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EP:162 The Cheating Game: What You Need to Know Before It's Too Late
Ny Boom and Big Daz dive into the telltale signs that someone might be cheating in a relationship, offering perspectives from both male and female experiences.
• Partners who consistently stay out late without explanation
• Sudden changes in communication patterns like delayed text responses
• Finding physical evidence such as unfamiliar hair or scents
• Too many friends of the opposite sex who might have ulterior motives
• Changes in grooming habits when going out for mundane activities
• Partners who take phone calls in private or guard their devices
• Breaking plans or creating excuses to avoid spending time together
• Taking vacations without their significant other
• Inconsistencies in the home environment like moved items
• Drinking or partying excessively which creates risk situations
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You are listening to the Double A Club and this is your host, ny Boom, and my co-host, big Daz. We'll be talking about trending topics in healthcare and basically, just as a disclaimer just to let the listeners know that this is just basically on our opinions and speculations and I hope you guys enjoy the show. Let's start off and kick off with our first topic.
Speaker 2:Yo, yo, yo, what's?
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Speaker 2:Okay, okay.
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Speaker 3:They don't have to pay me. I love this shit. They should just send me a free bottle, oh man All right. So let's do something interesting today. It's, you know, just thinking, and this idea popped in my head let's give signs of knowing that your partner is cheating. So I'll give one and you'll give one, and we just go back and forth until we run out of like, uh, um, a design, you know, wow, so that sounds with you.
Speaker 2:I mean it's fine, but it's just, I think that, uh, go ahead, let's, let's go, let's go, let's let's get party.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, I just want to bring it up because, you know, here's the thing right A lot of women always think that they can be cheated on. They kind of already know and they kind of expect it in a way, and they do all these different things, even track their dude's GPS cell phone, because they don't want to get cheated on. But on the other side, men are oblivious and they think that their dick is that good. The woman will never cheat on them. And they need to fucking wake up, because the woman can't cheat on. You problem is is that the woman never stays cheating long enough for you to fucking find out, unlike us dumb ass men. We we cheat on our woman and we create a second fucking life with this other person, and that's how we get caught. Women don't do that shit. You know they fuck for a month or two and that's it. They're done with that guy. Okay, I think we need to wake up some of these guys. And no, hey, these signs are there. We should start questioning your relationship.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, so this is like something for men awareness. Okay, I gotcha.
Speaker 3:You know there's some women who are just stupid too. You know what I'm saying. It's not just men, even though it's in our chromosome that we have a stupidity gene, but you know, it falls on women too, and they can use these signs, you know, because, to be honest with you, they're both similar. You know what I'm saying Okay. I can see that. So here's my first one. My first one is your partner stays out late.
Speaker 2:Your partner stays out late. Your partner stays out late. He comes home late. Yeah, your partner stays out late, yeah. Yeah, that's tough to me because I work through the night.
Speaker 3:There has to be some compromise. If you work overnight, obviously you're not coming home early, you know's. Say, for example, you have a regular, a regular schedule, or or you have a schedule within, within your time frame and either you work night or day, whatever, and those days that you decide to go out and you're going out for two, three hours on your own free time, not not work wise, you know saying, and you staying out way too late and coming home late, that's a sign.
Speaker 2:That is a sign that's a regular thing. Yeah, that is absolutely right.
Speaker 3:Okay, your turn.
Speaker 2:Um, I was just like this, I guess. I mean there's a lot of things. I mean it's just one. So it's tough, because for me it's like it's all intertwined, like one doesn't One comes, it's like a burger and fries. On comes the other that was going to come in late. Response on taxes, like when you're, when it's, when it's a continuous thing, like I get it when it's you know you're at work, you know You're busy the center, but you don't text me for the whole day. But that could also be confused for being mad. You know somebody being mad at you, I guess that's that. That would be one. Well, I mean, obviously you can't judge it with just that, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:If you're not, if you're in a fight and he's not talking to you, obviously you can't be like, hey, he's cheating on me. No, you dumbass, you just got into a fight, you don't want to talk to him. Use some common sense with these signs and plus, let's just throw this out. Not one singular sign states that the person's cheating. You know, it's a compound of shit, you know.
Speaker 2:Yes, okay, there we go. Okay, but we're just giving a red flag. Yeah, it's like a red flag. Yeah, there you go.
Speaker 3:Okay, so here's my next one right, and I'm going to use myself because I know that when I used to see this woman right and she was married, and she was married to a truck driver who was never home, always going out doing his work, traveling, and she, you know, I'd go over, hit it a little bit and, you know, go back home. I go over, hit it a little bit and, you know, go back home.
Speaker 2:Well, one sign that that husband could know that someone else was in that house other than him is the toilet seat being up.
Speaker 3:Oh man, you can't give that one up, seriously, like think of it. You've been out your house for three fucking days, your woman's been there and the toilet seat is up. You can come home, yep. And a lot of people don't think about that shit.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no, that's true Because that's so subtle but, to be honest with you, it's huge Because, for example, for me, every time I went to that girl's house I made sure that I put that seat down yeah, I got you and let's say, for example, like I'm a single man, right, and the woman who's coming over to my house you know we're talking, we're dating this and that we're in a relationship she's coming over to my house, right, and she knows, she knows some of my she's, she knows some of my habits, she's starting to learn some of my habits. You know, I go to the bathroom and leave the seat up right, and all of a sudden, you know you haven't been in the house for two days. You come, we set up a day, a date, and you come over and go use the restroom and the fucking seat is down. And the guy me would not don't notice that because we have the dumb gene, you know what I'm saying. So we don't think anything of it.
Speaker 3:The seat's down. Who gives a fuck? He could be like yo, something's up with this. Hey, maybe I could have taken a shit, you don't know. But the seat's down. You know what I'm saying. That's why you just would eat up, yeah, so I think the toilet seat is important, is a good red flag yeah, that is good.
Speaker 2:that is good. She might clean the bathroom, but that's a good way to know. This is really like out of nowhere here. Let me see what am I thinking of. Hey, if she plays like a, it could be both it could be, it could be both. It could be either way, it doesn't matter if it's a red flag alright well, one thing I've noticed in my day was like she got too many male friends like too many male fun Like yeah he friends at all.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's, that's a big red flag, yeah.
Speaker 2:Because you know what the male friends on the fuck. Yeah, you might, you just might have one. That that just won't go for it, you know. But that doesn't mean you doesn't want it. Give it to him, you know.
Speaker 3:Regardless, the woman Could be innocent, but it's the fact that these guys are Going to jeopardize your relationship Because they're trying to get in her draw.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you can't risk that, nah going to jeopardize your relationship because they're trying to get in her draw.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and you can't risk that.
Speaker 2:Nah.
Speaker 3:No, I completely.
Speaker 2:I mean, what's the point of being in the relationship then at that point, like, what are you really doing, like you're supposed to? If you're in a relationship, y'all both supposed to go for each other, like it's a partnership. If that's how you, you gotta. I see it like this it's a partnership. Whatever the like, a business, whatever the bit that everybody talks about. Everything in business we find, we figure out our failures, we figure out our, our, our pluses, we figure out what, what, what works and what doesn't. Everything's a trial and error. That's fine, but they talk about it.
Speaker 2:So in a relationship, if that's what you because you're doing it to build, if that's what you're in a relationship for is to build. So you have to talk about everything. What does what you don't like what you do, like what she does, what he does, what you know, like it, um, what else? Um, like you gotta, you gotta have. You have to have a plan. You have to have a plan, you have to have a goal. So where you're going Now, you don't, you could have, you could have. You know, other women talk to your girl. If you got the girl, that doesn't mind you, because not for nothing. There's a lot of women out here. That doesn't like a man that no woman wants.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that's why they keep going. I feel that this is a huge reason why women think every man cheats Because these women want that man. They won't say it, they're not going to tell you that, but that's the dude they like, that's the dude they attract, that's the one they want and they neither. These are like the most, actually, because they'll fight. He blame you for it, but this is what you wanted. So too many guy friends for me is well, no, no, you ain't gonna be white Gotcha.
Speaker 3:Okay, another one for me is if you find hair on the bed, that's not his or yours.
Speaker 2:Hair's? Yeah, you're right, I mean hair's, but it's gotta be short hair, Like you better know her friends, because there's girls out here with short hair too, like. So I mean.
Speaker 3:Fuck that Nobody in the bedroom. The other thing, like when I was, when I was single, and stuff like that. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I did a lot of work. I will tell you right now, I would clean off the bed every time I invited somebody. That's fucking, but it's because I was trying to get the previous DNA off my bed.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying. I never want to get caught. I got caught once. One girl caught me with a. She was like she pulled out of hair from the pillowcase. Well, who's this? I had to say oh, that's my daughter's. You know she. She slept in the bed with me because she was here. She had a nightmare for her. You know, I got a daughter. We're saying I got a girl, Saying but but after that I was a girl. I'm cleaning this bed out every fucking time. Nah, you know what I'm saying. Every mistake I made, I learned on that mistake. You know what I'm saying. I think that's one thing is that DNA found on your bed.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. Well, in that case people better start buying steaming. Damn bro.
Speaker 3:I mean say, for example, let's say, for example, you're dating a woman right who has a lot of female friends and they're always hanging out at her house. Well then that's a little bit different, that's more challenging. You know what I'm saying, because obviously their hair is going to be all over the place. You know they're always hanging out at her house. Well then, that's a little bit different, that's more challenging. You know what I'm saying, because obviously their hair is going to be all over the place. You know what I'm saying. But if you're a guy like if you're with somebody and they're kind of like, not like, that they're not hanging out with people, they don't invite people over to their house all the time, then there's no reason why there's any DNA in this house, yep, so you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Take it with a grain of salt. But that is one red flag. That's funny. This is a funny-ass conversation. It just popped in my fucking head and was like yo, we gotta talk about it, okay. Okay, what else I got? I mean, it's really about Timing. I guess the opposite person not letting them see the phone phone like at least to the moment that you guys are in the relationship.
Speaker 2:Anything before the relationship you know like are we together now Don't count Like you gotta confirm that, because there's women out here that I'll check the phone and be like what you talking about? We together? I didn't know we was together. I didn't know we was together.
Speaker 3:And you know what her answer is you put your dick in me.
Speaker 2:We are together Damn. That's fucking shit. Fuck that shit. And it's funny because, like so every woman that I've dealt with lately, this is like lately, because I became single this whole year congratulations. I'm so happy you are living the dream and thank you, thank you, it is awesome. So they come to me because I guess I'm a different person now. Like before my relationship I was damn near 400 pounds. After my relationship I'm 250.
Speaker 3:That's good, yeah, and remember, you're fucking tall, you're like 6'4".
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I'm like living a whole other life, you know, than I was before. So Each woman tells Like. I think every woman Tells me oh, you probably have a bunch of women. And I'm like Yo, how do you just assume that? But you see, this is the thing. Now I'm realizing it's because these women like that type of a man. So these are the women I'm fucking attracting to right now. And they, when they tell me that now I'm like okay, so you, you're going to let me fuck another bitch. All right, I got you, and Damien does not fail, like it hasn't failed for me yet. And I'm just noticing this now Like these women, women like a man that is attractive, attractive, yes, but what they don't understand is that when you Like, I say like this, practicing doesn't make perfect, but it don't make you worse, it makes you better.
Speaker 3:You know what I don't want to. I don't want to agree with you on that, because I don't want to say that they know what they're getting into. I think the problem, the thing is they don't know.
Speaker 2:They don't know they're not understanding what they're asking for as well.
Speaker 3:What I'm saying is that I don't think they're ready for it. That also happens, yeah, but what I'm saying is that I don't think they're ready for it. You know what I'm saying Because that also happens with guys. You know, guys pick up this, you know the hottest chick in the club or in the bar, whatever, there's some beautiful chick and oftentimes they parade her, they show her off and stuff like that. Then they don't know Consequence that comes with all the problems you're gonna have, because everyone's gonna try to hit on this woman you guys defend.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm oh.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So I don't think I don't think with those women I Did. I don't think they're, I don't think they understand what comes with it.
Speaker 2:But that's like hey, they don't understand what they're asking for, but hey, what do you want to do?
Speaker 3:you want them to do, you want them to go for the ugly dudes, it's not that.
Speaker 2:It's just like I'm not saying that. I'm just saying like, don't get mad. If you get what you're asking for, you get what you make. You get what you do. If you put the work in, you get what you're you get what you do. If you put the work in, you get what you put in the work in for. Okay, okay, okay, I got you.
Speaker 3:Alright, so my next red flag is and this is I guess this is a generic one because it's been used so many times. You know what I'm saying. Say, for example, if the guy or the girl comes home smelling like the opposite sex, cologne or perfume. Or even say, for example, the guy comes home with lipstick on his shirt, shit like that. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that's because that, because that's kind of hard. Now, I could say yes to that if it was the same woman. If you know that smell, yeah. Or if that person keeps coming with the same smell for like a period of time, there's a pattern.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I couldn't agree with that Exactly, he's wearing.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry. I'm sorry, go ahead.
Speaker 3:And that's not the cologne he's wearing. Like you know, that's not what he put on today. Like why the fuck is he coming home smelling like this?
Speaker 2:Yeah, or let's say, for example let's say all right, the guy or the woman comes home smelling like they just took a shower.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah, I mean, if he's not supposed to. Yeah, yeah, you live with me. How the hell are you just smelling? You just got out of the shower, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's just that some things like it depends on like people's's see. This is why I go again. I'm like hesitant on these answers because I am with it. Absolutely right, you gotta understand.
Speaker 3:And important situation yeah, no, no, yes, that's not yeah so it's not, it's not, it's not. It's not carved in stone. That, this is it. You know what I'm saying? It's just red.
Speaker 2:I know it's not. The reason why I say Is because, like, I'm fucking Damn near everything Right now. I'm trying to do everything In one shot. You know I'm a. I see a lot of people, you know, in these nightclubs. You know I'm always in and you know I'm always in and you know I talked to a lot of people, I introduced myself to a lot of people, so that's why I'm like you know, we do exactly all the things that these, that women, be accusing. What is the?
Speaker 3:overthinking it, because this is your profession. We're talking about the average person. Let's take, for example, the woman is the administrative assistant, the guy is a fucking. The guy is a doctor, or maybe he's a fucking carpenter, a construction guy. You know what I'm saying. That's what we're talking about. Like I said, there's exceptions. You know what I'm saying. If you work in the nightclub entertainment business and stuff like that, like you got to understand, you're mingling with different people. Of course you're going to pick up other people's sense.
Speaker 1:But we're not.
Speaker 3:Like I said, you got to use your common sense with these red flags. Yes yes, yes, if your man, if your partner is a club promoter and they come home with different scents and you're like, oh, you're cheating. You're a dumbass for thinking that, because you know what they do for work. If you are dating a stripper and she smells like booty ass, you can't assume she's cheating because that's her fucking job. Yeah, all right, all right. So let's don't overdo this. It's not that okay, okay gotcha.
Speaker 2:Uh, oh shit, uh, yeah, like you said, shower, I guess, shower. If the shower is wet, yeah, showers. I mean, there's so much, yeah, there's so much, yeah, there's so much Again. I guess another way is that it's a little different for guys and girls.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but still mention it because it could. There's red flags for both. It doesn't matter, we're not just doing it just for women. I mean, even mention red flags that you've experienced, that you gave other people or you've seen other people do to you. It doesn't matter, you know what I'm saying. Just bring a red flag and that's it. We're trying to help people notice it. Our generation that's coming up now are not going to be very proficient in socializing and dating and doing all these stuff that we did before, because they have all these apps and phones and all this stuff. You know what I'm saying? Like, even if you go to the club now, people are not dancing, they're on their fucking phone. You know what I'm saying. Or going Facebook Live showing everybody that they're having fun by the damn self. You're saying, like, how you know?
Speaker 2:so you know, yeah well, uh, that's a good one with social distancing if your partner is like staying away from you longer than normal.
Speaker 3:Hmm, that is a good point. Okay, I'm going to add to that If the person is breaking plans, with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that is a good one too. Mm-hmm, that is a good one too, even like changing acting different. I mean that's hard because you gotta know your person. You know, like you really gotta know your person what, what I mean by that.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that's the hard one, Okay, so, um one for another one that I'm gonna add is say, for example, you live with the person and they're going out to do some basic generic shit Maybe go shopping or whatever and they put on their makeup and wear their favorite cologne or perfume, like that's a fucking sign.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, if they don't normally, yeah, fuck, yeah, that's a sign. I mean, yeah, fuck, yeah, that's a sign. I mean, let me see, let me see, I think there's a classic one. You know, going up out of the room to either text well, definitely, texting phone call, you know, you dudes on persons, on this person's on job, it is what it is. But even the phone calls is what red flags, me too. But it's such a thin line nowadays, depending on what they do. You know you already know what the person does. So yeah, so yeah, separating from from you, not not doing phone stuff in front of you.
Speaker 3:Okay, you know, here's the. I'm gonna bring up one. It doesn't technically mean that you're a cheater. It does actually stuff in front of you. Okay, I'm going to bring up one. It doesn't technically mean that you're a cheater. Actually, to be honest with you, it doesn't mean that you're a cheater, but I think that this influences the act of making a mistake and that someone who does not hold in it.
Speaker 2:Hmm, hmm.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 3:How many times a dude gets drunk and they, yeah, I'm sorry repeat that you know how many times you have a dude or a girl drinking too much, partying too hard, and then they make a mistake that they wish that they could take back, that they regret, and then they try to their partner finds out and they try to explain to them that was the alcohol, this and that as well, don't fucking drink or chill the fuck out on it. You know what I'm saying. But people who drink heavily, I'm not saying they're cheaters, but it just puts you at a high risk of cheating.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely. I think all this is high risk of cheating. I guess you could say, with this highs and lows, we got to put a volume on that. I guess you could say, with this highs and lows, we gotta. We gotta like, put a volume on that, put a like, I don't know, but eventually we gotta do something like that. The levels of it you got. You got any more.
Speaker 3:Let me see.
Speaker 2:I know it's fun, I'm just trying to break them down. All right, you know, like uh did we say hanging out too much.
Speaker 3:Uh, yes, we did. That was my first one, kind of Not hanging out too much, but staying out late and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I'm saying like hanging out too much but staying out late and stuff like that, yeah, but I'm saying hanging out too much or making too many plans without you.
Speaker 3:Yes, there you go. Funny story, since you brought that up, right? I remember that I was with someone and I was with someone, right, and I was going out to see another person. And she was like and I, you know, I go up to her and I go and I tell her I'm going out, I'm going to go do this, this, that blah blah with the guys, you know what I'm saying, whatever. And she's like oh okay, cool, can I go with you? She just, and I was like I called her bluff. I was like, yeah, you can come, let's go. Later on, when I was about to go, she was like ah, no, I'm tired, I'm just going to stay home. She did that to see if I was going to say no, because if she could go, I was going to cancel my fucking plan and do something else. Okay, but yeah, that is a good one that you brought up. Yep, I ran out of red flags, but I think the red flags that we put out would be good enough, so hold on.
Speaker 2:I think I got a couple more. Put out was good enough, so hold on. I got a.
Speaker 3:I think I got a couple more oh, so then go ahead, bring it up uh vacation without you vacation.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, yeah, that's a good one, yeah vacation without you, like nah, I don't what else. Nah, I don't need anything, what else? Yeah, I guess that's it, the vacation without you. There's just so many in there. It's the same thing Even on the vacation sometimes. But whatever, you gotta be real slick for that one. They're bad moves.
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