3:Describe the man. When we first met he was, we had a day where we talked um almost all night. Um, he was very nice, um, he was, he was a typical, you know, typical guy, you know he. He didn't show anything different, he was just, you know, he seemed like a nice guy.
Speaker 3:Okay, and you started seeing signs I started, you know, after a while I started seeing. You know that, um, I didn't really see right away. Yeah, my dad actually saw. You know that he wasn't right. But you know how us girls are. You know, when we are fixated on someone, that we say no, no, no you know we, you know, we know better and stuff.
Speaker 3:And it's like that day when my dad told me he's not right, I was like I said no, no, no, he's good, he's good. In hindsight, if I would have, I would I didn't.
Speaker 2:I didn't get to hear you. Your mic went off.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:We didn't hear you. Your mic went off.
Speaker 3:You got it. You hear me.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, that's what I mean.
Speaker 3:In hindsight, looking back, I wish I would have you know listened, then I wouldn't have gone through everything I went through with him.
Speaker 2:So tell us some of the signs that did appear. What did appear?
Speaker 3:was that he was controlling. If I would go somewhere, he would need to know where I was going or he would go with. You know, one time me and my daughter and my friend were going out and he had to tag along. He never did that. All of a sudden he wants to come and tag along. I would have girls night out. He would come too, or he would send my daughter. He would send my daughter to um, where I was at, to come ask me for money. Literally, I have to tell him when I was working that I would. I only made a hundred dollars, because he would always ask for money, and so they still does.
Speaker 3:Any more signs? Um, that's basically um. That was um that he started acting more mean, more mean than usual. You know he wasn't as nice as he was. You know his mom had to tell him stuff and it's like he didn't. He didn't as nice as he was. You know his mom had to tell him stuff and it's like he didn't. He didn't really listen. You know he's a type that you can't tell him anything. He's like oh I'm, I'm grown, I don't need nobody telling me anything.
Speaker 3:So, so continue with your story with um and um and after everything that happened, when I finally got the strength to say enough is enough, I finally learned and it was just for a while that the whole screen went off.
Speaker 2:Your mic keeps going off.
Speaker 3:I still felt ticklish. There you go.
Speaker 2:There you go. Repeat what you just said, because your mic keeps coming off.
Speaker 3:When we would have to do the exchange With our child. That felt uncomfortable.
Speaker 2:And why would you feel uncomfortable? What made you uncomfortable About the exchange? I would think that would be normal With him.
Speaker 3:I never I never know what you're gonna do. To this day, I still feel uncomfortable whenever I see him, like I don't know if he's gonna, you know, have somebody come and you know, do something or anything, or he's gonna try something. So with him I don't feel comfortable, I don't trust him at all.
Speaker 2:So what's the most unusual thing, like the most shocking thing, he's done?
Speaker 3:The most shocking thing he's done. The most shocking thing he's done, uh, um, because my daughter got two lawsuits in the past. Um, she got, she has money in the bank now and the most shocking thing to me that he did or said was that he told people where we live that she has this money in the bank for them to hurt her. What?
Speaker 2:Yes, how did you find that out?
Speaker 3:Because my daughter still was talking to him and you know he would literally threaten. He said oh, I'm going gonna tell people on the block that you have money, cuz. I was like in shock that he would actually Wanna harm me and his child Be for money, Just so he can get alcohol.
Speaker 2:That's a strange very strange.
Speaker 3:Yes, it is, you know a father can actually say that to their own child has anyone actually followed through with that? No, thank god no that's good.
Speaker 3:I did another um, we did another police report and I have an order against him. Thank God she blocked one so he doesn't call her. She's still undecided about doing a restraining order against him because you know that is her dad still, you know, and she does feel bad about you know for him. But at least he's not calling, so that gives me some peace. But it's like I still don't feel comfortable At all walking. If I go outside it's like I have I literally speed walk back to my house. I lock all the locks as soon as I come in. Even during the day I always have to look behind me. I never used to do that. Even being from the Bronx you know my area I never had to look back for anybody. But with him it's like I always have to look back now.
Speaker 2:And he lives around that area or he's homeless.
Speaker 3:He hangs around the area. Yeah, there's, I don't know if you know. 183rd, yes, and Lauren Place, yeah, the aqueduct, that little park, yeah, that's his hangout spot now.
Speaker 1:Ah, okay.
Speaker 3:So that makes it. You know, if I go to the supermarket or if I, you know I would make sure I go quick if I need something and come back so I'm not too much around the area.
Speaker 2:That's never been a safe place to hang out. No, not at all.
Speaker 3:But for him, since he's, you know, since that's where his you know associates are, you know, that makes it good for him, because you know he hangs out with all the alcoholic people there.
Speaker 2:And he's not. Is he homeless?
Speaker 3:Apparently so, because he has no place to live. As far as I know, he was staying with someone, but they kicked him out. As far as I know, he's like he's been a bum in the street.
Speaker 1:So here's another question, right?
Speaker 2:So let's say best case scenario, right, if he was willing to get help, right? Mm-hmm, we already know that you can't tell him anything.
Speaker 1:He's a stubborn ass right.
Speaker 2:What type of help do you think he would be receptive to with his personality?
Speaker 3:With his personality. I don't even think there's any help, because one of his relatives even tried putting him in um a detox place and he did that, but it didn't really do anything because he still kept.
Speaker 2:He's still continuing has he been arrested before?
Speaker 3:um. He's been arrested in jersey.
Speaker 2:He has never been arrested here so he's been in jail probably for a short of time.
Speaker 3:At the time when he was arrested in Jersey for domestic violence against me, his relatives bailed him out and stuff. So did he seem a little bit better after he came out of jail, maybe the first time maybe the first time, because when he came out, all he did was go to a hospital for mental health and you know, all he did was say, oh, I'm going to kill myself, I'm going to kill myself, and I'm like I was just waiting for that to happen. But he didn't do anything.
Speaker 2:Do you believe that he suffers from mental health or it's just really awful?
Speaker 3:I believe he has some, you know Some instance of it, because he's just like, especially when he's with the alcohol, he's like he's not all there. I would say.
Speaker 2:And do you think that it's just alcohol? Maybe it could be other recreational stuff.
Speaker 3:Maybe he could, because in Jersey I know he used to snort and in the past, before I started with him, he one of his sister's ex-boyfriends. He was a big drug dealer and he used to sell and he used to take drugs.
Speaker 2:So yes, okay, drug dealer and he used to sell and he used to take drugs so, yes, but everybody hopes that he gets out, even his sister.
Speaker 3:But I saw her. I'm like your brother's not easy.
Speaker 2:His side of the family still attempts to help.
Speaker 3:They really don't deal with him at all. They don't deal with him at all.
Speaker 2:Not at all, not at all, and that's just as of recently, because I mean, you did say yeah, recently. Because they did bail him out of jail.
Speaker 3:Yeah, they did bail him out, but now they really don't. None of his family deals with him, so now they're tired.
Speaker 2:They're tired of all this bullshit.
Speaker 3:Yeah, they're tired of all the nonsense and it's like you know it's sad with how you know they were with him, but you know they have to wash their hands of him. I told you his mom is, um, older and his mom, you know, needs peace and she's not gonna have that with him, even though I feel, even though I'm like I wish he didn't come back here, because now it's like stressing me. The other day I had high blood pressure when I went to the doctor, had to take my blood pressure like four times and it's never been as high as it was because of him.
Speaker 2:So you know you don't believe that there's any help for this guy um, I believe he needs help and he needs it, but but is there? Do you think there is help for him?
Speaker 3:there. There should be help for him, but he doesn't want it and, like I tell our daughter I'm like you can only help somebody so, so much until you know. If they don't are receptive to the help or they don't look for it, there's not much you can really do, because they have to want to get the help. If they don't want it, you can.
Speaker 2:As the saying goes, you can put a horse to drink, you know to drink whatever, but if they're not going to do it, they're not going to do it so from your daughter's point of view, right, I understand she's scared of him, but she's also kind of like hesitant of yes, of not communicating with him, because she, she is still her father. Yes, she does really want that, um, that relationship, but understands in a certain way that she can't. How do you see it affecting her? Because I mean, how old is she?
Speaker 3:She's 18.
Speaker 2:So she's 18. She's entered a womanhood right, yes, and you know, you hope that these situations don't affect her. As she gets older, you know what I'm saying. Like as she gets older, she starts having trust issues with men.
Speaker 3:She already has trust issues with people.
Speaker 2:It's like you can't really trust people, yeah, or maybe looking for men who are like her daddy. You know what I mean. This stuff can bring a multitude of issues towards your daughter in the next decade. So how do you see it affecting her now? Like it must be small signs, but you have to see something out how she's affected.
Speaker 3:Is she sad Moments when she's sad? And, um, you know she, she's the type that she doesn't communicate too much when she's, you know, in her mood, in her sad mood. But I try to tell her I'm like, because she'll sometimes won't come outside, but I tell her I'm like you can't let him scare you into not coming outside because he can't control your life. You know you have to. You know worry about you. Your father's grown. He's supposed to be worrying about you and taking care of you. You're not supposed to be taking care of him.
Speaker 2:And any other things that you know.
Speaker 3:This is what your daughter well, she's right here, she can, you know. I'll put her on the so she can tell you come on, sam, be nice, be nice, come on nice. She can tell you her soul, you know. Well, good afternoon Good afternoon, sam, about how you know you feel.
Speaker 2:Good afternoon, sam, how you doing.
Speaker 3:I'm okay, just sick at the moment.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that you got a cold or flu or something like that. Okay, and your voice is. I'm trying to hear it and your voice is is kind of going. Does it hurt for you to talk?
Speaker 3:A little bit.
Speaker 2:Do you feel comfortable talking and telling us your side, your point of view On?
Speaker 3:Well, you don't have to. Well, I have to. You know, she's shy. That's the other thing. She's shy.
Speaker 2:There's nothing wrong with that. So, but still from your side, you. On the outside looking in To your daughter. Do you see it affecting her In a negative way, and how is it affecting?
Speaker 3:her In a negative way.
Speaker 2:Or maybe she doesn't have, maybe she's not affecting negatively, maybe she's just completely. I'm just asking.
Speaker 3:You know, I don't, I wouldn't say she completely ignores it. She tries to, you know, to deal with it the best way she can. But it's hard because you know she still has that love for him. It's hard for her cry for him and stuff.
Speaker 2:You know, and myself, as a father a father of two, right yeah, and I'm not we have separate homes. So we're separated, me and the mother, we're separated. We have separate homes. The kids grew up in two different households. From a father's point of view my point of view personally, and I hope to believe that most men are like this but we want our kids to grow up better than us and we want to support them and protect them and make sure that everything is copacetic, that when they go out to the world, they understand the dangers and and also know when to get out of the dangers.
Speaker 2:you, know, yeah, I taught my daughter how to fight from a very early age, in case some dude tried to touch her. You know what I'm saying. Of course, it's hard for me to listen to this man threatening his daughter and trying to rob her. Yes, it's like that's fucking crazy.
Speaker 3:It is, it's very crazy and it's like it's, oh man, it's just sending me chills.
Speaker 2:It's not what us men, nope, are born and raised from. Did he have both his parents?
Speaker 3:He had his father, but his father was an alcoholic also. So, his father wasn't around as much, he had his stepfather, but his stepfather he was a handful from when he was little, and then his mom used to drink too, so that basically didn't help him either.
Speaker 2:So how do you guide your daughter to this? What is your story on trying to help her?
Speaker 3:out. Um, I try to be her, um, support her, um, you know, give her a lot of affection because, um, she even told me the other day she was like when me and him were going through our domestic violence issues. Um, she told me she's like mom. I grew up, I basically raised myself and that hurt because it's like I was around, but I wasn't around like I should have been for her, because me and him were going through our stuff. I couldn't deal with it so I would leave. And instead of taking her with me, I left her in the environment Because I would try to take her. I went to the police station but he wouldn't let me take her. He said, oh, you can leave, but my child stays here. And that made it hard for me To. You know, not that I would leave the house and not come back. I would go for, like, maybe to a store To dust, you know, clear my head and get away from, because this man, he literally put my head up against the wall.
Speaker 2:He was hitting me with boots, he would hit me with cells and it was like I dealt with all of how long was you doing with that, this box, with all of that, and how long was you dealing with that physical violence?
Speaker 3:I've been dealing with that for 14 years.
Speaker 2:Okay, so for 14 years you've been dealing with physical abuse, but in the last six years you've been dealing with his alcoholism. Yes, so I have to ask the question. Mm-hmm question why did you deal with 14 years of physical abuse?
Speaker 3:What made you stay? The abuse? Because I wanted my daughter to grow up with her parents. Because I grew up with both of my parents, you know, and I never saw them fighting or anything like that. So I wanted to give my daughter the chance to have both of her parents together. That's why I stayed for her.
Speaker 2:So you would take a slap a kick here and there, just because you wanted both parents. Yes, and that was your main reason.
Speaker 3:And then he was my main. You know, priority at the time I didn't care about you know I can't point through, but she was my main.
Speaker 2:You know I have you were sacrificing yourself, yes, and then it led into alcohol, yes, and with the alcohol in place, with the violence, was it much worse than the actual? Like just the physical violence at home?
Speaker 3:I would say it was both. Both instances were back. But when I finally had enough, I told I spoke to my family. I spoke to my brother, my sister-in-law and I said oh my god. And they came, they helped me, they went to court with me.
Speaker 2:So tell us what was the breaking point.
Speaker 3:What was it that made you say, hey, this is it, I'm done the breaking point for me Was when I got what, he took my head and put it against the wall to tell us about that day.
Speaker 2:Tell us about that story, tell us about that day. Tell us about that story.
Speaker 3:Tell us how it came down to you, what led to that. He just took my head and just hit me against the wall of the closet and after that I said no more.
Speaker 2:That was it.
Speaker 3:I said I can't deal with this no more. How many times did he put your?
Speaker 2:head through the wall.
Speaker 3:I would say it was maybe two or three.
Speaker 2:And that's all he did.
Speaker 3:He did that that day. He asked that he hit me with a belt. He hit me with a boot.
Speaker 2:What, yes, he took?
Speaker 3:out the cord. Yes, yes, he did.
Speaker 2:And then he hit you with a boot. Yep, like he wasn't wearing the boot, he had it in his hand and hit you with a boot yep, like he wasn't wearing the boot, he had it in his hand and hit you with a boot.
Speaker 3:No, he, he. No, he didn't have it in and he wasn't wearing it. He just um had it on the floor and he just hit me with the boot. He pushed me in the bathtub.
Speaker 2:Um, he has done a lot but that day, I'm talking about just that day.
Speaker 3:That day with the boot. When he hit me, when he put my head, I said no more. I said I gotta get out of this, I can't.
Speaker 2:Ooh Well, I'm glad that you did get out of it, Jesus.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so am I, and I'm glad I'm able to you know. Tell it, you know. And how many times did you?
Speaker 2:end up going to the hospital. I went to the hospital a few times. And in the hospital nobody ever questioned you, Because I know it's by law.
Speaker 3:Yes, but nobody. No, and I was embarrassed too. I'm like I'm the type at the time I didn't really, you know, I felt embarrassed, you know, saying what was going on. So I just basically kept it quiet. But I would go to the police station in the nighttime, you know when I would go out. I would go out for a walk or say I'm going somewhere, and I would go to the police station and report him. Station and report him. So it wasn't like I didn't do anything, but and I kept records of everything that he did. I kept the text messages that he sent me. He put me through a lot.
Speaker 2:So still up to this date, the court hasn't been able to do anything, or have they done something?
Speaker 3:Well, I, that's it. I recently got another temporary retraining order against him. We have to go back to court on December 10th to hopefully make it permanent, but he doesn't go to court.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it doesn't matter if he doesn't go to court, you doesn't matter. If he doesn't go to court, you show up.
Speaker 3:I show up and they just give me another day to go.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a it's a stupid, tedious process, but you have to continue the process For it to get done, because eventually, what happens is that it's going to be a certain amount of time that he's not showing and the courts are going to be like Fuck it, he doesn't care. So, boom, we of time to hit, not showing and, of course, is gonna be like fuck it, he doesn't care, so we're gonna hit him with this. Yes, that's it.
Speaker 3:Yes, so that's what he means.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then they'll set up. Hopefully they'll send one out for us.
Speaker 3:No, they told me that the detect. The one of the detectives told me that they're actually looking for him.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, they're looking for to show the court. I think that they're actually Looking for him. They're looking for him to show up to court, but not to arrest him, because he's up.
Speaker 3:Before I went to court, they told me that they're looking for him to arrest him.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, do you know what that charge would be?
Speaker 3:It would probably be harassment, because he was harassing us, so it would probably have for harassment.
Speaker 2:So this is a complete fucking nightmare. Yeah, all because of the fucking man who doesn't have the balls fucking do his own shit.
Speaker 3:Exactly.
Speaker 2:What Do you have to say for someone out there who's possibly in the same situation, or maybe a similar situation as yours, because I understand all situations are different but someone who's entering the situation as it was.
Speaker 3:I would just say to them have plenty of support from your family, from your friends, from your loved ones. Have patience, they will get better. And if they have a platform, I'm also going to therapy as well. I suffer from anxiety, from PTSD, so any outlet that you find that can help you, take it. Oh, samantha wants to say a word of advice. Oh, thank you Samantha. If you see red flags, go and walk away before you notice them.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much, samantha. I appreciate that You're welcome. That's very good. Any more? Anything else you'd like to tell us? Lasting words or anything?
Speaker 3:Make sure you go to police, because domestic violence issues could turn into something more deadly. Oh yes, You're completely right. You can't Awesome awesome.
Speaker 2:We right, you can Awesome, awesome, we got her to speak.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 2:That's great. That's great, and a lot of times it's even more powerful when it comes from her. Yes, so for yourself you're doing that right, Mm-hmm? Any?
Speaker 3:lasting words, anything else you'd like to say about your story, anything, we'll get through this. Um, this is not gonna define me. Um, you know I'm I'm a strong person and what's gonna come to him will eventually come to him.
Speaker 2:Well, I want to thank you very much for taking your time out to tell us your story, to speak to us and to inform people out there who possibly can be going through the same thing as you have been and still are, and to keep fighting. You know, continue to fight and it will Keep fighting. Continue to fight and we'll eventually get better.
Speaker 3:Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for the opportunity to speak because I've never done a podcast. Awesome, hopefully we'll have you on again, okay.
Speaker 2:Alright, this is NYC Boom from the Double A Club Podcast. Again. Catch us on Spotify, amazon Music, also iHeartRadio, and check out the web series on YouTube which you're actually watching right now. Thank you very much, everyone. Peace out.
Speaker 3:Bye.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening to our show. This concludes our episode. And listen up to the next episode to follow up on what continuing topics and trends we have going on, and just to continue to listen to your boy, ny Boom, and co-hosts Big Daz, and listen to our points of views and maybe you can add on to it if you want. But we'll catch you on the next one. Alright, have a good one. Peace out, fellas.
